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January / February 2023

SAM

& Rocio

Two lives, one love story

TOM

Greco His God-led battle

BUILD

Something It’s not too late

SYMBOLISM

& Salvation A (good) snake story

Sam and Rocio Santiago: after a rocky start in life, the couple married last year

Contents January / February 2023

“Day is done and now rest.

So make your way to the pasture of sleep and allow mercy to hold your weariness.

The Shepherd of your soul is overseeing all that concerns you.”

Volume 12, Number 1 Publisher Sandy Jones christianlivingmag@gmail.com 208-703-7860

—Patsy Clairmont, Christian author and speaker

FEATURES The Chosen: An ‘extra’ special gift

COLUMNS 8 6

Cover Story

Sam & Rocio: a love story

A generous friend: An inspiring ‘last act’ The topic of tithing: A perspective on money

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“I Get To!”®: God’s best

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History, Culture & Faith: George Washington Carver

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Real Man’s Toolbox: Help is here

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The Road Less Traveled: Build something

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Wednesday’s Child: Meet Savannah

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Understanding Relationships: The paradox of intimacy

Life in tune: Having the pegs right

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Mind of Christ: Proof in the pudding

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Tom Greco: A battle in a Storm Jim Winston: Peace officers’ group leader

IN EACH EDITION Publisher’s Corner: Our wildest dreams

Bible Blanks

Symbolism & Salvation: A snake story

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Biblically Responsible Investing: Sinking funds Your Daily Bread: From resolutions to goals Maximum Health: A handwritten letter

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PUBLISHER’S Corner

Humble start leads to amazing things

By Sandy Jones Welcome January 2023! Although it was ten years ago this month that our editor Gaye Bunderson and I were working on research and development for a yet-to-be-named Christian magazine, it feels like it was just a couple of years ago.

Many things have happened in the last ten years. It’s amazing to me that we’re still here – not just publishing Christian Living Magazine, but how God has lead us as it has evolved into His ministry with a world-wide web presence (you are one of Image by Jill Wellington from Pixabay our readers in over 150 countries), a radio show, active social media presence, and a staff chaplain!

I remember asking Gaye one day during the R&D stage, ‘what happens when we run out of story ideas?’

Bless her heart, she patiently reassured me that God would make a way. And He has – a way beyond our wildest dreams!

Today

I CHOOSE

Joy

God has provided so many wonderful stories and articles. We are extremely grateful for our contributors, who share our vision, and want to see the hope and promise of God’s love, grace and mercy delivered in each edition, so much so that they donate their time, talent and expertise.

I am quite aware, though, that I have not yet “arrived.” Our pastor brought this to mind as he reminded me how much I dislike the phrase “some assembly required” one Sunday morning. Having just finished up our family Christmas, I laughed as I realized how much our pastor and I have in common in this. I might look at the diagram of parts, but generally try to just jump in and get whatever the item is put together. All the while my poor hubby is trying desperately to get me to join him in reading the instructions. And just like my pastor, about halfway through I realize it’s not coming together

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praise, glory and honor when Jesus correctly, and I have to take it all apart, and, this time, follow the directions, or betChrist is revealed. Though you have not ter yet, I just hand it off to my dear Steve, seen him, you love him; and even though who is a mechanical whiz. you do not see him now, you believe in I’m amazed at how often my life mirrors him and are filled with an inexpressible this behavior. I know that God has given and glorious joy. us an instruction manual to guide us along May this be a “golden” year for each of life’s way. Being a “driver” personality, us. I hope you’ll join me in choosing joy. more often than not I plunge into things In closing, a big thank you also goes out headfirst, under “Sandy’s power,” instead Sandy Jones to you, our readers. Thank you for makof asking The Lord to lead me in His way, and with His perfect timing. ing the first 9½ years a success! We love I’m not big into New Year’s resolutions, but this year it hearing from so many of you about how we’ve somehow is my goal to lean more heavily on God’s instruction; to touched your lives. Often our advertisers will mention listen more intently to hear His still small voice for direc- that one of our readers has shopped them, and thanked tion; and to do my best to live out the truth in 1 Peter them for supporting Christian Living Magazine – thank 1:6-8 NIV: you for this, too – our advertisers make it possible In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little to print and deliver each and every issue. We simply while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of couldn’t do this without them. trials. These have come so that the proven genuineUntil next time… ness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in God Bless! n

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SYMBOLISM & Salvation

An interesting story about a snake For us, our “belief” must be a trust – a trust that Jesus’s blood pays the price for our sins.

Editor’s note: CLM contributor Daniel More symbolism in “The Lamb of God” Bobinski completed his study of 1 CorinthiAnother symbolic event occurred in Exodus ans 13:4-7 in his column titled, “Choosing to chapter 12, and it leads some to ask, “Why Love.” In this issue, he launches a new ongopaint a lamb’s blood on the doorframe of your ing column on “Symbolism & Salvation.” house?”

When He was getting ready to free the naIn the 21st chapter of the Book of Numbers, tion of Israel from captivity in Egypt, God had we find an odd story. The Israelites had been people bring a perfect, unblemished lamb into grumbling against God and Moses, and in their homes for three days. Then, on the third response, God sent poisonous snakes to their day, the lamb was slaughtered and its blood camp. People who were bit by snakes were dywas to be painted onto the frame of the door. ing, and people went running to Moses, saying, That night, God brought judgment on Egypt, “Tell God we’re sorry!”

Daniel Bobinski and the firstborn male of every species in every And so, God had Moses make a snake out household was struck down. of brass and hang it up on a pole in the camp.

But God had a symbolic plan. In verse 13 of that chapter, From there, the instruction was that if anyone bit by a snake God says, “The blood will be a sign for you on the houses simply looked at the snake Moses had hung up on the pole, they would not die from their snakebite. where you are, and when I see the blood I will pass over What an odd set of instructions. All one had to do was look you.” at the snake and “death-by-snakebite” did not happen. How That was the first Passover. If God saw the lamb’s blood on a weird! house, He did not strike anyone down in that house.

If that’s all we knew, we might ask, “What was the deal with In the same way, Jesus is “the Lamb of God” ( John 1). If the snake?” But hundreds of years later, the third chapter of we have the blood of the Lamb on us BY FAITH (trust), then the fourth Gospel quotes Jesus as saying, “Just as Moses lifted when we stand before God, He will see the blood and “pass up the snake in the desert, so must the Son of Man be lifted over” us when it comes to sending people to the second death. up.” If Jesus didn’t say anything about what happened in Symbolism and salvation Numbers 21, that incident would have been some strange Old These are just two symbolic events orchestrated by God to Testament story. But if we take a deeper look at the circumpoint us to Jesus. But Jesus didn’t come to earth just to die by stances, it all makes sense.

Himself.

Galatians 2:20 says, “I have been crucified with In the Book of John chapter 3, Jesus is talking to a teacher Christ.

It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in of the law named Nicodemus. Jesus tells him, “Just as Moses me.” lifted up the snake in the wilderness, so the Son of Man Ephesians chapter 2 also contains some powerful verses, must be lifted up, that everyone who believes may have starting with verses 8 and 9: “For it is by grace you have eternal life in him.” been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, As a teacher of the law, Nicodemus would have understood it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can the story. People doomed to death from snake poison were spared death simply by believing that God would heal them if boast.” they merely looked at the snake.

Many people stop there, but if they keep reading, verse 10 But for Jesus, that story served as a symbolic analogy. He says, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus knew that people doomed to hell (which is a suffering called to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to the Second Death in the Book of Revelation) would be spared do.” that fate if they simply looked to Jesus on the cross.

If a super simplified translation existed, verses 8 – 10 might Then, as if to underscore his point, Jesus uttered what has read, “You’re not saved by your works, you’re saved for your become the most famous verse in the Bible ( John 3:16) – “For works.”

God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, In other words, yes, Jesus died so we can have eternal life. that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eterWe can look at what Jesus did on the cross and trust that His nal life.” blood covers our sins to get us in the door. But once we have “Believes” is better translated “Trusts” As I’ve mentioned in this space before, the word “believes” is that, Jesus has important things He wants each of us to do – more accurately translated “trusts.” In other words, it’s not just things that will change the world. We’ll talk more about that in the next issue. n a matter of saying we believe in Jesus. In the Book of James, chapter 2, we’re told that even the demons believe – and they Daniel Bobinski, Th.D., is an award-winning and besttremble. selling author and a popular speaker at conferences and Said another way, demons can believe that Jesus died for the sins of mankind all they want, it’s not going to get them a ticket retreats. Reach him at danielbobinski@protonmail.com or (208) 375-7606. to eternal life in Heaven with the Lord. Their fate is sealed.

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WEDNESDAY’S Child

Savannah, 15, never gets bored Calling all “foodies” and artists! We’d like to introWhen it comes to activities she would love to do as a family, Savannah dreams of everything from duce you to 15-year-old Savannah, who is currently the simple things, like spending time volunteering taking a culinary class and hopes to continue a lifeas a family at a soup kitchen or an animal shelter, time of cooking. She’s a big fan of sushi, especially to grand adventures such as traveling together. She because she recently learned to make it herself and loves flying, as well as traveling by car, and has a wish can add her own artistic flair to it. list of places to visit, including a beach, a RenaisAn artist at heart, Savannah loves to spend time sance fair, Comic-Con, and a trip to Italy to visit the drawing, beading, crocheting, creating origami, and Leaning Tower of Pisa and eat gelato. writing poetry that helps her to heal from her difThis resilient young woman describes qualities in ficult past. Music is another creative outlet for her, the right family for her as any type of parental make and she hopes to be able to take lessons to learn to up, as long as she has caregivers who are stable, kind, play the guitar and the ukulele sometime soon. goofy, funny, caring and who won’t give up on her if Savannah is a caring and empathetic girl who things get hard. Savannah prefers a family who atloves “dad jokes” and has a myriad of other interests tends church and has pets in their home. Savannah’s as well. Outdoor pursuits she enjoys include horsePermanency Team describes the best for her as a back riding, paddle-boarding, hiking and camping. family where she will be the oldest child in the home, Savannah She has been on the track team at school and also as she does great with younger children. A family loves watching volleyball games and cheering on the with a strong understanding of trauma would be a Dallas Cowboys. great match for her. Savannah and her team are open to hearing from If bad weather keeps her inside, don’t worry about Savannah getinterested Idaho families, as well as families who reside in other states.

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THE Chosen

Local family gets ‘extra’ special experience

The family of Jim Walker of Boise participated as extras in the cast for a shooting of The Chosen segment titled, “The Feeding of the 5,000.” Family members shown on the set include, from left to right, grandson Jacob (standing); grandson Elijah (sitting); granddaughter Emerson (seated); Jim’s wife Renee (seated next to Emerson); and grandson Benjamin (standing at right). Other family members also participated as extras as part of a gift Jim gave to Renee for her birthday. (Courtesy photo)

By Gaye Bunderson How do you say happy birthday to someone you love in a way that’s truly special? Well, you could fly that person to Texas to be a background actor in a popular movie production, and you could also arrange for her to receive a video message from one of her favorite actors.

That’s what Jim Walker did for his wife Renee’s 78th birthday last year. He paid for her to fly to the Lone Star State to appear as an extra on the set of The Chosen. She took other family members with her, including grandchildren Elijah, Jacob, Benjamin, and Emerson; son Jon and his wife Sarah; and daughter Jamie. It was a cross-generational experience, and everyone got to be an extra in a scene for “The Feeding of the 5,000.”

The Chosen is a crowd-funded series about the life of Christ and His disciples. In order to watch the series, viewers download a free app on their smart phone and then set it up to watch on their smart TV – or watch it right on the phone.

The unique production draws millions of viewers from all over the globe.

“It’s free and will always be free,” Renee Walker said. “You can currently live stream Season 3.”

The concept involves ‘paying it forward.’ Though no one is charged for watching, many choose to donate to the production to keep it cost-free for all.

