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Contents September / October 2023 “For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities – his eternal power and divine nature – have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.”

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Symbolism & Salvation: An invaluable symbol

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PUBLISHER’S Corner

Mom – a great example to all of us

until we sold the drive-in when I was 33. I’m grateA little fun family history... I was born at a time ful for the many lessons I learned there. Our mother when mothers stayed in the hospital for about a lead by example; there was no job beneath her, and week to recover from giving birth. The youngest of she was naturally business savvy. six children, and the fourth girl in our family, my As the drive-in was out in the country, she didn’t parents struggled to find the right name for me. see the need to advertise, emphatically telling most Our family has long joked about the fact that the ad sales reps, “There’s hamburger joints on every corner, nobody’s going to drive 20 miles for a burgday before our mother was to bring me home, the er.” She knew what the standard ad budget should nurses brought her a tray with names on little slips be, so each August she would contact the schools of paper, explaining that I simply must have a name, near the drive-in and ask the guidance counselors or they couldn’t let me go home. how many students in their school couldn’t afford My sisters all have fun, cute names ending with school supplies. She would give the counselors either and “ie” or an “i,” and yet she chose Sandra enough money out of her “ad budget” to go buy for me. A name I have always felt was very formal those supplies on the condition of anonymity. She and stiff. My piano teacher always felt the need to never wanted those children, or their parents, to add a “u” in there to make it an even more formal, know where the help came from. She grew up poor, Saundra. Anyone who knows me knows that I’m Sandy Jones and knew what it was like to go without. anything but formal, and wanting to be cute and fun If someone was ill, or lost a family member, we like my sisters as I entered junior high, I chose to go would quickly gather together a meal in the back room of the driveby Sandy. in, and off she would go to show them a little love and support.

In my early teens someone was talking about what their name She was a “helper of mankind,” and showed each of us what it was meant. I was shocked. What did they mean? So I found a baby name to live that walk. Mom was very quiet about her faith, but instead book and looked up “Sandra.” I was unimpressed to see that it said lived it out each and every day. “helper of mankind.” Why couldn’t it be something more profound, Christian Living Ministries is what God has called me to do in this like “world changer,” or fun like “eternal ray of sunshine?” Nope, for season in my life, and as I look back I see that Mom chose the best me it was “helper of mankind.” name for me. Did the Holy Spirit guide her? Most likely, knowing When I was in the 4th or 5th grade we lived next door to a couple before the beginning of time that this would be my calling. In the who were both retired school teachers, George and Margaret Judd.

I loved them so much. They were like local grandparents to me. The Bible we’re often told what names meant. In Hebrew Jesus means “to rescue; deliver”; Abraham means “father of multitudes.” I’ve alJudds had a big, beautiful garden, and Margaret canned or froze ways felt bad for poor Jabez, whose name in Hebrew means “pain.” everything. One summer they had a bumper beet crop and I spent I can’t imagine living with that moniker over my head every day. days at their home helping her can or pickle beets. I was enthralled by how the skin would just “pop” off of a hot beet. It was fun!

Meanwhile my own mother was next door doing our family can“…the Son of Man did not come to be served, ning. It wasn’t as much fun to help Mom, partly because she wasn’t but to serve, and to give his life doing beets, but it just wasn’t. When Margaret told Mom what wonderful help I’d been, Mom was quick to reply that it would be great as a ransom for many.” if I was as much help for her.

—Matthew 20:28 NIV Our family owned a drive-in restaurant, and I actually went to work there at the ripe old age of 13, and worked there off and on

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Scripture calls us to serve, just as Jesus served. Our mother’s lessons were not lost on any of us. I watch in amazement as I see each of our siblings, and their spouses, lend a helping hand in some of the most unique situations. Whether chairing fundraisers for children with cancer, teaching school, serving in government municipalities, assisting elderly neighbors, helping with grandchildren and great grandchildren, serving our communities and church bodies, or working in full-time ministry, we all serve.

One of my favorite memories will always be from this summer when 3 of “the sisters” were able to bless our oldest brother and his wife as she is recovering from major back surgery. As siblings, Dave and Jerry have led the way for our entire adult lives, and it was with joy that each of us were able to take a turn and go show them some extra love, much as they’ve shown us, and just like Mom would have done.

We never know who is watching us, and this walk down memory lane is a great reminder to me to be a great example every day and everywhere I go. Thanks for coming along for the ride!

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SYMBOLISM & Salvation

Bread of Life: an invaluable symbol

By Daniel Bobinski

What do we make of the comment by Jesus in the sixth chapter of John, verse 35, where He says, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.”

That’s quite an analogy, and quite a claim. Let’s unpack it.

First off, what do we know about bread? We know it’s been around since before each of us was born, because bread is one of the oldest-made foods on earth. For millennia it’s been a staple on most continents, and it’s considered a basic for sustenance. Think of prisoners surviving on bread and water alone.

Just like bread is a basic food that can sustain life in our physical bodies, Jesus sustains our spiritual bodies. But a difference exists.

When we eat physical bread, we eventually get hungry again. But that doesn’t happen in heaven. Jesus told them straight up: “Whoever comes to me will never go hungry.”

This doesn’t mean we will never run out of food to eat. It means we will never go hungry.

I am reminded of the testimonies of several people who have died physically, went to heaven, and were sent back. The testimony of Dean Braxton comes to mind specifically. (If you’ve not heard Dean’s testimony, multiple videos of his experience in heaven can be

found on YouTube – and for multiple reasons I believe his story.) People have asked Braxton what kind of food people eat in heaven. His response has always been that there is no need to eat in heaven because Jesus sustains you. “You aren’t hungry,” Braxton says.

Braxton says you can eat if you want to, but there’s no need to eat because you just don’t get hungry in heaven.

This aligns perfectly with John 6:35 – whoever comes to me will never go hungry.

But we also need to read John 6:35 in context. This verse comes immediately after 5,000 people were fed with only five loaves of bread and two fishes ( John 6:1-21). Afterwards, Jesus and His disciples crossed the Sea of Galilee in a boat and landed in Capernaum. The next day the crowds arrived in Capernaum and asked Jesus for a sign to prove He was the Messiah.

As if feeding 5,000 people with five loaves and two fishes wasn’t enough.

Jesus’ response is what we read in John 6:35: “I am the Bread of Life.”

Not thinking spiritually, the crowd asked for clarification. Stymied by worldly and short-sighted thinking, many did not figure out what He was saying and decided they weren’t going to follow Him.

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They didn’t understand that their nourishment the previous day just appeared before them, seemingly out of nowhere. They didn’t realize that it was being provided by the Most High, and that by Jesus telling them that HE was the Bread of Life, He was giving them an analogy. Once in heaven they would be provided for in the same way.

They would never need to work again to have sustenance.

It would be provided for them seemingly out of nowhere from God’s abundance.

It had been less than 24 hours since He fed them in that miraculous way, but when Jesus said, “I am the Bread of Life,” they were thinking physically. They weren’t thinking spiritually.

Your Favorite Meal: Think about it. When you sit down to your favorite meal after not eating for a while and you eat your fill, you become physically satisfied. You can Daniel Bobinski sit back, relax, and enjoy the feeling of being full. You no longer have a desire for physical food because your needs have been met.

Similarly, when we are in our spiritual bodies in heaven, we will feel full and satisfied.

Always. It will be permanent.

The Process of Making Bread: There is one more aspect of bread I’d like to cover here, metaphorically speaking. On earth, bread is made by crushing wheat or some other grain into a type of flour, mixing it with water or other ingredients, and then baking it in an oven.

The “bread” doesn’t officially become bread until its basic ingredients have been crushed and then submitted to the flames. Only after it comes out of the oven is it called bread.

Similarly, on earth, each of us endures hardships and difficulties that can be, at times, crushing. It’s not like everything in our lives just falls into line and becomes all rosy once we accept Jesus’ sacrifice and become born again. Quite the contrary. One need only look at the example of Paul in the book of Acts to see that he suffered greatly as he was refined and molded by God into being a bold witness.

With that in mind, let me ask you to remember the opening verses in the book of James ( James 1:2-4): “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.

Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

Rather than get discouraged by life’s trials and tribulations, we can count it all joy. After all, Paul writes in his letter to the Romans, chapter 8 verse 19, that those of us who are born again are being “conformed to the image of His Son.” Jesus endured trials. And so will we.

As one person told me, “When we, as Christians, go through life’s trials, we shouldn’t fret.

It’s just God baking up some delicious bread.”

Regardless of whether that analogy resonates with you, you can still take comfort in what Jesus told us. He said that He is the Bread of Life, and whoever comes to Him will never go hungry.

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MY GRANDKIDS’ challenges

Western Church, culture changing swiftly

“something” rushing in that is dissolving and

By Ed Rybarczyk When I pray for my three grandchildren, what deconstructing a formerly, if tacitly embraced, Judo I want? That they give their hearts and souls deo-Christian worldview inside both culture and to Jesus, that they have a real and personal relathe Church. That something? An evolution-based tionship with Him, that they center their entire perspective on life’s origins. And its effects go lives around His revelation, beauty, love, and deep and wide. This post-Christian orientation to holiness. My own Christian identity is so prelife is energetically re-shaping social institutions cious to me that as a grandfather I naturally want like education, law, politics, economics, and now my grandkids to embrace Christ with the same even theology departments. But let’s keep our heart-felt fervor as do I. But it can’t stop there. focus more narrow.

My grandkids will face far greater challenges to Let’s take something as prevalent as the hutheir faith across their lives than did my babyboomer generation. man mind. Proponents of evolution tell us that Western culture is changing so swiftly that every organic thing that exists is present owing to much of the Church is being overwhelmed. For this formula: chance + accident + enough time + various reasons – the Covid shut-downs, the coping techniques = something. You give reality Ed Rybarczyk alienating power of social media, the ongoing enough time and owing to chance and/or acfragmentation of the social order (strangers are cident and/or survival techniques and something to be positively feared now), the politicization of everything, the will have (actually did, as it turns out) result. (Never mind asking shallowing out of the church experience – Americans are attendquestions about the nature of reality such that that magical foring church less often, as a population, than ever before. Gallup mula can actually do what its proponents suggest.)

