Xtreme Skills For Busy People - The Stillness Report To keep the honeymoon alive I treat my partner as if there is absolutely nothing about them, even the things they think need to be fixed up, that needs to be changed. I can sometimes feel like chewing my tongue off because I can see so many opportunities to reduce their challenge or minimise their pain but that is their life and their choice, all I can do is to appreciate my partner as they are, and for who they choose to be. My only real choice is to love them or leave them. Fixing them is not an option.
There is a moment in time, when the universe stops and my heart stands still in truth. That moment is now, appreciating what I’ve got. That moment is my love for you. Behind the drama and emotional chaos, there is really something absolutely beautiful, there is an order so predictable, it’s beautiful. Behind every ego sustained drama there is another story, a beautiful story, a joyful one, a story of love. Nothing is missing, it just changes in form. There’s nothing to change. Once we understand this transparency of everyday life we can bring gratitude and thankfulness into the smallest moment, the simplest gesture and even the most public of circumstances. With an open heart we learn not to punish people for who they are. Other people can’t belong to us, no matter how much we love them; our only right is to appreciate them. Don’t allow support or challenge to distract you from doing what you love, being with who you love, and giving what you love. Give respect to people by
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