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The show is the creation of Dallas Jenkins, also one of The Chosen’s producers and writers. His vision for a faith-based production involved a biblical perspective as opposed to a Hollywood mentality. He is quoted as saying, “It’s not your job to feed the 5,000; it’s your job to bring the loaves and fishes, and the rest is up to God.” And that’s what he’s done on the set of the ongoing story for several years now.

Nineteen-year-old Elijah explained, “Dallas approaches the production aspect differently in that he’s trusting God it will work out, and he’s doing his part. It’s really remarkable. It’s the first Christian show tailored to [also appeal to] non-Christian people.”

“It shows Christ and His disciples more relatable,” Renee said.

Elijah agreed, stating, “It’s more entertaining, more digestible, not cheesy to watch. They recruited Generation Z people around the country to watch the entire first season.”

“They had no idea what they were watching – and WOW! – they had never seen Christ depicted this way,” Renee said.

Generation Z is the generation of young people who achieved adulthood in the second decade of the current century. They are perceived as being very internet literate from a young age – a perfect first audience for an app-based production.

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The Chosen is Bible-centered even though it’s fiction-based in many ways. In other words, it’s one man’s interpretation of how the characters of the Bible might have looked and acted.

It’s not intended to replace the Bible but to inspire people to get into the actual Word of God. As people watch the series, they occasionally develop favorite characters – perhaps Peter or Mary Magdalene – for the way they are depicted. They were once actual flesh-andblood people who walked the Earth and witnessed the Lord firsthand but left no record of themselves apart from Scripture. Renee became a fan of the Mary Magdalene character, and her husband arranged for the actress who portrays her, Elizabeth Tabish, to make a video saying hello to Renee and wishing her well.

The actors are an interesting – and sometimes surprising – bunch. They come from all over and are experts in their craft. Renee stated that people’s lives are being changed by the series, and that includes the lives of some of the actors. For instance, she said, the actor playing Peter is an Orthodox Jew, and the man playing Nicodemus is Buddhist, but they are being affected by the series.

“Things like that are happening. Miracles are changing lives every day. It’s like a family, and there’s a lot of love,” she said.

Renee ought to know, as she was literally there on set for four days. “We made our own costumes. We got some at second-hand stores, and we sewed some.”

They fit right in, in their long-ago garb.

Because Renee and her family were set to be part of the crowd of 5,000 that Jesus fed with loaves and fishes, they

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were allowed to choose which day they’d be on the set, as not everyone was there at the same time. She chose a Wednesday, and they met many other extras all excited to be part of the production. “All the people were believers, and they were all enthusiastic,” she said.

Her daughter Jamie stated, “The producers send you directions to follow. … We got a piece of bread to eat [as part of the feeding of the 5,000].”

During breaks in filming, everyone was fed a full lunch and dinner, and entertainment was provided by Christian musicians. Renee said that it was a very hot summer day on the set.

The filming took place in Midlothian, Texas, 25 miles southwest of Dallas, during mid-summer 2022.

The entire three-year production has not been without its on-set trials, but once again Dallas Jenkins’s faith-filled mindset keeps it all going. Renee explained, “He said he’ll think about the Red Sea and about how he’s had ‘Red Sea moments’. Difficulties crop up and he thinks they won’t get through them, but they do. He sees them as miracles just like the parting of the Red Sea.” Covid hasn’t stopped the production; in fact, it was a bit of a production starter, according to super-fan Renee. “It all started in 2021. There was Covid, and God orchestrated The Chosen to happen,” she said.

Though Jim did not attend the event, he heard all about the great time his family members had. “I know they had a blast,” he said.

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“I GET TO!”®

Seek and believe for God’s best

Joan and Mark Endicott are shown during their college years, when they first met and fell in love. That was 43 years ago. Both Endicotts prayed as young people that God would bring “the right person” into their lives. (Courtesy photo)

By Joan Endicott Having just celebrated our 42nd wedding anniversary on December 20, 2022, it’s fun to watch people’s reaction when they hear that. Often it’s a jaw-dropping reaction. Of course, we’d love to think that those dropped jaws are a result of us looking waaay too young to be married that long. I mean, it just doesn’t seem possible, right? But alas, to many, it’s because being married for so long seems like such an anomaly anymore. Whatever the reason for their surprised response, very often it’s followed with this question, “So, what’s your secret?”

Before telling you what we think is foundational to a lasting marriage, let’s go back a few years, shall we?

Once upon a time—actually 43 years ago—two young’uns went on their very first date.

And so, the story goes…It all started September 1979 at Multnomah Bible College in Portland, Oregon. Mark first saw Joan in the Chapel service while she was on stage singing a solo with her buddy Dan accompanying her on guitar. (Mark thought to himself that she must either be married or have a boyfriend.) Joan first saw Mark while she and a friend were walking back to campus from Taco Bell—her go-to for dinner when not working—where he was with a group of other grad classmates who were preparing to go roller-skating.

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As it so happens, though Joan normally worked on Friday nights, she had that night off and her friends had asked her to go roller-skating as well. So, Joan and Mark ended up meeting and visiting with other friends in small groups at the skating rink. When it was close to closing time, with music still playing, they announced it was time for Ladies’ Choice. In rollerskating that’s where the girl gets to ask the guy to skate—without seeming forward.

Joan saw Mark standing behind the partition and asked him if he’d like to skate. He looked surprised and then said, “Oh I would, but I just took off my skates!” Mark said he had mixed emotions because he was very happy that Joan wanted to skate with him but not happy that he had just taken his skates off. Joan felt a little embarrassed, but as she started to skate away, Mark said, “But I can put them back on!” and he did.

Though he felt a little awkward with not having much experience skating, they ended the evening holding hands as they skated.

They saw each other a few times, mostly during mealtime in the cafeteria since Mark had grad classes and Joan was a sophomore.

One day, Joan’s English teacher, Barb Darland, gave an assignment to interview someone—anyone—they wanted to get to know better. “Hmmm,” Joan thought, “I’d like to get to know Mark Endicott better! I could ask him for an interview!”

This assignment was not due until semester’s end. It’s the ONLY assignment Joan ever got done early!

So next time Joan saw Mark in the cafeteria, she told him about the English class assignment and asked if she could interview him. He agreed and…guess what? Joan left the cafeteria and was walking to the campus post office when Mark caught up with her and suggested they go out for dessert and do the interview over dessert. Joan slyly—I mean shyly— smiled and said, “That’s a great idea!” So they made plans to go out on Friday night after Joan got off work at the Gateway Fred Meyer as a grocery cashier.

BUT THEN, something happened that halted those plans— Mark caught a cold. Naturally he wanted to make a good impression, which meant being healthy before going out on that date. He showed up at 7 p.m., cold medicine in hand at her checkout stand. He explained the situation and asked for a rain check for their date. Joan’s insecurities kicked in and she thought this could be just an excuse if he had started having second thoughts. I mean, he didn’t LOOK sick to her—in fact, he looked pretty good!

Several days passed and they would see each other on campus, but Mark never mentioned a new date for the interview.

(Did I mention he didn’t LOOK sick to Joan?) So naturally, Joan was thinking he was not actually interested in setting a new date, but she did want to know for sure.

One night when she was at work, she was filling out a rain check for a customer and had a bright idea! Since Mark had specifically asked for a rain check, she decided she’d write one out for him—with a due date and everything. She used an actual paper rain check, wrote it out, and then delivered it to the campus post office. Then, she panicked! She thought Mark would think she was a weirdo for sure, so she decided to ask the clerk to retrieve it for her, but when she went to the post office window to ask, the office was closed! Of course, then she worried, stressed, and second guessed herself all over the place.

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The next afternoon, another gal in her dorm came to her room and told her there was a phone call for her. When she answered it, the voice on the other end said, “Yes, hello, I have a rain check here and I’d like to know when I could come pick up the package?” Joan laughed and asked, “How would you like the package wrapped?” To which Mark replied, “I thought we could go have Chinese food—do you know of a good place?”

They both laughed and laughed and that was the start of something wonderful! (They’ve been laughing ever since!)

Forty-three years ago was a first date that led to becoming best friends, then partners in marriage (mawage), then parents of three amazing humans plus their amazing bonus daughter, and now three grands that call them GiGi and Papa. They are forever grateful to the Lord for His abundant blessings in every chapter of their lives and look forward to continue serving Him for the rest of their lives.

So what is the secret to a long, fulfilling marriage? Let’s go back a few years before that first date in September 1979. When Joan was in high school, she realized it was a good time to start praying for the man she would eventually marry. At 15, she wrote out one of those prayers and put it up on her bedroom wall. Though she had no idea at that time who that would be, she knew this was incredibly important since she had witnessed both extremes, starting with her own parents’ marriage that was on life-support. On the other end of the spectrum were her role-models who had wonderful marriages and they truly were best friends. She wanted God’s best, so she began to pray for it.

When Mark was transitioning from high school to college, he made an even deeper commitment to not just know Jesus as Savior, but committed to put Him first and truly make Him Lord of his life. Wanting God’s best certainly included whom he would marry, so that’s when he started to pray for his future wife. That said, they believed it was important for them to pray for their future mate while seeking to grow closer in their relationship with the Lord themselves. Joan and Mark both believed they would connect with the right person at the right time if they continued to grow spiritually—becoming the exact right fit for the person they were praying for. If Mark hadn’t been walking closely with the Lord, Joan would not have been attracted to him and vice versa.

Some Fundamental Values We Shared:

1. Personal walk with Jesus as Savior and Lord 2. Commitment and belief that divorce wasn’t an option 3. Putting each other before self We know there are no guarantees. We know so many people who did their part, prayed and believed they had married their right person, only to find out that that person did not have the level of commitment, ethics, values, character and beliefs they represented themselves as having. Our hearts break with you and for you and we are so deeply sorry for what’s happened to you. Please know, you can only control your controllables. You could not predict what that person would decide to do. We all have a free will, friend, and you cannot choose for someone else. Each of us are personally responsible to the Lord. n Grab your FREE copy of Joan Endicott’s “I Get To!”® book and videos at www.JoanEndicott.com. Joan is an AwardWinning Keynote Speaker, Author and Coach who’s coaching has reached over 30 countries. Meet her and enjoy her encouraging messages on Facebook and Instagram.

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UNDERSTANDING Relationships

Need and fear: the paradox of intimacy closer together and farther apart at the same rate.

By Gary Moore This is a weird kind of business, but the closer they Dr. David Augsburger, a Christian author and get, the more separate they are. If they don’t grow teacher, says that we not only have a deep longmore separate, they can’t grow closer. If they can’t ing for intimacy, but we also have a deep fear of increase their individuality, they can’t increase their intimacy. And so, all the intimacy moves in two oneness.” directions. It paradoxically enriches both separateTo truly be with someone in intimacy, there are ness and connectedness. no requirements governing appearance, compliI (being truly myself) can only be intimate with ance or performance. According to Dr. Augsburger, you as you are you (being truly yourself). Our intiavailability, presence and integrity of covenanting macy increases as you are able to become more fully are all that is required. The commitment to be there who you are, and I become more freely who I am. for the other and with the other is what brings us German psychologist Laura Perls said, “In a together while recognizing our covenanting selves as traditional confluent marriage, the spouse is not a separate responsible agents. significant other but an insignificant same.” Reflect This commitment is not without fears. To let go on that for a while. But more than just a caricature, and simply be together can evoke a whole family this description is a portrait of much marriage in of fears. Dr. Augsburger says there are five major which selfhood is lost in merger. Sonia Murch Nevis Gary Moore fears blocking intimacy: (1) The fear of merger. and Joseph Zinker say that, “Two people can either If we move closer, I will feel engulfed, absorbed, ‘marry’ or they can ‘join’. When people ‘join,’ the swallowed up, so I must be on guard. (2) The fear of exposure. If separateness between them is ever present. The impossible relationwe move closer, I will feel undressed and embarrassed, exposed and ship is to ‘marry’: to be totally known and know the other, to merge shamed, so I must be closed when close. (3) The fear of attack. If we and be as close as possible. To ‘marry’ is like creating a sauce – its move closer, I may be attacked, injured, penetrated, violated. So, I various ingredients are so well blended that they are indistinguishmust be cautious. (4) The fear of abandonment. If we move closer, able. The opposing image is of two pieces of a jigsaw puzzle that I may open myself only to be left hanging, risk myself only to be join, but the seam is a separateness that cannot be overcome.” ignored or rejected. (5) The fear of one’s own destructive impulses.

