2016 17 Retreat Forward by Holy Family Passionist Retreat Center

Celebrating 65 Years of Retreat Ministry

2016-2017 Programs and Events

Holy Family sits on a hill in the midst of 48 secluded acres. Walking trails wind through the woods. Inside, home-cooked meals and freshly baked cookies await our guests. Come and enjoy our special Passionist hospitality that allows you to reflect, renew and rediscover the grace of God in your life. Our retreatants say that when they walk through the doors, the outside world retreats and peace and tranquility abide. We look forward to welcoming you.

Holy Family Passionist Retreat Center is a spiritual center in the Passionist tradition, open to all who seek to deepen their relationship with God and one another. We welcome men, women, and youth to weekend, day and evening retreats, and programs where they can journey with God in an atmosphere of respect and hospitality. Consistent with our tradition, we are a community that values spiritual development, the holy Word, creative ritual, and the sacred in our world.

Contents Welcome. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 65 Years of Retreat Ministry . . . . . . 2, 3 Retreat Theme and Dates . . . . . . . . . . 4 Youth Ministry . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Calendar — Sept. thru Dec. . . . . . 6–10 Prayerful Experiences . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11 Calendar — Jan. thru June. . . . . 12–13 Ways to Support Holy Family . . . 14–15 Retreat Team . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 Four Entities at Holy Family Registration Form. . . . . . . . . . . . . inside back cover

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What’s New at Holy Family Gunilla Norris . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Aerial Footage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Sculpture . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Rosary Paintings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Christian Contemplative Experience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14

Dear Friends, As I write this letter it is summertime. The pace of life is slowed, even interrupted for a few short weeks. But we’re busy here at Holy Family, as we prepare this sacred place for yet another joyous and prayerful season, number 66! It is hard to believe we are celebrating our 65th Anniversary this year! The beautiful story beginning on page 2 provides some historical significance to Holy Family, reflecting on how it all began and where we are today. We are all so blessed and grateful to be here, to be a part of your life and to minister to all those who make their way through our doors. We invite you to celebrate this important milestone with us at a special Mass in the main chapel on Sunday, September 18, at 5:00 p.m. In attendance will be some of the original members of the “Class of ’51,” honoring their time spent over the years here at Holy Family. There will also be a reception immediately following Mass. All are welcome. Our new retreat season is upon us, and we look forward to seeing all of you for your annual retreat to experience our new theme, The Light of Simplicity. Your weekend will provide an opportunity to regroup and to explore the essence of Christ’s message for us in our lives. It is time to find the hope and peace that reside in the gentle compassion of Jesus. Consider where you are on your journey right now, then take a look at the programs on the following pages and join us. Come see what’s familiar, come see what’s new. Come away and rest awhile in The Light of Simplicity.

Fr. David Cinquegrani, C.P. Retreat Director

(Left) View of the June 3, 1951 dedication looking at the monastery entrance “altar.” (Above) The Most Reverend Henry J. O’Brien officiated at the dedication of the retreat house and monastery. He is shown at the ceremony with, left to right, the Very Reverend Ernest Welch, C.P., provincial of the Passionist Eastern Province; the Most Reverend Yu-Pin, Archbishop of Nanking,China; and the Very Reverend Thaddeus Purdon, C.P., rector of the monastery.

Rev. Joseph Leo Flynn, C.P. Retreat Director 1948–1959

It’s been 65 years since the first men’s retreat was held on February 2, 1951, at our beloved Holy Family Retreat Center — 65 years of welcoming retreatants, nourishing spirits and transforming lives. Where has the time gone?

Front entrance sign circa 1951 and today’s street view with signage that includes the other three entities that call the Holy Family campus home: Copper Beech Institute, Golden Thread Gallery and Spiritual Life Center.

Retreats had been going strong in West Springfield, under the direction of Fr. Joe Leo Flynn, and now it was time for the thousands of Connecticut men attending retreats in West Springfield to have a place of their own. Construction began in 1948, after Archbishop Henry J. O’Brien invited the Passionist Fathers to establish a monastery and retreat house in Connecticut. The name Holy Family was selected, Fr. Flynn was assigned to oversee construction and also work as Holy Family’s first director. A retreat movement began on the hill at 303 Tunxis Road, under the lighted cross, that has brought hope and healing to countless men, women and youth over the decades. The objectives of retreat as stated then are still true today: to renew the vigor of Christ working within us and reveal the rewarding joy of living in friendship with Christ. The retreat offered a rare opportunity to say in peace and quiet to our Father in Heaven the things our heart most deeply feels. The original Retreat House was built to accommodate 100 men in private rooms, small by today’s standards but at the time, extremely ambitious. Such a grand scale was almost unheard of, 2

and retreat organizations throughout the country questioned the Passionist vision. But they underestimated the spirit and enthusiasm of Connecticut men, whose numbers grew and grew each year. As they did, second beds were added to rooms and other changes followed. Seminarians arrived, and outdoor stations of the cross, a grotto and pathways throughout the woods were established. A labyrinth was constructed in 2008 and is a treasured destination of many visitors. In 1986, an event occurred that would have rocked the retreat house foundation to its core back in the West Springfield days — the first women’s retreat was established! From one retreat in 1986 to six per season today, the women’s retreat movement is strong at Holy Family filling the house with a special kind of energy and vitality. Over the years, other types of retreats were also added, including the Holy Week Triduum retreat, as well as retreats for couples, teens and young adults, day and evening retreats, Christian contemplative retreats, directed retreats, retreats for religious sisters, and retreats for those in recovery from addiction.

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From 1951–1986, retreats were for men parishioners only (above). At right, participants at our 2014 teen retreat weekend.

Outside groups began using the facility — police groups, religious groups, and schools among them — and facility rental is now available for conferences, corporate retreats, wedding receptions, memorial luncheons, family reunions and other functions. And then there’s the music. If Holy Family offers any gifts to those who come on retreat, its music has got to be among the most cherished. For many, the music offered at Holy Family is one of the more moving and uplifting parts of their spiritual experience — whether at a weekend retreat, a special program for music ministers, or at the annual Easter and Christmas concerts.