Poll reveals that Americans were attending church, in pre-Covid And so? The human mind is not something intentionally deyears, at a 34% clip. Since Covid? It is down to 30%. Specifically among Protestants, since 2020, Gallup notes that regular church signed by a master creator; it is the result of millennia-on-end’s attendance has gone down from 44% to 40%. For Catholics? That worth of trial and error. The mind is not something that really situation is worse: from 37% to 30%.1 But that’s just the churchand actually exists, as inherent to what it means to be human, attendance way of assessing this slide. but is instead merely the way human materialistic physiology More grievous to me, as a former full-time theology professor? has learned – again, across the many centuries – to cope, and to The worldview slide that is at work inside of American culture.

Gallup recently found out that Americans believe the moral state survive. The mind is not something given to us by our Creator so that we can, like Him, think, share consciousness, or process realof our nation is trending down at a quick pace. Moreover, that ity. No, behind the human mind – so say the ardent Evolutionary perception of moral-decay trending downward is felt among nihilists – there is finally. . . nothing.

Independents, Republicans, and Democrats.2 So what? What does this mean for my grandchildren? Yours?

And then there are the millions of self-identifying Christians It means that the game has changed. Big time. It means that who are steadily abandoning standard biblical teachings. Gallup notes in a recent study that the percentages of Americans as family members we cannot, and as members of the body of who believe in religious entities (God, the devil, angels, hell, and Christ, we cannot any longer assume that a Judeo-Christian heaven) is itself trending down. Since 2016, Gallup reveals, belief worldview is prevalent, or even tacitly accepted, by our culture; in those five Christian realities is down some 3% to 5%.3 Again, not even here in spectacular Idaho. Our children and grandchilthis is a rather simplistic way to assess the trends at work amongst dren will not grow up in an environment where biblical teachings us, but it is indicative of something. are widely embraced. Our public institutions – schools, city halls, Let’s slice the cheese even more thin. How are people living state and local governments, a sort-of-free-market economy, and their lives? Assessing reality? What do they think is ultimately families – are now all steeped in a materialistic philosophy that real? What are their goals, impulses, yearnings, and dreams? denies there is any inherent dignity to being human. The ruling What guides their daily decisions? What do they believe unites orientation to life is that the ultimate there-there is a nothing. us as fellow citizens? Now we’re asking questions that get down into the soul of the matter. Because whether folks admit it or not And so the void must be filled with power. That rush-to-power is (often they do not admit it), or whether folks are aware of it or not why everything is getting politicized. (and often they are not aware), something is guiding their deciAnd all that? Presents an enormous challenge to me as a grandsion making. Something is the center of their worldview, their father. More broadly? It presents an enormous challenge to the orientation to life, their evaluative powers.

Church as the body of Christ. How will we respond? n Aristotle once famously wrote, “horror vacui,” or in English, “nature abhors a vacuum.” Something always rushes in to fill Ed Rybarczyk (Ree-BAR-check), Ph.D., is both an ordained a gap, an emptiness, a void. By definition, inside a void there minister and a retired History of Theology professor. is no structure, no resistance, no there-there to halt movement He now produces and hosts the Uncensored Unprofessor or intrusion. As our culture steadily (and now even with gleepodcast @ uncensoredunprofessor.com. He can be reached ful celebration) abandons its traditional Christian moorings it is not nothing that is rushing in to fill that vacuum. No, it’s the at uncensoredunprofessor@gmail.com.

Sources: 1) https://news.gallup.com/poll/507692/church-attendance-lower-pre-pandemic.aspx (dated 6/26/2023).

2) https://news.gallup.com/poll/506960/views-state-moral-values-new-low.aspx (dated 6/9/2023).

3) https://news.gallup.com/poll/508886/belief-five-spiritual-entities-edges-down-new-lows.aspx (dated 7/20/2023).

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Caldwell Fall Prayer Walk set for October

The Caldwell Fall Prayer Walk will take place Saturday, October 14, starting at 3 p.m. at the Caldwell Memorial Park Bandshell. Participants will walk around downtown Caldwell and stop to pray at various locations, according to walk organizer Arlene Robinett.

“We pray for the police, paramedics, firemen, the mayor and city council members, health care workers, the college and schools, students, teachers, administrative staff, bus drivers, for a day care center for the homeless, for food insecure families, for human trafficking victims, for graffiti to go away, for the elimination of gangs, illegal drugs, and violence, and for all of Caldwell's businesses to do well,” Robinett said.

This is a family event for people of all ages. Anyone who doesn't want to walk may stay at the bandshell and pray. All are invited.

“We have a wonderful time of being together and praying for our wonderful city,” said Robinett.

A potluck dinner will be held following the walk, and those who attend are invited to bring a favorite dish to share.

For more information, contact Robinett at (208) 391 8516. n

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UNDERSTANDING Relationships

Who talks more? Male, female differences

The film “Divorce American Style” opens with a Who talks more, women or men? According to conversation in which Debbie Reynolds is claiming the stereotype, women talk too much. Throughout that she and Dick Van Dyke don’t communicate. history, women have been punished for talking too And he is protesting that he tells her everything much or in the wrong way. According to linguist that’s on his mind. The doorbell interrupts their Connie Eble, a variety of physical punishments quarrel, and husband and wife compose themselves were used in Colonial America on women who before opening the door to greet their guests with talked too much. cheerful smiles.

Though such institutionalized corporal punishments have given way to informal, often psychologiBehind closed doors, many couples are having cal ones, modern stereotypes are not much different conversations like this. Like the character played from those expressed in the old proverbs. Women

by Debbie Reynolds, women feel men don’t comare believed to talk too much. Yet study after study municate. Like the husband played by Dick Van finds that it is men who talk more – at meetings, in Dyke, men feel wrongly accused. How can she be mixed-group discussions, and in classrooms where convinced that he doesn’t tell her anything, while girls or young women sit next to boys or young men. he is equally convinced he tells her everything that’s Who really does talk more: women or men? The Gary Moore seemingly contradictory evidence is reconciled on his mind? How can women and men have such by the difference between what Deborah Tannen different ideas about the same conversations? (internationally recognized linguistics professor at Georgetown UniWhen something goes wrong, people look around for a source versity) calls public and private speaking. More men feel comfortable to blame: either the person they are trying to communicate with doing “public speaking,” while more women feel comfortable doing (“You’re demanding, stubborn, self-centered”) or the group that the “private” speaking. In other words, report-talk, and rapport-talk. other person belongs to (“All women are demanding”; “All men are For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a self-centered”). Some generous-minded people blame the relationlanguage of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiatship (“We just can’t communicate”). But underneath, or overlaid on ing relationships. Emphasis is placed on displaying similarities and matching experiences. From childhood, girls criticize peers who try these types of blame cast outward, most people believe that someto stand out or appear better than others. thing is wrong with them.

For most men, talk is primarily a means to preserve independence If individual people or particular relationships were to blame, and negotiate and maintain status in a hierarchical social order. This there wouldn’t be so many different people having the same probis done by exhibiting knowledge and skill, and by holding center lems. Dr. Tannen says the real problem is conversational style. stage through verbal performance such as storytelling, joking, or Women and men have different ways of talking. Even with the best imparting information. From childhood, men learn to use talking as intentions, trying to settle the problem through talk can only make a way to get and keep attention.

Studies have shown that if women and men talk equally in a things worse if it is ways of talking that are causing the problem in group, people think the women talked more. Dr. Tannen says that the first place. men think women talk a lot because they hear women talking in That’s why mutual understanding in this area is so critical. Withsituations where men would not: on the telephone; or in social situa- out this understanding, you’ll make assumptions and assign motives tions with friends, when they are not discussing topics that men find that are wrong and thus exacerbate the problem. You’ll find The inherently interesting; or, at home alone – in other words, in private MUM 3 Step Connection Plan of great assistance in this area. You speaking. can check it out at my website, www.mutualunderstanding.net.

Home is the setting for the American stereotype that features the Not right or wrong – just different, by design. n silent man and the talkative woman. The complaint most often voiced by women about the men with whom they are intimate is “He doesn’t talk to me” – and the second most frequent is “He Gary Moore served as associate pastor at Cloverdale Church of doesn’t listen to me.”

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RON Price

Entrepreneur holds fast to his faith

By Gaye Bunderson

Over the course of his 70 years, Ron Price achieved successful white collar executive status, but he started out working for his dad in the blue collar occupation of truck tire treading. “I would go out and change semi-truck tires on the highway at night,” Price says, “and during the day we would put new rubber on tires.”

Initially he saw that work as insignificant and ‘just a paycheck’, but he’d change his mind about the tire business later down the road.

His teenage years were pivotal for Price in diverse ways.

“I actually went to college before I was 17,” he explains. “I went to Michigan State when I was 14 and 15 years old. I was in the theater program, and I really didn’t take anything other than theater classes.

That’s all I was interested in.”

His theater classes offered him opportunities to travel. During the school year, the troupe would traverse the U.S.; in summer, they’d tour Europe. “It was in the civil rights time, so we performed a variety show that was really built around themes on civil rights,” Price states.

The businessman says that his teen theater classes were his only college training, but he attended what was then a different sort of business school common at the time. “Back when I went to business school, it was not at an institute of higher education. These were corporate business schools back then, so I went to Uniroyal’s Corporate University, where I learned things like reading financial statements and managing collections and sales and operations.”

Another crucial event in his teenage years was becoming a follower of Christ.

