SATURDAY, November 3, 2012
the Garden City Telegram
Mom wants to reconnect with son DEAR ANNIE: My son’s father, “Joe,” and I divorced when “Bobby” was very young. Joe remarried and moved to another state. When Bobby was 11, I thought it best for him to go live with his dad so he could have a male role model. Joe was always a good father, just a lousy husband. Despite financial hardship, I eventually moved to the same state. The problem was Joe’s wife. She did everything possible to interfere with my relationship with Bobby, including intercepting phone messages and opening his mail, not giving my name to the school as an emergency contact, giving me false information about Bobby’s schedule, and blatantly lying to Joe about everything she and I discussed. Worse, she told Bobby I didn’t care about him. The last time I heard Bobby’s voice was a message he left on Mother’s Day five years ago. The last time I saw him was at his high school graduation, after which he and his father and stepmother moved to another state where Bobby started col-
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lege. I have tried to contact him multiple times, to no avail. I believe he has since discovered the truth, but has not yet called me. At this point, I think he’s just embarrassed. But I need him to know something: There is nothing he could do or say that would make me love him less. He is my son. I love him and I miss him. There will be no blame. All he has to do is walk through the front door and say, “Mom, what’s for dinner?” — Waiting Patiently Dear Waiting: We hope he sees this and will do just that. Meanwhile, please call Joe directly and ask him to tell Bobby that you love him and miss him. DEAR ANNIE: For anyone who is having difficulty with their student loans, please tell them to check the website ibrinfo. org. It lets you know your rights and explains the
ways to lower payments. It also informs debtors about legislation that affects them. — Jacksonville, Fla. D ear Jacksonville: Thank you for this useful information. It’s not for everyone, but it’s worth looking into. DEAR ANNIE: “Tired in Toutle” was frustrated with dinner guests who stay too long. The best line I’ve ever heard to get guests to leave is: “Come on, Mother, let’s go to bed so these nice folks can go home” — Sarasota, Fla. Dear Sarasota: That line was the one the vast majority of our readers suggested. We like it. Here’s more: From Florida: Years ago, we had a party, and a few guests were still hanging around at 4 a.m. My husband and I kept looking at each other wondering how to get them to leave. He disappeared and came out brushing his teeth. Hint taken and they left. We laughed about it for a long time. Boston: Perhaps instead of two hours of conversation before dinner, she should try a half-hour of pre-dinner
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talk, allowing time for a relaxed and enjoyable conversation afterward. Most people are not inclined to “eat and run.” In fact, the guests may want to leave as badly as the hostess seems to want them to, but leaving immediately after dinner seems rude. New York: We have a friend who, when it’s time to leave, takes off her earrings. This has always been a joke among her friends, but it’s effective. Texas: She should do like my late grandfather. If someone stayed past Grandpa’s bedtime, he would take off his shoes and tell my grandmother, “If they’re gonna be here all night, better make up a pallet for them on the floor.” That usually made the guests leave within a few minutes. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.
Stocking up on supplies for the next stage of life Dear Heloise: When my nephew graduated from high school and I knew he was going to college, I showed up at the party with a a fishing tackle box. (He did not like to fish.) In the tackle box, I had a hammer, several sizes of nails, a pair of pliers, a multihead screwdriver, a measuring tape and lots of screws and stick-up hangers. I also had paper clips and various paper fasteners. I threw in a few sewing supplies from my sewing room, too. When I know there is a graduation coming up, I look for items to put in the next fishing tackle box. It’s a hit every time. — Diane S., Toronto, Ohio
Pet pal Dear Readers: Dave and Denise Harner
of Swea City, Iowa, sent a photo of their female yellow Labrador retriever, Nuggie. In the photo, Nuggie looks like she is winking at the camera. To see Nuggie, visit w w w. H e l o i s e . com and click on “Pets.” — Heloise
Dirt versus soil D ear Heloise: Regarding your tips on starting seedlings: You don’t plant seeds in dirt; you plant them in soil. Dirt is the stuff you get on your hands or clothes, and that you use soap and water to get rid of ! — Julian H., via email This is a great point,
Julian! Most of us refer to them as one and the same, but technically there is a difference. Soil is the earth and what we walk on. Dirt is what’s scooped up, or all that stuff on our shoes and hands. When planting seedlings, it is best to first place the small sprouts in planters or peat pots filled with nutrient-rich “dirt” before transplanting them into the ground or soil. Happy gardening! — Heloise
Makeup foundation Dear Heloise: I use a foundation that is dispensed with a pump. When
it won’t pump anymore, there’s still a lot of product in the bottle. I remove the pump tube and instead reach in with a cotton swab and apply with my fingertips from that. I get at least another week of makeup from the “empty” container. — Cheryl B., via email
Extra bags at hand Dear Heloise: You have saved me many, many miles with the suggestion that we put our new trash bags in the bottom of our kitchen trash container. I usually put at least 10 new bags in the bottom of the container. Just think of the many steps I have saved. I have been doing this for many years. Thank you for this simple idea. — Peggy R., Sudan, Texas
Transforming instant gratification into lifelong happiness W
hen The Black Eyed Peas sing “Someday,” they’re crooning an anthem for immediate gratification: “I don’t want it someday; I don’t want it one day; Gotta have it somehow; I want it right now.” Our fast-food, living-off-credit culture has turned up the volume on what-I-want-I-want-now! And kids and adults who opt for immediate gratification often are obese and have to deal with what that leads to: diabetes, heart dis-
ease, cancer, Alzheimer’s disease and more. But you don’t have to get hooked on that feeling, or suffer the health repercussions that go along with it. So here’s our step-bystep guide to taking the long view — and dodging the health problems of immediate gratification. You’ll be surprised how much willpower you can exert and how the rewards will last a lifetime. 1. Choose a mantra that moves you. To stop your-
self from automatically grabbing a cookie, or opting for couch-potato land, come up with an inspiring motto to say out loud when temptation hits. Try: “I can feel better,” or “I am not going to do that today; instead, I’ll take a walk.” Then take a walk outdoors — 30-60 minutes will transform your attitude and banish cravings. 2. Set a realistic goal that will make you happy. Maybe it’s to lose 10 pounds; stop smoking; or
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