THE LACONIA DAILY SUN, Thursday, July 12, 2012— Page 19
ANNIE’S MAILBOX
Dear Annie: My mother and I have had a poor relationship for years. She is self-absorbed, demanding and consistently hurtful. She seems to find great amusement in upsetting me and takes every opportunity to do so. On one occasion, I was talking to my family about an individual whom I particularly admired, and my mother interrupted me to explain that I only knew about him because “they mentioned him on a television show.” When I told her how embarrassing that was for me, she retorted, “It was a joke, and if you were offended, that’s your problem.” On another occasion, I had just completed my college degree and was quietly showing my diploma at a family gathering. My mother shouted repeatedly that she needed everyone’s attention and finally said, “My son just got his degree.” Not only did she again embarrass me, but her behavior stole my thunder, and she completely ignored my pleading for her to stop shouting. This kind of behavior is typical of her, and I am tired of it. I have tried to discuss it with her, and she refuses to accept that she has done anything wrong. I finally decided to sever all contact. I have no desire to associate with someone who tries so hard to hurt me and make me feel small. The problem is that the rest of my family berates me for being “mean” to her. They expect me to maintain this destructive relationship. How can I explain to them how horribly she treats me? -- Frustrated and Alone in Indianapolis, Ind. Dear Indianapolis: We can see that your mother is difficult, but instead of cutting her off and being the family black sheep, we recommend finding a better way to deal with her. You seem very sensitive to her comments and behavior. The best way to convince her to treat you better is to respond differently. Get some counseling and work on this. If you can
change the dynamic between you, you will be less resentful and hurt. Dear Annie: My older sister, “Lilly,” is always taking my things without permission. She uses my socks, hairdryer and makeup. She does this with everyone in the family. She even borrows my parents’ car without asking. Her latest fixation is my iPod. Sometimes, she doesn’t return it until I demand that she give it back. I started hiding it, forcing her to ask before taking it. Frankly, I don’t want her to use it at all because I don’t trust her to return it. But she makes me feel so guilty that I end up giving it to her anyway. Of course, Lilly has her own iPod, but she doesn’t like to spend money on new songs. My parents have addressed it, but nothing changes. Lilly says she means to ask permission, but either forgets or we aren’t around. Annie, I’ve had enough. What can I do? -- Better To Ask Permission than Forgiveness Dear Better: Lilly needs to be “trained.” Give her some ground rules. If she returns your iPod in a timely manner, you can trust her to borrow it again. However, if she takes it without permission or won’t give it back until you demand it, tell her it is off-limits the next time -- and mean it. If you keep falling for the guilt trip, you have no one else to blame. Dear Annie: This is for “Kentucky,” whose friend invited her to a wedding in order to baby-sit the kids. When my sister put me at the kids’ table for her (third) marriage, saying there “wasn’t enough room” for me to sit with the adult relatives, it was clear where I stood in the family pecking order. “Kentucky” should either decline the invitation or respond graciously that she would prefer to be with the adults during the event. The bride’s response will let her know whether it’s a friendship worth keeping. -- Kentucky Too
Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to: anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.
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Animals
Autos
AKC German Shepherd Puppies. $850 males, $700 females. 603-520-3060
2004 Mustang Convertible. 40th Anniversary Edition, good condition, low mileage, $12,500/OBO. 603-235-2777
German Shepherd puppies. Socialized and healthy! Ready to go July 23. $400.00 (603-520-6587) ROTTWEILER pups AKC Champion Pedigree, parents on premises $600. 603-340-6219
Announcement WE PAY CA$H FOR GOLD & SILVER No hotels, no waiting. 603-279-0607, Thrifty Yankee, Rte. 25, Meredith, NH. Wed-Sun, 10-4, Fri & Sat 10-6.
Autos 1971 VW Super Beetle, Calif. car, second owner, 133K, needs nothing. $4000. 267-5196
1988 GMC PLOW TRUCK WITH BED COVER Fischer plow, 4x4 1500, 350 engine with new battery & stereo, ball hitch, automatic, 118K miles, inspected/registered, red & black. $1,900 OBO. 603-998-6488 or 603-968-4474 Holderness 1996 Cadillac Seville: Florida car, no rust, only 80k! Inspected. NADA $3,300. Sell $2,300/b.r.o. 293-0581. 1998 Chevy S10 Pick Up, with cap and bedliner. 54,600 miles. Please call 524-7194 for details. 2002 FORD F250 4X4- Air Intake, headers, power kit, back-up camera, ladder bars, Pioneer stereo, Pia lights, Tonneau cover, lift kit and more. A must see. Asking $15,900. Tom 455-2257 2004 C5 Corvette Convertible- 6 speed, 100K miles, 1 owner, Z51 package, new tires, brakes, rotors, gas tank, custom painted rims, millennium yellow. $18,500.