“We grew up going to church every week back in Lansing, Mich., where I’m from. When I was growing up in the ‘50s and ‘60s, our country was still a pretty biblically-based worldview country, so you would go to church on Sundays. You may not have that much of a real connection to God, but you believed in God and you sang the hymns and things like that, and so I did that,” Price states.

It may sound like a rather tepid start to faith, but it laid the foundation.

Price explains, “Through my teen years I started searching and looking at different things, and I studied the Baha’i faith. I thought I could find God through intellectual pursuit, and it was really when I recognized it’s a heart issue that I realized I really needed a Savior. I fundamentally could not overcome the problem of sin in my life.

“As a teenager, I really thought that I could be a good person. My ‘bible’ at the time was The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm, who was a pop psychologist in the ‘60s. I had friends who kept telling me that wasn’t going to be enough – that you really had to understand the nature of your relationship, or lack of relationship, with God.” At age 17, Price got in his car and steered himself out of town and to a field. He estimates the date at around August 1, 1971. He took with him a Bible he’d gotten in third grade for memorizing a pair of Psalms, and he walked out into the middle of the field, sat down solo, and said to the Creator: “Okay God, I’m giving You a chance. If You exist, You can show up now.”

Perhaps he anticipated a whirling cloud and a deep bass voice calling, “I’m here, Ron. Thanks for coming.” But in fact what actually occurred was Price sitting for a minute or two and then being consumed by a cloud of hungry mosquitoes instead. He says with a touch of humor, “I’d heard of the devil and thought, ‘Oh that’s the devil, trying to keep me from meeting with God.’ Well, the devil won cuz I got bit by mosquitoes so much I ran back and got in the car.”

A reader might now think that the teenager returned to his vehicle, turned the key in the ignition, and hightailed it away from the field of insects. But thankfully, the young man was still set on making a connection with his Lord. “I got in the car and it’s the first time I remember praying out loud and having it be my prayer. I said, ‘God, I know You’re there, and I know I have no right to put any demands on You because I’m a sinner’ – and that was it. I drove away and I said to my friends later when I saw them, ‘You can leave me alone

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Accomplished local entrepreneur Ron Price wears many hats. Along with running successful businesses, he is also an author and public speaker. (Courtesy photo)

now because I gave God a chance and He didn’t show up, so you don’t have to bother’.”

His youthful coterie of companions, all of whom were believers, were having none of his cavalier dismissal of God, and they said to him, “Oh, wait a minute, wait a minute! Come with us!”

Price states, “They took me to a place and talked to me for a couple hours. I don’t remember a thing they said, but I’m sure they were reading from the Bible. And finally, one of them asked, ‘Ron, do you want to accept Jesus?’, and I said, ‘Yes’, because I thought, ‘Well, it can’t hurt, and I don’t know exactly what he means to ‘accept Jesus’, but if nothing else, I’ll get them off my back and they’ll leave me alone’.”

His friends led Price through the Sinner’s Prayer. By then, the time was somewhere near O-dark-hundred and the teenager didn’t get home until roughly 3 a.m. A disciplined person even then, he slept briefly and then got up at 7 a.m. to go to work. But getting up that morning was different from other mornings. Something changed.

“I got up, and it wasn’t a big emotional experience, but all of a sudden I cared about what God’s will was; and because I had a theater background, my friends, years later, confided in me that they thought I was acting – they thought it was all an act because I just did a 180. Nothing mattered but what God’s will was.”

It’s been the same for Price ever since.

“I’d made a commitment to the Lord on August 4, 1971, and of course I just gobbled the Scriptures up and got involved in Bible studies and prayer meetings.”

He also engaged in “street work,” committing full-time to helping gang members and drug addicts and prostitutes in Lansing. He did that for about four months until the work got shut down by an urban renewal project.

Also seeking work at the time, he ended up back at his father’s truck tire treading shop, eventually becoming a co-owner and building three more truck tire retread businesses with his dad, for a total of four (in Lansing, Detroit, Traverse City, and St. Louis, Michigan).

His perspective changed and he no longer dismissed the work as trifling. “I began to see that work could be spiritual, and it had to do with how you serve your customers. It had to do with how you relate to your co-workers, and the commitment to doing your best.”

Price and his dad were partners in the business for about five years. During that time, Price was training for the lay ministry, and

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in 1977 he was ordained a lay pastor. In November of ‘77, he sold his stock in the business and went into full-time church work. “I was doing administrative things and I was pastoring, counseling, speaking, and I was particularly interested in understanding people’s unique talent, what made them different; and I was also very interested in how you could help churches develop strategy.”

After nine years, Price became aware of a gnawing discontentment.

“I started to feel there was more that God wanted to do with me,” he states. “I was at a pastors’ conference in April of ‘86 and I distinctly felt that God spoke in my heart, saying that I should pack my bags, it was time to go. That was shocking, and I spent a lot of time trying to break through and understand what that meant.

“I thought maybe I was going to plant a church, but I started to get invited to speak at events on health and taking care of yourself – exercise, diets, hydration, things like that. My wife and I had been studying that for a while.”

Price and his family (the Prices had five sons and a daughter) made a move from Michigan to Idaho, and the senior Price worked at AIM International in Nampa. The company makes and markets food concentrates and nutritional supplements. The year was 1989.

Eventually, Price became president of the company and says of that job, “I felt that helping people be healthier was even more tied to doing something noble and spiritual.”

He also felt he had a passion for helping people develop their potential. In 2000, he left AIM; and in 2004, he started Price Associates, a company that “helps companies navigate challenges in culture, people, innovation, and leadership. … [Price Associates is] a global leadership performance firm that features the bright minds and innovative solutions of some of the world’s top consultants in organizational development, process management, branding/marketing, and more.” (From https://price-associates.com)

Price himself traveled to at least 15 countries and throughout the U.S. during his time with the business. At the end of 2021, he was asked to be the president of a psychometrics company in Scottsdale, Ariz. He then retired from Price Associates. The company still exists; his wife oversees the finances there, he provides advice to the business from time to time, and he remains a co-owner even though he no longer works there.

“I see this common thread all the way from re-treading truck tires to today because it’s very much aligned with my sense of what my purpose is on Earth, which is to first discover and pursue my own greatest potential and then to help other people do the same,” Price states.

“I was very fascinated with what makes people different and how you could draw that out to get a greater sense of both success and fulfillment. But I was also very interested in how organizations could be more successful. That’s what got me studying strategy, and I’ve studied strategy now for over 40 years. That eventually led me to studying executing strategy – how you actually make it happen.

Those are the things I’ve always found a lot of joy in doing.”

He doesn’t see any of this as separate from his faith.

“I think that you find so many interesting things in the Scriptures that guide you and help you,” he says.

He’s been thrown a curveball in life from time to time.

“I’ve gone through some hard times,” he says. “I’ve gone through some situations where I was really disappointed in people. I went through one situation where I was defrauded of several million dollars, and it was very hard on our family. But I look back on it and I can see a design in it. I hope I never have to go through anything like that again, but we got through it and we learned a lot in the process.

“So I think happy is good, but I think that trials are a very important part of being successful. I mean, I look back now and I marvel. I didn’t plan my life out, but it’s very clear that there was a plan.” n

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DOMESTIC Violence Awareness Month

When abuse hits the Body of Christ

By Leslie Montgomery

“In the event no one has ever said it, allow me to apologize for all the men in your life who have abused you, starting with your dad.” The words came from evangelical best-selling author, Neil T. Anderson, whose books, The Bondage Breaker, Victory Over the Darkness, and The Steps to Freedom in Christ, sold millions of copies. He had just read my memoir and graciously written the Forward. An unexpected gasp came from deep within my soul. As I covered my mouth to prevent further utterance, tears poured over my hands like a waterfall.

My family tree began when my mother was forced by her own mother to marry my father after he date-raped her at gunpoint. It was the early 1960s when domestic violence wasn’t talked about publicly, let alone sexual assault or date-rape. He came from a well-respected family. She’d spent most of her 17 years in and out of foster care and homes of relatives. At nineteen, he’d already spent time in jail. She was naïve and innocent. Her mother gave him a choice: marry my daughter or I’ll press charges for statutory rape.

He chose a wedding in his parents’ backyard two days later. She got a prison term that lasted twenty-five years, after which he divorced her to marry another woman.

As a child, growing up in a home wrought with violence, and sexual and emotional abuse, every part of me ached and cried out for stability, safety, peace, and love. Although my desires went unmet, I didn’t know anything different. As my dad found comfort in the arms of other women and alcohol, I watched my mother make excuses for my father’s behavior, ignore red flags that should have been deal breakers, live in fear of both being with him and without, and witness her clean up after him again and again. Even worse, I watched her become immobilized to act in defending her helpless children.

Children learn what they’re taught. Every time I watched my father abuse my mother, and each time he turned his wrath and deviate desires onto me, I swore I’d never become her, but I did. From my first real boyfriend at fifteen throughout most of my adulthood, I was in abusive after abusive relationships. Still looking for a safe place to land after giving my heart to Jesus, I married a man just like my father. Six years later, after several failed attempts to leave him, he went to jail for two-and-a-half years for breaking my lower back, and I crawled away with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It took years of counseling, self-reflection, and leaning into my relatively newfound faith in Christ to find healing and break the cycle of abuse in my life.

In the Body of Christ, we often believe abuse doesn’t happen within the walls of the church, or at least not our specific church, but the truth is that statistics are comparatively the same inside the Body of Christ as they are outside of it: over 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men

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in the U.S. have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner.1 In fact, my husband was a professing believer who worked for a prominent, world-wide ministry.

Why don’t victims just leave? There are many pieces to the puzzle that answers that question, but for me, as a Christian woman, I didn’t want to disappoint God by separating from or divorcing my husband. He badgered and ladened me with Scriptural abuse.

I’d given up a good job on the other side of the country and left my entire support system to marry him. I felt isolated and alone. I was ashamed and didn’t want to be a burden to family or friends.