Dr. Augsburger says that, “True intimacy is found by linking not If we move closer, I may not be able to control the anger I feel, or forging. Healthy relationships are not in contact, not continuous. the disgust, at parts of you that I try not to think about, but I fear is Intimacy, paradoxical as it seems, is increased by our recognition of there about to break out. separateness, not by our denial of it.”

As I become emotionally healthier and more at peace with myself, Intimacy has its paradoxical aspects: One, a person needs to be separate in order to be close. Two, the ones we love have the greatest my fears of being absorbed, exposed, attacked, abandoned, or explosive go down. My confidence that I can safely and freely be my power to hurt us. Three, we must seek comfort and healing from whole self in your presence rises and grows. I can risk being spontathose we hurt and who hurt us. These three paradoxical dimensions neous – not knowing what will come out but trusting it all the same. are central to intimate marriage. They are the puzzles of closeness, Let’s face it. There is no way to avoid hurt in a relationship. When crisis, and reconciliation. two people move into each other’s inner world, there will be misunOnly healthy separate selves are intimate together. In order to derstandings, mistakes, and misfortunes that hurt. Hurts are inevibe close to one’s partner, one must become a healthy, separate self. table but not irreparable.

Separation and togetherness are most often expressed as an either/ We always hurt the ones we love, yet we also can be healed and or situation, but that is false; they are best understood as a both/and helped by those we love and who love us. Perhaps, just perhaps, we situation. can be healed only by the one whom we have hurt. n We are both becoming more separate selves with a clear sense of identity, and we are both able to come together without fear or Gary Moore served as associate pastor at Cloverdale Church reservation. of God for 15 years. He does couples’ coaching and leads We are both distinct as centered persons and we are both fulfilled couples’ workshops and retreats called MUM’s the Word. He in our blending together in shared emotional experience. does a weekly radio program called Life Point Plus on KBXL So both distinctness and connectedness, both union and sepa94.1FM at 8:45 a.m. on Fridays. Monday mornings at 10 a.m. ration, both twoness and oneness, both healthy self-identity and he does live relationship teaching called MUM Live on his marital unity are central to intimacy.

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History, Culture & Faith

The ‘peanut man’ who transformed farming landed him a faculty job at Iowa State (the school’s first Black professor).

But it didn’t take long for George Washington “When you can do the common things Carver to receive a higher call. This one from of life in an uncommon way, Booker T. Washington, the principal of the you will command the attention esteemed Tuskegee Institute in Alabama. of the world.”

Booker offered George a great salary and provided the bachelor with his own two-room These words by George Washingcampus apartment (with one of the rooms ton Carver (1864-1943) were the just for his plants). However, Carver’s move frame for one of America’s most into Tuskegee wasn’t easy. His nicer accommofluential Black lives. It’s likely you’ve dations sparked jealousy among other single heard of Frederick Douglass, Booker instructors (who shared rooms and survived T. Washington, and Rosa Parks, but on meager salaries). Furthermore, the transidon’t miss the transformative “untion from “free” Iowa to the Jim Crow South common way” of George Washington also proved difficult for him. The Ku Klux Klan.

Carver, a man who “commanded the Lynching. Black vote suppression. Segregation. It attention of the world.” was a culture that Carver would have to learn to Carver was one of America’s greatest navigate carefully. botanists, but he also was an educator, But he did. For the next five decades, Carver conservationist, artist...and dedicated became a fixture at Tuskegee.

Christian. His story is worth re-telling.

He developed the Agriculture DepartGeorge Washington Carver was ment, taught classes, managed born into slavery in Missouri, the school’s farms, mentored sometime in 1864. When students, handled janitorial he was a newborn duties, served on multiple baby, he and his committees, and worked mother and sister with area farmers. Despite were kidnapped by his many activities and comslave raiders, who mitments, Carver was an transported them to introvert. He preferred workArkansas (and later sold ing quietly with his plants them in Kentucky). more than any other teaching Carver’s Missouri masactivity. ter desperately tried to Carver’s greatest contribulocate them, but only found tions involved his work with George. After some negotiation, poor Alabama sharecroppers. He the baby Carver was redeemed, taught them how to rotate crops, rescued, and returned to Missouri. A OpenClipart-Vectors from Pixabay fertilize with “swamp muck,” and few years later, when slavery was forfeed their livestock better (and cheapmally abolished, George’s master chose er). He encouraged them to stop growing cotton and move to to become his father, raising him as one of his own. crops (peanuts, sweet potatoes, soybeans) that infused the soil From an early age, Carver was encouraged to read, write, with nitrogen. This allowed the soil to rest and rejuvenate. investigate, and study. His favorite subject was botany.

The high yield in peanuts turned Carver into “The Peanut At age 11, Carver moved to Neosho, Mo. to continue his Man.” In fact, he developed over 300 food, commercial and schooling. That’s when he met Mariah Watkins, a Black industrial “peanut” products (milk, sauces, oils, soaps). He woman who boarded George and encouraged his education. even invented cosmetics, paper and medications using peaIt was important, she said, that Carver “give...learning back nuts. to [his] people.” And that’s exactly what he did. His drive to By 1910, Carver was famous for his agricultural science, not learn as much as possible, no matter where it led him, framed just in America but around the world. He used his celebrity his entire life. George eventually moved to Kansas (where status to promote his love of peanuts, the Tuskegee Institute, he graduated high school) and then to Simpson College and racial reconciliation. Carver also proved to be a prolific (Indianola, Iowa) to study art and painting.

It was in painting fruits and flowers that George reignited his writer, penning books, articles, and bulletins. He was friends with U.S. Presidents and captains of industry. He eventually love for botany. funded a Tuskegee foundation and museum using his own life In 1890, Carver transferred to Iowa State Agricultural savings.

College (now Iowa State University) to study agriculture. He Carver was a devout Christian. In fact, many historians was the college’s first Black student and earned his bachelor’s credit his humility, gentleness, compassion, and joy to his (1894) and master’s (1896) degrees. Carver’s stellar inteldeep faith. Although he never married, he kept many close ligence, positive attitude and impressive agricultural skills

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friendships from his church. He believed only Christianity could eradicate racism and social disharmony. He was also a Bible scholar and popular Sunday School teacher, known for his ability to act out a Scripture story.

In 1922, Carver provided a student with his “eight cardinal virtues”: • Be clean both inside and out.

• Neither look up to the rich nor down on the poor.

• Lose, if need be, without squealing.

• Win without bragging.

• Always be considerate of women, children and old people.

Dr. Rick • Be too brave to lie.

• Be too generous to cheat.

• Take your share of the world and let other people have theirs.

George W. Carver died January 5, 1943. His Tuskegee gravestone reads: “He could have added fortune to fame, but caring for neither, he found happiness and honor in being helpful to the world.” Carver has been memorialized as one of America’s most important persons. His likeness adorns

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stamps, coins, and medals. His name appears on schools, bridges, and streets. Carver has state parks and botanical gardens named for him, and his Missouri birthplace is a National Monument. Since 1943, January 5 has been George Washington Carver Day. He’s also been elected to multiple “halls of fame” and awarded honorary degrees.

From slavery to peanuts to presidents, this Tuskegee professor packed a lot of life into his 79 years.

George Washington Carver. Scientist. Educator. Conservationist. Inventor. Artist. Christian.

And now you know the rest of HIStory. n

Dr. Rick Chromey helps people interpret history, navigate culture and explore faith. He’s an author, historian, professor, and founder/president of MANNA! Educational Services International. Rick and his wife Linda live in Star. Rick is available to speak and train for your next event. Readers are also invited to subscribe to the Morning MANNA! inspirational and educational (M-F) email. Please visit: www.mannasolutions.org

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“George Washington Carver” (Wikipedia): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Washington_Carver 2. “George Washington Carver: An Uncommon Life” Documentary (Iowa Public Broadcasting): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3CVmluYFtI 3. “George Washington Carver” (History.com): A&E Television Networks. https://www.history.com/topics/black-history/george-washington-carver Accessed February 17, 2022.

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BIBLICALLY Responsible Investing

Can two people disagree on sinking funds?

By Ryan De Amicis “This is where Dave Ramsey and I disagree…,” Rachel Cruze boldly muttered.

Is it legal for anyone, let alone a Ramsey personality, to have a conflicting opinion to Dave Ramsey? I didn’t think so. Maybe Rachel, the financial guru’s daughter, felt confident Dad would soften up after she brought the grandkids over for the holidays.

Their opinions clashed over the use of sinking funds. After completing Baby Step 3 (meaning all your debt, except your mortgage, is paid off, and you’ve tucked away 3 to 6 months of expenses in your emergency fund), Rachel encourages her listeners to consider starting sinking funds as a means to safeguard your emergency fund.

Ryan De Dave Ramsey, on the other hand, concerned about its potential for complexity, shares a differing opinion on the matter.

What is a sinking fund?

Though traditional sinking funds are used by companies to proactively put money aside for the repayment of a future debt or bond, this concept can be applied on an individual and family level. There are many ways this term has been redefined.

While an emergency fund’s purpose is to save for an unpredictable future expense, a sinking fund is the process of saving money for a predictable future expense.

Here are three advantages of sinking funds: 1. While certain purchase costs (buying a house, a home remodel, and a new-to-you car, for example) may feel overwhelming, a sinking fund allows you to save for anything by allowing you to chip at your goal, one month at a time.

2. Whether you are saving for a cruise with your family or gifts for the holiday, a sinking fund creates an opportunity to build excitement by reminding us monthly of what we are looking forward to as we make each routine contribution.

3. Many of us have experienced buyer’s remorse after a purchase. Knowing you’ve prepared for a specific goal, a sinking fund helps you to enjoy your purchase guilt-free.

With all its advantages and potential for use, if you aren’t careful, you could quickly have many sinking funds and become overwhelmed at the task. Remember, success, in life and finances, is not about perfection; it’s about progress.

So, if you already completed Baby Step 3 (3-6 months of expenses saved in an emergency fund), consider kicking the tires by starting with one sinking fund. Then, you determine whether it’s adding or subtracting value to your life. First, start by determining the purpose of your sinking fund. Some ideas include a

giving fund, house fund, car fund, or travel fund.

Second, determine a realistic amount you can contribute monthly. Then, decide if you want to withdraw cash to collect in an envelope or go to the bank to open an additional checking account. Finally, exercise your discipline muscles of consistency through routine contributions and restraint by protecting your savings for its predetermined goal.

Of the many advantages to sinking funds, my favorite is its ability to bring liberation by helping to enjoy a purchase guilt-free. Proverbs 21:5 states, “The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance, but everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty.” By requiring another depth of thought and intentionality to our routine Amicis financial decisions, haste and poverty is repelled.

Rash financial decisions resulting in unwanted, long-term financial consequences are minimized through the practice and use of sinking funds. For more years than I’d like to admit, stress would creep up around the holidays as I wondered where I’d pull the money for gifts. Christmas constantly caught me by surprise. Silly, huh? Though it hasn’t solved all of my problems, creating a giving fund has liberated me to enjoy the holiday season such as the one recently past.

In a world where we are reminded daily how little we control, sinking funds provide us a unique opportunity to put our thoughts and energy towards something we can control – how we spend our money. It’s refreshing to hear a Ramsey personality choose to go against the grain by providing a different perspective on how to prepare our finances for a better future.