BOATS
APARTMENTS, mobile homes. If you need a rental at a fair price, call DRM Corp. Over 40 years in rentals. We treat you better! 524-0348 or visit M-W-F, 12-5, at 373 Court Street, Laconia.
2005 Chrystler Town & Country Touring. 53,500K, one owner, very clean inside and out, just inspected. 366-4905
BELMONT-Available Immediately. 2-bedroom townhouse-style. Quiet, heat included. $900/mo.. All housing certificates accepted. 781-344-3749
2006 Lexus GS300 AWD sedan, loaded with options including NAV, satellite radio. Gray with tan interior. 69,200 miles/always garaged in very, very good condition with all service records. Recent tires and brakes. $18,950. Meredith, 279-4723.
BELMONT: 2-bedroom duplex, washer/dryer hookups, $800/ month, 1st and $500 deposit, non-smoker. (603) 455-7942.
BMW CONVERTIBLE 1990, Inspected, runs great, ready to go. $4,000 or B.O. 603-393-6636. BUYING junk cars, trucks & big trucks ME & NH. Call for price. Martin Towing. (603)305-4504. CASH paid for unwanted or junk cars and trucks. Same day service possible. 603-231-2859. Mazda 626LX, Sedan 1996. $1,100 or BO. Located Gilmanton Iron Works. Call 364-5762 TOP dollar paid for junk cars & trucks. Available 7-days a week. P3 s Towing. 630-3606
BOATS 19’ Tri-Hull bow rider. New bimini top, 115HP Mercury, trailer. $1,700. 875-2825 1984 Easy Roller Boat Trailer. Twin axel, brakes, will adjust up to 22ft. $1,200. 630-2440 PRIVATE Boathouse slip w/ attached lounge/ storage room at Riveredge Marina on Squam Lake. $2,000 for season includes Boat Club Amenities. Call 455-5810 BOAT SLIPS for Rent Winnipesaukee Pier, Weirs Beach, NH Reasonable Rates
For Rent
BOATSLIPS for rent- Paugus Bay up to 22 ft. 401-284-2215. DOCK FOR RENT. $1,100. Lake Winnisquam, Mosguito bridge area. Holds 22 foot boat. John, 1-978-687-6412 PRIVATE Boat Dock on Lake Winnisquam: Up to 22 ft. with parking, $800/season. 978-697-6008.
Child Care LOOKING for mature individual to watch 12-year-old son beginning Aug 13. Part time. Must have transportation. 603-707-6970 Will babysit in your home. Must bring my 18 month daughter. $10 per hour per child. 603-707-7414
Counseling SUBSTANCE ABUSE COUNSELING DWI Assessments, evaluations, one to one. Free visit. MS-MLADC 603-998-7337
For Rent 1-BEDROOM $125-$175/ week. 2-bedroom $140-$185/ week.
BELMONT: 1 bedroom, 2nd floor, coin-op laundry & storage space in basement. $195/week including heat, electric & hot water. 524-1234, www.whitemtrentals.com. CENTER Harbor- Seeking responsible/mature individual to rent this one bedroom guest house located on my property in Center Harbor. Quiet-Private-Park like setting. Close to town and beach. $850/Month, all utilities included. Telephone 387-6774. GILFORD 2 Bedroom 2 Bath Condo. Fireplace, gas heat, W/D hookup, no dogs/smoking. 1 year lease, $975/month + security. 455-6269. GILFORD Condo 2 Br, 2 Baths, 2 screened porches, fireplace, mountain view, no dogs non s m o k e r . Go o d C o n d i t i o n . $1100/mo. 603- 293-7902 Gilford-Spacious 1 bedroom 2nd floor. Convenient country setting. No smoking/No pets. $700/Month, includes heat & electric. 293-4081 GILFORD: 4-bedroom, 3-bath house, garage, decks, walk-out basement, lake view, W/D. No smoking. Pet negotiable. $1,650/month +utilities. References, security deposit, one year lease. 603-455-6269. GILFORD: MARINA BAY 2 Bedroom, 1 1/2 Bath pool/tennis NO PETS. $950 per month
For Rent
For Rent
GILMANTON I W Village- efficiency. Bedroom/living room combo with kitchen & bath. All utilities included + basic cable. References/Security deposit required. No pets/no smoking. $675/Month. 364-3434
MEREDITH - 3 Bedroom, upscale apartment. 1&1/2 baths, washer/dryer, A/C, d/w, non-smoking, 2nd floor. Sunny, walk to town & docks, $1,250/Month. No utilities. 603-279-7887, 781-862-0123 cell.
