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Does “Get Active” mean “Get Dirty” in your home too? In April we spent a few magical days in Knysna, arriving after a particularly rainy spell. Fortunately the sun came out as we dropped off our bags, but the roads remained wet and muddy. There is something in the air in that part of the world that makes you want to spend all day outdoors, which we did. Early mornings saw us out for a run, with the children riding bikes ahead. As I lagged behind (being more of a jogger than a runner), I watched the children go from dirty to downright filthy at breakneck speed. The magnetic allure of a muddy puddle to a child is a mystery to me. With mud spraying up the back of their hoodies, they egged each other on, laughing hysterically as children do.

As their hilarity grew so mine diminished, imagining the pile of washing I was soon to be faced with. But the wonderful thing about running is that it gives you time to clear your head and hopefully find your happy place. Why is it so important that my children remain pristine? Does having dirty children reflect poorly on my parenting ability?

Turn on the TV and within minutes you’ll see a washing detergent advert claiming super stain-removing powers.

These companies spend a small fortune researching parents’ reactions to dirty children – one noting that 62% of parents admit they worry about being branded a “bad parent” if their child is seen wearing dirty clothes.

But getting dirty is good for children. Many studies show that bacteria in dirt helps activate feel-good chemicals in the brain. Perhaps that’s why my dad was always in the garden and my husband loves to mountain bike. Why should children be the only ones having fun in the mud?

Have a super, sunny September.

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8 pregnancy news – inducing labour Anél Lewis looks at accepted methods to help speed up the birthing process

features 11 how much exercise do children need? Samantha Page finds out and gives tips on getting youngsters active

14 hit refresh Lucille Kemp gets advice from experts on how to declutter and reorganise your home

16 green is the new black how

9 best for baby – potty time mastering the potty is all about timing, says Melanie Rosettenstein

10 dealing with difference – heart to heart Marc de Chazal speaks to a mom about her family’s brave, but difficult, journey since her son was diagnosed with congenital heart disease

schools can make a difference by teaching green habits and becoming eco-friendly. By Glynis Horning

18 falling for zambia Catherine Janse van Rensburg and her family explore a piece of African heaven

27 food to nourish & nurture in her new cookbook, Real Food, Healthy, Happy Children, dietician Kath Megaw introduces your family to delicious, low carb ideas

20 resource – heritage gems Tamlyn Vincent inspires you to explore some interesting places on Heritage Day with your family

21 a good read for the whole family 22 what’s on in september 26 finishing touch after being told off by her daughter for excessive cellphone use, Anél Lewis’ home is now gadget-free on weekends

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25 it’s party time

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party etiquette Thank you for an amazing and enjoyable magazine.

It’s always brimming with loads of interesting topics and beneficial information. I’d like to bring up an often touchy subject, which has been raised before, but herewith in slightly more detail: etiquette at children’s parties.

Having hosted children’s parties several times over the years, and being a guest to many, here are a few pointers I feel need to be emphasized: 1 At the outset, a parent need not feel pressured to invite the entire class unless they are happy to, and it’s within their means. Otherwise, the rule of thumb is usually the age of the child plus one (e.g. a five year old should have six friends invited).

2 If, however, a parent does invite the entire class, it usually entails the classmates only, and maybe one parent, depending on the age of the child. Unless it mentions the whole family is invited, it does not imply unreasonable sibling requests, nor uninvited family members and friends. The host decides who to invite – do not abuse the privilege.

3 In the case that a guest finds it necessary to bring along a classmate’s sibling, the polite thing to do is to first ask for the host’s consent. In circumstances where the host is paying per child, at an often costly venue, a host is reasonable in expecting that the invited parent may be required to bear any additional costs for siblings. Do not bring extras if you are not footing the bill, nor expect party packs for uninvited siblings.

4 It is polite to advise the host if a classmate cannot attend – it does not take much effort. This serves to remove any doubt in the host’s mind and assists planning.

5 It is a good idea, though not necessary, to ask the host for the birthday child’s likes/dislikes to enable easier gift shopping. A gift is naturally part of the excitement, no matter the value (even better if it’s handmade), but must naturally be within your budget. Some hosts may forego gifts to the child in favour of donations to charities. However, don’t be the parent who habitually turns up at a child’s party “forgetting to bring a gift”, yet enjoying the host’s generosity.

over to you thanks child mag I just want to thank you for the lovely article, “when you can’t breast-feed” (August 2015). I feel it helps moms to understand a little better what “normal” is when it comes to breast-feeding, and the links to helpful info were awesome.

Cecilia I would just like to thank everyone from Child mag for their contribution [to the Mandela Day soup kitchen].

It is greatly appreciated and the children had a great day. Our goal was to feed 1 000 children and with everyone helping we were able to feed just over 5 000 children.

Nicky Coleman

vaccination debate In response to the article “vaccinated or vulnerable” (August 2015): I have always insisted on vaccinating both my children. However, my youngest, five years old, has just recovered from a bout of German measles. What surprised me was that having been diagnosed, only after the rash appeared, I was told Follow us on twitter.com/ChildMag, facebook.com/childmag.co.za and pinterest.com/childmagazine

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6 The host caters according to their means. Some guests should consider other guests at the party when selfishly wiping out half the generously provided platters for themselves and uninvited family, before anyone else has had a chance to sample them. It is considered courteous to allow everyone a chance to enjoy goodies provided.

Parties are expensive and exhausting to plan, whichever way you do it. Consider the host parents’ efforts to make beautiful memories for their family and the fact that the birthday child would like to see children they know and are happy to play with.

It may become a sore point for some when extra party packs need to be made and additional catering provided, all at exorbitant and/or unnecessary cost to the host.

To those parents who understand the common sense of party etiquette, hats off to you – you are a delight to invite and we’ll see you again. And to those who don’t get it, or simply pretend not to, take heed: it may be the last party you are invited to for years to come.

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Let us know what’s on your mind. Send your letters or comments to marina@childmag.co.za or PO Box 12002, Mill Street, 8010.

that three days at home would do the trick and he could return to school. The first thing I did, after doing a bit of internet research, was to warn all parents of children with whom my son had been in contact prior to the rash appearing.

There have been reports of measles doing the rounds at schools again this year, and my son is the first one in his school to get it. I was amazed at some parents’ reaction; most were of the opinion “let the children get measles now rather than later”, however, several actually threatened to sue me if their children “caught it”. They claimed that I was irresponsible in not informing everyone prior to the rash appearing. The two weeks prior to the rash are the most contagious time, but how do you know that your child has picked up the virus?

My child did have a fairly mild form of it, even though he was covered from head to toe with the rash and his temperature was extremely high.

Please put together an article explaining the symptoms prior to the rash. Vaccinations do help to keep our children safe and I will never regret having done it for my children in the first

place. However, the MMR vaccine does not prevent German measles.

Roisin Losco Childmag asked Prof Diana Hardie to respond: “It is possible to be infected even after having the MMR vaccine. Clinical mumps and rubella (also known as German measles) are not uncommon in MMR-vaccinated children. The reason is that usually infants receive only one dose of MMR and so immunity is less durable. Also, as most children in South Africa do not get the MMR, mumps and rubella circulate freely and there is a good chance that vaccinated children could be exposed to infected playmates (where there is low herd immunity).

Ideally, children should receive at least two doses of MMR. My personal opinion is that the second MMR dose should be given at puberty to extend durability of immunity for mumps and rubella into adulthood.” subscribe to our newsletter and win Our wins have moved online. Please subscribe to our newsletter and enter our weekly competitions.

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take a bite Keeping teeth healthy takes more than regular brushing. TAMLYN VINCENT discovers which food is good for teeth, and which gets in the way of dental health.

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rushing twice a day is good.

Using mouthwash is even better.

But paying attention to what our children eat can also make a difference to their dental health. We all know overdoing sugar is bad, but some food can actually be beneficial for teeth.

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dental do-gooders Food that is good for dental health includes dairy, eggs, fresh fruit, nuts, and whole-wheat cereals and breads, says Julian Meyer, a Joburg-based dentist. Milk, cheese, other dairy products and nuts contain minerals that are important for oral health, particularly calcium and phosphate, notes Durban dentist Medina Badrodin.

She explains that tooth enamel is made of hydroxyapatite, which has calcium and phosphates as its main ingredients. These

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types of food, as well as eggs, also contain vitamin D, which aids calcium absorption.

Eating fresh fruit and vegetables requires a lot of chewing, says Badrodin, so the food brushes against teeth while making saliva, helping to clean teeth. Vegetables and fruit also contain vitamin C, which prevents gum disease.

Starchy food like bread, biscuits and pasta is comprised of simple carbohydrates, which break down into simple sugars. But they can also become soft and stick to teeth. Bacteria in the mouth feed on this, produce acid and cause decay, says Badrodin. So choosing whole-wheat starches is better for your teeth. Badrodin adds that the best way to decrease risk of cavities is to quit snacking on high-starch food during the day and choose healthier options instead.

tough on teeth Sugary food, sweets, concentrated fruit juice, carbonated soft drinks and fruit high in acid are not as good for teeth, says Meyer. But this doesn’t necessarily mean you should avoid eating acidic fruit. Alison Lang, a dietician in Joburg, encourages us to eat five fruit and vegetable portions a day.

Sipping juice from a bottle can compromise dental health, but eating the fruit is still encouraged as part of a balanced diet.

Children shouldn’t brush their teeth immediately after eating acidic or sugary food, says Badrodin, “as the combined action of brushing and acid can weaken enamel”. Rather drink water to neutralise the acid, or chew sugar-free gum that contains xylitol. This can help to dislodge food, while the saliva produced protects against the acid and the xylitol inhibits bacteria.

