my tongue. I could barely let water trickle down my throat. I could not eat for weeks. I had an ileostomy bag hanging off my belly on the right side. That’s when the relationship became a new thing. Randy became my caregiver, my nurse, my housekeeper, chauffeur and cook. He got me to doctors and hospitals and did everything for me. My illness lasted 4 years and continues to be problematic as I had a recurrence in 2014 and had to have a partial right lung removal in 2015. He was there for it all. He was still there hanging in with me when others had left my life because they could not cope with my cancer. I realized then I had very deep feelings for him and never could be without him. I realized too he had been in love with me the entire time. So Poopmuch so he came into an inheritance and spent nearly the entire sum on taking me back to my home state of Washington from Ohio and bought property there we loved, put a new home on it because he wanted me to be where I always was happy and where my heart was for as long as I have left. How can you not love him for selflessly doing that? WHAT DO YOU LOVE THE MOST ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE? I love that Randy taught me how to have fun and let myself enjoy life. I was always so serious and responsible, which in and of themselves were fine traits to possess, I did not know life could be wild and crazy fun too. Randy says I am caring, loving and always is able to work things out no matter what, even when we don’t agree. He says also that his life is full now that we are completely committed. DESCRIBE YOUR WEDDING DAY: our wedding day was in the planning stage for ten months. Most done by internet from Ohio planning everything 2500 miles away. It was just as I had imagined in those early
stages. I had two planners that did not share my vision, so I let them go and did the whole thing DIY. I had a very intimate group of close family and friends from all over the US. We both had the best day ever. WHAT WAS YOUR FAVORITE PART? Our favorite part was our dear friend, Doreen Morris, got her credentials to officiate our marriage. She supported us from day one and said if it ever became legal for same sex marriage and we ever decided to take the step, she wanted to unite us. Unite us she did in such a beautifully done way. WERE THERE ANY SURPRISES (GOOD OR BAD) THAT HAPPENED? I wanted an outdoor wedding and an indoor reception. French Creek Manor was perfect. An cont. on page 134 gayweddingsmag.com / GWM 97