Whew, I really got charged while I was writing this. But I guess I feel a sense of urgency because we women nurture and care for so many. We must give ourselves as much love and care as we give others, actually more.
Ally Rees is enjoying her new career as a coach and People Tweaker. She continues to facilitate the wonderful LIFE Seminar material. lifeseminars.com She is the proud mother of two young adults, the wife of a kind man and mistress to Mila and Rosie, two tiny stinky little dogs.
Do it! It’s good role-modelling for the young women behind us and it will bring much more joy into our lives, and the lives of those we love. As for my husband, he’s off the hook — sort of.
An Invitation I invite you to consider these needs as much as you can and to honour all of the feelings that guide you to them.
Feeling • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •
afraid aggravated agitated alarmed angry annoyed anxious apprehensive bewildered bored brokenhearted concerned confused dejected depressed despairing despondent detached disappointed discouraged disgusted dismayed distressed embarrassed
Need • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • •
exasperated exhausted fearful frightened frustrated furious guilty helpless hesitant horrified horrible hurt impatient indifferent intense irate irritated jealous lonely mad mean miserable nervous overwhelmed
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panicky passive pessimistic reluctant resentful restless sad scared sensitive shocked skeptical sleepy sorry startled surprised suspicious troubled uncomfortable unsteady uptight weary withdrawn worried
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Relationship • • • • • • • • • • •
acceptance affection appreciation clarity closeness community company consideration distance empathy equality
Personal: • • • • • • • • • •
achievement accomplishment autonomy choices comfort contribution creativity dreams emotional safety freedom
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fairness honesty inclusion love protection reassurance respect support trust understanding warmth
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goals integrity justice meaning order peace and quiet physical safety play self worth sense of self time alone
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