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ANNIE’S MAILBOX
Dear Annie: We are three daughters who need help. Our parents’ home seems unhappy and full of bitterness. Mom and Dad have been married for 59 years, but Mom doesn’t seem to enjoy life. Dad is not perfect, but we really don’t know their past personal stories and relationship. They seem to have led separate lives: Mom at home with six kids to raise, and Dad working long hours at his business. Since Dad’s retirement, they have settled into a routine of doctor appointments and staying home. Dad no longer wants to do anything, because Mom is constantly telling him that he doesn’t do things correctly. He embarrasses her. Dad has no interest in going places due to his health issues, and Mom doesn’t want him driving much or staying home alone. The constant nagging has created an unhealthy environment. It is difficult to visit because we don’t like to see and hear them like this. We have sat down with them to discuss the situation and offered suggestions, but there has been neither change nor resolution. Counseling is not an option, as Mom seems overly concerned with what others know about her or will think of her. Dad doesn’t seem to be concerned about anything. We don’t want to become the kind of kids who stop seeing their parents. Any suggestions? -- The Girls Dear Girls: When couples retire, they can fall into the trap of doing nothing and getting on each other’s nerves. Mom resents Dad invading her domestic domain, and Dad is depressed because his identity was tied up in his job. And if they have health issues, it can exacerbate the problem because getting out of the house can be problematic or exhausting. It’s a shame your parents won’t address their problems, particularly if they are depressed. We recommend you find ways to get them out of the house, together or separately. Take them out for dinner. Invite Mom
to a play. Encourage Dad to attend a ballgame with you. Look into senior programs in their area, and perhaps offer to go with them until they become interested enough to go on their own and, hopefully, make friends. Please don’t give up on them. They need you. Dear Annie: I’m 13 and live with my mom. She always overreacts when my room is not absolutely spotless, which leaves me wondering whether she has OCD. She doesn’t seem to care that the rest of the house is a mess. She seems to magnify the messiness of my room only. When I confront her about this, she gets mad and sends me to my room. I think she wants me to be holed up in there so I’ll see how messy it is. But I don’t. Does she have OCD? How would I know? Help me. -- My Room Is Clean Dear Room: If your mom is only concerned with the mess in your room, it’s probably not OCD. It’s more likely that your room is a little messy. Mom sounds stressed. If you find yourself arguing with her a lot, please consider that the two of you may be pushing each other’s buttons more than you intend. Try talking to her when you are both calm. Explain that you don’t want to fight. Ask how to make things better. If it doesn’t help, please discuss it with your school counselor. Dear Annie: This is in response to “Single Too Long,” the 45-year-old gentleman who is having problems meeting women who have never been married and don’t have children. I would like to mention No Kidding (nokidding.net), an international “social club” for adults, single or married, who never have parented and don’t wish to. Not everyone wants kids, and many of us are surrounded by others constantly trying to change our minds. No Kidding is not a dating site. It’s just a place for people without kids to meet like-minded others. -- California
Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to: anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.
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For Rent
MUST SELL: 1989 CARVER YACHTS MARINER 329/FE Good condition, less then 500 hours on engines. 260 horsepower. Very roomy! Full size refrigerator, range, TV/VCR, fully equipped, new carpet and cushions, sleeps six. Must be seen to be appreciated at Breakwater, Spring Point Marina in South Portland. Pictures available upon request. Valued at $30,000. Owner will accept best offer. Call 603-723-8722 or e-mail Rita@berlindailysun.com.
ALTON/GILFORD Line 2-Bedroom Cottage w/3-season Porch. $215-235/week + utilities. 3-Bedroom Apartment $265/week + utilities. Beach access 603-365-0799
Business Opportunities OWN your own Womens Fitness Club in Lakes Region! Call Patty, 279-1045.
Child Care CHILDREN S Garden Childcare: Year-round, reliable, clean, structured, pre-K environment, one acre yard, central location. 528-1857.
HIGH SPIRITS CHILDCARE in Gilford has openings in our toddler/preschool programs. We are a year-round family-based program. Meals included. Call 293-2473
TILTON AREA- Former teacher has openings in private home daycare. Reliable, clean, year-round, fenced in yard, structured enviroment. 630-3196/286-3535.
Autos
BOATS
DWI Assessments, evaluations, one to one. Office or home visits. MS-MLADC 603-998-7337
2002 Ford Escort 4D Sedan, 87K miles, $3,300. 603-476-5017
1985 16ft. Blue Fin Boat & Trailer. 2005 Mercury 60hp 4-stroke. Runs like new. $2,500. 603-998-8993
Employment Wanted
LABRADOR Retriever puppies AKC bred for breed standards and temperments. In-home raised, well socialized (603)664-2828.
