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JULY 2017


GIRLS ON THE RUN Always finishing first

SUMMER SLIDE Nothing to fear

KIDS AND CRISIS Help them handle it

See inside for our…

Special Needs GUIDE

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Contents July 2017


Features Columns Always finishing first

4 16 Irene’s Insights:

Trends at home:


Girls on the Run:

Changing family space

Office makeover

Volume 5, Number 7 Publisher Sterling Media Ltd. Editor Gaye Bunderson 208-854-8345 Sales & Marketing Kimberly McMullen 208-854-8347 Graphic Design Matthew Sanchez

Summer slide: No cause for alarm


Departments 11 Wednesday’s Child:


Big WHY: Big motivator

Responsible Children Part 3:


Readiness to work

Meet Maria

In Each Edition 3

Editor’s Intro Where is home?

Adolescent suicide:

16 12-15

Scary world:


Help your teen

Help kids face crisis

Special Needs GUIDE


Family Events Calendar:

Family friendly activities & events for July & Early August!

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Cover J&L Photography Contributors Rocky Detwiler, Britton LaTulippe, Sandy Spurgeon McDaniel, Robert Rhodes, Samantha Stillman, Mary Ann Wilcox and Irene Woodworth Distribution Specialists Idaho Distribution Services

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Editor’s Intro

Home: What does it mean to you?


hat kind of image pops into your head when you hear the word “home”? Do you think of a structure with numbers on it, indicating a certain street address? Do you think of a specific place where loved ones and familiar faces are waiting for you? The former — a structure with numbers — is a house, I think. The latter is a home. Much has been said and written about the concept of home. I found quite a few quotes about home and will share the better ones below, the ones I feel really nail what home is to most of us. • Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in. – Robert Frost • Where we love is home — home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts. – Oliver Wendell Holmes • Home is not where you live, but where they understand you. – Christian Morgenstern • Home is the nicest word there is. – Laura Ingalls Wilder • The ache for home lives in all of us. The safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned. – Maya Angelou • Where is home? Home is where the heart can laugh without shyness. Home is where the heart’s tears can dry at their own pace. – Vernon Baker Some of the quotes about home were not entirely what I was looking for, but you might find this one from Margaret Thatcher interesting: Any woman who understands the problems of running a home will be nearer to understanding the problems of running a country. (Hint: It’s not like running a golf course.) We’ve all heard the expression “Home is where the heart is,” but do you know who said it originally? Pliny the Elder. Don’t recognize the name? Well, maybe you’ll remember his given name rather than the name he later became better known by: Gaius Plinius Secundus. (And you thought Mr. Rogers came up with that quote, didn’t you?) Because I’m fortunate, I have the warmest, fondest thoughts about home. I have been taken in when I had to go there. When I’ve had to leave, a part of my heart remained. They understand me there — or if they don’t, they accept me anyway because they take me as I am and don’t question me. I’ve laughed a lot at home, and cried when I couldn’t avoid it. Good mothers and fathers always have an open door policy about home, no matter what age their children are. It works both ways — family is always welcome at my home, too. I read a great quote about home in an article titled, “5 Phrases That Can Change Your Child’s Life,” written by NY Times best-selling author Rachel Macy Stafford. The subhead

is, “Giving your children the freedom to try, fail, and get back up.” First, for those of you who may be interested, I’ll list the four quotes that, for me, have less to do with the topic of home and more to do with encouraging your children. They are: 1. “I still believe in you.” 2. “You don’t have to have it all figured out right now.” 3. “I noticed something special about you.” 4. “Thank you for trusting me with this.” Stafford really knows a lot about encouraging kids through life’s difficulties, and these four tips illustrate that. She describes herself as “an author, speaker, special education teacher, mom of two amazing girls and two rescue cats, and a life inspirer.” You can find more about her at, and if you want to read the full article, it’s at https://journal. What I personally liked about the fifth tip is that it isn’t age-specific; it could be applied to anyone. Tip No. 5 is, “You can always come home.” The full quote reads: “I can still see my mom holding a limp dishrag in her hands and saying, ‘I want you to know that no matter what you do, your dad and I will always love you. No matter what happens, you can always come home.’ My 16-year-old self nodded coolly like it was no big deal — but I knew it was a big deal. In the breath of two mere sentences, I became fully aware of just how much my parents loved me. My fear of making mistakes too huge to forgive, my worry of not measuring up, my apprehension to take risks or just be myself were put to rest. Standing on the unshakable foundation of unconditional love, I had an inner armor that could not be taken away. “My parents kept their word to me throughout years of foolish mistakes and repeated disappointments. … I knew the first people to be standing there with open arms would be my parents.” That’s as good as it gets when it comes to family and to parents of any age with children of any age. Those of us who have it are surely blessed. Let your children always be aware that whatever life throws at them — or whatever they throw back — they are always welcome to walk through the door of your home. Always. I’ll end with a quote about home that you’re all aware of and which needs no explanation: There’s no place like home. There’s no place like home. There’s no place like home. n

– Gaye Bunderson, editor

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4-year-old Leo of Boise bikes around a public playground (Photo by J&L Photography)

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GIRLS on the Run

Where every girl finishes first By Gaye Bunderson


ant your daughter to exercise regularly, eat well, be full of self-confidence, and set goals and keep them? There’s an organization called Girls on the Run that could help her in all those ways. “We’re out to empower girls through movement,” Melissa Bixby, council and program director for Girls on the Run in Boise, said. GOTR is for girls in third through fifth grades. “The nice part is it’s not just about running. We show that running can make their bodies healthy, clear their minds and be a lifelong sport for them,” Bixby said. “We do activities and games that build upon their achievements, so by the end of the season they can complete a 5K. They can do it by running, walking or skipping, however they want to do it.” It’s also not about competition. “It’s about individual achievement. It’s not about the fastest and the best; it’s a mastery program,” said Bixby. “We do encourage team building, but it’s not about comparing yourself to others.” Jennifer Arutiunov’s daughter Emma, a third grader at Lake Hazel Elementary during the 2016-17 school year, loves participating in Girls on the Run, and both she and her mom like the non-competitive nature of the program. “They set their own goals and achieve their own goals. They’re giving their own selves a pat on the back,” Arutiunov said. “There are good runners encouraging those that are not good runners. Some girls love to run and they run fast — they’re naturally good runners. But they all come together with the girls that are not as fast, and they encourage each other and say things like, ‘Come on, let’s do it together.’” “We want the girls to be themselves, to get through the stuff that’s coming at them at that age,” Bixby said. “This is an age where they still esteem the adults in their lives, and the volunteer coaches can be mentors.” Girls on the Run has a curriculum followed and taught by the

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volunteers that includes lessons on empathy, friendship, standing up for yourself, positive and negative self-talk, emotions, and community involvement. The girls do a 20- to 30-minute workout; they run laps, but the physical portion is mixed with age-appropriate, fun activities that have to do with that day’s curriculum. If, for instance, they’re talking about emotions, they’ll have an activity and then circle up and discuss emotions without labeling them “good” or “bad,” Bixby said. Volunteers send home a grownup guide for parents, so that the girls get more opportunities to learn about whatever was discussed that day when they go over it with Mom or Dad. But Arutiunov and her daughter like to do it differently. “They have a lesson every week — there was a lesson just to be more grateful. Emma doesn’t tell me a lot. They bring home stuff, so I know what’s going on. I don’t ask her too much; I want it to be her thing. If she wants to tell me, she can. But it’s her group, her peers, and I never hear her say anything negative,” said Arutiunov. One of the volunteers was diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer, so the girls planned to make her a quilt. They sent cards to her, many of them handmade. “It’s more like a family,” Arutiunov said. “They can talk about stuff; it’s a safe group. They can say, ‘Today I had a bad day.’ They encourage each other, and they don’t talk outside of the group — it’s private. It’s anti-bullying; the girls will stick up for each other.” Volunteers include people who coach for a living, as well as moms, teachers, college students, and community members. Bixby said the volunteers are mostly women, but men are welcomed. “Male coaches can be some of our biggest cheerleaders,” she said. Volunteers go through extensive training, including CPR and, in the Boise area, a Stewards of Children program about keeping kids safe. Whatever else GOTR is, it’s girl-centered and geared toward what matters to them and what is helpful in fostering their social, physical and mental health.

