UNLIMITED POWER BY ANTHONY ROBBINS
KEY POINTS (CONT.)
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"I respect the intensity of your feelings about this, and I think if you were to hear my side of it you might feel differently." Notice, you don't have to agree with the content of the person's communication. You can always appreciate, respect, or agree with someone's feeling about something. You can also appreciate someone else's intent. If you use the agreement frame, you will find yourself listening more intently to what the other person is saying-and discovering new ways to appreciate people as a result. One way to solve problems is to redefine them-to find a way to agree rather than to disagree. Another way is to break their patterns. Confusion is one of the greatest ways to interrupt patterns. Everything I know about communication tells me to build from agreement, not from conflict; to learn to align and lead rather than to try and overcome resistance. Our behavior patterns aren't indelibly carved into our brain. If we repeatedly do something that limits us, we're just running a terrible pattern over and over again. The solution is simply to interrupt the pattern.
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