GILMANTON Iron Works Village1 bedroom, kitchen, living room bath. Includes all utilities + basic cable. References/Security deposit. No pets/no smoking $700/Month 364-3434 Laconia Large 1 bedroom apartment. Hardwood floors, large closet, washer/dryer, plenty of storage, pets okay, non-smoker. $750/Month, utiliites not included. 520-1785
MEREDITH- Nice, open concept w/cathedral ceilings. 1-bedroom apartment in quiet area, walking distance to town & park. Parking, plowing, dumpster, 16X22 ft. deck, utilities, included. $850/Month. Cats? 455-5660
LACONIA prime 1st floor Pleasant St. Apartment. Walk to town & beaches. 2 bedrooms + 3-season glassed in sun porch. Completely repainted, glowing beautiful hardwood floors, marble fireplace, custom cabinets in kitchen with appliances, tile bath & shower. $1,000/Month includes heat & hot water. 630-4771 or 524-3892 LACONIA- 3 Bedroom + den Duplex: Great yard, 2 car parking, hook-ups, 33 Roller Coaster Rd. $1,050/mo. plus security deposit. 455-7883. LACONIA- 3 Room, 1 bedroom, 2nd floor, $165/Week, includes heat/electric. $600 security. 524-7793 or 937-7272 LACONIAPleasant St. 1 bedroom 1st floor. Screened porch, Heat/hot water, no pets/smoking. $825/Month. 524-5837
NORTHFIELD: 2 bedroom, 2nd floor, separate entrance, coin-op laundry & storage in basement. $220/week, including heat, electric & hot water. 524-1234, www.whitemtrentals.com.
LACONIA- Seeking professional to share my home on 4 acres with beach rights to Lake Winnisquam. 3 miles to downtown. Wifi and utilities inclusive. $600 + 1 month security. References. Non-Smoking Environment. Call 603-455-2848 LACONIA: 4 bedroom on 2nd & 3rd floors of duplex building. Access to full basement with coin-op laundry. $280/week, including heat, electric & hot water, 524-1234 www.whitemtrentals.com. LACONIA: Convenient to everything! 1-2 bedroom, 1st floor, w/d hookup, nice yard, parking. No pets/smoking, $200/week +utilities. Security & references required. Call and leave message for appointment. 524-2947. LACONIA: 1-bedroom for rent, heat/HW/electric included, no smoking, no pets, security deposit required. $725/month. 387-3304 LACONIA: Gilbert Apartments. Call for available apartments. 524-4428 LAKE Winnisquam Home- 3+ bedrooms, monitor heating, modern appliances, lake access. 1st + security deposit. $1,295/Month + utilities. References. 954-755-0764 Evenings. rbraber@bellsouth.net LAKEPORT exceptional Private, small 2 bedrooms, 2 baths W&D hook ups, porch, parking, snow removal, + utilities. No smoking. $825/Month . 366-4712
TILTON- 2 Downstairs 1 bedrooms, newly redone $620/Month. 603-393-9693 or 916-214-7733.
WEIRS BEACH 1 Bedroom, full use of condo to share, 1 1/2 baths, walk out onto patio from basement, fully applianced, washer/dryer, pets okay. (Older female preferred) $400/mo. 366-2798
WINTER RENTAL CEDAR LODGE Weirs Beach, Open Year Round ... Studios, 1-bedroom or 2-bedroom condos starting at $575 per month. Please call Wendy at 366-4316.
For Rent-Vacation BAR HARBOR/Arcadia Area oceanfront cottage. Fabulous view, sleeps 6-8. Available after August 25th, off season rates, $650 per week. Call Bob 603-524-5092