“Every girl is going through something; they have insecurities,” Bixby said. “Girls on the Run is about being in a positive space.” The council director said the girls come from all backgrounds, financially and socially, and while most are encouraged by their parents to join, some of the girls are suggested to the program by school counselors. Girls on the Run was started in Charlotte, N.C. in 1996 by a woman named Molly Barker. The founder struggled with such issues as alcoholism but discovered that running helped her improve her outlook, as well as her physical condition. Bixby also discovered, in her own way, the many benefits of running. “I was not athletic growing up; I was a shy bookworm, and I was not good in P.E. I found running in college. I found it cleared my mind and helped with stress,” she said. She now has “running buddies” that she runs with in the morning, and it is so valuable an experience she calls it “free therapy.” Bixby got involved with Girls on the Run after the organization was brought to this area 17 years ago by what was then the Women’s Fitness Celebration (now FitOne). She became a volunteer coach and was later named the program director for this area in 2009. “I’ve always liked the message of empowering little girls,” she said. Bixby turned 38 this past June, is married and has a daughter who participates in GOTR. “Through my daughter, I’ve found the lessons we teach really tune into what girls are experiencing these days,” she said. Girls on the Run is an after-school program. It uses some school facilities, as well as community parks, for its running and other activities. Though it recesses for summer, it starts up again when school is back in session. Fall sites and registration information are available as of July 1 at Registration opens July 12. Three hundred and eighty girls participated during the 2016-17 school year, and there were 23 Girls on the Run locations from Boise to Middleton. “We have girls who’ve participated in every season, while others go on to gymnastics or

Girls who participate in Girls on the Run get fit while enjoying activities that teach them valuable lessons. (Courtesy photo)

something else,” said Bixby. “The great thing is, there’s so many programs for them to participate in.” Some girls do drop out, according to Bixby, who said, “We’re not going to fit everyone’s interests.” Some girls are made to join by their moms, but find it’s not to their liking. Still, said Bixby, “We see quite a few girls come back.” It’s that girl power thing. “We build each other up,” she said.n For more information, about Girls on the Run Treasure Valley — including how to volunteer, set up a location at your school before August 1, or get your daughter involved — go to, email or call 388-4687.

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TRENDS at home

Changing the way family space is used


rt imitates life, and here in Idaho, design reflects living. A tour through this year’s Parade of Homes revealed exciting new changes in home design. From lavish estates to moderate homes, one thing is clear: families are changing the way they use their spaces.


For years, home buyers have put open floor plans at the top of their list of “Must Haves.” Kitchens that sprawl into connected living areas are perfect for entertaining and maximizing time with the family. But in those open and communal living spaces, many families have felt the loss of a cozy, secluded living area to serve as a retreat from the rest of the bustling house. Home builders and designers have found the ideal solution in the creation of second-floor family rooms. These upper level retreats were featured across the price spectrum, from the most expensive home in this year’s Parade of Homes, Paradigm’s Mace Cove in Eagle, to more moderately priced homes, like Hubble Homes’ Douglas in Meridian. Utilizing the large landings at the top of the stairs, nestled between bedrooms and away for the central nervous system of the house, homeowners across price ranges are designing comfortable, second-floor enclaves. They create distance and removal from the downstairs, while not forcing family members to be closed behind their bedroom doors. Whether for a favorite book, TV show or gaming console, these cozy family rooms make big use of their space.


Boasting some of the country’s most beautiful landscapes, Idaho is a playground for families and outdoor enthusiasts of all kinds. But our favorite outdoor activities, as varied as they are, have one thing in common: the gear and where to store it. Most families

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would love additional garage space without having to change the esthetic of their home facades or lose additional footage across the front of their properties. Clever and efficient design has taken those factors and cast them into an ideal solution. Families are constructing homes with play-inspired, tandem (or “L-shaped”) garages. This flexible design allows for three cars, but most families are taking advantage of the double deep bay and using it to store boats, bikes, paddleboards, fishing equipment, ATVs and all the other trappings of Idaho’s outdoor lifestyle. And direct access to a mudroom or laundry room off the garage makes quick work of dirty clothes and shoes. For those who make projects their play, the double-deep bay lends itself perfectly to a shop or workbench, equipped with plenty of space and privacy.


Perhaps the most interesting change in the way Idaho families are using their homes is a move toward designing multigenerational living spaces. Grandparents and adult children are moving in, and while they desire proximity and accessibility, they also want separation and privacy. As families design their homes, they are prioritizing living spaces that accommodate the differing needs of their members, through all the stages of their lives. Realtor, Will Loverde shares that “buyers are thinking ahead and designing their homes with grandparents and adult children in mind.” Builders are beginning to offer flexible home plans that have options to trade bedrooms or den space for modified, apartment-like spaces with separate bedrooms, bathrooms, sitting rooms and kitchenettes, all on the main floor, avoiding the hazards and difficulties of staircases for elderly family members. While the kitchens remain the main communal areas, these modified, apartment-like spaces offer separate bedrooms, bathrooms, sitting rooms and kitchenettes, all on the main floor, avoiding the hazards and difficulties of staircases for elderly family members. Separate entrances offer privacy, while practical details, like walk-in showers and low thresholds, offer safety and peace of mind. Idahoans value family and are keeping their loved ones close, and both home builders and designers are recognizing the trend and offering modern, affordable design solutions for their spaces. n

Idaho Adventure

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LEARNING new things

Don’t fear summer slide — embrace it and I listened for hours as my father read page after page. Whenever he tried to stop, we begged for just one more chapter. It was one of the ummer is a happy time for children; happy moments I remember from my childhood. let’s not ruin it by making their vacaThe book was “Summer of the Monkeys,” but I tion an extension of school. I know it suppose it could have been any book. Years later, is hard not to worry. The schools love to tell I tried to read it again on my own, but I couldn’t stories of the “summer slide” as if all their recapture the magic anymore than I could be a work could be undone in a few months of boy again, sitting on my father’s lap next to my freedom. The schools can’t help themselves, sister, listening to his unique reading voice and can they? They can’t see that there is more to the occasional slurp of tea. childhood than preparing for tests. School is a 3. An adventure alone: It isn’t quite hog with an appetite for all of our children’s the same as running away, but letting kids take time. The school day starts early enough and a trip alone is still an adventure. At least that is goes late into the afternoon. Then there are how it felt when I left Kansas to stay with my Britton LaTulippe sports and other extracurricular activities to grandparents in Idaho one summer. Letting gobble up time after school and on the weekyour child travel alone and stay ends. And homework is always there, waiting to lick up the a few weeks with a trusted relative gives crumbs. Schools eat up nine months of every year, and still it’s them a taste of independence, and a not enough. Now they want a piece of summer. chance to live according to another Well, at some point there is a diminishing return. The only household’s rules and routines. thing worse than undertraining is overtraining. In sports, push- Best of all, they are likely to ing athletes too hard, for too long, leads to injury and burnout. return home with a greater It is the same with school. Most school years end with a final appreciation for what they stretch of exhausting academic hurdles, and kids need the have, because as the saying entire summer to catch their breath. So, the overly eager mom goes, “Absence makes the who kicks summer vacation off with a round of math workheart grow fonder.” sheets isn’t doing her kids any favors. If she is teaching them 4. An extended anything, she is teaching them to hate learning. If your kids do nothing but hang out at the pool all summer, project: During the school they will start the year off like most of their peers — a little year, there is little time for kids rusty. However, teachers expect this, and they plan accordingly. to study anything other than So don’t worry; it is not like our children could forget all they school work. That makes summer learned over summer vacation, even if they wanted to. But I the perfect opportunity for kids to take hope they do forget some of it. I hope they forget that educaon a serious project that interests them. Whethtion means textbooks and tests. I hope that this summer, they er they choose to build a go-kart, code a video game, learn learn in ponds and forests. I hope they study the stars and the photography, build a tree fort, write a book, or something else, sunrises. I hope that they rediscover the curiosity and wonder they will have the time to fully immerse themselves in unbroof childhood. ken thought and inspiration from sunup to sundown. If you, as a parent, want to make the most of summer break, This is so important. As a professional author and artist, I you should spend your time providing learning experiences can tell you that inspiration never came to me in a classroom, your kids can’t get in school. Here are some ideas: and when it does come, it can’t be rescheduled or postponed. 1. Summer apprenticeship: Before our kids drop You have to be available to work when the inspiration flow begins. I don’t know how many times in my school days, I’d wake a small fortune on college, it would help if they had some idea up with an idea that I needed to draw or write immediately, what they wanted to do with their lives. Yet after 13 years of but couldn’t because I had to head off to school. By the time I schooling, most seniors admit they have no clue. A summer returned home, the inspiration had vanished. I’d sit there and apprenticeship may not pay as well as a summer job, but may doodle, waiting for it to return, but it refused. save our kids tons of time and money in the long run. This summer, why not encourage your kids to lose themselves In my teens I watched some movies based on John Grisham’s in an inspirational project? novels and then imagined that I wanted to be a lawyer. ThankOf course, there are millions of other wonderful things you fully, I found out what real lawyers really do before making law could do. The key is, don’t fear the summer slide — embrace my life’s pursuit. Others kids aren’t so fortunate. They pay for it! n an expensive college degree first, and find out later they hate the job. Oops! Britton LaTulippe is the owner of Blue Manor’s Online Academy (Blue2. Read “Summer of the Monkeys”: The, author of “Revealing School,” plus the author and greatest reading experience I had didn’t happen in a classroom. illustrator of more than 70 children’s books. He may be reached at In fact, it could not have happened in a classroom. My sister By Britton LaTulippe


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GET WHAT you want

Make your WHY bigger than the work By Rocky Detwiler


ave you ever wondered what compels some people to achieve amazing feats? What motivates the Olympic athlete, sports superstar, or famous inventor to keep pushing toward their dream, even in the face of extreme adversity? The simple step that each of these people took in order to achieve greatness is one I often coach, train, and speak about: they made their WHY bigger than the work. In other words, what they wanted (their WHY) was greater than the work and sacrifice required to achieve it. I believe it’s our responsibility, as parents, to teach our children how to dream big for their lives and then how to achieve those dreams. There is no better way to learn this process than to model it for them. My children recently witnessed the value of this type of hard work in action. I was ecstatic when my wife came home a few months ago to inform me she had seen her dream car while driving. Since she has never had a dream car before, this was a big deal. Curious as to what this dream car might be, I questioned, but only discovered that it was a white Lexus. She loved the sporty look of the car, and I was relieved to hear she’d prefer the car in a brighter color. A month after this, we began a side business that has grown to be quite successful for us.

