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My daughters’ birthdays are two of the happiest days in the year for me, and I always try my best to make them special so they can remember each one. Over the years I have found that the simplest birthday parties are often the most memorable and successful. So, for our reinvented party issue, we have tried to round up the best of the best – awesome themes to inspire you, treats and party décor that you can recreate with ease, and delicious treats that are super simple. And none of it has to cost you the earth. We know that birthday parties are not always a walk in the park. As invites take over what used to look like your fridge door, the feeling of “how do we fit it all in?” quickly grows. Luckily, Samantha Page has got it all under control in “surviving the party circuit” (page 16). So now it’s time to sit back with a cup of tea and page through the wonderful world of birthdays. Let us inspire you for when it’s time to celebrate the birth of your child.

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20 3 a note from lisa

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7 dealing with difference – parties with a difference Deirdre Gower gives tips on celebrating the birthday of a child with special needs

features 10 dads and daughters Angus Begg explains why the father-daughter relationship is so important

12 the best family cars on the road Will Sinclair rounds up some of the latest and best buys on the market

14 classroom celebrations before taking the birthday party to the classroom, consider the school’s rules. By Tamlyn Vincent

16 surviving the party circuit Samantha Page gives advice on how to politely decline party invitations

18 party central hosting your child’s party at your home? Tamlyn Vincent gives practical tips for a smooth day

8 pregnancy news – lean on me dads can play a significant role in supporting their pregnant partners. Lee Farrell tells us how

9 best for baby – i spy using a spy camera to keep tabs on your nanny is becoming increasingly popular. Anél Lewis looks at the pros and cons

20 resource – it’s party time our party guide has a brand-new look. For tons of inspiration and ideas, keep this guide handy. Compiled by Lucille Kemp

34 a good read for the whole family 36 what’s on in june 42 finishing touch Anél Lewis’ son brings her gifts at midnight. She just hopes he sticks to toys...

health 15 when food bites back Marina Zietsman looks at food allergies and how to deal with them

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over to you online comments in response to “when is weird child behaviour the norm?” I have an eight year old who recently came out of her bedroom crying and said she couldn’t sleep in her room with her pillows, because they are red. And then last night before bed she said, in a pouting tone, she didn’t want her flip-flops in her room while she slept. She had worn the flip-flops all day to school and then we went out for dinner and a movie, but it wasn’t until bedtime that they became an issue. I asked her why and she told me repeatedly that she doesn’t know. I let her leave the flip-flops in the hallway and that’s where they remain. It’s hard to tell if this is alarming behaviour... Anonymous My daughter is almost five years old. She is usually a happy and very intelligent child, but she has frequent tantrums, is destructive, and is extremely defiant. She is fine as long as my attention is solely on her, but as soon as I get a phone call or need to do housework, she destroys Follow us on twitter.com/ChildMag, facebook.com/childmag.co.za and pinterest.com/childmagazine

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things around the house. The most disturbing thing, however, was when I made a point of spending much of the day playing with her one on one. I thought it did some good because she played quietly in her room while I cooked dinner. After dinner I found a knife hidden in her bed and a doll that she had stabbed in the stomach 20 to 30 times. I don’t even know what to think or do about this. Anonymous

busy moms I read your reader’s blog on working mother’s guilt syndrome (May 2015). I hope I don’t have it. My secondborn always wants me to dedicate all my attention to her schoolwork or what she was up to at school during the day. I normally do pay attention, but there are times when I am talking to her older brother or helping him with his homework and ask her to wait her turn, and she will leave with an “it’s fine, never mind”. That is when I feel guilty for not being there for her all the time. But this is at her brother’s cost, because then I shift my attention to

her. I’m trying to make up for the time I’m not with her or when I’ve been busy with my own studies after work or with cooking supper or baking. I always feel like I should spend more time with my children. I end up committing myself to other activities, which are not easy to fit into my schedule and I end up a little bit frustrated because of the pressures I put myself under. I have been trying to get my children to be more independent and more responsible so that they do some things on their own and I’ve explained that I will spend time with them whenever possible. They really like going out with me, even just to the park to get some air – they appreciate it so much. The feeling of being appreciated is rewarding, especially after dedicating some time to your children.  Esther subscribe to our newsletter and win Our wins have moved online. Please subscribe to our newsletter and enter our weekly competitions. To subscribe, visit childmag.co.za

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lanning a party is both exciting and daunting. Whether your own child has a special need, or if you are inviting a differently-abled child, there are extra considerations to make the celebration memorable and as stress-free as possible.

recommends strong bowls instead of paper plates. “Keep loose tablecloths to a minimum – serve food on a clean plastic or wooden table,” she says. Let parents know what is being served to allow them to bring any special food with them.

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Choose a venue with the birthday child in mind. If your child is wheelchair-bound, all areas of the venue should be accessible and safe. A party in a playground where the other children are running around and climbing may make your child feel left out on their special day. Petting zoos or pony rides allow children to be included, with some help from a parent. Mini-train rides are also a fantastic choice. A party at home may be easier if your child needs to retreat to their room for a while. Marna Lloyd, a Cape Town party planner, suggests activities like face painting, a magician or a balloon twister. For a child with autism, Debbie Flugel of the Autism Enrichment Centre and mom to Jarred, who has classic autism, advises to “keep the noise level and visual stimulation down to a minimum to help concentration and to enable the child to interact and engage with others. A safe and fully enclosed garden where they can freely walk around is a good idea.”

Children cope differently, so monitor their limits. Damian can handle long parties, but Debbie says one-and-a-half hours is more than enough for Jarred. “There’s no point in pushing them to stay longer – especially if Mom and child are feeling stressed and pressured socially,” she says. Marna says it’s more important that your child has a wonderful hour, than a good one followed by two painful hours trying to calm them.

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parties with a difference Planning a party for children with special needs can be tricky. DEIRDRÉ GOWER gives us some tips. As with all children, those with special needs often have sensitivities. My disabled son, Damian, doesn’t like anyone singing “Happy Birthday” to him. It is important to warn other parents and children of this before bringing out the cake.

food Some children have food intolerances. These may include gluten, dairy, sugar and food

additives. Lightly salted chips, popcorn, crudités with dips, fruit kebabs, chicken pieces, fruit juice lollies, and a gluten-free cake and cupcakes are all safer options. Nutritional therapist Heidi du Preez says: “Opt for home-made iced teas by mixing rooibos with a small amount of fruit juice (ratio 4:1).” If your child needs a special cup to drink from, remember to pack it. Debbie

gifts It can be challenging for other parents to choose something manageable. Clothes or money are practical choices, but not always the most exciting to unwrap. Consider including a list of favourites with your invitation. Most importantly, remember to have fun. Keep your child the focus of the party and don’t stress if things don’t go as planned. Gauge your child’s enjoyment and let that lead the day’s activities.

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lean on me

Many men find pregnancy bewildering, but they can play a meaningful role by supporting their pregnant partners. LEE FARRELL, father to two

young children, shares some pointers.

our pregnant partner will grow a lot larger in the coming turmoilfilled months that lie before you, but supporting her has nothing to do with working out regularly or knowing a reasonable forklift-hire company. There’s more to the support that she will require from you than doing all the heavy lifting around the house. So, if you didn’t manage

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to complete that PhD in female psychology before you both decided to have a child, here are a few pointers to help you play your part.

is in the same category as those 24-hour helplines, except you are the only operator – there are no shifts to take over from you.

keep calm There’s a good chance that you will both experience some form of anxiety. That’s normal. But even if you imagine your personal anxiety to border on severe, your partner’s angst will be far greater. Your nervousness will stem from the fact that you think Satan has moved into your home. Your partner’s paranoia, on the other hand, stems from many more sources. She may feel guilty when she briefly realises that she has, in fact, turned into Satan, but these will only be fleeting moments, as she will then swiftly blame you for this outcome.

tell her she’s beautiful Your partner may be overcome with absurd notions that you will find her increasingly ugly as her body grows and morphs into a fully-fledged, gas-producing pregnant mammal. She will require continuous reassurance from you that this is not the case. But a word of caution: demonstrating the effects that she still has on your manhood is not always the best course of action. Maybe a cuddle and some positive words would be better suited.

24-hour helpline To begin with, most of the support you need to give to your partner is emotional and based on service. The emotional support

help around the house Your partner will be extremely tired from now until your child eventually leaves

home. Taking over a few more of the household chores would be great support for her, giving her time to enjoy a relaxing bath or just put her feet up with a good book. As she gets larger, the physical support you were so eager to administer will become relevant. It will mostly involve helping her to get up and occasionally having to do menial tasks such as tying her shoelaces, painting her toenails or clipping them for her.

Most of the support you need to give to your partner is emotional and based on service. be present In a nutshell, the support that your partner requires during her pregnancy is for you to take an active and interested role in the whole ordeal. Carrying a child for nine months and eventually giving birth is something men will never experience. But that doesn’t mean we cannot be there with the person who is doing the real hard work, holding her hand and telling her she is wonderful and capable during the course of this amazing journey that you have chosen to share with each other.

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i spy Modern technology makes it easy for parents to monitor their nanny’s activities, but are spy cameras the only way we can keep our children safe? ANÉL LEWIS weighs up the pros and cons of letting Big Brother into your home.

isturbing footage of a Ugandan nanny abusing a toddler went viral recently, sparking widespread alarm among parents who rely on others to watch their children when they can’t. The abuse was captured by a camera – or a nanny cam – that had secretly been installed by the two-year-old’s father. When I saw the video, my first thought was: what would have happened if that nanny was not caught on camera? It’s a sobering thought, and one that probably crosses most parents’ minds when they leave their children in the care of someone else. But does the fear of what goes on in our homes when we’re not there warrant the installation of a hidden camera?