No mention of music would be complete without recognizing, and paying tribute to, Holy Family’s beloved director since 1997, Fr. David Cinquegrani. As Fr. David celebrates the 20th anniversary of his ordination, he has not only upheld the Holy Family vision and ideals born 65 years ago, he has elevated them. A master composer and arranger with extraordinary musical talent that enhances the retreat experience beyond anything Fr. Flynn could have imagined, Fr. David’s hardworking drive is balanced by friendship and compassion to all. We hope someday to celebrate Fr. David’s 65th anniversary at Holy Family! For now, we joyfully celebrate 65 years of growth and greatness for our spiritual home on the hill, under the lighted cross.

As the world around us changes, it brings comfort to know that Holy Family is here for us as a consistent place for spiritual renewal.

Fr. David’s love of music continues to inspire and nurture us, as it has for the past 20 years.

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The Light of Simplicity Retreats MEN’S RETREATS Offering: $315; more if you can, less if you can’t. 2016 September 23-25 November 4-6 2017 January 13-15 January 20-22 February 3-5 February 17-19 February 24-26 March 10-12

March 17-19 March 24-26 March 31-April 2 April 7-9 May 5-7 June 9-11

WOMEN’S RETREATS Offering: $315; more if you can, less if you can’t. 2016 September 30-October 2 2017 January 6-8 January 27-29 March 3-5 April 21-23 June 2-4

COUPLES’ RETREAT Offering: $650/couple; includes Valentine’s Day dinner for the couple ($150 value) February 10-12, 2017

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2016-2017 Retreat Theme:

The Light of Simplicity Join Holy Family’s retreat team for a weekend of peace and reflection in an exploration of simplicity. In an age of stress, distraction and technology, we sometimes overlook the simple and transformative message at the heart of Jesus’ teaching. Discover how simplicity can shine a light on what is really essential and important in our lives. We’ll explore what it means to live a simple life so that we can discover true

Offering: $75 February 10-12, 2017

freedom and joy. Be renewed and

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and the gift of faith.

Offering: $150 September 30-October 2, 2016

inspired by the paradox of simplicity The retreat includes: dynamic teaching, home-cooked meals, inspirational liturgies, original music, free time to rest and walk the

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labyrinth, workshops, and healing arts therapies (additional cost). The

Offering: $175 June 16-18, 2017

retreat begins with dinner from 6:00-8:00 p.m. on Friday evening and concludes with Sunday brunch at noon. Offering: $315; more if you can, less if you can’t. The actual expense to Holy Family for hosting one person on a weekend retreat is $450, which includes items such as Holy Family’s housekeeping costs, groundskeeping, utilities, etc. We are grateful for your generous support in making your retreat offering.

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Youth Ministry Holy Family’s Youth Retreats provide our kids an opportunity to grow spiritually and deepen their understanding of our Catholic faith. Grounded in catechesis, these retreats also expand the youth’s experience of prayer. Cooperation experiences and small-group faith discussions add fun and a sense of community to the retreats. Our youth ministry programs will help your parish or school communicate the joy of faith and the beauty of a lifelong journey with God.

Sunday Youth Retreats Each year thousands of candidates for Confirmation experience a unique Sunday evening retreat to prepare them for the Sacrament. Using Holy Family’s retreat theme for the year, these energy-filled evenings include a catechetical component, a prayer experience, a cooperation activity, and a beautiful reconciliation service. A delicious dinner, prepared by our chef, is also provided.

Offering: $40/person 2016

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JANUARY 8 JANUARY 22 FEBRUARY 26 MARCH 12 MARCH 26 APRIL 2 APRIL 23

Faculty Retreats We welcome Catholic school teachers to rest, reflect, and relax here at Holy Family. On our faculty retreat days, we offer a dynamic conference to address the particular needs of working in a Catholic school environment. We also offer a variety of workshops to strengthen the retreat experience.

SEPTEMBER 30-OCTOBER 2, 2016

Young Adult Retreat THE LIGHT OF SIMPLICITY We invite men and women between the ages of 22-35 to attend this special themed weekend retreat. We will explore our theme, The Light of Simplicity, through the lens of young adulthood and its many challenges and joys. The retreat includes: dynamic teaching, homecooked meals, inspirational liturgies, original music, free time to rest and walk the labyrinth, and workshops. The retreat begins with dinner from 6:00-7:30 p.m. on Friday evening and concludes with Sunday brunch at noon.

Offering: $150/person

FEBRUARY 10-12, 2017

College Retreat

THE LIGHT OF SIMPLICITY The pace of college can often leave students with the need to rest and reflect in a sacred space. On this weekend retreat for college students, we explore the retreat season theme and offer a variety of workshops to strengthen faith through learning and small group discussion. The retreat is centered on the liturgy of the Church and enhancing the experience of community among college students. The retreat begins on Friday evening with a buffet dinner from 6:00-7:30 p.m. and concludes with Sunday brunch at noon.

Offering: $75/person JUNE 16-18, 2017

Teen Retreat This two-night retreat offers interested teens of high school age opportunities for growth in personal faith, community building and leadership training. The retreat provides a sacred and restful atmosphere to support teens in the understanding of their Catholic faith. It encourages teens to share their gifts and talents with their parishes and to be leaders in sharing their faith with others. The retreat begins on Friday evening at 7:00 p.m. and concludes with a family Mass on Sunday which begins at 11:00 a.m. Refreshments will follow.

Offering: $175/person

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Centering Prayer Faith-sharing Personal Prayer Time Labyrinth Spiritual Direction We can include other workshop options that fit the needs of a particular faculty

Offering: $35 with continental breakfast and lunch. To schedule dates that meet your school’s busy schedule or to craft a retreat experience that meets your needs, please contact Liza Peters at lpeters@holyfamilyretreat.org or 860.760.9712.