Further, he monitored my every move. If I dared to step out of the small circle of life he extended to me, I’d be physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually assaulted until I submitted back into its confines. Complete and utter loyalty and obedience to him were never to be compromised. Threats of murder assured compliance. To add fuel to the fire, he controlled the finances. I had been stripped of my autonomy and it was replaced with fear, guilt, and shame. Many victims of abuse face these same challenges, among others, including threats to keep or take their children away from them or harm to family members.

Women and children enduring abuse are seldom far from my heart or mind. As a survivor I’m more than aware of the struggle to find freedom from the complicated web of abuse and the cycle that ensnares victims. I know that they need prayer, support, encouragement, and resources to find freedom. I also know that when others condemn you for staying, fault you for not leaving, use Scripture to encourage you to remain in the relationship, or turn their backs on you because you don’t take their advice, it causes more pain, guilt, and shame.

With Domestic Violence Awareness Month upon us in October, I pray we will have eyes to see the heart of God for the abused within our community. In the Bible, all violence is considered an offense against God and humanity and is associated with wickedness and condemned as “detestable to the Lord” (Ps. 11, Proverbs 3 and 10).

Violence against women is particularly condemned. In Jewish law, rape was viewed as equivalent to murder (Deut. 22:26), as was pressuring a woman physically (Deut. 22:25-27) or psychologically (Deut.

22:28-29). Further, the Psalms portray oppression in a manner that echoes abuse survivors’ words about their abusers: “His mouth is filled with cursing and deceit and oppression; under his tongue are mischief and iniquity” (Ps. 10).

Helping the helpless. To understand why domestic and family violence is a problem in the church, we must be willing to dialogue about violence, power, gender, and marriage within the wider faith community. Scripture supports God’s desire for a dramatic transformation of society for those who are burdened, marginalized, or unjustly treated (Luke 4:18-21; Proverbs 14:31; Matthew 9:13; Mark 3:4-5).

Next, we must look at domestic violence in its totality: it’s more than physical. In fact, defined, it is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner

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INTRODUCING THE STRETCH IRA PROTECTION “SIP” TRUST in an intimate relationship. That includes behaviors of physical violence, threats, emotional or financial abuse, sexual assault, and child and elder abuse.

Finally, we must be willing to step out of our comfort zone to help those in need. I volunteer at the Nampa Family Justice Center. Why? When my mate was originally arrested, he bailed out of jail and came straight for me. While he was there, I’d gone to my local domestic violence alliance. As he sought to regain power and control over me one last time, I ran into the arms of trained advocates who knew exactly how to console, protect, and stand with me over the coming months financially, judicially, emotionally, and physically. Without reservation, I will say that God used those women to save my life.

While you may not feel led to be a volunteer, there are other ways to help. One way is to financially support the alliance as they help victims become survivors. Another way is to offer support to them through prayer. Statistically, you or someone you know has or is being abused. The Nampa Family Justice Center has resources available for you if you just want to talk, or if you want to help someone. You can also go to the center’s website at Changing Lives-Inspiring Hope-Providing Encouragement (fjcfoundationofidaho.org) or call them at 208-475-5700. Or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233; hours: 24/7; languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service. n Source: 1) National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Statistics, https://ncadv.org

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Angela Weekes

A centurion of faith a

go back to high school. So I worked for several In the early ’60s, the Los Angeles Police months with a local multi-agency narcotDepartment adopted the motto “To ics unit to do a 21 Jump Street-like protect and to serve” – a phrase program at Caldwell High.” that has subsequently been Posing as a student, she atused by police departments tended classes, took tests, all across the country. But did her homework – and for retired Nampa Police bought illegal drugs.

Department detective “We ended up making Angela Weekes, her sixteen arrests durmotto is not only “to ing that time and I protect and to serve,” turned over names of but also “to survive some thirty students and thrive.”

I either suspected or Born and raised knew were involved in Emmett, Idaho, in the drug scene,” “I always believed in she recalls. After that, God, even though my Angela “graduated” family seldom went to to working undercover church,” she recalls. “So in area bars, “buying I never remember a point methamphetamines or in my life when I didn’t know cocaine or whatever people Jesus was my savior.” wanted to sell me,” … then But her walk with the Lord has later became one of the Nampa not always been easy. When Angela Police Department’s school resource was eleven, her father was killed in a tragic officers, introducing grade schoolers to the motorcycle accident. “And that was one of nationwide DARE (Drug Abuse Resistance NPD Det. Cpl. Angela Weekes, left, is shown here the biggest tests of my faith,” she admits. “I Retired with Det. Erin Pon, center, and Det. Kari Seibel, right. Pon Education) program. really questioned whether God was real or, and Seibel were two of the detectives Weekes supervised while “That’s when I started really getting if He was real, why had He allowed this to in the NPD Crimes Against Persons Unit. (Courtesy photo) involved with child abuse investigations,” happen? So I was really struggling with my she says, “because I have always been superanger toward God back then.” passionate about those cases.” So much so that, in 2002, Angela As a result of the accident, Angela and her older sister were raised became one of the Department’s full-time child abuse investigators. by their mother.

At first, though, she had a hard time with it. “I didn’t understand During that time, perhaps to strengthen her faith, “I remember the dynamics of sexual assault and domestic violence. I’d tell God, ‘I my grandparents would take me to church. My grandmother was can’t believe you took me, of all people, to do this work.’ And I’d be a very spiritual woman; in fact, she was the first person who taught lying to say those cases didn’t affect me. You cannot see people dying me how to read the Bible,” says Angela. “My mom had given me my or hurt or watch all the suffering in this community and not have it father’s Bible – a King James Version, which was really hard for me impact your life. But because of my faith, and only because of my to understand – but my grandmother sat me down with that Bible faith, I was able to mentally get through it.” one day and said, ‘Just open it. Open the pages and trust where God Among all the horrific cases she has handled, two in particular is leading you. Just read what He puts in front of you.’ So I started had the greatest impact on her: the beating death of three-year-old doing that … and I gradually became more and more familiar with Ellen Sinclair, killed by a man who, according to Angela, had had it.” To the point where, “I learned enough to know I wanted God in 68 prior contacts with police … and a baby named Natasha Duarté, my life.” who was left blind and unable to speak after being shaken by her Years later, while attending Boise State University, Angela enrolled babysitter. “Those cases dramatically changed my life … and the in a criminal justice class simply on a friend’s recommendation. “I course of my career,” she points out. Because, in October of that had never even heard of criminal justice before,” she notes. “But I year, Angela was sent to San Diego to teach at a police academy, thought I would take the class, anyway.” One of her out-of-the-class- where she also had the opportunity to tour that city’s Family Justice room assignments involved going on a ride-along with a Boise Police Center, the first in the country. officer. “I had never considered going into law enforcement but, She was so impressed, so touched by what she saw through the after that first ride-along, I was hooked! We went out on a domestic services the San Diego Center provided, she immediately set out to violence call and on a man-with-a-gun call, both of which should establish a similar center in Nampa. She remembers being asleep in have terrified me. But they didn’t. Instead, the adrenaline hit me. her hotel room when “God woke me up in the middle of the night And I told the officer, ‘You mean you actually get paid to do this?’” and, before He let me go back to sleep, I had an eight-page strategic As result of that adrenaline hit, Angela graduated from Boise State plan written up of how I was going to start a Family Justice Center with a criminal justice degree and, in 1994, was hired by – “and fell in Nampa! That’s how God speaks to me. I often wake up in the in love with,” as she puts it – the Nampa Police Department. One middle of the night with a great inspiration, a great vision from of her first jobs was to work undercover as a teenager, even though Him. So I came back home and started working on the concept of she was 23 at the time. “They thought I looked young enough to starting a Family Justice Center here in Nampa.”

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COVER STORY

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Even though Angela had the support of the police chief and her comShe received support from her family, her church – and the Nampa Police Department, which accommodated her treatment schedule and manding officers, and utilized what one co-worker called her “bullher compromised immune system. She was assigned light detective dog work ethic,” she says “I had no clue what I was doing. I had no duty “which meant I didn’t have to go into dirty drug houses or fight experience in writing grants or developing programs.” In fact, trying suspects,” she chuckles. In fact, she loved her job so much, “I’d have to establish the Center while still carrying a full caseload became so challenging for her “I remember I was on my knees in my bedroom one chemotherapy on a Friday, for example, and I’d be back to work on a night, begging God to take this from me. I told Him, ‘You’ve picked the Monday. Sometimes, I would have to take a week or so off for surgeries, but I was always able to – and I always wanted to – continue working.” wrong person. I’m not created for this. I don’t know what I’m doing.’

As her chemo treatments continued, so much of her hair began fallBut after some twenty minutes of trying to get rid of what I felt was a ing out that she decided to shave her head. Her husband voluntarily did burden at that time, He stood me up in my bedroom – and I’ve been the same. on a direct path ever since. That’s the way God works in my life.”

A few months later, Angela and several others attended what she In 2005, the Nampa Family Justice Center officially opened its doors, thought was a “good-bye” luncheon for Nampa Police Chief Craig after being selected as one of fifteen pilot programs across the nation Kingsbury, who had accepted an identical position with the Twin Falls funded with $20 million set aside through The President’s Family JusPolice Department. The luncheon was held at the Brick 29 restautice Center Initiative. rant in downtown Nampa. But as they left the restaurant, Angela was Today, Angela says, the Nampa Family Justice Center is one of the stopped in her tracks when she saw a large group of fellow emergency oldest such facilities in the country. “In fact, [law enforcement] people service workers who had gathered on the sidewalk. “There must have often come here to look at our model and see how they can set up a been 30 or 40 people there from the Nampa Fire Department, the family justice center in their own community.”

