regret essay

PreventingaLifeofRegretTheruckusofthecrowdpiercedthefallenplayersearsintheformofa serratedknife.Feelingthebloodpulsingthroughhisheadcausedhimtoclenchhiseyesshutin agonyandgrabathishair,hopingtoblockouttheunbearablewavesofpainTheblurryformsof hiscoachandteammatessurroundedhisvisionandasmuchashewantedtogetupandtellthem thathewasfine,heknewthattherewasnowaythathewouldbeabletorecoverfromthisinjury easily.Hehadknownthatsomethingwaswrongwithhim,buthehadpushedthesethoughtsoutof hismind,knowingthathecouldnotdisappointhisfellowteammates.Theyhadhelpedhimintoo manywaysandignoringtheclearsymptomsofaconcussionseemedlikethebestwaytorepay them.Now,heknewhewaswrong,butitwastoolate.Hewasgoingtopayforhisdecision,either now,orfartherondowntheline.Aconcussionissomethingthatiscausedbyahitorblowtothe headandisariskthatallpeoplewhoplaysportshavetoface,especiallypeoplewhochoosetoplay football,asportthatrequirescourage,strength,andstamina.Itisalsoasportwherechoosingtostay inagame,whenaplayerisclearlyinjuredwithaconcussion,candeterminehowtheplayermay livetherestofhislife.Althoughwithteens,theriskofgettingaconcussionhasdeadlier consequencesandcanjeopardizetheirfutureinmorewaysthanone.1.2millionteensplay highschoolfootballandthereare

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Ilaysprawledacrossmybed,myheadhangingofftheside.Asanervoushabit,Irunmyslender fingersthroughmystringyblondehair.ThefewconversationsImanagedtohavetodayatschool hauntme.Theregrethauntsme.HowdareIcontributetoaconversation?Withpeople?Icouldsee thejudgmentintheireyes,anditwaspiercing.Theparanoiagnawsatmeandchewsholeswhere mycalmshouldbeStill,IremainsanewiththehelpofWally

Thetallandlankyboysitswithme,hisbackleaningagainstmypalebluebedroomwall.Shaggy brownhairhangsinfrontofhiseyes.Hedoesn'tsayanything,andhedoesn'thaveto.Iprobably textedhimathousandtimesthatdayHe'smyrock,andIrequireconstantreassurancein social...showmorecontent...

Tothishehasalwaysreplied,"Trustisatwo–waystreet,Sarah."

WhenIfirsttoldhimaboutmysocialanxiety,hesuggestedthatIwritelittleinspirationalsticky notestomyselfwithmessagesandthoughtsonthem.Hethoughtitmighthelpmethroughthedayif IwriteonewheneverIovercomemyanxiety,orjustwheneverI'mcalmestThen,Icouldlookback atthemwhenIbegintofeelnervousagain.

My"notestoself"reallyhelpedmegetthroughmyseventhgradeyear,andIcreditWallywith savingmefrommyself.Sometimescomesupwithsomethingduringtheschooldayandsticksiton myfrontdooronhiswayhome.Ifitwaspossible,webondedevenmorethroughtheselittlescraps ofpaperthatIcollecteverydayinaboxundermybed

Irollontomystomachtoseehimstandingupandgrabbinghisraggedbackpack."No,don'tgo."I beghim.Ican'tbebymyselfagain.Mythoughtswillswarmme."Ihavetogethomefordinner,but I'llmeetyouhereinthemorning"IraisemyeyebrowsatthatbecauseIknowhehardlyeverwakes upearlyenoughtostopbymyhouseonthewaytohisschool."Willtherebewafflesandmaple syrup?"Hiscontagioussmilespreadstome.Ianswerhisquestionwithanod."Sweet.Thenyes,I'll behere."