But most of the mothers said they would let their nanny know about the camera. Cape Town mother, Sara, who did not want to give her surname, says: “Having had a wonderful nanny who we let go for admission of neglect and suspicion of theft, I would definitely not hire a nanny again unless we had nanny cams. Make it part of her contract.” Pops Johnson of SpyShop SA, an online supplier of surveillance equipment, says his company has experienced a massive uptake in sales in recent months. He says the queries were not just for nanny cams but for general surveillance equipment. “The incident [of the toddler]

I think a nanny cam exacerbates a mother’s worry about leaving her child in safe hands. It certainly does not assist in building a trusting relationship with your nanny.

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all in favour I posed the question to a mothers’ Facebook group and was surprised at the overwhelming support for installing a nanny cam. While few had actually set up cameras in their homes, most said they would consider it if they had any doubts about their children’s safety. Mandy Erasmus, a Cape Town mother of two, says: “If you have suspicions, then ease your mind. The last thing you want is to say ‘I should have’.” magazine cape town

has increased people’s awareness of what dodgy things can happen when they’re not at home.” Karin Thomsen of a nanny agency says that while the security companies selling surveillance equipment have reported a surge in sales after the Ugandan nanny footage went viral, she’s not seen a notable increase in clients actually going through with the installation of nanny cams in their homes.

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Ivan Israelstam, chief executive officer of Labour Law Management Consulting in Joburg, says: “In my view cameras at workplaces are legal provided the employer has documentary proof that the nanny knows there is a camera – even if she does not know where it is.” However, he says that the law does not automatically prohibit the use of the footage even if the nanny does not know about the camera. Thomsen is firm that employees should not be filmed without their knowledge. “While it may not be illegal to film your nanny, every nanny deserves the right to know if they are being filmed,” she says. “If not, it’s the equivalent of eavesdropping on a private conversation. Morally that’s not right and it’s a breach of trust.” Thomsen says the nannies at her agency say they generally do not mind having a camera in the house, as long as they are told about it in advance. “They feel massively insulted if they are not told,” she says. One of her nannies says that, as a mother, she understands parents’ concerns. South Africa’s Constitution and Bill of Rights protect the right to privacy. In terms of labour legislation, due consideration must be given to an employee’s privacy if surveillance cameras are in place, and it’s not advisable to place cameras in changing rooms or bathrooms.

Johnson says new technology is released almost every week and you can now get cameras as small as a 10 cent piece. The cameras come in all shapes and sizes too, I was surprised to learn. The archetypal nanny cam hidden in an old teddy bear has been overtaken by nifty gadgets such as tissue boxes, alarm clocks, mirrors, car keys and even aerosol cans that contain mini cameras. Nanny Cam SA, another online supplier, explains on its website that self-recording cameras are easy to set up, but will only allow you to view footage after it has been recorded. A wireless streaming camera, however, will allow you to watch the video live from another location. Most cameras can stream the information to your smartphone. IP or internet protocol cameras can send and receive information via a computer network. You can also get night vision or infrared cameras that will record in darkness or low light.

a necessary evil? Thomsen believes that unless you have had a particularly negative experience with a nanny, a camera is not the only option for peace of mind. “Personally, I think a nanny cam exacerbates a mother’s worry about leaving her child in safe hands. It certainly does not assist in building a trusting relationship with your nanny.” Thomsen says it’s more important to choose the right person, and to use a reputable agency when hiring a nanny or au pair. This means that proper background checks are done. Parents should also contact a nanny’s most recent references. “Speak to the mothers and ask, ‘Would you hire her again?’.” If the mother hesitates, you will have your answer, says Thomsen. It’s also important to know the health of your nanny, as this could affect her behaviour at any stage. But always trust your instincts. If you suspect something is going on, ask a neighbour or friend to pop in unexpectedly, or change your working hours so you can get home at a different time, advises Thomsen. And if you really suspect foul play, then a nanny cam may be considered. “On the basis that it would not help to build a trusting relationship, I would never advise a mother to start out with a nanny cam. However, if you were feeling uneasy, or had reason to suspect your nanny of mistreating your child, then I would certainly support the use of a nanny cam,” she says.

finding the right one Johnson says you need to tell the security company or consultant exactly what your needs are, as this will determine the type of camera you should buy. The cost of the unit will vary depending on the specifications. • How many cameras do you need and where do you want them placed? Cameras can be placed in any room in the house, but preferably not in bathrooms. • Would you prefer a wireless unit? • Nanny Cam SA recommends a battery-operated camera if you’re concerned about your recording being affected by electricity disruptions. • Will you want to watch the footage later, or do you want it to be streamed to your computer or smartphone in real time? • Will you need to monitor activities at night or in low light as well?

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parenting

dads and daughters ANGUS BEGG considers the immeasurable value of fathers who forge a close, positive relationship with their daughters.

I think daughters can benefit from seeing their dads fulfil unconventional roles or express complex emotions. For every one of the roughly 10 occasions that I saw my girl at a cafécum-park on the slopes of Table Mountain (an odd situation arrived at by lawyers in the absence of a parenting agreement), with her mother inside the restaurant, she would say, “Take me up the mountain, Daddy.” Aware that she observes her brother’s interest in “climbing” – I take him to an indoor climbing wall – I would answer yes, fully aware that it may be a battle to get the necessary permission.

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Family and school counsellor Anne Cawood, who has three adult daughters of her own, says bonding between fathers and daughters, whatever their culture*, is crucial to development. “The dad relationship is incredibly important,” says Cawood. “Girls who have a really well-bonded relationship with their dads are set up positively for all future relationships, especially with the opposite sex, because Dad has shown them they are precious and special, and that impacts positively on their self-esteem too.”

hands on All too often, fathers don’t see their daughters enough. This may be because as absent parents they’re just not interested, but it may also be because the mother uses the child as a weapon and prevents him from seeing them. I know a number of single mothers who can’t get the fathers of their children to show any interest in them. Cawood says mothers have an important role to play here: “Moms should actively encourage it, and Dad should pick up on it. I’ve seen with my own children, the bond created then still exists, and my daughters are in their 40s.” According to Cawood, being a mother doesn’t mean you’re the better parent. “I’ve seen dads who are better empathisers than mothers.” Cape Town father Greg Andrews is a divorced dad of two girls, aged eight and six, who spend two nights a week with him. While he doesn’t believe a balance of parents and gender is necessary for “optimal mental health”, he does recognise the father’s role in giving them confidence, and interpreting their world. “One important dynamic fathers and other male role models can help with, especially, is in making sense of a patriarchal society,” says Greg. “I think daughters can benefit from seeing their dads fulfil unconventional roles or express complex emotions.” A day’s flight across the world, in Albuquerque, USA, Len Romano is the happily married Anglo-Italian father of magazine cape town

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’m leaning against the tyre of my vehicle on the pavement, book in hand, with my legs spread out. My three-year-old daughter, purple-and-white cupcake icing smeared around her mouth, says: “I want to sit there, Daddy,” and plonks herself upon my thighs, giggling. “Slinky Malinki was blacker than black, a stalking and lurking adventurous cat.” Having probably read the story of the devious and thieving feline yourselves a few times, many of you will know where his “bright yellow eyes” and “warbling wail” fit into the next few lines. It’s a special thing, a dad knowing and responding to his children’s needs, whether reading their favourite stories or putting them on his shoulders. And while I thoroughly enjoy doing the traditionally accepted “man stuff” with my son – like climbing rocks and running screaming into the sea – when my little girl wants to clamber over boulders or is scared of the sea, I need to be there to give her the confidence and reassurance to accomplish what is for her a huge task. At least, that’s what the books say.

two blossoming girls – aged 11 and 13. I met Len while odd-jobbing in Greece two decades back and we have remained friends. He echoes Greg’s point about helping girls navigate a largely patriarchal world: “A sensitive and caring father is uniquely equipped to guide and educate his daughter about the forces that drive men and the male point of view in our culture. As fathers we all want to send our daughters out into the world as confident, strong, smart and bold yet kind women.”