SWAT team, the Canyon County Sheriff’s Office, the County ProsecuThe Nampa Center provides critical all-under-one-roof help for tor’s Office, and the Nampa Police Department – including five female victims of stalking, domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse, elder NPD officers – all of whom had shaved their heads!” she recalls, chokabuse, and human trafficking, giving them whatever medical exams, ing back a tear. “I’m a talker. I’m never at a loss for words. But seeing counseling, legal aid, child care, and law enforcement and advocacy all my co-workers standing there in solidarity, showing their support for assistance they may need. Plus, to remember and honor the two cases me, I was so moved, I couldn’t speak. It was absolutely incredible!” which prompted Angela’s efforts, the Center’s pediatrics unit has been Although she’s now cancer-free, Angela still visits her oncologist every named in honor of Ellen Sinclair, and its children’s center is known as six months. Just to be safe. “She tells me I’m different from her other “Natasha’s Place,” in honor of Natasha Duarté. patients,” Angela points out. “Her other patients are survivors; she says “I’ve seen more crazy, horrible crimes than most detectives. I’ve I’m ‘a thriver.’ And I am. It’s all due to my ‘can-do’ attitude and, more probably worked more child homicides than the average law enforceimportantly, my faith in God.” ment officer. But the more faith I had in God, the more He was Today, Angela is retired from the Nampa Police Department, works involved; the more He would bring amazing people or much-needed as a law enforcement training consultant, serves as the Nampa Famresources into the victims’ lives when they needed it the most. To me, ily Justice Center’s Foundation Board President, and volunteers at the He was constantly showing me His hand, revealing Himself through all Center three days a week. the darkness,” she states.

“God has immensely blessed me with my work, my family, my The next decade was a good time for Angela. Her law enforcement husband of 26 years, and my two adult children,” she says. Angela curcareer was in full swing … the Justice Center was successfully helping rently serves in her church’s children’s ministry, the women’s ministry, abuse victims throughout southwest Idaho … and she received a slew and she and her husband lead the young adult’s ministry. of honors including the Idaho Council on Domestic Violence’s Law Reflecting on her accomplishments and the dedicated work she tireEnforcement Silver Star Award, the Idaho Victim Witness Associalessly continues to do to help abuse victims, Angela is quick to point tion 2012 Victims Services Award, and the God and Country Rally’s out her favorite Bible verse: Philippians 4:13 which says, “I can do all Outstanding Public Service Award, among others. things through Christ who strengthens me.” “I believe God is using But then, tragedy struck. Again. me. He’s enabled me to be His hands and feet,” she states. “Because it’s In 2015, Angela was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. not me doing all these things, helping all these people; it’s the strength “I was scared. Really scared. I didn’t know what to expect,” she adof the Lord working through me.” mits. “So I completely surrendered everything to God. And by protecting, serving, thriving, and surviving, she continues to I gave it all to Him. I told Him, ‘I can’t do this without you.’ And work in their lives. from that point on, my life completely changed.” Despite undergoAnd continues to be His vessel. n ing nine surgeries, two infections, and countless rounds of chemotherapy and radiation over a two-year period, “People kept telling me about the light in my eyes; the hope, the joy, the strength they saw in me.

But I explained to them, ‘What you’re seeing is not of me. I’m a worrier. And I like to be in control. What you’re seeing is the fact that God is using me as a vessel. I don’t know why. I don’t know how. But he’s chosen me Angela Weekes, center, is shown with the Nampa Police Department patrol team at the last patrol briefing prior to her retirement. (Courtesy photo) as His vessel.”

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FAITH-based sports

Victoria Villareal and Idaho Hustle Basketball

for Villareal to start her own club team and a program not connected to a high school sports program. At present, Idaho Hustle Basketball Club is an all-male team, but Villareal said people have asked her if she intends to start a girls’ club as well. She has not committed to that, but both she and her daughter are athletes and both have played on basketball teams throughout the years.

Her daughter was a standout basketball athlete despite being 5’3” tall.

Villareal said the basketball club meets and plays nine months out of the year, has now been playing since March, and will continue through the end of October; a new season starts again in March 2024. The team holds membership in the Amateur Athletic Union, a nationwide sports organization dedicated to the development of amateur sports and physical fitness programs.

The team participates in tournaments hosted mostly by West Coast Elite Basketball. It is, in every way, organized and prepared to participate in games and tournaments in town and many others out of town. Tryouts are required, but no one is The team members of Idaho Hustle Basketball Club come from all faith denominations, socioeconomic levels, and educational options. But when they come together to play, only faith and sports matter. (Photo submitted by Victoria Villareal) cut from the team. “Some players are just raw talent, and no one ever gave them a

By Gaye Bunderson chance before,” Villareal said. “Some of the Court is now in session. Sort of. kids on our team didn’t even make their high school basketball team.”

It isn’t a court of law, but it is a court of rules and regulations, and it’s Though they are a non-profit club, Villareal said team members pay the place where the Idaho Hustle Basketball Club does its best work. to play, but the fee is not high and no one is turned away due to an Idaho Hustle Basketball Club is the only faith-based traveling basinability to pay. The small fee goes toward uniforms, gym rental, insurketball team in the Valley that Victoria Villareal, its founder, knows of; ance, equipment and travel costs. Sponsorships are available, but more and to make sure the players’ faith is not hidden under a bushel, their are needed. jerseys sport a cross where the letter “t” is in the word Hustle.

Recently, the club received the donation of a way to travel to a tourVillareal started the team this past March because her son had played nament. Villareal explained: “The only reason we were able to attend club ball for a different program since he was in 4th grade; but after her this tournament – since we were invited at the last minute – is thanks to St. Paul Baptist Church, which blessed us by letting us use their 12-passon’s 8th grade year, that program ended for good. It just made sense

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senger church van as a sponsorship. It was me and eight 16- and 17year old boys who went. We drove to Washington and back as a team.

It was great – and talk about an extremely helpful way to sponsor us!”

Tim Jamerson, who was IHBC’s first coach in the beginning but has since moved on to other things, works for the U.S. Postal Service and said he was able to get sponsorship money through the USPS to the tune of $2,500. Also, a couple he delivers mail to made contributions as sponsors as well.

The Cloverdale Church of God allowed the team to practice at its facility during the summer months, making monthly fees even cheaper.

“They are amazing to us,” Villareal said.

Jamerson left the coaching position as of May and now Villareal coaches the team. When asked how the boys in the club react to a woman as coach, she said, “I run the practices, but they know what to do. They accept me. I do personal training for a living and worked at the YMCA for 13 years, where they would come and play basketball since they were very young, and many of them know me from that as well.”

Though her team respects her, she said when they play other teams, all of whom are not outwardly and collectively Christian like IHBC, “They don’t respect me at all.” On more than one occasion, a male coach directed an obscenity at her, and a few of the referees have been abrupt with her (one did apologize later, she said). She remains largely unfazed by their comments; but if they occasionally rile her up, she maintains her cool. “You’ve got to do your part and try your best to be a good Christian,” she said.

Members of Idaho Hustle Basketball Club are from all different schools in the valley and from a variety of faith denominations. They also represent a variety of socioeconomic and educational profiles, from prep school to home school. One member, Keegan Love, had this to say about participating in God-honoring sports: “I think being a part of

a faith-based sports team shows that anything is possible with God. It made me realize that the team is in it together.”

Two of Jamerson’s sons are on the team, 17-year-old Timothy II and 15-year-old Jaxon, as well as Villareal’s son Mark, or Markie, as he is known by most everyone. She said being on the team motivated Mark to search Scripture.

“We have jerseys and warm-ups. The boys will have their names or nicknames on their shooting shirts,” Villareal explained. “But my son didn’t want his name on the shooting shirt. He wanted Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

His mom said that his appreciation for that verse might have had a lot to do with all his sports-related injuries. “He’s had four knee surgeries and two shoulder surgeries – all related to basketball injuries, and he’s only 17. He goes hard; he’s an all-or-nothing kid. But his injuries got him to look at the Bible.”

Villareal said other youngsters have picked up their Bibles after participation in IHBC. “I had a kid on the team text me recently and tell me that he knows things happen for the good and that he is now reading the Bible and praying every day.”

All team members move into a huddle and pray together on the court before each game starts. Some people have asked if the team feels uncomfortable showing their faith in front of others. They always respond with a belief-affirming “no.”

“We’re not embarrassed. After all, we have a cross on our uniform!”

Villareal stated.

Villareal – and Jamerson before her – believes she is providing a spiritual example through sports. Said the female coach in an otherwise all-male domain: “It’s something I’m passionate about. It’s what I do as ministry.” n

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EXPLORING God’s Great Outdoors

Skilled outdoorsman shares his smarts articles. I write outdoor columns in other local and

By Tom Claycomb III area publications. Attend local outdoor seminars.

Since this is my first article with Christian Living You’ll meet new hunting/fishing buddies at work, Magazine, let’s do an introductory article. On a church and in your neighborhood. That’s where I recent past Sunday, the pastor at my church told us meet most of my hunting buddies. in his sermon something to the effect that if we’re When I started getting serious about writing, evnot making a difference in our neighborhoods, our eryone told me that I had to find a niche, be an exschools, our work and our communities, then what pert at something. I like to do it all, so consequently, were we doing? Something in that clicked and I said I’m not an expert at anything. Take for instance my OK, I’m in. No specific game plan appeared in a buddy Keith Ricketts. He fly fishes 24/7. He ties his vision. I was just ready. own flies. He’s taught fly fishing seminars. Me? Let’s I don’t think that it was any coincidence that after look at spring. I did the above listed items: whistle church I hit the Parktacular event and happened to pig hunting, mushroom hunting, bear hunting, stop by the Christian Living Magazine booth and turkey hunting and a LOT of crappie fishing. met Sandy, the publisher. I told her that I was an So I was lucky to be able to even pick up my fly outdoor writer and would like to write some outrod by June to hit the South Fork of the Boise. So, door articles for her. She said, “It is strange that you a fly fisherman as Keith. But should stop. Just two weeks ago, Gaye, the editor, Tom Claycomb III I’ll never be as ifgood you look at my fun-o-meter it is and I were talking that we needed to peaking out as high as anyone’s. get another outdoor writer; our old We’ll see what transpires. What longtime outdoor writer had died.”