HeleavesandIamaloneagainwithmythoughts.Everythingspinsandtwistswhenheisgone.I bullyandbeatmyselfupoverthesimplestmistakesIdecidetogotobedearlybecausesleep

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AveyardandSharp(2013,citingSackettetal.2000)interpretevidence–basedpracticeasthe reliableandsensibleuseofthemostrecentevidencetogetherwithclinicalknowledgeandpatient valuestoguidehealthcaredecisions.Thissuggeststhatwemustusethebestup–to–dateevidenceto makedecisionsaboutcaredeliverytopatients,acknowledgingindividualsneedsandpreferencesto optimisedpatientoutcomesByconsideringpatient'sopinionandtheclinician'sexperiencewiththe supportingsignificantevidencefromresearchandexpertreport,wecangivethebestresultsforthe patient().However,nursesmustalwaysusetheirclinicaljudgementanddecisionmakingalongside withEBPassometimesevidencemaynotapplicableand

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Mostpeopleeitherregretalotofthingsorveryfewthings.Somemightregretsomethingaslittleas whattheyateforlunchthatgavethemfoodpoisoningorsomethingasbigasnotvisitingyour grandmabeforeshepassedaway.Iregretoneverybigthing.

ThethingIregretmostwasaboutmyfirstdog,Brody,whowasonlythirteenwhenhepassedaway Iregretnotgivinghimalltheloveandattentionhedeserved.Iregretnothelpinghimwiththe problemshehad.IfIcouldgobackintimeandlovehimlikeIshouldhave,Iwould.

AweekbeforeBrodydied,IthoughttomyselfthatIshouldgroomhimandmakehimbeautiful: brushhisfur,cuthisclaws,andcutoffthemattedpiecesoffurthatgottangledupbecausehe drooled.InevergotaroundtoitthoughbecauseIwasalwaystoo"busy".Brodywasagorgeous GreatPyreneesandhadtheheartmadeofpurekindness.Hisfurwasassoftascottoncandyandthe colorofvanillawithacouplesplotchesofchocolateWhenyoupethim,yourhandwoulddisappear duetohislonghair.Wewoulduseberryandcoconutscenteddogshampoosohewouldnevergive offthatawfulstenchthatotherdogshad.Hiseyeswereasdarkandasshinyasthenightandaround thepupilwastheslightestgoldthatyouwouldmissifyoudidnotknowitwasthere.

IrememberthatmydadandIwouldgoonwalksandtakeBrodywithus,orsometimesIwould walkhimaroundtheyardbymyself.My

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RegretbyKateChopin

Intheshortstory"Regret"byKateChopinawomancalledMamzelleAuréliehastokeepa neighbour'sfourchildrenfortwoweeks.

MamzelleAurélieisanoldandlonelywomanShehasneverhadamanandlivesaloneonherfarm withsomeanimalsandNegroesworkingforher.

Becauseofadangerousillnessofhermother,theyoungneighbourhastoleaveandcouldn'ttake careofherchildrenanymoreThisiswhyMamzelleAurélie,whohasnevereverhaschildren before,hastokeepthem.

Atthebeginningshehasgreatproblemswithmanagingthosechildren.Butaftersheashortperiod oftimeshestartsrealizingthathumansneedmorethanjustfoodandaplacetosleepat.Shereally startstodevelopa...showmorecontent...

Oneexampleforthisisthattheactiontakesplaceswithinashortperiodoftime,whichisquite preciselytwoweeks,andtheplaceofactiondoesn'tchange;itonlyplaysonthefarm.

YoucouldalsosaythatthestoryfeaturesanimportantandcriticalmomentinMamzelleAurélie's lifeandthattherearejustafewcharacters.

Anotherveryimportantaspectisthesymbolusedinthisshortstory.Isupposeitisjustifiedtosay thatthechildrenarethesymbolunitingalldifferentaspectsinthestoryBeforeMamzelleAurélie hadtokeepthechildrenshewasleadingaverylonelylife.Asthechildrenwerelivingwithher,her lifegotasenseandshebecameahappyperson.Butaftertheylefthersherealizedthatshewasted herwholelifeandregretseverythingThroughthosechildrenallthedifferentthemesofthestory likefamilyorlonelinesscometogether.

