Ask the experts Hypnotherapist Caroline Silvestre answers your questions on coping with a breakup Read more about Caroline Silvestre on hypnotherapy-directory.org.uk
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I’ve recently gone through a breakup and I’m finding it hard to move on. What steps can I take to do this? Truly moving on from a breakup means feeling independent, optimistic, and free from resentment. Giving time to a relationship, only to see it end, can make us want to hold on to something – sometimes anger. Anger keeps sadness away, so it’s easy to hold on to it instead of allowing ourselves to grieve and accept it’s over. Carrying anger from one relationship to the next can prevent us from fully opening up, and enjoying a new start. Practising detachment and compassion through meditation can be helpful. Pursuing activities that you enjoy may also help to increase feelings of self-efficacy and self-sufficiency. Educating yourself in relationship dynamics, by reading or seeking talking therapy, can help you process the loss, and turn it into an opportunity for self-development.
A friend recommended hypnotherapy to help me get over my breakup – how does it work?
Hypnotherapy is an effective method that greatly complements talking therapies, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). By applying special visualisation and relaxation techniques, hypnosis promotes a state of calm, relaxation, and focus,
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I’m struggling with jealousy in my new relationship. Can hypnotherapy help?
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Hypnosis can help by first regulating the nervous system to a more relaxed state, where we can identify the source of jealousy. With the guidance of a therapist, and clear thinking, we can unpack the thoughts, feelings, and trigger events.
reducing stress hormones, enabling clear and logical thinking, and promoting future planning. Hypnosis harnesses the power of imagination, enabling us to visualise our goals and contemplate possibilities. This exercise helps make plans more actionable and realistic, leaving us inspired and uplifted. Hypnosis also enables imaginal exposure, which is the practice of rehearsing scenarios carefully in our minds.
Clear thinking is essential as jealousy can cause paranoia. Is the threat real or imagined? The first thing is to understand your fears, your relationship dynamics, and examine the situation from a place of calm and logic. With hypnosis, we can work to desensitise the fears linked to jealousy. If jealousy is justified, we must address it as we all deserve to be in a relationship based on trust and shared values.
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