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Catholic School Days We invite Catholic school communities to experience the tranquility of this holy place. Catholic School Day Retreats include smallgroup discussion and sharing about our retreat theme, a prayer experience, Mass, lunch, and a project that can be taken home as a memento of our day together. The suggested retreat day is from 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m., or it can be shortened to fit your school’s schedule. Offering: $25 per person (includes lunch and snack) or $20 (students bring their own lunches).

2016 Calendar of Events SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 2016

SEPTEMBER 23-25, 2016

Mass for Peace

Men’s Retreat

MEMORIAL MASS FOR THE 15TH ANNIVERSARY OF SEPTEMBER 11

Holy Family Retreat Team See page 4 for details.

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Author Gunilla Norris “It has always been my understanding that when we are really present in our daily activities, our lives become more luminous, filled with love and grace.” ~ GUNILLA NORRIS

Holy Family is honored to welcome author Gunilla Norris as presenter for our Women’s Evening of Reflection in March. Gunilla will share her wisdom and grace as mother, grandmother, author and psychotherapist with a presentation entitled, “Where Kindness Begins—With You!” Purchase your favorite Gunilla book

Join us in praying for peace in our hearts and peace in the world as Holy Family commemorates the 15th anniversary of September 11. Refreshments to follow. Free-will offering. SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 17, 2016

For more musings visit www.gunillanorris.com/musings

Fr. David Cinquegrani, C.P. 10:30 A.M.–12:00 P.M.

Mike Smoolca 8:30 A.M.–12:30 P.M.

We will explore the transition from the “clear lines” of the Classical Period to the emotional and expressive Romantic Period where music and art expressed the feelings of the composers of the day and virtuoso playing was common. So much to discover and enjoy in these 6 classes! Participants do not need to have any prior musical experience. Offering: $300

In Centering Prayer Introductory workshops you’ll learn the method and principles of this prayer practice and have the opportunity to experience this ancient method in a quiet, reflective atmosphere. The workshop covers the history, psychology, and theology and includes prayer sessions along with questions and answers. Offering: $30 Mike Smoolca retired from a long career in business to focus on deepening his relationships, spirituality, teaching and service to others. Mike is a commissioned Contemplative Outreach Presenter of Centering Prayer and is a member of the leadership board for Contemplative Outreach of Boston. Mike is coordinator of the Northern CT Chapter of the International Thomas Merton Society, a practicing Spiritual Director, and a commissioned Stephen Minister. SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 2016

Open House A Taste of Holy Family & 65th Anniversary Mass 1:00–5:00 P.M. OPEN HOUSE 5:00 P.M. 65TH ANNIVERSARY MASS Come check out our 3rd annual event, as the Holy Family campus comes alive with a “taste” of each of the 4 entities that call Holy Family home. The public is invited to come sample what these great organizations have to offer. We invite you to join us for Mass at 5:00 p.m. in the main chapel to celebrate our 65th Anniversary. Reception to follow.

Discovering the Heart of Music — Part III*

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in our bookstore as the evening will conclude with a book signing.

TUESDAYS, SEPTEMBER 27, OCTOBER 4, 11, 18, 25, AND NOVEMBER 1, 2016

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*This course is part of a four-part series; attendance in prior courses is not required. TUESDAYS, SEPTEMBER 27, OCTOBER 4, 11, 18, 25, 2016

Discernment: Noticing and Responding to the Promptings of the Spirit Andree Grafstein 6:30–8:30 P.M. Discernment is an ongoing way of being on the spiritual journey as we seek to follow God’s call. It is a prayerful and thoughtful way to ponder what God’s unique invitation to each of us might be. This five-week course will offer a hands-on opportunity to learn about practices and frameworks that support and guide a good discernment process. Class size is limited to 20 so early registration is recommended. Offering: $125 Andree Grafstein, M.A., C.A.G.S., is a Roman Catholic layperson who enjoys a long interfaith marriage. Andree is an experienced spiritual director, retreat director and program presenter with thirty years of experience. She

coordinated and taught the Internship Training Program for Spiritual Directors at the Spiritual Life Center for ten years. She currently offers spiritual direction and supervision for spiritual directors in her private practice and at the Spiritual Life Center. SEPTEMBER 30-OCTOBER 2, 2016

Women’s Retreat Holy Family Retreat Team See page 4 for details.

SEPTEMBER 30-OCTOBER 2, 2016

Young Adult Weekend Retreat Holy Family Retreat Team See page 5 for details.

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 1, 2016

Contemplative Enrichment Day Meister Eckhart: Passionate for Our Awakening Dr. Rickey Cotton 9:00 A.M.–4:30 P.M. Meister Eckhart (c.1260 – c.1327) may well be the most quoted Christian mystic of our time, not only in religious contexts, but also in philosophical, literary, and historical ones. His passion that people not just believe right ideas about God, but that all of us have a deep, personal actual experience of God’s presence, led him to make dramatic poetic assertions meant to awaken the spirits of his audience to the divine. In this day we will together examine Eckhart’s fascinating life and interact with major aspects of his teaching. Offering: $65 (includes lunch) Dr. Rickey Cotton is a commissioned presenter of Centering Prayer and Lectio Divina and a member of the faculty for Contemplative Outreach’s Living Flame program. From 2003-2010, Rickey served as a member of the Leadership Team of Contemplative Outreach of Tampa Bay. He has presented workshops on contemplative prayer and our contemplative heritage around the country. His home is in Lakeland, FL, where he is Professor of English at

Southeastern University and a facilitator of Centering Prayer. He and his wife Anna are the parents of three adult daughters. THURSDAY, OCTOBER 6, 2016

Day Retreat Spirituality for the Second Half of Life Andree Grafstein 9:00 A.M.–4:00 P.M. This day retreat will explore the spirituality of the second half of life. The first half of life is a time to establish identity, learn the rules and establish a focus for family, friendships and work. The second half of life is a time when going up means going down and when mystery, wisdom and paradox bring us to a broad, inclusive and meaningful way of holding life. The day will offer time for conferences, individual reflection, group conversation, prayer and Mass. Offering: $65 (includes lunch) Andree Grafstein – see biography on page 6. TUESDAY, OCTOBER 11, 2016

