If you are still not convinced, do not blame him but yourself, for being hard-hearted and unjust, and say to yourself, "Your brother had seventy reasons for the mistake that he had made but you did not accept any one of them". And if your brother himself presents any excuse, accept it. Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam has said that one of the qualities of a Momin is that if he gets angry, he soon gets rid of his anger. Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam did not say that one should not get angry but that the anger must disappear soon. Imaam Shafa’i Rahmatullah alaihe has said that a person who does not show anger when provoked is like an ass, while one is like Shaitan if his anger is not pacified when he is approached. That is why Allah Ta’ala Shanohu has said, "Those who control their wrath", and not those who do not get angry. (Ihya). Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam has said that when a person is capable of satisfying his anger but, instead, subdues it, Allah Ta’ala grants him peace of mind and ‘Imaan’. (Durre Manthur). Patience in the state of helplessness is common, virtue lies in showing patience when in authority. One Hadith says that nothing which is swallowed is more valuable to Allah Ta’ala than the anger swallowed by a man; and Allah Ta’ala Shanohu fills such a person with Imaan. Another Hadith says that when a person suppresses his anger although he is in power, he will be called forward on the Day of Judgement and, in the presence of all, told to select a Houri for himself. Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam has said that a truly brave person is not one who throws someone on his back but he who overpowers his own wrath. A slave-girl of Ali Rahmathullah alaihe Ibne Imaam Hussain Radhiallaho anho, when helping him to perform wudhu, dropped the water-pot injuring his face. When Ali looked at her angrily, she said, Allah Ta’ala has stated: "And those who control their anger" Ali Rahmathullah alaihe thereupon suppressed his anger, on which she recited, "And are forgiving towards mankind." He said to her, "May Allah Ta’ala forgive you." She then recited: "Allah loves the Charitable." Thereupon he said, "You are a free woman." Once a slave of Ali Rahmathullah alaihe, while carrying a bowl full of hot meat for a guest, accidentally dropped the bowl on the head of Ali’s son and the child died. Ali Rahmathullah alaihe told the slave that he was a free man and could go away, while he himself got busy with the burial of his infant son. (Raudh). 13. They only are the (true) believers whose hearts are full of fear when Allah is mentioned and when Ayaat are recited unto them they increase their faith, and who trust in their Lord. Who establish regular Salaat and spend of that we have bestowed on them. Such are the true believers; for them are positions of honour with their Lord, and pardon and a beautiful provision. (al-Anfaal: 2-4) Note: Abu Darda Radhiallaho anho has said that an awe-stricken heart is like the dry leafage of date-palm catching fire! Then he addresses his pupil Shahr Ibne Haushah, and asked him if he understood shivering of the body. The pupil replied that he did. Abu Darda Radhiallaho anho then said that such was the time to make Du’aa which would be accepted. Thabit Banani Rahmatullah alaihe has related that a pious man once said that he could tell which Du’aa of his was accepted and which one was rejected. People enquired as to how that was. He explained that when his body shivered, his heart was filled with awe and his eyes shed tears, that was the moment when Dua’a was accepted. Suddi Rahmatullah alaihe has said, ‘In the above Ayat the meaning of ‘when Allah is mentioned’ is to tell a person, ‘Fear Allah’ at the time when he is bent upon inflicting cruelty on someone or is about to indulge in a sin; his heart should then be filled with fear of Allah!" Harith ibne Malik Ansaari Radhiallaho anho, a Sahabi, was in the company of Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam who asked him, "How are you?" He replied, "O Rasulullah, I have become a true Momin".
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