A sensitive and caring father is uniquely equipped to guide and educate his daughter about the forces that drive men and the male point of view in our culture. quality counts It’s two days shy of a month now, as I write, since I last saw my daughter, reading to her on that pavement. It was her birthday, and without a court order in place to ensure my parental rights, we ended up sitting outside her mother’s house, while she was at work, sharing cupcakes. The hurt of imagining that my little girl, who shouts “Daddy, Daddy” when running over to me, feels I’ve abandoned her – when I want to see her every single day – is sometimes so very hard to bear. And perhaps it’s pointless trying to explain to parents reading this. So I try to take comfort in those who say “quality is better than quantity”. “They do remember,” says Cawood. “If for whatever reason you aren’t allowed to see her anymore, those little grab moments are what build the relationship. But because a three year old’s memory is short, they need frequent little visits.” magazine cape town

Much like the shiny bits of paper with which I wrapped her kitty-cat purse and tiny cupcakes, so I have found there is a silver lining to this parenting predicament. This situation has brought with it a focus on my children that quite possibly would have been a little more blurry otherwise, being simply one of yet two more parents rushing through the motions of daily life. I now think and read and learn about my girl, probably more than I would have in a “normal”, two-parent household. I think of what we can and will do when we are together. My dream gift would be going for a drive with both my children in the same car, going up the mountain, to the beach, watching a movie on TV – just “being” together. To be honest, I had no idea previously, beyond the obvious feeding, nurturing and support roles, what I should be offering our daughter. Via a Facebook post he made last year, my mate Len unwittingly gave a hint of what is possible. It was the news that on her 13th birthday his daughter Angelina played her own piano composition live on stage in Albuquerque. Knowing the man as I do, I have little doubt his support and love was instrumental in getting her up there. Granted, that support possibly wouldn’t have been there without the love and understanding that he receives from his wife Donna but, for me, and all dads in a similar situation, it’s something worth aiming for, along with the privilege of being with her through boyfriends, activities, bedtime stories and the matter of feminine fact that is the notorious PMT. It’s all part of the package, something parents should ideally do together (hence the term coparenting). Cawood agrees: “By mom encouraging the relationship with the dad, she’s giving the child the best possible chance to forge well-balanced relationships in the future.” *Psychologically, while respecting different practices – in some cultures fathers almost pull away when a child is born – the same basic needs and principles apply, such as that all children need their dads from a young age. June 2015

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the best family cars on the road When it comes to picking a new car for your family, it doesn’t only have to be about safety and packing space. By WILL SINCLAIR

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toyota etios 1.5Xi the sedan for families who get around As the spiritual successor to the Tazz, the Etios punches above its weight as a budget B-segment sedan. Sure, the interior is plasticky; sure, it’s a little noisy; and okay, the centrally-arranged speedometer takes some getting used to… but as a family sedan, you have to love its boot space, which lets you comfortably fit in shopping, prams and weekend getaway gear. (At least, you should fit it all in.) dads will like The surprisingly zippy engine (0–100 in 11,3 seconds) and the wallet-friendly claimed fuel consumption (5.9 litres/100km). moms will like The enormous 595-litre boot. Price from R138 900

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the five-seater that’s actually a seven-seater This one’s a winner for small families who want three rows of seats, but don’t need all the space of a full-sized MPV. The flexible seating adds in two seats right at the back – and while they’re really only big enough for children to sit comfortably, those extra seats are heaven-sent on a long, nerve-jangling family drive. dads will like The surprisingly (for a minivan) agile handling and responsive steering. moms will like The sliding doors, which provide easy access in crowded parking lots. Price from R268 900

nissan juke acenta 1.2-litre turbo the unclassifiable crossover It’s a super-mini-SUV… or something like that. The Juke is tough to classify, because it looks like nothing else on the road. It’s best to think of it as a crossover, combining the features of a car and an SUV. Once you get past the looks, the engine – borrowed from its cousin the Qashqai – offers excellent performance thanks to the Juke’s smaller size and lighter weight. dads will like The head-turning looks (because sometimes dads are just that shallow). moms will like The brisk performance and the six-speed manual gearbox (because moms also like to pretend they’re racing drivers). Price from R254 900

chrysler grand voyager 2.8-litre CRD limited the seven-seater for parents who’ll pay anything for their children’s comfort Check the specs, and you’ll read “Seating Capacity: 7”. Sounds good… but that’s only the start. Depending how you fold the seats, the cargo capacity goes from 934 to 3 912 litres – which will comfortably fit the pram, bassinette, rocking chair, crib, bed, cupboards and other marriedwith-children paraphernalia. dads will love The spacious interior, which lets you travel with the family without having them sitting on top of you. moms will love The Swivel ’n Go system, where the two middle chairs swivel around so the children can face each other across a table. Pricing from R674 990

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hen you become a parent, buying a new car takes on a whole world of complications. Instead of “top speed”, “road-holding” and “ability to navigate S-bends while your mates get rowdy in the back”, you’re faced with grown-up concerns like “safety” and “space” and (ugh!) “convenience”. Here’s a look at some of the best family cars on the market. Take a read, then take a test drive… and you’ll find that just because you have a family, doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun.

the new land rover Despite what the name suggests, this is not a new Land Rover Discovery; instead, it’s a replacement for the Freelander, and an entirely new brand all of its own. It’ll be priced cheaper than the Range Rover (when it hits the South African market in mid-2015), and while it has a few hi-tech bells and whistles (like the 8-inch touchscreen on the dash), it’s designed to be able to comfortably and capably go off-road if it has to. It is a Land Rover, after all. dads will like The fact that it’s a Land Rover (unless he’s a Jeep man). moms will like The 5+2 seating set-up, which adds a third row of seats for bigger children. Price TBC

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volkswagen caravelle 2.0BiTDI 4Motion DSG the bus for us Browse through the VW catalogue and you’ll find the California, the Kombia and the Caravelle. And while the latter may feel it has “Mom’s Taxi” stamped on its proverbial forehead, it remains one of the best family cars on the road. If you’re a big family (or a small family with big luggage) and you like to travel, this one’s worth the investment. dads will love The way it drives. It should feel like a van; instead it feels like a really big sedan. moms will love The fully automatic Climatronic threezone aircon system, which means you’re not stuck hearing about “driver comfort” while you sit freezing or sweating. Price from R706 400

ford ecoSport 1.5 GTDi titanium the fabulously functional ford Look, this one’s a bit of an ugly duckling. It’s high (as a compact SUV, it has a small base and a tall body), not all that wide, and not terribly handsome… but boy, is it useful. You’re looking at 20 storage compartments, from the cooled glove box to the drawer beneath the passenger seat. There is also plenty of boot space, and a rear seat that can fit three adults, making it incredibly easy to load yourself, your gear, your car seat and your child. dads will like The 362 litres of load space (expandable to 705 litres). They might not like the weird, sideways-opening hinged rear door, though. moms will like The ISOFIX childseat anchors, which keep little ones safely in place. Price from R259 900

volvo XC60 the safety-first crossover This entry-level luxury crossover has been Volvo’s top-selling car for the past five years, and it’s not difficult to see why. The safety rating is off the charts, with a standard kit including front and side airbags, cabinlength window airbags and anti-whiplash front head restraints. This sounds like the kind of car you’d want to drive your family around in. dads will like With a few seatback adjustments, the cargo space, which expands from 495 to 1 455 litres… and then even more, when you fold down the front passenger seat for extra packing space. moms will like The City Safety system, which (at speeds up to 35km/h) activates a warning buzzer if you’re about to hit an object. If you don’t respond, it’ll brake for you. Price from R538 300

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classroom celebrations Celebrating a birthday at school helps children feel special, but

irthdays are a time to feel special, so it’s encouraging when schools celebrate with the birthday child. She’ll have songs sung to her or be given a special crown to wear. But birthday celebrations at school don’t just happen. They take planning, by teachers and parents, and it’s always important to think about what’s best for the children.

and causes less disruption to the school day. As school routine is important, parents who do join the birthday celebration need to check what time is best for the teacher and children. Teachers may like the birthday ring to happen at the start of the day, saving the treats for snacktime, or at the end when children won’t become too distracted.

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Each school will have its own policy about celebrating birthdays during school hours. Some allow parents to join the birthday ring, while others prefer parents not to attend, as not all parents can make it. Greater parental involvement may be expected for younger children’s parties, so it’s always best to speak to the teacher about what can and can’t be done. At Parkview Junior School in Joburg, they like to make a fuss of the birthday child, and ask parents to book a day with them to ensure there aren’t two birthdays on the same day, says Grade R teacher Marika Tannahill. Parents aren’t invited to stay, but they can drop off treats for the class. Birthdays are a happy celebration for the child and everyone in their class, say Marlese Naudé and Debbie McLaughlin, from Lea Pre-Primary in Cape Town. But it takes pressure off parents when they don’t need to attend,

Cupcakes are advisable, says Tannahill, who prefers these to cream cakes or ice cream. If parents do send a big cake, it should be cut beforehand, and items like plates and serviettes supplied. Chips, sweets, lollipops, ice-cream cones or party packs aren’t allowed at Lea Pre-Primary, but cupcakes, biscuits and crunchies are welcome, so double-check your catering parameters. The school keeps it simple, especially as children also have their own lunch to eat. If your school does allow party packs, they should all be the same and there should be enough for everyone, says Tannahill. Parents should also be mindful of any allergies, especially nut allergies, when sending in treats. Small, hard sweets aren’t a good idea. But you could provide a snack pack and juice, with each child’s name on it. Lea PrePrimary has the added option of allowing children to donate a book to the school library, to mark the special occasion.

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Sending out invitations at school also needs careful consideration. Some schools only allow you to hand out invitations in class if the entire class is invited. Otherwise they ask that you send an email or hand out invitations personally. Tannahill doesn’t think it’s necessary to invite the whole class, as parties can be expensive, but if only a few children are invited, she asks parents to be sensitive about this. Naudé and McLaughlin ask that parents put invitations in sealed envelopes, with names on each one. “Children are quick to identify invitations,” they say, “and there is inevitably disappointment for those not invited, so invitations should be opened at home.” No matter how you and your child’s teacher plan on making their big day even more special, it is essential to talk, plan and consider everyone.

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there are things that need to be considered. By TAMLYN VINCENT

health

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Allergies are increasing throughout the world and many children, especially, suffer from food allergies. MARINA ZIETSMAN gets advice on how to best deal with the problem.

