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Why do men cheat? Is it insecurity? Can therapy help? It really isn’t accurate to make the generalization that all men cheat. Multiple studies demonstrate that women cheat frequently, as well. There are many reasons a person may go outside of a relationship, but each case should be examAmy Kesner, PhD, ined independently. Consider that if you enter a relationship assuming it will end LPC, LADC badly, you may, albeit not purposely, be self-sabotaging. When a person works on themselves to gain happiness, confidence, self-esteem and self-value, that person attracts more positive people. Again, multiple studies and research has shown that people are attracted to confidence more than physical attractiveness. Therapy should focus more on understanding self and building up the positive qualities to increase security. When individuals feel secure and confident, they do not have a need to be validated by relationships. Unlike the line in Jerry Maguire, “You complete me,” we should complement each other. Healthy relationships are possible, and not all men cheat. Work on becoming the person you want to be so that you can attract the right person for you.
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HOSPICE CARE My father has cancer and has taken a turn for the worse. The diagnosis is not good. How can I know if he is ready for hospice care? There are Medicare regulations in place to help physicians determine if a patient qualifies for hospice care. First, a person must have a life-limiting illness and Ava Hancock a prognosis of six months or less left to live. Two physicians must make this determination and certify in writing. At Grace Hospice, one of our registered nurses would evaluate your father, following Medicare’s guidelines. If it is determined that a patient is eligible, that person may elect to use his or her hospice benefit. At Grace Hospice, we provide care during the course of the disease and also provide support to the family throughout the duration of care and for a 13-month period of bereavement after the death.
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Vinegar is the must-have home cleaning product. It has countless uses around the house and the smell is only temporary but the results and uses are many. Vinegar can remove Amy Bates water deposit buildup on shower heads by simply soaking the showerhead in vinegar overnight. Use vinegar to descale your coffee maker and remove coffee stains from the pot. Along with a grout brush, use vinegar to remove mineral deposits from around the faucet. Add it to your washing machine loads to get rid of foul odors that may be lingering in dirty socks. Combine vinegar with water to clean windows and mirrors, and add a small amount to mop water to clean flooring surfaces. Vinegar is a green product and a pet and family safe cleaner.
One misunderstanding that most guys have is that if it’s high-end or designer, then it’s a perfect fit. Not every guy can wear Tom Ford like Daniel Craig or can fit into an Armani suit as nicely as Autumn Pohl George Clooney. The key to these famous looks is that it was made specifically for their bodies. Guys are missing this key element, and J.Hilburn has been the greatest solution. Why spend hundreds, if not thousands, on designer names that don’t quite fit your body correctly? Spend less on the name and get more from the product. When it comes down to it, guys don’t ask other guys, “Hey man, who are you wearing?” They want to know why and how you look that good in whatever it is that your wearing, whether it be a tuxedo at a gala or your fitted jeans and cool sports coat to the yacht club.
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Is there a sexual obligation in relationships? Feeling obligated to have sex with a partner to relieve stress in a relationship may create pressure or resentment. This can also cause levels of intimacy to drop, create communication barriers and divide sexual and emotional expectations. Courtney Linsen- Feeling responsible for your partner’s meyer-O’Brien, happiness or feeling obligated to placate PhD, LPC, MHR to their sexual agenda is exhausting and only leads to relational opposition in and out of the bedroom. Learning to communicate different understandings of intimacy and sexual needs is important in order to feel mutual investments of both are being met, and to assure that reciprocity is being made by both people.
Courtney Linsenmeyer-O’Brien, PhD, LPC, MHR 1723 E. 15th St., Suite 250 Tulsa, OK 74104 918.639.0570 www.drcourtneyobrien.com drobrien@drcourtneyobrien.com FEBRUARY 2014 | WWW.OKMAG.COM
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