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Junior School Information Evening for Prospective Parents NOVEMBER 15, 2018 | 6:30 PM

Join us on November 15 to experience the joy of learning and culture of excellence at our Junior School (Grades K–5). Learn why so many parents are choosing SMUS for their child’s education and have made this year our highest enrolment ever.

With high demand for our Junior School, we advise an early application to Kindergarten.

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Breaking Free of the Digital Spin Cycle

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sk most parents if smartphones and social media serve a purpose when it comes to raising their kids and chances are many will say yes. We text our kids, check the time, post to Instagram and, among other things, search for answers to our questions. Are you wondering what constitutes “sleeping through the night” and if it’ll ever happen? Or if your mother-in-law is right when she warns you that you can spoil babies if you hold them too much? What about technology?

How much time is too much time when it comes to smartphone and social media use?

Funny you should ask.

Thanks, in part, to our various devices, answers to these—and the never-ending list of parenting questions—are literally at our fingertips. And that, according to a study by Pew Research Center, is one of the main reasons why parents—83 per cent of the mothers surveyed and 74 per cent of fathers—gave for reaching for their smartphones: to find or give answers. Other common reasons were to give

cally, but when we’re distracted by our devices, we’re less emotionally attuned and can miss our chance to foster the basis for most human learning: responsive communication.

As Christakis points out, it’s naive to imagine that children could ever be the unwavering

and receive support, and to connect with others—both online and in person.

“Social media networks are host to a wide range of human experiences,” states the survey, paradoxically, “they help connect people with one another in both good times and bad.”

But we can’t—or at we least shouldn’t—always be “on,” writes Erika Christakis in The Atlantic’s “The Dangers of Distracted Parenting.”

If we can’t “unplug,” says Christakis, then we are always working, and parenting, and available to our spouse and our own parents and anyone else who might need us—all at the same time. We’re also staying on top of the news, she adds “while also remembering, on the walk to the car, to order more toilet paper from Amazon…stuck in the digital equivalent of the spin cycle.”

As a result, it’s we—the parents—who suffer what technology expert Linda Stone has labelled “continuous partial attention,” a condition which in turn, she argues, harms our children. Parents might be present physi-

Sue Fast Editor’s Note centre of parental attention. “Occasional parental inattention is not catastrophic (and may even build resilience),” she says, “but chronic distraction is another story.”

The good news is that kids will do a lot to get a distracted adult’s attention and if we don’t change our behaviour, they will attempt to do it for us.

“We can expect to see a lot more tantrums as today’s toddlers age into school,” warns Christakis.

The question is: who will be throwing the fits—the parents who have to look away from their phones or the kids having to scream for their parents’ attention?

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Island Parent Notes AquaVan Aquatic Conservation Program

Ocean Wise’s mobile education program delivers interactive and immersive educational programming with the goal of inspiring students to make positive changes in aquatic conservation. Recently, AquaVan ferried across the Strait to run programs in some local schools.

AquaVan programs feature artifacts, activities and live marine invertebrates such as crabs, urchins and sea stars. Kids get an up-close and personal encounter with these creatures at school events. Through engaging and interactive programming, the AquaVan team encourages students to discover the connection between animals, environments and themselves.

Ocean Wise is a not-for-profit organization whose vision is a world in which oceans are healthy and flourishing. AquaVan’s program delivers award-winning aquatic programs to schools and communities throughout British Columbia and Alberta.

Since 1994, over 650,000 students and community members have shared an up-close and personal experience with live aquatic animals and discovered the connections we have with our natural environment. To find out more, visit ocean.org/education.

The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane

On November 3-4, Kaleidoscope Theatre for Young People presents the Canadian premiere of The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane, a story about finding friendship, finding yourself, and finding your way home.

Edward Tulane is a dapper china rabbit— a birthday present for Abilene, a sweet little girl who adores him almost as much as Edward loves himself. But when Edward gets lost at sea, he finds he has a lot to learn. Caught at the bottom of the sea in a fisherman’s net, he lands in a garbage dump, travels with a happy hobo, comforts a sick child, and wanders the streets of Memphis, bouncing from person to person and decade to decade until Edward discovers the transformative power of love.

Based on the critically acclaimed novel by award-winning children’s author Kate DiCamillo, playwright Dwayne Hartford’s adaptation features 4 actors portraying 26 roles, with an original score by Kyle Sorrel played live on stage.

The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane plays at the McPherson Playhouse with school matinee performances on November 2. Tickets start at $12 for children and are available through the McPherson Box Office at rmts.bc.ca, or by phoning 250-386-6121. Kaleidoscope’s 44th Season continues with Pippi Longstocking: The Family Musical, December 28-30, and Lois Lowry’s The Giver, February 23-24, 2019.

Pumpkin Smash for Cystic Fibrosis

The Cystic Fibrosis Pumpkin Smash takes place on November 3 from 10am3pm at Heritage Acres, 7321 Lochside Drive in Saanichton. All Heritage Acres buildings will be open including the washroom and the concession (in the schoolhouse). The trails will also be open for walking. There will be a pumpkin slingshot and a child’s pumpkin slingshot open on the front field. Waivers are required if you want to launch a pumpkin. Other activities include a teeter-totter launch, hammer pumpkin smash, pie eating and pie making contests, a bake sale and cut outs for pictures. For more information, visit heritageacresbc.ca/event.

St. Margaret’s 110th Anniversary Tea

Did you know that the Fairmont Empress and St. Margaret’s School (SMS) are both turning 110 years old this year? Drop by on Sunday November 4 from 1-4pm for an anniversary tea in celebration of the shared history. In 1908, acclaimed architect Sir Francis Rattenbury completed his work on the magnificent building we know and love today as The Fairmont Empress. That same year, St. Margaret’s School was founded and Sir Francis designed the original campus, where his daughters were students. Today, SMS is the only all-girls school on Vancouver Island, and Canada’s first all-girls STEM school.

The 110th Anniversary Tea is a fundraiser for SMS, kindly sponsored by Fairmont Empress, TD Bank and Munro’s Books.

Keynote Speaker, Sally Armstrong, is a Canadian journalist, speaker, and human rights activist. Along with being known for covering stories on girls and women in war zones, Armstrong is an acclaimed author and her most recent title, Ascent of Women: Our Turn, Our Way: A Remarkable Story of World-Wide Change will be the focus her talk.

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for their contributions and presented with the inaugural SMS Emerging Leaders Award. There will also be a silent auction.

The SMS Power Shop features a range of products, services and experiences for purchase, all to raise funds for SMS scholarships and bursaries. Each guest will receive a complimentary copy of Ascent of Women

by Sally Armstrong. Tickets cost $150 per person (with $50 tax receipt). Purchase online at stmarg.ca/110th-anniversary-tea/ or by phoning 250-479-7171.

Orca Book’s Fall Group Launch

Munro’s Books will host Orca Book Publishers’ fall group launch on Wednesday November 7 at 7:30pm (doors open at 7pm).

All ages welcome. Come meet the authors of this fall’s titles, including Whose Bum?

by Chris Tougas, One House by Sarah MacNeill, Island in the Salish Sea by Sheryl McFarlane, Bus to the Badlands and Robert Bateman: The Boy Who Painted Nature by Margriet Ruurs, The Great Googlini by Sara Cassidy, After Life: Ways We Think About Death by Merrie-Ellen Wilcox, Dive In! Exploring Our Connection with the Ocean

by Ann Eriksson, My Life as a Diamond

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by Jenny Manzer. Enjoy some refreshments and get a book signed. 1108 Government St. Visit orcabook.com.

Wonder Sunday at Royal BC Museum

The Royal BC Museum’s Wonder Sunday family series takes place every Sunday and offers offers activities and lively presentations with themes inspired by the current exhibitions. This month’s Wonder Sunday take place on November 4, 11, 18 and 25 from 1-3pm. This month’s topic: Egypt.

Travel back in time and experience ancient Egyptian life. Inspired by the feature exhibition, we have created fun activities to let everyone explore the legacy of ancient Egypt. Find out how the Egyptians helped to shape the world we live in today, and discover the vast differences between their society and ours. Meet at the Information Desk in the main lobby.

Kids’ Club introduces children to the museum and archival collections and exhibitions. For more information and tickets for these and other events, visit royalbcmuseum.bc.ca.

Joseph & the Amazing Coloured Dream Coat

After a well received Joseph & the Amazing Coloured Dream Coat production in the spring, Four Seasons Musical Theatre (FSMT) presents The Vault Brother’s Show, an original FSMT production created to celebrate 43 years of family community theatre. Masters of Ceremony Saif and Lok Vault, played by Corey McEwen and Christian Bergen, will guide the audience through scenes from some of your family favourites like Little Mermaid, A Christmas Carol, Oliver, and Secret Garden.

Hear some of Greater Victoria’s emerging young talent as they sing and dance through the ages. Many of the original cast members have returned to perform their scenes. There will also be an interactive intermission. Cast from some of the show will be on hand to entertain and interact with the younger crowd.

Mary Alice Jenkins is the Creative Director for the production and Jeremy Nothiez is the Musical Director. As it is family community theatre, all of the production team are volunteers—from the costumers, set builders to the crew. Many generations of

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family participate either on stage or behind the scenes.

Performances will be at The Ridge Playhouse (in Claremont High School) on: November 9 at 7pm; November 10 at 2 and 7pm; November 16 at 7pm; November 17 at 2 pm and 7 pm. Tickets: adults $20, child $12, family $60 (2 adults and 2 children).

Available at victoriaticket.ca or fsmtheatre. ca or at the door. 4980 Wesley in Victoria.

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Attention kids and youth in B.C. Are you an artist, wordsmith, or a filmmaker? If so, take those words and pictures in your head and show them to the world. Create a work of art or literature about remembrance and what it means to you and your country and you could win local and national prizes.

You can create something that is broadly about remembrance or you can focus on something more specific such as a family member who fought in the war, the poppy, a war memorial in your community, or the sacrifice of veterans. Categories include: poster (Grades 1-12); essay (Grades 4-12); poetry (Grades 4-12); and video (Grades 7-12). Cash prizes and a trip to Ottawa (for the winner in the senior category, grades 10, 11, and 12). Deadline November 15. For more information, visit legionbcyukon.ca/ content/youth-contests.

Christmas in November (and December)

Feel like getting into the Christmas spirit a little early? If so, there’s no shortage of events this month:

27th Annual BC Children’s Hospital Festival of Trees at the Bay Centre from November 18-January 2. All proceeds support BC Children’s Hospital Foundation.

Donate to vote for your favourite Christmas tree (suggested $2 minimum).

Christmas in Old Town at Royal BC Museum (included with admission or membership) from November 11-January 5, 2019. Take in the sights and sounds of Christmas long ago. Visit the wood-cobbled streets lined with festive garlands and see the shops decked with seasonal finery.

Habitat for Humanity’s Gingerbread Showcase at the Parkside Hotel & Spa, (810 Humboldt St) runs from November 17-January 6, 2019, 9am-9pm. This year’s theme: There’s No Place Like Home. Proceeds support the work of Habitat Victoria.

Island Farms Santa’s Light Parade.

Kick-off the holiday season with the Santa Parade on November 24. Enjoy musical performances, roving entertainment, and Christmas splendor, starting at 4:45. Rain or shine. Free.

The Ladysmith Festival of Lights on November 29, starting at 3pm, features entertainment, Santa’s arrival downtown at 6:30 to light-up Ladysmith, then a parade at 6:45, and fireworks.

