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Wednesday, January 15, 2014
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Should you tell the ‘other spouse?’ Dear Carolyn: My husband of 10 years has been having an affair with a married woman. I moved out, we’re getting divorced. It sucks more than I could have imagined, but am coping with the help of good friends and a good therapist. My question is about the other woman’s husband, who, according to my husband, doesn’t know about the affair or her plans to leave her marriage. I don’t know if I should contact her husband or not. On one hand, I want to because I’m angry and I’d like to upset her life as much as she’s upset mine. The fact that she gets to time her separation for her own convenience — i.e. once my stuff is out of my house so she can move her stuff in — irritates the hell out of me. I also think her husband has a right to know. On the other hand, I cringe at the idea of tracking down a strang-
Tell Me About It Carolyn Hax er and telling him this awful news. Sending him an e-mail, waiting outside his work ... ugh, I hate the thought of doing that. It seems sneaky and petty and I don’t like it. And if he does know and has just accepted the situation, I hate that scenario even more. I really don’t want to be involved anymore. I just want to get out of this situation and get on with my life, and contacting her husband would keep me very much involved. I’d become a participant rather than a disgusted bystander. What do you advise? — The Other Spouse I don’t need to advise anything, except to suggest you reread your own letter. You wrote
your way to the answer yourself: “I really don’t want to be involved anymore. I just want to get out of this situation.” If it helps to keep you centered, think of all things marriage and affair as smoking wreckage behind you, which you return to and pick through only when there’s an absolute necessity, by your own definition of such. Otherwise, you’re all forward, all tomorrow, all you. Dear Carolyn: I have a very dear friend who has been dating a guy for a year. While this guy is very nice to her and (from what I can see) is a devoted boyfriend, I have found out that he has told her and others substantial lies about his background. For instance, he claimed to have attended an Ivy League school, but there is no record that he did so, and he says he worked for a government agen-
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cy, but we have found out that he did not. Should we say anything to our friend? She is very successful, and we don’t want her taken advantage of. That said, she appears to be happy, and I would not want to do anything to stop that. I think you see the quandary. — Friend Are you SURE he’s lying, or are you just unable to confirm? If it’s the former, I’d want to know. Would she? If you don’t know that, ask the next best question: Would you? For what it’s worth, he might not be taking advantage so much as padding his résumé in a misguided (and ironic) attempt to improve his stock. Write to Carolyn Hax, Style, 1150 15th St. NW, Washington, D.C. 20071, or tellme@washpost. com. Sign up for Carolyn Hax’s column, delivered to your inbox early each morning, at http:// bit.ly/haxpost.
Public notice (First published in The Iola Register, January 8, 2014) IN THE DISTRICT COURT OF ALLEN COUNTY, KANSAS PROBATE DIVISION IN THE MATTER OF THE ESTATE OF KATHLEEN M. WINN, DECEASED Case No. 13 PR 62 NOTICE TO CREDITORS (Pursuant to K.S.A. Chapter 59)
The State of Kansas To All Persons Concerned: You are hereby notified that on December 12, 2013, a Petition for Probate of Photocopies of Will and Codicil and Issuance of Letters Testamentary was filed in this Court by Donna J. Salava, an heir, devisee and legatee and Executor named in the First Codicil to the Last Will and Testament of Kathleen M. Winn, deceased. All creditors of the above named decedent are notified to
exhibit their demands against the estate within four months from the date of first publication of this notice, as provided by law, and if their demands are not thus exhibited, they shall be forever barred. Donna J. Salava, Petitioner THOMAS F. ROBRAHN #14964 206 N. 3rd St. - P.O. Box 44 Burlington, Kansas 66839 Telephone (620) 364-5409 (1) 8,15,22
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Odd reward for lost dog DAYTON, Ohio (AP) — An Ohio woman made fliers offering a case of beer and a pack of cigarettes as a reward for finding her lost dog — and it worked. Abigail Miller, 23, of Dayton offered the unusual reward after her two dogs escaped through an open gate on Jan. 2. She found one of them at a local animal shelter a few days later, but the other, a Husky named Zoro, remained missing. The Dayton Daily News reports Miller came up with the reward because she could afford it and figured it would attract attention. She was right. The man who called and told Miller where to find her dog turned down the reward, but she says she's going to offer him some food from the sandwich shop where she works.
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