J read every email, and keep up-to-date with every news story that breaks in a day; it’s about actively celebrating and savouring the moments where things are still. It’s reconnecting to, and syncing up with, our needs, and developing a deeper understanding of what works for us. And it’s something we all need to work on. “JOMO reconnects us with ourselves. We’re all guilty of not doing this enough,” says Rav. “We can get caught up in life, and it takes its toll on our
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wellbeing. The concept of JOMO counteracts all of that, it puts you back in control. It could be anything that you enjoy, but it must be for you, and nobody else. “Accept that you can’t always attend every event, and that’s OK. It’s unrealistic to put this expectation on yourself to always be present when such things occur.” The guilt and anxiety that comes with FOMO is real, and it’s naive to think that it will disappear just because we know it’s illogical; of all the
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things that anxiety is, it’s rarely logical. So start slow. Write-off an hour a week to spend on you, and go from there. You don’t need to go full-hermit, it’s about identifying when you need a break to stay in, switch off, and enjoy some quality you-time. For Rav, JOMO is intrinsically tied up with our self-worth: “You are important and your wellbeing is important; by making the time for yourself, you are affirming this: ‘I am important and so too is my wellbeing. This time is for me and I deserve it.’”
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