I may also do is put a small section Once again, when God is on the at the bottom of my articles and scene there are always a lot of coincilist what is going on in the Idaho dences going on. outdoors for the next two coming She said to send her and Gaye a months. What worries me though is proposal and “we’ll let you know”. that there is always so much going on Well, I took off the next day for the that I’ll miss your favorite activity.

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Well, lest we run out of space let’s Convention in Oklahoma. Soon get into a few September/October after, on a Wednesday evening, I reoutdoor activities before Gaye shuts ceived an email inviting me to write off the ink well! I love everything for them. Great! outdoors but what says Idaho like Obviously I love writing outdoor a backpacking trip into the backarticles but something frustrating is country? It’s the ultimate outdoor always having something cut out of adventure. You’ve got solitude – you my articles if it is not of the political may not see anyone for a few days, persuasion of some liberal publicaand even then, they’ll probably only tion. I think that we are supposed to Tom Claycomb hikes through brush in the backcountry for a fly fishing adventure. be passing through. It’s the ultimate season everything that we touch. I (Photo by submitted by the author) adventure. You have to be on top of write outdoor articles, not religious things or you can die. I’ve had bears in camp, even rubbing against columns, but still, I can season my articles with salt. my tent. Mudslides have wiped out the river I was on. Been run out I’ve been wanting to do some Christian writing. One time my by forest fires and about got snowed in...in June. church had me write a monthly column in our church bulletin and But when you hit it right, it’s magical. The further back you get, I’ve got a book I’ll publish sometime soon that I’d classify as a Christhe more and bigger fish you catch. I love backpacking. If you’ve tian book. But other than that, I don’t think that I’ve ever done any never backpacked, I’d encourage you to try it. The first time you Christian writing so this will be fun.

I love to hunt and fish so that will be the main subject matter of my don’t have to go on the Bataan Death March. Just pack in one mile.

That way you can test your gear and figure out what other items you articles. There will be some how-to articles. For instance, “How to should have packed.

Sharpen a Knife”, “How to Make Sausage”, etc. And maybe once If I don’t draw any tags then bow hunting will take front and cenper year I’ll do some product reviews. Outdoorsmen love their gear ter in September. Wait until the second or third week of September and gizmos. But more likely than doing full-blown product reviews, when it cools off and they start bugling. It is the ultimate hunt!

I’ll just periodically include a new product in an article that I just Want a low-key, high shooting fun/relaxing hunt? Go dove hunttested – if it tests out well. ing. They appear to just be coasting in but as the old outdoor writer However, the bulk of my articles will be on my outdoor adventures. But I’ll also do timely articles; I’ll write about what is going on Cotton Ward stated, when they come dipsy doodling in, they can be right now in Idaho. For instance, springtime is magical in Idaho. We very deceiving and embarrass you. And after the first shot when they turn on the after burners and leave you with an empty shotgun and have whistle pig hunting, mushroom hunting, turkey hunting, bear nothing to show for it, you’re toast. hunting and crappie fishing. I wear myself out in the spring. And I’ll Doves make great jalapeno poppers. Breast them out. Slice the cover the other seasons as well. breast in half and marinate for at least four hours. Cut a slice of If you’re new to Idaho, welcome! Most newcomers that I talk to onion and jalapeno and put with a ½ breast and wrap with bacon want to jump in and enjoy the Idaho lifestyle; but since they weren’t raised that way, they don’t know where to start. Don’t expect anyone and pin it together with toothpicks and then smoke/grill. Great appetizers. to tell you all of their favorite fishing/hunting spots that took them Where’d the time go? I’m out of space but not out of ideas. See years to find. You’ll have to go exploring yourself to find some of you next issue. n your own honey holes.

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THE ROAD Less Traveled

The deep, lasting root of bitterness

By Jason Herring

“Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; lest there be any person like Esau.” — Hebrews 12:15-16 Esau was the oldest son of Isaac and Rebekah. Born only moments before his twin brother, those seconds entitled him to patriarch status in a promised lineage of descendants that was only decades in the making. Esau couldn’t have been more different than his younger brother Jacob.

Jacob was a momma’s boy who grew up to be a mild man preferring the comfort of tent life. Favored by his father, Esau was a skillful hunter who preferred the outdoors. He craved his father’s approval, and nothing brought more accolades from his dad than when he brought home a fresh kill and made his father a meal from his wild game. The difference in appearance between the twins was striking as well. Esau was a hairy man. Jacob was smooth skinned.

Esau was a man’s man. Jacob was not. Esau was also a ladies’ man who seemed to get around with the local women. Jacob was anything but.

There doesn’t seem to be much sibling rivalry between the two brothers growing up. Jacob never tried to outhunt his older brother, and Esau never competed for his mother’s affection. The rivalry would develop later over the family legacy. The boys both grew up hearing the same stories of how their grandfather had left the Ur of the Chaldees to live a nomadic life away from the comforts of civilization.

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Isaac had the same visions that their grandfather had. They were the beginnings of a great nation through whom all other nations of the earth would be blessed. But Esau never quite saw it that way.

The family tree was a sapling and Esau probably discounted the stories he heard as a kid as family folklore and legends. He didn’t seem to give much credence to these divine revelations, and it didn’t help that he preferred the company of the local pagans.

One afternoon after a long exhausting hunt, Esau returned home empty-handed. Famished, he was greeted by the smell of the red stew that his brother was preparing to go along with their evening meal. Esau sold his birthright for a bowl of red stew and this transaction would mark his descendants as the nation of Edom, which means “red” from the stew that he so coveted. Esau embraced this name and it would burn for centuries like the fires that warmed his brother’s kettle. Like all blame-shifters, Esau refused to take responsibility for his actions.

Years passed and the young men grew up into middle age when it came time for their aging father to pass on the second most important inheritance: the family blessing. Once again, a bowl of stew becomes pivotal in the story as Jacob goes to his father disguised as his older brother with a bowl of his favorite meal. Unconvinced at first, Isaac interrogates his son, but as Jacob leaned in to kiss his father, Isaac smelled his clothes and decided that it was indeed his oldest and gave him the blessing of his father Abraham that had been passed on to him. The ruse worked. The prophecy given to the mother was fulfilled. Jacob would carry on the legacy of his father and grandfather, and the older would serve the younger.

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When Esau returned from his hunt and learned Thus says the Lord: “For three transgressions of what Jacob had done, he vowed that he would kill Edom, and for four, I will not turn away its punishhis brother as soon as his father passed away. Jacob ment, Because he pursued his brother with the fled to live with his uncle and twenty-one years sword, And cast off all pity; His anger tore perpetpassed before the brothers would see each other ually, And he kept his wrath forever.” (Amos 1:11) again. At their reunion, Esau pretended to forgive Their anger tore perpetually from generation to Jacob and move on from the past. But his forgivegeneration, and eventually, the unresolved anger ness was only superficial and never penetrated the brought forth wrath and the desire for vengeance. surface of appearance into the depths of his heart.

And it all started with a root of bitterness.

As Esau settled in his wilderness fortress near Our minds are like a lawn or garden which must Mount Sier, Jacob lived in the Land of Canaan bebe constantly attended to. Every summer I engage fore eventually moving to Egypt. Over time, Jacob’s in the Battle of the Lawn. The sprinkler heads have descendants would return to Canaan and build a to be checked, the lawn mowed and fertilized, and mighty and prosperous kingdom. From across the weeds pulled up and sprayed. It never ends. Danway, Esau’s descendants would look at Israel in spite delions are the worst. No matter how many times and envy. Those blessings belonged to them. That I spray and spread fertilizing granules that contain kingdom was rightfully theirs. Edom became the weed killer, they still manage to pop up – pesky little Jason Herring sworn enemies of Israel. seeds brought in from the wind and birds and who Seven of the Old Testament prophets prophesied knows what else. judgment on Edom for their desire for vengeance. The prophet ObaOur mind works the same way. Past trauma lies buried deep withdiah informs us that when Jerusalem was besieged and ransacked in our brains, and we are hardwired to respond to verbal assaults no by the armies of Babylon and the inhabitants of Judah were carried differently than we respond to the physical. This is why letting go to captivity in Babylon, Edom not only refused to come to their aid; is such a hard process that can take years. We can profess forgivethey rejoiced. The Edomites went into the city and took of the spoils ness and attempt to move on only to have latent feelings emerge at of war, plundering the homes of their brothers who were now in exrandom moments like a dormant volcano turned active in our lives. ile. And it gets worse. They stationed guards at the crossroads to stop You don’t even have to be thinking about it. You could be sitting in any Israelites trying to escape. The refugees were then returned to traffic or working out at the gym or watching a TV show when sudthe Babylonians to show their solidarity with the empire and satiate denly and inexplicably a memory pops into your head with all of the their lust for vengeance. “For violence against your brother Jacob, connected emotions. shame shall cover you, and you will be cut off forever,” the prophet Just like a weed.

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HISTORY, Culture and Faith

Tisha B’Av: a day that lives in infamy and Abednego were forcibly removed as captives to Some days in history live in infamy.

Babylon. It announced the end of Israel’s golden age Like December 7, 1941. The day Japan bombed of kings.

Pearl Harbor, killing 2,403.

• 70 CE: On Tisha B’Av, the Romans destroyed Or November 22, 1963. The day that President the second Jewish temple. For a bloody three and half John F. Kennedy was assassinated. years (66-70 A.D.), the Romans slaughtered Jews.

