Going Deep

GALS is a group for growing, learning, and having fun together. We want to uplift, empower, and encourage women from ALL walks-of-life. We will always strive to be a safe place for any woman who wants to be here.

As Kandie King took over our publication: For GALS by GALS, we began to have the conversation of how we allow for a space that isn’t always 100% upbeat all the time. How do we let women show their journeys, even when the road is tough?

I have been watching Kandie and her journey over the last year and a half or so, seeing her authentic openness, and sometimes it was very raw, and I remember when we first started talking about whether or not GALS would be a fit for her. She did have worries about not fitting in, or as she says, “being the black sheep,” but I felt like the things that made her feel like a black sheep were the very reasons we needed her here. I feel like we can try to uplift and encourage, but if we do not ever talk about the hard stuff, we can only go so far. To really, truly go where we want or need to go, we must talk about the things that we might not want to talk about. I want to be able to work with women where they are at and for many that is at a place where they have been through some very difficult things. Regardless of whether they are things that were done to them, or bad decisions that had bad consequences, we do not ever want to turn away from the beauty that comes along with processing those hard times. We have been working on where Kandie felt like she fits in, and she has made it clear that right now she doesn’t really want to be in the forefront, and she has a passion for writing and encouraging other women to process through writing, which led to her being our Publication Director. Kandie is going to be starting a wonderful segment in the publication called Going Deep, where she will be sharing different topics, and will also be encouraging you to work through things, using writing prompts. She did this interview with me to share a bit about her story and to kick-it-off with excellence. Our next publication comes out September 1 st , and you will see that she puts a lot of time, energy and creativity into it. I hugely appreciate everything that she does and am so excited to see this department grow as we grow. I know her work in this is going to propel us greatly into where we need to go in the future. Check out our interview HERE.

With love, Myhriah

When the waters rush to the shore and the sand tumbles in the current, I wonder if the sand misses being a bolder. “Are you the rock or the river?” is something my mother often said to me. Truth is sometimes I’m the rock and sometimes I am the river. And every so often I find myself being the tumbled sand. Sometimes I’m as still as a lake, and sometimes I am like the rapids on the Snake River. The trick is knowing when to become the rock or the river. ~Kandie

I wrote these thoughts months ago before Myhriah asked me to do this piece in the publication. While we were talking about Going Deep this piece of work highlighted in my memory. Then came weeks of deciding if I wanted to share such an intimate piece. A piece of writing that I wrote without the expectation of sharing it with anyone.

I urge you to read that first paragraph again and then answer these questions for yourself. 1. Where do I show up in my life as the rock? How am I unwilling to bend or compromise? 2. Where do I feel small in my life? Am I okay with this feeling? 3. Can you always be the river and be happy? I define being the river as always just going with the flow. Start with these questions and see what additional questions come up for you. Write about whatever comes to mind. Don’t fret, there are no right or wrong answers here. We all have different strengths and weaknesses and this exercise isn’t intended to result in self-judgement . The intention behind this exercise is for you to define your truth and see where you might like to change somethings and, most importantly, what you are already rockin’ for yourself! ~Kandie