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he majority of food allergies in children are not severe, and will be outgrown with time, but they can get in the way of your child’s ability to sleep well, play normally, and function at school. The eight foods that account for most of these allergies are cow’s milk, eggs, fish, shellfish, peanuts, tree nuts, soy and wheat.

the signs Most serious food allergies start in infancy and early childhood, and many parents don’t even know their child has a food allergy until they end up in the emergency room. In a broader sense, parents should be aware that food allergies are more common among children who come from families where other members suffer from allergies, and also that babies who suffer from eczema are more prone to develop food allergies. In most cases the allergy affects the skin, gastrointestinal and respiratory tracts, but in serious cases also the cardiovascular system. Dr Sarah Karabus, a Cape Town paediatrician and allergologist, points out the immediate signs, which are reactions that usually occur within minutes of eating the particular food, but can sometimes take up to two hours before becoming visible. “The most common symptoms would be hives or wheals (an extremely itchy red rash),” says Karabus. “With more severe reactions, there may be diarrhoea and vomiting.” In extreme cases there may be breathing problems, such as coughing, wheezing, voice changes or anaphylaxis. Karabus also warns against confusing food allergies with food intolerance. “Food intolerance doesn’t involve the immune system,” she says, “which means no antibodies develop against the food as they would with an allergy.” Food intolerance is rarely life-threatening.

be alert “The first step would be to give the child an antihistamine,” says Karabus, “but if the child is known to have a severe allergy, the parent might also give an adrenaline injection into the thigh.” Thereafter, you should go to the closest emergency room, she adds. The best measure of precaution, though, is education – for the parents, the child if they are old enough, the family, and all the caregivers, including school staff. “Everyone must be taught to read food labels, to determine which foods are likely to contain a particular ingredient,” says Karabus. She adds that emergency medications must always be available, even at school. The law has changed and teachers are now allowed to administer medication. Parents can get a form from their healthcare practitioner that gives written permission for teachers to act.

back-up Karabus also gives the following advice: • If your child is allergic to a food from a major group, such as milk, supplements must be given so that the child does not develop any nutritional deficiencies. • It is useful to consult a dietician trained in the management of childhood food allergies. • Children often outgrow certain food allergies, so it’s important to let your paediatrician or allergologist retest your child every few months in order to determine if that food can be reintroduced into the diet. • Children rarely outgrow a fish allergy and only 20% of children will outgrow a peanut allergy. • If tests show that the allergy levels are decreasing, a “food challenge” should be performed whereby the food is given in incremental amounts according to specific guidelines, in a controlled hospital setting.

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party etiquette

surviving the party circuit Children’s birthday parties are no longer the simple cupcake-and-balloon affairs of our childhood. Some parents find it hard to keep up with the volume of invitations while others aren’t sure how to decline without causing offence. SAMANTHA PAGE guides you through the busy party circuit.

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y son could barely sit by himself when his first birthday party invitation arrived. I had been attending a moms-and-babes playgroup for just two weeks when an enthusiastic mother handed out bright blue envelopes with a Thomas the Tank Engine seal to everyone at the end of class. I didn’t know her that well, but I felt obligated to attend – partly because she “sold” it so well (“I’d love to see you; it will be a wonderful opportunity to connect with other new moms going through sleep training”), and partly because I, naively, thought it would be rude to decline such a heartfelt and kind invitation. It’s a fait accompli that from the moment your children start spending time with other children, whether at a playgroup, school, social or sports club, like Scouts or judo, you can be sure your weekends will start filling up with parties. “I definitely feel the pressure to accept all the invitations I receive because, today, parents put in a great deal of effort and some spend a fortune, too,” says Leila Petersen-Gallant, from Cape Town, mom to a two year old. Our supersize consumer culture has funnelled through to children’s birthday parties making them bigger, splashier and more expensive, which leaves many parents guilt-ridden about declining an invitation.

Last year, the parents of 5-year-old Alex, in Plymouth in the UK, were handed an invoice for missing a friend’s birthday party. Alex’s mom and dad had accepted the invitation to the Ski Slope and Snowboard Centre party, but had to change their plans at the last minute. The bill was sent home in the boy’s school bag and now the friends no longer play together. It makes you long for the days of simply blowing out candles in a darkened room with an out-of-tune “Happy Birthday” swelling in the background, doesn’t it? So, what etiquette should you follow when you decline? How do you decide which parties to attend or skip? And do you still give a gift if you’re not attending? Here are some guidelines to help prevent birthday party burnout:

I always RSVP, considering the time and expense involved, but never by text or email. I call because I think parents appreciate the show of respect.

how do you decide whether to accept or decline? “As a same-gender family, we think carefully about who our daughter Rebecca, 3, is exposed to and, in deciding which parties to attend, we try to ensure that our value system aligns to that of the playmate’s parents,” say Marlow and Douglas Newman-Valentine. “We always involve Rebecca in the discussion, and give preference to invites from girls she mentions often – the ones with whom she has a real connection.” Pro tip Try not to allow your guilt for all your late nights at the office, or your own competitiveness, trick you into accepting every invite. Let your child guide your decision. They instinctively know where they feel accepted and comfortable.

how do you RSVP without causing offence? “I always RSVP, considering the time and expense involved, but never by text or email. I call because I think parents appreciate the show of respect. I think sometimes I detect a note of relief when I decline because, for the hostess, it’s one less child and one less parent to entertain,” says Taweni Xaba, Durban mom of three. Pro tip Roughly translated, RSVP means “request for response”, so sit some parties out, but let parents know so they can plan their event accordingly. Lifescript.com suggests this as a possible script: “Thank you so much for the invitation. We are unable to attend, but

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please tell [insert child’s name] to enjoy his party.” You are not obligated to give a reason for your lack of attendance, which saves you from stumbling through an excuse on the phone or in the school parking area.

how do you explain this to your child? “Occasionally my girls have to miss a party, but they know that family engagements, such as visits to Gogo, come first. I keep a schedule on the fridge and the first booked gets preference. We also have a rule that we are open to parties, not sleepovers, as my three girls are all under 10,” adds Taweni. Pro tip Declining an invitation for whatever reason is the perfect opportunity to teach your child an important life lesson: You won’t always be friends with everyone, but you should always be respectful and kind to others.

and what about giving a gift if you’ve declined? According to mamapedia.com, if it’s a very close friend or family member who would’ve received a gift anyway, it wouldn’t be out of place to send something small or even a card, but there’s no obligation if your child is not attending.

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your party

party central

Hosting a party at home can be more convenient than somewhere else, but planning is key. TAMLYN VINCENT

looks at what you’ll need to do.

n invitation… for the same day we had planned for my son’s party. We rescheduled. Another invitation, another reschedule. We settled for a Sunday – good thing the party was at home. Final RSVPs came in the day before. It rained on the day and I spent the first hour boiling the kettle. After the logistical nightmare that was my son’s fifth birthday party, we said never again. But with his sixth birthday around the corner, we’re back to planning. At least this year I have some experience (gained from countless parties attended last year), and advice from moms and professionals.

so, what’s first? “Don’t make the same mistake as me. Give yourself about one-and-a-half months to plan,” says Suzanne Collinge-Sim, a party planner in Cape Town. “Look at dates first: You want to make sure the majority of your

friends. Consider what your child enjoys when deciding on entertainment. Art and crafts could suit your daughter, but your son may prefer a jumping castle. Also think about how much space you have, and what can fit in comfortably. Finally, have a plan B in case of rainy weather. This applies to the venue and the activities, says Van der Berg.

who’s coming? Party size can be difficult, says Durban planner Sonja Mellet. Often parents feel they should invite the entire class, but with friends and family this can mean lots of guests. Some moms say this is too much, and prefer inviting only a few friends. “The ideal number is 20 to 25 children,” notes Mellet. The entertainer can handle this, there is enough support for activities, and party shops often stock supplies in packs of 20.

guests can attend the party, “especially around holidays.” Choose a time that works for your child, like when he’ll be the least tired, and keep your party to two or three hours, she advises. Then decide on a theme with your child. If you’re lucky, he’s been planning this party since the last one, and has a Pinterest board full of ideas. Of course, this can change at the drop of a new movie, so talk about all the options and choose one that appeals and is easy enough to pull off. Decor for commercial themes can be a bit pricier, notes Collinge-Sim, but maybe get a few themed centrepieces and follow through in the colour scheme. When you start planning, take your child’s personality into account, says Joburg party organiser Oxana van der Berg. If they can handle big groups, invite the whole class, otherwise stick to select

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Send out invitations about a month in advance, says Van der Berg. This gives you, and your guests, enough time to plan. Remember to include important details, such as “bring a costume and towel”. An RSVP date, giving you at least a week’s notice, is also important. Mellet says a big concern for parents is not getting RSVPs, so they don’t know how many children to expect. Send a reminder a week before, and plan a few extra party packs, just in case. Collinge-Sim advises that for children under six years old, the invitation is usually extended to parents and siblings, so request this information up front.

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Don’t make the same mistake as me. Give yourself about one-and-a-half months to plan.

their homes, says Mellet, but you’ll also need entertainment for at least one hour. Activities could include lawn games, putting out a dress-up box or make-up station, or having water games in summer. If you’re booking entertainment, try a jumping castle, face painter, magician or clown, but not necessarily all of them. Time the entertainment. Van der Berg suggests that the face painter be there as guests arrive, while a magician can arrive an hour into the party. A princess character can either greet guests, or make a surprise entrance. One novel idea is to get a piñata and fill it with the party packs, for the final entertainment. Children need something more substantial to eat than chips and sweets, says Van der Berg, so go for hot dogs, sandwiches or finger foods. Biltong, dry wors, dried mango and fresh fruit are also good options, says Mellet, who suggests catering for two-thirds of your party. If you have 20 children, supply 15 cupcakes, with one packet of chips and sweets being suitable for 10 children. Homemade food goes down well, but be realistic about what you can actually do; I’m no baker, so I will be outsourcing the cake. Mellet also says you don’t need a big cake and cupcakes. Something will go to waste. Replace cupcakes with brownies, crunchies or decorated biscuits. Parents don’t need too much food, but if there are any leftovers, have a few takeaway containers for guests. If it’s a cold day, make sure there is plenty of tea and coffee, and no matter the weather, have a ready supply of juice and water.

