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ome professionals will tell you that maintaining a longterm relationship is as easy as following a few simple steps. On the other hand, I believe that keeping the spark alive in a monogamous, enduring relationship is hard work. Let’s face it, anything that is valuable, precious and rare does not come easily. So, if you want a quick fix for your relationship, this might be a difficult thought to ponder. However, if you are prepared to put in some effort and be intentional about your relationship, this is an article that can be helpful for you and your partner… because keeping the spark alive in your relationship is so vital. One of the key strategies that can help relationships keep the spark alive is to plan intentional time with one another. This sounds like a simple strategy, but life gets busy and one of the first sacrifices that couples often make is ‘date time’. Here’s a link to some apps for suggestions and questions for ‘date night’.
Anything that is valuable, precious & rare does not come easily.
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Think back to your first few months together with your partner and imagine the amount of time and effort you put into your relationship. Of course, circumstances will have changed over the years however, healthy relationships thrive with one-on-one ‘intentional’ time. I use the word ‘intentional’ because, this doesn’t just happen. It is important to make an agreement with your partner to spend at least one night a week where your relationship is the focus. You can incorporate many themes to your weekly meeting depending on what you both want. It can be as simple as lighting a few candles and playing some soft music while you share a meal together. If you want to go deeper you could ask each other questions that perhaps you don’t talk about in the daily humdrum of life; hidden aspirations, things that make you cry, people you admire, regrets and fears. This fantastic little book of questions will give you some ideas. The reason for these questions is to let your partner in and to see deeply into you. You could also use your weekly meeting for something fun and light-hearted. Research claims that happy couples tend to laugh together more often, so it doesn’t always have to be deep and profound. Go bowling, take a hand-in-hand walk around the block; be adventurous and spontaneous. The idea is to connect intentionally and say, ‘our relationship is important and we recognise that it takes time and effort, so we want to do this together.’ Some people might be thinking that it can’t be done when kids are involved, careers are demanding and GREAT HEALTH GUIDE | 63