IEOA Truck Light Convoy features over 80 decorated trucks traversing a 35 kilometre route for all to see on December 1. Donation stations line the route, so you can help IEOA give back to the community Sidney Sparkles Parade & Sailpast on December 2 at 5pm. Watch the parade along Beacon Avenue and Second Street, then wander down to the waterfront to see the lighted boat parade.

The Lost Words are Found at Swan Lake Nature Sanctuary

In 2007 the Oxford Junior Dictionary removed everyday words of the natural world—words like kingfisher, newt, otter, and willow—saying they no longer reflect the current relevance and frequency of words used in a child’s daily language. Among the words taking their place are broadband, bullet-point and cut-and-paste, signaling the outdoor and natural being displaced by the indoor and virtual.

The Lost Words, written by Robert Macfarlane and illustrated by Jackie Morris, is a book intended to restore the relevance of words from nature to ensure they are not lost at all, but instead, lovingly remain for future generations of children for years to come.

Munro’s Books will donate eight dollars from every book sold to Educational Programing at the Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary where the words are far from forgotten, and naturalists use them to inspire the young and young at heart to steward the natural world. At Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary the lost words are not lost. Look for them among the foliage, flowers and resident animals that call the Sanctuary home—words like acorn, fern, and heron.

Pick up your copy of The Lost Words at Munro’s Books or from the Nature House at the Sanctuary before December 31 and your purchase will qualify for the $8 donation to Swan Lake. For information visit munrobooks.com.

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Transformational Learning

To celebrate BC Library Month, the Greater Victoria Public Library is announcing a new partnership program that embodies the magic of transformation: the Victoria Butterfly Gardens e-pass. Greater Victoria Public Library cardholders can explore the Gardens for free by borrowing one of 20 e-passes.

The e-pass provides free general admission to the Gardens for up to five people: up to two adults and up to a combination of three children (5-12 years) or students (13-17 years); children under five are free.

The e-passes are valid for seven days and can be redeemed for a single visit.

GVPL’s Culture and Recreation Pass program currently includes partnerships with Craigdarroch Castle, the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria, the Royal BC Museum, the Maritime Museum, the Robert Bateman Centre and Saanich Recreation Centres. Passes to these venues have been checked out 18,000 times since the program launched in 2011.

The Butterfly Gardens pass is the second electronic pass in the GVPL Culture and Recreation Pass Program; the other e-pass partner is Craigdarroch Castle. The e-pass is borrowed the same way an ebook is checked out from the library—on a patron’s mobile device, such as an iPhone or iPad, using the CloudLibrary app. The library patron will take their mobile device to Victoria Butterfly Gardens and show their e-pass at

the admissions desk. To find out more, visit butterflygardens.com or gvpl.ca.

Nature Sketch by the Robert Bateman Foundation

The Nature Sketch Program by the Robert Bateman Foundation inspires observation and appreciation of the natural world using a pencil and a sketchbook.

Fostering a love of nature, wherever it is found, is a significant goal of the Living Planet @ School program. As oceanographer and educator Jacques Cousteau said, “We protect what we love, and we love what we know.” Making art in nature about nature cultivates a simple and direct way of knowing nature, a way that is accessible to all.

Students learn about wildlife and habitat of local flora and fauna, through the power of learning to “notice nature.” These observational skills lay the foundation for a lifelong engagement with nature, as an artist, an ecologist, a citizen scientist, an outdoor enthusiast or more. This school year, Bateman Foundation invites students to use art as a learning tool to engage and observe the natural world around them.

Through the Nature Sketch program, schools will gain a unique educational activity for children that combines environmental awareness along with art, developing students’ power of observation when noticing nature. For details visit schools. wwf.ca/primary.

1UP Single Parent Resource Centre Workshops

1UP Single Parent Resource Centre offers a variety of workshops including: Counselling. Parents can receive support for life’s challenges through free individual counselling sessions with a 1Up Counsellor. To learn more or book a session, phone 250-385-1114.

Clothing and Goods. 1Up helps to meet the day to day practical needs of its members through: free clothing and household goods room, bread pantry, book library and toy room.

Each year, 1Up also provides members’ children with backpacks filled with back to school supplies, and Christmas hampers filled with gifts, goodies and holiday cheer.

Mentoring and Education. The MOMentum: Moms and Mentors Series matches isolated single mothers with experienced mothers for a year of mentorship, friendship and support. The moms, mentors and their children meet for coffee, play dates and fun, and join other “matches” for monthly gatherings and workshops.

Parenting Education Program. 1Up offers a wide range of parenting and life skills development courses and peer support groups to parents throughout the community. Classes are scheduled from September to June. Course fees are on a sliding scale, ensuring that financial hardship is not a barrier for parents wanting to register for courses. For class descriptions and times, visit singleparentvictoria. ca. All classes are at 602 Gorge Rd East. For more information, visit singleparentvictoria.ca.•

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Christmas Esquimalt

Craft Markets Craft & Bake Sale Saturday, November 17 10:00 am – 2:00 pm

*Please note cash sales only!

Lots of great baked goods!

Knit and crocheted items! Jewelry!

A variety of Christmas crafts and gifts!

Lots of stocking stuffers and gift baskets!

A children’s corner, to make their own crafts!

Concession with soups, baking, hotdogs, etc.

LANGFORD

November 21 & December 5 5:30–8:30pm

Rain, Sun or Snow!

Langford Legion

761 Station Avenue, Langford, BC Nov 21: Free Admission Dec 5: Food bank and monetary donations

4th Annual Magic of Christmas Craft Fair Over 100 vendors, Santa from 11-1 (Saturday only) Christmas mini photo shoots, food & lots and lots of fabulous gift ideas! November 24th 10-4pm & November 25th 9:30-2:30pm. 1089 Langford Parkway, City Centre Park in the Eagle Ridge Arena. Admission by donation to Santa’s Anonymous.

METCHOSIN

Christmas Craft Fair Metchosin Hall Society

17th & 18th 2018

Metchosin Hall, 4401 William Head Rd Info: metchosinhall@gmail.com

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St. Luke’s Anglican Church Christmas Bazaar and Tea Saturday, November17, 10:00 am – 2;00 pm. 3821 Cedar Hill X Rd. Antiques & Collectibles, Jewellery, Floral arrangements, Needlework & Handicrafts, Baking, Jams and Jellies, Cards, Books, Toys, Little Elves Shop, Miscellaneous Household items and more. A light lunch will be served. Free admission. Wheelchair accessible.

For more info 250 592 2842.

Saturday, December 1st 10 am to 4:30 pm James Bay Community Center, 140 Oswego Street, James Bay Admission $2 Children under 12 Free Food, Crafts, Gifts https://jamesbaymarket.com/ & Children’s Craft dickens-fair/ Area

Victorian Christmas Craft Fair

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Winter Fair Stop & Shop – Tillicum Shopping Centre Local. Crafted. Handmade. 55 vendors winding the halls of Tillicum Shopping Centre. November 17th 9:30-5:30 & November 18th 11-5pm. 3170 Tillicum Road, Victoria. A one stop shop for all your holiday gifts. Free admission.

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Christmas Vintage, Retro & Collectible Craft Fair Sunday, November 18 at Mary Winspear Centre Beacon Ave, Sidney

$5 at 9:30am (show closes at 4pm) Earlybirds $20 at 8:30am

Contact Josiejones@shaw.ca or 250-220-1645

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Rainy Day To-Do’s

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n November, the colourful leaves of autumn disappear and the days can get dark and gloomy. Kids can get bored and restless when they can’t go outside due to the inclement weather. Having activities in mind for young children is a good remedy.

Everybody needs a little exercise and a break from staring at their various screens. Here are some indoor and outdoor activities to keep everyone busy—all are perfect rainyday distractions.

Get Up and Dance. Move the furniture out of the way, get out those hairbrush microphones and put on some fun and upbeat tunes. Along with being a great form of exercise, dance is a way for kids to express their creativity and imagination. Dancing can improve balance and co-ordination.

Provide an assortment of items such as hula-hoops or colourful scarves and start moving to the music. Encourage large arm movements while leaping and twirling to the melodies. Try playing freeze dance. Kids dance around to the music but must freeze when the music is turned off at random

intervals. All aboard! Choo-choo train is another fun dance. This is a great party or play date idea. Get children to line up behind “the engine.” Then the “train” moves around the room to the music.

Paint poppies for Remembrance Day. Remembrance Day is November 11, and painting poppies is an excellent art activity to honour this important day. Get out the paints, paper and brushes and encourage your kids to create their own poppy paint designs. Then, make a poppy wreath to hang on the door. There are many excellent books to read together to help your kids understand the history of Remembrance Day. A Poppy Is to Remember by Heather Patterson is a picture book that explains the symbolism behind the poppy and, with simple text, explains the history of the poppy and Remembrance Day in Canada.

Make a Blanket Fort. Help your kids construct their own indoor fort with blankets, sheets, and cushions. Add pillows and stuffed toys to make the floor comfy for lounging or even sleeping. Kids can stay busy

for hours in the fort reading books, colouring, and playing with their toys. Boring old toys take on a new life in a fort. Kids can crawl in and out of their secret hide-out,

Jerri Carson duck under the sheets and blankets and re-arrange the pillows and toys. Have a picnic inside the fort. Encourage your kids to help plan the menu and make the food.

Embrace the Weather. If cabin fever is just too much, then bundle up, get out the umbrellas and go outside for a walk in the rain. Puddle jumping will use up excess energy and it’s good physical activity. Try floating toy boats, twigs or leaves in puddles or in moving water and watch how they travel down the street. Afterwards, a cup of hot chocolate, story time and cozy PJ’s.

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Recommendations To help you choose the perfect gift for everyone on your list—from the littles to the bigs—here is a comprehensive guide to this year’s have to haves...all from local businesses, to boot! To find out more about each business, please refer to the ads in this issue.

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Preschool: Big Fish Little Fish. Collect a school of little fish by remembering which big fish they’re hiding under and win. This game helps build memory, colour recognition and fine motor skills. Ages 3+. 1-4 players. $24.99.

Children: Keys to the Cast Game by Outset Media. A fast-paced fun-filled tile game based on strategy and luck, where your fortune rests on the turn of a key. Ages 7+. 2-4 players. $19.99.

Juvenile/Teen: Cat Crimes by Thinkfun.

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to use paw prints, toy placement and other clues to figure out exactly where each Cat was sitting at the time of the crime. Ages 8+. Single player. $22.99.

Adult: Itzi Game. Be the first to match the right letter cards to the right clue cards.

Great word game that’s fast-paced and simple to learn. Ages 8+. 2 to 8 players. $29.99.

a toddler and stylish enough to be loved by children of all ages. $98.

Adult: Cam Cam Copenhagen Stylish Diaper Bag. The bag is minimalistic and durable, and made to last past nursing time.

It is designed for everyday purposes, and not made to look like traditional nursing or diaper bags. $149.

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Baby: The Padraig Cottage Baby Slippers handmade in BC with pure wool. Dyed and crocheted by hand. Extra soft sheepskin lining and tough leather soles for long lasting comfort. The Baby Slipper has the elasticity to stay put without being overly constrictive on young growing feet.

Newborn to toddler sizes. $32+.