Don’t forget that there may be special requirements for some of your guests. Children may have an allergy, to nuts perhaps, that could affect your catering. There may also be a child with special needs attending your party. Speak to the child’s parents about what you can do to accommodate her. (See the “dealing with difference” article on page 7 for practical tips.)

is everything ready? Make party packs and get nonperishable foods early on. Check with your suppliers that everything will be delivered on time. The day before, get as much ready as possible, from decor to baked items. Think about safety, advises Van der Berg: if you’re having a pool party, make sure there is constant supervision, and always keep the dogs away from the action. Put together a party plan with times. Entertainment and games can start half an hour into the party and cut the cake after an hour, suggests Collinge-Sim. When the big day dawns, get an early start. Anticipate early arrivals and give yourself and your child enough time to get ready. Give jobs to family and friends, or enlist the help of a party planner, to help make the day go smoother. “Take lots of photos and don’t sweat the small stuff,” says Van der Berg. The things you worry about are hardly ever noticed by the guests and, more importantly, the birthday child isn’t the slightest bit concerned. Now that’s something I’m going to have to remember for my son’s birthday this year.

find your party inspiration • childmag.co.za/resources/birthday-parties • childmag.co.za/content/party-planning-checklist • pinterest.com/childmagazine/lets-party

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birthday party basics It’s party time! Plan your child’s big day using one of our inspiring themes: pamper parties

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animal crackers

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on the move

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create and experiment pg 26 fun for foodies

pg 28

abracadabra!

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good sports

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Make sure nothing falls through the cracks by using our handy checklist and party service suggestions to plan your child’s party. From decorations and party food to games and entertainers, our all-new party guide gives you tons of inspiration and solutions.

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child’s name: the month before establish a party budget choose the venue set the date and time if applicable, ask for your child’s updated class list draw up the guest list send out invitations decide on games or activities book entertainment if necessary

two weeks before order or plan the cake decide on decorations plan the menu book caterers plan party packs

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one week before make a list of games and activities do the shopping ensure sufficient crockery, cutlery, tables and chairs follow up on outstanding RSVPs prepare food that can be made in advance confirm drop-off or pick-up times with your caterer, entertainer or helpers wrap prizes for games and activities clean house and garden

party date: the day before charge your camera/video camera check your first-aid kit bake or collect the birthday cake – remember candles, matches and knife buy any last-minute perishables assemble the party packs get cooking check safety around house – pool is covered, etc.

party time set up the party table, games and decorations put up a welcome sign or direction arrows make sure pets are safely locked away enjoy don’t forget the thank-you notes

oops, eskom! Make sure you have a back-up plan in case of load shedding. For example, do you have a gas braai on standby if you’ve planned to cook hot dogs on the stove? If anything else depends on electricity, you should have a small generator on hand or have a Plan B.

who to call party accessories planners equipment hire entertainers catering

Download your party-planning checklist from childmag.co.za/downloads

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accessories China Town – Sable Square, Ottery, Parow / 071 238 1558 (Sable Square), 084 659 9110 (Ottery), 072 426 8898 (Parow) / chinatownsa.co.za Funky Star – Bellville, Tygervalley / 021 945 1004 / funkystar.co.za Funtasia Party Décor – Belville / 021 914 6935 / funtasiapartydecor.co.za Its Mine Labels – nationwide / 011 646 3640 / itsmine.co.za Just Kidding Around – nationwide / 031 562 0200 / justkiddingaround.co.za Just Labels – posted countrywide / 031 266 1738 / justlabels.co.za Kidsfancydress.co.za – Table View / 021 557 6891 / info@kidsfancydress.co.za / kidsfancydress.co.za Kids Labels – based in Constantia / 021 794 6637 / kidslabels.co.za Kidz-a-Peal – Plumstead / 021 762 8580 / kidzapeal.com Kidz Cardz and Party Buckets – nationwide delivery / 011 028 8774, 072 584 7083 / kidzcardz.co.za Money Box Party Packs – nationwide / 082 422 7872 / tracyf@iafrica.com / jorsam.co.za Parties4Africa – nationwide / 073 942 1730 / info@parties4africa.co.za / parties4africa.co.za Party Packs and Piñatas – nationwide delivery / 087 805 9977, 082 683 5766 / info@partypacksandpinatas.co.za / partypacksandpinatas.co.za

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Piñata Africa – nationwide deliveries / 082 457 2276 / mgwyther@mweb.co.za Plastics for Africa – plasticsforafrica.com Playful Parties – Cape Town / 082 576 1122 / playfulparties.co.za

catering Cake my Day – Cape Town, southern suburbs / 079 621 5159 / Facebook: Cake My Day Cakes for Kidz – Fresnaye / 021 434 1796, 082 921 2803 / fleishmn@telkomsa.net Cuppycake Parties – Parow – 084 558 3976 Delite Foods / nationwide / 021 702 0721 / delitefoods.co.za Healthy Cakes for You – southern suburbs, Claremont / 082 968 2717 / healthycakes4you.hostei.com High Tea Tighty – Claremont / 021 671 2375 / highteatighty.co.za Smooch – Canal Walk, Tyger Valley / info@ smoochsmile.co.za / smoochsmile.co.za

entertainers Barnyard Theatre – Willowbridge / 021 914 8898 / barnyardtheatre.co.za Buddy Bear – Helderberg, southern suburbs, Cape Town, northern suburbs / buddybear.co.za Build-A-Bear Workshop – Tyger Valley, Canal Walk / 08611 23277 / buildabear.co.za Debby Doo Entertainment – around Cape Town, Stellenbosch, Paarl / 084 409 1683 / debbydoo.co.za, Facebook: Debby Doo Entertainment

Golden Bridge Theatre Company – all areas of Cape Town / 082 535 0838 / suziq1111@gmail.com Magical Parties – Cape Town / 073 236 1920 / magicalparties.co.za Puddles the Clown – Western Cape / 079 717 1916 / puddlestheclown.co.za Puppet Shows for All – Cape Town and surrounds / 021 448 0794, 082 562 4588 / puppetshowsforall.co.za Puppet World Entertainment – 082 808 0057 / heather@puppetworld.co.za / puppetworld.co.za The Scratch Patch – Simon’s Town, V&A Waterfront / 021 786 2020 (Simon’s Town), 021 419 9429 (V&A Waterfront)

equipment hire Biembie – all areas of Cape Town / 060 743 0455 / biembie.co.za Carnival Game Hire – Cape Town and surrounds / 061 321 2510 / gamehire.co.za Jenhire – Western Cape / 073 870 2310 / jennypenn01@gmail.com Jolly Jump Castles – delivers to most areas / 021 552 6757, 021 979 1729 / jollyjumpcastles.com Kiddie Rides – Observatory / 021 448 2541 / kiddierides.co.za Kids Party World – 082 718 3121 / kidsparty-world.co.za Rumble Grumble Parties – all of Cape Town / 074 903 8468 / rumblegrumble.co.za

planners Chew Chew Express – Western Cape / 084 569 9437 / chewchewexpress.co.za Daytona Kidz Party Venue – Killarney Gardens / 084 613 7718 / daytona.kidz@ gmail.com / daytonavenue.co.za Dottibug Parties and Events – Meadowridge, Constantia Valley / 021 712 7810, 083 377 9260 / dottibugparties@ gmail.com / dottibugparties.co.za Enchanted Parties – all areas of Cape Town / 021 683 0295, 083 602 5563 / enchantedparties.co.za Gumboot Parties – Durbanville / 072 182 9333 / gumbootparties.co.za Jellybean Events – all areas of Cape Town / 083 3929 593 / jellybeanworld.co.za Kidz Party Hire – Rondebosch East / 076 908 6933 / kidzpartyhire@gmail.com Lil’ Occassions – 082 501 4133 (Cape Town), 076 914 4856 (Helderberg) Paula’s Party Stuff – all of Western Cape / 021 713 2020 / paula@paulaspartystuff. co.za (weekends) / paulaspartystuff.co.za The Kiddie Rockers – all areas / 076 929 1721 / kidsthemedparties.yolasite.com

venues Fun House – Durbanville Hills / 082 770 3286 / Facebook: Fun House Come Play Kidz Discovery – Camps Bay / 083 654 2494 / kidzdiscovery.co.za The Kids Shack – Wynberg / 083 380 9951

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pamper parties Give your little girl a day of glitz and glamour with spa parties or a make-over extravaganza. thanks from a princess Colourful, home-made bath salts, funky bath slippers or a simple piece of jewellery all make a perfect, practical thank-you gift.

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pretty nibbles Every girl knows the life of a diva involves days of being pampered. Let someone spoil your princess and her friends with sparkly nails, toffed up hair and a foot spa. Serve “grown up” food such as cheese and crudite platters. Petits fours look glamorous under glass cloches.