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The stages of kids’ readiness to work By Mary Ann Wilcox


child’s readiness to work is dependent upon his age, his past experiences, his level of skill development, his emotional stability and his physical growth. Often, children are ready physically to handle certain skills but are emotionally incapable of handling the magnitude of the responsibility. In this case a parent needs to break the job into small parts, work with the child until his confidence is strong and use lots of praise and encouragement. Just because a child is unwilling to work doesn’t mean that he is always incapable. Sometimes the work is too hard, sometimes the work is not challenging enough, and sometimes the child is just lazy or wants to get out of work. For instance, if an older child does not like to babysit a younger sibling, he will do a lousy job in hopes that you will not ask him to do it again. Analyze the child and determine what is interfering with his productivity. If lack of physical coordination is the problem, wait to teach the skill. If emotional insecurity is the problem, work carefully and slowly with the child on a step-by-step basis. If laziness is the problem, set deadlines and provide incentives and consequences for his actions. Let’s look at a child’s physical, emotional and intellectual development at each age. Then we can determine what work assignments can be given. Keep in mind that these age groups are not fixed. A child may have these characteristics either earlier or later than indicated. Also be mindful of the fact that if skills are missed during the prime teaching age, they can still be taught at a later date. However, it could be more difficult, the child might rebel, or the process might be slower or faster. Birth – 1 year old: Birth is a great change for a new little being and the first major transition in the baby’s life. In the womb its every need was met immediately; he was close to his mom and in a very secure place. During the first month, the new baby is experiencing discomfort for the first time, a much enlarged environment, sounds, lights, people — lots of very strange things. This new environment is very frightening, insecure and frustrating. This is an important time to help the child make the transition as smoothly as possible. To do this, meet the baby’s needs immediately (if possible). A baby cries more and develops a crying pattern if needs are not met immediately. Hold and cuddle him as much as possible, talk to him, wrap him tightly, help the other children get to know him too. Get to know his little personality, love him and enjoy him. After a couple of months, it is time to start developing routines with the baby. Setting feeding times, bathing and bedtimes helps a child learn that he is a part of an organized world. He will develop a deeper feeling of security as he learns that his needs will be met and that there is order and structure in the world around him. From six months to 1 year is the age where a child is finding out about his environment through his senses — touch, taste, sound, smell, sight. He is into everything and will most likely chew up, suck on, or even destroy those things with which he has contact. (Even the things that are most precious to you.) Safety locks would be helpful in keeping little hands out of cupboards and drawers when supervision is not available. 1-2 years old: A child in this age group is ready and willing to help on a voluntary basis. Capitalize on this willingness — it is inconsistent to refuse to let a child help at 2 and then require it at age 10. This is also the first stage of rebellion, so let him help you when he desires and don’t force it. Otherwise, you will find yourself involved in a power struggle that you can only win by physical force. His concept of work is doing something fun with a parent, especially if it involves water. Because of the child’s concept of work it is not damaging to

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redo a job that the child has performed. 2-5 years old: A child transitions from a baby to a child when he is ready to sleep in a regular bed. A child in this age group is ready to develop good personal habits of cleanliness and hygiene. It is important that you supervise everything the child does during this period so good habits will be developed. The child’s favorite saying at this age is, “I want to do it myself.” 5-11 years old: These are the years that children develop skills. This is the greatest physical training period that you will have as a parent. During this period, a child should learn how to perform tasks properly, how to do a job, when and how quickly it should be done, and the level of perfection that is expected in each task. This is also an excellent time for children to develop other coordination skills. At this age, their coordination is at a peek, they have little fear, and little ego at stake. Music lessons and sports activities should be encouraged. Children will start very few new activities after the age of 12. It is just as important that a child understands what is expected in extracurricular activities as it is in work performed at home. He should be made to make a commitment for a season so that the benefits of the activity can be manifested. A child should not be allowed to quit because it is not convenient or becomes difficult. A one-year commitment will allow a child to cover one or more growth plateaus and find out if he has an interest or talent for that activity. Quitting destroys a child’s self-esteem and makes him fearful of difficult tasks. Children need to complete the growth process: Fun – Initially, most adventures are fun and exciting. Simple tasks are presented first and the child feels instant success. Work – The second phase is very difficult and requires hard work, long suffering, and often pain. During this phase a child is developing the physical and mental readiness for the next upsurge of learning. This is the phase where most children want to quit. Thrill – The third phase is a spurt of quick development, ease in performance, and a high level of success. Working through the growth process builds character, self-reliance and self-confidence. It makes a child more willing to accept new challenges. 11-14 years old: This is the third point of transition for a child. It is a very trying time in a teenager’s life. He is searching for his personal identity, peer pressure is great, many physical changes are taking place and he is struggling for independence. An understanding parent who takes the time to help him fulfill his obligations to his family, friends, church, school and self can help make this transition smooth. The child’s responsibility is to establish balance in his life and to learn the principles of personal organization. 14-19 years old: These are the years of family service and responsibility to others. By this time a child should be able to take over any facet of home responsibility successfully and with confidence. A child at this age should be able to accept an assignment and complete it from the planning stages to finished product without supervision (in most cases). A child in this age group should learn to find a balance between home, church, school, and personal responsibility. He should be given the opportunity to meet these demands in his own time frame. Understanding the stages of development that a child goes through will eliminate a lot of frustration on the part of both parent and child. Knowing how to parent at each of these stages will assure that the child develops a good work ethic and your relationship with the child is positive and cooperative. n For more information on these topics, check out my book, “Teaching Children to Work,” available at


Maria: talented teen who loves animals

The following information is provided by Wednesday’s Child, an organization that helps Idaho foster children find permanent homes.


want to know what it feels like to have a family or somebody that would be there for somebody…I’ve never had that. I’ve never had a mom and a dad. It would be really cool for me to have that and start a fresh life.” — Maria Maria, age 17, is a delightful young lady who is talented, engaging and wise. This is evident right when you meet her, particularly if you talk about her favorite subject: animals. Maria loves animals and knows a lot about them — more than the average person. She says her favorite animal is the tiger, but her face lights up at the mention of any animal. She has saved baby kittens, a baby squirrel, and is kind-hearted toward living creatures in general. In fact, her favorite holiday is Easter because of the baby animals it represents. She would love her chores to be the care of animals, and she hopes to have her own pets someday. She would love to do volunteer work at the zoo, the aquarium or an animal shelter. When asked what she would like to do for a career as an adult, she says, “Work with animals!” Maria donated her hair to Locks of Love and feels good about doing something positive and caring for someone else. She has worked hard at overcoming some of the obstacles in her life and she is proud of that too. She desires a family that will accept her for who she is while continuing to support her progress, engage with her, communicate with her, and just plain have fun with her. Maria loves to have fun and laugh. She likes jokes and little pranks or tricks to make others laugh with her. Maria would like to fish, camp, explore, hike, or participate in other outdoor activities, especially if they have to do with nature or being in the mountains, which she loves. She likes to try new things.

Maria hopes to have a job someday soon and participate in other activities common to teens her age, such as hanging out with friends, going to the YMCA, attending dances or the prom. She is looking forward to planning her Quinceanera. What Maria likes about school is meeting new people. She is accepting of people and shows this by talking to them. She is also an avid reader. Her favorite books are the “Warrior Cat” series. Her favorite subject is choir. She not only loves to sing but is incredibly gifted and talented in this area. She can sing any genre of music very well. Hearing Maria sing will give you goosebumps or bring tears to your eyes. Maria needs to be supported in her singing endeavor. She needs someone who will stop what they are doing to listen to her new song, go to her choir concerts, and find and support new avenues for her to grow in her talent. Maria states that the most important qualities in a family are “… that they’re understanding…that they know how you feel…they listen to what you have to say…I want to be accepted in a family.” She also feels she would do best if she were an only child or the oldest. Maria’s caseworker describes Maria as having a very unique, fun personality with a great sense of humor and quick wit. She is playful, truly inspirational, very smart, passionate, and has a big heart. She is a very sweet girl who is made of something indescribably special, including resiliency, and the ability to thrive. Maria needs energetic, understanding parents who will allow her to explore more, try new things, and who will learn and grow with her. Because she is so smart, she may ask difficult questions and needs a family willing to handle them. Maria needs a family that is patient, quick to forgive, and continues to see her strengths, with the ability to model appropriate coping skills. It would benefit Maria if a family is willing to become trauma-informed. Children who benefit from trauma-informed parents have so much potential. Maria needs a family willing to start fresh each day, moving into it with positivity. Maria has a lot of love and is willing and ready to give it to a family. n For more information on the Wednesday’s Child Program in Idaho, visit, or contact Recruitment Coordinator Shannon Foust at or 488-8989 if you have specific questions.

