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Raising Feminist Sons As the daughter of feminist parents I knew that my children, whatever gender, would be raised as feminists by myself and my husband. I hoped they would believe in, practise and advocate for equality for both sexes, and with our guidance, feel free to play, be and behave in a way that supported and empowered others, and women, in particular, who are living in an otherwise limiting and biased patriarchal society.
Don't Wrap Them in Cotton Wool
It's an ongoing challenge to raise feminist sons, particularly when your boy’s fellow classmates chastise him for liking non-traditional colours and not liking football. I've had to navigate some tricky waters. For me, it's about making mindful choices and exposing my kids to children and experiences that will be eye-opening for them.
Watch your Language
Here are my top 5 tips for raising feminist sons.
Don't Underestimate your Children
Start Early Don't be swayed by gender specific everything. Just because you have a boy or girl, doesn't mean anything/everything has to be blue/pink respectively - there are some beautifully vibrant non-gender specific clothes available. Try and opt for gender-free toys/books where possible and ones with strong female characters. As they get older, films like Horrible Histories the Movie, Moana and Brave teach children that they can do and be whoever they want and gender doesn't pose limitations on ambition and strength.
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It's hard not to mollycoddle your kids. The world can sometimes be scary but I refuse to raise children who are fearful of life. I want them to take calculated risks. No doubt preventing girls from being as adventurous as boys leads to fewer risk-takers and ultimately leaders. Equally, don't pressurise boys to seek out adventure and take on riskier tasks or pursuits purely because of their gender. Be careful that you don't use archaic labels such as 'boys don't cry' or 'boys will be boys' to stop boys from showing emotion or to condone irresponsible behaviour. Question your own belief system and inherited, biased views. You and your partner have a huge impact on the way your children perceive the world and who they will become. They will mimic you and your values so be mindful of what you say and do. Share the load at home and explain to children about the different jobs and roles you perform. If you work, explain what that actually means. If you're a Stay at Home Mum, explain that you look after your children so that your partner can work but your job is just as important. Depending on your children's age, explain that some people choose to stay at home, others have the choice taken from them, as they are not supported by the workplace once they have children. Raising empathetic and informed children help the cause for equality. Don't underestimate your kids. Arrange Mixed Gender Parties Make a conscious effort from an early age to arrange mixed gender playdates (even if your children insist on all-boy or all-girl parties). Boys and girls understand and learn about each other from playing together. Normalise mixed gender friendships. Having children offers us the opportunity to re-evaluate our own inherited values and pre-conceived ideas so we can do and be better ourselves.
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Article by By Vicki Psarias
Vicki Psarias is a multi-award winning blogger and vlogger (www.honestmum.com) and is the author of bestselling book MUMBOSS The Honest Mum’s Guide to Surviving and Thriving At Work and at Home.
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