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Gorgeous Me – venue of your choice / 079 896 9588 / gorgeousme.co.za Little Ladies on the Move – southern/northern suburbs / 072 683 3075 / littleladiesonthemove1 @gmail.com

planners

Cherry Dreams – all areas of Cape Town / 082 771 1832 / cherrykidsparties. weebly.com Sparkle Parties and Planning – 076 585 5779 / sparkleparties.withtank.com

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animal crackers

on the farm

case you haven’t noticed, kid, I’m

pigs in a blanket

no wild animal. Except at parties.”

Mini hot dogs make for ideal fun bites for children. Roll cut-up Viennas in puff pastry and bake.

entertainers shaun the sheep Decorate chocolate muffins with small marshmallows to create fluffy sheep characters. Use black fruit gums for the face and candy eye decorations to give it personality.

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Minni Mo Snake and Reptile Show – Imhoff Snake Park or a venue of your choice / 083 244 5194 / minimoshows.com The Incredible Dog Show – national / 083 649 2665, 084 500 0415 / dogzcool.co.za

venues Driftwood Café – Parklands / 021 556 8897, 071 206 1959 / driftwoodcafe100@ gmail.com Two Oceans Aquarium – V&A Waterfront / 021 418 3823 / aquarium.co.za

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Baloo says in The Jungle Book: “In

Bring a mobile zoo to your home, if you have enough space, or take the children to a petting farm. Pony rides, cow milking sessions and animal feedings are very popular. You can also find an entertainer who can make a farmyard of balloon animals.

on the move Boys, especially, gravitate toward all

things that “roll”. Planes, trains, trucks and mallow choo-choo

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Use glacé icing to stick wafer biscuits, marshmallows and sweets together for a candy train. Make a train track from strips of liquorice or cardboard. The idea for these colourful trains was taken from Easy Party Treats For Children. For a review, turn to page 34.

automobiles give endless party inspiration.

Cape Wheel – V&A Waterfront – 021 418 2502 / info@capewheel.co.za / capewheel.co.za City Sightseeing – based in the V&A Waterfront / 021 511 6000 / citysightseeing.co.za

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fuel for fun Call water anything but water, decorate the bottle, and children will be happy.

ahoy, sailors!

Invest in a nautical-shaped cookie cutter to create a colourful fleet.

snacks on the move

All you need is finger biscuits, soft round sweets, a few toothpicks to stick it together, and... vroooom!

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thanks for coming! Say “thank you” with small toy trucks, matchbox cars, or have a funky design of a train printed onto a T-shirt for something useful.

Bugz Playpark – Joostenberg Vlakte / 021 988 8836 / bugzplaypark.co.za Jolly Roger Pirate Boat – Quay 5, V&A Waterfront / 021 421 0909 / pirateboat.co.za Kenilworth and Century Karting – Claremont and Century City / 021 683 2670/6174/6950 (Kenilworth), 021 525 1720 (Canal Walk, Century City) / karting.co.za Pedal Go Karts – Brackenfell / info@ bergtoys.co.za / bergtoys.co.za Ratanga Junction – Century City / 021 550 8504 / ratanga.co.za Spur Steak Ranches – nationwide / 0860 007 787 / spur.co.za The Blue Train Park – Mouille Point / 084 314 9200 / thebluetrainpark.com The Playshed – Pinelands / 021 801 0141/2 / theplayshed.appspot.com Wild Clover Farm Kids Zone – Stellenbosch / 021 865 2248 / reservations@wildclover.co.za / wildclover.co.za

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party ideas

create &

experiment Have a science party with a “bang”, or a music show with applause – give children the chance to join in with the party creation. one potato...

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party favou Give each ch r ild a palette of non-toxic, washable p aints to take home.

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Cut shapes out of potatoes, give children lots of space, paper and paint, and let them create a mural.

backyard bubbles

pop idol

Hire a karaoke machine and microphones, collect CDs with popular songs, and set the stage for a live show. You can also rent “disco” costumes, and let the partygoers dress to the nines for their performance.

Mix two cups of water with half a cup of dishwashing liquid, and let the children start blowing. The more bubbles they make, the more fun they’ll have (play chase-the-bubble). Remind them not to swallow.

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let’s get crafty

As a party activity children can do mosaics, beadwork, ceramic painting, sewing, make loom bands or do scrapbooking. Book a creative entertainer to run the show for you if your “creative juices” are low.

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Artee Parteez – all areas of Cape Town / 084 207 0180 / arteeparteez.co.za Atom Ant Science Fun – Western Cape / 021 785 4459 / atomant.co.za Candle Avenue – Durbanville / 083 274 4110 / candleavenue.co.za Create Art Studio – Durbanville / 072 766 3246 – createart.co.za Dillon & Jada fashion parties – venue of choice / 079 447 3631 / dillonandjada.com Drama Tots – CBD and Atlantic Seaboard / 083 445 5978 / dramatots.co.za Eazy Stitch Kidz – Western Cape / 083 629 2929 / eazystitch.co.za Helen O Grady Drama Academy – Cape Town / 021 674 7478 / dramaafrica.com QT Pie Crafts – Tableview / 084 580 7497 Sue Nepgen Art and Craft Studios and Edutainment Agents – Constantia, Kenilworth, venue of choice / 021 794 6609, 083 237 7242 / snepgen@xsinet.co.za Tower Kids – nationwide / 0800 220 488 / towerkids.co.za

Wendy’s Fabric Painting – Pinelands / 021 531 8076, 082 391 4954 / wendyadriaan@telkomsa.net Zizamele Ceramics – Cape Town, south peninsula / 084 556 6423 / zizamele.co.za

venues Artjamming – Green Point, Milnerton, V&A Waterfront, Tyger Valley / artjamming.co.za Cape Town Science Centre – Observatory / 021 300 3200 / ctsc.org.za Clay Café – Hout Bay / 021 790 3318 / claycafe.co.za Color me Crazy Den – Parklands / 021 554 4135 / hanliellis@me.com My Space to Create – Newlands, Cape Town / 072 250 0045 / myspacetocreate.co.za School of Rock – Claremont / 021 671 9620, 082 412 7733 / claremont. schoolofrock.com

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party ideas

fun for

foodies

egg hunt

Let them decorate chocolate eggs with edible paint, then hide them in the garden for the hunt.

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party favours Tie delectable eats in a clean dishcloth with a ribbon and a wooden spoon as a thankyou gift.

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join us For invitations, make rolling pins out of white cardboard and plastic, and decorate them in your theme. This inspiring idea was taken from Party Magic 4 For Boys and Girls. For more info on the book, turn to page 34.

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children loose in the kitchen for a day.

fun in the kitchen

Children can bake themed cookies or decorate cupcakes. Give them lots of space to bake and create.

entertainers Italian pasta parties with La Dante – Gardens, V&A Waterfront or a venue of your choice / 021 465 8261 / ladante.co.za

venues

foodie food

Children can make all sorts of goodies. Fruit kebabs, sandwiches and mac ’n cheese are culinary favourites and easy to make.

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Col’Cacchio Pizzeria Westlake – Westlake, Tokai / 021 702 4327 / colcacchio.co.za Little Cooks Club – Helderberg, northern suburbs, southern suburbs / headoffice@littlecooksclub.co.za / littlecooksclub.co.za Nice Touch Cooking School – Camps Bay / 082 319 9215, 021 437 1150 / nicetouch.co.za The Kids Cooking and Party Club – southern suburbs and mobile / 083 309 8024 / thekidscookingclub.co.za

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abracadabra! Delight your party guests with these delicious magic-themed treats from For Good Times by JULIE GALLAGHER. alf cake sawing indh ients

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magician’s top hat pops ingredients • 1 packet marshmallows • 1 packet Oreos or similar shape biscuits • dark chocolate • white fondant icing • silver edible glitter • straws or plastic sticks method 1 Melt the chocolate and push a straw into the top of the marshmallow. 2 Using the straw as a “handle”, dip the marshmallow in chocolate and then place it in the centre of the Oreo. 3 When the chocolate has set, pipe a line around the top hat to form a band with the white icing. 4 Sprinkle the icing with edible glitter.

about the book For Good Times (Quivertree Publications) by Julie Gallagher, brought to us by the party store In Good Company, presents twelve party plans that will have you entertaining throughout the year. This beautifully illustrated book is full of inspired ideas, do-able DIYs, push print stationery and keeping-it-real recipes (compiled by Taryne Jakobi). And as an added bonus, when you buy the book you get access to all the themes online, where you can download the templates. For Good Times is available from all good bookstores for R298.

entertainers Glendini – Cape Town / 073 405 1199 / escapemagic@gmail.com Tony Lee Magician – venue of choice / 082 899 0109

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sports Active children are happy children, so get them to play a game or two on their birthday. And remember, winning isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t everything.

soccer pops Use edible markers, piped chocolate or royal icing to turn white icingcoated cake pops into balls.

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Serve traditional sports arena fare such as hamburgers, popcorn, hot dogs and sandwiches.

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musical hula-hoops Working on the same principle as musical chairs, create an outside area with the cones and let the games begin.

get out there Book your party at a venue with rock climbing, ziplining, obstacle courses and other sporting games for children.

gold for everyone Chocolate medals make for a special “thanks for coming” gift or opt for plastic sport sets.

