A to Z Relationship & Dating Guide
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"I am no Rembrandt, but I enjoy painting." "I like decorating, and many of my friends think that my tastes are not too bad."
So go ahead, if you really have a talent, you might as well as let others know about it, after all a talented person would any way like to be appreciated by a partner. While we are talking about modesty, there is one question that I want to address right now. It is something that all of us are familiar with. If you have chatted with a stranger with whom you are trying to build a rapport you must have been confronted with the question before. The question is "what do you look like?' I have often wondered about the sense of this question. The best answers that I could come up with are "I look like a cross between an orangutan and a Tasmanian devil" or "I have my mother’s teeth, my father’s nose, my uncle's eyes and my roommates' shoes." But of course we cannot give such answers which funny though they might sound, might just rub the person in the wrong way. What the person actually means is, "are you good looking or not?" A very tricky question indeed! How can you answer such a question with out sounding either super modest or extremely vain? The answer to that is not to tell them the answer directly. You can say something like:
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"I am as fresh as peppermint." "I look like a bunch of fresh lilies." "I have the appeal of a bowl of fresh fruit."
If the person still does not take the hint, then give them a detailed description of ever inch and let he or she decide for himself or herself.
The Braggart Pitfall Bragging, as we all know, is a major turnoff. So it is best to steer completely clear of it. This is especially true in the case of physical attributes. You might be one hell of a looker, but let the other person decide, remember that what wine is for Peter can turn of to be venom for Paul. You can make implied statements like, "I am certainly not a bad looker," or "opinion is divided, some people think that I am good looking while others think that I am not." But perhaps the best way of describing yourself would be to add a touch of humor to it. If you are chubby you could say something like, "I am round in all the right places…I hope." If you are tall you could say something like, "some say I should play basketball." If you are on the short side you could say something like, "I might seem to lacking in size but I assure you, it is all there." 41