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Idaho IceWorld special skating days & nights

Wednesdays, Thursdays & Fridays

Wednesday nights are Family Nights at Idaho IceWorld, 7072 S. Eisenman Rd. in Boise, from 6:45 to 8:45 p.m.; every Friday is Foodbank Friday, and anyone who brings a nonperishable food item to donate will get a free skate rental; and Thursdays are Parent & Tot Skate Thursdays, for parents and their children under age 8, from 10:30 to 11:30 a.m. For more information, go to

eARThworks at the Boise WaterShed Tuesdays and Thursdays

On select Tuesdays and Thursdays in July, the Boise WaterShed will offer integrated art and science classes for children 5 and up. Parents may register for classes and learn along with their child or children. All classes are free of charge and are taught by professional artists and scientists. Classes for kids ages 5-10 will be held from 9:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m., and classes for kids ages 11 and up will be held from 1:30 to 4 p.m. Pre-registration is required by calling 608-7300 or emailing Adults do not need to attend with their young ones, and there is a limit of two classes per person. Specific class dates and descriptions are available at

Free Parent Education Seminar First & Third Thursday

Brain Balance Achievement Center at 3210 E. Chinden Blvd., #113, in Eagle holds a Free Parent Education Seminar from 7 to 8 p.m. on the first and third Thursdays of every month. Dr. Ray Booth, clinical psychologist, presents information on the topic, “Why Your Child Is Struggling” and answers questions. For more information, contact Executive Director Dawna Booth at 938-1312 or dbooth@

Summer Saturdays at the Watershed Saturdays

The Boise WaterShed will be open on Saturdays this summer in addition to regular business hours. Adults and children are welcome to come explore the exhibit hall or journey through the new River Campus to learn about the watershed through public art, landscaping, nature, and water features. Summer Saturdays will run from now

CALENDAR through August 19 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Also, WaterShed Wednesdays will take place from 10 a.m. to noon through August 9; and WaterShed Weekends will be held July 15 and August 19 from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. The WaterShed is located at 11818 W. Joplin Rd. in Boise. Go to for more information.

Family Slide Nights Friday & Saturday Nights

Families may enjoy unlimited access to water attractions as the sun sets at Roaring Springs during Friday and Saturday Family Slide Nights from 6 to 10 p.m. through August 26. Go to

Ada Library Activities

Ada County Library branches are holding a number of programs in July. Following is a brief list of events. • Hidden Springs Branch, hiddensprings, 229-2665 July 6, 11 a.m., Magician Kip Sherry, all ages July 7, 1 p.m., “Build a Better Smile” puppet show, all ages July 10, 3 p.m., Micron Rockets, ages 5+ July 12, 1 p.m., Lego Robotics Edison Robots, ages 9+ July 13, 11 a.m., Kids First Cast fishing lessons, all ages July 17, 3 p.m., Humane Society pet care program, ages 5+ July 19, 1 p.m., DIY stress ball, ages 9+ July 20, 11 a.m., Water Fun in the Sun, all ages July 24, 3 p.m., Spy Academy, ages 5+ July 26, 1 p.m., Micron Rockets, ages 9+ July 26, 6 p.m., Build a Better Garden: Family Help Day, ages 9+ July 27, 11 a.m., TRICA Street Dance, all ages July 31, 3 p.m., Lego Robotics – WeDo, ages 5+ • Lake Hazel Branch,, 297-6700 July 5, 4:30 p.m., Cartooning Crash Course for Tweens, ages 8-12 July 6, 4:30 p.m., Teen Video Game Challenge, ages 12-18 July 11, 2 p.m., Treasure Valley Children’s Theater, all ages July 12, 4:30 p.m., Gardening for Tweens, ages 8-12 July 13, 4:30 p.m., Life-Sized Hungry Hungry Hippos for Teens, ages 12-18 July 18, 2 p.m., hilarious puppet show for all ages July 19, 4:30 p.m., Perler Bead Craft for Tweens, ages 8-12 July 20, 4:30 p.m., Harry Potter Murder Mystery for Teens, ages 12-18 July 25, 2 p.m., Peregrine Fund Live Bird Visit, all ages

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July 26, 4:30 p.m., Harry Potter Murder Mystery for Tweens, ages 8-12 July 27, 4:30 p.m., Cupcake Wars for Teens, ages 12-18 • Star Branch,, 286-9755 July 7, 12:30 p.m., Movie & Munchies (bring your own snacks; call 286-9755 for movie titles), all ages July 12, 4 p.m., Teens Tie Dye, ages 13-17 July 18, 2 p.m. at the Star Barn, Kids Can Cast casting game, all ages July 19, 1 p.m., Craft Buffet (all kinds of crafts), all ages July 19, 4 p.m., Teen Craft Buffet, ages 13-17 July 21, 12:30 p.m., Movie & Munchies, all ages July 25, 2 p.m., hilarious puppet show for all ages • Victory Branch,, 362-0181 July 6, 3 p.m., Treasure Valley Children’s Theater, all ages July 10, 4:30 p.m., Solar Cooking for Teens, ages 12-18 July 11, 6:30 p.m., James Castle House Presentation, all ages July 13, 3 p.m., Idaho Fish & Game speaker visit, all ages July 13, 5 p.m., Dog Tales: Read to a Therapy Dog, all ages July 13, 6:30 p.m., Victory Knit & Crochet Group (contact Tiffany at, ages 8+ July 14, 4 p.m., Makeiteers, DIY STEAM projects, ages 8-12 July 17, 4:30 p.m., Harry Potter Murder Mystery for Teens, ages 12-18 July 20, 3 p.m., Mad Scientist Fair, all ages July 21, 11 a.m., Robotics Group, ages 10+ July 22, 1-5 p.m., Quilting with Carol (contact, ages 12+ July 24, 4:30 p.m., Teen T-Shirt Art, ages 12-18 July 27, 3 p.m., hilarious puppet show for all ages July 27, 5 p.m., Dog Tales: Read to a Therapy Dog, all ages July 28, 4 p.m., Minecraft, all ages July 31, 4:30 p.m., Henna Tattoos for Teens, ages 12-18

1st Wednesday Patio Party Wednesday, July 5

This free community event in Eagle takes place at the North Channel Center on the River, just steps from the Greenbelt, from 4:30 to 7:30 p.m. on the first Wednesday of each month from June through September. Artwork will be on display, and there will be live musical performances. The July 5 event will feature the music of Dan Costello; acoustic vocalist Clint Budge of Bow Wow Band will perform on August 2; and guitarist Spencer Batt will highlight the September 6 party. For more information, call 939-6775.

of Events CableOne Movie Night in Meridian Fridays - Starting July 7

This summer will mark another season of CableOne Movie Night in Meridian, with free family-friendly movies under the stars in Settlers Park every Friday beginning at dusk. The schedule for July includes: “Kubo and the Two Strings,” July 7; “Beauty and the Beast” (the animated version), July 14; “Up,” July 21; and “101 Dalmations,” July 28. “Finding Dory” will be shown August 4. Go to

Silver Screen on the Green Fridays - Starting July 7

The Nampa Parks & Recreation Department will present its annual Silver Screen on the Green program every Friday through August 18 at Optimist Park. The kid-friendly movies are shown for free on a large inflatable screen. If you plan to attend, bring blankets and lawn chairs. Each movie night features concessions and activities, as well as movies, and the fun begins at 8:30 p.m. Movies in July include: “Storks,” July 7; “Finding Dory,” July 14; “The Lego Batman Movie,” July 21; and “Moana,” July 28. The movie on August 4 will be “Sing.” Go to

Treasure Valley Comic Con July 7-9

The Treasure Valley Comic Con will be held at the Nampa Civic Center on the following days and times: 11 a.m. to 9 p.m. Friday, July 7; 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Saturday, July 8; and 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday, July 9. This event for comic and pop culture fans will feature a variety of actors, comic artists, authors, and gaming and cosplay celebrities. For more information, go to

Kids: Relax to the Max Saturday, July 8

Kids may learn some fun yoga poses, then craft a relaxation bottle and DIY stress ball from 2 to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 8, at Eagle Public Library. Go to

Month of July & Early August

Please send family-related calendar p.m. Saturday, July 8, at 350 E. Linden St. in Boise (backyard of items to Broadway Veterinary Hospital). The suggested donation is $10 and their caregivers may join library staff in per dog; 100 percent of the proceeds will be split songs, rhymes and stories. The program will also between the two charities. All dogs must be on a be held on other days. Call 972-8360 for more leash, and it is requested no aggressive dogs be information or go to brought to the fundraiser. For more information, call 344-5592.