Evening Retreat Faith & Politics—at Our Dinner Table? Benjamin Peters 7:00–9:00 P.M. As Catholics, we are called to actively participate in the world around us—to be “political.” But what does political activity look like in the U.S. today in the age of Trump and Clinton? What resources does our Catholic tradition provide for helping us think about engaging with U.S. society and culture? Join us as we discuss how, as Catholics, we can think about U.S. politics and the 2016 election. The evening includes light refreshments and a prayer service. Offering: $25 Benjamin Peters, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Religious Studies and Theology and the Director of the Honors Program at the University of St. Joseph. He has a Master of Divinity from University of Notre Dame and a Ph.D. in Theology from the University of Dayton. He has authored several scholarly

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articles and his book, Called to be Saints: John Hugo, The Catholic Worker, and a Theology of Radical Christianity, was just published by Marquette University Press. Before becoming a professor, Benjamin lived and worked in the St. Peter Claver Catholic Worker community in South Bend, Indiana. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 22, 2016

Day Retreat Always Our Children: Retreat Day for Gay, Lesbian and Transgendered Communities and Their Families Holy Family Retreat Team 10:00 A.M.–5:00 P.M. (includes lunch) This day retreat will be an opportunity to dialogue about the issues facing gay, lesbian and transgendered communities in an atmosphere of safety and welcome. This retreat for LGBTQ individuals and all those who love and support them will be led by families who have worked through the inevitable hopes, joys and concerns facing the LGBTQ community. The day will include a continental breakfast, lunch, conversation, panel discussions and quiet time to enjoy the beauty of Holy Family. Offering: $25 (includes lunch) FRIDAY, OCTOBER 28 TO THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 3, 2016

Weeklong Centering Prayer Intensive Fr. Carl Arico and Gail Fitzpatrick-Hopler WEEKEND RETREAT OPTION: OCTOBER 28–OCTOBER 30, 2016 This in-depth retreat offers those with Centering Prayer experience an opportunity to enter into a more profound level of spiritual practice and to deepen their contemplative journey in the contemporary world. You’ll view segments of the Spiritual Journey video series by Fr. Thomas Keating with time for discussion and guidance from our retreat director. This retreat begins with dinner on Friday evening at 6:00 p.m. and concludes mid-morning on the following Thursday. This program is co-sponsored with the Copper Beech Institute. Fr. Carl Arico is a founding member and current governing board member of Contemplative Outreach, Ltd., and has been 7

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Aerial footage of our building and grounds! Holy Family has joined the drone craze. One of our retreatants — Tom Mazzarella — is a photographer and videographer who has graciously done some work for us in the past. Tom recently bought a drone which he brought to Holy Family to take several minutes of video and over 100 still shots from on high. Talk about heavenly views! Not to worry, Tom won’t be buzzing the property during our peaceful retreats. But keep an eye out for aerial shots of all kinds in our promotional material over the next few months. It brings a very cool perspective to our wonderful 48 acres, so stay tuned.

an integral part of the organization’s growth and development since its beginnings in 1984. Fr. Arico is known for his humor and ability to bridge the linguistic gap between the clergy and laity. He believes wholeheartedly in the purpose of Contemplative Outreach outlined by Fr. Keating, whom he is honored to have known since 1969. Fr. Arico has practiced Centering Prayer since 1975 and has been teaching since 1978. Gail Fitzpatrick-Hopler is an international speaker, retreat director, founding member, and the current president of Contemplative Outreach, Ltd. Led by her desire to make transformation through Centering Prayer available to others like herself, Gail has served, overseen and participated in the production of many Contemplative Outreach programs. THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 3, 2016

Your Faith at Work: Authenticity and the Spiritual Life Sr. Elaine Betoncourt, C.S.J. MASS AT 7:00 A.M. IN THE PUBLIC CHAPEL BREAKFAST AND TALK, 7:30–8:30 A.M. Thomas Merton wrote, “For me to be a saint means to be myself. Therefore, the problem of sanctity and salvation is in the problem of finding out who I am and of discovering my true self.” Join Sr. Elaine in exploring the theme of authenticity and what it means to be an authentic person, a true Christian. Includes Mass, breakfast and brief reflection and dialogue. Offering: $25 Sr. Elaine Betoncourt – See Sr. Elaine’s biography on page 16. NOVEMBER 4-6, 2016

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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 5, 2016

Day Retreat How to Be “Positively” Stressed Ken Steller 10:00 A.M.–5:00 P.M. Stress is part of life. We actually need a certain amount of stress to learn, grow, develop and be healthy. However, when stress becomes overwhelming, it can negatively affect our health, productivity, and relationships. Understanding what stress is, how it affects us, and specific ways to manage it are the keys to being “positively” stressed. In this workshop, you will identify the differences between positive stress, distress and burnout. You will also learn and practice a variety of stress management skills and create a personal action plan for being “positively” stressed. Offering: $65 (includes lunch) Ken Steller, M.S., M.A., began developing a professional and personal interest in stress management while counseling medical and psychiatric patients at the VA Medical Center in West Haven, CT, in the 1980s. His approach to stress management encompasses strategies that address the physical, cognitive and emotional aspects of stress. Most recently he has added mindfulness meditation to his repertoire of stress management techniques. As a training consultant for business, service, government, and educational organizations, Ken has worked with highly diverse audiences at all organizational levels both in the U.S. and internationally. His graduate degrees are in psychology and counseling. TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 8, 2016