Eating sweets isn’t ever a good idea, but sweets such as toffees, sour sweets, nut brittles, hardboiled sweets and ice lollies should definitely be avoided. If your children are getting a sweet as a treat, choose ones that are less of a problem, says Meyer, like chocolates, marshmallows or liquorice.

routines to remember Dr Julian Meyer recommends regular tooth care: • Children should be brushing teeth twice a day, with a parent supervising and/or brushing for them as well.

• Children over six years old should floss two to three times a week. Parents should do this for them initially.

• A fluoride mouthwash can be used with children from six years old, about twice a week.

Dip the toothbrush into a glass with mouthwash and brush.

• Children should start visiting the dentist when they’re between four-and-a-half to five years old, followed by check-ups every six months.

September is National Oral Health Month, so download your teething and teeth eruption charts from childmag.co.za/downloads

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regnant for more than 41 weeks, the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton, apparently went swimming to jumpstart her labour. As royal watchers gathered waiting for the second baby to arrive, a heavily pregnant Kate was reportedly spotted heading for the pool with Prince George. Baby Charlotte was born naturally several days later. While there’s anecdotal evidence that a few laps in the pool may well bring on labour, Dr Candice Roberts, a Durban-based obstetrician and gynaecologist, says: “One can strive to do everything possible to go into labour, but it won’t work unless the body is ready.”

bring it on Labour can, however, be induced or artificially started by an obstetrician or midwife in hospital, and it is usually done when a pregnancy goes past the due date at about 41 weeks, says Roberts. It will also be considered if the amniotic fluid is low, the mother has medical disorders such as high blood pressure or diabetes, or if her waters break without the onset of labour. Roberts says logistical factors, such as the risk of a very speedy labour or the mother’s distance from a hospital, could occasionally influence the doctor’s decision to induce. “The aim of induction of labour is to bring on contractions and progressive dilation of the cervix or entrance of the womb. The ultimate aim is to have a normal vaginal delivery, with the birth of a healthy baby from an elated, healthy mother,” says Roberts.

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While pregnancy is a wonderful experience, most mothers would agree that by the end of the third trimester, they are more than ready to give birth.

ANÉL LEWIS finds out how to give nature a helping hand. medical help According to the South African Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, membrane sweeping can be done without hospital admission, and is regularly applied to prevent pregnancies going beyond full term. The midwife or doctor will place a finger just inside the cervix and make a sweeping motion to separate the baby’s membranes from the lower part of the uterus so that labour will start naturally. Hospital procedures include the administration of manufactured hormones to soften and open the cervix.

Roberts says the prostaglandin hormones can be inserted into the vagina as a gel, tablet or pessary. When the cervix

is dilated and “ripe”, the doctor will give the mother a drip with the oxytocin hormone to bring on uterine contractions.

Another option is to use a specially designed hook device to puncture a hole in the amniotic sac, forcing the waters to break so that labour starts.

Pretoria-based obstetrician and gynaecologist Dr Elizabeth de Gouveia says labour can also be induced mechanically by stretching the cervix “gently” with a balloon catheter or hygroscopic medium, which will swell when inserted. It can still take a few days for the mother to give birth even if labour is induced, says the Health Society of South Africa. If the procedure fails or the baby becomes distressed, the mother may have to have an emergency Caesarean section, says Roberts.

spontaneous labour Roberts says there’s little chance of “accidentally” starting labour. “If a woman is busy and neglecting her health and hydration, the body may signal this by developing cramps and multiple Braxton-hicks contractions,” she explains. She cautions against herbal remedies, often prescribed by traditional healers, and other substances.

“Studies have revealed these ‘herbal’ remedies contain medical prostaglandins, oxytocin and even battery acid on occasion, which can cause serious fatal complications in the unsuspecting pregnant woman.” De Gouveia agrees, and adds that there’s “some science” to the advice that sex could induce labour, as semen contains low doses of prostaglandins.

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recently entered the world of potty training and boy, was I unprepared.

Having successfully used the potty a few times, at 23 months my daughter was showing positive signs that she was ready to ditch her nappies. At 24 months her baby brother arrived and the potty training was postponed while I had my hands full with the newborn. Fast forward a few months and I felt ready to tackle this critical milestone again. But in that short time my cooperative little girl had jumped feet first into the terrible twos and all my attempts to encourage her to sit on the potty were met with an emphatic “no”.

She would either refuse to sit on the potty or sit on it for half an hour then do her business elsewhere. I tried everything but she only sensed my growing frustration and wielded her newfound power accordingly.

The only logical thing to do was to put those nappies back on.

After a week back in nappies she insisted on wearing panties again. Her school friends were potty training and since potty time is party time for toddlers, she wanted in on the action. Not wanting to discourage her, I dutifully helped her back into her panties and asked her to sit on the potty. Again, no! Out of despair I asked her teacher if she would put her on the potty once a day. She agreed and

Potty training can be a real struggle, writes MELANIE ROSETTENSTEIN, so it’s important to wait for the right signs before you begin. my frustration vanished when I saw the pride on her face when she successfully did the deed in the potty. We were finally making progress.

timing is everything According to Sister Jenni Johnson of Berea Baby Clinic, Durban, potty training is all about timing. Even though my gamble worked, she said my timing was premature.

She recommends delaying potty training four to six months after a sibling’s birth where there is a two-year age gap. “A little bit of bribery can be useful and in this case following through with the support of the teacher was a good thing,” she adds.

Kristy Greener, a Durban-based clinical psychologist, says that while my daughter was ready to be potty trained at 23 months, her brother’s birth caused her to regress. Greener says, “When a new sibling is born, it disrupts the family’s routine and they have to get used to sharing Mom and Dad with this new person. They need a lot of reassurance and encouragement.”

A child needs to be physically, cognitively and emotionally ready to use the potty. “The emotional readiness is often the last to come. A child needs to feel ready to let go of the familiarity and comfort of using nappies, and venture into new territory,” says L’Hoste.

In the case of resistant potty users, all three practitioners urge parents to wait until the child is ready and when they are, to make as little fuss as possible.

“Wait for the signs before you begin; if there are no signs try again at two years and four months,” says Johnson. “Don’t

worry if your child is not ready, it doesn’t matter if he or she has to stay in nappies until nearer the age of three.”

Greener says, “There’s no prize for the youngest potty-trained child. Waiting until the child is a little older can make it a much simpler process.”

My daughter still gets distracted and forgets to do her business in the potty, but every day is better than the last. If there is an accident we just clean it up and carry on. If she successfully uses the potty or toilet, she is rewarded with heaps of praise. I have also set aside lots of one-on-one time for us, which has helped significantly. It’s taken a couple of months, but I can confidently say we have put our potty woes behind us and she is now very proud of being a big girl who wears biggirl panties.

when your child is ready These are important signs and levels of ability that will indicate if your toddler is ready to potty train. By Gina Ford, Potty Training in One Week 1 He is over 18 months old.

2 His nappy is frequently dry when you get him from his lunchtime nap. A dry nappy a couple of hours since his last nappy change would also be an indication that he is getting some bladder control.

3 He is aware that he is doing a poo, i.e. going very quiet and showing signs of concentration, or points to his nappy and says poo or pee-pee when he has done one.

4 He can understand and follow simple instructions, i.e.

Don’t worry if your child is not ready, it doesn’t matter if he or she has to stay in nappies until nearer the age of three.

“go and fetch your red ball” or “put your toy in the box”.

5 He is eager to participate in taking off his own clothes, i.e. shoes, socks and shorts, and understands what pulling his shorts up and

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down mean. later reported that she had sat on the potty without a fuss. After a few days her teacher said she had successfully made a wee in the potty and soon she was coming home from school in panties. But she still wasn’t cooperating at home, so it was time to get creative. I filled a jar with sweets for rewards and bought her a well-illustrated pottytraining book. The bribery worked and magazine durban

Catherine L’Hoste, a clinical psychologist from Cape Town, echoes Kristy’s theory saying, “She is probably feeling insecure and is likely to be testing where the boundaries are and whether you still love her if she doesn’t do as you ask. It’s less about a power struggle and more about her checking out how the world works and where she fits in with a new baby around.”

6 He can point to the different parts of his body when you name them, for example, “where’s your belly button?” or “where’s your nose?”

7 He has the ability to sit still and occupy himself or concentrate for five to 10 minutes with a toy, book or watching a video.

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Daniel Kemp was born with a rare congenital heart defect. MARC DE CHAZAL spoke to his mother, Monique, about his brave struggle to survive against the odds.

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“His start to life was not easy,” admits Monique. “He had his first seven-hour open-heart surgery when he was just seven days old. Ten days later he had a plication of his diaphragm, which had shifted due to the heart surgery. Ten days later he had the Hirschsprung repaired. And then ten days after that, his first surgery was repeated to repair the collapsed aortic arch.”

Little Daniel stayed in hospital from birth to three-and-a-half months old, but he had only been home for three weeks when Monique had to rush him back to hospital. “He had blood in his stool and was also vomiting blood,” she explains. “I’ll never forget 13 January 2011 when doctors worked around the clock on Daniel, unsure what to do with his tiny little body that was bleeding profusely.

By 4:30am the doctors had essentially given up on him. They called me into the ICU to say goodbye to my son before he was operated on again to remove two duodenal ulcers.”

One can hardly begin to comprehend the helplessness a parent must face at such a time. Daniel survived these emergency surgeries, but he then began to starve. “His gut wouldn’t digest any of the regular baby formulas on the market,” says Monique.

Various health-care practitioners, including

a dietician, struggled for a whole month to find a suitable formula for Daniel, while his disease-ravaged body continued to waste away. A relieved Monique explains that they eventually discovered something his body would digest. Daniel was now seven months old.

chest infections and flu and cold viruses.

He uses an asthma pump during the winter months as a precautionary measure,” points out Monique.