Bird Banding on the Boise River

Teen Night: Retro Recess

Join the Intermountain Bird Observatory for songbird banding at the observatory’s Boise River Greenbelt site. Bandings will be held from 7 to 11:30 a.m. on July 8, July 22, and July 29. The event is free, but registration is required at For more information, visit (you may click through to sign up on this site as well). Space is limited, so sign up soon.

Teens, you know you miss ‘em — Red Rover, foursquare, kickball. The main branch of Boise Public Library will bring all those “retro” games back for one night only on Tuesday, July 11, from 7 to 8 p.m. For more information, contact Jen at or call 972-8201.

July 8, 22 & 29

Boise Hawks at home Monday, July 10

The Boise Hawks play at home in Memorial Stadium, 5600 N. Glenwood St. in Boise, on Monday, July 10. First pitch will be at 7:15 p.m. Grab the family and come watch the local team. Go to or call 322-5000.

Tuesdays, Wednesdays & Thursdays – Starting July 11

July 11 & August 1

A New Beginning Adoption Agency holds free Adoption Information Meetings each month, providing a no-pressure environment for families to learn about adopting infants, as well as children in the U.S. foster care system. The July meeting is set for 6:30 to 8 p.m. Tuesday, July 11; the August meeting will be held on August 1. All meetings are held at 8660 W. Emerald, Ste. 142, in Boise. Though the meetings are free, preregistration is required; call 939-3865 or email

Baby Bownders

Let staff at the Broadway Veterinary Hospital wash your dog for a donation benefiting The Idaho Foodbank and Fuzzy Pawz Rescue. The dog wash will be held from noon to 3

There will be babies, babies everywhere during the Baby Bownders program at the Library! at Bown Crossing, 2153 E. Riverwalk Dr. in Boise, from 1:30 to 2 p.m. and from 6:30 to 7 p.m. Tuesday, July 11. Babies ages 0-2

Tuesdays – Starting July 11

Notus Public Library “Summer Fun” Program

Adoption Information Meeting

Tuesday, July 11

Family Movies at Nampa Public Library Nampa Public Library will present free Family Summer Movies from 2 to 4 p.m. each Tuesday. Movies in July include: “Storks,” July 11; “Zootopia,” July 18; and “Pete’s Dragon,” July 25. “BFG” will be shown on August 1. Go to

Community Dog Wash Fundraiser Saturday, July 8

Tuesday, July 11

Notus Public Library summer hours are from 1 to 6:30 p.m. Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays. Extended summer program hours and activities for children are from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. on those same days. Programs include: Tuesdays, July 11, 18 and 25, beading class from 11 a.m. to noon and summer reading program from noon to 1 p.m.; Wednesdays, July 12, 19 and 26, STEM classes from noon to 1 p.m. and Quadcopter from 3 to 4 p.m.; and Thursdays, July 13, 20 and 27, cooking classes from 11:30 a.m. to noon and craft and story time from 2 to 3 p.m. For more information, call Toni Thornton at 459-2817.

Stampede Kickoff Thursday, July 13

Americana genre singer Eilen Jewell will perform at the Nampa Civic Center for Stampede Kickoff, beginning at 7:30 p.m. Thursday, July 13. An old-fashioned barbecue dinner will be served at 6 p.m. Cost to attend is $30 plus tax and ticketing fees. Tickets may be purchased

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Continued from Page 13 online at Default.aspx?id=1789 or at the Civic Center box office, 311 3rd St. S. For more information, visit or call 468-5555.

Nampa Burnout Fund BBQ Friday, July 14

The Nampa Firefighters will host their Burnout Fund BBQ , as part of Stampede Community Festival events, from 5 to 9 p.m. Friday, July 14, at 13th Ave. S. in downtown Nampa. The menu will include BBQ pulled pork sandwiches, coleslaw, beans, a beverage, and a dessert bar. The fire trucks will be there, and there will be games for the kids. The band Soul Patch will perform throughout the evening. There will be a $10 suggested donation for the dinner. For more information, call 468-0411.

“Pollyanna” performances July 14–15 & 20–22

The Boise Little Theater and the Boise Parks & Recreation 18th Annual Youth Summer Theater Program will present “Pollyanna” at BLT on the following dates and times: 7:30 p.m. July 14, 15, 20 and 21; and 2 p.m. July 16 and 22. Local youngsters have auditioned and will perform in the play about a girl who has faith in her father’s promise that something good can be found in anything that happens. Go to

4th Annual Tater Dash Mud Run Saturday, July 15

Twin Oaks Farms in Eagle will hold its 4th Annual Tater Dash Mud Run, a 5.2-mile obstacle course on 180 acres of prime farmland featuring mud, obstacles, and fun from 8 to 10 a.m. Saturday, July 15, at 400 N. Eagle Rd. Participation fees range from $25 to $40. For tickets, go to Call 939-6373 for information.

Totally Terrific Tie-Dye Saturday, July 15

Families are invited to bring their own cotton t-shirts or other items and let their inner artists loose for a Totally Terrific Tie-Dye event from 2 to 4 p.m. Saturday, July 15, at Eagle Public Library. A tasty treat will be served. Go to

Kiwanis Annual Steak Fry


Saturday, July 15

To help mark the Stampede Community Festival, the Kiwanis Club will hold its annual Kiwanis Steak Fry (featuring New York strip steak) from 5 to 9 p.m. Saturday, July 15, at the 13th Street corner in downtown Nampa. Cost is $12 for adults for steak with side dishes and $6 for children 12 and under for a cheeseburger with side dishes. Music will be provided by the Andrew Shephard Band and Muzzie Braun. Call 941-0010 for more information.

Deaf Awareness and Autism Awareness days July 15 & 31

Roaring Springs Water Park will mark Deaf Awareness Day on July 15 and Autism Awareness Day on July 31, with discounted admission fees for the deaf and hard of hearing and their families and for people with autism and their families on the respective days. Go to or call 608-7680.

Atlantic Idea House tours Saturday, July 15

Interested people are welcome to come tour the Atlantic Idea House at 2108 S. Atlantic St. in Boise. The Atlantic Idea House is a small home owned by the City of Boise that has been renovated with sustainable and energy efficient features to showcase what is possible to improve the energy and water efficiency in your home. The house is open for tours one day a month from now through November. Remaining tour dates and times include: 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday, July 15; 4 to 6 p.m. Wednesday, August 16; 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday, September 16; 4 to 6 p.m. Wednesday, October 25; and 4 to 6 p.m. Wednesday, November 15. For more information, go to http://www.

5th Annual Kids Triathlon

WaterShed Weekend – Let’s Move: Water for Health

Saturday, July 15

Saturday, July 15

This challenging and fun event is for kids ages 6-13 and includes swimming, biking and running, with different challenges for different ages. A pre-race meeting will begin at 7:45 a.m., with the first heat beginning at 8:15 a.m., on Saturday, July 15, at Lincoln Pool in Lions Park in Nampa. Cost to participate is $20. Registration deadline is Monday, July 10, and much more information is available at Families and friends are encouraged to come cheer the children on.

The connection between healthy water and healthy bodies will be the theme for July’s WaterShed Weekend from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday, July 15, at the Boise WaterShed Environmental Education Center, 11818 W. Joplin Rd. Come learn about the importance of water, not only for human bodies, but also for the Treasure Valley. Stay hydrated while playing outdoor games, learn Hip Hop and other fun ways to stay active. The event is free, and no registration is required. Go to bee.cityofboise. org.

Concerts on Broadway

Insects! Curious About Bugs!

Come enjoy music at 33 E. Broadway in Meridian at 7 p.m. Saturdays, July 15, July 29, and August 12, and Friday, August 25. The event is free. Go to

Children ages 5-7 may attend STEAM or other themed activities every third Monday of the month at Nampa Public Library. The topic on July 17 will be insects. The program is held from 4 to 5 p.m.

July 15, 29, August 12 & 25

“Movies Under the Stars” Saturdays – Starting July 15

Eight family “Movies Under the Stars” will be presented at 7 p.m. throughout the summer on the following remaining days and at the following places: July 15, Julia Davis Park; July 22, Sunset Park, 2625 N. 32nd St.; August 5, Ivywild Park, 416 W. Ivywild St.; August 12, Fort Boise Park, 155 E. Garrison Rd.; August 19, Julia Davis Park; and August 26, Molenaar Park, 2815 S. Maple Grove Rd. There will be free games for the kids provided by the Boise Parks & Recreation Mobile Recreation Van, including “capture the flag” and “dodgeball.” Movies will be shown on a 30-foot inflatable movie screen. For a complete schedule, go to

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Monday, July 17

Curious Cubs

Wednesday, July 19

Three- and four-year-olds are given the opportunity to develop social and communication skills as they enjoy dancing, singing, laughing and learning with their peers through stories and music. Curious Cubs will meet from 10 to 10:30 a.m. Wednesday, July 19, at the Cherry Lane branch of the Meridian library. This is an ongoing program. For more information, contact Kathleen at kathleen@ or 888-4451.