Nowthisistheonehand,butontheotherseveraltypicalaspectsofashortstoryaren'tpartofthe text.

Alreadyatthebeginningofthestorywegettoknowalotaboutthemaincharacterwhatgivesyou theimpressionofanintroduction.

AdditionallyMamzelleAurélieisn'treallyaneverydayperson.Sheisveryspecialandrepresents justaverysmallpartofthereaders

Butallinallmyopinionisthatthestoryfeaturesmanytypicalelementsandyoucandefinitelycall itashort

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TheRegret–OriginalWriting

GoingbackIremembermychildhoodbeingfilledwithhappinessandjoy,mainlybecauseofthe goodatmosheremyhouseholdheld.Iwasraisedinawell–noff,lovingfamily.Icannotimagine whatIwouldhavedonewithoutthiskindofsupportinmylife

NowIwasagoodkidandattheageofonly7,IconcentratedonallthegoodthingsIwantedtodo withmylifeandtheambitionsIhad,IwasdeterminedtogetajobofmydreamsIhadacaring familyandhadagreatattitudetowardslife,nothingwasgoingtogetinthewayofanythingI wantedoutoflifeandIthoughtnothingwouldeverchangethatattitudeIhad.Ipromisedmyselfto neversmoke,dodrugs,showmorecontent

Itookprideinbeinginagroupconsideredthemostrebeliousintheschool.Myonlyidlehadshot himselfinthehead,soyoucanseehowbigmyselfesteemwas

Well,duringmysenioryearIstartedtofeelalittlebitdifferentthanbefore.SlowlyIstartedtodress nicer,Istoppedcausingtrouble,andmygradesbegantoimprove.Iconsiderthismyfirstchange intothedirectionofGod,yetIstillwasholdingontomyworldlyways.

Thenithappened,duringthesummerfollowingmysenioryear,myschoolwassendingtheyoung childrentoasummercampcalledDisney.DonnaYoung,oneofmyschoolteacher'swhoigoton reallywellwith,calledmeupandaskedifIwouldgoasasponsor,becauseoftheywereshortof peoplegoingandneededonemorepersontogoforthiscamptogoahead.Itookadaytothink aboutit,mymindsaidno,butIfeltsomthinginmyhearttellingmetogo.SoIwent.

Duringtheweekweparticipatedinlotsofactivitiesandthroughthisonedayeverythingchanged myheartthroughthekidsthatwerethereSeeingthosekidsjoininginalltheactivitiesandbeingso friendlytowardsoneanothertouchedmyheartinawayIhadnotfeltbefore.

Isuddenlywentbacktomychildhood,ponderingaboutmycarefreedays,whenallIcaredabout waseveryone

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WhenItIstooLate

"EuropeanandAmericanwomeninthenineteenthcenturylivedinanagecharacterizedbygender inequality"(BomaritoandHunter,pars.1).Women'sroleinasocietywaslimitedtobewivesand mothersButastimewenton,thingsbegantochangeWomenstartedtohavetherightofhigher educationandworking(BomaritoandHunter,pars.5).Theybecamemoreindependentintheirlives withouttheneedofmentosupport.Butthequestionisthatwasthischangegoodforwomenornot?

TheAmericanauthorKateChopingaveanexampleofthoseindependentwomeninhershortstory "Regret".Inthestory,awomancalledMamzelleAurelielivedaloneinherfarm.Shehasnevergot marriedandneverhadchildren.Butoneshowmorecontent

Butwhenthechildrenhadenteredherlife,softsidesinhercharacterappeared.Atthatperiod,she startsdoingthingsshehadneverdonebefore.Shetookcareofthechildren,andspentmostofher timewiththemasifsheweretheirmotherInthosetwoweeks,herkindheartandmaternity instinctsrevealed.Andwhenthechildrenlefther,sherealizedhowmuchtimeofherlifeshehad wastedwithoutbeingamotherandbanningherselffromthiskindofhappiness.

