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SHIFT HAPPENS Getting Over a Toxic Relationship ANDREA WAGEMAKER
ARE YOU FINALLY
getting out of a toxic relationship
But there was something about the relationship that is
with a partner? You told your partner that you weren’t
like an addiction that you can’t kick. Do you find you
happy and you were not willing put up with the way
can’t bring yourself to not answer every time the phone
things are and left the relationship. You should be hap-
rings? Can you bring myself to say no when there may be
py—right? Are your friends telling you to celebrate your
a meet up? Do you need that temporary fix?
freedom by being single again? So, why can’t you be happy and relieved?
If so, reading this may hit you and leave you numb. What you might not have seen is how much the relationship
Did everyone around you kept telling you the relation-
had been affecting you in every facet of your life. How
ship wasn’t right, that you were being controlled and
one single relationship can change you, and also change
walked on? Truth is, deep down you know you deserve to
the relationships you have with other people.
be treated better. Did you love despite all the toxic traits, the lying, and the controlling?
The truth is, you were programed not to trust anyone. You may have told your partner all your dark deep se-
Toxic relationships aren’t just relationships with someone
crets in such a way that no one is going to know you the
who is bad for you. Toxic relationships are the horrible
way your partner did because they were the one who
relationship you have with yourself in which you think
taught you never let someone get close to you. Your part-
you can’t do better than someone’s half-hearted love.
ner comes and goes with every one of your secrets. The
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