Baby: Skip Hop Explore & More 3-Stage Activity Centre. Easy to assemble, with toys that can be positioned anywhere for baby, it features a 360-degree rotating seat that turns and stretches for bouncing. Discovery Window lets baby see their feet while they play. As baby grows, activity centre converts for easy cruising—ultimately becoming a

Baby: Unicorn Cuddle Friend from Fabelab. Animal Cuddles are soft little buddies for your little ones at naptime and when they need to feel secure. From Denmark brand Fabelab. $37.

Preschool: Olliella Strolley. A new kind of convertible, one that goes from being a stroller to a trolley with just a flip of a lid. Perfect for dolls, pretend play, fruits and veggies or for your little one to push around their favourite toys. $210.

Children: Olliella Holdie House. This lightweight toy house is perfect for toting about. Lightweight enough to be carried by

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clean, sturdy table for colouring, playing and more. $169.99.

Toddler: Farm Hoppers Bouncy Toy. Will keep your little one amused for hours—and wear them out for bedtime! These inflatable bouncy animals are whimsically fun, & brightly coloured with soft, easy-to-grip ears or horns for children to hold while they bounce around. Made from a high quality, BPA-free plastic, and can help with core muscle development as well as coordination skills while having fun. Pump included! $35.99.

Child: The Hape Toys Gourmet Kitchen.

An all-in-one wooden kitchen that inspires mini chefs to cook everywhere and everything. Encouraging collaborative & creative play, the Gourmet Kitchen can be combined with the Hape Gourmet Fridge, food & other cooking accessories for the complete ‘mini chef’ experience. $159.99.

rials by a family-owned business. Sure to please all ages. $24.99-$49.99.

Baby: Puzzles, Puzzles and more Puzzles.

The new Hape baby and toddler puzzles have arrived. They all have large knobs making it easy for small hands to grab onto.

Their bright colours and simple shapes will delight young children while encouraging critical thinking, eye hand coordination and dexterity. $12.99.

Baby/Preschool: Bath toys by Hape.

Turn every bath into a mini adventure.

Make bath time squirting time with the fun plastic pump. Four built in nozzles that squirts water in a variety of fun shapes and patterns. While we are squirting, the

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Baby: Cate & Levi. Soft and whimsical stuffed animals and puppets. The fanciful creatures are proudly handmade in Toronto, from premium reclaimed or recycled mate-

illustrated and many are written by local authors including Susan Musgrave and Lorna Crozier. These sturdy board books are sure to delight babies and toddlers. $9.95.

Rock Pool Squirters and the Ocean Floor Squirters are great fun. They can be unscrewed and put into the dishwasher to clean.$12.99-$16.99.

Preschool: Orca Books, an independently owned Canadian children’s book publisher based in Victoria. The books are beautifully

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Preschool: Plus-Plus Big (for smaller hands). Designed and made in Denmark.

BPA-free and phthalate-free. Learning Express 2018 Construction Toy of the Year. $14.99 Children: Plus-Plus One Shape with endless possibilities. This new kind of construction toy keeps kids entertained.

These toys are portable, educational, fun and affordable. $12.99 - $39.99 Teen: Solar Robotikits. Transforms into 14 different modes, including crab, dog and zombie. Unique accessories make the robots move on land and water. Multi award winner $55.00 Adult: Placemats and Posters. Highquality laminated maps and placemats of Vancouver Island, Seattle and Vancouver.

Beautiful colourful satellite images taken 710 km above the earth. $29.99 - $99.

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Baby/Children: KicKee Pants Pajamas: Christmas Cookies. Long sleeved pajamas from KicKee Pants Holiday Collection.

These fitted PJ’s are snugly, cuddly, and soft. Safe for baby and big kid alike. 6M14yrs. $40.99.

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Baby/Preschool: Nooks Booties. Made from 100% New Zealand lambswool for comfort and breathability, and matched to a leather sole that’s both slip-resistant and rugged enough to be worn outdoors.

A gentle elastic holds them in place and a soft inner sole provides the versatility to wear them barefoot. $44.99.

Preschool: World of Nature Memory Game by Crocodile Creek. Encourages observational, memory and matching skills.

Create hours of family fun with these educational games. Each game includes 72 pieces that create 36 matching pairs. Appropriate for ages 3 and up and can be played with 2 to 4 players. $12.99.

Children: Under Sea Colouring Surprise

by Djeco. Beautiful Mermaid-themed illustrated colouring kits designed by talented artists. This pack features 2 sets of 4 different wonderfully detailed pictures, each folded in such a way that when the folds are opened the drawing opens up to a surprising middle section. $5.99.

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Baby/Children: Coco & Tini Bath Products. All natural baby bath and hair care line made in BC. Derived from 100% natural ingredients never tested on animals. Chemical free, and gentle on baby’s skin. $11.50.

Baby: Sun Coat Water-Based Nail Polish.

The most natural nail polish on the market.

Virtually odor-free, free of harsh chemicals, and peels off with ease. Lasts a couple days on the fingers, longer on the toes. $12-$19.

Adult: Trilogy Natural Skin Care. For moms. A prestigious line of skin care products from New Zealand. They use only the best of what nature has to offer, including their main ingredient—rose hip oil. $35-$80.

Adult: Buck NA•KED Shaving Products.

For dads. A full line of natural shaving essentials for men with scents of cedar, sage, and amber. The subtle earthy scents will awaken the senses and soothe the skin for a perfect shave every time. $16-$25.

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Children: Aliens Among Us by Alex Van Tol, Illustrated by Mike Deas. Learn all about invasive species in BC with this fun illustrated guide. Perfect for young scientists and nature lovers. PB. 128 pgs. $19.95.

Adult: Family Membership to the Royal BC Museum. Flash your membership card and the Royal BC Museum is amplified.

Gain year-round access to the muesum and its feature exhibitions. $125.90.

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Baby: Jax & Lennon Everything Blanket, made from bamboo blend. Fabric is breathable and warm in beautiful fall colours, sized at approximately 40x40 its made to last. $42.

Children: Haven Kids Overalls in Dark Forest, these overalls are designed to be a grow with me style, fitting for many years, gender neutral. Made to make memories in. $60-$70.

Adult: Picot Collective Soy Candle in Honey Tobacco. This scent is Picot’s signature, made locally with the best ingredients, perfect for those who have sensitivities.

Burns for 60 hours. $41.25.

Adult: Smash+Tess Romper. More specifically the Wednesday Romper in Shadow Grey. Made from bamboo blend. Fabric is breathable and versatile. With so many styles to choose from, it will become your new wardrobe staple. The Romperall almost perfectly matches Haven Kids Overalls for the perfect family photo. $120.

binoculars, magnifying glasses and viewing containers. $5-10.

Juvenile/Teen: Starter microscope sets.

For the budding young scientist, a first glimpse through a microscope can reveal a world of wonder. $15.99.

Adult: Attracting Beneficial Bugs to your Garden by Jessica Walliser. This refreshing book delves into the fascinating relationships between insects and plants and will help you make your own insect-friendly garden. $31.95. 240pgs.•

From Victoria Bug Zoo

Baby/Preschool: Finger and hand puppets. From one-finger ladybug puppets to whole-hand hermit crabs, our arthropod puppets will make you wish you had more fingers. $4-35.

Children: Bug Collecting Kits. Inspire a future field biologist. Various collection kits include nets and other collecting devices,

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Rethinking Parenthood is full of surprises and revelations that often make me shake my head and smile wryly to myself, remembering my naiveté in the pre-parent days.

In my life before kids, I used to take an hour to get ready in the morning. And I thought I was being efficient. A solitary hour in the bathroom, complete with a warm shower and plenty of time to apply makeup—including liner, evenly, to both eyes!—while listening to music or news on the radio. Sometimes I would even run overtime because I had been daydreaming, letting my thoughts stream along, uninterrupted. Laugh if you, will. I am, too (through my tears).

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ince becoming a mom three years ago, the soundtrack of my mornings has been discordant circus music gradually increasing in speed, volume, and volatility until it is a deafening, cacophonous blur. Contrary to what you would think, it hasn’t gotten any easier. At least not yet. Rather, with each new advance my son makes in his growth and development, I seem to be able to tend to myself for less and less time. I’m now lucky to get five uninterrupted minutes to throw on clothes and maybe—maybe— wash my face before my son finds a new creative, messy, or potentially dangerous activity with which to amuse himself, invariably (and involuntarily) involving one or both of the family cats.

I’ve never even remotely aspired to be a glamour girl or fashionista, but I’ve always tried to maintain a put-together aesthetic in order to feel “presentable.�

Earlier this year after a particularly rushed morning on my way home from the store, I glanced in the rearview mirror and discovered that I had completely forgot-

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women for another day—this is supposed to be humorous!

I’ve altered my definition of “presentable� from looking polished to at least not looking like something that just dragged herself out of a crypt. I have perfected the art of minimalist makeup application at blistering speed: cover the dark circles, powder, mascara, done! Most days I manage to get some eyeliner on, too. I shower at night and am now really, really, grateful for my curly hair that can be turned into an instant updo, disguising the fact that it hasn’t been washed quite as often as it used to be.

Once I accepted that the amount of time I spend on primping in front of the mirror correlates directly with the amount of time I will have to spend in clean-up/damage control, it was pretty easy to adopt the “natural look.� And for those days when I feel the need to look a little more polished, I’ll unabashedly embrace the phrase, “Paw Patrol to the rescue!�

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ten to put mascara on. Liner, yes, but not mascara. I was unfinished, like everything else seemed to be in my life—housework, projects, writing, you name it. I felt like I was dropping the ball, again; one more thing for this first-time mom to beat herself up over.

I couldn’t understand why my expectations—that my son could sit on the bed and quietly entertain himself while I got ready in the morning—weren’t meshing with reality: beds are for acrobatics and the bedding is much more fun on the floor. At the end of my rope, I reached out to parent friends on social media to find out how they dealt with the challenge of making themselves presentable in the morning while supervising their offspring.

Suggestions ranged from sarcasm (a velcro wall) to practical (getting ready while the kids are still asleep, puzzles, books) to last resorts (screen time, food). I tried them all, with the exception of the velcro wall, although I’ve been tempted. Nothing worked for long. Getting up earlier than my son seemed to be the best option, but I swear, he has some kind of telepathic sensor that alerts him when I wake up in the morning. It doesn’t matter how quiet I am; invariably, partway into my routine I will hear, “Mama?� on the monitor, and that’s the end of that.

Puzzles and books, or playing with his toys on our bed work once in a while, until they become new instruments of torture for Matilda the cat (who, if cats could be saints, would definitely make the cut).

Inviting my son to be in the bathroom with me under closer supervision seemed like a good idea, until it wasn’t. After picking up several dozen scattered tampons, reboxing the bandaids, and lunging for Papa’s hair trimmer for the umpteenth time I tried

to involve him in the action by letting him play with my blush brush. That worked for approximately two seconds before it turned into a toilet brush and, well, that will never be used as a blush brush again.

After working my way through all of my friends’ suggestions, it turned out that the most helpful advice I read wasn’t about solutions at all—it was about changing my expectations.

One friend quipped that she just didn’t make herself presentable anymore. To that, another friend shared that in the first couple of years of being a parent she had to redefine what “presentable� meant, and once she did, her routine became much quicker.

So, I’ve changed my expectations for both myself and my son. I’m accepting that he is not yet ready to constructively and independently entertain himself, not when there are so many boundaries that he needs to explore and test. It saves my sanity to acknowledge that this is a stage and I’ll just have to ride it out. It’s not fair to expect my son to meet expectations he is not yet capable of meeting, and it’s not fair to set unrealistic expectations for myself, either.

