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Find out her inner values and dreams and compliment her accordingly—these will be the best compliments she has ever heard. Also give compliments that play into roles you want her to assume, such as “You are so classy.” Notice how this compliment encourages her to act classy around you so that she can feed into that image of herself. She will avoid ghetto behavior in front of you if she believes that you admire her for her class. This investment on her part, working to impress you, is the mindset you want her to be in. Remember to calibrate qualifiers with a slight teasing IOD so you don’t look like a kiss-ass. Mystery: Your friend . . . is absolutely . . . AMAZING . . . [IOI] I mean don’t get me WRONG . . . she could turn me off at any second . . . [IOD] You can also put the IOD calibrator first, and then the IOI qualifier: Mystery: I can’t BELIEVE you’re from Toronto. I can’t even TALK to you right now! [IOD] But I’m curious [IOI] . . . [stacking forward]
Mystery: My first impression of you was rather neutral . . . but now that I get to know you . . . you’re absolutely LOVELY. Imagine . . . there are six point four five billion human beings on this planet . . . and you are one . . . but I am curious about you . . . is there more to you than meets the eye? If you had no chance of failure and you could be anything in the whole wide world, what would you be? And don’t say princess . . .
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