w This experience taught me something valuable about fear and its powerful inherent ability to motivate. It was not the pleasure of completing her goals that lead to her success. It was the fear of pain. In this case, the pain of not getting school clothes was a bigger motivator than anything else. This was a revolutionary find for me and here’s why.
THE REAL TRUTH BEHIND SUCCESS
The truth is this : People are driven by fear of what they don’t want. In many cases, this fear is more powerful and compelling than the thoughts of what they do want. Knowing what you want, thinking “positive” and focusing on your desired results are all important and necessary parts of the puzzle. But there is a bigger game to be played and once we know the rules we can play at a higher level. What struck me about this motivating fear, was how resourceful Rylee got as soon as the threat became real. Understanding that your own fears can play a huge part in driving you to take action is a valuable distinction that can separate you from the rest. Once you understand this, you can use this motivation strategy to be proactive and force yourself to take the action necessary to get you to where you want to go. If you see any successful person, it is because they got themselves to ACT, when others wouldn’t. Everyone wants to be happy, financially comfortable, love their job, drive a nice car, e.t.c. So, why is there such a small percentage of people actually doing, being and having what they dream? It’s because they used their own personal resources to take massive action when others did not. On a very micro level, they knew what had to get done and had enough awareness and honesty to recognize what holds them back. Many times its complacency, excuses, fear of failure and an overall mediocre mindset, all which are enemies of success.
THE FEAR FACTOR TECHNIQUE:
You are closer to these dreams than you think, but you must have a strategy to act consistently. Follow this 5-step plan to help you overcome the excuses and to take the steps necessary to utilize fear as a motivating factor and to ACT. 3. Feel The Pleasure: Envision the pleasure of your end game results • How will you feel after having taken this action? 1. Keep It Real: Identify what needs to change • What is the best possible scenario? • How can this action set off a positive domino effect in • What has been your excuse or rationale for not doing other areas of your life? it? • What have you been telling yourself and others as the 4. Plan & Commit: Identify the steps needed to make an reason why you can’t do this, or won’t? action plan 2. Feel The Pain: Imagine the pain of not taking action • What resources can you use to get this done? • What will it look like if you continue to tell this same • How can you make it easier and faster to accomplish? story, for the next 60 days? The next year? 5 years? How does it feel to have not taken action? • Who can you commit this goal to in order to raise the • If you were watching yourself in a movie, what words stakes? would you use to describe your character? 5. Do It: Stop talking and planning and just do it
Five step action Plan
THE BOTTOM LINE Take what you know you need to do and make the pain of NOT doing it very real. Exaggerate it. Experience it. Give yourself a shot of this reality in advance, then use this powerful motivator to move towards what you DO want. The power is within you. It’s always been there. Don’t let your ’story’ keep you from living the life you want to live. Commit to taking action. That means using your pain to drive you towards real action, while others make excuses and rationalize. Be the person that your future self would be proud of.