Day Retreat Holiday Bread-Baking Sr. Elaine Betoncourt, C.S.J. 10:00 A.M.–4:00 P.M. Join us for the opportunity to make, bake, and take home a holiday stollen for your family and friends. Stollen is a moist German sweet bread filled with fruit that is enjoyed during the Christmas season. The day will include time “in the kitchen” along with time to prayerfully reflect on the symbolism of the

ingredients and the process of bread baking as they relate to our daily lives. Please bring: 1-quart microwavable bowl, 1 small sauce pan, rolling pin, 3-quart mixing bowl, wooden spoon, measuring cups and spoons, round flat plate for finished product, small paring knife, small cutting board, large baking sheet, apron, and kitchen scissors. All ingredients will be provided. Limit: 10 people. Please register by November 1. Offering: $65 (includes lunch) Sr. Elaine Betoncourt – See Sr. Elaine’s biography on page 16. NOVEMBER 18-20, 2016

Matt Talbot Women’s Recovery Retreat Hope in a Troubled World Sr. Anne Winkelmann At Holy Family, we invite women in recovery into a peaceful atmosphere where you can rest, renew your spiritual life, and deepen your sobriety. Hear an inspiring lecture, take a yoga class, get a massage (extra fee), catch up on some rest, or simply care for yourself as we care for you in mind, body, and spirit. Our Matt Talbot weekends are open to ALL people, from ALL backgrounds, regardless of whether or not you are a member of a church. The retreat begins on Friday with a buffet dinner from 6:00-7:30 p.m., and concludes on Sunday around 11:00 a.m. A generous scholarship fund is available for any retreatant experiencing financial hardship. All inquiries should be directed to Shabon at mtalbotwomen@gmail.com. Scholarship funds are awarded on a first come, first served basis. Offering: $185 Sr. Anne Winkelmann has 31 years of clinical experience in the addiction field. Sr. Anne is a Licensed Clinical Alcohol and Drug Counselor and a nationally certified Addictions Supervisor. For the past 28 years, Sr. Anne has been a retreat leader for recovering men and women, ACOAs and couples throughout the east coast. As the Chief Clinical Officer for SODAT, Sr. Anne is responsible for treatment and prevention programs in clinics across five Southern New Jersey counties.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2016

Contemplative Enrichment Day The Cloud of Unknowing: Foundation of the Centering Prayer Practice Therese Saulnier 9:00 A.M.–4:30 P.M. The theme of The Cloud of Unknowing, the book from which the Centering Prayer method was distilled, is that God cannot be grasped by the mind but by love alone. The anonymous author offers practical ways to prepare seekers to receive the gift of contemplative prayer. Offering $65 (includes lunch) Therese M. Saulnier has been teaching Centering Prayer and other contemplative prayer practices for over 20 years and has been coordinator of Contemplative Outreach activities for New Jersey for over 20 years. Therese holds a Master of Arts degree in Theology, with a concentration in spirituality, from Fordham University. As a contemplative in everyday life, Therese offers a practical perspective and practical advice in living a contemplative life in 21st century America. THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2016

Thanksgiving Day Mass 9:00 A.M. We welcome everyone to join the Passionist Community as we celebrate Mass the morning of Thanksgiving Day. Free-will offering. SATURDAY, DECEMBER 3, 2016

Centering Prayer Introductory Workshop Nancy Stimac 8:30 A.M.–12:30 P.M. In Centering Prayer Introductory workshops you will learn the method and principles of this prayer practice and have the opportunity to experience this ancient method in a quiet, reflective atmosphere. The workshop covers the history, psychology, and theology and includes prayer sessions along with questions and answers. Offering: $30

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Nancy Stimac, a long time contemplative prayer practitioner, is a Centering Prayer facilitator and Commissioned Presenter of Centering Prayer for Contemplative Outreach, as well as a graduate of the Archdiocese of Hartford Catholic Bible School and Lay Ministry programs. She uses her gifts to serve the Catholic Community of Windsor Locks as a prayer group facilitator, Bible study leader, RCIA teacher, lector, and evangelization team and parish council member. DECEMBER 2-4, 2016

Matt Talbot Men’s Recovery Retreat Walking the Road of Peace and Serenity a Day at a Time Fr. Jack Cryan At Holy Family, we invite men in recovery into a peaceful atmosphere where you can rest, renew your spiritual life, and deepen your sobriety. Hear an inspiring lecture, get a massage (extra fee), catch up on some rest, or simply care for yourself as we care for you in mind, body, and spirit. Our Matt Talbot weekends are open to ALL people, from ALL backgrounds, regardless of whether or not you are a member of a church. The retreat begins on Friday with a buffet dinner from 6:00-7:30 p.m. and concludes on Sunday around 11:00 a.m. Generous scholarships are available. For scholarship information, call Dwight Hawes at (860) 347-0644. Offering: $250, which includes Matt Talbot dues. Fr. Jack Cryan is a priest of the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Newark. He presently serves as the Director of Pastoral Formation at Immaculate Conception Seminary at Seton Hall University. He gained his foothold in the “12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous” in 1984 at Guest House, Lake Orion, MI, a rehabilitation center for Roman Catholic Clergy and again in 2005 at their facility in Rochester, MN. Before assuming his duties at ICS, he served as an associate pastor and pastor for 35 years in Hudson County, NJ. 9

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Day Retreat Create Your Own Christmas Card Beth Malley 11:00 A.M.–3:30 P.M.

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Sculpture returns This sculpture was part of a series of half-life-sized bronze sculptures entitled “Spirit Made Manifest” that were on display behind the Golden Thread Gallery in 2014. Entitled “Holy Water, Ganges Fountain,” by artist Josie Campbell

This workshop is designed to help you create your own Christmas card in a unique and personal way. There are two design choices—a wreath or a tree. Either way, you will leave with a completed card, ready for scanning and printing at home or ready to take to a printer. It is a fun way to use your creative energy to send a heartfelt season's greetings. Offering: $40 (includes lunch and materials) Beth Malley, CZT: After completing over 20 years in financial services marketing, Beth retired and has found her creative side in a combination of knitting and the art of Zentangle. She has been a docent at the Wadsworth Atheneum for over twenty years and has offered art workshops at Holy Family retreats.