Daniel’s siblings, Ethan and Mia, were aged three and two respectively at the time Daniel was born. “They were too young to

Unfortunately, there is no cure for CHD, although it can be repaired so that children go on to live a relatively full life.

“He spent many hours undergoing neurological physiotherapy, speech therapy and cardiac appointments to bring him to a full recovery. All of this took two years of his life to achieve,” says Monique.

Unfortunately, there is no cure for CHD, although it can be repaired so that children go on to live a relatively full life. Daniel is now four years old and living a normal life, besides the six- to 12-month checkups with a cardiologist to ensure that his condition is still under control.

“Daniel doesn’t really have daily challenges with his CHD. He is not on any medication for his heart, but his weak immune system does make him prone to

have a full understanding of what we were dealing with,” says Monique. “But we were always honest with them about Daniel and showed them photos of when he came out of surgery covered in pipes and machines. Today it seems as if they were never separated for such a long period.

They have a very close bond with Daniel and always look out for him. They have an amazing relationship.”

Monique established a support group called Heart of Hope in 2012 to connect other families dealing with CHD. Her lonely, difficult journey has given parents facing similar ordeals one of the most vital things to cling to – hope.

what is CHD?

signs and symptoms affiliated with CHD

Babies born with congenital heart defects (CHDs) have abnormally structured hearts. These abnormalities can range from large vessels, incomplete and/ or missing parts of the heart, missing chambers, narrow or leaky valves and narrow vessels. Heart defects affect the normal function of the heart and these can vary from being relatively small problems to severe malformations that are life-threatening. Babies born with CHD require special medical care immediately after birth. The treatment of congenital heart defects depends on the type and severity of the defect. Some are corrected or treated with a catheter procedure or surgery.

The cause of a CHD is unknown. There are approximately 35 defects that may be found in babies. Some of them are patent ductus arteriosus (PDA), atrial septal defect (ASD) and ventricular septal defect (VSD).

The diagnosis and treatment of CHDs can improve the chances of a healthy and productive life well into adulthood.

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The appearance of a CHD baby is a pale, blue or dusky colour.

Check if the heart rate is too high or too low. The normal heart rate for a baby is 100 to 160 bpm.

Low energy; very sleepy especially when feeding.

Breathing too fast or slow. A normal breathing rate is 40–60 breaths per minute.

Check the temperature of the baby – cold to touch, especially the hands and feet.

Heart of Hope CHD support group 073 279 6439 monique.kemp@westerncape.gov.za

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aniel is a smiling, active four year old with two older siblings and doting parents. It’s hard to believe that this happy little guy endured so much in the first two years of his life. By the time he was five months old, he had undergone five major open-heart surgeries and two minor surgeries. His mom, Monique Kemp, was expecting her third child when she went for a routine check-up at 22 weeks. The scan revealed that her baby had a rare congenital heart defect (CHD). Her unborn baby was also tested for Di-George Syndrome, which leaves a child with no immune system and very little chance of survival after birth. Monique had the option to terminate her pregnancy at this stage, but she refused to consider abortion, no matter the outcome. The test was negative and she carried her child to full term.

According to the Paediatric Cardiac Society of South Africa, CHDs are the most common birth defects, affecting about 1:100 children. They are usually referred to as a “hole in the heart” and there are around 35 types of CHDs found in babies.

Daniel was born with a particularly rare type known as interrupted aortic arch, as well as Hirschsprung disease, which is a blockage of the large intestine due to poor muscle movement in the bowel. It’s also a congenital condition.

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o much of our life today is lived in the virtual space. When we were children, our playground was the backyard; we climbed trees, scaled the jungle gym and hung upside down from rickety branches, without our parents’ supervision. Children were free to explore their surroundings and they made friends and memories without giving a thought to the complex social and physical choices they were making just by opting to go outside.

Today, many children play in a virtual space.

They drag and drop, skip and build, slide and flip and laugh and learn, without venturing outdoors, which explains why a recent study revealed that

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children play outdoors half as much as their parents did when they were young, and are more inclined to stay indoors and watch television, play computer games, and in some cases, even do their homework, than go outside.

It’s also important to note that whereas children 30 years ago used to walk or cycle to school, nowadays, buses, taxis and parents driving children to school have become the norm, thus preventing them from getting exercise on a daily basis.

Professor Vicki Lambert of the MRC/UCT Research Unit for Exercise Science and Sports Medicine says, “We need to reclaim our neighbourhoods. It seems the days of cricket in

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It seems the days of cricket in the streets and riding bikes are gone; we need to bring those activities back. the streets and riding bikes are gone; we need to bring those activities back.”

couch potatoes The consequences of a more sedentary lifestyle profoundly impact the health and wellbeing of our nation’s children.

According to the 2014 Discovery Healthy Active Kids Report Card, there are concerning trends for inactivity and obesity, which have led to the shocking prediction that children born from 2000 onwards might, for the first time in many generations, have a shorter life expectancy than their parents. Furthermore, despite national guidelines that children get a total of at least 60 minutes of moderate to heavy exercise per day, research suggests that fewer than half do, and teenagers are even worse.

In South Africa, as many as 20% of pupils are overweight, with more than twice the number of girls affected than boys, and the Department of Health also found that 38% aren’t getting enough exercise.

Physical activity is vital, not just because a lack thereof can be directly or indirectly linked to many serious medical conditions, but also because physical activity balances the amount of energy we take in from food with what our body uses. It also has a positive biological effect on complex metabolic processes, such as normal physical and chemical changes, the healthy

functioning of the circulatory system and on mental health.

“The importance of sport in the lives of our youth has never been greater.

The increasing popularity of television, computer, video games and cellular technology contributes to children’s inactive lifestyles,” says Patrick Lees, headmaster of St John’s Preparatory School in Gauteng.

“Similarly, participation in physical activity can assist in the social development of young people by providing opportunities for self-expression, building self-confidence, social interaction and integration.”

But our children are also busier than they have ever been and free play is often relegated to weekends or holidays, if at all.

“All the school work means that my son misses out on playing and interacting with his friends during the week. He just cannot afford to waste time, otherwise he’ll lag behind,” says Masanda Peter, mom to a Grade 2 boy.

striking a balance “Sport and cultural activities contribute to the development of many characteristics that are fundamental to a child’s growth into adulthood,” says Melvin Beckmann, principal of Bay Primary School in Fish Hoek, in a Parent 24 article. But many parents are asking: just how much is too much and how do you draw the balance between not enough and excessive?

cultivating a culture of exercise The whole family needs to commit to a healthy lifestyle. So what can parents and children do to keep moving? Here are some tips.

1. eat, play, love Eating healthy food is only one step to health and wellbeing.

In younger children, unstructured play is very important. “Build a clubhouse or tree house, go for a discovery walk, dig holes at the beach, take the dog to the park or kick a ball around,” says Andrew May. 2. keep the menu varied Children are easily bored, so parents have to be creative about exercise and physical activity. “Vary the menu to prevent boredom and to stimulate physical and intellectual skills,” says Dr Deepak Patel, paediatrician and author of Child and Family Health, “and include activities that promote gross motor (climbing, jumping or running), fine motor (drawing or building blocks), cognitive (jigsaws) and, when possible, creative skills.”

3. lead by example While sitting on the sidelines shows support, parents need to take the lead in the family’s physical activities. “My family is very conscious about making the correct health choices when it comes to food and exercise, and I’m proud of the effect my personal choices have made on my nine-yearold daughter,” says Michelle Merryweather.

4. make it an event There are many races, cycle tours and walkathons held every year for various causes. Enter as a family and, for the next few months, train together. You’re not only engaging in an exercise that is healthy and promotes bonding with your children, you’re also developing a social conscience in them. “Riding the Junior Argus for charity, my children harness their friends, work hard and raise substantial amounts of money, coming home exhausted and empowered,” says Rahla Xenopoulos, mom to triplets, who ride in the cycle race every year.

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age-appropriate exercise 2–6 years old Unstructured play with an emphasis on fun.

Activities: Running, swimming, tumbling, throwing and catching.

6–9 years old Continue to promote free play with an emphasis on basic skills development.

Activities: A range of organised sport (soccer, tennis, swimming) and start emphasising active living by taking the stairs, walking (particularly if you have a dog) and cycling.

10–12 years old While participation and enjoyment is still encouraged, more formal competitive sports can be introduced.

Activities: Strength training should be supervised due to the risk of injury, but more complex sports can be introduced (climbing, surfing and team sports).

Adolescents Physical activity usually drops dramatically in this age group, so parents should identify sports that are fun and include friends. This age group also enjoys noncompetitive sports, such as dancing, rollerblading and skateboarding.

The World Health Organisation (WHO) and the National Association for Sport and Physical Education (NASPE) recommend school-aged youth should accumulate at least 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous intensity of physical activity every day.

Additionally, The Centers for Disease Control and the American Academy of Pediatrics advise that teenagers do at least 20 minutes of high-intensity activity three days a week, and 30 minutes of moderate activity preferably every day of the week.

Parents can create opportunities for physical activity, not just by limiting time spent watching television or playing indoors, but also by being supportive of their children’s active pursuits and by setting a good example. A 2010 study in the International Journal of Pediatrics examined parents’ influence on the physical activity of young children. A total of 102 preschoolaged children’s family socio-demographics and physical activity habits were analysed, and the results showed that children who received greater parental support and

Children of active fathers are three-anda-half times more likely to be active than children of inactive fathers.

When asked how to encourage children to cultivate activity early on, Beckmann is hugely supportive of exposing primary school children to all sporting codes so that they can learn to develop skills and discover if they have a natural flair for a particular sport. “The emphasis during these formative years should always be on enjoyment,” he stresses.