Music on the Patio – Meridian

of Events Thursday, July 20

All are welcome to come enjoy a free concert on the patio at the Cherry Lane branch of the Meridian library every third Thursday throughout summer. A variety of eclectic sounds from local artists will be featured. Attend the program from 6:30 to 7:30 p.m. Thursday, July 20. For more information, contact Amanda at or 888-4451.

Home School Day at the WaterShed Friday, July 21

The Boise WaterShed will offer a free program for homeschool children ages 3-12 from 10 to 11:30 a.m. Friday, July 21. The program will focus on the Boise River. Children ages 3-5 will participate in S.T.R.E.A.M. Story Time and outdoor nature play, and children ages 6 and up will explore the River Campus with a guided, hands-on tour, plus a fun art activity. All classes require pre-registration at least one week in advance by calling 608-7300 or emailing BW@

BabyPalooza Saturday, July 22

This event for expectant and new parents will take place from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 22, at Expo Idaho. More than 50 companies will be there, offering products and services for babies, toddlers and expectant moms. There will also be speakers throughout the day, as well as activities to entertain the kids. The event is free.

art and gardening program begins at 10 a.m. Saturday, July 22, at the Idaho Botanical Garden classroom. Invite a young person to join you in creating a keepsake that will last for years; plant it at home, or just display it as a piece of art as is. Cost is $20 for members and $25 for non-members. Go to idahobotanicalgarden. org ( decoupage-flower-pot-adultchild-workshop/).

Run Wild at Zoo Boise Saturday, July 22

Run Wild at Zoo Boise is a fun run designed for kids ages 2 through 11 that will be held from 9 to 10 a.m. Saturday, July 22. There will be two different runs through the zoo: ages 2-5 (.25 mile) and ages 6-11 (1 mile). Registration is $25 ($20 for Zoo Boise annual passholders) and includes breakfast at Zoo Boise, after party, and participant (+1 parent or guardian) admission to the zoo. Online registration is not available after 3 p.m. on July 21, but will be available in person at 8 a.m. on the morning of the event. Go to

Summer Fun Family Event at Kleiner Park Saturday, July 22

Enjoy fun for the whole family from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 22, at the Center at 1920 N. Records Ave. in Kleiner Park in Meridian. The event will be highlighted by food, vendors, and Candy Land-themed activities. For more information, call Jennifer at 353-2678.

Summer Girls Day Out

“What Was That Shaking?”

Summer Girls Day Out is a free event all about pampering, beauty, spa treatments, delicious desserts, luxurious products, and beauty tips. It will take place from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 22, at Expo Idaho.

Geophysics expert, Dr. Mike Morrison, will engage students in grades four and up in a lesson explaining how seismologists differentiate between earthquakes, volcanoes and bomb blasts during a program from 10 a.m. to noon Saturday, July 22, at the Idaho Museum of Mining and Geology, 2455 Old Penitentiary Rd. in Boise. Cost is $10 per person. Sign-ups are required by July 19 by calling Eliza at 571-5720. Go to

Saturday, July 22

Kids’ Saturday Fun: Watermelon Celebration! Saturday, July 22

Children are welcome to come celebrate the most iconic fruit of summer: the watermelon. During Kids’ Saturday Fun from 2 to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 22, at Eagle Public Library, children may build watermelon sculptures, make watermelon ice cream, and have a watermelon seed spitting contest. Go to libcal.

Saturday, July 22

National Drowning Prevention Day at Settlers Park Sunday, July 23

Learn about water safety while enjoying a fun family day at Meridian’s Settlers Park from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday, July 23. There will be vendors, good food and entertainment.

Decoupage Flower Pot Adult/Child Workshop

Canyon County Fair

Adult/child pairs may work together to adorn a terra cotta container with dried flowers to display any plant they choose to grow. The

The 2017 Canyon County Fair will be held July 27-30 at the Canyon County Fairgrounds, 111 22nd Ave. in Caldwell. Entertainment will include magicians to music stars, and there will

Saturday, July 22

be lots of food booth choices, carnival rides, and much more. Go to

Discover Reptiles Saturday, July 29

Come to the Cherry Lane branch of the Meridian library and learn about reptiles with staff from the Aquarium of Boise from 1 to 2 p.m. Saturday, July 29. People of all ages are welcome. For more information, contact Amanda at or 888-4451.

Solar Eclipse Programs at Nampa Public Library August 1, 9, 10, 15 & 21

Throughout August, Nampa Public Library will present programs around this summer’s muchanticipated solar eclipse. The schedule includes: Solar Art Endeavor, 4:30 to 6 p.m. Tuesday, August 1; presentation by BSU astronomy instructor Brian Jackson, 4 to 6 p.m. Wednesday, August 9; Tween Solar Activity, 4 to 5 p.m. Thursday, August 10; another presentation by BSU astronomy instructor Brian Jackson, 4 to 6 p.m. Tuesday, August 15; and the eclipse viewing event, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Monday, August 21. Go to

All-American Eclipse Prep Wednesday, August 2

Join the staff at the Library! at Hillcrest to prepare for the All-American Eclipse taking place on August 21. During a preparation program from 7 to 8:30 p.m. Wednesday, August 2, learn about solar eclipses, the sun, how to safely view an eclipse, and where to best view this eclipse in its totality. A local astronomer will be on hand to provide information and materials to help those in attendance learn about and enjoy this historic event. All are welcome. Call 972-8340 for more information.

Moxie Club

August 5 & September 2

Moxie Club is a social meet-up group for teens and adults with Aspergers or who are on the autism spectrum. The group meets once a month on Saturdays from 1 to 3 p.m. at Awakenings Coffeehouse at 10650 W. Overland in Boise. Meetings for upcoming months will be on August 5 and September 2. The goal of the club is to create a welcoming environment where members can make friends with people who “get” them. Friends and family are also welcome. For more information, call 514-5104.

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Some important signs to watch for By Robert Rhodes


f you are a parent of a teen, then you have probably heard of or even watched the Netflix drama, “13 Reasons Why.” If not, then you should set aside some time and watch it. Better yet, invite your teen to watch it with you. The program has become quite controversial and has provoked discussions among educators, mental health professionals, parents and teens. Two camps have formed out of these discussions: those who feel that the show inappropriately glamorizes teen suicide and those who feel that it has thrust teen suicide into the national dialogue. Both points of view are worthy of debate, especially given the alarming increase in suicidal teens over the past 10 years. New research recently presented at the 2017 Pediatric Academic Societies Meeting revolved around collected admissions data from 32 children’s hospitals across the country. The results showed that the number of children and teenagers admitted due to suicidality or self-harm has doubled since 2008. Additionally, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that approximately 4,600 youths take their lives each year and that suicide is the second leading cause of death for those between the ages of 10 and 24. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry reports that 10 percent of all teens think about suicide, with females more likely to report having considered, planned or attempted suicide. In Idaho, our youth seem particularly vulnerable as we have the ninth highest suicide rate in the nation, an astonishing 46 percent higher than the national average. When attempting to understand these statistics, there are three areas which demand our focus and concern. Firstly, remember that adolescence is a developmental period in which teens are vulnerable and emotionally fragile. Bodily changes, hormone surges, confusion, fear and uncertainty and the pressure to succeed in school all can be and often are overwhelming in and of themselves. Secondly, consider the stressors which are not uncommon to the adolescent experience. These may include parental divorce, blended families, moving to a new community or changing schools and friends. Lastly, consider the following well-documented risk factors: 1. A family history of depression 2. Exposure to family violence — physical or sexual abuse and domestic violence 3. Having a psychiatric disorder, including depression 4. Being a victim of bullying — person-to-person or cyberbullying 5. Being uncertain of sexual orientation

6. Exposure to the suicide of a family member or friend 7. Loss of or conflict with a family member or friend When taken in total, it is not difficult to imagine that stress and a teen’s limited life experience may result in suicidal thoughts. As a parent, beware the tendency to interpret all adolescent angst as simply normal and expected. Instead, look for overt signs of behavior which may indicate depression or suicidal feelings. These may include withdrawn and isolating behavior; changes in appetite and sleep; talking about wanting to die or feeling hopeless; loss of interest in school, friendships or other activities; mood swings; alcohol or drug use; neglect of personal appearance or somatic complaints such as stomachaches, headaches and fatigue. So what should parents do if they are concerned about their son or daughter? Here are some guidelines: 1. Get your child help — medical, psychiatric, counseling. A new study from The Lancet Psychiatry Journal (May, 2017) found that the majority of youth who ended their lives never received treatment. 2. Talk to them openly about suicide. 3. Ask questions, take them seriously and avoid criticism. 4. Remain vigilant and do not leave them alone. 5. Do not appear shocked or disappointed and do not debate or lecture. 6. Ask them if they have a plan or method to hurt themselves — asking these questions does not push teens towards suicide. 7. Keep your child safe by removing anything with which they could hurt themselves — guns, medications, knives. 8. Do not be afraid to take your teen to the emergency room for an assessment. The adage “better safe than sorry” certainly applies here. 9. Parents and teens may also contact the 24-hour Ada County Crisis Hotline at (208) 334-0808 or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. So where does this leave us? Hopefully, parents who read this will fine-tune their senses and, in addition to tracking their children’s grades, peer relationships and physical health, will also begin to monitor their children’s mental health. In the field of mental health treatment, we know a great deal about depression and suicide prevention. Your child does not need to suffer the damage caused by depression. There are resources available to them and they start at home. n Robert Rhodes has a master of social work from the University of California, Berkeley. He obtained his license as a clinical social worker in 1989. Since then he has worked in multiple settings with children and adolescents. He has been in private practice for the past 16 years. He may be reached at, (208) 900-8500, or

IRENE’S Insights

Meeting challenges of a home office fix By Irene Woodworth


o you have a home office or an area dedicated for study for the adults or children in your home besides the kitchen table? There are a variety of ways to meet the needs and styles for you or a family member. I am going to share with you various

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challenges that I experienced to accomplish my new home office makeover and redesign. With some planning and thinking outside the box, we came up with some interesting solutions to meet this challenge. My home office desperately needed a makeover. Since caregiving for my parents took top priority, I had my office relocated to the dining room, a corner of our great room and a quarter of our four-car garage.