WorksCited

Primary

Chopin,Kate"Regret"NewYork:TheCenturyCompany,1895

Secondary

Bomarito,Jessica,andJeffreyW.Hunter,ed."Womeninthe19thCentury–

Introduction".FeminisminLiterature.Vol.2.GaleCengage,2005.

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BronnieWare'sPatients

Regretisapowerfulemotionbecauseitcanbeasdeepandpainfulasotheremotions,yetwebringit onourselves.Somehavecalledita'useless'emotionbecauseitfocusesonwhatwe"should"have donedifferentlyinthepast.Butinthemoment,howweactedorreacted,orthechoiceswemade, seemedtoberightatthetime,or,attheveryleast,allwecouldhavemanaged.Butultimately,most humanbeingsaredoingtheverybesttheycando,whetheritalwaysseemsthatwayornot,andto constantlyfocusonthepastleavesverylittletimeorenergytodobetterinthepresent.Common RegretsBronnieWareisanAustraliannursewhospentseveralyearsworkinginpalliativecare, caringforpatientsinthelast12weeksoftheirlivesDuringthistime,sherepeatedlyfoundthather patientsgainedphenomenalclarityandinsightintotheirlivesandthechoicestheymadethroughout.

Whenaskedaboutanyregretstheyhad,Ware'spatientswouldoftenhavethesame,common answers:LivingLifeonOthers'TermsThemostcommonregretWare'spatientshadwasnothaving thecouragetolivelifeastheywanted,buttomakechoicesbasedonwhatothers'thoughtthey shouldandshouldn'tdoThisleftmanyofthemwithunrealizeddreamsWorkingTooHardHow manyofushavebeentoldbyfriendsandfamilythatweshouldn'tworktoohard,butshouldinstead taketimetostopandsmelltheroses?Andhowmanyofusignorethisadvicebecause,afterall,the rosesscentisn't

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Regrethasaveryimpactfuleffectonthisnovelbyhelpingprogresstheplotandintroducemany themesthatcanbeseenineverycharacter.Thosethemeshelpshowthereasoningforregret,aswell asdifferentwaysthatitcanbehandled.Inthisnovel,differentcharactersexperiencedifferentlevels ofregret.Somecharactersexperiencedmoreregretthanothers,andtheyallhandleitdifferently becauseofthecircumstancesthattheywereputinRegretisverypresentallthroughoutthebook Regretcanbeseenintwoofthemaincharacters.WithEnder,youcanstillsensetheregretofkilling offanentirespecies.Eventhoughheknowsthathehadnointentiontodoso,hestillfeelsit.He regretsthathewastiredandmissinghisshowmorecontent

Intheverybeginning,oneofthereasonsthatEnderwasmotivatedtogotoLusitaniawastoseethe nextramenspecies,thepequeninos.Heregrettedthathekilledoffthebuggers,sohewassomehow tryingtomakeupforthat.IfEnderwouldnothavegonetoLusitania,allthehiddentruthsthatwere revealedthankstohisspeakingwouldremainhidden.Novinhawouldhaveeventuallydiedwith thosesecrets,andLusitaniawouldn'thavegoneintorebellionastheydidattheendofthebook Ender'sregretcompletelyshapedthisnovel.Regretnotonlyhelpsprogressthebook'splot,butit alsogivesappealstotheaudience'ssenseofemotion.Thankstothecharacter'sregrets,theaudience inturnfeelsbadforthemandforgivesthem.Thecharactercoulddotheworstthing,suchas Novinhacommittingbeingunfaithfulinherrelationship,andwecouldforgiveher.Enderkilledoff anentirespeciesinthelargestrecordedgenocideinhistory,yetwestillforgavehimWehavethis feelingofforgivenesstowardsthemnotbecausewethinkit'sokay,butbecauseweunderstandtheir circumstanceandwhytheydid

