TURNED OFF BY TOO NICE!
I am not an advocate for dating any man just because he’s nice to you. “Nice” is the bare minimum when it comes to relationship compatibility, and I don’t think any woman owes a man her attention just because he consistently does sweet things. But I will say that when we have been in continuously unhealthy or abusive relationships, and the thought of someone “too nice” or “too considerate” completely turns you off or makes you downright sick…you have to consider where that’s coming from. According to Dr Amir Levine, author of Attached, based on how we were treated by family members or past lovers, we develop attachment styles that can shape who we are attracted to. He outlines the three attachment styles as anxious, avoidant or secure. Here’s is how Levine outlines the three attachment styles, according to a Vice report. Secure: feels comfortable with intimacy and are warm and loving. Anxious: craves intimacy, often preoccupied with relationships and longs to get closer with their partner.