Though Dave Ramsey and Rachel Cruze have differing perspectives on the matter of sinking funds, they both agree Christmas is in December each year – and it will be again in 2023 – and it’s worth setting money aside for it in advance. n Ryan De Amicis is an investment advisor with Christian Wealth Management in Boise, providing biblically responsible investment advice to Christians. For more information, visit investforthegloryofgod.com or contact him at ryan@ christianwm.com or (408) 758-6413.

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REAL Man’s Toolbox

Help is here! (Hint: it’s the Holy Spirit)

By Leo Hellyer up children representing Him in the world.

Okay, men, it is 2023! As we open our eyes He wants us to be fresher day by day, hour by to what we will experience this year, where hour.” It also points out that if we will look does your mind go? This can be a great time through God’s eyes, we will see that, “The for strategic planning, or it can be a time of Spirit is the dove of peace who calms us, the overwhelming stress and trepidation. How we gift giver who equips us, the river of living perceive 2023, and how we handle the windwater who flows out of us to refresh the world.” ing path that we will be on in the next 365 When we face challenges in our lives, we days, depends on what filter we will be looking are not to allow them to overwhelm us. We through. are to seek God, call upon Him, and receive On the back cover of Max Lucado’s 2022 strength and guidance from Him. Throughout book titled, “Help Is Here,” there are two the book, Lucado implores us to seek out the hugely impactful statements. The first statetruth of God. We need to communicate with ment is: “Bills pile up. Savings accounts go our Heavenly Father in a frequent and clear down. Marriages go south. Work goes off the manner. We need to search His Word for the rails. Stress goes off the charts. It’s all too much Leo Hellyer answers to living an honorable life. to take on by yourself.” This is a true statement, There are Scriptures that Lucado has placed throughout as you look at an entire year to come. This is a huge bite to his book, just like bread crumbs to guide us through the jourchew on, all by ourselves. There is a much better way to proney.

Paul writes in Romans 8:38-39: “For I am convinced ceed through this new year. The second statement points out the truth – that we have “Someone to walk with us, and guide that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, us, to shoulder the load…the Holy Spirit is among us – help is neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be here.” We are not required, or expected, to carry this load all able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ by ourselves.

Jesus our Lord.”

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THE ROAD Less Traveled

It’s never too late to build something

the tactical advantage to win, and you don’t

By Jason Herring In 1919, William Randolph Hearst was one build a tower unless you have the resources of the most powerful and influential men in to finish the project (Luke 14:25-33). The the United States and the world. He owned point of this passage is not that we need to over 30 newspapers, including numerous have sufficient manpower or money or talent magazines, and four film studios. During the in order to be a disciple. The point is that we Roaring Twenties, one in four Americans read need to be all in. A general who engages the his publications. He was the greatest media enemy in a half-hearted effort is destined to mogul in the history of the United States, and lose the battle. If William Randolph Hearst he used his clout to get elected twice to the had only possessed the resources to lay the House of Representatives. At the age of 56, foundation for Hearst Castle, the site would there wasn’t much he hadn’t accomplished or be a forgotten monument to folly rather than attempted, including running for President of an estate that has attracted 88 million visitors the United States. Standing on a hillside overfrom around the world since its opening to the looking the Pacific Ocean where he had spent Jason Herring his childhood, William Randolph Hearst public. could have wept that there were no more Often, we as Christians mistakenly think worlds to conquer. But instead, he dared to dream. that we need more of something in order to amount to someOn a hilltop that feels more like a mountain, Hearst thing for God, but in reality, we only need more of God. decided to build a castle. Situated 1,600 feet over the rugAnd the more that God has of us, the more that we have of ged Pacific Coastline, the Enchanted Hill, as Hearst called Him. As we love Him with heart, soul, mind and strength, it, entertained thousands of celebrities and guests, includwe build a work of gold, silver and precious stones as oping Winston Churchill and Calvin Coolidge. Designed by architect Julia Morgan to the wishes and changing whims of posed to wood, hay and stubble. The only thing that can Hearst, the castle was completely self-sustaining, with its own limit God are the limitations that we set on our own heart.

If only I had more time … If only I were young again … If water supply, livestock, orchards and gardens. The Neptune only …

Pool surrounded by marble columns and the 22-karat gold William Randolph Hearst was three years past the average tile in the indoor Roman Pool are the very definition of lifespan of the men of his generation, and yet he embarked opulence. Guests could hunt, swim, fish, golf, play tennis, go horseback riding, visit the world’s largest private zoo, or on a project that took him 27 years to complete. He was unenjoy an evening movie at the theater in Casa Grande. daunted by his age and the challenge that it presented. MoBut Hearst Castle was more than just a place to entertain ses was 80 years old when he led the children out of Egypt and impress celebrities. It was a museum of ancient art and and to the gateway of the Promised Land. David wanted culture that Hearst intended to leave for future generations to build the Temple, but God would not allow him – not to appreciate as a monument to his legacy. Every single because of his age but because of the wars he had fought. So thing in and around the castle from the rugs to the furniture David spent the latter years of his life preparing the project to the decorations was a conversation starter regarding some for his son Solomon to build. He forged alliances, secured period in history. You really have to see it to understand materials, and drafted plans for his son’s success. how unique this place is. On my recent visit, one of the What vision has God placed in your heart? It is never most impressive things to me was the 3,000 years old statues too late to serve in ministry or go on a mission. We are His of Sekhmet on the Esplanade outside the castle. And yet building, the apostles and prophets being the foundation and towering above the Egyptian goddess of war are two crosses crowning the respective towers of Casa Grande. It struck me Christ Himself the Chief Cornerstone (1 Corinthians 3:9-11; that 3,000 years ago Egyptians were bowing down to these Ephesians 2:19-22). The people business is our Father’s busivery statues in worship, and yet millennia later those civiliness. We are building lives and families and ministries. What zations are gone and those “gods” are artifacts. Our God is lifesaving, life-sustaining, life-enhancing project are you represented in a symbol of profound suffering and self-sacri- investing in? You don’t have to be the architect or financier fice, and it trumps the old gods as well as the new. or founder of the project. There are thousands of people in As already stated, Hearst was 56 years old when he began California and in the U.S. who can point to Hearst Castle construction of Hearst Castle. The average lifespan of an and tell stories of how their grandparents or great-grandparAmerican male in 1919 was 53. For Hearst, he was not too ents helped build or maintain the national landmark. The old nor was it ever too late to start something worthwhile. It castle is the legacy of all those who were involved in its contook William Randolph Hearst and Julia Morgan 27 years to build Hearst Castle. When the last of the construction was struction and maintenance just as the church is a legacy to all who serve. William Randolph Hearst built a palace to the completed, Hearst would live another five years before passglory of man. We build people to the glory of God. It’s never ing away at the age of 88. too late to start building or preparing the way for someone In the Gospel of Luke, Jesus compares discipleship to building and battling. You don’t go to battle unless you have else to build. n

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Help is Here!

Continued from page 17

We must remember, and truly believe, as we embark on our 2023 journey, that we are not on this journey alone.

The Holy Spirit is with us all the way. The U.S. POWs that were held in the Hanoi Hilton and other prisons in North Vietnam were stripped of everything that the North Vietnamese could possibly take. When they gloriously returned to U.S. soil, the vast majority of the POWs stated that the only thing that got them through the ordeals that they experienced (including torture) was the presence, protection, and direction of the Holy Spirit. The same Holy Spirit that was with the POWs will be with us in the midst of anything that we will experience, if we will only seek Him. If we will seek out the Lord, and be obedient to Him, we can be a light in a world of darkness. We will not only be able to press through the challenges that we face personally, but we will be able to help those around us to do the same as they observe how we receive our strength through the Lord. We must be vocal with others about how the Holy Spirit is delivering us through our challenges. We must make it completely clear where our strength, wisdom, and direction come from. Not only do we need to let the Lord know our needs, but we need to take the time to listen to Him, as He communicates to us through the Holy Spirit.

Included at the end of this great book is a section of Questions for Reflection written by Max Lucado’s daughter Andrea. I highly recommend going through this section, in addition to the rest of the book, to really get the most out of the information provided. This is a book that is a must-have for every man’s toolbox. Immersing yourself in the truths presented in this book will brighten 2023 for you and those around you. And also, the full title of this book spotlights what the book is all about. It is: “Help Is Here, Finding FRESH STRENGTH and PURPOSE in the POWER of the HOLY SPIRIT.” God Almighty, the Creator of the Universe, has provided each one of us with the Holy Spirit to firm up our stand and to graciously and lovingly guide us through the challenges of life. Brothers, please remember, you face nothing ALONE. The Holy Spirit is right there with you through thick and thin. Call upon Him and see what awesome, wonderful, and powerful things He will do in your life.

It is through the strength of the Holy Spirit that you can overcome any darts that Satan may send your direction. n Leo Hellyer is a non-staff pastor with a local church and has been married to his wife Norma for 50 years. The couple volunteered with the Boise FamilyLife Ministry Team for 20 years. Leo has also been serving with Boise Rescue Mission Ministries for 20 years and is currently serving at the River of Life Rescue Mission. He is president and chief firearms instructor with Helping Hands Firearms Training LLC. If you have questions about Real Man’s Toolbox, or need other assistance, he may be reached at silverplate426@msn.com or (208) 340-5544. www.christianlivingmag.com

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COVER STORY

Sam and Rocio Santiago:

Sam and Rocio Santiago sit with their daughter, Angelica. (Photo by Steve Jones)

By Steve Bertel Oct. 12, 2017. 5:30 p.m. Near Gilroy, California.

Sam was barreling down Highway 101 at high speed. Pushing 90 mph. Showing off. Drag racing. He looked out his side window at the equally-determined driver alongside him. Their souped-up cars only feet apart. And neck and neck.

Sam wanted to beat this sucker. No matter what it took. So he stood down even harder on the gas pedal.

Suddenly, up ahead, two huge tractor-trailer rigs.

To avoid a collision, Sam twisted the steering wheel, sliding onto the shoulder of the freeway. Still doing 90. “You know when you’re in a car wreck and everything seems to move in slow motion? That’s the way it was for me,” he recalls. “And as I saw myself sliding toward the guard rail, I knew this was not going to end well.”

Sam Santiago and Rocio Madrigal have known each other since they were children. Sam was 11 and Rocio was 9 when they first met.

Each had devoutly Catholic parents who attended home Bible study groups together. “We prayed the Rosary, said grace before each meal, went to church every Sunday,” Sam remembers. “Growing up, Rocio was like a little sister to me – who became my best friend. As we grew older, we started hanging out more together. I always thought she was beautiful, but I never had the courage to tell her.”

As for Rocio, “I was really shy around other people; but with him, I wasn’t.”

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Sam was raised by his single father. “I love him. And out of fear and respect for him, I was a really good kid,” he points out. But Sam learned to box in his late teens and soon became rebellious.

And that’s when his life started taking a dark turn. “I was smoking weed [marijuana] and drinking and partying when I was 16 or 17.” But he always hid it from his father. “In fact, my dad didn’t know I was using drugs until I was into the hard stuff.”

Rocio had a similar downward spiral, only at an earlier age.

“My parents worked hard and they truly loved me; but I feel they never really took the time to sit down and talk to me about my feelings. Life at home was more about what I was doing wrong than what I was doing right. So I began looking for acceptance, I guess. I started smoking weed when I was 9 or 10; started drinking when I was 11. By the time I was 17, I was smoking weed so much, I often blacked out.” Why? “I wanted to be mischievous, defiant. I wanted to have that label of a ‘bad person.’ I had been raised in church, but I didn’t want to be God’s child anymore. Then, when I was 22, I really went off the deep end when I started doing meth.”

Meanwhile, Sam became a member of the loosely-knit northern California Norteños gang. “When I was in jail one day, I decided I was going to ‘roll with the Hispanics.’ I wanted to be a homeboy. So I became a ‘Northerner’. At 18, I began doing a lot of drugs, selling a lot of drugs. … My best friend’s mom used crank [meth]; in fact, her neighbor made

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ic. He was not my cornerstone. My house was built on sand.” it at his house. So when I would go over to my friend’s, the neighbor would just give it to us. After a while, I had a blast.