Dellenbaugh, it has been returned for a year-long engagement. The sculpture is once again positioned alongside our Koi Fish Pond and dynamically interacts with water from the pond. Come away and rest awhile… by the water, and experience the

WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 7, 2016

Advent Reflection Be My Light—Mother Teresa’s Journey of Doubt and Hope Dr. Brandon Nappi DAY RETREAT: 10:00 A.M.–2:00 P.M. EVENING RETREAT: 6:00–9:00 P.M. Shortly after Mother Teresa died in 1997, her secret journals were published expressing a woman of intense paradox. Even as she lived out the Christian life in heroic radiance, she

gentle presence of this young and vibrant spirit.

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was accompanied by extreme doubt, struggle and dryness in the spiritual life. In this retreat, we’ll explore the biography of Mother Teresa, examine her incredible contribution to the history of spirituality and the role of doubt in the Christian life. We will discover the constructive role doubt can play in our own Advent journey toward hope and light. Offering: $40 (day includes lunch/evening includes dinner) Dr. Brandon Nappi – See Brandon’s biography on page 16. DECEMBER 9-11, 2016

Matt Talbot Men’s Recovery Retreat Topic & presenter TBA See description on page 9. SUNDAY, DECEMBER 18, 2016

Sacred Sounds of Advent and Christmas 2:00 P.M. AND 7:00 P.M. Come join us to celebrate the joy and beauty of this sacred season at Holy Family. Our concert features an adult choir, chamber choir, instrumentalists, handbell choir, soloists, and children’s choir. A reception follows each concert. Offering: $40 SATURDAY, DECEMBER 24, 2016

Christmas Eve Mass 4:00 P.M. AND 5:30 P.M. All are welcome. Free-will offering.

Prayerful Experiences Ongoing Programs Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings Breath by Breath Meditation Candlelight Meditation Christian Contemplative Prayer Parish Council Day Retreats Prayer Shawl Ministry To find out more about any of these programs on our campus, please visit www.holyfamilyretreat.org/ongoingprograms

Gift Shop Come in and browse through our collection of inspirational books, unique handcrafted items, greeting cards, and fairly-traded gifts. Open 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Monday through Friday, and some weekends. Call 860-760-9734 for additional hours or information.

Music Ministry Over time, Holy Family has become a respected center for liturgical music throughout the region. The Holy Family Choir, Handbell Choir, Children’s Choir, and Chamber Choir consist of nearly 100 singers and musicians who, by their love and passion for sacred music, have become extended members of the Passionist family. This entire group ministers at Advent and Easter concerts that prayerfully celebrate the joy of these sacred seasons.

Christmas Concert – December 18, 2016 Easter Concert – April 29, 2017 Music Ministers’ Evenings – June 6 & 7, 2017

Holy Family Mass Cards Give a gift from your heart! Whether you wish to have prayers said for someone who has died, someone who is in need of healing, or someone who is celebrating a special occasion, Mass cards are an excellent way to show you care. All offerings made to the Mass card office support our retreat ministry which welcomes men, women, youth and those in recovery. Orders can be placed by contacting Mary Ellen Mosher at 860-521-6709. She and her team will be glad to help you. You can also order online at www.holyfamilyretreat.org/masscards. Our office hours are 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Monday through Friday.

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Upcoming Events in 2017 JANUARY 6-8, 2017

FEBRUARY 17-19, 2017

Women’s Retreat

Men’s Retreat

Retreat Team

SATURDAY, JANUARY 7, 2017

FEBRUARY 17-19, 2017

Contemplative Enrichment Day Henri Nouwen: A Christian Mystic

A Lectio Divina Retreat with Centering Prayer Mike Potter

Dr. Robert Jonas

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FEBRUARY 24-26, 2017 JANUARY 13-15, 2017

Men’s Retreat

Retreat Team

Retreat Team SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 25, 2017

Rosary paintings If you’ve been to the third floor of our Retreat Building recently, you may

An Evening Workshop for Parish Catechists Teaching the Liturgical Year

Contemplative Enrichment Day Deepening the Welcoming Prayer Practice: A Gateway to Ongoing Presence

Liza Peters and Lisa Orchen

Mary Dwyer

JANUARY 20-22, 2017

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 1, 2017

Men’s Retreat Retreat Team

Ash Wednesday Reflection The Price and the Promise of Easter

JANUARY 27-29, 2017

Bill Walsh

THURSDAY, JANUARY 19, 2017

have noticed the display of beautiful rosary paintings gracing the walls. The 21 paintings depicting scenes from the Catholic rosary were donated by Connecticut artist Mary Billingsley, who’d been searching for a venue in which to permanently display the works. She decided on Holy Family after her husband, artist John Matt, attended retreat here in the spring of 2016. “I am so happy these works of mine have found such a beautiful and prayerful home.” “The rosary paintings are exquisite,” said Fr. David, “and we are deeply honored that Mary has entrusted her precious works to us.” holyfamilyretreat.org/rosary

Women’s Retreat Retreat Team

MARCH 3-5, 2017

Women’s Retreat FEBRUARY 3-5, 2017

Retreat Team

Men’s Retreat Retreat Team

TUESDAYS, MARCH 7, 14, 21, 28, APRIL 4, 11 AND 18, 2017

FEBRUARY 10-12, 2017

Color Me Hopeful

College Retreat

Beth Malley

Retreat Team MARCH 10-12, 2017 FEBRUARY 10-12, 2017

Men’s Retreat

Couples’ Weekend Retreat

Retreat Team

(INCLUDES VALENTINE’S GOURMET DINNER)

SATURDAY, MARCH 11, 2017

SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 11, 2017

Hearts and Wines: Valentine’s Gourmet Dinner

Contemplative Enrichment Day Contemplative Living: Living out God’s Call to Relationship Steve Standiford THURSDAY, MARCH 16, 2017

TUESDAYS, FEBRUARY 14, 21, 28, MARCH 7, 14 AND 21, 2017

Your Faith at Work: Breakfast with Thomas Merton

Discovering the Heart of Music—Part IV The Contemporary Period of Music: 1910 to the Present

Dr. Brandon Nappi

Fr. David Cinquegrani, C.P.