Or September 11, 2001. The day America was atDuring the destruction of Jerusalem, Jews starved to tacked by Saudi terrorists, killing 2,996. death as Rome cut off supply chains. Others perished These disastrous and destructive dates are unforgetof disease, murder and suicide. Thousands of deserttable. Moments wracked with fear, despair, confuers were crucified. The historian Josephus claimed sion, pain and loss. And yet, none of these horrific over a million Jews died in the Jewish-Roman War. American moments compare to a particular day in And, just as Jesus prophesied in Matthew 24:1-2, the Jewish history known as Tisha B’Av. According to Jewish temple at Jerusalem was razed to the ground, one Jewish organization, it’s “the saddest day on the save a portion of a retaining wall.

Jewish calendar.” 1 • 135 CE: On Tisha B’Av, the Roman emperor Tisha B’Av (ninth day of the month Av) has been Hadrian slaughtered a half million Jews during the a day of continual despair, disaster, destruction and Dr. Rick Chromey Bar Kokhba revolt. To squelch further rebellion, the death for the Jew – for thousands of years. Early in emperor outlawed the Torah and canceled the Hethe Exodus from Egypt, twelve spies explored the brew calendar. He murdered Jewish rabbis, incinerat“Promised Land” (Numbers 13) and, on the ninth day of Av, returned ed sacred scrolls, and plowed under the Temple Mount. In his attempt to report their findings. Ten scouts feared the land was impossible to to erase Jewish history, Hadrian renamed Judea “Syria Palaestina” conquer, while two spies (Joshua and Caleb) believed otherwise. As or Palestine. According to the historian Eusebius, at that point, all Jews a result, God halted their journey and punished the entire nation to were denied access to Jerusalem (renamed “Aelia Capitolina”) in honor wander 40 years in the wilderness. of Aelia Hadrian. Jerusalem was now Hadrian’s capital. On penalty of That’s when Tisha B’Av was born as a day for Jews to remember. death, Jews were prevented from dwelling anywhere near Jerusalem.

Over the centuries, this “holy day” evolved into 25 hours – sunset to sunset – of mourning, fasting from food/drink, a cessation of work, and Hadrian then built a temple to Jupiter where the Jewish temple once stood. abstinence from pleasurable activities (including washing/bathing, use At this point, the Jews scattered throughout the world. However, of creams/oils and leather shoes, and sexual relations). A Jew cannot every year – on Tisha B’Av – they stopped to humbly mourn, fast and study the Torah on Tisha B’Av, unless its “distressing texts” from Lampray for what they once possessed. Things improved slightly when entations, Job and Jeremiah. During the fasting hours, it’s customary Constantine rose to power in the early fourth century. This Christian to sit on the floor or a low stool. This food fast begins by consuming a emperor allowed Jews annual access to “Roman” Jerusalem for one hard-boiled egg and bread, dipped in ashes. day (Tisha B’Av) to “mourn, fast and pray.” The place the Jews chose According to the Midrash, God proclaimed about the ninth day of to pray was the remnant “western wall.” In time it became known as Av (Tisha B’Av): “You cried to me pointlessly, I will fix for you [this the “Wailing Wall.” day as a day of] crying for generations.” 2 In 638 A.D., Jerusalem was captured by Muslim invaders. Several And that prophecy has proven true, time and time again. Tisha B’Av decades later, the Dome of the Rock mosque was erected where the is an historic day for Jewish tragedy: second Jewish temple once stood. In the long course of time, the land • 586 BCE: On Tisha B’Av, the first Jewish temple, constructed by of Israel was invaded, captured, and occupied a dozen times by various Solomon, was burned to the ground by the Babylonian king Nebuchadnezzar. It was the day many Jews like Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach nations, including Turks, Mongols, Egyptians, French and Syrians.

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Since the Middle Ages, Tisha B’Av continued as a day of pain for the Jew: • 1096 CE: The First Crusade slaughtered 10,000 Jews in France and western Germany.

• 1290 CE: Jews expelled from England • 1308 CE: Jews expelled from France • 1492 CE: Jews expelled from Spain • 1914 CE: Germany’s entrance into World War I resulted in upheaval and uprooting of Europe’s Jews, creating social chaos.

• 1941 CE: The German Nazi party approved “The Final Solution” to exterminate the Jew. A third of the world’s Jews were murdered in the Holocaust.

• 1942 CE: The mass deportation of Jews from the Warsaw Ghetto • 2005 CE: Jews forced to evacuate Gaza through a “disengagement deal” led by the U.S. To this day, on Tisha B’Av, faithful Jews stop to mournfully remember this terrible, sad day and Israel’s past glory that cannot be recaptured. It’s a day of despair, disaster, destruction, and death for the Jew. Tragedy that left a land flowing with milk and honey in ruins.

Mark Twain visited the Middle East in 1867 and penned: “Palestine sits in sackcloth and ashes.” 3

He described the terrain and cities as “desolate and unlovely... rags, wretchedness, poverty and dirt...Jerusalem is mournful, and dreary.” 4 Tisha B’Av. The ninth of Av. A Jewish day that lives in infamy.

And a testament to nations that reject God. n Dr. Rick Chromey in an historian, author and speaker who helps people interpret history, navigate culture, and explore faith. In 2017 he founded MANNA! Educational Services International to serve churches, Christian schools and faith-based organizations with inspirational “edutrainment.” Rick and his wife Linda live in Star, ID. Christian Living readers may use this QR code to subscribe to Rick’s inspirational (history, culture, faith) Morning MANNA! (M-F) email. www.mannasolutions.org

Sources: 1) “What is Tisha B’Av?” Chabad.Org: https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/144575/jewish/What-Is-Tisha-BAv.htm 2) The Midrash is expansive Jewish biblical exegesis using a rabbinic mode of interpretation prominent in the Talmud (a commentary on the Torah). Numbers Rabbah 16:20.

3) The Innocents Abroad, or The New Pilgrim’s Progress by Mark Twain (San Francisco: Bancroft and Co., 1869): 607.

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Why I spent my summer running

• Because I want the discipline of training my body to mirror the more important discipline of training “Commit your way to the LORD; trust in Him, my spirit and mind to do hard things. and He will act.” (Psalm 37:5) • Because hard doesn’t equal bad.

• Because in a very small way this training can Last April I took a deep breath and clicked “subhelp provide for children who need food, shelter, and mit” on a registration form to join a fundraising life-changing medicine, and while I train, I can do event that I’ve been wanting to participate in for five the important work of praying for them and their years: a grassroots, fully volunteer-run organization caretakers. that sends 100% of its proceeds to children in India • Because why not me? suffering with HIV/AIDS. That last one is where I landed and what I come Amazing, right? What joy it is to be a small part of back to when a run is really difficult and I want to an organization like this. So why did it take me five quit. years to click that submit button?

Why not me? I’m able-bodied (although my body Because this particular fundraising opportuhas absolutely disagreed with that sentiment plenty nity involves running. A lot of running. Four half over the last four months) and I’m willing (again, marathons in four weeks; a total of 52.4 miles, to be Bethany Riehl that’s had to be readjusted a few times). exact.

In the beginning of this process, a few runners The problem is, I’m not a runner. I send my told me that this training would greatly mirror my running friends silly memes about running. The last time I ran was spiritual walk. I couldn’t wait to see that. I was going to spend all of my when I participated in the Color Run over ten years ago. I distinctly time praying and be so spiritual, and (whispering) maybe lose some remember that as I crossed the finish line and entered the fun cloud weight, too. of colored powder being thrown at me I thought, “Welp. That was It took a while to see what they were talking about. In the beginning I would pause my music or podcast to try to pray and all that came out neat. But I see no reason to run any further than those three miles. was, “I’m going to die. Am I even breathing?”

Ever.”

And I’ve gained weight instead of losing it. So. That’s fun.

So why on earth did I sign up to spend my summer training to run But with daily obedience and setting out 3 times a week for the last four half marathons in the fall?

15 weeks, the Lord turned those desperate prayers for breath into real These are the reasons I wrote down last April:

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ones for the children. I learned that I don’t need to spend all of my time on a run praying or trying to be ultra-spiritual. A sweet friend reminded me that it’s enough to use that time to discipline my body since God is helping me to discipline my soul and mind in other ways.

He is teaching me diligence and endurance and obedience bit by bit, body, mind, and soul in His way and in His timing.

No, I didn’t slim down, but He has reminded me to pray for the orphan and to be thankful for all that I have. And I have a lot.

On long runs when I grow hungry, thirsty, and weary, He reminds me that He is the Bread of Life (John 6:35), He provides living water to those that believe in Him (John 7:38), and He is my strength and my shield (Psalm 28:7).

And although I had to reevaluate my abilities and shift to a run/walk method for the 52.4 miles, He reminded me that His grace is sufficient, and His power is made perfect in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).

Most of all, in His abundant grace, He also made me see how much of my life has been spent in luxury, especially compared to the children I run for. As my legs cramp, my lungs scream, and I think I can’t possibly take another step, the Lord reminds me that I have spent enough time worshipping my idol of self-comfort and it’s time to kill it. This is one way.

So why am I sharing all of this with you? After all, one of my favorite memes says, “Unless you fell off of the treadmill, no one wants to hear about your workout.”

First of all, I wanted to tell you about Fiftytwo.Four because they are truly an amazing organization and I hope you will check them out and pray about joining them next year. I borrowed this from their website: Fiftytwo.four is a 501(c)3 community based non-profit organization. We operate solely on lots of amazing volunteers and donations…amazing people that simply want to use their lives to make a difference in the lives of a lot of beautiful children in India that need our help. 100% of the money that we raise is sent to the orga-

nization that we support in India. Our money is specifically designated for the endless needs of HIV/AIDS orphans…Some ways that our money has been used in the past…medical needs, nutritious foods, education costs, medicine, building costs for new HIV/ AIDS facilities/orphanages, vehicles to transport the children.”