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Helping children through a crisis bedroom door. This asks the child to put a fear aside without asking the child to give up the fear. It is extremely harmful to negate a fear by calling it “silly.” Fears are personal and real for hildren cannot comprehend the the person dealing with them. many crises that have penetrated our 5. To children who talk about hateful retaliaglobe and overwhelmed our news. tions, say, “It is important to send love not anger Parents are at a loss as to what to say or how to to this situation. More anger won’t help. Love is comfort their children. Here are some guidea great healer; love can help. Let’s send love to lines: the people in (New York, for instance.)” 1. Do not expose children to television, A teenager, faced with comments from computer or even personal conversations about students who wanted to bomb the bad guys, a crisis. On the morning of the attack on the commented, “Okay, how is killing a bunch of World Trade Center, a mother spewed out all innocent people different from what they just her fear to a friend she was talking to on the did to us?” phone. Her children heard every word and Hatred is the root of the crisis. If we meet were impacted by their mother’s fear. Children Sandy McDaniel hatred with hatred, how are we different from are ALWAYS listening. Keep private topics the enemy? If we teach our children hate, how will it stop? private. Hush! An inevitable crisis comes when a family member is very ill. 2. It is easy to forget how intuitive children are, especially Children automatically ask, “Is (grandma) going to die?” small children. When an adult is pretending that everything is You are not a prophet. Answer directly and keep it simple: fine, the child’s feelings inside do not match; something wrong “We just don’t know how long (grandma) is going to live. Our is intuited. Out of the blue a child will ask, “Mommy are you job is to love her every minute she is with us, and help her by upset?” How did the child know? Instead of saying you feel fine when reading her a story, singing a song or just holding her hand.” It is important not to put your sadness on the children beyou don’t, say, “I’m a little upset right now. It is not about you. cause they are too little to carry it. It is also important not to I could use one of your special hugs.” try to hide sadness. It’a okay to say, “I am feeling sad because 3. When you are talking to a child, be brief and be specific (grandma) is sick and I can’t fix it. I could use one of your spe(such as regarding 9/11), “I don’t know if we will go to war. cial songs right now.” Let’s wait and see what happens. Meanwhile, let’s send love What is important in any crisis is that your children feel safe. to the people in New York. There is no point for any of us to Answering questions without lecturing or dumping your feelspeculate on what is going to happen next.” ings on the child are difficult to do, and it is your job to help evRather than leaving the conversation open for more probing, eryone in the family be grounded so you can all function. You give the child something positive to do. “Dinner is going to be might need to go to the gym or go for a walk in the woods to ready in a few minutes; could you help me set the table?” you calm down yourself, and your children will learn how to handle might ask. 4. It is difficult to teach children not to be afraid when we are a crisis by the way you handle the one in front of you. (For dates of Sandy’s parenting talks at St Luke’s Hospital, go afraid. Many adults and children have nightmares following a to n crisis. There is no easy fix or solution to many crises. Telling a child it is fine or will be all right won’t cut it — especially if the For 54 years, Sandy has been an international speaker and recognized authority person delivering that message does not believe those words. on families and children. Author of five books, columnist, founder of parentingComfort your child. Love your child. Change channels by, she is a resident of Meridian and loves spending time with her three ting the child to sing a song or tell a familiar story. Idaho grandchicks. Semi-retired, she speaks to schools, churches, and MOPS Children have wonderful imaginations. Sometimes it works groups and provides parent coaching sessions in person and on the phone. to take a bad dream, put it into a box and put it outside the By Sandy Spurgeon McDaniel


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Irene Woodworth

After both of my parents passed away, I finally decided it was time to use our spare bedroom as my office location once again. I am going to share the process of the problems I faced and how I solved them to meet my needs in my reorganized and more functional home office. After figuring out my floor plan that included my desk, storage cabinets and work surface, I decided on my color scheme of tan, white and black, accented with my pops of magenta and apple green to match my logo colors. Pre-planning will help you save lots of time and money for

your update. I needed a desk. I had a wrought iron and wood desk that had a few shelves that I really liked and used for a couple of years. I thought I would later use it in my new space. Unfortunately, it was a half inch too wide to go through our hallway. So, I realized I would need to think about a plan B. I thought of an old trick of making my new desk in an economical style by using a door and placing it on top of my two black two-drawer file cabinets. We decided to visit our nearest Habitat for Humanity store for a hollow core door already painted white. Otherwise, I would need to paint it before I could use it as my work surface. You never know what you will find at those places! We found one that was perfect. I have learned it is a good idea to walk the aisles and look for what we need. I was surprised when I found two custom-made file cabinets in a lighter wood grain. They each had an additional pencil drawer above each of the two file drawers. They were definitely custom built for an office. I measured them and realized that they may be a better solution for my desk bottom. We purchased them and used them for my new “desk.” Storage solutions: A few years ago I found some black lateral file cabinets (formerly used for medical files) at one of my local thrift stores. The store was going to recycle them since they were taking too much floor space. I bought three of them for 24 dollars. I knew that they could be utilized as an excellent storage solution for all of our paperwork and class materials I used for The Color & Redesign Academy. The only negative was that they were black with an old brown grain print on the front facings of the drawers. I thought I would paint them later on. I decided it would be better and more attractive to find some contact or wallpaper that would be a more stylish and updated look. I found some stylish tan and white contact paper at my local big box discount store that I used to cover the drawer facings. A tip: I have sometimes seen these metal cabinets used creatively in children’s rooms. They were painted in fun and coordinating colors to match the décor, and they replaced a dresser and gave the room a more industrial vibe and better function. The pull-out drawers are a great place to store clothes, socks and linens. Closet space: I had another “opportunity” to address. I had two display and storage cabinets that I wanted to place on each side of my new desk. They fit best adjacent to the closet bi-fold doors that did not open all of the way. I decided to remove them and store them until I needed them in the future. I found a tan and white shower curtain that perfectly matched my new office colors of tan and white. I hung it on a white tension rod with silver chrome-style shower curtain hooks. Other tips: • Instead of using our closet for hanging clothes, I had my son add

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some simple shelves to go with the other readymade closet organizers that came with our home. I knew these would be great for the various storage containers Irene Woodworth’s home office was restored with the clever use of that I store items found at thrift stores, as well as some added artistic flourmy various ishes. Irene’s dog, Jack, seems to find the space comforting — and crafts and scrapbooking Irene is happy with it too. (Photo provided by Irene Woodworth) supplies in. • Think outside the box and utilize your closet as a library or an area for a simple desk if you are limited in space. It can also be used to store kids’ toys or books in some plastic bins or baskets. • “Have a place for everything and keep everything in its place.” Window treatments: We found a brushed nickel curtain rod and some tan and white damask side panels to frame the window to soften the effect of all of the hard surfaces in the room. You may opt for no window treatments. I just knew I would need some accent side panels over my window blinds. Work space: I am able to move my laptop computer off to the side and use most of my work surface on the door “desktop” when needed. I have a wonderful industrial metal table that has been great to use for making various art projects, but it was too large to fit in my floor plan. I had to figure out another solution for this space. We had a simple parson’s style table with a glass top that I have used in various locations in our home. However, when I would work on it, I would place a heavy-duty white melamine board on top of the glass. This was more durable and even extended the work surface. Another tip: You can find interesting materials at your local home improvement store. Make sure to check in the back of the store where they have damaged or imperfect wood pieces that can be cut to fit your dimensions if needed. Personalize your space: I love to work with color. I knew I would use accents of magenta and apple green in the room. I found a wonderful picture at a thrift store that included those colors and made a bold statement in my office. The storage containers and accent pieces also needed some color. I kept the office in neutral colors as a base and added various pictures and accessories that reflect my personality as accent colors to make the space coordinate. I often ask my clients, if we blindfolded one of your friends and they were taken to your space, would they know it was your home or personal space? Pet space solutions: Our little dogs, Jack and Jill, like to be as close to me as possible. I decided that we would have a space in our open closet for them to have their bed crates. They can either go in them while I work or we place a small blanket on the floor for their naptimes. Tip: A stylish and comfortable pet bed can be used instead of a blanket if your pet likes to be near you as you work. Hopefully these ideas can stimulate you to create an organized and functional office space that will meet your family’s needs.n Irene Woodworth is known as “Idaho’s Color Lady” and is founder and CEO of Redesign Boise. She is a national redesign award winner, motivational speaker, certified redesigner and color consultant, and instructor on redesign and color. She has a degree in education and interior design and has taught various decorating and color classes throughout the country. For more information, visit