Rocio’s lifestyle was much the same. “The seed was planted I had been an unpopular kid growing up, so selling meth – when I was a child. Like Sam, when I would get out of jail, I sometimes even giving it away – made me popular.” would try to do good for a month or so – but soon, I would go Living the violent street life also landed him behind bars. back drinking and doing drugs. I was lost. Sure, I had people Dozens of times. “I once did a year in county [ jail] for beating around me who loved me. But I was still missing something in up a guy with a baseball bat,” he says. “I’ve robbed people, my life, and I didn’t know what it was. I was upset with God stole cars. I got my teeth knocked out in a bar fight, because I was trying to fight the whole bar. I was messed up. But looking with the way I had turned out; I couldn’t figure out why I was doing drugs and was always so miserable, so depressed, while back, I was blessed – God was watching over me – because, of all my felony charges, I was only convicted of one.” And other people had regular, happy lives.” miraculously, he often received light sentences. “In fact, some Then came the afternoon of October 12, 2017. of the guys I did time with thought I was a snitch. People con“I was racing in my friend’s car, a Mercedes C 230,” Sam victed of the exact same remembers. “I had evaded charges went ‘upstate’ [to the cops three times in prison] for multiple years; that car, mainly because I whereas I just got a lot of was very good at driving county time.” very fast.

Rocio has also seen her “But then, I hit the share of barred jail cell doors electronically sliding guard rail. The windows closed and locking with exploded. And the car a foreboding clank. Over rolled over and over. I a ten-year period, she braced against the steerserved various sentences ing wheel and closed my on charges including drug eyes. As I said, it was like paraphernalia possession, everything happened in being under the influence slow motion.” When it of narcotics, and felony welfare fraud. In 2002, “I was all over, Sam found he started doing meth right had landed some 50 yards after my oldest daughaway, against a secondter, Makyla, was born. ary guard rail. At first, he I broke up with her dad thought, Am I dead? Am [they were never married] I injured? Suffering only when she was only 2. So I some pains and soreness, literally deserted her,” she Sam was able to open a explains.

As a young man, Sam Santiago enjoyed speed and drag racing. Once, driving door and climb out. By And Sam was still on the down a highway in California doing 90 mph, Santiago had to swerve to miss two streets, still struggling with then, the engine was on tractor-trailer rigs. His vehicle hit a guard rail and rolled multiple times. Windows the “get arrested/go to jail/ fire. Flames were spreadwere shattered, and the engine erupted into flames. Santiago was thrown from the get released/get arrested ing. Drivers who had car, landed some 50 yards away, and got up and ran from the scene when he heard again” cycle. As he puts it: the sound of sirens. There were felony warrants out for his arrest. (Submitted photo) witnessed the crash pulled “I always knew God was over to render aid. And of in my heart. So when I’d course, they heard sirens of approaching emergency vehicles. go to jail, it was like pushing the reset button. I would read my And the police.

Bible in jail; do good when I got out. And there were times Sam knew there were felony warrants out for his arrest. So, I would hold onto God’s hand for a year or two; I’d go to church, do things right. But then, when the ‘I got this!’ feeling determined never to see the inside of a jail cell again, he took of confidence would come over me, I’d let go of God’s hand off running as fast as he could, escaping across a field. … and go to the ‘trap houses,’ the places I knew where people Police conducted an extensive search, even launching a heliwould be buying and selling and using drugs – where I knew copter to help track him down. But to no avail. people would accept me – and I would go off the deep end It wasn’t until a month later when he was finally arrested. “I again. remember one of the officers told me, ‘I’m not a believer but, “Matthew 7:26 says, ‘Everyone who hears these words of after seeing all the damage to that car and what little was left mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand,’” he goes on. “I had heard of it, something not of this world was with you that night.’”

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YOUR Daily Bread

Turn new year resolutions into goals this!” or “With God, all things are possible!”

By Terry Frisk Visualize what it would look like to achieve Happy new year! Most of us greet the new your goals. This will reinforce your belief in year with resolutions for the upcoming year. achieving your goals, making it easier to stay However, many of those resolutions are broon track. ken within a couple of weeks. Why? Much of 4. Pray for the strength and wisdom to the problem is due to resolutions being too complete the activities necessary to accomgeneric and the lack of taking the extra step to plish your goals. Remember Jesus said, “And turn resolutions into formal goals. Establishing whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, formal goals will help you identify and take the if you have faith” (Matthew 21:22). When you necessary steps to achieve your objective. experience setbacks, refocus on your goals to Young people seem to set goals for themselves get yourself back on track. Avoid giving up on naturally. They may have goals for their career yourself. God never gives up on you. path, getting married, starting a family or go5. Develop a support group of individuing on a church mission. They also have the als with similar goals. Find people who will discipline to complete the activities necessary to provide unconditional support and hold you achieve these goals. When I was young, my ca- Terry Frisk accountable for achieving your goals. You may reer goal was to become a Certified Public Acfind support groups with similar goals at your countant (CPA). To do so, I needed to complete church or, if not, create a group. my college education, receive an accounting degree, pass a 6. Regularly measure your progress. Celebrate your success comprehensive exam, and incur one year of experience workalong the way and praise God for blessing you. ing under the direction of a licensed CPA. I just knew what I Following these steps will set you on your path to achieving wanted to do and the steps it took to get there. However, as we your goals. While it is easier said than done, remember the grow older, we seem to lose this ability to establish goals and words of Paul to the Philippians, “I can do all things through take the necessary steps to achieve them.

Him who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). May God bless God intends for us to set goals and work toward attaining you on your goal achievement journey. n these goals to achieve our full potential. Proverbs 21:5 states, “The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance, but Terry Frisk is a retired business financial advisor. He also everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty.” We all need counsels individuals on personal financial matters through goals to establish direction in our lives. In addition, whether the Cathedral of the Rockies Budget Coaching ministry. He these goals are personal, professional or spiritual, they must can be contacted through e-mail at terry_frisk@msn.com. align with our Christian values to further our walk with God. How do you attain your goals? Here is a simple process to follow to help you establish and reach your goals: 1. Prayerfully consider your life’s purpose and direction, then define your top six goals. Make them specific so you have a way to measure your progress (i.e., instead of a goal to lose weight, set a goal to reach a certain weight level) and write them down along with deadlines for achievement.

2. Plan your strategy for achieving your goals. Define the activities you will need to complete to arrive at your goal. If you are trying to achieve a certain weight level, then your activities might include switching to healthier foods and increased exercise. I like taking the dogs for a walk. I not only get some much-needed exercise, but it also allows me to clear my mind and enjoy God’s creation.

3. Review the goals you have written down frequently and build your belief in achieving them through affirmations and visualization.

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Sam had earlier seen the burnt, mangled wreckage for himself and knew he was lucky to be alive. But the officer’s words struck a chord. “That’s when I realized I did not want to test God anymore. Like the song says, I was looking for love in all the wrong places. So I surrendered my life to Him. I told God, ‘I want to make it this time.’

“And click! – just like that, it was over. My old life was gone. It was as if God told me, ‘Sam, you’ve had enough fun. Now it’s time to be a man and live your life for Me – and your family.’”

Sam’s added motivation: a short time prior, he and Rocio learned they were going to be parents. But they had had a falling out … which Sam was hoping to patch up. “I wanted to do this for Rocio. I wanted to do this for my daughter. My whole life, I had wanted a companion – and a family,” Sam says. “So I got back into God’s Word. For good.”

Rocio earlier had moved to Idaho to clean up her life, kick her meth habit – and to reconcile with Makyla, who was living full-time with her biological father.

“When I was in the hospital detoxing, I knew I needed to transition to a better life. So I gave it to God. I told Him, ‘I’m scared. I’m tired. I’m sick of being sick. So I need a sign from You. I’m not strong enough to do this on my own,’” she recalls, a tear trickling down her cheek. “I was four months pregnant at the time. And I told God, ‘I don’t want to have another daughter and lose custody of her, too.’ But I knew I couldn’t do it on my own.”

Sam agreed to serve a complete year in a California jail – he didn’t want to be on probation, so he could be legally free to come to Idaho and reconnect with Rocio … who, through God’s grace, had not only successfully kicked her drug habit by then, but had reconnected with her daughter.

Although things were a bit rocky at first, the couple eventually reunited, with Sam often coming to Rocio’s home to babysit their cherubic newborn, appropriately named Angelica. “I told Rocio flat out I did not want to live with her unless we were married. I wanted to be a Man of God – and provide for her and our child. I didn’t want to be a deadbeat dad. And I didn’t want Rocio relying on others for help,” he says.

So Sam and Makyla took Rocio out for her birthday at a Boise restaurant one day.

“Makyla knew what was going to happen. She was in on it. She had even helped me pick out the ring!” Sam smiles. And when the time came, “I was shaking, nervous. Everything I had planned to say to Rocio just went out the window. But I got down on one knee, in front of everyone at the restaurant, gave her the ring, and asked her to marry me.”

On July 23, 2022, Sam and Rocio officially became husband and wife at a sunny outdoor wedding attended by some 150 family members and church friends.

Today, the Santiagos faithfully attend the Ten Mile Community Church in south Meridian. Sam serves as an usher; Rocio is on the welcoming team. And both are clean and sober. “We don’t even have the desire to drink anymore,” they point out.

As for their future, “I want to be a disciple, an ambassador, a fisher of men,” Sam explains. “So I’m now part of a prison fellowship group. I want to share the gospel with guys who are where I’ve been, to show them there’s a safer way – a sure way.”

Rocio has earned a degree in sociology. “I want to use my life experiences to help women in jail, or maybe even the homeless. I want to volunteer, to give back,” she says. And as for that rebellious attitude she had as a teen? “I still have a little bit today,” she admits. “I still have that fire. But now, I use that energy in a different way: to empower and motivate people I work with.”

“It’s not about Whatever direction life takes them, whatever future chalpreaching, lenges they may face, Sam and Rocio both now know their it’s about deep love for each other and their steadfast devotion to God shar ing life.” will get them through.

Because He first loved them. n Steve Bertel is a multi-award-winning professional radio, television, print media, and social media journalist, who recently retired after a 30-year broadcasting career. Now a busy freelance writer, he recently released his debut suspense novel “Dolphins of an Unjust Sea”, available on both Amazon and Kindle. Steve and his wife of 40 years live in Meridian, Idaho.

He can be reached at stevebertel65@gmail.com.

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MAXIMUM Health

God speaks through a handwritten letter

By Rosie Main It is beautiful what trust and obedience does when we follow God’s plan and provision for our lives.

This unfolding story begins in November of 2021 when I was given a letter from one of my patients, letting me know that God had told her to pray for me and gave her a premonition.

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Of course, at first glance, you want to throw the letter away and put it behind you, but I tried to remain calm and simply set it aside.

Then it happened. In early December 2021, my husband and I got hit by news that would devastate any parent – we were told that one of our twin boys had Type 1 diabetes. We had just returned from traveling for Thanksgiving and had noticed one of our boys, “Cruz,” had strange little physical ‘nuances’ like excessive thirst, fatigue, and heart arrhythmia. I decided after rereading the letter and after prayer to check my boys’ blood glucose. My mother died at 56 from the consequences of Type 2 diabetes and my sister at 47 from Type 1 diabetes. I knew all the symptoms, but of course you never think it can happen to your children.

I checked their blood glucose, and Cruz’s was at a 415 glucose level. I immediately checked what are called ketones in his body, and he was in diabetic ketoacidosis, so we immediately took him to the hospital to get him stabilized. You leave the hospital after two days with all your instructions and the hopeless statement, “Your son will always be dependent on insulin.”

We went home and immediately began to pray for direction on what to do to help our son. I remembered the letter I had been given. Now seeing it with a different light, I knew it was His provision to tell me to trust Him. We began to have even more faith in His direction and I remember thinking “Daniel’s Diet,” a biblical diet taken from the book of Daniel.

