scars BY Lissa Deonarain
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100 white scars of all sizes and shapes occupy the majority of my forearms,
overlapping and pronounced against my brown skin. All of these are from self-harm. For the last decade, my self-harm scars have been part of my body. In the sixth grade, I began self-harming to cope with my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Soon, my OCD was accompanied by depression and anxiety. In high school, it got extreme. I wore bracelets up to my elbows, bandanas tied to my forearms or long sleeves every day. I managed to somehow hide this secret from family and friends until I finally landed in a psychiatric hospital in Iowa at three in the morning. This is where I began my long, rough journey to recovery. When I came back to school, I saw no point in hiding my scars anymore. I knew my scars were not considered “normal.” Just looking at them, you can tell that they were intentional. However, until I started exposing my arms, I had no idea how big of a deal they would be to other people. People would stare when I first met them, some of them even asking what happened. Sometimes I would answer truthfully and watch their eyes grow uncomfortable. Sometimes I would create a different story. In high school, I worked at a summer camp. My campers would ask me about my scars and I would tell them, “I fought a tiger!” I felt conflicted about lying to my campers, but how was I supposed to broach the subject with eight-year-olds? The one question I am most tired of, the question my parents never fail to ask each time I see one of them, is: “Have you thought about trying to do anything about your scars?” The answer has always been no. I can honestly say, not once has the thought ever crossed my mind that I should try to fade or get rid of my scars. It’s not for some cliché reason like saying they “tell a story” or “remind me of overcoming.” It’s simply because I just don’t care. They are not hindering any part of my life. They are just another part of my body. Recently, however, I’ve noticed I don’t feel the same about other marks on my body.
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