“Exercise is essential, especially with today’s busy lifestyle, and I can see the benefits in children who participate in regular, structured forms of exercise,” says Michelle Merryweather, who runs a children’s health and fitness programme in Cape Town. “Their bodies have become stronger, they have higher levels of self-confidence and self-esteem and with the increased energy levels and enhanced brain metabolism they are able to concentrate and accomplish so much more.” magazine durban

encouragement for activity were significantly more likely to engage in one hour or more of daily movement. A related study, Influence of Parents’ Physical Activity Levels on Activity Levels of Young Children, found that children of active fathers are three-anda-half times more likely to be active than children of inactive fathers, according to parent and coach Andrew May. We don’t need research to support these findings. Many parents can remember playing swing ball or tossing a Frisbee with Mom and Dad, or being coached by them for a more formal sporting code. “It is our responsibility as parents to make sure the next generation is health-savvy and exercising shouldn’t be a chore but rather seen as a facilitator to a future of excellent health,” comments Merryweather. Perhaps one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is a positive attitude towards being healthy, which begins with being active.

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your home

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get your child involved

refresh The expert organisers swoop in to rejuvenate your home one room at a time. By LUCILLE KEMP

Problem area There is too much on display, such as toys, magazines and ornaments.

Expert solution • Baskets are a useful storage solution for these, as well as newspapers or firewood; whether they stand alone, slide under a couch, or fit into a shelving unit or bookcase.

• Multi-purpose furniture is a great space saver. Think ottoman for linen or books, a shelving unit or chest of drawers as a TV display unit, a bookshelf or dresser unit for ornament displays.

Nikki Mercer, thetaskteam.co.za

your kitchen Problem area Kitchens lack flow and work efficiency when they haven’t been zoned.

A vast number of appliances end up on work surfaces instead of being stored, making the kitchen look cluttered.

Being the point of entry/exit for most houses, the kitchen becomes a dumping zone for mail, schoolwork and bags.

Expert solution 1. Organise your space • Zone your kitchen by designating a preparation, storage, cleaning and cooking area.

• Edit the surfaces and cupboards, working from the top down.

• Only keep appliances on the countertops that you use constantly.

• Store glasses of the same height in rows, making it easier to reach what you want.

• The surface area next to the oven and stove-top should be where pots and pans, cooking utensils, herbs, spices and oven gloves are kept.

• Label containers for foods that look the same, such as your white ingredients.

• Keep condiments, lunchboxes, flasks and juice bottles together for lunchbox prep.

2. Optimise storage space • Place hooks under shelves to hang mugs or cups. Use metal grids with “S” hooks or install magnetic strips near the cooking area to hang utensils and knives.

• Fit a shelf basket underneath a shelf for extra storage.

• Mount wrap organisers and spice racks to the inside of doors between shelves.

• Use a tin dispenser in your pantry to easily stack and access your tins.

• Keep lids separate from your pots and containers for easy stacking.

• Place a cleaning caddy under your sink containing all your cleaning liquids; this makes them easy to grab in one go.

3. Reduce clutter • Erect a notice board or paint the back of a door with magnetic paint for calendars, art work and school notices.

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• Install pigeon holes, close to the entry point, to store school bags, lunchboxes, handbags and post.

• Keep one drawer or a container for art and craft materials to keep your little ones entertained while you cook.

• If you have two utensils that serve the same purpose, keep the newer one.

• Place a small tray or decorative box on your counter for keys and cellphones.

Heidi Meyer, cloud9organised.co.za

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your dining room

nearest recycler – mywaste.co.za

Problem area The dining room is the one room that gets used for things other than eating, as many families these days opt to eat in front of the TV or in the kitchen.

Expert solution • Table cloths, placemats, crockery and cutlery should be kept together in one section of the sideboard leaving the other space free for non-dining equipment, such as homework materials.

• Keep a caddy for your hobby equipment. You can then whip it out of sight when you have guests around.

Jennifer Thomas, jenerallyorganised.co.za

Umcebo Design – empty 2L ice-cream containers,

for socks and underwear, and make sure they can reach shelves. Have hooks on the wall or behind the door at an accessible height for bags, jackets and hats. Keep storage containers that are easy for your child to open, close, take out and put away.

Judith Penny, allsortednow.co.za

your bedroom

your bathroom

Problem area The space becomes a catchall for everything from paperwork and electronics to ironing. Clothes gather on the floor or on a chair and the dressing table and bedside tables become cluttered with odds and ends.

Expert solution • Only have items that belong in a master bedroom, such as basic furniture, a comfy chair, and accessories such as wall pictures, a mirror and hooks behind doors for dressing gowns.

• Have pretty containers on your dressing table to hold jewellery, makeup and odd items like pens.

• Keep only what you use on a regular basis on your bedside table, such as your current book, a lamp and hand cream.

• Remove electronics and relocate to your study along with paperwork.

• Remove chairs if used as a dumping area.

• Ensure your wardrobe is not so cluttered that you can’t get any more clothing in it.

Judith Penny, allsortednow.co.za

Problem area It’s easy to throw grooming products, makeup and medication into bathroom drawers and cupboards.

Expert solution • Dispose of any expired or unused items, and bulky packaging. Only leave daily essentials on the counter top.

• Plastic boxes and trays that fit into drawers act as compartments making it easy to keep your fragrances, makeup and medication together and accessible. Place your hair gels, sprays, brushes and dryers into one holder so that when you do your hair, the whole tub can be neatly taken out and put away in one movement.

• If drawer space is at a premium, limit the space to only items you use every day or a few times a week.

Carla Lewin, errandgirl.co.za

your child’s bedroom Problem area Toys everywhere, and clothes and school stuff on the floor.

Expert solution • Sort like with like and label containers to make it easy to return to its home. Regularly go through toys with your child and remove anything broken or no longer played with.

• Solutions should fit the age of the child – place clothes at a height that your child can get to. Have containers

old CDs, wire, wirework tools and costume jewellery for artwork. Glenwood – umcebodesign.co.za

your laundry room Problem area This area is often small, so use of space is a top priority.

Expert solution • Place a rod across a doorway or in a corner so you can immediately hang up damp cotton shirts and other moist garments.

• Put kits for minor sewing repairs, stain removal, shoe care and clothing storage within easy reach.

• Have a little bowl around for loose change, popped buttons and other pocket paraphernalia.

• Choose a laundry hamper with compartments to help sort your whites, brights, darks and dry cleaning, and set up a special container to keep your delicates separate and wash them in a fine-washables bag.

Carla Lewin, errandgirl.co.za magazine durban

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your lounge

Judith Penny has some suggestions: • They must put one toy away before bringing out another.

• At a set time each day your child is to clear their toys, clothes and schoolwork.

• They should unpack their own lunchbox and school bag.

• Create a star chart for picking up and putting away.

• Before your child’s birthday, get them to sort through their toys and toss/recycle anything broken or incomplete as well as donate toys they no longer play with.

• Keep a box for items that are not put away and at the end of the month allow them to “buy back” items by doing chores.

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education

green is the new

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With climate change threatening our children’s future, ensuring that schools are eco-friendly and teaching green habits has never been more important. By GLYNIS HORNING

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an eco-committee of learners, teachers, parents and community members, who do an audit to determine their strengths and challenges in terms of waste, water, energy use, biodiversity and health. Then they use their findings as a basis for the development of an eco-code and vision, and tackle their challenges through sustainable action projects and curriculum-based lessons.

These are documented and submitted for our annual eco-awards.”

One of her prime examples is The Birches Pre-Primary in Pinetown, Durban, “an incredible eco-school that is selfsustainable”. Principal Scilla Edmonds, a life-long environmentalist, began greening initiatives 23 years ago, and today the school has a community recycling station for glass, paper and cans, with a roof that harvests rainwater running into a “fruit forest” – fig, pawpaw, plum and peach trees grown permaculture-style, with gooseberries and companion plants below. “Tea” from two worm farms and manure from seven chickens compost a thriving vegetable garden, watered from rainwater tanks that also link to washbasins and flush toilets.

“Recycling has become a way of life, helping the planet and educating the children,” Scilla says. As a stateaided school with limited funds, The Birches also saves costs by using old calendars, cardboard and paper already

PHOTOGRAPHS: SCILLA EDMONDS

he world we are leaving our children is at risk. Last year a UN Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change report found climate change was already affecting ecosystems, which sustain life. “This report tells us we have two clear choices: cut emissions now and invest in adaptation and have a world that has challenging and just barely manageable risks. Or do nothing, and face a world of devastating and unmanageable risks and impacts,” says Samantha Smith, leader of the World Wide Fund for Nature Global Climate and Energy Initiative.

Our best hope for our children is to raise them with eco-awareness, and a number of NGOs are pointing the way by running school programmes on green issues and helping to create inspirational pilot schools.

The Wildlife and Environment Society of South Africa (WESSA) launched its EcoSchools programme 12 years ago and has reached over 1 200 schools, exposing around 500 000 children to environmental learning. “We give guidance and support to schools to help them implement community, health and environmental projects and curriculum-based environmental learning,” says Charissa Jaganath, its project manager for coastal KwaZulu-Natal. “Any school can apply. They follow a seven-step framework, which guides them towards better environmental management. They form

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printed on one side, for drawing and painting. Proceeds from recycled cans and computer cartridges pay for library books and for greening the grounds, as do sales of eggs. “Our chickens are precious pets, but also help in so many ways – nesting hay is used as mulch and their eggshells are used to keep snails off our veggies, which the children sell in a sustainability business, learning practical mathematics, literacy and life skills.”

Such efforts have won the school a host of ecological and entrepreneurship awards, including a coveted Eco-Logic Youth Award in 2013.

creative, resourceful individuals who will make a difference in our world.”