My husband began to do research, and as we read numerous books on diabetes, natural cures, autoimmune diets, and lesser publicized ideas on healing, God led us to a plan that would combine our knowledge of nutrition and optimal health with new insights and ways to approach diabetes that don’t get taught even in natural minded physician programs.

In December 2021, with our son freshly released from the hospital, we began to implement a whole plant-based diet for him, with only wild salmon and organic grass-fed meat on weekends.

We saw that his sugars were doing better almost immediately. In January and February 2022 we began to reduce the amount of

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insulin because his blood sugar would go too low We continued the plant-based diet along with at night, which is so much worse than having it the autoimmune diet, trying to give his body high. We began to do lab work to help us find every potential opportunity to help heal his gut. the cause as to what provoked his pancreas to We also continued the pancreatic enzymes, stop working properly. We found out he had gut herbs, and other supplements to help assist him, inflammation, which probably provoked an auas well as a host of other microbiome gut suptoimmune response that attacked his pancreas. plements to improve the imbalance in his body We devised a plan to heal his gut, decrease the known as dysbiosis. He continued to not need inflammation, and support his pancreas. any insulin, and his glucose continued to range After continued scares with too many low from 90-180, even while eating fruit and other sugar levels during the night, we decided in whole food carbohydrates. Many naysayers kept Rosie Main March of 2022 to remove all his insulin and touting the idea that he was in a “honeymoon manage it with a full-blown, vegan, whole food, phase” (a term used to say that within the beplant-based diet of just fruit and vegetables. I remember it was ginning of Type 1 diabetes, the pancreas is still able to produce Cruz’s idea to go “all in.” As soon as he said he wanted to start insulin). We trusted in God’s promise, and we kept going. this, his twin brother Ty said, “I will do it with you.” Mind you, In October of 2022 we redid some important medical tests Ty did not have diabetes, but because of the amazing love and and blood work, and low and behold, his A1C was 5.4 and his bond they have, he wanted to help his brother. After that we all C-peptides were normal (which indicate pancreatic insulin prodecided to go “all in.” It was the best decision! duction).

He also had very limited dysbiosis. That month we In May of 2022 we wanted to repeat the A1c test to gauge decided to reintroduce foods we had eliminated while following Cruz’s glucose levels over the past three months and find out the autoimmune diet and began to see he was fine with that. what effects our extreme diet and protocols had. The diabetes We also began to introduce wild fish and organic free-range clinic ran the test and the results were astounding. The previchicken. So far he continues to do amazingly well. ous December, when diagnosed in the hospital, his A1c was We will continue to do our part as a family, and I hope our 10.6; this is extremely high. Now less than six months later, his story can offer a little light for anyone going through dark A1c was 5.6; this is classified as normal. While this was amaztimes. What the enemy meant for evil, God has turned to ing news, we know healing takes time and we have a long road ahead of us – but as the letter foretold, we’re expecting victory. good. Victory. n

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LESSONS from a friend

Will your ‘last act’ in life inspire others? telephone and told me the bad news – Beth’s canBy Vincent Kituku cer had returned and was advanced. “It is just a What will be my last act in life – the one thing matter of days, Vincent,” he said. Beth, a vibrant someone who will be left behind, still living, could lady, had never disclosed that she had cancer. see me do and inspire him or her to want to do When he handed the phone to Beth, she the same thing? thought there was no need for me to come see I wish I had a concrete answer to this question. her. It was on a Saturday. I went home, but about I was prompted to start thinking about it by a 7 p.m. I felt the need to go back to my office – woman I had admired and whose kindness and something I have been unable to understand to generosity I appreciated in her last few days of this day. I checked the phone and there was Beth’s life. It has occupied a central part of my thought message asking me to come and pray with her. I process recently. was at their house the next morning.

Beth heard me talk with a cashier at one of the We talked about life: Beth, her husband and I. office supply stores in Boise. She immediately Where they were born, how they met, when they recognized my “Wyoming accent” and said, “You moved to Boise, what they had done for a livare the one I listen to on the radio! I love listening to you and what you say.” We talked briefly and ing before retirement, and about their children.

Vincent Kituku l left to check something else I needed from the I expressed my appreciation for her initiative in store. talking to me and choosing to support CHHH. Then I heard, “Vincent” from behind. It was Beth with her I told Beth that I pray that I have the same spirit of helping hand stretched and her fist closed. All she said was, “This is for others even in my most vulnerable moment. Then I handed her a the children you are helping in Kenya.” I had been given money, customized key holder I had made for her in Kenya. On Septemrandomly, for Caring Hearts and Hands of Hope (CHHH), the ber 9, a beautiful soul moved to another form of life, who teaches organization I founded to raise money for high school tuition and us in absentia. fees for needy children in Kenya.

I left the house wondering, “What will be my last act in life?”

Before I left the store, I asked for her contact information, which The reality of the matter is, at our last moment, when we are she gladly scribbled on a piece of paper. In most cases, the instant on our deathbed, chances are that we cannot do something we giving is a one-time deal. What sets Beth apart, however, was that have never done or thought of doing. In our most fragile moment, she continued giving regularly from that moment. She searched whatever we can think about or do is most likely something we the internet and learned more about the organization, found its have thought or done repeatedly in our lives. Doing good with our contact information and started mailing checks. lives up until that final moment ensures that our last act will be a Over the years, we talked over the phone or exchanged emails. tribute to how we lived.

Beth always wanted to find ways she could help more. She talked So what will be your last act? n to several of her friends about meeting at her house to learn what © I was doing, only to find that they were already supporters of Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku, motivational speaker and author CHHH causes and regular contributors. of “Overcoming Buffaloes at Work & in Life,” is the founder After arriving back in America on August 15, 2015, from a trip and executive director of Caring Hearts and Hands of Hope, to Kenya, I found a check from my friend, Beth, and wrote an a non-profit organization that raises tuition and fees for poor email thanking her for the continued support. She didn’t reply. A orphans and other children from poverty-stricken families in few days later, I called her home and her husband picked up the Kenya. Contact him at vincent@kituku.com or (208) 376-8724.

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A perspective on how to approach money

By Steve Nelson Two masters – Mistakenly, people often say money is the root of all evil, misquoting 1 Timothy 6:10. This verse accurately reads that “the LOVE of money is the root of all evil.”

You may already know this important distinction. Money is neutral, neither good nor evil. It’s like other tools – it depends on what you do with it.

The “LOVE of God” is the root of all good – a truth that resounds all over the Bible. In Mark 12:30, Jesus said that loving God was most important. Also in Luke 16:13 Jesus taught, “No servant can serve two masters... ye cannot serve God and mammon.” Mammon = treasure, riches, money and the false confidence that comes with it. So, who do we serve? God or money? Be honest, what or who is on our mind more?

Money defined – Money is a thing. It is lifeless until energy is put into it. If paper, or coins, or digitally tracked, all types of money are the same – a means of exchange for products and services in society. It’s an idea in which both parties agree on the perceived value of stuff. Although money is a symbol of purchasing power in the physical realm, it’s affected by spiritual factors that are good or evil, depending on how people use it.

That’s right, we determine the impact of our money based on the decisions in our hearts. The type of energy put into acquiring and spending money has far-reaching ramifications.

This motivation behind money is very important to God. It’s not necessarily how much we have, it’s what we do with it.

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“We brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out” (1 Timothy 6:7).

God’s financial advice – God is the best financial planner, giving detailed financial instructions in His Word, even what to do before spending on food, clothing and shelter. The devil is the second best financial planner, offering lots of “wisdom,” but all his ideas skip God. Sad reality: most people ignore God regarding money. For example, money on self or family first is not advice from God. Unless God is involved in our first decision about money, we are being misled with an illusion that the world is smarter than God. Has someone taught you that the Bible is no longer relevant about money? You’ve been fooled, my friend. Without knowledge from God, money “experts” are merely imperfect humans who can only see things from a physical point of view, not spiritual. “Seek the kingdom of God FIRST” is still the best strategy (Matthew 6:33).

Prove God with this financial action – God’s first financial principle is TITHING. It’s not a new concept, nor an outdated concept. It’s a principle that works today, as it did since before 1896 BC for Abram (later became Abraham), who was the first to tithe. See Genesis 14:18-20. Then prior to 1500 BC Moses recorded this: Leviticus 27:30, “And all the tithe of the land... is the LORD’S: it is holy unto the LORD.” What is tithing? It’s giving exactly 10% of our net income to God, before a dime is spent on anything else. The amount is not ambiguous, nor based on how much extra we have after

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paying bills, nor on emotional hype when we On the positive side, when people tithe, the hear a hot sermon from some preacher or not. physical needs of life are supplied. God will The tithe is exactly 10% off the top, every single pour out huge blessings and rebuke Satan for time. our sakes. Our physical needs will be guaranPractical ways to “give our money to teed, no matter how much money we make or God” – We cannot throw money up into the what the world’s economy is up to. God tells us sky as if God will catch it. Haha! We give it to to prove His Word works by tithing. We spirituGod’s representative. In our day that means ally recognize that 90% with God’s blessing giving money to a church, or ministry or goes further than 100% without. organization – whoever is teaching us God’s Conclusion – Food for thought: wouldn’t Word. Giving more than 10% of our income it be wise if people went to God proactively goes beyond the tithe and has blessings as well, Steve Nelson before financial troubles come? Now a betbut the tithe at 10% is the minimum financial ter idea: for thousands of years the tithe has obligation we are told to obey. To obey is to believe. been the best financial principle and it has not been improved If we respect God, then we’ll do what God says. If not, upon. Tricked into doing nothing: people question the logic of people have been giving excuses in their hearts for years on tithing and usually end up doing nothing at all. reasons not to tithe. Don’t believe the lie that tithing is obsoTithing is a financial choice which is backed by guaranteed lete. Nor the lie that you can’t find someone worthy to tithe promises to us from God Almighty. For those who respect to. We don’t live under law but we still put God first. And all God, we take this action and see the blessings in our lives. churches and ministries are imperfect! Let God worry about Make a decision today. Tithe! It primes the pump of giving how the money is handled. That’s His job. Our job is to give. and God will come through. God bless you! n No excuses. Once we drop it in the mail or send it digitally, at that exact moment we’ve tithed. Then, God does the rest.

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LIFE in tune

Turn the pegs of your life God’s way

By Bethany Riehl Deep breath and…exhale. Whew. We made it to January 2023.

Magazines are a funny thing. As I write this to you, we’re on the cusp of all of the Christmas craziness. My calendar is filling up with events, my pantry is full of ingredients for seasonal treats, I’m in the thick of my soft caramel season (I sell them to a handful of very loyal customers – one calls me her “dealer”), and my quiet mornings are frequently interrupted by my mischievous cat playing in the tree.

But! Once this magazine is in your hands that will all be behind us, and we’ll be standing in a new year – twelve months of possibility stretched out ahead of us.

Which, of course, leads me to think about resolutions. Do you make resolutions? Are you tired of hearing about them already?

I do make resolutions, but only half-heartedly. I seem to know myself well enough to know that “sugar only on weekends” sounds glorious after a month of too many sweets, but

by Valentine’s Day? Well, that’s a different story.

Indulge me while I tell a seemingly unrelated story. I promise I’ll circle back.

Recently my daughter was babysitting and in the closet of the playroom, she spotted a ukulele. She plays both ukulele and guitar so, knowing she could entertain the five-year-old with it, she tuned the instrument and strummed a song. He excitedly took the ukulele from her, twisted the tuning pegs so they were all perfectly straight, and tried to play a song, too.

Of course, instead of a beautiful melody, all that came out was the thump, dump, whump of an out of tune instrument.

He bemoaned that he couldn’t make it sound like she did and when she tried to show him that he’d taken it out of tune, he insisted that the pegs needed to be straight. He liked it better that way. She shrugged and told him that his music wouldn’t sound right, then.