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RegretsinTheRemainsoftheDay

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...Foragreatmanypeople,theeveningisthemostenjoyablepartoftheday.Perhaps,then,thereis somethingtohisadvicethatIshouldceaselookingbacksomuch,thatIshouldadoptamore positiveoutlookandtrytomakethebestofwhatremainsofmydayAfterall,whatcanweever gaininforeverlookingbackandblamingourselvesifourliveshavenotturnedoutquiteaswe mighthavewished?Thehardrealityis,surely,thatforthelikesofyouandI,thereislittlechoice otherthantoleaveourfate,ultimately,inthehandsofthosegreatgentlemenatthehubofthisworld whoemployourservices.Whatisthepointinworryingoneselftoomuchaboutwhatonecouldor couldnotshowmorecontent

ItisthisblindloyaltywithwhichStevensgratifieshisemployerandunableshimselftolookclosely atwhathisemployerreallythinksordoes(symptomsof"dignity").Hisdoctrinestates: "Itis,inpractice,simplynotpossibletoadoptsuchacriticalattitudetowardsanemployerandatthe sametimeprovidegoodservice.Itisnotsimplythatoneisunlikelytobeabletomeetthemany demandsofserviceatthehigherlevelswhileone'sattentionsarebeingdivertedbysuchmatters; morefundamentally,abutlerwhoisforeverattemptingtoformulatehisown'strongopinions'onhis employer'saffairsisboundtolackonequalityessentialinallgoodprofessionals:namely,loyalty."

(Ishiguro,200)

ButtheloyaltydoctrinedeniesStevenshisownthoughtson,forinstance,Darlington'sletting–goof theJewishmaids,orwhetherornotthe"great"guestshehasthehonororservinginhiscapacityas a"great"butlerarereallysogreatafterall.

Stevens'detachmentultimatelyischilling,forthedistancethathebelievesisanecessaryaspectof dignity,insteaddistanceshimevenfromthefactthatthisattitudeofdetachmentisnotgreat,but unhealthy.Thissetsabutler'sdignityabovehumandignity,herealizesattheend,andhuman dignitymustalwayscomefirst:"LordDarlingtonwasn'tbadmanAndatleasthehadtheprivilege ofbeingabletosayattheendofhislifethathemadehisownmistakes...Hechosea

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Regrets

Ineverreallythoughtaboutituntiltoday.TodaywasthedayIlearnedthatTonyWeston,akidthat Iwenttohighschoolwith,hadcommittedsuicideamonthafterourgraduation.Iam28yearsold now,sograduationwastenyearsagoTheteachersatmyhighschoolhatedmeIshowednoeffort inanythingthatIdidandIwasextremelyobnoxiousinclass.Theywantedtogetridofmeassoon aspossiblejustlikemyparents.MydadwasintheNavysohewasn'thomemuch.Whenhewas,it waslikeourfamilywerehismen;heorderedustodoeverythingHewouldalwaysstaremedown afterhedemandedsomethingofmeandIhadtogivethereplyof,"yessir."Myparentsgota divorcewhileIwasinhighschoolandthat'swhenmylifetookaturnfortheworst.After graduation,IlefttownandheadedforNewYorkCitytopursueanewlife.Ididn'tlearnwhat happenedtoTonyuntiltodaywhenIgotacardinthemailfromEastonHighSchoolintherural townofEaston,NewYorkAninvitationtothetenyearreunionformyclassOntheinsideofthe invitationlistedallonehundredfiftyorsonamesofourgraduatingclass.Ihadn'tseenanyofthese peopleintenyearsbecauseIhadnevergonebacktoEastonsincegraduationday.Myfirstreaction wasthatIwasnotgoing,soIthrewthecardinthetrash.AsIwasdoingthisIsawapictureofTony Westonontheback,pickingitupIread,"Aspecialtributetoourlostfriend,TonyWeston."Ihad noidea

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FacingandHandlingtheBurdensofPain,Guilt,andRegret