I’ll save the whole discussion of society’s completely unrealistic expectations of

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1. Mix the milk and chopped dates in a small sauce pan.

2. Heat on low on the stove, and cook until the dates are mushy.

3. Stir in the butter and vanilla. Set aside ates are a sweet fruit and so they’re a Following are a few recipes where the to cool for 20 minutes.

4. Mix the dried ingredients together in great substitute for sugar. They have delicious flavour of dates really shines. a delicious, caramel-like flavour Best of all, these are simple recipes that a large bowl.

5. Stir the date purée into the flour mixthat lends itself to baking. Ground dates are perfect for getting your children to help ture. Add in the grated apple and walnuts, can replace sugar at a ratio of 1:1 for most with the cooking! then mix to combine. baked goods.

6. Pour batter into a small 6" cake pan.

7. Bake at 350˚F for 40–45 min (until a skewer comes out clean).

When the cake has cooled, you can pour over ¼ cup of date-caramel sauce for a glaze.

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Date Caramel Sauce

The only trick to turning dates into an easy caramel sauce is to make sure you start with the large, soft medjool dates. Have your children help with measuring ingredients and operating the blender.

4 large medjool dates 1⁄4 cup of water 1⁄4 cup of whipping cream

You can find dried dates in either the bulk aisles or the produce section of your grocery store. Usually, there are two different kinds: • Basic dried dates are smaller and hard. They need to be either ground or cooked before using. These are perfect for using in baking.

• Medjool dates are large and soft. They taste like candy and don’t require cooking.

However, they are also a lot more expensive. Eat them as a treat or turn them into a delicious caramel sauce.

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1. Make sure the dates don’t have any pits.

2. Put the dates and the water in the blender, then grind until you have a smooth paste.

3. Next, pour in the whipping cream.

Continue to pulse until everything is well mixed.

4. The cream will continue to thicken the more you beat it, so continue until you have a the right consistency. It will eventually

This apple cake is perfect for an after school snack or weekend brunch. Top it with the date caramel sauce or frosting for a fancy, yet healthy, dessert. Don’t bother with medjool dates for this recipe, regular dried dates are fine.

1 cup milk 1 cup of chopped dates 1⁄2 cup butter 1 tsp vanilla 11⁄2 cups whole wheat flour Here are some delicious reasons to 1 tsp ground cinnamon 1⁄2 tsp ground cloves eat more dates: 1⁄4 tsp ground nutmeg • They are high in fibre.

• They are high in many vitamins and 1⁄2 tsp salt minerals, including: potassium, magnesium, 1⁄2 tsp baking soda iron, and B vitamins.

1 cup grated apples • Even though they taste sweet, you won’t 1⁄2 cup chopped walnuts or pecans get a sugar high when you eat them, thanks to all that added fibre.

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thicken right into a buttery-frosting, so stop when it’s thick, but still liquid.

This date sauce is an ideal dip for apple slices. You can also serve it on pancakes or ice cream. Let it thicken into a frosting for your healthy apple cake.

Emillie Parrish Cooking With Kids Yummy Bunny Munchies

Bunny Munchies were a treat that my mom made when I was growing up. We always had them to take on camping trips or for long walks. They are full of healthy, sustaining energy. Have your children help roll the balls and coat them in whatever topping they want.

11⁄2 cups medjool dates 2 cups of unsweetened coconut flakes 1⁄2 cup ground almond flour 1⁄4 cup of cocoa powder 2 Tbsp coconut oil 1⁄2 tsp vanilla Pinch of salt Toppings: flaked coconut, slivered almonds, cocoa powder or rainbow sprinkles 1. Mix all of the ingredients in a food processor. If you don’t have a food processor, you could use a blender. Just keep scraping all the ingredients down so they get finely chopped.

2. Once everything has been mixed into a smooth paste, scrape it into a bowl and place it in the fridge for about 20 minutes.

3. Remove from the fridge. Using a tea spoon, grab a spoonful of the date mix, then roll it into a small ball. (This is a great time to get your kids to help out.)

4. Then roll the ball in one of the coatings and set aside while you finish with the rest of the mix. You should have between 10-20 balls, depending on how large you make them.

5. Store in the fridge until they are all gone.

Bunny Munchies are a great raw-food truffle. Increase the amount of cocoa powder to 1⁄2 cup for a really fudgy treat.

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Politics & People

Changing the world one person at a time

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n light of Greater Victoria’s recent municipal elections and the upcoming provincial referendum that could potentially change the way we elect our members of the legislative assembly, here’s a list of books that focus on politics, citizenship, and the difference one person can make.

The first book is That’s Not Fair: Getting to Know Your Rights and Freedoms

by Danielle S. McLaughlin and illustrated

by Dharmali Patel (Kids Can Press, 2016).

In this book, the monster city councillors encounter all sorts of problems as they try to make laws and regulations that suit them, but that don’t take into consideration all aspects of the problem. At the end of each section, the book contains a few questions to help you and your child explore the issues further and decide for yourself whether or not the law was fair. This book is part of the Citizen Kid series, which is a collection of books that aims to teach children about the world and show them how they can be better global citizens. For ages 7 to 11.

Another book in the Citizen Kid series is On Our Way to Oyster Bay: Mother Jones and Her March for Children’s Rights by Monica Kulling and illustrated by Felicita Sala (Kids Can Press, 2016). This historical fiction follows along with two imaginary children Aiden and Gussie as they march with Mary Harris “Mother” Jones from Philadelphia to President Roosevelt’s summer home in Oyster Bay. At the end of the story, there is a brief history of Mother Jones. It tells the reader who she actually was and gives a little insight into why she decided to begin the march.

If this book stoked your child’s curiosity and concern for other children who might be forced to work, in addition to Mother Jones’ biography, the book also contains some information about child labour today and what your child can do to help end it.

For ages 8 to 12.

The Pink Hat by Andrew Joyner (Schwartz & Wade, 2017) tells the story of a pink hat as it journeys from the woman who knit it, to a baby, a dog, and finally a young girl who ends up wearing it in the Woman’s March.

According to the author this book was “inspired by the five million people (many of them children) in 82 countries who participated in the 2017 “Women’s March,” many of whom wore their own pink hats.

The story doesn’t go into the significance of the pink hat and its connection to rape culture, but leaves it as a strong symbol of feminism and millions of people banding together to make a statement and cry for change. This story can be a great starting point for talking about women’s rights and, if you think your child is ready for the deeper meaning of the pink hat, you can discuss the symbolism behind it.

I enjoyed the black and white illustrations with all of the pink accents strewn about.

And the story has a lot of repetition, so your children can read along with you or recite it from memory once they’ve heard it a few times. For ages 4 to 8.

Dr. Jo: How Sara Josephine Baker Saved the Lives of America’s Children by Monica Kulling and illustrated by Julianna Swaney (Tundra Books, 2018) tells the story of Dr. Jo. After losing her brother and father to typhoid fever, Jo decides to become a doctor. At the time, this was an odd choice for a woman, but she was not alone. Once she and her friend graduate, they open up a practice. However, the two women did not get enough clients to stay open, so they closed their practise and Dr. Jo became a health inspector instead.

In this role she was able to save the lives of thousands of children. As a health inspector she was assigned to Hell’s Kitchen, where she went from home to home visiting the mothers and children who lived there.

Saddened by the death and destitution that she saw on a daily basis, Dr. Jo came up with a plan to change it. For example, she invented new medical practices that were safer and more sanitary, started a clothing line to prevent overheating in newborns, required midwives to undergo training, and so many other things. For ages 5 to 8.

The last book in this list is Go Show the World: A Celebration of Indigenous Heroes by Wab Kinew and illustrated by Joe Morse. This is a poem that highlights many historic and present-day Indigenous IslandParent.ca

heroes and trailblazers. A few of the individuals that Kinew skillfully weaves into his poem are Olympic Gold Medalist Jim Thorpe, Dr. Sue LaFlesche Picotte, and Dr. Evan Adams who is both the Chief Medical Officer for the B.C. First Nations Health Authority and an actor.

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While the profiles in the poem are small and rather vague at times, the end of the book includes brief biographies of all of the individuals mentioned in the book so you can learn more about who they are and what they did or are doing. For ages 5 to 9.

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Victoria & CRD Grossology 3:30pm at Central Branch Library Get gross! Learn about things that are slippery, green and smelly, and take home something that’s very gross. For ages 6-9. Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

Friday Night Adventurers’ Club 6pm at Nellie McClung Branch Library Enter the fantastical world of magic and role-playing in this interactive program based on the fifth edition of Dungeons and Dragons. Step into the boots of mighty heroes (and sneaky anti-heros), and create your own stories. No previous experience required.

You will learn skills for acting, writing, and storytelling along the way. For ages 13-18. Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

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Grinch Extravaganza 6:30pm at Old Sears Location, Hillside Mall North Dairy Rd Everyone Welcome Skate or Swim 1pm at Ravensong Aquatic Centre and Oceanside Whoville celebrations include photos with the Grinch, a Whoville hair contest, crafts & games, Place Arena Stay active with a swim or skate. Swim: 1-2:30pm; plus viewing of the original Grinch movie (don’t skate: 1:30-3pm. Reduced rate admission. rdn.bc.ca/ forget your pillow and blanket!). The event is in the former Sears location--use the former Sears recreation. 250-248-3252.

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Victoria & CRD Nanaimo & Area Annual Market Bazaar The Secrets of Salmon Nature Tour 10am at St. Aidan’s United Church 10am at Big Qualicum River Hatchery Richmond Rd at Cedar Hill X-Rd 21 stalls including: jewellery, linen and lace, books, Take a walk with a certified Park Naturalist. There baking, preserves, knitting, toys, Christmas store, will be plenty of stops along the way that leave plants and much more. Silent auction. Thrift store you with a greater appreciation for the wonders and coffee shop will be open. Drop-in hot dog of the surrounding area. Children 6+ can register lunch available for $5 from 10:30am-2:30pm. Free and attend with an adult. $20/person. rdn.bc.ca/ recreation. 250-248-3252. admission.

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A close-up look at these magnificent fish as they return to spawn and complete their lifecycle awaits.

Meet at Charters Interpretive Centre off Sooke River Rd. All ages. Free. crd.bc.ca/parks. 250-478-3344.

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Dad’s Night Out Free Skate 6:45pm at Oceanside Place Arena 830 W. Island Hwy Dads, bring the kids and enjoy a skate together on the pond. Sponsored by Building Learning Together.

Free. rdn.bc.ca/recreation. 250-248-3252.

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Victoria & CRD Emergency Preparedness Workshop 1pm at Victoria City Hall Antechamber Are you and your family prepared for an emergency such as a power outage, winter storm, earthquake or tsunami? Your family needs to have enough food, water and supplies to cope for at least seven days without outside assistance, depending on the emergency. Learn the hazards that can affect Victoria, what to include in your emergency kits, what you can do to protect your home from an earthquake, and how to reunite with your loved ones after a disaster. Free. VictoriaReady.ca. 250-920-3373. emvic@victoria.ca.

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Victoria & CRD Author Sean Rodman: Night Terrors 1:30pm at Juan de Fuca Branch Library “Where do you get the ideas for your books?” Learn how writers collect ideas and inspiration for their novels, find out how the author’s thriller, Night Terrors, was created, and learn tools and tricks that will help you find an idea for your own stories. For grades 7-8. Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

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Victoria & CRD Story Club 3:30pm at Nellie McClung Branch Library Join Story Club and engage with other kids over books, games and crafts. In this series, kids will listen to stories, share their thoughts and experiences, and enjoy group activities. Snacks provided. For ages 5-8. Register online or call for more information.

Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

Friday Night Adventurers’ Club 6pm at Nellie McClung Branch Library See FRI 2 for details. No previous experience required. You will learn skills for acting, writing, and WEDNESDAY TH storytelling along the way. For ages 13-18. Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. Victoria & CRD 250-940-4875.

Discovery Lab 10:30am at Oak Bay Branch Library SATURDAY TH Imagine, create and build using STEAM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, Mathematics) learnVictoria & CRD ing. Listen to stories and apply your knowledge during hands-on activities. For ages 3-5. Register Traditional Indigenous Storytime for Families online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca.

10am at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library Join Surrounded by Cedar Children & Family Services 250-940-4875. for a monthly storytelling group for families featuring traditional storytellers, art and songs. For children THURSDAY TH and their families. Please email to register. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875. counselling@sccfs.com.

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Stroke Improvement Clinic 6:30pm at Ravensong Aquatic Centre Splish Splash Swim 737 Jones St. 10am at Ravensong Aquatic Centre Improve your swimming strokes to reach your fitness 737 Jones St. goals or prepare for an aquatic course. This one A water adventure you don’t want to miss. The day class will focus on stroke technique and drills. lifeguards will bring out all the pool toys for you to You will also receive a workout to continue your enjoy. From the rope swing to the snake and dino swim training at your own pace. Participants must ribs, there will be water play for everyone. Regular be able to swim 100 meters non-stop. 12+ years. admission. rdn.bc.ca/recreation. 250-752-5014. $10.80/person. rdn.bc.ca/recreation. 250-752-5014.

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Victoria & CRD PJ Party at Teen Lounge 6pm at Brentwood Bay Teen Lounge Grades 6-9, grab a blanket or sleeping bag and pull on your favourite pajamas and come for a pj party complete with sleepover games, activities, movies and treats. Free. panoramarecreation.ca.

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Cedar Hill X-Rd at Cedar Hill Rd The Little Elves Shoppe is an opportunity for children to shop for members of their families. They can shop, wrap and tag their gifts, all in one stop for just $1 per item. Free Admission; Little Elves Shoppe $1/item. stlukesvictoria.ca. 250-477-6741. st.lukes@shaw.ca.

Discovery Lab 10:30am at Juan de Fuca Branch Library Imagine, create and build using STEAM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, Mathematics) learning. Listen to stories and apply your knowledge during hands-on activities. For ages 3-5. Register Friday Night Adventurers’ Club online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca.

6pm at Nellie McClung Branch Library Enter the fantastical world of magic and role-playing 250-940-4875. in this interactive program based on the fifth edition of Dungeons and Dragons. Step into the boots of Wonderful Woodpeckers mighty heroes (and sneaky anti-heros), and create 10am at Francis/King Regional Park your own stories. No previous experience required. Discover all of the tricks of the woodpecker trade.

You will learn skills for acting, writing, and storytelling What makes them so good at what they do? Join along the way. For ages 13-18. Register online or call a CRD Regional Parks naturalist and learn how to for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875. identify different woodpeckers by sight, sound and habits on this fun guided walk. Meet at the Francis/ King Nature Centre off Munn Road. 5+ years. Free.

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Victoria & CRD Family Book Club: The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis Little Elves Shoppe at the Christmas Bazaar 2pm at Esquimalt Branch Library 10am at St. Luke’s Hall

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Read one or all of the books together as a family, and then enjoy light conversation with other readers and participate in a book-based activity.

For children aged 9-12 and accompanying adult.

Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

Nanaimo & Area Wiggling Worms 10am at Bowen Park Lower Picnic Shelter Are worms really slimy? Have you wondered what they eat or which end is their head? Why do they come out in the rain? Learn with us through games, crafts and stories. Parent participation required. $8/person. recreation.nanaimo.ca. 250-756-5200.

Coastal Community Credit Union Sponsored Skate 2pm at Oceanside Place Arena 830 W. Island Hwy Join your friends for an everyone welcome skate courtesy of the Parksville Branch of Coastal Community Credit Union. Free. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Star Wars Dive-in Movie/Games 3pm at Nanaimo Aquatic Centre Feel the force while you watch one of the Star

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Wars movies in the warm waters of NAC. Regular attention. 50s vintage clothes, bags, shoes and admission. recreation.nanaimo.ca. 250-756-5200. collectibles. Pre- and post-war jewellery, coats, hat, magazines and more. Dinky cars, meccano, mechanical toys and everything from stuffed to Star Starlight Skate Wars. $5; early birds (8:30am)/$20.

7pm at Nanaimo Ice Centre An opportunity to come out and enjoy our soft light “stars” and passive LED glow lights. This is a great monDaY tH time for families after dinner, or that “night out” with friends. Regular admission. recreation.nanaimo.ca. victoria & CrD 250-756-5200.

Canadian Storytelling Night 7pm at 1831 Fern St sunDaY tH “Running Deep: The Power of Water.” $5; $3/members. 250-727-3097. victoria & CrD

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Marvelous Mushrooms 10am at Francis/King Regional Park For the novice mushroom explorer. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to discover more about fungi in the forest. There is no fee for this program but you must pre-register by November 13 as space is limited. 5+ years. Free. crd.bc.ca/parks.

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Early Years Healthy Start Fair 10am at Boys & Girls Club, Nanaimo 20 Fifth St. Family resources and services, Triple P Positive Parenting Program, Nanaimo Child Development Christmas Vintage, Retro & Collectible Show Centre, vision screening, Public Health nursing, early 9:30am at Mary Winspear Centre learning & development supports, pregnancy supLots of potential for Christmas gift-giving, or why ports, healthy eating, snacks, games, activities and not treat yourself to something that catches your more. Free. nanaimoearlyyears.org. 250-816-1699.

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victoria & CrD Prehistoric Pals at Kindergym 9:30am at Greenglade Community Centre Come for a dino-mite morning that will include face painting and prehistoric crafting, along with the usual free play fun. For 1-5 years with a parent.

Regular drop-in rates. panoramarecreation.ca.

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Codemakers 1:30pm at Juan de Fuca Branch Library Join the Science Venture team for a Codemakers workshop in which you’ll learn how to create a digital rock-paper-scissors game using a micro:bit—a minicomputer that fits in the palm of your hand. For ages

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Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

Pro D Day Skate 1pm at Panorama Recreation Arena A Bring your family and friends for a free skate sponsored by Peninsula Co-op. Free. 250-656-7271. panoramarecreation.ca.

Lumberjanes—Library to the Max 1pm at Central Branch Library Calling all Lumber Jumbies, get ready to solve a puzzle or two with us before celebrating with a camp snack and making your own scout badge, all while listening to some awesome mixtapes made by our favourite Janes. For ages 10-12. Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

Fantastic Structures 2:30pm at Nellie McClung Branch Library Join artist April Caverhill to construct a fantastic 3D structure using construction paper, tape, glue and tons of imagination. For ages 7-10. Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca.

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Friday Night Adventurers’ Club 6pm at Nellie McClung Branch Library Enter the fantastical world of magic and role-playing in this interactive program based on the fifth edition of Dungeons and Dragons. Step into the boots of mighty heroes (and sneaky anti-heros), and create your own stories. No previous experience required.

You will learn skills for acting, writing, and storytelling along the way. For ages 13-18. Register online or call for more information. Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

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Coast Capital Free Skate 3:45pm at Nanaimo Ice Centre Skate and helmet rentals included. Free. recreation. nanaimo.ca. 250-756-5200.

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10am at Francis/King Regional Park Be it a Banana or a licorice slug, stroll with a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to peek under fallen logs and leaves in search of these giant gastropods that are one of nature’s best recyclers. Meet at the Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Road. 5+ years.

Free. crd.bc.ca/parks. 250-478-3344.

Music Bingo at Teen Lounge 6pm at Greenglade Community Centre Have an ear for music and know all the lyrics to

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today’s top 40 tunes? Get your bingo daubers ready and play music bingo. For grades 6-9. panoramarecreation.ca. 250-656-7271.

Nanaimo & Area Disco Light Skate 7:30pm at Oceanside Place Arena 830 W. Island Hwy Catch dance fever under the disco lights. The flashing lights and pumping music will take you back in time. Regular admission. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Victoria & CRD Squirrelly Squirrels 10am at Francis/King Regional Park What does it take to survive as a squirrel? With a CRD Regional Parks naturalist discover what keeps these furry creatures busy at this time of year. There is no fee for this program but you must preregister

by November 20 as space is limited. 5 years and under. Free. crd.bc.ca/parks. 250-478-3344.

Soil Safari Noon at Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary 3873 Swan Lake Rd Discover a 12,000 year-old beach in the middle of the forest and glimpse the history of the area as you go back in time by digging down underground. Paint your face with marine clay and experience the mud pudding from the bottom of Swan Lake. Explore the hardworking decomposers that create the soil and take a closer look under a microscope. Mold clay with guest potters and take home your creation along with fun crafts and all that you have learned about what lies beneath. $5/person suggested donation. swanlake.bc.ca. 250-479-0211.

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Annual Sidney Nativity Exhibit 2pm at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints 2210 Eastleigh Way “Come Let Us Adore Him” is in it’s 12th year. Come and visit this community exhibit featuring the Christmas Nativity story. Two special areas for children, one contains a life-size stable with dress-up clothes that they can try on and pose in the manger with stable animals for a Christmas photo and a Craft Room, open Mon -Fri 6-8pm and Sat and Sun 2-8pm, where children can make a Nativity ornament to take home for free. Free. sidneynativityexhibit.ca.

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Listen to stories and have fun with the library’s Lego.

For ages 4-6; parents and caregivers are encouraged to attend. Register online or call for more information.

Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

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11am at Oceanside Place Arena, MP Room 830 W. Island Hwy THURSDAY TH Join Jody Moore to make homemade play dough, cornstarch goop, and other low-cost concoctions.

Victoria & CRD 2-4 years. $10/person. rdn.bc.ca/recreation. 250248-3252.

Story Club 3:30pm at Juan de Fuca Branch Library Join Story Club and engage with other kids over books, games and crafts. In this series, kids will listen to stories, share their thoughts and experiences, and enjoy group activities. Snacks provided. For ages 5-8. Register online or call for more information. PRESCHOOL Free. gvpl.ca. 250-940-4875.

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Victoria & CRD Little Lego at the Library 3:30pm at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library

Baby Times At Greater Victoria Public Libraries Learn songs, rhymes and fingerplays to use with your baby every day. For babies 0-15 months and parent or caregiver. See the drop-in schedule at gvpl.ca.

Family Storytimes At Greater Victoria Public Libraries Fun-filled stories, songs, rhymes and puppets. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. See drop-in schedule at gvpl.ca.

Giggles and Wiggles At Greater Victoria Public Libraries Little listeners with extra energy will enjoy actionfilled stories, songs and rhymes followed by free play and stations. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult.

See drop-in schedule at gvpl.ca.

Good Morning Storytime Thursdays 10:30am at Sidney All Care 2269 Mills Rd Bring your littlest ones to this library program for stories, songs, rhymes, and lots of movement. Ages 0-5. Drop-in program. 250-656-0944.

Young Parent Weekly Drop-in Thursdays 10am-noon at Kiwanis Family Centre.

