Thursday, July 12, 2012
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The Answer Lady
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Wise answers to perplexing questions
HE Answer Lady invites inquiries from gentle readers on all manner of relationship quandaries, matters of the heart and ethics. If you’d like to send a query, write to info@exitzero.us. Dear Answer Lady I recently — and accidentally — told my girlfriend that I love her. I mean, I think I love her, but it just kind of slipped out during an… unguarded moment. She didn’t say it back, which is fine, but now that it’s kind of out there, I’m not sure what to do about it. — Unsure Dear Unsure The Answer Lady is going to take a leap of faith that when you say this was an “unguarded moment,” it does not mean you leapt up during Open Mic Night, grabbed the microphone and announced your amour to the assembled Pilot House crowd. More likely, then, it was after she had done or said something particularly adorable, or it was after a little too much wine, or while you were in the throes of…. passion — all of which have happened to the best of us. Let us
has heard tell of instances where this has not been the case and these scenarios have not ended well). The upshot here is that she did not freak out, and either run screaming in the other direction or start planning the wedding. Let us bid our time and simply let nature takes its course. And let us stay out of Open Mic Night until you are sure.
look at this in a ‘glass half-full’ fashion, shall we? If she is in the habit of saying/doing things that are adorable to you, that is all to the good — perhaps you are falling for her after all. If you said it after too much wine, perhaps she realized that, which makes her a smart cookie, and she will only respond if and when you say it without the aid of wine. And if you said it in the throes of…. passion, the Answer Lady will take another leap of faith that you presumably at least called her by the correct name (because she
Dear Answer Lady My wife gives me a hard time because I work too much. I love my job — is that so wrong? — I’m Workin’ Over Here Dear Workin’ No, sir, it is definitely not so wrong. A bit misplaced, perhaps. The Answer Lady can attest that having a job one loves is hugely gratifying, and tremendously rewarding, and simply swell. And she knows that when work doesn’t FEEL like work, one can get carried away. But a job will not listen to you whine when you’re sick. A job will not bake brownies for you on your birthday. A job will not make love to you (presumably), all of which your wife will do (presumably). And if these examples don’t fit, insert whatever definition of “loving you back” fits you.