Analyzinghowguiltandregretstickwithoneforevernottomentiontheconstantweightofpain, OedipusandAmirthe(maincharacters)confrontguilt,regret,andpaininhopestorelieve themselvesfromtheburdensGuiltandregrettwothingseveryoneshouldbeveryfamiliarwith becausetheytendtoco–signtogether.However,let'snotforgetaboutpain;itmayhauntone forever.Afteralleveryoneknowswhattheydid/didn'tdo,should've/shouldn'thavedone.Even todayitstillbotherstheperson,thefactofthematterisitwillalwaysbotherthepersonuntilhe/she canforgivethemself.Everyonegoesthroughatimeintheirlifewheretheyfeelguiltyand/or...show morecontent

Icouldstepintothatalley,standupforHassan–thewayhe'dstoodupformeallthosetimesinthe past–andacceptwhateverwouldhappentome.OrIcouldrun.Intheend,Iran.IranbecauseIwas acoward,"whichhewillalwaysregretlateron

WhilereadingOedipusRex,manypeoplenoticethatitishardtofollowandconnectwiththeplay, however,it'sveryobvioustoseeOedipusisfilledwithguilt,andregret.Itisalsoobvioustonotice whensomeoneisdealingwithagreatamountofpain,whichheis.Oedipusisjustbeginningtoface guiltandregret,"Alas,alasIt'sallcomeoutsoclearlyLight,letmeseethelastofyounow, surroundedbythoseIoughttoavoid–bornfromthem,livingwiththem,killingthem,"soasone canseeOedipusistrulyjuststartingtofeelguilty.Throughouttheplayonenoticesimportant things,likehowoedipusfeelsguilty,butalsoregretfulandpainfulasitshowshere,"Ah!Ah!How miserableismylife!Wheredoesmypaintakeme?Howdoesmyvoicerushaboutme?Odoom, howyou'vepounced!"OedipusfeelsguiltybecausehemurderedLaius,Laius,hisownfather,his ownbloodandnottomentionmarryinghisownmother,hisblood.Byfaroneofthemostimportant thingsintheplay(oratleastthat'swhatsomemaybelieve)iswhenallthepiecesOedipusislooking forfinallystarttofallinplace,"Oh,myfriend!Youarestillmyonlycompanion,for

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Fear,Regret,AndIxietyInTheGlassMenagerie

Whenthebodycontractsagerm,thewhitebloodcellsareinaraceagainsttimetoridthebodyof thisforeignbugthathadinvadedthehumanbodysothatthehostdoesnotgetsick.Ifthegermis eradicatedintime,thebodymightvomit,sneeze,cough,orevenhavediarrhea.Wecanlabelthisas aformofin–housepurging.Butwhathappensifthegermgoesundetected?

Catharticbehaviorsarethosethatcausethesoulofapersontoreleasethingsthataremeanttocome out.Howcanoneknowhowtoreleaseifyouarenotawareofthecause?IntheGlassMenagerie, eachcharacterisafflictedwithapsychoanalyticbehaviorwhichhasentrappedthemintheirworld.

Everyoneontheoutsidecanseethisaffliction,exceptforthosewhoarethereWefurther investigatethecauseoffear,regret,andanxietyeachcharacterpossessesbyapplyingthese psychoanalytictheories.InTheGlassMenagerie,wearegoingtodiscoverthepsychosisconflict withinAmanda'sfear,Tom'sregret,andLaura'sanxiety.

Whatisfear?Accordingtodictionary.comfearis"adistressingemotionarousedbyimpending danger,evil,pain,etc,whetherthethreatisrealorimagined;thefeelingorconditionofbeing afraid."

Amandalivesinconstantfear.Someofherfearisreal,andotherpartsarejustpurelyimagined. "Whenfeargetsoutofcontrol,orwhenwefearsomethingthatcannotactuallyharmus,itcan escalatetoapointwhereiteffectsourdailyfunctioning.Fearisnolongeradaptive

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InWilliamShakespeare'sMacbeththereaderwatchesasMacbethchangesgraduallyastheplay endures.Hearetransformsfromaloyalpersonwithalovingandloyaldispositionwithother people,intoatyrantswhoarewillingtokillinordertokeephimselfonthethroneHeistormented withfear,regret,andguilt.Whensomeonedoessomethingtheyknowiswrongitcausesthemtofall preytotheirownemotions.