But currently the highest honour for eco-friendly education belongs to Vele Secondary School in Limpopo, which this year was named the second greenest school on earth in the global Best of Green Schools list. “It’s an extraordinary achievement for what was a dilapidated rural school with lessons given under trees,” says Claire Brown of the Creating Schools Trust – a group of South African professionals in education, design, community development and environmental issues that was set up to create model

Our goal is ultimately to go off the Eskom grid and have a carbon-neutral footprint.

Another eco-venture, the SA Green Schools Initiative (SAGSI), was launched that year by the energy forum of the BorderKei Chamber of Business, and its pilot project is Merrifield Preparatory School and College near East London. An independent school catering from Grade 00 to Grade 12, it had already developed awareness around greening issues and recycling, and received international status as part of the WESSA Eco-Schools programme. With SAGSI, however, emphasis is on reducing its carbon footprint through renewable energy technologies, and Merrifield has introduced energy-saving lighting and a demonstration area for teaching other schools and the community, with a solar geyser, solar panels and batteries from First National Battery. A wind turbine project is also in the pipeline.

“Our goal is ultimately to go off the Eskom grid and have a carbon neutral footprint,” says the school’s executive head, Dr Guy Hartley. “We want to change students’ thinking about what can be achieved in the face of adversity, high costs and depletion of the earth’s resources. Our aim is to encourage the emergence of

schools that can in time be rolled out countrywide.

Today at Vele, solar panels help power 80 computers, rainwater is harvested, grey water recycled, and toilets have been designed to work without water. Through careful positioning, classrooms are naturally lit and ventilated to keep cool in scorching Limpopo summers and warm in freezing winters.

Indigenous roof gardens help insulation, and intensive food gardens and medicinal herbal ones have improved nutrition for both pupils and the surrounding community.

“The children have been involved in every step of the pre-occupancy design process and post-occupancy support,” says Claire. “They’ve had their horizons stretched beyond imagination, and it’s great to see the number of homes in the surrounding deep rural villages that now implement permaculture gardening principles, as well as those that now harvest water.

“The children love being here, and their school attendance and results have improved. It’s win-win for them and the planet. And hopefully an example other schools can take from.”

go green School supplies – Check if children really need every item on the back-to-school list; recycle half-used notebooks and usable pencils and pens, opt for refills, and avoid buying items with excessive packaging.

Clothing – Use or set up a second-hand uniform shop at school.

Transport – Carpool, or encourage your children to bike or walk in groups, or go with them for your daily fitness routine.

Lunches – Send wholesome sandwiches using fresh local produce in reusable lunchboxes, rather than support a tuck shop with fast food and disposable packaging.

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getaway

falling for zambia i

Venturing into the spectacular interior of Africa

n 1957 my grandmother left England by boat to teach in Zambia. During the trip, she met my South African grandfather and he proposed before the two-week voyage to Cape Town was over. She said no.

Undeterred, he followed her to Zambia and continued to court her until she eventually relented and they were married. With this story in my head, I was particularly excited to be visiting Zambia for the first time on a family holiday with my husband, two children (Arden, 3, and Nina, 8 months) and my in-laws.

We spent a few days exploring Lusaka and then chartered a small plane for the 25-minute flight to the Royal Zambezi Lodge – a luxury camp on the banks of the mighty Zambezi River and at the edge of the Lower Zambezi National Park. I had never been in such a tiny plane before and the experience was both nerve-wracking and thrilling. I sat clutching my daughter, feeling guilty about how much baggage I had packed and praying that it would not bring the plane down. I had packed everything, from winter jackets to swimming costumes, and even felt compelled to pack my electric food blender… more about that later. The view from the tiny plane was incredible – bush, valleys and mountains teaming with wild animals.

We could see herds of elephant, zebra and buck running below us, and finally the glittering Zambezi River, snaking its way through the landscape.

bush tales

I stupidly decided to wean Arden off his dummy a week before our trip. We had made great progress, but I took the dummy along in my overfull bag, just in case. Well, of course he needed it. Who wouldn’t, with lions outside their tent? Arden was hugely relieved to have his dummy back and it helped considerably in getting him to sleep in a new place.

The lodge provides a personal guard for each tent – someone brave, with a strong flashlight, who escorts you from the main lodge to your tent at night. My husband and I felt this was a little over the top and opted to walk to our tent in the dark, unassisted. One evening we were making this little trip, deep in conversation, when suddenly my husband pulled me back in panic. Three metres in front of us was a hippo standing on the path, munching grass. Far from their depiction in most children’s storybooks, hippos are huge, they have enormous teeth and can be dangerous – especially if you walk straight into them. We didn’t walk alone again!

Another incredible part of the service was our own childminding tent guard. One of the staff would stand outside our tent, once we had settled the children for the night, and call us if they cried. So we could enjoy supper in style, knowing they were okay. Evenings at the lodge were very special. We would sit around a fire on the deck

teeming with wildlife was a memorable adventure for

We landed on a tiny airstrip in the middle of the bush and were met by two friendly guides in their game viewing truck, who took us to the lodge via a pride of lions in the area. What a start to the holiday.

Royal Zambezi is made up of a central lodge, where meals are taken, and 15 separate private luxury tents along the river. “Tent” seems like the wrong word to use considering we had a lounge area, king-size bed, bathroom, outdoor shower and mini swimming pool overlooking the river bank. At night it was difficult to get to sleep at first because of all the animal noises right outside our tent. I would lie awake trying to identify the different animals and figure out how far away they were from me and my sleeping family – lions, hippo, hyena, frogs and crickets all going about their nightly business.

We had to sign indemnity forms when we arrived at the lodge, which was slightly disconcerting, but with the promise of high adventure, we all obliged. Lying awake listening to the wildlife around us, I had a deep sense of awe and realisation that we were in the middle of their territory, not the other way round.

View over the river from the Royal Zambezi Lodge

The Janse van Rensburg family Tiger fishing on the mighty Zambezi

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A small plane took the family to their destination on the Zambezi River

From their luxury tent, the family could clearly hear the sound of hippos, lion and other game at night.

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PHOTOGRAPHS: CATHERINE JANSE VAN RENSBURG / SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

CATHERINE JANSE VAN RENSBURG and her young family.

When you hear commotion from monkeys, somewhere bush drama is unfolding

overlooking the river, enjoying drinks and supper. There is such energy in the air at the end of an African day in the bush as birds sing their final song and the animals get ready for the night.

One morning while we were having breakfast a huge elephant wandered out of the bush and ate her breakfast from the trees right next to us. Another time I was in the swimming pool when a herd of elephant emerged from the bush and approached the pool, at which point I fled for cover (and my camera), and then watched them in wonder casually saunter past.

We also had a go at Tiger fishing. After a long hard battle, my fish landed thrashing in the boat, teeth gnashing. My cautious three year old found the whole experience a little scary – the speed of the boat, hippo eyeballing us from the water, and then of course fish with sharp teeth landing in the boat. Some children would love this type of thing; it really depends on your child. The next time we went out fishing, we left the children with their grandmother at the swimming pool.

hunts, raids and blenders The game drives were spectacular and the children really enjoyed them. We made books beforehand by cutting pictures of the animals they might see out of magazines.

It was a great way to prepare them, teach them about animals and build anticipation for the trip. And they enjoyed ticking off the ones they saw.

Three-year-old Arden – the Tiger fisherman

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The view from the Royal Zambezi deck over the river

On one game drive we stopped at a beautiful spot for sundowners near the river. Suddenly there was much commotion from the monkeys in the trees nearby, alerting us that some drama was unfolding. We piled into the vehicle and within 200 metres of our scenic spot, came across a lioness tucking into a freshly killed kudu. It was scary to realise how close we had been to the hunt and incredible to witness such a scene. With the kudu still twitching and the lioness protectively surveying her surrounds, Nina decided she was tired and started screaming inconsolably. This evoked a grunt from the lioness. The magic was broken and sensing possible danger we reluctantly tore ourselves away from the site and headed back to camp. With her crying all the way, we were like a siren charging through the bush; any animals within kilometres of us were likely scared off. Every parent understands such moments…

One afternoon we came back from an incredible game drive to find that our tent had been raided by a troop of baboons. We had not closed the anti-baboon bolt on the door and they had seized the opportunity.

Our tent was completely trashed – broken glass, clothes all over the floor and every jar of carefully packed baby food had been opened and eaten. Worst of all, the entire holiday’s supply of baby formula was tipped out and the tin was lying empty on the grass halfway between our tent and the river. There was no supply plane arriving

Mom and eightmonth-old Nina

Catherine and the elephants

any time soon and parenting books say that you should only give a baby cow’s milk after the age of one. I was left with no choice. Nina, who was still very dependent on bottles of milk, had to drink cow’s milk. Thankfully, she had no adverse reaction. With no baby food left, my electric blender became an important travel item. The kitchen graciously took the blender and followed my instructions to make a bowl of baby food every meal.

What incredible service and a happy ending to a rather unfortunate event.

We left Royal Zambezi with heavy hearts. It had been one of the most magical weeks of my life.

We had experienced so many incredible things, had so many adventures and grown closer as a family.

The little plane, which took us back to Lusaka, was rather delayed and we ended up arriving at the airport 20 minutes before our flight to Windhoek. We were naturally stressed about missing our flight. Can you imagine arriving 20 minutes before an international flight anywhere else in the world? The woman checking us in at Lusaka could see we were worried and with a big smile told us to relax, that everything was going to be okay. It was one of those “this could only happen in Africa” moments and my appreciation of the Zambia that my grandmother came to, and the Africa that I am now part of, deepened. I’m so grateful to be from this beautiful continent and to be able to share it with my children.