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It reminded me of something our pastor had shared with the kids during an Adventure Club meeting recently. He was sharing what it means that “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” (2 Timothy 3:16).

He explained that the way God breathed out His Word was through the work of the Holy Spirit. He then showed the kids an instrument that only works by blowing into it. The authors of the Bible were the instruments and God’s breath worked through them. I loved the analogy so much and can’t stop thinking about it.

Now, the canon of Scripture is closed – complete – and we should question anyone who tells us they’ve heard any new revelations from God outside of the Bible. God is not breathing out new words or new Scripture, but we are no less instruments in His hand, to do with as He pleases.

Which brings me back to resolutions.

It occurred to me that, while it’s worthwhile to have goals and plans to be more organized, healthy, successful, or whatever the case may be, is that the song God wants to play through us? Or are we turning pegs in the way that seems right to us but can only result in a clamber of noise rather than the Lord’s symphony?

Are we trying to make our lives better for our benefit or to glorify Him? Instead of focusing on eating a specific way to alter our figures, what if God would rather we focus on a habit of fasting for the purpose of prayer, devotion, and spiritual discipline?

Instead of a goal to read X number of books this year, what if we choose to sit more deeply in a handful of books that will grow our relationship with the Lord?

Instead of using the first hour of the day to catch up on the news, what if we curated a habit of reaching for the Bible before anything else and sitting with the Savior, listening to what He has to say through His Word every day?

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What if we didn’t sign up for new podcasts or mer waistline. It’s also not a plan we get to be programs to develop productivity, but rather in control of – that’s entirely based on obedipracticed our daily routine in silence, to allow ence. our minds to breathe instead of constantly fillFinding joy, contentment, and purpose in ing them with more and more information? life – which is the point of resolutions, no? – is What if we took walks with the intent to pray a lofty goal, a good thing, and pleasing to the and meditate on Scripture instead of being Lord. But, Christian, let us be sure as we bring entertained with audiobooks? our plans and purposes to Him, that we hand it What if instead of curating new hobbies, we use our free time to serve the local church body all over, submitting to where He sets the tuning more diligently? pegs, knowing that our Creator has better plans Bethany Riehl What if instead of a goal to eat at home each for us than we could ever have for ourselves. night to save money, we focused on inviting As the Baptist Catechism says: people into our homes more often and serving them good food Question 2: What is the chief end of man? and hearty hospitality?

Answer: Man’s chief end is to glorify God and to enjoy What if the idea was less “me time” and more “God, my Him forever. time is in Your hands”?

Scripture: 1 Corinthians 10:31; Psalm 16:11; 37:4; 73:25Of course, none of the things that typically make the resolution list are wrong or sinful. And it could be that the Lord will 26; Isaiah 43:7 n lead you or me into new habits and goals to overcome slothful behavior or to glean off of a hectic, unhealthy schedule.

Bethany Riehl lives in the Treasure Valley with her husMy point is, instead of striving to be better according to our band, three kids, and one super chill dog. She writes own desires or in the eyes of the world around us, what if our goals were focused to be more holy, more Christlike, and more articles and fictional novels when she can, and her one desire is to point others to the love and sufficiency of Jesus determined than ever to be pleasing to the Lord?

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REMAIN faithful

The mind of Christ: proof in the pudding

By Ed Rybarczyk What does it mean to have the mind of Christ? Is it a matter of having one’s IQ raised upon conversion? Maybe it’s that believers, blessed by God, become walking encyclopedias of knowledge? Or could it be that, as so many church-folk assume, we will finally “know as we are known” (1 Cor. 13:12) and somehow become omniscient? Today I want to explore layers about having the mind of Christ. Along similar definitional lines, there is a great deal of confusion around what it means to be a Christian here in the 21st century. Who really is a member of the body of Christ? A piercing way to answer this goes back to my earlier questions concerning the mind of Christ.

We all know the name “Christian” is not just a label. If one’s confession of Christ is legitimate, there just has to be – following the New Testament itself – proof in the pudding, some kind of discernible difference. If Christianity merely means what every individual person feels it means, then it doesn’t really mean much.

In Philippians, the apostle Paul urged believers to have the mind of Christ. Here’s what Paul said in 2:5-8 (NRSV), “Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not regard equality with God as something to be exploited, but emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, being born in human likeness. And being found in human form, he humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death – even death on a cross.” The apostle wanted believers to be like Jesus by virtue of embodying the same attitude (in Koiné Greek, phroneite: mindset, attitude, consciousness) that Jesus Himself embodied: total obedience to the will of God coupled with a humble willingness to choose God and His commandments over all else.

And we know that that read – practicing obedience and humility, coupled with a life’s encompassing orientation to God – is the correct read because shortly thereafter, in verse 12,

Paul, staying on the same theme, tells the Philippians to “work out your salvation with fear and trembling,” a.k.a. work it out with humility. And lest they were still somehow unclear, Paul touches on it yet again in verses 14-15, “Do all things without murmuring or arguing, so that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish.” Christians were to have a different foundational orientation to life than non-believers. Paul wanted them to be different from the surrounding prideful and immoral Gentile culture by virtue of their practicing the same humility, the same obedience to godly morality, and the same life-directing orientation to God the Father as did Jesus Himself.

So, the mind of Christ in the book of Philippians? It’s a life’sorientation, a different frame-of-being than those not indwelt

by Christ. An attitudinal frame that is embodied in a bearing of humility, godly obedience, and preferring others over oneself. In an ancient Hebrew biblical light, this all spilled out of the many stories, teachings, and commandments that God opposes the prideful, disdains the boastful, and cuts off the immoral.

Jesus Himself fulfilled all the Old Testament commandments and teachings about humility by embodying those in His person. Even though He had pre-existed as God, with God ( John 1:1-2; Phil. 2:6), Jesus exuded humility, obedience, and holiness of conduct.

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Today we are right to wonder if someone is Just one fair way to sift and discern the quality really a Christ-follower if they exhibit ongoing of someone’s confession is to ask: do they exhibit patterns (this is not about single instances) of the mind of Christ? Do they affirm biblical teachings on morality? (Jesus never qualified or erased pridefulness in one’s own opinions, indifference a single Old Testament moral teaching. On some to the moral teachings of Scripture, haughtiness matters He was more stringent than the Hebrew toward others, or a life-directing orientation writings had been!) Do they insist that their own that is outside of God incarnate. When earlier feelings are lord or do they defer to the Lord Jesus in the New Testament Jesus had said, “you will Himself? Do they think the grace of Christ is a know them by their fruit,” (Matt. 7:16) He license to sin? In short, do they bow their knee was referring to the same measures and filters to the claims of Jesus or do they prop up passing about which St. Paul admonished in PhilipEd Rybarczyk pians: humility, obedience, godly living, and cultural fads as the new Christian norms? directing one’s entire life toward the things of On my theology podcast, I have described God. our recent enormous cultural shift as being akin to watching a Maybe like me you are watching a fascinating cleaving at four-mile wide glacier go off a cliff. After decades and decades of work among self-proclaimed Christians. Our epochal cultural near-invisible sliding across the valley floor, that gigantic wall of turn is overwhelming the identities of even those who grew up ice finally plunged over the jagged precipice. It had been moving in church. The darkness is being thrown into contrast with the slowly, almost imperceptibly. But now that it has gone over the light in ways we could never have imagined one short decade cliff, it is pulling anything and anyone nearby over the cliff with it. ago. Now we observe that millions – no, tens of millions – Holy God, give us the mind of Christ so that we may remain proclaim they are followers of the Risen One, but their values faithful to You and Your ways! n and lives do not align with that confession. In 2021 the Family Research Council together with the Barna Agency conducted a Ed Rybarczyk, Ph.D., is both an ordained minister and a poll and found out that in America, only six percent of respon- retired History of Theology professor. He now produces dents embrace and practice a biblical worldview. Six percent! and hosts the Uncensored Unprofessor podcast Wow. That’s a shocker. I might have more generously guessed @uncensoredunprofessor.com. He can be reached at it would be 30% who follow the biblical worldview. uncensoredunprofessor@gmail.com.

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TOM Greco

A God-led military battle in a Storm

By Gaye Bunderson But while at West Point, GreIn the midst of fog and rain, co wasn’t thinking much about a difficult military mission was God; he’d abandoned the God scheduled. A helicopter assault of his younger years. “In my unit was to go deep behind second year at West Point, I ran enemy lines to secure critical away from God,” Greco said, positions, preventing the opadmitting he was the typical posing army from reinforcing youth seeking to explore a life its troops or retreating. The apart from family and the roumembers of the air assault unit tine of church attendance. would be isolated from their “I came to know Christ in allies and possibly put in the 1991, so I didn’t come back position of confronting the ento God until I was 40,” Greco emy from all directions. Makstated. ing the mission even harder Not coincidentally, that’s the was a previously unanticipated same year he was preparing flooded river and a subsequent to lead soldiers of the 101st sea of mud.

Airborne Division into a battle This was the daunting battle that would likely be the most facing young U.S. Army Lieudangerous they’d ever undertenant Colonel Tom Greco, a take.

West Point graduate and leader “I thought I was hot stuff. I of the men who were tasked was a lieutenant colonel and with accomplishing this formithe youngest battalion comdable mission during the U.S.mander in the Army, and I led Operation Desert Storm in thought, ‘We can do this!’ the early ‘90s. Iraq’s Saddam … But everything was going Hussein had plunged his army wrong,” Greco said. “I’d had into peaceful, sovereign Kuwait faith in myself. I’d thought I in an attempt to expand his could do it all and didn’t think I domain, and then-President needed God at all.”

Lt. Col. Tom Greco (1991 official U.S. Army photo) George H.W. Bush formed a But Greco was about to face a coalition of allies to send him sea change in outlook. packing.

It happened that one night while overseas with his troops, Greco previously thought of himself as a confident man, and preparing for the approaching violent engagement with the to be sure his list of accomplishments was impressive; but with enemy, he pulled out his Bible and read in the book of Joshua this mission, his self-confidence was shaken. He’d tackled so about the battle of Jericho. He learned that in that battle God many things alone with assurance and determination through- gave the Israelites a decisive victory over the Canaanites. All out his life. Now with the prospect of possibly losing up to 40% they had to do was be obedient to Him and God would defend of his unit – as he was warned by a higher ranking officer – he them. felt subdued.

In the middle of reading, Greco’s chest began to tighten.

“For 19 years in the military,” he said, “my mission was to Shortly after, he experienced a divine communication. “God prepare soldiers for war and bring everybody home.” said, ‘Why don’t you give Me this battle?’ God was getting But could he bring everybody home from this military hold of me,” Greco explained. “I thought I was leader of my operation deep into Iraq and directly in the face of the welllife and leader of my soldiers. After that, I just knew Jesus was armed, skillfully trained Iraqi army? the leader of my life and my unit, and the pain in my chest Thomas Greco was born in 1951 in Quantico, W.V., where abated.” his father served in the Marine Corps. The family eventually Rehearsals preceded the daring mission Greco and his moved to Pennsylvania and Greco graduated from high school soldiers would soon launch. “We practice so we can win; we in the state that’s home to the Liberty Bell. He qualified to atlearn to fight,” Greco said. “The practice and all the rehearstend both the United States Military Academy at West Point, als went well. The commanders went from idiots to geniuses. I N.Y., and the United States Naval Academy at Annapolis, Md. became more in tune with how God was in charge of my unit, He admits he gets seasick, so Annapolis was nixed; still, he had not me.” other reasons for choosing West Point other than being landHis unit got very good and reported back to him that “somebased. thing happened we can’t explain.”

“I liked the idea of being a soldier, of being an Army officer Greco, now 71, is fully able to diagram that actual battle and where you’re close to your soldiers in combat,” Greco said. recalls all the details that transpired during those handful of “Going to West Point prepared me to keep our nation free, hard days carrying out his assigned duty. Some of the many and I wanted to make a commitment to something bigger challenges the mission presented, taken from Greco’s own than myself – that’s the way God made me.” written testimony, included*:

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• “Our satellite and reconnaissance planes told us we would be flying between and behind elements of potentially two Iraqi divisions. There were 5,000-6,000 soldiers in each division.

