Chronicle Pepperpot May 3, 2015
LOOKING FOR AN EXCUSE
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Dear Wayne and Tamara, t was a normal Saturday and my boyfriend was playing on my cell phone. So I grabbed his phone and as I did, a flirty text appeared from another woman. I was in complete shock. I asked him who the woman was and he said she was someone he dated the weather. I could talk to my family about it, but they like my boyfriend, and if I back in tell them what happened, they will not trust him again. college. On ocI know he made a mistake. I know deep in my heart he is very sorry. I don't want casion, he said, to be angry and resentful anymore at all. I want to trust him again, but I just can't. they still speak, and on occasion AMBER "she likes to flirt." I told him I did not find that acceptable. I asked if he When ‘Iago’, one of Shakespeare's villains, says "oft my jealousy flirted back and shapes faults that are not," is he describing you? We ask because the he admitted he evidence against your boyfriend is weak. One flirty text is bantering, did. I asked if not betrayal. he ever did anyIn the absence of established ground rules between the two of you, thing sexual with this doesn't constitute a violation. Or is this where you are coming her behind my from? Holding this over his head makes you feel superior. Henceforth, back. He swore he never did in the two years we've been together. you can carry him around like a dog with a bone in its mouth. To make a long story short, there was a huge confrontation. I threatened to leave him People are not bones. We would not subject him to your suspicious and move back home with my parents. He begged me not to go. He was apologetic and gaze for the rest of his life. Unless you can accept his explanation this even cried. In front of me he told her not to contact him again and she agreed. time, end the relationship. I forgave him, but now I'm having a hard time trusting him. Whenever I see him texting, I wonder who it's with. I have an urge to check his phone whenever he steps away. WAYNE & TAMARA In October we moved in together. I agreed to stay because I love him, but there are days I want to jump in my car, drive away and never look back. My emotions are like
Dear Amber,
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Dear Wayne & Tamara,
y fiancé and I are getting married this year. My future sister-in-law just told me she slept with her brother's (my fiancé's) best friend who is also our best man. Our best man is married and not only married, but married to a woman who is one of our close friends. She was in a relationship when she did this, and not only did they sleep together, they slept together several times. His wife and I are close friends, and she disclosed to me that her doctor told her that her husband, our best man, gave her an STD! Genital warts! I feel I should tell my fiancé what his sister and best man are up to, but I also feel it could be a Very Bad Idea! My sister-in-law swore me to secrecy. I told her I wouldn't tell, but it's driving me crazy. What should I do? PAM
“The problem with being best man at a wedding is that you never get a chance to prove it.” Dear Pam, Your fiancé's sister gave you a wedding gift: she made you an accomplice to adultery. Having compromised her own ethics, she wants to compromise yours as well. But when she's found out, what will pop out of her mouth? Pam knew. She will deflect as much blame on you as she can. She got to unburden her soul and what did you get? Nothing. Nothing from nothing is nothing. Go ahead and tell.