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resource

heritage gems As 24 September is Heritage Day, TAMLYN VINCENT has chosen four distinct and educational ways to celebrate.

ohlange institute

palmiet nature reserve

The Ohlange Institute is perhaps best known historically as the place where Nelson Mandela cast his vote in the first democratic elections in South Africa. This site is also where Mandela stood in front of the monument to John L Dube, the first president of the ANC, and declared that South Africa was now free. John Dube founded the Ohlange Institute, or the Ohlange Native Industrial Institute as it was known then, as a place where black students could receive academic and industry training. There are several points of interest at the Ohlange site. You can visit the John L Dube house, the interpretation centre and tour the school, one of the oldest in Durban. A WowZulu Marketplace has opened at this venue. The marketplace is funky and vibrant, and you can shop, hear great stories, enjoy a coffee and even book a picnic basket for your adventures around the valley. There are several guided walks through nearby neighbourhoods or along the Inanda Dam. There is the opportunity to canoe on the dam or mountain bike around it, you can hike down Mzinyathi Falls, visit Rastafarian caves where a community has created a sacred space, or step into a Shembe community and experience a way of life foreign to most. Activities can be booked through the WowZulu Marketplace.

This nature reserve not only offers insight into Durban’s natural heritage, but also gives us some idea of the history of the area. A Stone Age tool that was found on the reserve dates back over 40 000 years, and excavations have revealed Iron Age artefacts that date back to between 1 700 and 800 years. More recently, the Palmiet Valley was home to German settlers, who settled there in 1848. The natural heritage includes a variety of plants, birds and small animals. For any family that likes walking and exploring, Palmiet Nature Reserve has 15 kilometres of trails. At the entrance, there is a large map of the reserve, so walkers can decide which paths they would like to take. As the Palmiet River has cut down and through the ancient sandstone, there are wonderful interlocking spurs with cliff faces that are both fascinating and beautiful, and many of them have dassies living in the cracks. There is a picnic site next to the river and opposite one of these cliffs. This picturesque setting is very popular, so booking is essential. There is a small fee that can be paid to the game guard.

Interesting fact Jan Hofmeyr Road, which runs through Westville, follows the old ox-wagon route from Durban.

Location The entrance is at the end of Old New Germany Rd, off Jan Hofmeyr Rd, Westville Times 6am–6pm daily Contact Game guard 031 266 8015 or palmiet.za.net

WowZulu Marketplace

Interesting fact The institute now forms part of the Inanda Heritage Trail, along with the Ghandi Settlement and the Inanda Seminary.

Location Off the M25, Inanda Times Open Monday–Saturday, with closing time at 1pm on Saturday. The marketplace is open daily.

Contact wowzulu.co.za or if you would like to book a tour durbangreencorridor.co.za

the phansi museum

Telephone wire bowl made by Bheki Dlamini at The Phansi Museum

the playhouse Durban’s Playhouse complex links the city’s past with its present, while serving as one of the iconic landmarks of Durban. In 1926, the glamorous Prince’s Theatre was founded, originally to serve as a cinema. Next door, the Tudor-style Playhouse opened its doors in 1935.

In the early 1980s these two venues were renovated to form the current multi-venue theatre complex known today as The Playhouse, which has faithfully preserved the original architectural features. The Playhouse Company, the theatre organisation based at the complex, works to provide the public with a rich variety of live theatre productions, including music, dance and drama, which represent the diversity of people in KwaZulu-Natal. These

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Phansi blurs the line between museum and gallery; the dusty cabinets and displays found in most traditional ethnographic museums are replaced by contemporary, innovative displays, which place a precious but living value on the artefacts. The museum was established in 2000 and initially occupied the basement rooms of Roberts House, a Victorian national monument in Glenwood. In 2005 the Victorian mansion was fully restored, and now houses the spectacular displays of Zulu beadwork, earplugs, wire baskets, milk pails, beer pots, fertility dolls, Ndebele blankets and ceremonial items, as well as artefacts from

productions ensure that the public has access to a cultural heritage, and The Playhouse’s work with the youth allows younger generations to develop an appreciation for it. There are a variety of cultural shows staged at The Playhouse, appealing to a wide audience. Tours of the theatre complex are also available so that locals, tourists and school groups can find out what goes on inside this Durban landmark. Shows and tours can be booked through the box office.

Location 29 Anton Lembede St, Durban Times The Playhouse is open daily; production and tour times vary Contact 031 369 9555, the box office 031 369 9596/9540 or playhousecompany.com

the Eastern Cape, Namibia and Kenya. Assistant curator Phumzile Nkosi conducts museum tours and engages visitors with her knowledge of oral history and the social codes of traditional societies.

Interesting fact The name “Phansi” was inspired by its location, as it means “below” or “beneath” in isiZulu, and is traditionally known as the realm of the ancestors.

Location 500 Esther Roberts Rd, Glenwood Times The museum is open Monday–Friday 8am–4pm, and on weekends by appointment. Bookings are recommended.

Contact 031 206 2889/083 450 3270, info@phansi.com or phansi.com or Facebook: Phansi Museum

The Playhouse

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books

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read preschoolers

toddlers

The Great Sheep Shenanigans

By Peter Bently and Mei Matsuoka (Published by Andersen Press, R43) “‘A lamb for my supper will taste mighty fine,’ thought a wily old wolf by the name of Lou Pine. As he sneakily, slyly snuck up on the flock, it wasn’t the sheep that were in for a shock...” With a cunning plan, Lou Pine finds a disguise that is sure to deliver a lamb stew, but this flock of sheep aren’t quite the dumb mutton they seem to be.

This gem is from the creators of The Great Dog Bottom Swap, which was shortlisted for the Roald Dahl Funny Prize.

Slinky Malinki

By Lynley Dodd (Published by Puffin Books, R129) Slinky Malinki steals: from a clothes peg, to a slipper, to a clock. Our hero is a bad cat. This story is told in wonderful rhyme, and through pictures full of life and movement. One might ask why a book about a cat stealing should be recommended, and the answer to that is that preschoolers love this character. After Slinky Malinki is caught out, “Never again did he answer the call… when whispers of wickedness stirred in his head, he adjusted his whiskers and stayed home instead.”

early graders Charlie Cook’s Favourite Book

By Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler (Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R168) Children as young as three years old up to the age of six will love this story by this successful picture-book partnership.

Charlie Cook is reading a book about a pirate captain, who is reading a book about Goldilocks, who is reading about a knight, who is reading about a frog... From kings and ghosts, there’s something for everyone in Charlie’s amazing book.

Scholastic Discover More: Penguins and Dinosaurs (Published by Scholastic, R91 each) With 260 stickers and fun text, these unique sticker books are for children from the age of six to nine years old. The regular topics are all here: species, distribution, life cycle, predators (Penguins), and timelines, record breakers, worst fights and meteor hits (Dinosaurs), but the handwritten text is full of jokes, comments, and crazy facts designed to amaze and amuse children.

preteens and teens

for us early graders

Oom Kallas and the Tortoises

By Claerwen Howie and Meg Jordi (Published by Bumble Books, R135) A week on Gran’s farm becomes an adventure of discovery when Oom Kallas introduces the children to the geometric tortoise, but then a devastating veld fire sweeps through a nearby nature reserve.

Will the firefighters stop the fire reaching Gran’s farm? This reality adventure for five to 10 year olds has non-interfering English translation of colloquial Afrikaans dialogue, and Meg Jordi beautifully illustrates it. magazine durban

Brick Wonders: Ancient, Natural and Modern Marvels in Lego

By Warren Elsmore (Published by Octopus Books, R300) Using Lego bricks, artist Warren Elsmore creates stunning scenes with easy-tofollow instructions. Designed with only standard Lego pieces, Warren’s talent lies in choosing exactly the right parts to enable the reader to recreate these icons of history in their own home. While many of the original seven ancient wonders have crumbled away, here we see them in their full (Lego-version) glory. Brick Wonders also takes a look at new wonders of the world – treasures from the past millennium that remain standing today.

Sense of Taste: Uncomplicated Food for any Occasion

By Peter Ayub (Published by Human and Rousseau, R250) In his flagship book, foodie icon chef Peter Ayub shares the experience of 22 years of fine cooking and the lessons learnt while serving the famous and the well informed.

Peter takes the reader by the hand and starts from the beginning: sourcing the best produce. This he follows with stepby-step advice as he shows us how to prepare delicious dishes. His food is easily prepared and has great taste without any confusing or clashing flavours.

Maths: First Steps

By Marise Oberholzer and Nicol Faasen

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(Published by Metz Press, R150) Practical and brimful of tips, this book enables parents to guide their children comfortably into the world of maths, using everyday examples that present themselves amid the hustle and bustle of daily life. It requires no special knowledge or training; just a positive attitude and a sharpening of your interactions with your children to familiarise them with maths concepts through play.

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calendar

what’s on in september

You can also access the calendar online at

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see.

Compiled by TAMLYN VINCENT

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FUN FOR CHILDREN – p24

ONLY FOR PARENTS – p24

I heart Market Visit this market for local designs, handcrafted products and artisan foods.

Brian McKnight This multi-awardwinning artist performs live in concert on 16 September.

bump, baby & tot in tow – p25

how to help – p25

Pre- and post-natal yoga Moms and babies, or expecting moms, can connect with themselves.

Cleanup and Recycle Week SA Join a cleanup, get rid of waste, and help protect the environment.

SPECIAL EVENTS – p23 National Cupcake Day Help Cupcakes of Hope raise funds and awareness for children with cancer, and bake or taste cupcakes on the day.

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SPECIAL EVENTS 1 tuesday Santa Shoebox pledging opens Boxes will be filled with useful goods for children in need. For more info, or to create or update your profile: santashoebox.co.za Oom Schalk, From the Heart 2 Cape Town actor David Muller brings his Schalk Lourens character to life in his telling of Herman Charles Bosman’s stories from the heart. The show opens tonight for a short season in KZN. Time: 7pm. Venue: Seabrooke’s Theatre, Musgrave. Cost: R100. Contact: 071 224 1046 or clare@ webtickets.co.za

3 thursday Shakespeare Schools Festival This festival encourages schools to perform abridged versions of Shakespearean plays in local professional theatres. The festival is non-competitive. Ends 5 September. Time: 7pm. Venue: Playhouse Drama Theatre, Anton Lembede Rd, Durban. Cost: R50.