If you’re able, I also humbly ask that you consider donating to my run – or if you know another runner, to their run, it all goes to the same place – at www.fiftytwofour.org.

Mostly, my dear readers, I ask you to pray for me. For all of us that are participating. That we will endure for the rest of the training and safely make it to all four finish lines having done our best for the Lord and for these children.

Lastly, but most importantly, I ask you to pray for these children, that they would know God’s love and His gospel and that they would turn to Him in repentance and follow Him. That those who are caring for them will be encouraged and strengthened by His glorious might.

And that He will return soon and make all of these crooked ways straight.

He is good, and He is able. We run (and walk) for His glory. n

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“By this we know love, that He laid down His life for us and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. But if anyone has the world’s good and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in Him? Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.” (1 John 3:16-18) Bethany Riehl lives in the Treasure Valley with her husband, three kids, and one super chill dog. She writes articles and fictional novels when she can, and her one desire is to point others to the love and sufficiency of Jesus Christ.

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Root of bitterness Continued from page 23

A weed of bitterness allowed to take root will choke the life out of your carefully cultivated lawn and drain the nutrients from your garden, robbing you of its fruit. Like the dandelion, it looks pretty to the undiscerning eye, which is why kids will enthusiastically bound into the house with: “Look! I picked you flowers, Mommy!” Or they blow the dried florets over the lawn to watch them float like little parachutes not knowing that they are spreading the noxious weed all over the lawn. In immaturity, ignorance or indignation, we can do the same thing. We become attracted to the false bloom of bitterness and then spread the seeds across the landscape by rehearsing our narrative to everyone who will listen, including our children. And ultimately, we are left with desolation.

Esau never comprehended what his bitterness would produce in his descendants. His anger tore perpetually until it tore him and his descendants apart. When we cling to a narrative of bitterness and anger and pass that on to our children, it brings calamity and a curse. Bitterness is a toxic weed that will choke out the fruit of the Spirit and alienate us from the True Vine of which we are the branches.

Erwin Lutzer wrote: “Nursing an offense quite literally blinds us to our own faults, forces us to have skewed relationships, and warps our self-perceptions.” And it not only destroys relationships and our self-worth, unresolved anger has a devastating effect on our health. Studies show that it results in high blood pressure, heart problems, skin disorders, and can affect our digestive health. It weakens our immune system and leaves us vulnerable to a heart attack. Bitterness and unresolved anger damage the individual spiritually, mentally, physically and relationally, and it has generational consequences. And what makes this so hard, according to author Janis Abrahms Spring, is that “anger always feels justified.”

Just as our minds keep record of trauma and past hurts, we need to erect a reminder of forgiveness and our decision to move on. When Jacob had a falling out with his Uncle Laban, he erected a heap of stones (Galeed: heap of witness) to keep watch (Mizpah: watch) between the two families for peace. No such memorial existed between Esau and Jacob. Go to a craft or hobby store and buy a bag of rocks and glue them together in a stack like a kairn. Write Scripture references of forgiveness on the stones with a marker and place the memorial in a visible location as a reminder that you have forgiven “even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.” n Jason Herring is a husband to an amazing wife and father of five incredible kids. He enjoys hiking, mountain climbing and freelance writing in his spare time, but mostly spending time with his family. He has resided in Idaho for 20 years.

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I GET TO!®

Stay tethered to truth about your worth

his reading glasses and says, “You see this guy “The problem is you don’t believe God, Joan.” here staring back at’cha? That’s your toughest What? I thought. I most certainly do believe opponent! Every time you get into the ring, that’s God! who you’re goin’ against. I believe that in boxing “Well, if you do, why would you constantly and I do believe that in life.” struggle with feeling inadequate, inferior and That scene deeply connected to me and spoke insecure? Why are you continually worried, anxto my soul—I could certainly relate! Can you? ious and stressed about what others think of you?

Rocky was right! That is true in life when we are You fear being left out, critical words, rejection looking through the wrong lens! I was also chal(real or imagined) and not being seen, heard or lenged by that reality as I knew it was certainly valued by others.” not God’s plan for us to look in the mirror and Exactly—that’s normal! No one wants that! see our biggest opponent and critic! When our “Nobody wants that, but when your soul finds beliefs are in alignment with what God says about satisfaction in the worth your Creator wove into us, the one in the mirror should be one of our you when He formed you in your mother’s womb biggest champions, encouragers, cheerleaders (Psalm 139:13), you won’t feel the need to look and sources of love and compassion.

Joan Endicott further! So, whose lens are you looking at yourI realized I had a lot of work to do if I wanted self through—your loving Creator’s or a critical, to finally begin looking at myself through my condemning one?”

Creator’s loving lens rather than my critical, condemning one. It As I was seeking and searching, praying and crying out to God, meant 1) DE-constructing what my beliefs had been built upon, having this back-and-forth dialogue with myself, I felt the Holy 2) evaluating everything about the destructive dialogue I had beSpirit provide a divine download of clarity. In that moment, I come accustomed to, then 3) RE-constructing it on God’s Truth. realized most, if not all, of my past pain, hangups and heartIt meant choosing courage over comfort and digging deep to look aches about my self-worth had everything to do with my believat all the past lies, negative labels and limiting beliefs. ing more of the messaging from other broken humans than the Questions to filter your thoughts: Truth of my Creator’s messages about me!

• Where is that message coming from?

That realization was a turning point for me that helped put • What is the source? things into their proper perspective. It helped change everything • Whose voice do I hear? for me. Of course, I would love to report that this was permanent • Is it in alignment with what God says in His Word? If not, and I’ve not struggled with owning my God-given worth again. rebuke the devil and douse those lies with God’s Truth to finally However, this being a true story and not a fairy tale, we both be free! know that nothing is permanent in this human condition we’re “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and in. Romans 12:2 encourages and reminds us to be transformed you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” ( John by the RE-NEWING of our minds. It’s a constant choice we get 8:31b-32) to make. Our lives are changed as our minds are made new.

Have you ever looked at someone you love so deeply and desYou see, our biggest battle is in our beliefs: Do I believe God, perately and wondered how in the world they could feel inadmy soul’s very source, or the enemy of my soul, the devil? I equate, inferior or insecure? There have been countless times I’ve believe the devil’s done his destructive deed if he simply plants wished my amazing children (now grandchildren, too) could see a doubt-seed. Isn’t that what he did to Eve? Then the dominos what I see when I look at them—their uniqueness, their talents, start to fall, and he doesn’t need to do anything else at all. Once gifts and abilities—as I know that perspective would give them we doubt God’s Word about our worth, we can watch ourselves the courage and confidence to do whatever God lays on their shrivel and shrink back and do nothing that we were designed for. hearts to do.

If we listen to the devil’s dialogue, it will always take us down the Though pale in comparison to how much God loves and celdestruction path. “Satan is a liar and the father of lies,” John ebrates us, it gives us a glimpse of how it must grieve the heart of 8:44, and, “The thief (Satan) comes only to steal, kill and deGod when we children of the King of Kings devalue ourselves. stroy,” John 10:10. In the ultimate contrast, Jesus then declares As a daughter of the King the truth is, I am a princess. Which why He came: to give us life—abundantly! means, when my loving Father, the King, has a beautiful banquet Remember the cartoons with the angel on the right shoulder prepared, there is always a place for me at the table with Him. and the devil on the left? That is a simple yet powerful visual of But if I don’t make a conscious choice to believe what He says the battle for our soul. With every thought we have a choice as and own the worth He wove into me, I can easily be deceived to whose voice we listen to and believe! How grateful we can be into believing that I am merely a poor pauper who deserves nothfor Jesus giving us the only example we need. Every time Satan ing more than to scrounge around under the table for scraps. I showed up to tempt Jesus, He rebuked him and spoke the Word imagine my gracious and patient Father seeing me and wonderof God with complete authority! That’s our guarantee, that ing why I’m down there—then holding His hand out, once again speaking God’s Truth dissolves all lies! That’s why memorizing inviting me to sit next to Him and enjoy the beautiful banquet. the Word is so important because to speak it, we must first know My friend, I know this isn’t easy, but no battle that’s worth it. fighting is. I spent so many years struggling to feel like I was In the movie “Creed”, Adonis “Donnie” Johnson (played by enough, to know that I mattered, hoping for confirmations and affirmations from others. The problem with that is, everyone Michael B. Jordan) is the son of former heavyweight champion else is as broken as I am. Everyone else is seeking and searching Apollo Creed. He follows Rocky (played by Sylvester Stallone) for the same thing. We all have a legitimate need, a God-shaped as they walk up to the huge, mirrored wall in the training room. void that only He can fill. In our humanness we can try and Adonis strikes a pose with a wide stance and fists up in front of fill that legitimate need by illegitimate means: people we know, his face in the fighting position. Rocky taps on the mirror with

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places we go, possessions we own and positions we hold. As our Creator, He alone can assign our value and worth and no other entity has the power to dispute or refute that. For the French designer Louis Vuitton, handbags can range from hundreds to thousands of dollars. The Urban Satchel handbag has sold for a whopping $150,000.00. The “Messiah Stradivarius” is considered the most expensive violin globally, with a value of approximately $200 million. It is currently in a collection at the Ashmolean Museum in Oxford, England. The value placed on these items is based solely on the signature of their designer/ creator. For these to have social proof of their value, at least one person needed to agree enough with that assessment to purchase it. The great news for us is, no one need agree with our Creator’s assessment of us for it to be true.

I am living proof that God can put his super on your natural to give you supernatural victory where you’ve never had it before. I pray this every time I struggle with unbelief: “I believe Lord, help my unbelief!” (Mark 9:24) Mark 12:30-31 confirms what matters to the heart of God: “‘And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” So, what is the assumption there? That you and I are loving ourselves as God intended. When I am focused on loving God, and others as myself, I will not be focused on my insecurities because I am secure in Him. So essentially, I am Him-secure, so I cannot be in-secure.

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