Avoid giving direct orders : use superpositions instead NOT: “imagine”, or “try to imagine” NOT: “look at this”
BUT: “While you imagine this, you will realize that …” BUT: “we can see that …”
… Or build silent acceptation (which will make it more difficult for the other to disagree later)
Yes?
Right?
You see?
Got it?
Isn’t it?
Find the fantasy they wish to experience and convince them you can make it happen What is it they miss most? Are they dreaming about “real love”, good conversations, traveling, seeing places, dinners,…? Insinuate that, though you, their dreams can be realized
Imagine yourself next summer at this white sandy exotic beach, with palm trees waving …
Imagine how things would be if we could enjoy the sunset together on a terrace with a view on the ocean …
Talking to you makes me feel as if I am no longer in this real world, but in some place where people still care about each other and have the power to share happiness and live in harmony
Present evidence for what you say
Submit your proof for verification
Be confident and relaxed
Look into the eyes of the listener (but don’t overdo it)
Use your listener’s Christian name