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Andy’s Action Parties – most areas of Western Cape / 082 447 3613 / aaparty.co.za Battlefield Live SA – in and around Cape Town, Stellenbosch and Paarl / 084 364 9979 / battlefieldlive.co.za Cape Canopy Tour – Elgin / 021 300 0501 / capecanopytour.co.za DanceStarz parties – venue of choice / 021 712 7656 / parties@ dancetotz.co.za En Garde School sword-fighting parties – venue of choice / 072 194 1926 / engardefencing.co.za Into the Net Netball Academy – venue of choice / 021 790 8931 / netballacademy.co.za Laser Quest Parties – venue of choice / 084 555 5202 / mobilelasertag.co.za Lasertag – Tokai, Imhoff Farm, Kommetjie / 021 790 7603 / lasertag.co.za Learn 2 Surf – Muizenberg / 083 414 0567 / learn2surf.co.za Little Kickers – nationwide / 060 818 8888 / littlekickers.co.za Sunscene – Atlantis Dunes, Scarborough / 021 783 0203 / sunscene.co.za Surf Emporium – Muizenberg / 021 788 8687 / surfemporium.co.za Swat Laser Tag – all areas of Cape Town / 074 188 8777 / swatlasertag.co.za

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The Silk Workshop Circus Parties – venue of choice / 073 273 3538 / thesilkworkshop.com

venues

Acrobranch – Constantia / 086 999 0369 / acrobranch.co.za Clamber Club – nationwide / 011 325 2031 / headoffice@clamberclub.com / clamberclub.com Cricket School of Excellence – throughout Cape Town / 0861 123 273 / cricketschool.co.za Franky’s Kids World – Sea Point / 021 433 0445 / frankysdiner.co.za Funky Frogs – Tygervalley Centre / 071 441 1081 / funkyfrogs.co.za Graceland Venues – Paarl / 021 863 4109 / gracelandvenues.co.za Montague Arena – Montague Gardens / 021 552 3165 / montaguearena.co.za Opikopi Plaas Partytjies – Durbanville / 021 976 6788, 083 458 3476 / opikopipartytjies.co.za Planet Kids – Muizenberg / 021 788 3070 / planetkids.co.za Rugbytots – across Cape Town / 079 410 1728 / rugbytots.co.za The Ice Station – Grand West Casino / 083 303 4907 / icerink.co.za The River Rascals Kids Club @ The River Club – based in Observatory / 021 448 6117 / riverclub.co.za Waterworld Strand – 021 854 4702 / waterslides.co.za

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read preschoolers

Look Who’s Hiding!: Animal Sounds By Sharon Rentta

toddlers

(Published by Scholastic, R115) It’s very noisy on the farm. The cows are singing, the pigs are playing, the lambs are jumping, the donkey is dancing and the chicks are having a party. With lots of humour along the way, toddlers can slide out the pages of this chunky board book to reveal “moos”, “oinks’, “baas”, “neighs” and “cheeps”.

The Great Balloon Hullaballoo By Peter Bently and Mei Matsuoka (Published by Andersen Press, R43) When Simon the squirrel’s mom sends him off to the shop, Simon decides to fly to the moon in Old Uncle Somerset’s hotair balloon in search of cheese. Shopping in outer space is very exciting, but proves to be a bit of a distraction. This is another irresistible romp from the creators of The Great Dog Bottom Swap, which has been shortlisted for the Roald Dahl Funny Prize.

early graders

preteens and teens

Let’s Read!: Marcello Mouse and the Masked Ball and Monsters, an Owner’s Guide By Julie Monks, Jonathan Emmett and Mark Oliver (Published by Macmillan Children’s Books, R82 each) The Let’s Read! series contains original stories of favourite picture books that have been redesigned to support children who are growing in reading confidence. There are 16 titles in the series. In Marcello Mouse children can read about our hero’s trip to a magical masked ball. But he hasn’t been invited and soon discovers this ball is not a place for a mouse. The second book contains all you need to know about assembling your own monster.

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The Shadow’s Curse By Amy McCulloch (Published by Random House, R164) Raim is no closer to figuring out the meaning of the broken vow that sentenced him to exile for life. But with his former best friend now a tyrannical Khan who is holding the girl Raim loves captive, he finds it hard to care. Every day he and Draikh learn more about their powers, but it quickly becomes clear that he will never be able to stop Khareh and free Wadi unless he can free himself from the ultimate taboo of his people. Reluctantly, Raim begins the long journey down to the dangerous south, to find the maker of his oath. magazine cape town

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Easy Party Treats for Children By Janette Mocke

Party Magic 3 and 4 For Boys and Girls By Arina du Plessis and Bernice van der Merwe

(Published by Struik Lifestyle, R210) This book is aimed at anyone who wants to give their child a perfect party, without blowing the budget or having to spend hours in the kitchen. Using relatively few, readily available biscuits, sweets and decorations, it is possible to create a variety of treats for parties. Party themes include “Vehicles”, “Planes and Trains”, “Aliens” and “Creepy Crawlies”, and “Princesses and Magic Forests”.

(Published by Human and Rousseau, R188) The Party Magic books make it so easy to organise a fabulous party for children that you may even enjoy it yourself. The book’s point of departure is simple – it’s about wholesome fun and games that won’t break the bank. Offering step-by-step instructions for cakes, invitations, gift bags, sweet and savoury snacks and delicious drinks, there is something to please every taste, age group, season and budget.

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Perfect Parties By Janet Kohler

Cook and Enjoy for Kids By S.J.A. de Villiers and Eunice van der Berg

(Published by Struik Lifestyle, R325) Are your children nagging you to arrange a really fun birthday party for them, but the very thought has you quaking? Janet Kohler is a perfectionist with an attention to detail that is quite breathtaking. With the assistance of stylist extraordinaire Penelope Mitchell, in Perfect Parties she presents a dazzling array of inspirational party ideas, complemented by delicious recipes. She also guides the reader through every aspect of a party – from choosing a theme; through décor and preparation countdowns; right down to the step-by-step recipes.

(Published by Human and Rousseau, R179) Having a foodie-themed party? This colourful guide will show you how easy, and how much fun, it is to cook. More than 55 mouthwatering recipes have been specially selected and tested. Each method comes with step-by-step instructions and is illustrated with full colour photographs. The book also teaches children how to use a recipe, measuring the correct way, using kitchen tools and utensils, and understanding cooking terms. Party treats children can concoct include date surprises and a party cake.

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You can also access the calendar online at

what’s on in june

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Your guide for what to do, where to go and who to see. Compiled by LUCILLE KEMP

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special events

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Good Night Market launches at the V&A Waterfront The Watershed at the V&A Waterfront introduces the Good Night Market once a month. This will add live music and food trucks to the market’s offerings.

A Spartacus of Africa Artscape is staging a production involving a cast of 100 dancers and a 70-strong orchestra for an exciting new version of Spartacus, last produced in South Africa in the 1980s.

Wriggle and Rhyme holiday classes During the June/July holidays, carers and their babies and toddlers can enjoy fun, stimulating music classes in Constantiaberg or Fish Hoek.

Hands of Hope This organisation creates awareness and collects donations for abandoned and orphaned babies around the Western Cape. They donate formula and nappies and other baby essentials to the safe houses.

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Tutankhamun – His Tomb and His Treasures Exhibition at GrandWest The exhibition has recreated the tomb of Tutankhamun to scale, and features over 1 000 exquisitely reconstructed burial treasures produced by the finest Egyptian craftsmen under scientific supervision.

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2 tuesday Tutankhamun – His Tomb and His Treasures Exhibition at GrandWest The tour begins with a multimedia presentation illustrating the fascinating story behind the archaeologist’s exploration, the history of Tutankhamun and the culture of ancient Egypt. The exhibition has recreated the tomb of Tutankhamun to scale, and features over 1 000 reconstructed burial treasures produced by Egyptian craftsmen under scientific supervision. These replicas, coupled with state-of-the-art technology and video material, provide a vivid illustration of the culture and spiritual world of the ancient Egyptians. There is a special children’s audio guide offered too. It takes about two hours to walk through the exhibition. Ends 12 June. Time: 9am–7pm Sunday–Thursday, 9am–9pm Friday and Saturday. Venue: SunExhibits Centre, GrandWest Casino, Goodwood. Cost: R80–R160, special discounted family package of four tickets, children 5 years old and younger free. For more info: visit tut-exhibition.co.za

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kykNET Wacky Wine Weekend Join thousands of wine lovers for the annual wine pilgrimage to the Robertson Wine Valley. The weekend is filled with master tastings, gourmet food, live entertainment, children’s activities, outdoor events and more. Ends 7 June. Time: 10am–5pm. Venue: wineries of the Robertson Wine Valley. Cost: R120 per passport, which will give you access to all the farms over the weekend as well as the opportunity to sample their wines. This includes a tasting glass and goodie bag. Contact: 023 626 3167, manager@robertsonwinevalley.com or visit wackywineweekend.com

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Century City Father’s Day adventure Get up close with the animals and insects of Intaka Island, and enjoy canoeing, campfires, wall climbing, a night hike, and a campout in the Intaka Island Eco-Centre or under the stars next to the bonfire in the lapa. This is accompanied by wholesome food, goodie bags, gifts for the dads and an unforgettable action-packed programme. Pack sleeping bags, pillows and an overnight bag. Ends 21 June. Ideal for 5–12 year olds. Time: starts 9am 20 June. Venue: Intaka Island, Century City. Cost: R160 for dads and R140 for children. Contact: tatum@centurycity.co.za

Napier Patatfees MTB race Choose from the 15km, 30km or 60km distances. Time: 7:30am. Venue: Agulhas School of Skills, Napier. Cost: R80 for 15km, R140 for 30km and R160 for 60km. For more info: visit napierpatamtb.co.za

