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Accommodating Av o i d i n g Meggan, Jenna, and Amber were roommates their freshman year in college and quickly became the best of friends. All three girls hated living in the dorms so they decided next year they would find a place off campus and still live together in a nice apartment. August finally comes and it is1.time for girls to move into their Male orthe female new place and they are so excited. 2. Personal and/or particular instance of a past After everything is put away and the encounter, or undergoing something. girls are all organized Jenna decides 3. Confidence in an opinion or conviction to pop open a beer. Jenna was always 4. Knowledge communicated, gained, or received the wild child of the group, but that’s through study, communication, research, etc. There two girl’s names what made herwere so great. She just liked 5. Monetary or material worth/importance. Could be Julie andlife Carol who were attached at the to live in the moment and worried in the form of money, time, material, services, etc. hip. They met each else otherlater. in college about everything Amberand 6. Statebecame of anticipation of something to occur/be instantly best friends. The two decided to do the same. She was the completed. girls for the typewere to godeciding with thewhere flow,toit live doesn’t 7. Set ofsince shared values, beliefs, and customs. May affect next year they didn’t live together B Y matter what they are doing she :justT e a m J u s t D O I T how one thinks, acts, and the criteria this year. When this topic came up, loves being with her friends. Meggan of judging others. conflict started to arise. Julie was didn’t want to drink instead she went convinced that living in the East part of A. to Culture up her room to do some organizing. campus was where they should live. B. Gender She was morethat of the quiet type. She Competing Carol believed living on the North C. Values just was looking forward being in part of campusis would befound thetobest idea. D. Expectations “Compromise a work her nice and clean home in her quiet Both girls were convinced that only in the vocabulary of those E. Experience room. Allnothree were different, who opinion have will to girls fight” their was correct andsoweren’t F. Information but theyJulie all liked each other. budging. specifically thought that Compromising G. Beliefs Since girls were all so her idea was rightthe because of past different problems didinto occur “Compromising mean experiences. Shedoesn’t came college and that you areJenna wrong and occasionally. was more of afrom decided to live with her best friend someone is right, it only means party girl so every weekend she would and on the right side there are Answer high school and letleft herside friend Directions: onyour the there decide are definitions the different that you value relationship Key types of filters By: Just DORoommates IT! Compromising 1B 2E 3G letter 4F 5C 6D 7A number. much more than that can affect how a ego.” person views conflict. the answer section put the corresponding to the want to have ayour party at the apartment where they live. Julie believed it was InThe
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Advice for the Accommodating Today in the celebrity gossip we have a situation between two celebrities whose marriage is beginning to take a turn for the worst. These two celebrities shall remain anonymous but I just think I should offer some insight on this situation. These two celebrities are married with children. The male is a professional basketball player so he travels around the country most of the year. The female is a singer so does most of her tours and shows during the summer. These two allegedly have been struggling with balancing their career and home life. According to previous news reports he is unhappy because during the season he travels a lot, so when he is home he believes he should be able to just relax and enjoy spending time with his family. His wife, on the other hand, seems to have different views because when he gets home she has a long list of things for him to do around the house. Even though with their combined financial status they can easily pay professionals to do these things, she stated she doesn't like spending money on things she can get for free. She also stated that it's the man of the household's job to keep up with the maintenance around the house. For the sake of their marriage, to keep it running smoothly, he just does whatever she asks of him.
Compromising with Athletes The season came to an end, and the Colorado White Owls missed the playoffs for the second straight season. Richard Williams is the best player on the Owls, and hands down the Ace of their pitching staff. He also had a terrific season on a below average team; certainly a defense of minded team. Posting a 16-7 record, sub-three earned run average (ERA), and over 200 innings pitched (IP) in all thirty two starts. Because he was still playing under his rookie contract, he was also one of the lowest paid pitchers. Thankfully for him and his agent Robert Marley, they were
Do When the dealingC.R.E.E.P. with conflicts it is important to ask yourself questions before confronting the situation. As long as you remember to do the C.R.E.E.P. you will be golden!
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Are all the parties aware of the problem?
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Do you feel like there will be/was a winner and loser?
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Do you feel threatened by the other person or they feel threatened by you?
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NO yelling: raising the Put the electronics away: volume of your voice is bad there is no point to be for both the parties texting while violence: having a Listen: otherinvolved. person isIt NO physical There is not a WINNER or LOSER: if the makes the other person even conversation. Make obviously mad/upset for hitting someone doessure not problem gets solved, both parties are winners. angrier and it makes your you give the other person some reason. Listen to them solve the problem. Use Conflicts can strengthen relationships and are It isNobody important to realize the difference between a conflict and disagreement. Next time you have an your throat wants your full attention. so youhurt.. can understand what words to get your a good thing. It shows that people are speaking argument with someone use to chart to help you clarify if it is a conflict or disagreement. opinion that. is wrong. across. their mind.
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