Book through computicket.com

4 friday Casual Day Spring into action for people with disabilities. Stickers are R10 and available at participating stores and NGOs. For more info: casualday.co.za Umhlanga College Golf Day Time: 10am. Venue: Mount Edgecombe 2 Golf Club. Cost: fourball R2 400.

Contact: deborah.guye@gmail.com or umhlangacollege.co.za

5 saturday Clifton School Founders’ Day The day includes rides, craft and food stalls, music

24 September – White Mountain Festival

and a tea garden. Time: 8:30am–12:15pm.

Venue: Lambert Rd, Morningside. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 312 2147 or bmezher@cliftonschool.co.za Spring Day Festival Enjoy games, a jumping castle, carousel rides and more.

Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Birches Preprimary School, Oribi Crescent, Sarnia.

Cost: free entry, cash fee applies for games card. Contact: 031 708 4764 The Browns’ School Fête With entertainment, food stalls and bargains.

Time: 8:30am–3pm. Venue: 28 Mariannridge Dr, Pinetown. Cost: free entry, parking R10 per car. Contact: 031 700 6065 or idc@ brownsschool.co.za

8 tuesday André the Hilarious Hypnotist André celebrates 21 years on stage with plenty of new suggestions, lots of laughs and crowd participation. Ends 20 September.

Time: 7:30pm Tuesday–Saturday, 3pm Sunday. Venue: Elizabeth Sneddon Theatre, UKZN, Glenwood. Cost: R80–R90. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com

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BP Durban Day with East Coast Radio Top acts take to the stage for this family day concert. Acts include MiCasa, Khuli Chana, AKA, MonArk, Veranda Panda, Beatenberg, Matthew Mole, Mafikizolo, Thandiswa Mazwai and Prime Circle. Time: 11:30am.

Venue: People’s Park, Moses Mabhida Stadium. Cost: adults R180, children 3–12 years old R20.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com

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Max This free film screening raises funds for local animal shelters. Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Ster Kinekor, Galleria Mall, Amanzimtoti.

Cost: donation of dog food, blankets, toys or other items. Contact: claudia@ panorama.co.za

13 sunday BMW International Polo Series – Shongweni New Zealand tours. Time: 10am–5pm. Venue: Durban Shongweni Club, cnr Cliffdale Rd and Kassier Rd, Hillcrest. Cost: R50–R80. Contact: 031 303 3903, bridget@sapolo.co.za or sapolo.co.za/international-polo/bmwinternational-polo-series

19 saturday Healers KZN Holistic Fair Get unique gifts, healings and readings. Time: 9am–3pm. Venue: Kloof Civic Hall. Cost: free entry. Contact: 082 668 4163 or healerskzn@gmail.com Pinotage on Tap Enjoy lunch with Pinotage pairings and live music. Time: 12:30pm. Venue: The Litchi Orchard, Salt Rock. Cost: festival pass R350, with a case of wine R860. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com

24 thursday White Mountain Festival This acoustic music festival is known for its relaxed, family-friendly atmosphere. Ends 27

September. Time: varies. Venue: White Mountain, Central Drakensberg. Cost: adults R575, children 4–11 years old R125.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com

26 saturday Battle Heritage SA national tournament and market day Medieval combat, a heritage market, and children’s entertainment. Time: 9am–4:30pm. Venue: Natal Mounted Rifles, NMR Ave, Durban.

Cost: adults R30. Contact: 078 760 5436 or shannonnegrad@gmail.com Choc Go 4 Gold Pageant Become a Choc ambassador and share their message on childhood cancer with peers. For girls 6–18 years old and boys 12–21 years old.

Time: 11am–5pm. Venue: Hillcrest High School, 40 Ridge Rd, Hillcrest. Cost: R200 per entry. Contact: 086 111 2182 or 084 364 8937 or coordinatorkzn@choc.org.za National Cupcake Day Pledge cupcakes or buy some. Time: varies. Venue: participating malls nationwide. Cost: cupcakes R10 donation. For more info: cupcakesofhope.org

Durban Botanic Gardens Enjoy a picnic or visit the orchid house. Time: 7:30am–5:15pm daily. Venue: 9A John Zikhali Rd, Musgrave. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 322 4021 or durbanbotanicgardens.org.za

12 saturday Engen Cycle in the City This race festival offers categories for cyclists of all ages and fitness levels, plus there’s food stalls, children’s entertainment and live music. Time: 10am–7pm. Venue: Durban Promenade. Cost: varies. Contact: 021 448 7777 or info@engencycling.co.za or book through Webtickets: webtickets.co.za Shall We Dance An annual dance showcase, which started in 1991. Ends 19 September. Time: 7:30pm Tuesday and Thursday–Saturday, 3pm Saturday and Sunday. Venue: Playhouse Opera Theatre, Anton Lembede Rd, Durban. Cost: R75– R140. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com September 2015

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calendar Shongweni Farmers’ and Craft Market Find organic and local produce and crafts.

Time: 6:30am–10am every Saturday.

Venue: cnr Kassier Rd and Alverstone Rd, Assagay. Cost: free entry. Contact: 083 777 1674, info@shongwenimarket.co.za or shongwenimarket.co.za

on stage and on screen

5 September – I heart Market

29 tuesday Stars of the Bolshoi Ballet This concert, in memory of the great Russian ballerina Natalia Bessmertnova, is performed by the Stars of the Bolshoi Ballet and Stars of the Ballet Moscow. Also 30 September. Time: 7:30pm. Venue: Playhouse Opera Theatre, Anton Lembede Rd, Durban. Cost: R150– R300. Book through: computicket.com

Technology, 51 Mansfield Rd, Berea. Cost: free. Contact: 031 201 9312 or ncayf@ iafrica.com Study skills Children from Grade 6 learn how to prepare for exams. 5 September– 3 October. Time: 1pm–3pm every Saturday.

Venue: Kip McGrath Education Centre, Ballito. Cost: 10 lessons R2 200. Contact: 032 946 2293 or 079 881 8872

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family outings

Umhlanga College Senior Primary Production The senior primary hosts their annual concert, showcasing the talents of the students. Time: 6pm. Venue: Robert & Robin Muir Auditorium, Umhlanga College, 21 Preston Dr, Prestondale. Cost: tbc. Contact: marketing@ucollege.co.za

Books2You book fair Time: 10am–3pm 7 September, 7:30am–1pm 8 September.

Venue: Embury Primary. Also Durban Prep 8 and 9 September, Athlone Park 17 and 18 September, and Durban Girls College 21 and 22 September. Cost: free entry. Contact: 031 705 7744 or orders@books2you.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Art and music classes Fine art classes, piano and guitar classes, and djembe drumming groups for children and adults.

Time: varies. Venue: varies. Cost: from R800 per term. Contact: 073 540 9210, 083 470 5743, daniella.hartman@gmail. com or isabelhartman@gmail.com

markets I heart Market This market showcases innovative, locally designed products and local foods. 5 September. Time: 9am–2pm.

Venue: Moses Mabhida Stadium, Isaiah Ntshangase Rd. Cost: free entry. Contact: info@iheartmkt.com or iheartmarket. blogspot.com

All Directions A tribute to the music of the British pop boy band, One Direction, and other artists. 12, 19, 24 and 26 September.

Time: 1:30pm. Venue: The Barnyard Theatre, Gateway. Cost: R90. Contact: 031 566 3045, gateway@barnyardtheatres. co.za or barnyardtheatre.co.za September movies Sunday is movie day on Disney Junior, when you can see Pooh’s Heffalump Movie, Cinderella II, Cinderella III and The Little Mermaid: Ariel’s Beginning.

Time: 10:25am, repeats 3:10pm. On DStv Channel 309. For more info: disney.co.za/ disney-junior

playtime and story time Arise @ St Martin’s Church Children from preschool to Grade 7 can join this children’s church. Time: 9am every Sunday.

Venue: 12 Chelsea Dr, Durban North. Cost: free. Contact: 031 563 1222 or sarah@ stmartinschurch.co.za Steam train rides Ride a miniature steam engine at the Durban Society of Model Engineers on the second Sunday of each month. Time: 11am–4pm. Venue: 4 Hinton Grove, Virginia. Cost: rides R10. Contact: 031 205 1089 or dsme.co.za

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North Beach Parkrun Run 5km against the clock and at your own pace. Time: 8am every Saturday. Venue: Suncoast Casino Promenade, North Beach. Cost: free. Contact: northbeachoffice@parkrun. com or parkrun.co.za

sport and physical activities Chimp & Zee Rope Adventure Park This new park has just opened and consists of 34 elevated hanging bridges, obstacles and zip lines. The aerial adventure takes you through and over Seaworld at uShaka. There is a minimum height restriction of 1,2m.

Time: 9am–5pm daily, the experience lasts about 45 minutes. Venue: uShaka Marine World. Cost: R150. Contact: 031 332 1167 or ushakamarineworld.co.za/chimp-zee

Baby Massage

only for parents classes, talks and workshops North Coast Artists Meeting All are welcome for the monthly art demo, tips and meeting. 12 September. Time: 9am.

Venue: Church of the Blessed Sacrament, Newport Ave, Glenashley. Cost: members R30, visitors R40. For more info: northcoast-artists.com

classes, talks and workshops English skills Grade R–5 learners can work on reading, writing and other skills. Time: 1:30pm–2:30pm; days vary.