Announcement
Autos
BUYING junk cars, trucks & big trucks ME & NH. Call for price. Martin Towing. (603)305-4504.
1965 Ford Stepside PickupChevy powered, good project or rat rod. $1,500. 527-0800
CASH paid for unwanted or junk cars and trucks. Same day service possible. 603-231-2859.
1993 Saab 900 Convertible, 5 spd runs great, looks good, needs new top. Asking $2,225. Call 387-1577 2000 Ford Taurus- Inspected, Good condition 4-door sedan. Many new parts. <100K miles. $3,600/OBO. 267-8880
TOP dollar paid for junk cars & trucks. Available 7-days a week. P3 s Towing. 630-3606
SUMMER ANTIQUES ESTATE AUCTION Leavitt Park House, Laconia, N.H. (Elm St. off Rt. 106) Sat. Sept 1, 2012 10:00 a.m. Antiques, Furniture, Sawyer Prints and lots more… Listing and Photos at: WaukewanAuctionService.com or Auctionzip.com
WAUKEWAN AUCTION SERVICE Vendors Wanted for Laconia Indoor Market starting in October.
CARING LNA with 15 years experience looking to take care of your loved one in their home. Great references. 603-470-6382 HARD WORKING experienced cleaning woman looking for more jobs. Regular or one-time cleaning. Hillarie, 998-2601
1986 16 passenger Ford van (possible camper??) 8 cylinder rebuilt motor, new transmission, inspected/registered. Selling as is $995/OBO 528-4535
10% Buyers Premium N.H. Lic. #3047 603-279-3087 or 603-253-6303
BOAT ropes at cost. Bow to buoy. Stainless steel hardware. Kroegans high-quality nylon ripe. 1/2 inch $30, 5/8 inch $40, various lengths. 520-1487. BOAT SLIPS for Rent Winnipesaukee Pier, Weirs Beach, NH Reasonable Rates Call for Info. 366-4311 BOATSLIPS for rent- Paugus Bay up to 22 ft. 401-284-2215.
LET S GO FISHING! Simple fishing with Paddle King Boats and Tohatsu Outboard motors, Call 738-2296 or visit www.outboardrepower.net O'DAY Javelin sailboat with motor, trailer and cover, $1500.
BELMONT: 2 bedroom, 3rd floor, coin-op laundry and storage space in basement. $240/week including heat, electric & hot water. 524-1234, www.whitemtrentals.com. CHARMING 3 BR cape in beauti ful SOUTH DOWN SHORES, lots of space, garage, 2 full baths. No smoking. $1200/MO. 520-5892
COZY, SUNNY, VERY CLEAN 2 Bedroom apartment in duplex next to Opechee Park. Washer & Dryer provided. No smoking, no dogs $725/Mo. + Utilities
738-2296 or 528-4450
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BELMONT-Available Immediately. 2-bedroom townhouse-style. Quiet area, heat included. $900/mo. All housing certificates accepted. 781-344-3749
GILFORD 2 Bedroom 2 Bath Condo. Fireplace, gas heat, W/D hookup, no dogs/smoking. 1 year lease, $975/month + security. 455-6269.
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AKC German Shepherd Puppies. Ready to go. Males and females. Please call 603-520-3060.
BELMONT-$699. a month. 2 bedroom, 1 1/2 bath, Washer/Dryer hookup, single wide mobile home with yard for rent. Close to school. Call Fairlane Homes @ 800-325-5566 for more information.
Counseling
Airplanes
2008 Honda CRV FWD- 55K miles, excellent condition. $15,250. 744-6107
BELMONT 1 bedroom in a house. Lots of land, deck, parking. All utilities included. Hommade meals and laundry included. $180/Week. 412-7400
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2001 Chevy Silverado 4X4. Extended cab, 45,000 miles. Call 524-2088 After 5pm.
Get 10% back in store credit when you sell your gold, silver & jewelry. Thrifty Yankee, Rte. 25, Meredith. Open 7 days. Call for details. Senior Citizens 20% off, Tuesdays! 603-279-0607.
APARTMENTS, mobile homes. If you need a rental at a fair price, call DRM Corp. Over 40 years in rentals. We treat you better! 524-0348 or visit M-W-F, 12-5, at 373 Court Street, Laconia.
LACONIA 2-Bedroom House. 64 Fenton Ave. Good neighborhood, easy walk to downtown. New bath, kitchen, windows, insulation. Oil heat & hot water. No smokers. No pets. 1-yr lease. $1275/mo. + utilities 630-1438. LACONIA 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house completely remodeled, fenced in backyard, walkout basement. $1,200/month + utilities. references, security, no pets, no smoking. 387-3324