Retreat Team

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MARCH 17-19, 2017

Men’s Retreat

Visit holyfamilyretreat.org for details TUESDAY, MARCH 21, 2017

APRIL 13, 2017

SATURDAY, MAY 13, 2017

Day Retreat Ignatius of Loyola: Old Roots and New Roots for Prayer

Holy Thursday: Commemoration of the Lord’s Supper

Contemplative Enrichment Day Emotional Sobriety through Contemplative Prayer Practice

Andree Grafstein

Jim McElroy APRIL 14, 2017

MARCH 24-26, 2017

Men’s Retreat

Good Friday: Commemoration of the Lord’s Passion

Retreat Team

SUNDAY, MAY 14, 2017

Mother’s Day Brunch: We’ve Got You Covered

APRIL 14, 2017 SATURDAY, MARCH 25, 2017

Knitting Retreat Day The Spirituality of Working with our Hands

Good Friday: Taize Evening Prayer Service APRIL 15, 2017

MAY 19-21, 2017

Matt Talbot Men’s Recovery Retreat Topic and presenter TBA

Rachel Valente

Easter Vigil

SATURDAY, MAY 20, 2017

TUESDAYS, MARCH 28, APRIL 4, 11, 18, 25, 2017

APRIL 16, 2017

Centering Prayer Introductory Workshop

Discernment: Noticing and Responding to the Promptings of the Spirit Andree Grafstein

Easter Sunday Mass WEDNESDAY, APRIL 19, 2017

Men’s Evening Retreat When I am Weak Then I Am Strong

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 29, 2017

Fr. David Cinquegrani, C.P.

Women’s Evening Retreat Where Kindness Begins— With You!

APRIL 19-23, 2017

Gunilla Norris

Icon Writing Retreat Saint Francis of Assisi Sr. Christopher Marie Wagner, O.S.F.

Retreat Team

Women’s Retreat

SATURDAY, APRIL 1, 2017 WEDNESDAY, APRIL 26, 2017

APRIL 7-9, 2017

Retreat Day for Parish Staff Working with Difficult People in Church Settings

Men’s Retreat

Fr. David Cinquegrani, C.P.

Nancy Stimac

Women’s Retreat Retreat Team SATURDAY, JUNE 3, 2017

Annual Contemplative Day of Prayer Teilhard de Chardin and the Dazzling Dynamism of God’s Plan

APRIL 21-23, 2017 Retreat Team

Centering Prayer Introductory Workshop

JUNE 2-4, 2017

Fr. Michael Holleran

MARCH 31-APRIL 2, 2017

Men’s Retreat

Mike Smoolca

Retreat Team SATURDAY, APRIL 29, 2017 SATURDAY, APRIL 8, 2017

The Joy of Easter: A Concert

Contemplative Enrichment Day Teresa of Avila: Intimacy and Ecstasy

MAY 5-7, 2017

Susan Komis

Retreat Team

APRIL 13-15, 2017

WEDNESDAY, MAY 10, 2017

Men’s Retreat

JUNE 6 AND 7, 2017 (SAME PROGRAM BOTH EVENINGS)

Evening Retreat for Music Ministers Fr. David Cinquegrani, C.P. JUNE 9-11, 2017

Men’s Retreat Retreat Team JUNE 11-16, 2017

Weeklong Directed Retreat Unplugged—A Time of Your Own to Journey with God DIRECTED RETREAT 3-NIGHT OPTION: JUNE 11-14, 2017 JUNE 11-17, 2017

Holy Week Triduum Retreat for Men and Women The Path of Transformation

Evening Couples Retreat Walking the Path Together Brandon and Susan Nappi

Weeklong Retreat for Women Religious JUNE 16-18, 2017

Teen Weekend Retreat Liza Peters and the Holy Family Youth Ministry Team

Retreat Team

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Thank you for supporting Holy Family Holy Family’s 65th Anniversary Sustainability Drive As we celebrate our 65th anniversary, we are asking friends like you to please take a moment to reflect on the difference that Holy Family has made in your life. Join the celebration and help to ensure that we’re here for you in the future. Please consider a gift of sustainability. If every person reading these words were to take the simple step of making a donation of $65 toward our 65th Anniversary Sustainability Drive, it would go a long way to support Holy Family into the future, for the next 65 years.

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Christian Contemplative Experience Holy Family will offer a wide range of programs related to Christian contemplative prayer this season. From introductory workshops to weekend intensives, the multi-tiered curriculum offers those curious about the topic and those more experienced many opportunities to meet, share and

Every dollar matters. Every $65 matters. Thank you in advance for your contribution to this exciting and unique fundraising opportunity, and we look forward to seeing you at Holy Family— during the next 65 years. To make a contribution online, please visit www.holyfamilyretreat.org/donate65

explore the contemplative tradition together. Details on all the programs including dates and registration information can be found in this publication, headings in light blue, and on our website at www.holyfamilyretreat.org/cce

Our volunteers contribute in so many ways to the vitality of our ministry! Holy Family could not exist without its valued volunteers. They help out in the bookstore, greet guests at the front desk, answer phones, and do all sorts of other activities that keep us running smoothly. Won’t you consider joining this special team? We have a host of volunteer opportunities, some of which may be perfectly suited to your particular skills and talents. Fill out and submit the volunteer form available at www.holyfamilyretreat.org/volunteer. We look forward to hearing from you!