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No Ivy League Sundays 1-3pm until November 25 at Uplands Park CHILDREN Join Friends of Uplands Park to help remove English Ivy, the carpet of death, and restore areas in Uplands Nanaimo & Area Park. Tools, gloves, and instruction provided. Meet at Cattle Point by the 2nd boat ramp after the kiosks.

Saturday Breakfast Club Saturdays at Munchkinland Family Place, Parksville Come for songs, stories and breakfast. Suitable Parent Support Circles for families with children 6 and younger. Free. Parenting isn’t always easy. Sometimes it helps to talk November 3-December 22, 9:30-11:30am. View all things through with other parents. At the Parent Support Services Society of BC, they believe that every BLT programs at oblt.ca. parent is the expert of her/his own family. For more information about groups near you, call 250-3848042 or 1-877-345-9444 or visit parentsupportbc.ca.

Nanaimo & Area Drop-In Science Studio Tuesdays 3-4:30pm at NS3 Science Studio. #101-4355 Jingle Pot Rd Build Lego creations, then program them to move using drag and drop software. Students can also explore the many hands-on science exhibits and experiments including: making boats for the water table, building KEVA block towers, designing marble wall tracks and pulleys, discovering the force of air in the air field, creating flying creations to test in the wind tunnels, and more. $10/child. Ages 6+. No preregistration necessary. Schedule subject to change, so please check nanaimoscience.org for most current schedule. 4355 Jingle Pot Rd. 778-971-6893.

Parksville Lions and Save-On-Foods Family Skate Sundays 12:15-1:45pm starting November 4-25 at Oceanside Place Arena Pond hockey is not available during this session.

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My son puts on his blue dress and then reluctantly poses for a photo with his older sister. I hope to have them recreate this picture when they are older—right down to their exact expressions.

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My kids’ favourite castle-building material is a huge package of tissue boxes or paper towels. My kids love to use them as blocks and as walls of their forts. After play time is over, have your kids play hot potato by passing the boxes to you as fast as they can while you stack them on the top shelf.

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Before our tea party, she said I had to become a princess. I asked her how I become a princess. She said I needed a tiara, a wand, and to be nice. The last part made me smile because our family motto, one my husband came up with, is to “do the right thing and be a good person.”

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ummer feels like a lifetime ago, with the cold rain and grey clouds pressing upon the shoulders of the city again.

But I still think about our family’s first visit to Hornby Island last August.

It was a perfect vacation, seven days of sunshine and saltwater. We spotted a humpback whale our first morning. We snorkelled, SUP’d and skimboarded the warm waters of Tribune Bay. We mountainbiked the trails of Mount Geoffrey and then lazed under a canopy of trees beside our cabin.

My only complaint: Why had nobody ever told me about Hornby? (Full disclosure: many of you had.) Our kids’ complaint: Who got dibs on the hammock? By the end of the week, I felt as care-free as a 10-year-old—or at least as a 10-year-old should be. We all did.

Those good vibrations vanished in less than 48 hours. The next Monday, we shipped the kids to overnight camp, just as the smoke from B.C.’s forest fires blotted out the sun and smothered the city. Our anxiety thickened with the air. Would the darkening haze ruin the kids’ week? Would it damage their lungs? Was it a sign of the Climate Change Apocalypse—the one sure inheritance we will leave them?

They did fine. The counsellors adjusted activities—less outdoor time, more cabin singalongs—and the kids had a blast. But my serenity was shattered. It only felt more jagged as we headed back to school and the kids’ fall activities accelerated into overdrive. I wished I was back in the hammock, day-dreaming of whales.

It reminded me how the baseline mood of modern parenting is too often a lowlying smog of worry that buffers the joys, big and small, of living with little people.

Our frantic, smartphone-tethered, alwayson lifestyles don’t help. So how do we hit pause on our runaway days?

What we used to call “me time” has been rebranded as “self-care.” Whatever the label, parents need more than a week’s vacation from the nagging of our calendar apps and the foreboding of the future. The IslandParent.ca

risk, if we don’t, is that our anxious moods will become contagious in our own homes.

And our kids don’t need that. They’re already busy managing their own worries.

Last year, when our 10-year-old daughter felt overwhelmed by juggling schoolwork, music lessons and four different sports, she ordered a Scholastic book of stress-busting tips. Both our kids’ teachers have led mindfulness exercises in their classrooms.

David Leach

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Does your child breathe through his/her mouth?

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Does your child have jaws that seem too far forward or back?

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Even as I write these words, I can picture the eye-rolling from the judgemental corners of Facebook and Twitter, from Baby Booming newspaper columnists ready to rage (from the security of their paid-off mortgages) about generations of “snowflakes” and “helicopter parents” and how schools should return to the 3 R’s: Reading, ’Riting and Random Advice from Internet Cranks. Still, I’d rather listen to the wisdom of kids than the tsk-tsk’ing of online scolds.

Over the last year, our 12-year-old son has lobbied for a pet: a cat, a dog, a rat, a lizard—it changes by the month. I veto them all. We don’t need another life to fret over. Recently he made the case for a betta fish. The clincher for his pitch? Keeping an aquarium, according to psychologists, can be calming. So we let him buy a betta.

Now our son sometimes finds me sitting in his bedroom, watching his small fish turn circles in the bowl on his desk. He’s right: it is calming.

For me, the betta works better than any mindfulness app or meditation retreat.

Maybe it brings me back to my own happy place—swimming with the fishes of Tribune Bay. Maybe I’m relieved to know there’s someone in our house ready to ride out the rising seas of climate change.

Or maybe I should trust my son and not over-think things for once. Instead I’ll sit back, clear my head and simply enjoy the dawning of the age of aquariums.

David Leach is Chair of the Department of Writing at the University of Victoria and author of Chasing Utopia.

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Protecting Brain Function Healthy Families, Happy Families

Child, Youth & Family Public Health South Island Health Units Esquimalt Gulf Islands

Be concussion alert

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n a scale of one to 10, with 10 being the most important, how crucial is protecting brain function in children and youth?

According to the BC Injury Research and Prevention Unit and Child Health BC (2013), “children and youth are at a greater risk of concussions and more serious head injury than the general population.” Con-

Awareness is the first step in concussion prevention—it is important to know and understand concussion facts.

A concussion is a form of head injury which can be caused by a direct or indirect hit to the head, neck, or face, or body. It may occur as a result of an impact or from forceful motion which results in a jarring of the brain. Symptoms and effects are unique

cussions are often misunderstood, underrecognized, and under-reported because the symptoms may not be immediately visible.

In fact, concussions are often referred to as an “invisible” injury because they cannot be seen on x-rays, CT scans, or MRIs. In Island Health, 452 hospitalizations occurred for concussions with children and youth aged 0-19 between 2001 and 2014.

With active play and physical movement critical to the development and wellness of children, taking a preventative approach to concussions is fundamental for brain protection.

across the life span. In children and youth, symptoms may include upset stomach, headache, dizziness, sensitivity to light and/ or sound and behavioural changes such as confusion, lethargy and disengagement.

While a concussion is a serious event, with sufficient time and rest full recovery is possible. Therefore, without appropriate recognition and management, long-term effects on a child and/or youth’s cognitive, social and physical development can occur influencing how a “child or youth talks, walks, learns, works and interacts with others.”

250-519-5311 250-539-3099

(toll-free number for office in Saanichton)

Peninsula 250-544-2400 Saanich 250-519-5100 Saltspring Island 250-538-4880 Sooke 250-642-5464 Victoria 250-388-2200 West Shore 250-519-3490

Central Island Health Units Duncan Ladysmith Lake Cowichan Nanaimo Nanaimo Princess Royal Parksville/ Qualicum

250-709-3050 250-755-3342 250-749-6878 250-755-3342 250-755-3342

Port Alberni Tofino

250-731-1315 250-725-4020

250-947-8242

North Island Health Units Campbell River 250-850-2110 Courtenay 250-331-8520 Kyuquot Health Ctr 250-332-5289 ‘Namgis Health Ctr 250-974-5522 Port Hardy 250-902-6071

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Because concussions do not include a loss of consciousness and signs may not be evident immediately, if in doubt have a child sit out an activity following a blow or a fall which has caused a sudden jarring of the head.

The Canadian Paediatric Society recommends: • rest until symptoms are gone • do not engage in any recreational activities including sports and exercise

Shelley McClure CH I LD YO UT H & FA MILY P U B L IC H E A LT H

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• limit activities like reading, texting, watching television or participating in computer and electronic activities • obtain physician clearance before returning to activities.

Parachute Canada has an information sheet at parachutecanada.org with steps for returning to play after a concussion.

Keeping children active, healthy and concussion free is important for their development. Island Health Community Care Facilities Licensing (CCFL) program has partnered with the Pacific Institute for Sports Excellence and Pacific Sport Vancouver Island to offer education opportunities to licensees and their employees on fundamental movement skills of active play. Resources from these sessions are available to Licensees and families of children enrolled in licensed child care through CCFL. Resources are also available at BC Injury Research and Prevention Unit found at injuryresearch.bc.ca/reports/ burden-concussion-british-columbia/, the Canadian Paediatric Society (2012) at cps. ca/en/media/children-youth-concussions and from Parachute Canada located at parachutecanada.org/downloads/ resources/return-to-play-guidelines.pdf.

Please contact the Island Health Licensing program to learn more about what Licensing Officers are doing to educate licensees on how to protect brain function in children and youth in licensed child care facilities.

Shelley McClure, EdD, MA, CEC, CAM, BGS, ECE, is Regional Manager of Community Care Facilities Licensing; Tobacco & Vapour Prevention and Control Program.

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Family Services Directory

HappyBaby Sleep Solutions helps families create healthy sleep habits in babies and children so everyone is well rested and happy. Sukkie Sandhu, M.Ed., has worked with hundreds of families locally in Victoria and worldwide. Sukkie is a Registered Clinical Counsellor so the cost of a sleep consultation may be covered under your extended medical plan. For more information visit happybabysleepsolutions.com or call 250-857-1408 for a FREE evaluation. Let’s get started!

This directory, sponsored by Thrifty Foods, features not for profit agencies and organizations serving children, youth and families.

1Up, Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (1-up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training, a mentoring program for single moms, and a support group for dads, as well as a variety of integrated life skills and parenting courses which are open to the whole community, with fees on a sliding scale. For single parent members, the Centre provides free toys and books, a clothing room and bread pantry. Donations of gently-used clothing, small household items, and toys are welcome. Hours: Mon., Tue., Thu., Fri.: 9–4, & Wednesdays: 12–7. Location: 602 Gorge Road East. Phone: 250-385-1114.

Beacon Community Services is a communitybased, non-profit agency dedicated to helping people and improving lives on southern Vancouver Island and the southern Gulf Islands. Beacon thrift shops fund important LOCAL community services and programs. Beacon also offers: child, youth and family services (including the Peninsula Early Years Centre and child care); counselling; employment services and training for people of all ages; home support care; volunteer services and opportunities; affordable housing/care/supports for seniors and people with disabilities. For Home Support, please call 250-658-6407. For other programs: 250-6560134. beaconcs.ca.

Beacon Community Services Employment Programs. Beacon Community Services offers a full menu of employment services on the Saanich Peninsula and Gulf Islands. We’ve been helping people find work since 1982! Our programs build on a person’s strengths and resolve barriers to finding and keeping employment. We also work with our employer network to support job seekers. Need help finding a job? Need employees? Contact us for FREE assistance! 9860 Third St. Sidney. 250656-0134. beaconcs.ca.