These enemy troops were equipped with the latest Sovietmade equipment to include surface-to-air hand-held missiles.

The weather was cold and raining.”

• “Our UH-60 Blackhawk helicopters, loaded with 14 heavy-laden soldiers, would be flying 150 miles deep into Iraq, less than 15 feet off the ground, at 90-100 miles per hour and with pilots wearing night vision goggles.”

• “Our soldiers advanced to their assigned objectives. The flooding had been more extensive than our photos showed and we could not dig foxholes because of the high water table. We also did not want to build up our positions, thus telling the Iraqis, ‘Here we are.’ We conceded that to maintain our position, we would have to remain exposed, both to the elements and the enemy.”

In the same testimony, Greco details the comfort he took from believing God was guarding them: • “On Day 2 the weather had soured again, cloud cover and dense fog came in, and our soldiers were cold, wet, and scared.

Our USAF air cover and attack helicopter support were unable to support us. We were alone on the battlefield – “sitting ducks” – for the Iraqi artillery and tanks. We had no cover from artillery, no place to hide, no air support and no way, except by foot, to run or evacuate any wounded. But we had, in our heart, my heart, God’s promise that He was our leader.”

• “For the next two days we fought violent fights. The landscape around our positions was surreal. Burning vehicles littered the fields. Large craters from artillery were everywhere, and numerous Iraqi lay dead on the roads and fields around us. We waited for the Iraqi brigade to come, but it never did attack us. The initial report I received was that this Iraqi brigade just ‘disappeared from any radar.’ We later found out the Iraqi armor brigade that was advancing towards our positions was stalled by bad weather, sandstorms, and poor roads. This Iraqi brigade was decimated by another Army mechanized/ tank unit as the storm lifted in early morning of Day 3. The

two parallel storms on Day 1 and the storm on Days 2-3 often reminds me of the events and God’s provision during the exodus of the Israeli nation from Egypt. The ceasefire order came on Day 4. The coalition forces, more than 400 miles south of us, had defeated the Iraqi forces, liberated Kuwait, and the war was over in just four days.”

Greco said of the experience: “That changed my whole life, those four days.” He retired four years later. Instantly, his mission in life had changed. “After I came to know Christ, my mission was to share the Good News, through teaching, leading, and by example.”

Once out of the military, he explored options. He taught at West Point, teaching ethics and leadership. Later, he moved west with his wife Gail, who is from Idaho and has family here. While attending a church in Boise called New Heights Christian Fellowship, the pastor at that now-defunct church asked him to take on a pastorship. That was his first time pastoring a congregation.

As his life changed, so did his priorities; he’s now putting God and family first. Gail had been a soldier as well when the couple first met but retired from the military earlier than her spouse. “She was an incredible Army wife,” Greco said. “Gail lives by her faith. She would pray for me, take me to church.

She was planting seeds that sprouted and grew during Desert Storm.”

Everything he learned at West Point and while serving in the military has been useful and beneficial in his current calling. He is presently lead pastor at Ontario Community Church.

While he did not attend seminary, he teaches classes at seminaries and helps the students understand how to deal with difficult people; administration and running a meeting; and overseeing finances. He attributes his military training to his being effective in these categories and said, “Military skills are easily transferrable, including organization, structure, and leadership skills.”

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Tom Greco Continued from page 35

Currently, an important interest for Greco is work he is doing with YUGO, or Youth Unlimited Gospel Outreach, helping build houses for the poor in Mexico. Gail had been on the building mission twice without Tom, who owns the fact he was just dragging his feet.

“On the third trip, in 2007, Gail told me, ‘You’re going!’” He did and has now gone every year since and helped build 45-50 homes. He also ultimately became chairman of the mission, and when asked why he was initially reluctant to go, he admitted he was worried his carpentry skills wouldn’t pass muster. He claimed that, at the time, he could barely handle a hammer.

But he said God told him, “I don’t need your talents and gifts. I just need your heart.”

God has pretty much had Tom Greco’s whole heart for 31 years now.

Tom and Gail live in Star, Idaho, and the former army officer is training for a triathlon. He has also written a book titled, “Living in the Light.” Having served in the military for 24 years and having retired with the rank of colonel, he values his service and does not forget what and who he left behind, including all the soldiers he was able to bring safely back home. With God’s help. n *These are direct quotes, edited for brevity, and are a mere summary of the confrontation.

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Ex-cop works to revive peace officers group

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By Gaye Bunderson As head of the Treasure Valley Chapter of the Fellowship of Christian Peace Officers, Jim Winston is working to revive an organization that has been dormant in Idaho since 2017. He started to reactivate the FCPO chapter in 2019 but, like so many things, his plans were waylaid by the pandemic. Now his efforts have been recharged, and he’s giving the project everything he’s got.

“I think our mission is to support believers in the law enforcement profession and to encourage them, both with fellowship and discipleship,” Winston said. “The other prong is to witness to those who are not believers and show them the benefit of faith in Christ.”

So what challenges might he face, or has been facing?

“Some cops believe they can’t be a Christian in this profession because of the things they have done,” Winston said. “Others are watching to see if you practice what you preach.”

Another challenge is the temperament of many in law enforcement.

“They’re Type A people, and they don’t like to admit they need help. Control freaks can’t give their life to God,” Winston said, admitting he knows this from first-hand experience.

He acknowledged that he himself is still a Type A person, but it’s different now. He’s given up trying to control everything on his own and discovered, “It’s amazing what God can do through you when you give up control.”

His law enforcement experience and his devotion to God make him the perfect candidate to relaunch and lead the FCPO. Winston, now 61, was not born into a Christian family; his parents divorced when he was very young, and his mom raised him. They would occasionally go to church, but it was not a full-time commitment. Raised in Manteca, Calif., he went to a junior college post-high school and got a degree in forestry. At the time, there were no jobs in that field, so he went back to college and studied criminal justice. He then put himself through the police academy and got a job as a reserve officer for the Tracy, Calif., police force for almost two years. He became a full-time policeman in January of 1986 and worked in that position for 27 years before retiring in 2015.

During that time, he married and had two children. His wife of 37 years, Penny, grew up in church, but about 5-6 years into the couple’s marriage, Winston explained, they started “partying”; and while his wife went along with it initially, she eventually said to him, “I want to get back into church.”

His reaction was to say okay, he’d go, but only conditionally. If a sports game he wanted to watch was on TV or he wanted to take a ride on his motorbike on a Sunday, he wasn’t going to church that day and that had to be fine with her. She agreed, said she could live with that, and didn’t fight him. But when she’d go to church without him, people would ask, “Where’s Jim?”, and she’d say, “He’s not here, and we need to pray for him.”

When he did go to church, Winston said, he was seeing good men, godly men, some of whom belonged to Promise Keepers, an evangelical Christian organization for males; and he now realizes that God was showing him what a godly man was like.

At one point during his hit-and-miss church attendance, Winston realized that his wife and two kids were saved, in the Christian sense, and he hadn’t made that decision. In that regard, he felt he wasn’t a great example to them. His Type A personality fought with his inner willingness to take that step into salvation. He felt he’d lose his autonomy and his much vaunted sense of being in control if he surrendered to God. But he soon realized he couldn’t do it all, couldn’t fix everything, and couldn’t figure it all out. He also struggled with thinking he wasn’t worthy, until he came to understand, “God wants to fix us.” He thought he’d made himself a more presentable

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person by watching his language, among other things. “Then a lightbulb came on,” he said, “and I thought, ‘I’ve been going about this all wrong’.

I’m really supposed to be giving ALL of my life to God.” He too was now saved, redeemed through grace and faith, and destined for eternal life with his Savior. Winston stated that through his faith, he came to see that being in law enforcement was not just a job or a profession but a calling. And he lived out his calling on the Tracy police force for many years after that.

Now his calling has led him to revive the Idaho chapters of the Fellowship of Christian Peace Officers. He joined FCPO because, “I was looking for an avenue. I was looking for something post-retirement. I wanted to serve the Lord and serve law enforcement.”

His mother grew up in Nampa, and they’d visited family here over the years. So in 2016, he and his wife moved up to Payette following Winston’s retirement.

After settling into Idaho, he started doing research. He went to the FCPO website and saw there were three chapters in Idaho. However, after further research, he found all three chapters were now defunct. He contacted the national office of FCPO in Chattanooga, Tenn., and they encouraged him to reactivate an Idaho branch, which ultimately became the Treasure Valley Chapter – officially, Chapter 139.

He began by trying to find prayer groups that were law enforcementfocused, and he’d meet with them and talk with them about joining FCPO. He even found a law enforcement Christian group in Boise that had been meeting since 1972 to pray and hold a Bible study. It was not an FCPOaffiliated group but, Winston said, “Out of that, I got a few people to come on board.”

Winston and his wife attend the annual National Police Week in Washington, D.C., and set up a table there to pass out FCPO information. It was there that Winston met an officer in May of 2022 in D.C. at the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial. “He said because he has killed people as a police officer – and also as a soldier – he couldn’t be forgiven,” Winston explained. “He took the ‘thou shalt not kill’ literally, when it [has more to do with] ‘thou shalt not murder’.”

Winston conceded there are times in the course of a law officer’s job – and certainly a soldier’s – when they may be in a position to need to protect themselves or others, and it is unfortunate, but a weapon may have to be used in the interest of safety.

Regarding the man at the memorial, Winston said he “made an attempt” to talk to him and offered to pray with him – but sometimes, according to the FCPO leader, those offers are rejected: “Then we don’t pray WITH them, we pray FOR them.”

Asked how many LE officers are believers, he replied, “There’s more believers than you might think.” Winston met another law enforcement retiree, Jim Boetjer, and the pair have manned information booths at KTSY’s Parktacular events and at Greg Laurie’s Harvest Crusade held in Boise in 2022.

Winston and Boetjer, who leads a men’s ministry called Man in the Mirror, connected shortly after Boetjer moved to Idaho from northern California five years ago. “I began thinking about whether or not FCPO had a chapter here in the Boise area. I had previously been the chapter president in San Bernardino for many years while I was a policeman there.

I contacted the national headquarters for information, they put me in touch with Jim, and we began meeting and became friends.”

Winston and Boetjer, having similar backgrounds and beliefs, understand police officers’ lives out of their own shared experiences. Said Boetjer: “In light of the unique and enormous strain and stress from on-the-job experiences, it is imperative that effective ministry to the law enforcement community be offered. The problem lies in the fact that most people outside of law enforcement cannot completely identify with the life and experiences that they have. FCPO is comprised of fellow officers who know what cops in crisis struggle with. In addition, they offer biblical answers and connection with God, which is missing in secular counseling. FCPO also offers community and connection with brothers and sisters who are Christ followers. It is a chance to deepen their walk with Jesus through Bible studies and fellowship.”

FCPO would like to partner with a church looking for an outreach ministry. “Reach out to us, and we can meet,” Winston said. Contact him via email at jdwinston61@gmail.com or by phone at (209) 470-8692. Others interested in the group may look on its national website at www.fcpo.org, search out the local chapter, and reach out to Winston online.

Winston’s family has always respected what he does for a living. “My wife has been a law enforcement wife for 30 years, and that’s a hard job,” he said. Currently, both his wife and a son are probation officers in Payette County, and Winston serves as coordinator.

When asked about the rough talk cops are sometimes noted for, the FCPO leader who cleaned up his speech, stated: “Our language is one aspect that can be quickly addressed. I see many in law enforcement (and society in general) that are professed Christians, but it would be hard to realize that from their language. I have come to realize that one of the hardest things for me to hear someone say about me would be, ‘I didn’t know you were a Christian.’ That, to me, would be an indicator that I am not living my life in a way that reflects my relationship with Christ.” n

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