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. . . Your generosity strengthens our programs and facility. 2016 – 2017 Annual Fund Appeal Gifts to the Annual Fund Appeal support Holy Family’s annual operating budget. Without gifts to the Annual Fund Appeal, we simply would not be able to meet our operating budget, which would result in cuts to vital programs. The Annual Fund Appeal runs concurrent with our fiscal year, which is July 1 through June 30. Please consider a gift to this year’s Annual Fund Appeal using the enclosed Annual Fund envelope. Thank you! You can also make your gift online or set up a recurring gift by visiting our website. www.holyfamilyretreat.org/give

Planned Giving — The Flynn Heritage Society Often we hear from people who wish they could make a substantial gift to Holy Family, but simply cannot afford to do so. Making a Planned Gift by remembering Holy Family in your will or estate plan is a great way to make a gift that will benefit Holy Family in the future. The Flynn Heritage Society is composed of those people who have included Holy Family in their will or estate plan. There are many ways to remember Holy Family in your will or estate plan. For more information or to speak with other retreatants who are already members of the Flynn Society, contact the development office at 860-760-9716. The Flynn Heritage Society is named for Fr. Joseph Leo Flynn, C.P., Holy Family’s first retreat director. Fr. Joe Leo welcomed the first retreatants to Holy Family in 1951. www.holyfamilyretreat.org/flynn

The 17th Annual Gerald J. Kristofak Memorial Golf Tournament

Save the Date

June 15, 2017 Indian Hill Country Club, Newington, CT Join us for a fun day of golf This tournament honors the memory of our dear friend Gerald Kristofak and provides vitally needed financial support for the ministry.

Become a sponsor Widespread promotional exposure opportunities are available for your company. www.holyfamilyretreat.org/golf

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Our Retreat Team Fr. David Cinquegrani, C.P., is the Retreat Director at Holy Family. He holds both Master of Divinity and Master of Liturgical Theology degrees from Catholic Theological Union in Chicago, as well as a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in Music from Marywood University in Scranton, PA. Fr. David entered the Passionist Community in 1989 and has been a chaplain and music educator on the college level for 30 years.

Dr. Brandon Nappi is Holy Family’s Associate Retreat Director. He is a magna cum laude graduate of the University of Notre Dame where he majored in Theology and Medieval Studies. Brandon’s work has included prison ministry, adult education, teaching meditation and mindfulness, and music ministry. He completed a Master of Divinity degree from Yale University and holds a Doctor of Ministry degree from Aquinas Institute of Theology in St. Louis.

Bill Walsh joined Holy Family full-time as Associate Retreat Director in 2013 after many years of service in retreat ministry. Bill began working at Holy Family in 1991 as the first lay member of the retreat team and remained for seven seasons. Bill then worked as a teacher at St. Mary’s School in Simsbury for eight years and coordinated the Safe Environment Program for the Passionists’ Eastern Province.

Sr. Elaine Betoncourt, C.S.J., is a member of the Sisters of St. Joseph. Her educational background includes degrees in Theology and Latin, and courses in spiritual direction. A teacher for many years, Sr. Elaine also served as pastoral associate in four CT parishes and in Appalachia. Within her community she was director of vocations and novices and a member of the provincial leadership team. Near and dear to her heart is working for the care of the earth and the poor of our world.

Liza Peters, has been the Director of Youth and Young Adult Ministry at Holy Family since 2011. Prior to joining the retreat team, she spent four years as the Director of Religious Education in Dayton, Ohio. Liza also lived in community and worked at the St. Peter Claver Catholic Worker House in South Bend, IN. She has a B.A. in Psychology and a Master of Divinity from the University of Notre Dame. She lives in West Hartford with her husband, Ben and four children.

Passionists Assisting on Retreats Holy Family is blessed by the presence of a dynamic community of Passionist priests and brothers who support retreatants and make this ministry possible. Passionists in retreat ministry include: Fr. Terry Kristofak, C.P., Br. Michael Moran, C.P., Fr. Gregory Paul, C.P., and Fr. John Baptist Pesce, C.P.

Choose Our Beautiful Facility for Your Family or Corporate Event Known throughout the Northeast for its peaceful setting and gracious hospitality, Holy Family has long been a favored destination of retreatants and those seeking to hold a special event. Comfortable and immaculate quarters and delicious, creative meals prepared by our executive chef will contribute to a relaxing stay. • • • • • • •

Meeting rooms for groups from 6 to 250 people 48 acres of landscaped and wooded grounds Two beautifully appointed chapels Newly renovated dining room Suites with bathrooms available 210 beds, 164 single rooms Customized menus

To reserve space for your next event, please contact Kasia Owczarek: 860.760.9799 or kowczarek@holyfamilyretreat.org

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Come explore all that the Holy Family campus has to offer. ON SUNDAY AFTERNOON, SEPTEMBER 18, 1–5 p.m., JOIN US FOR OUR CAMPUS OPEN HOUSE. Visit us at www.holyfamilyretreat.org to find out more. Holy Family. Come away and rest awhile.

Your Retreat Registration Please mail your completed registration form with your payment to: Holy Family Passionist Retreat Center 303 Tunxis Road • West Hartford, CT 06107 Or register online at www.holyfamilyretreat.org. NAME___________________________________________________________________________________ ADDRESS________________________________________________________________________________ CITY _____________________________________________________

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■ Enclosed is my $100 deposit ■ Enclosed is my full payment ■ Day to Breathe (Cost: $75)

A Day to Breathe Extend your weekend retreat experience by arriving a day early— on Thursday night after dinner between 6:00 p.m.-8:00 p.m. On Friday, you can sleep in, get a massage, have a nutritious breakfast and lunch, take a quiet walk, and catch up on some rest before the inspiring weekend retreat begins.

Please consider an additional donation Our actual cost for hosting one person on a weekend retreat is $450. Our suggested additional donation is $135 — the difference between $315 (what we charge) and $450 (our actual cost.) Additional donation: $ _____________________ More if you can, less if you can’t. Mastercard, Visa, Discover or American Express accepted CREDIT CARD TYPE _______________ NAME ON CARD ____________________________________________________ NUMBER ___________________________________________________________________ EXP. DATE _______________ SIGNATURE __________________________________________________________________________________________

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Who’s Your PlusOne? Our PlusOne initiative is a way for you to “share the passion” and support Holy Family. We simply ask that any time you visit our campus or attend one of our programs, you bring someone who hasn’t been here before—your PlusOne! By introducing new people to Holy Family, you help sustain our thriving ministry and at the same time, you share a place that is close to your heart. So next time you’re planning to come to Holy Family— Who’s your PlusOne?