The Introduction You Can’t Skip
• The second is the Be-Do-Have mentality, which relates to Napoleon Hill’s famous saying from Think and Grow Rich: “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” • The third is enlightened self-interest, which is about acting with your long-term well-being in mind. • The fourth is feminine-masculine (yin-yang) polarity. • The fifth is getting out of your own way. How to use this book The purpose of The Tao of Dating is not just to give you some tricks and hints for you to scrape by on, but rather to turn you into the most empowered, fulfilled version of you possible. As such, this book is equally about transformation and information. In order to effect that transformation, you have to apply the principles in the book to your life. So I want you to approach this book less as a novel that you read once and shelve and more like a handbook, travel guide or cookbook. Mark up the chapters and exercises that you like and come back to them. I've read the Tao Te Ching at least 300 times, and I keep on coming back to it, just because something in there always provides me with a new perspective on what's happening. Think of this book in that vein – a reference you will keep on coming back to. Now if you’re like most people, you are probably going to start reading the book, get to an exercise, skip it, and go straight to the juicy parts about tips and tricks. So go ahead and do that – I won't tell anyone. Skim the book once from beginning to end. Then go back and do the exercises.
25