Venue: Overport. Cost: varies. Contact: 031 209 7031 Mini Maya children’s yoga classes Children develop body awareness, concentration and discipline. Time: 5pm every Tuesday. Venue: Atholton Primary, Herrwood Park, Umhlanga. Cost: prebooked classes R50, drop-in R75.

Contact: marrionclarke@gmail.com or Facebook: Yoga Maya National Creative Arts Youth Festival This art exhibition offers visitors the chance to see the works submitted by children, between the ages of 5 and 21 years old, who competed in this competition.

The categories include painting, print, photography, sculpture, textile and ceramics. Entries close 2 September. 14–23 September. Time: 9am–3:30pm. Venue: The Art Gallery, Durban University of

16 September – Brian McKnight

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Teacher Training 7: sensory play for preschoolers Learn how to prepare young children for optimal learning through sensory play. 1 September. Time: 2pm–5:30pm. Venue: Thomas More College, 15 Sykes Rd, Kloof.

Cost: R565, bookings of four or more R495 per person. For more info: sensoryiq. co.za/events/TT-WS7

Brian McKnight See this multi-awardwinning artist in concert. 16 September.

Time: 8pm. Venue: Moses Mabhida Stadium, Stamford Hill. Cost: from R295.

Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or computicket.com

out and about The Chameleon Chronicles This live music event features a variety of bands. Food and beverages are on sale. 18 September. Time: 6pm. Venue: Coffee @ College, Umhlanga College, 21 Preston Dr, Prestondale. Cost: free entry, booking essential. Contact: marketing@ ucollege.co.za magazine durban

it’s party time

For more help planning your child’s party visit

childmag.co.za/resources/birthday-parties

Pre- and postnatal yoga

support groups

playtime and story time

Hi Hopes Home intervention programme for children who are deaf or hard of hearing.

Contact: 082 897 1632, dianne.goring@ hihopes.co.za or hihopes.co.za Sadag For those suffering from depression or drug abuse or who may be suicidal. For more information or referral to a support group: sadag.org

Baby Bright Stars Interactive classes for moms and babies. Time: varies. Venue: Westville. Cost: R900. Contact: 083 777 4578, kelly@babybrightstars.co.za or babybrightstars.co.za Clamber Club Movement and stimulation classes for babies 8 weeks–12 months and children 1–4 years old. Time: varies.

Venues: Ballito and Kloof. Cost: varies.

Contact Ballito: 076 222 2946 or Kloof: 083 259 2746 or clamberclub.com

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classes, talks and workshops

support groups

Baby Massage Saturday course available in September. Time: varies. Venue: Glenwood. Cost: R650. Contact: 072 623 3266, hello@holisticbaby.co.za or holisticbaby.co.za Pre- and postnatal yoga Time and venue: moms and babies 10am Tuesday, preggie yoga 4:45pm Tuesday and Thursday, Giba Guest House, Hillcrest; preand postnatal yoga 8am Friday, Wirikuta, Assagay. Cost: R260 per month. Contact: 083 560 5390, 073 351 6824 or isabel@ blissfulbellies.co.za Pregnancy Yoga Time: 9:30am every Saturday, 5:30pm every Tuesday. Venue: The Yoga Sanctuary, 49 Delaware Ave, Glenashley. Cost: R260 per month. Contact: 076 410 1410 or angela@rautenbach.co.za

Mothers 2 Baby For moms finding motherhood challenging. Babies welcome.

Time: 10am–11:30am, third Thursday of the month. Venue: Hillcrest Private Hospital, Kassier Rd. Cost: free. Contact: 061 453 3718

how to help Cleanup and Recycle Week SA Between 14 and 19 September, various cleanup projects take place as individuals pay attention to the problem of waste around them. Highlights of this week are National Recycling Day on 18 September and International Coastal Cleanup Day on 19 September. For more info on initiatives and drop-offs: cleanup-sa.co.za or recyclingday-sa.co.za

family marketplace 14–19 September – Cleanup and Recycle Week SA

don’t miss out!

For a free listing, email your event to durban@childmag.co.za. Information must be received by 3 September for the October issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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time to disconnect When her daughter berated her for being glued to her phone, ANÉL LEWIS realised that her attachment to gadgets was becoming a problem.

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hese days, children can swipe through apps before they can finger paint, so it was startling to hear my daughter say, “I don’t want to see that phone on again. Put it down now.”

I sheepishly clicked off my phone and put it next to me on the couch. It was probably

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the fourth time in two hours that Erin had admonished me about my cellphone use. I was ashamed, and concerned. Did I really spend so much time looking down at my phone that my four-year-old daughter had to urge me to switch it off so that I could devote some of my attention to her?

The short answer was yes.

But how many of us can sit through back-to-back episodes of Dora the Explorer without quickly checking what’s happening on Facebook? And while I love watching Conor play with his trains, there are only so many times I can shout “All aboard” as the coaches whizz by.

I send the odd tweet while watching the children in the bath, and there have been a few hastily typed emails while I’ve been making their supper. But I don’t think I quite realised the impact these sneaky dalliances with technology and social media was having on my children, until Erin started to take me to task about it.

It’s made me think about how she must feel having to look at the back of my cellphone while we are doing things together. It also made me feel guilty about limiting their use of gadgets when I clearly have an unhealthy attachment to mine.

So, my husband and I decided to impose a technology embargo on the house for two days.

“But Mom,” wailed Conor, as I packed the iPad away. Erin was initially also a bit put out. While she is quick to berate me for my techno habit, she won’t say no to a few sessions of her games.

Craig and I stuck to our guns, resolute that the weekend would be about face time and real communication. We rode bikes in

the forest, did puzzles and painted. Conor treated us to several renditions of “Money in the door”, which we eventually worked out to be “See Saw, Marjorie Daw”, and they entertained us with an impromptu rock concert.

The two days flew past, and I didn’t feel any poorer for not knowing who had posted a selfie from their park run or who had checked in at Foursquare.

When I did eventually sneak a peek at my phone while Erin was getting ready for bed, the screen lit up like a Jukebox with all the missed notifications. But I had missed nothing. In fact, we had all gained something valuable by tuning into each other for a change.

Of course, I wanted to quickly post something about our hiatus from technology on Facebook – just for posterity. But my efforts were thwarted when I was caught red-handed by Erin in mid-tap.

“Mom, I thought we agreed no cellphones. I don’t want to see that thing again.”

She was right, Facebook could wait.

Anél Lewis has switched off all cellphone notifications so that she can resist the temptation to update her status during family time. She has, however, resorted to checking social media late at night, when the flickering light from her screen won’t wake the children.

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finishing touch

book extract

pumpkin nut muffins These muffins are high in beta-carotene to assist the immune system and eye health.

Makes 12

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• 4 tbsp coconut oil, softened, plus extra for greasing • 6 free-range eggs • ½ cup coconut flour • ¼ cup roughly chopped raw macadamia nuts • ½ tsp ground ginger • ½ tsp bicarbonate of soda • ½ cup puréed pumpkin • 3 tbsp honey • ½ tsp vanilla extract

In her book Real Food, Healthy, Happy Children

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Preheat the oven to 200°C. Grease a muffin tray with coconut oil.

Beat the eggs, adding one at a time.

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new concepts in nutrition.

In a separate bowl, mix together the dry ingredients.

Add the eggs and remaining ingredients and mix well.

Spoon the mixture into the muffin cases and bake for 20 minutes or until golden.

(Recipe: Kath Megaw)

Try these recipes for a low-carb solution to your lunchbox blues.

low-carb sandwich bread Makes 1 small loaf (12 slices)

ingredients • 6 large free-range eggs • 1 tbsp xylitol • ½ cup melted unsalted butter, plus extra for greasing • ¾ cup coconut flour • 1 tsp baking powder • ½ tsp sea salt

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for 35 to 40 minutes, or until the sides pull away from the tin and are golden brown.

Remove from oven and allow to cool in tin for 10 minutes before transferring to a wire rack to cool – about 30 minutes. Store in an airtight container in the refrigerator for up to 2 weeks.

(Recipe: Kath Megaw)

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1 meatballs and tzatziki Makes 25–30 meatballs

ingredients • • • • • •

500g minced meat (chicken, beef, ostrich or lamb) ¼–½ cup grated Parmesan ½ cup almond flour ½ cup warm water 1 tbsp dried Italian herbs 1 tsp chopped, fresh coriander

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Preheat the oven to 180°C.

Place the mince, cheese, flour, water and herbs in a large bowl, and combine well (if the mixture is not binding, add a little more almond flour).

Using your hands, form the mince mixture into balls about 5cm in diameter (dip your hands in water when rolling to prevent the mince from sticking to them).

Arrange the meatballs in a greased ovenproof dish and bake for 20 to 25 minutes or until cooked through (alternatively, fry the meatballs in a large pan over medium heat).

Allow to cool and serve with a simple tzatziki made with yoghurt, grated cucumber (squeezed to release excess liquid) and chopped fresh mint.

(Recipe: Kath Megaw)

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Preheat the oven to 180°C. Whisk together the eggs, xylitol and melted butter.

Sift together the coconut flour, baking powder and salt.

Add the dry ingredients to the egg mixture and blend until thickened.

Transfer the mixture to a greased bread tin and bake

about the book Real Food, Healthy, Happy Children (Quivertree Publications; quivertreepublications.com) by respected dietician Kath Megaw offers readers a balanced approach to the popular LCHF (low-carb, high-fat) eating lifestyle. Megaw encourages parents to be revolutionaries, not tyrants, when it comes to their children’s diets. Her book will prove invaluable in educating and empowering parents of children who are tired of feeling unwell and lacking energy, to develop a lifelong relationship with food that nourishes body, mind and soul. Real Food is packed with practical health and dietary information, and recipes to help you begin a (loving) revolution in your home. Real Food is available from all good bookstores for R335.