AfterDuncan'sdeathyouareabletoseehowthecharactersinvolvedinthemurderalmostinstantly experiencefeelingsofregret.ThereisascenewhereMacbethisinshocksogreatlyaftermurdering Duncan,thatheforgetstoleavethemurderweaponbehind.WhenconfrontedbyLady Macbeth(whosaysheneedstogoreturntheweapons)hesays,"I'llgonomore:/Iamafraidto thinkwhatIhavedone;/Lookon'tagainIdarenot"(2.253–55).Thisallowsustoseehow MacbethispainedbywhathehasdoneMacbethalsosaysheheardavoicesay""Glamishath murderedsleep,andthereforeCawdorshallsleepnomore.Macbethshallsleepnomore."(2.246–48).WhenMacbethsaysthisheissayingthathehasnotonlymurderedDuncan,buthehas murderedsleepHeissayinghewon'tbeabletosleepafterwhathehasjustdonebecausehewill regretitforeveranditwillhaunthim.MacbethandLadyMacbethareinterruptedbyknockingon thedoorandasMacbethandLadyMacbethwalkawayhesays,"WakeDuncanwiththyknocking;I wouldthoughcouldst."(2.278–79).

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FeelingsofRegretIknowwhatitisliketobeinasituationwhereyoudon'thaveagreathomelife, butyouknowthereareothersolutionstoyoursituationthenmarriage.Icantellyouthatfrom experience.Iturned18inMay.ThreemonthslaterImarriedthemanIthoughtwasmytruelove andthepersonIwasgoingtospendmywholelifewith.Onemonthafteroursecondwedding anniversary,IseparatedfromhimandwithinsixmonthsweweredivorcedBeforeIgotmarriedI believethatthiswouldneverhappentome,butitdidandIbecameateenagemarriagestatistic.IfI couldgobacktobeingeighteenagainandwalkintothecourthousetogetmarriedwithoutanyof ourfamilyandfriendsthere,Iwouldnotdoit!showmorecontent

Shepersuadedherselfthat"partytime"wasoverandthatsheshouldstartheradultlife.Withinthree yearsshewasdivorced.Childrenhavingchildrenisstillnotanargumentformarriage.Onesmind andspiritcannotbecommandedtoobeytothesituation.Forcingoneselfintomarriagejustifiedby pregnancywilldefinitelyendunhappily,asthechildisstillunabletomakepeoplelivetogetherif theyarelackingloveFinally,theinitialaffectioncaneasilyfadeawayAtthebeginningoftheir relationstheyoungpeopleareoftensaidtobeunabletolivewithouttheirsecondpart.Jakeand Glenweremarriedwhenhewas19andshewasinher17.They

lovedeachotherandthecouplewasbrilliant.Noonecouldsaythatinhalfayeartheywouldbe divorcedHavinglittlelifeexperiencetheywerelikelytothinkthiswasloveatfirstsightBeing confidenttheyhadfoundtheirbetterhalftheyweremarried.However,withtimethepassion disappeared,themysteryturnedintoroutine,theaspirationtobetogetherwasreplacedbythe tirednessfromcohabitationandthedesiretobealonehadgrownInsuchcircumstancesthespouses seekforjoyandsatisfactionawayfromhomeandpreferthecompanyoffriendstothatofthe husbandorwife.Teenagemarriagesarelikelytoendunhappilybecausetheyoungpeoplearein theirinitialstageoflife.Theyarestillnotfully–developedpersons,unwillingtoobey circumstances,

