So You Want To Be A… Confidence Coach?
Ashleigh Frater is a Confidence Coach based in Dartford, UK. She supports introverts, especially women, to find their ‘quiet power’ and get ahead in life.
What do you do?
I’m a confidence coach. I help people, mostly women, feel more confident being visible at work and online. I especially enjoy working with introverts. Why introverts, specifically?
Because I am one! We introverts sometimes dilute ourselves or try to be something we’re not. In an extroverted world, it can feel like the bigger and bolder you are, the more you get ahead. Introverts can network, speak in public and do all the extroverted things. But at their core, they’re introverted. Confidence coaching is about embracing that side of you. Don’t dismiss it, then burn yourself out because that’s what happens when you try to be someone you’re not. You say you want to help people embrace their ‘quiet power’. What do you mean by that?
I believe all of us, especially introverts, have strengths and qualities that are overlooked. I don’t have a ‘hard’ skill. I have a lot of soft skills. For example, I don’t feel I’m good at writing, but people are drawn to my energy. We’re conditioned to think we need hard skills like writing or sales, and we dismiss the quiet stuff. But actually, that’s where the power is. How did you become a Confidence Coach?
I was always the smallest person in the room. It felt like no one saw or heard me. When people say “you need to speak up” or “you’re not assertive enough”, those tiny 20
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