Boys & Girls Club Services offer after-school and evening social, educational and recreational programming for children and youth at 5 locations (Colwood, Langford, VicWest, Central Saanich and Esquimalt) and summer camps both in Esquimalt and at our Outdoor Centre in Metchosin. We also offer support to parents through our Parents Together program and parent workshops. For more information on all programs and services visit bgcvic.org or call 250-384-9133.

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children, youth and adults on a sliding fee scale. Call us at 250-386-4331 or visit fsgv.org. We can help.

Canucks Autism Network (CAN) provides yearround sports and recreation programs for children, youth, young adults and families living with autism.

Programs in Victoria, Nanaimo and Cowichan Valley include Intro to Physical Activity, Intro to Soccer & Basketball, Swim, Skate, Social Events (fall, winter and spring), Overnight Camp (summer), and Family Events (year-round). For more information, visit canucksautism.ca.

Inter-Cultural Association of Greater Victoria (ICA) is a registered charity and nonprofit helping individuals and organizations to connect across cultures. Programs offered include immigrant and refugee services, parenting programs, employment services, interpretation and translation, diversity workshops and training, English language training, volunteer placements, youth programs and tutoring, seniors groups, and inter-cultural arts programming.

CHOICES Adoption & Counselling is a licensed, Located at 930 Balmoral Road, 250-388-4728 info@ professional, non-profit agency that provides icavictoria.org, icavictoria.org. services to adoptive parents, birth-parents, and adoptees. CHOICES arranges adoptions domesti- LDABC The Learning Curve (previously The cally and internationally. We are committed to pro- Learning Disabilities Assn.) supports, educates and viding a comprehensive, client-centered adoption advocates for children with learning disabilities and service which best meets the needs of everyone related challenges. Individual and group support, in the adoption constellation. Please contact us at education and consultation is available for children, choices@choicesadoption.ca, or call 250-479-9811 youth, parents, caregivers and professionals. Please visit our website @ ldasvi.bc.ca or call us for more infor further information. formation or to book an appointment: 250-370-9513.

Dialogue and Resolution Services (DRS) is the South Island’s only non-profit specializing in alter- Sooke-West Shore Early Years Centres provide native conflict resolution for both civil and family information to families about children and family matters. Offering quality, professional mediation, services, supports, child development and parentcoaching and parent coordination in a supportive ing. The Early Years Navigator will assist families environment for families, co-parents, co-workers with referral information for local early years proand neighbours, DRS works with clients to help gramming, child care, public health, special needs them create lasting, effective solutions. DRS also intervention services, and social supports. The offers its flagship “Communicating through Conflict” Sooke-West Shore Early Years Centres are hosted workshop series quarterly both days and evenings by Sooke Family Resource Society and located at throughout the year. Find us at 250-383-4412 or the Child, Youth, and Family Centres in both Sooke and the West Shore and can be reached at 250dialogueandresolutionservices.ca.

217-9243. Additional information can be accessed at sfrs.ca/early-years-centre.

Family Services of Greater Victoria

Family Services of Greater Victoria (formerly BC Families in Transition) is a non profit agency that has been serving families since 1978. We provide a full range of services to the whole family in supporting their relationship and through separation and divorce. Counseling, mediation, legal information and a range of group programs are available for

Victoria Immigrant and Refugee Centre Society (VIRCS) supports immigrants and refugees living in Greater Victoria. Services are free and include oneon-one counselling, parent education workshops, youth life skills classes, a preschool program, art therapy, language classes and academic support, employment help, computer classes and fun community events like free yoga, tai chi, dance and cooking classes. Visit us online at vircs.bc.ca or phone 250-361-9433.

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S T A G E S Performing Art School since1980

Call 250-384-3267 Email us at: stagesdance@shaw.ca Or visit our website: www.stagesdance.com

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• Offering classes for Teens and Pre-Teens in Jazz, Ballet, Lyrical, Tap. Musical Theatre, Acrobatics & Hip Hop, in a non-competitive atmosphere.

• Not sure which class to take?

Try a Drop-In: No hassle, No Obligation.

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Preschool & Child Care Directory If you’d like to be listed in the Preschool & Child Care Directory, please email sales@islandparent.ca Colwood/LANGFORD

Licenced group childcare for children ages 12 months to 5 years old. Open 6:30am-5:30pm.

Leap Forward Dance School offers weekday and Saturday dance classes for children ages 2 and up.

2758 Peatt Road, Langford

Recreation Oak Bay.................................250-370-7200 Fully licensed, ECE Daycare, Preschool and Nature Preschool.

Play based, child led learning. Afterschool care available.

Highlands

SAANICH Nestled on 4 acres of lush west Coast forest ,our Award winning, Nature based program will not disappoint!

While firmly embracing the Reggio-Emila (Italy) Philosophy our dedicated team of educators use the environment as the third teacher as we encourage your child throughout their day.

Our purpose built facilities have been handmade using the trees from our forest.

We have recently expanded to our new Spirit bear Lodge located right next door!

Programs for Infants/Toddlers and PreKindergarten children.

• Half day and Full day Preschool Programs • Children’s learning is nurtured and supported through exploration, discovery, play and creative expression 3905 Haro Road, Victoria BC

250-477-3731 arbutusgrove.ca Award of Excellence in Child Care

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250-818-9225 info@leapforwardlangford.com

250-590-3603

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Coastline Montessori Childcare............... 250-881-6318 Experience an educational hands on learning environment for infants, toddlers and preschool age. Half-day program offered. Located in Langford off Latoria Rd. coastlinemontessori@shaw.ca.

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West-Mont Montessori School.................250-474-2626 Exceptional preschool Montessori instruction in a beautiful natural environment. Ages 30 months and up. Providing a balanced approach to incorporating French, Music, Art and Nature. Stop by and experience what it is like to be part of a community devoted to the development of the whole child.

Open House: Thursdays 9-11 am. west-mont.ca.

Carrot Seed Preschool.............................250-658-2331 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. carrotseedpreschool.com.

Cordova Bay Preschool........................... 250-658-3441 A bright and cheerful parent participation preschool with a philosophy of learning through play. 4 yr olds - M/W/F 9:151:15; 3 yr olds - T/Th 9:15-12:15. cordovabaypreschool.org.

ESQUIMALT Ciara Early Childhood Centre...................250-386-7369 Education and Fun Hand in Hand! Exceptional care for ages 1-5yrs. Inclusive nature inspired kindergarten readiness program with Christian values. Facebook.com/ CiaraEarlyChildhoodCentre.

Island Kids Academy Esquimalt...............250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Enriched Curriculum.

Includes Music Classes and Character Development using the Virtues Project. Part -time spaces available. Islandkids.ca.

La Pré-Maternelle Appletree Preschool......250-479-0292 A French Immersion Preschool Program.

30 months to school age. Licensed Christian centre. prematernelleappletree.com.

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Camosun College Child Care Services........250-370-4880 Quality licensed facilities on both campuses providing children, newborn to 5 years, with rich early learning experiences in a learn through play environment. camosun.ca/childcare.

Metchosin Cooperative Preschool.................................

Play Explore Learn and Grow in beautiful rural Metchosin.

Morning programs available for 3 and 4 year olds. Contact our ECEs at metchosinpreschool@gmail.com.

North SAANICH In The Garden Childcare Centre.............. 250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year. Now offering Infant and Toddler Care.

OAK BAY Emmanuel Preschool.............................. 250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. emmanuelpreschool.ca.

Gonzales Co-op Preschool....................... 250-727-1003 Children use imaginations in a Learning through Play classroom and natural playground. Reggio-Emilia inspired, focus is on art, nature and music. Nurturing, highly qualified ECE and ECE assistant. Parent participation options. Allergy aware. gonzalescooppreschool.com.

• Licensed 2.5 hr and 4 hr programs, flexible part-time classes • Qualified ECEs offer play-based programs that stimulate curiosity and imagination and support optimum growth and development. Supported spaces available.

• Indoor and outdoor programming, community visitors and special activities provide opportunities for learning through play and exploration.

Fullobeans.ca 250-360-1148 saanichneighbourhoodplace.com

Island Montessori House.....................250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing Preschool and After School Care programs. Lovely rural setting with a focus on nature and outdoor environmental activities. islandmontessori.com.

Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare........ 250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s parent-participation preschool and childcare center. Flexible hours M-F 9am-3pm & drop-ins offered. Play based learning and outdoor play. Allergy friendly. Celebrating 40 years. lambrickparkpreschool.ca.

Oakcrest Preschool................................ 250-472-0668 A welcoming, nurturing environment with a large, bright facility. Learn through play with 2 caring ECEs. oakcrestpreschool.org.

Ready Set Grow Preschool....................... 250-472-1530 Inside Hillcrest Elm. in Gordon Head, we help children transition to Kindergarten. Licensed Preschool with highly qualified, warm ECE. heoscmanager@gmail.com.

St. Joseph’s Early Learning Centre.............. 250-479-1237 A Christian childcare centre offering daycare and preschool programs for 3-5 year olds. Children learn through playbased and emergent curriculum in a warm and nurturing environment.

Looking for child care? Need help with subsidy forms?

Taking care of children? Need child care training?

Your community’s best source of child care information and resources.

Victoria & Gulf Islands: 250-382-7000 or 1-800-750-1868 Sooke: 250-642-5152 West Shore: 250-391-4324 Cowichan Valley: 250-746-4135 local 231 PacificCare (Ladysmith north): 250-756-2022 or 1-888-480-2273 Funded by the Province of BC

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Pre-School Junior Kindergarten PacificChristian.ca 250-479-4532 Educational Excellence to the Glory of God Wiseways Preschool & Daycare .......... 250-477-1312 Established, quality, licensed, Christian centre for 3-5 year olds . Experienced ECEs, cheerful spacious facilities, large playground . Subsidized fees welcome . Call for a tour . Wisewaysvictoria .com .

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vIeW roYal Island Kids Academy View Royal ............250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5) . Enriched Curriculum .

Includes Music Classes and Character Development using the Virtues Project . Part -time spaces available . Islandkids .ca .

View Royal Childcare ..............................250-479-8067 Preschool structured, high quality childcare . Victoria Conservatory of Music classes . Part time spaces available . 2 .5-5year olds . viewroyalpreschool@live .com .

View Royal Preschool .............................250-479-8067 Exciting inclusive program in a safe and exceptional care environment . 3-5 year olds . Outside play and themes enrich this program . Full/part-time spaces available . viewroyalpreschool .com .

Queen of Angels Early Learning Centre ..... 250-701-0433 Our Centre is a lively, happy place for 3-5 year olds where children are encouraged to be confident, independent learners in a nurturing and safe environment .

Sunrise Waldorf School Preschool .............250-743-7253 In a warm environment, this nature and play-based program enlivens and nurtures the growing child . sunrisewaldorfschool .org .

CHemaInus St. Joseph’s Preschool .............................250-246-3191 An enriching preschool program allowing children to grow as individuals in a safe and nurturing Christian environment .

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www.ArtsCalibre.ca 250.382.3533 Castleview Child Care............................ 250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Discovery . Licensed non-profit, ECE staff . Since 1958 . Morning or full-time care . castleviewchildcarecentre .com .

Centennial Day Care .............................. 250-386-6832 Exceptional childcare and education 35+ years . Nature inspired, play based program . NEW central, “green” building . centennialdaycare .ca .

Christ Church Cathedral Childcare and Junior Kindergarten ......................... 250-383-5132 ECE and Specialist teachers provide an outstanding all-day, licensed program for 3–5 year olds . Spacious, renovated facility with a huge backyard in Fairfield . cathedralschool .ca .

Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten Ltd ....................250-595-7544 We offer education through creativity and play, providing rich learning experiences through a well sourced and stimulating indoor and outdoor environment . Early years reading programme . nightingalepreschool .com . Arts/ Drama programme . kidsworks .ca .

Rainbow Express Daycare ...................... 250-382-2314 A nurturing environment for children to learn through play and discovery in a natural setting . ECEs and specialist teachers . rainbowexpressdaycare .com . Close to city centre .

International Montessori Academy of Canada ................................................ 250-737-1119 Offers an enriching environment for preschool children 2-4 .9 years with potty training . Nurturing young minds, keeping the spirit free . intmontessori .ca .

Parkside Academy .................................... 250-746-1711 Providing high quality early learning and care from infancy to 12 years of age, in a stimulating, respectful, nurturing, nature based environment with fully educated and passionate early childhood educators . Visit parksideacademy .ca or find us on Facebook .

Queen Margaret’s School ......................... 250-746-4185 Early Childhood Education Program . Co-ed nurturing curriculum to develop the whole child . Healthy snacks and lunch provided . qms .bc .ca .

qualICum BeaCH Children’s Discovery Centre....................250-752-4343 A nurturing, safe and creative learning environment .

Licensed preschool, group care and out of school care . Early Childhood Educators . childrensdiscovery centre .ca . childrensdiscoverycentre@hotmail .com .

Little Star Children’s Centre ....................250-752-4554 Mother, Daughter owned and operated . Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature . Infused with fun and creative daily yoga practices! Licensed group care .

Enthusiastic ECE instructors . littlestardaycare .ca

Port alBernI John Paul II Catholic School ....................250-723-0637 “Where children grow and learn through play .” We provide a program that will inspire development physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, creatively and spiritually .

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Ross Bay Preschool ................................250-383-7445 Our positive and supportive program motivates children to learn, discover and grow through play . Contact us for a tour of our little blue school!

The Sir James Douglas Playschool ......... 250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills . Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield .

Victoria Montessori ............................... 250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play . Open yr . round .

30mths–K . victoriamontessori .com .

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The message is a good one, but sometimes it hard for kids to grasp the hypothetical.

And while sometimes a disability has a tell—a kid in a wheelchair, a child who uses an iPad to assist them with speech—other n late August an article began to show bral palsy, the article encouraged parents kids with disabilities look no different than up in my Facebook feed, shared by many to tell their kids it was okay to be friends their (neuro)typical peers. Angus is one of of my friends with school aged children: with kids who were disabled, and it wasn’t those kids.

Many children with autism display self-stimulating behaviour (the repetition of physical movements or sounds), but Angus doesn’t “stim” by flapping his hands or rocking his body. He stims by flipping through science books quickly, reading the chapter headings under his breath. To someone who doesn’t know Angus, this behavior—which calms him down when he’s feeling anxious—simply looks as though he’s skimming a book. Angus rarely says hello when someone greets him, and won’t look people in the eyes, but many shy kids are no different. And if you engage Angus in a conversation about something he deems interesting, he’ll have plenty to say to you.

In other ways, Angus’s difference is more apparent. He struggles with fine mo“As the school year begins, please talk to okay to tease them, or bully them or to tor skills, with interacting with his peers, with following directions that include your children about disabilities.” Written leave them out. more than one step. And things that may by a special education teacher with cereseem insignificant—a sudden change in the schedule, a misplaced book, another child skinning their knee—can lead to a meltdown of epic proportions.

Angus doesn’t look different, but he is different. And it’s a “different” that sometimes is uncomfortable and unpredictable.

But Angus has friends. Though starting a new school has been difficult in that regard, Angus has friends he’s picked up in kindergarten, in grade one, from our neighbourhood. He has friends he sees on a regular basis, that enjoy his company.

They’re nice kids, all of them. They’re accepting, and flexible and kind, and though they’re all very different from each other, the one thing they have in common is parents who share those traits.

Yes, it’s important to talk to your kids about disabilities, but more important than what you say is what you do. When a mom Nov 9, 7pm | Nov 10, 2pm & 7pm | Nov 16, 7pm | Nov 17, 2pm & 7pm talks to me about her child’s birthday in front of that child—what the activity is, Join us at the Ridge Theatre in Claremont Secondary as we open the Four and what I suggest she do to ensure Angus Seasons Vault to showcase some of your all-time favourite family shows. is comfortable—she’s teaching her son a lesson: sometimes modifications need to be made for kids, and that’s okay. When a friend’s dad sidles up to Angus at the beach and begins to help him create the dam he’s been working on solo, enticing the rest of

Kindness I

See scenes from some of your favourite musicals like The Little Mermaid, Shrek, Seussical and many more. Meet your favourite characters during intermission. www.fsmtheatre.ca Reserve or buy tickets online: victoriaticket.ca

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the group to contribute, he’s showing his kids that Angus is worth playing with, and has great ideas. When Angus gets worked up while I’m packing up our gear at the playground, and a friend’s mom distracts

Laura Trunkey Maternity & Beyond him by talking about Harry Potter, she’s showing her daughter that there’s no need to be afraid of Angus when he’s upset. When a kid’s dad says hello to Angus by name every single morning at school, regardless of whether he responds, he’s saying: it’s important to be friendly with everyone.

This summer Angus boogie-boarded for the first time. At Chesterman Beach, his friend pulled him into the water and showed him exactly what to do. She turned the board into the waves. She moved Angus’s body so he was facing the right direction.

He awkwardly tried to hold on, the two of them falling into the waves, laughing, splashing, over and over and over. She didn’t do this because she was coerced, or even asked. She wanted to.

Recently while playing at the park with a group of kids, Angus fell and started to howl. Before I reached him, his friend stopped his game and ran to him. He hugged him, he talked to him softly, then dragged him away to where they began a different game, the two of them.

There are so many things we’re encouraged to do to make our kids successful: more unstructured play, less screen time, more vegetables, less coddling. There are team sports and music lessons and second languages and math tutors to give your child an edge. Angus’s friends are already successful. I have no doubt they will become amazing adults, people who can find value in anyone, people who spend their lives lifting others up. And no stacks of parenting books or second mortgages were required to make them turn out that way. All it took was kindness.

Laura Trunkey is the mother of the amazing Angus, and the author of the story collection Double Dutch (House of Anansi, 2016). Find her at lauratrunkey.com.

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Winter outings for the Whole Family

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inter is here offering unique nature experiences unrivalled by any other time of year. Nothing compares to the quiet and peaceful atmosphere of winter, when plants and animals have buckled down to outlast the cold. It can be tempting to stay home this time of year, but you’ll be missing out on seeing some amazing wildlife and experiencing beautiful places as you’ve never experienced them before.

Here are some nature outing ideas to inspire you and your family to get out in nature this winter, and some tips for your winter outings.

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Have you ever been seaweed hunting at Island View Beach Regional Park?

Winter is the perfect time to give it a go because winter storms wash up all kinds of colourful and unique seaweeds onto the beach. There are three main types of seaweed to look for: green, brown, and red. Seaweeds are not a plant but a type of algae. They are called macroalgae because they are larger than their microscopic counterparts called phytoplankton. There is usually no shortage of new seaweeds to find. Did you know there are over 650 species of seaweed off the North American coast? British Columbia also has the highest diversity of kelp in the world! So next time you’re looking for something to do on a winter day, consider heading out to the beach to see what you can find.

Although the maple and oak leaves have fallen, the forest at Francis/King Regional Park is still a magical place for a walk. The leaves on the ground are now food for another type of organism: fungus. Unlike plants who can make their own food, fungi must get their food from dead organic matter. Fungi are mostly made up of small thread-like structures that produce mushrooms as their “fruit.” Look for mushrooms on the ground, on rotting stumps, on dead leaves, or on branches and trunks. If you look carefully at Douglas-fir cones on the ground, you might even find a Douglas-fir cone fungus that grows nowhere else. Bring a small mirror with you on your mushroom walk so you can observe the underside of mushroom caps. Remember

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that some mushrooms are very poisonous, so never pick, eat, or touch a mushroom.

Winter is a great time to go birding at Witty’s Lagoon Regional Park because many marine birds and ducks spend the winter here. You might hear the chirping of chestnut-backed chickadees in the forest, or the chatter of kingfishers as they fly over

Emma Jane Vignola Nature Notes the trail down to the water. In the mudflats you might see dabbling ducks like the mallard or the gadwall. In the saltmarsh you may spot diving ducks like buffleheads and mergansers. Down by the ocean look for diving birds like cormorants and loons. Remember that you don’t need to know every species to have a good outing. Most of the fun is in spotting the birds and observing what they do. Bring binoculars if you have them, and see how many different kinds of birds you can spot.

Now that you have some winter nature outing inspiration, here are some tips to keep you and your family comfortable and warm on your nature outings. The key is to be prepared. Nothing ruins a lovely walk or outdoor experience like being cold. Make sure everyone layers up with warm tops and bottoms and rain or snow gear. Appropriate footwear like gumboots or warm hiking boots are also a must. Gloves, a warm hat, and warm socks are always a good idea, too. Plan to be warmer than you think you’ll need to be and carry an extra sweater or blanket with you just in case. Like any other time of year, it’s good to have snacks or a packed lunch on hand, and maybe a thermos of hot chocolate or apple cider if you really want to wow the crowd. It can also be a good idea to plan shorter outings in winter if you’re concerned about keeping everyone comfortable.

If you want to get your family outside in a Regional Park this winter, check out the CRD’s interpretive program schedule and join a CRD Park Naturalist on an outing in one of our Regional Parks. Visit crd.bc.ca/ parks-events.

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Emma Jane Vignola is a Park Naturalist with CRD Regional Parks.

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secure attachment between a parent (or other caregiver) and child is the basis for ongoing mental and emotional health. If the attachment is not secure, it leads to all kinds of problems later. Emotionally healthy children in the younger years are still very attached to their caregiver. The parent is a safe base from which children can venture out into the world and explore new things, returning to their base from time to time. As children become more secure in the world, they gradually need to return to base less often. Attachment style will have an impact on children in later years as well. If they have a secure attachment as kids, they are likely to have healthy attachments in their adult relationships. They will be comfortable with both intimacy and autonomy. They won’t

be excessively needy nor will they be fearful of relationships or dismiss their needs.

Attachment parenting goes beyond being present and loving to your children.

It calls upon you, the parent, to continue to develop self-esteem and personal awareness. Without this, you will have difficulty with your own boundaries.

Children need to learn about boundaries from you. Attachment parenting is not about being submissive and giving in to children’s every whim.

That would be enmeshment, an entangled blob of feelings and needs without boundaries. Healthy limit setting comes from considering people’s needs.

Needs such as contribution, fairness, time alone, privacy and so on represent healthy boundaries. Best to learn them in childhood than struggle with blind spots as an adult.

Attachment parenting is also not about over-protecting children. Over-protecting children comes from our anxiety and fears. With this style of parenting, children become fearful themselves or, if they are healthy, they will rebel. Most tragic how-

Allison Rees Cut It Out! ever, is when children abandon their needs to soothe their parent’s anxiety.

To provide a secure attachment to your children, give yourself unconditional love and acceptance. Soothe your anxiety and fears when they come up. State important personal boundaries to your children and others. Pay attention to your needs rather than avoiding them, denying them or expecting them to be met by others.

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