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MuchofKateChopin'swritingexaminestheissuesoffreedomandautonomy,oftenintermsof class,raceandgender.Althoughracewastheclearestindicationoflower–classstatusinthe AmericanSouthinthelate19thcentury,womenmeanwhilebelongedtoasubsetofeachclasssuch thatthemenheldthelegalandsocialauthority.Womenofeachclassweresubordinatecitizens.The majorityofwomendidnotmanagetheirownproperty,possessionstendedtobepasseddownto sonsratherthandaughtersandwomen'sroleinsocietywaslimitedtobeingwivesandmothers. Chopin'sindependenceofspiritisreflectedinhowsheembracedliberationafterherhusband's death:shetookovertherunningofhisgeneralstoreandplantationforoverayearandaftershesold up,tosupportherselfandheryoungfamily,shebegantowrite.Inherwriting,Chopinoftendepicts characterswhofindthemselvesatoddswiththeirsocietalnormslikethestory'Regret'whichwas writtenin1894andaccuratelyfitsintotheidealasitpresentsawomanwhogivestheimpression thatsheisateasewithherlifehowevernewattitudesariseasshe...showmorecontent...

ThisisevidentasChopindevelopsMamzelleAurelie'spersonalityinrelationtothechildren's actions,forexample;"TiNomme'sstickyfingerscompelledhertounearthwhiteapronsthatshehad notwornforyears,andshehadtoaccustomherselftohismoistkisses–theexpressionsofan affectionateandexuberantnature."Theverb''unearth''advocatestheforcednatureofherabilityto surfacehermaternalways.Thiscontraststhetitle'Regret'withthereasonastowhysheforces herselftomanifestdifferentresponsestothechildren,suggestiveofwhatsheassumedtobeher subsidiaryneedforaffectiondevelopingintoaprimaryfeelingwhichtriggersthisnotionof

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"Regret:Facing,FeelingandHealingtheHeartacheofLostPossibilities"isanarticlewrittenby MiriamMasonMartineauandpublishedbyTheHuffingtonPost.Thewritertalksabouthowpeople reachingmidlifestartexperiencingregretonvariousaspectsoftheirlives;foralotofpersons,this remorsewon'tgoawayandwillkeepcomingback.Itismentionedhowapersonshouldbebrave againstfeelingsofregretandtrytofreethemselvesfromthisnegativethoughtsThewriteralso mentionsthatifwelookatourpast,wehavenotalwaysmadetherightchoices,however,weshould notfeelbadforthechoiceswe'vemadeaslessonshavebeenlearntfromthissowecantakebetter decisionsinourfuture,afuturethatcanbeshapedifwe

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Throughourlives,weallgothroughregret,butitmaybedifferentforeveryindividualperson.In "Regret"byKateChopin,theauthorusesmetaphors,irony,andpersonification,toillustratethat therearemanythings,thatwehumanswillregretdoinginourlife'sMamzelleAurelieslifeis portrayedbyhowshe'sregrettingthelifethatshelivedandwantstostartafamily.Throughoutthe storyMamzelleAurelieisintroducedandisthemaincharacter.Thisladyendsupbeingsingleand nevergetsmarriedbecauseshedoesn'twanttoformarelationshipwithanyoneFromthereadings, wecantellthatsheisfilledwithsadnessandisconfusedwithherownlife.Theprotagonistis MamzelleAurelie,isportrayedtobeastrongfiguredwoman,...showmorecontent...

AsthestoryendsthekidsheadbackwiththeirmotherandleavesMamzellealoneagainwhereshe hasnoonetheretobewithher.Knowingthelifeofregretisnotthebestthingtolookbackon becauseeveryonewantstobeabletoliveadecentlifeandhaveafamilythattheycanconnectwith andcherishmanymemories.OnethingI'velearnedfromthisisthatit'salwayswisetomakethe rightdecisionsso,thatyouwon'tlivethelifeofregretandwon'tbeashamedatall.Toendthis beautifulstory,Iwanttoprovideabibleversethattouchedmewhilereadingthisshortstory: Philippian's3:13,"Brothers,IdonotconsiderthatIhavemadeitonmyown.ButonethingIdo: forgettingwhatliesbehindandstrainingforwardtowhatliesahead,Ipressontowardthegoalfor theprizeoftheupwardcallofGodinChristJesus"(NewInternationalVersion).Ipickedthisverse becausewemustalwayslookforwardinlifebecauseifwetendtolookbackwewillnotbe successfulandGodwantsustobefocusedandlivealifethatwewillnot

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