Get what you want

Continued from page 9 A wonderful perk of this side business is a luxury car bonus that is provided as an incentive. This new business opened our minds to the idea of a dream car becoming a reality, so when my wife spotted a bright orange car while we were driving by an auto dealership one day, we stopped to take a look. I immediately fell in love with the metallic orange Lexus GS F. It was my ultimate dream car and I wanted it to be my wife’s too. That’s when we realized this was a brighter version of the car my wife had seen while driving over a month ago. This was her dream car as well! My wife and I now had a shared dream. It was tangible, and we completely believed we would own that car. We knew that hard work and sacrifice would be required, but when your WHY is big enough, you don’t need outside motivation. Our WHY was bigger than the work. Not missing an opportunity to teach our children a valuable lesson, we held a family meeting to share our dream with them. As expected, they were not quite as excited as we were at this point. It’s important to remember that not everyone will understand your dreams and powerful WHY. Our kids hadn’t see the car in person, sat in it, or driven it. They didn’t see the vision we did, the one of our family driving around in a new sporty luxury vehicle. Undaunted, we explained the commitment to our business that would be required for us to acquire this car. We would be engaged in more phone calls, having people over to our home, and there would be a few sacrifices involved (like missing our Tuesday night movies for a bit). We proudly posted pictures

of the car on our refrigerator, in my home office, and on the vision board in our bedroom. We spoke daily to the kids about owning the car and even named her. They saw us putting in the hours and effort to make our dream a reality. We thought it would take us a few months, and we wanted our kids to see every step along the way. After a quick six weeks, we were amazed to see that we had earned our luxury car bonus. Elated, we quickly began searching for our rare car because the one we’d seen a couple of months ago was no longer available. Our online search revealed the specific car that we wanted was sitting at a dealership in a nearby town. We excitedly signed the paperwork for our company to pay all of the payments for us. At this point in time our kids had no idea we had purchased the car. It was pure joy to surprise them by stopping by the dealership and driving our new car off the showroom floor. It is a moment that will stay with us forever. Our children will never forget the journey of deciding on our dream car, establishing a plan, and achieving that dream. Our dream is now real to them and they love our new family sports car. The name stuck and they ask to ride in her every day. They witnessed their parents modeling the value of hard work to achieve a dream in record time. They got to see us making our WHY greater than the work. n

Rocky Detwiler is the author of “The Samson Effect.” You may contact Rocky at Visit his website at www.rockydetwiler. com to download his free ebook, “5 Steps to Fit & Healthy” to help you achieve your physical goals in 2017.

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Special Needs GUIDE Advertisers in this guide are listed in bold.

SPECIFIC CHALLENGES Autism Spectrum Disorders Autism Society Treasure Valley Chapter 336-5676 Idaho Aspergers Support Groups Idaho Autism Idaho Autism Consultation (802) 233-6582 National Autism Association (877) 622-2884 Blindness/Visual Impairment Idaho Commission for the Blind and Visually Impaired (ICBVI) 334-3220 or (800) 542-8688 Idaho State Talking Book Library 334-2150 National Association for Parents of Children with Visual Impairments (800) 562-6265 Deafness/Hearing Impairment American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA) Idaho Council for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing 473-2122 Idaho Hands & Voices 869-9363 Idaho Sound Beginnings

334-0829 tabid/.../Default.aspx Idaho Speech, Language, Hearing Association, Inc. Diabetes American Diabetes Association HODIA – Idaho Diabetes Youth Programs 891-1023, ext. 0 St. Luke’s Humphreys Diabetes Center Boise, 331-1155 Meridian, 884-4220 Nampa, 463-7364 Down Syndrome National Down Syndrome Society (800) 221-4602 Treasure Valley Down Syndrome Association (TVDSA) 954-7448 Dyslexia Coopalo Learning Center 484-3816 Epilepsy Epilepsy Foundation of America (800) 332-1000 Epilepsy Foundation of Idaho 344-4340 Mental Health Idaho Federation of Families for Children’s Mental Health 433-8845 Children’s Mental Health, Idaho Department of Health and Welfare 334-0808

20 JULY 2017 | Idaho Family Magazine National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline, (800) 950-NAMI or Boise Chapter, 376-4304 or Multiple Sclerosis Utah-Southern Idaho Chapter, National Multiple Sclerosis Society 388-4253 Muscular Dystrophy Muscular Dystrophy Association of Idaho 327-0107 Idaho Elks Rehabilitation Hospital Muscular Dystrophy Association (MDA) (800) 572-1717 Serious Illness Make-A-Wish Foundation of Idaho 345-WISH (9474) Spina Bifida Spina Bifida Association of America (SBA) (202) 944-3285 St. Luke’s Children’s Specialty Center 381-7000


Adaptive Services Community Transportation Association of Idaho 344-2354 Treasure Valley Transit 463-9111

Special Needs Advocacy & Legal Services The Arc, Inc. 343-5583

Gem State Developmental Center 888-5566

Brain Injury Alliance of Idaho (BIAID) 367-2747, Helpline: (800) 444-6443

Idaho Council on Developmental Disabilities 334-2178

Disability Rights Idaho 336-5353 Idaho Parents Unlimited, Inc. (IPUL) 342-5884 or (800) 242-IPUL (4785) Idaho’s Infant Toddler Program 334-0900 or 2-1-1 (Idaho CareLine)

EDUCATION Advanced Therapy Care 898-0988 Chatter Box Speech & Language Center Boise and Nampa 898-1368 or 466-1077 Children’s Therapy & Learning Center 957-6301 Brain Balance Achievement Centers 377-3559

Idaho Department of Health and Welfare Boise: Children’s Disability Services, 334-6900 Developmental Disabilities/Infant Toddler, 334-0900 Mental Health Services, 334-0808 Caldwell/Nampa: Developmental Disabilities Program/Infant Toddler, 465-8460 Mental Health Services/Adult & Children, 459-0092 Idaho Help Idaho Lions Sight & Hearing Foundation, Inc. 338-5466 Idaho Project for Children and Youth with Deaf-Blindness 364-4012 (American Foundation for the Blind) 2-1-1 Idaho CareLine (800) 926-2588 Pediatric Rehabilitation at St. Luke’s Children

Idaho School for the Deaf and the Blind (ISDB) (208) 934-4457 (Gooding, ID) (Idaho Educational Services for the Deaf and the Blind) Idaho State Department of Education 332-6800 LearningRX Center-Boise West 258-2077

DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITY SERVICES Center on Disabilities and Human Development (CDHD) 885-6000 (University of Idaho in Moscow)

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489-5880 Saint Alphonsus Regional Medical Center Rehabilitation Services (STARS) 367-STAR (7827)

RECREATION & FITNESS Adventure Island Playground Meridian’s Settlers Park

ADAPTIVE RECREATION SERVICES AdVenture Program, Boise Parks & Recreation 608-7680 Idaho Cheer & Dance, Wings Center 376-3641, ext. 210 Special Olympics Idaho 323-0482 Recreation Unlimited 672-1500 Treasure Valley YMCA Caldwell Family YMCA, 454-9622 Downtown Family YMCA, 344-5501 Homecourt Y, 855-5711 West Family YMCA, 377-9622

SUPPORT Idaho Association for Infant & Early Childhood Mental Health (or Aim EarlyIdaho) Idaho Parents Unlimited 342-5884 Easter Seals 322.9675 UnBefuddled LLC 466-3900

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Special Needs TREATMENT SERVICES Brain Balance Achievement Centers 377-3559 Chatterbox Pediatric Therapy Center – Boise / Nampa 898-1368 or 466-1077 Children’s Therapy Place Locations in Boise, Nampa, Emmett 323-8888 Community Connections, Inc. Boise, 377-9814 Nampa, 475-4236 Community Partnerships of Idaho, Inc. 376-4999 (Main Office) Kaleidoscope Pediatric

Therapy 375-4200 kaleidoscopepediatrictherapy. com Mini Joys, Inc. 830-3227 Ride for Joy Therapeutic Riding Program 365-0671 (Emmett) VSA Arts of Idaho (Very Special Arts) 342-5884 Warm Springs Counseling Center (WSCC) East Copper Point Drive – 855-0407 South Millennium Way – 343-7797

Advanced Therapy Care 898-0988 Living Independently Forever, Inc. 888-0076 Safe Kids Treasure Valley & Safe Kids Worldwide Strickland Ear Clinic 375-4327 Tomorrow’s Hope Boise, 319-0760 Meridian, 888-4923 St. Luke’s-Elks Rehab 336-0312


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