19 friday Gordon’s Bay Winter Wonderland Festival Gordon’s Bay hosts the spectcular festival of lights with the highlight being the carnival week on 26 June–5 July. Ends 19 July. Time, venue and cost: tbc. For more info: visit winterwonderland.co.za

23 tuesday Nsansa Montessori open day Open to all families looking for a small authentic Montessori preschool with warmth and charm. For 2,5–5 year olds. Time: 2pm–4pm. Venue: Nsansa Montessori School, 139 1st Ave, Kenilworth. Cost: free. Contact: 021 683 3458 (mornings) or nsansamontessori@ gmail.com

25 thursday 6 saturday The Fun Factory Zip Zap Circus Show The show raises funds for Imhoff Waldorf School and features acrobats, trapeze artists and jugglers. Time: 3pm–5pm, with a short interval. Venue: The Zip Zap Circus Dome (next to the Artscape), Founders Garden, Jan Smuts St, Foreshore. Cost: R70 and under 2 years old free. Contact: 021 783 3056, lisa@ imhoffwaldorf.org or visit zip-zap.co.za

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Hermanus Fynarts Festival Experience workshops, talks, food and wine, performances, films, exhibitions and demonstrations. For the children there’ll be music, workshops and puppet shows. Ends 16 June. Time and cost: varies per event. Venue: varies, please visit the website. For more info: visit hermanusfynarts.co.za

Taste the Helderberg This exclusive evening serves up quality wine and food unique to the area. The Helderberg area offers cellars, restaurants and eateries from Somerset West to Stellenbosch and Sir Lowry’s Pass Village. You can enjoy more than 100 fine wines from at least 25 cellars and signature dishes from chefs

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and artisan producers. Wine farms include Avontuur, Longridge, Lyngrove, Peter Falke, Vergenoegd and Waterkloof Estate. Time: 5pm–9pm. Venue: NH The Lord Charles Hotel. Cost: R80. Contact: 021 886 4310 or visit wineroute.co.za

Cape Town SPCA annual book sale A fund-raising event for the organisation. Ends 28 June. Time: 9am–9pm daily. Venue: Canal Walk. Cost: free entry. Contact: spca-ct.co.za

27 saturday Canal Walk’s Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs This show is brought to life by award-winning duo Fred Abrahamse and Marcel Meyer. It showcases the talent of

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some of our finest musical-theatre stars. For children 3 years and older and accompanied by an adult. Ends 19 July. Time: 11am, 12:30pm and 2pm Tuesday–Sunday. Venue: centre court, Canal Walk Shopping Centre. Cost: R75. Contact: 021 529 9799 Children ride and eat free this winter at Cape Point Children get a free ride on the Flying Dutchman Funicular when accompanied by a paying adult, and a free children’s meal for every adult main course ordered in the Two Oceans Restaurant. Ends 19 July. Time: 7am–5pm to enjoy the reserve and 9am–5pm to access the Flying Dutchman Funicular and Two Oceans Restaurant. Venue: Cape Point Nature Reserve. Cost: R110 entry per person 12 years and older and R55 per child 2–12 years old. Contact: 021 780 9010/11 or visit capepoint.co.za

FUN FOR CHILDREN art, culture and science Barn Art 4 Kids at Spice Route The Spice Route Destination in Paarl has a new treasure for children in a little barn hidden between the chocolate factory and the Cottage Café. The Barn Artist Studio Gallery offers fun and interactive canvas painting sessions for children from 7 years and older on weekends and holidays. For weekday and group sessions, booking is required. Time: 11am–4:30pm. Venue: The Barn Artist Studio Gallery, Spice Route, Paarl. Cost: A4 canvas painting R140 per session; A3 canvas painting R200 per session and Spin Art R15 per art piece. Contact: 082 313 0712 or visit spiceroute.co.za Kids’ afternoon madrasah classes Subjects include Soorat al-Kahf reading, Islamic studies and history. Suitable for boys and girls from 4 years old. Time:

World Blood Donor Day Donate a unit of blood at your nearest donor centre and help save up to three lives of patients in dire need of blood. Donors need to be between 16–65 years old, in good health and weigh 50kg or more. For more info contact the South African National Blood Service: 0800 119 031 or visit sanbs.org.za

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calendar 3:30pm–5:30pm every Tuesday and Thursday. Venue: The Venue, 345 Imam Haron Rd, Rondebosch East. Cost: R100 per child per month. Contact: 021 704 1462, 074 106 0713 or stages@polka.co.za Sue Nepgen Children’s Art Choose from 2-D or 3-D projects in creative clay, painting on canvas, painting with inks, watercolours, sketching, chalk or oil pastel pictures, mixed media, printing and etching. For 4–13 year olds. Time: afternoons and Saturday mornings. Venues: Michael Oak Waldorf School, Kenilworth or 28 Klaasenbosch Dr, Constantia. Cost: R685 a term, including materials and firing. Pro rata fees for late joiners. Contact: 021 794 6609, 083 237 7242 or snepgen@xsinet.co.za

29 June–3 July and 13–17 July – Headstart Swimming holiday clinics

classes, talks and workshops Headstart Swimming holiday clinics Improve your skills in the water with 20-minute one-on-one lessons in a 7mx4m indoor, heated pool for all ages and levels. 29 June–3 July and 13–17 July. Time:

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slots between 8:30am–5:30pm. Venue: Headstart Swim School, 104 Queen Victoria Rd, Claremont. Cost: from R160 per clinic. Contact: 021 674 7681 or headstartswim@ gmail.com The Kids Cooking Club and Party Club Join their termly programme or weekly cooking classes for children 2–15 years old. There is an outdoor play area and café available. School groups are welcome and they are now generator powered. Time: varies. Venue: Stodels, Constantia. Cost: varies. Contact Taryn: 083 309 8024, thekidscookingclub@gmail.com or visit thekidscookingclub.co.za Tour of the Montessori Connect Schools Montessori Connect Sunridge for 1–6 year olds. Time: 9am–10am, every weekday in June. Venue: 21 Eagle Crescent, Table View. Contact: 021 556 4119 or mcsunridge@ mweb.co.za. Montessori Connect Children’s Workshop for 1–12 year olds. Time: 9:30am–10:30am, every Wednesday. Venue: 128 Belvedere Rd, Claremont. Contact: 021 671 7538 or childwork@mweb.co.za. Montessori Connect Nutwood for children 3 months–6 years old. Time: 9:30am–10:30am every Wednesday. Venue: 3 Braemar Rd, Green Point. Contact: 021 439 4874 or nutwood.adm@mweb.co.za

family outings Table Mountain Cableway Kidz Season Special Two children under 18 ride free with every adult ticket purchased.

1 May–31 October. Time: first car up 8am or 8:30am. Venue: Lower Cableway Station, Tafelberg Rd. Cost: R225 per adult return ticket. For more info: visit tablemountain.net

finding nature and outdoor play Paarl Rock Abseil As a new attraction, you can now abseil down 100 metres of granite on Paarl Mountain. Time: by appointment. Venue: depart from Cascade County Manor, Waterval Rd, Nederburg, Paarl. Cost: R650– R2 400. Contact: 021 868 0227

Tyger Wizlab From robotics, brainteasers and interactive science to technology and design experiments for young and old. 11 May–26 July. Time: 9am–7pm Monday–Saturday and 9am–5pm Sunday. Venue: Tyger Valley Shopping Centre arena. Cost: free entry, R20 per workshop excluding the Taste of Robotics workshop. To book: visit eventbrite.com

holiday activities ActionArte children’s circus holiday school 29 June–10 July. Time: 9am– 12:30pm, Monday–Friday. Venue: Western Province Park, Epping 2. Cost: R700 per child per week. Contact: 073 273 3538 or actionarte.nicky@gmail.com Cricket School of Excellence holiday clinic A week of cricket-related fun for 4–13 year olds. 29 June–2 July. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: UCT Indoor Sports Centre. Cost: R600. Contact: 0861 123 273, adam@cricketschool.co.za or visit cricketschool.co.za Davy the Dragon and the Star City Davy has just won the prize for the dragon who made the best progress in flying. As a reward his mother decides to make him his favourite pudding and as the recipe requires milk she sends him to

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buy some. On the way, Davy discovers what his address really is. For children 5 years and older. 27 June–19 July. Time: 10am–5pm. Venue: Iziko South African Museum, Planetarium. Cost: R40. Contact: 021 481 3900 or info@iziko.org.za Kids preparing for Ramadaan holiday workshop Children learn all the essentials of fasting in a creative, fun way. WhatsApp bookings welcomed. For 5–12 year olds. 15 June. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Aunty K’s Kids Klub, China Town, Ottery. Cost: R150, includes lunch and all material used. Contact: 021 704 1462, 074 106 0713 or kidsklub1@polka.co.za Kidz Discovery fun factory winter holiday club Includes funky art and crafts, baking, creating things, dress up, role play, clambering fun, play houses, outdoor ball games (weather permitting), sandpits, face painting, a theme-based art corner, crazy dancing and story time.

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All material costs included. For 2–10 year olds Monday–Friday. Wednesday TotChefs and art club combo for 4–10 year olds. 29 June–mid-July. Time: 9:30am–12:30pm. Venue: Kidz Discovery, The Drive, Camps Bay. Cost: R150 for normal club and R200 for TotChefs and art club combos. Contact: 083 654 2494, info@kidzdiscovery.co.za or visit kidzdiscovery.co.za Performing arts workshop There is a showcase evening on the final day. 29 June–3 July. Time: 10:30am–1:30pm Grades 1–7, 2pm–5pm Grade 8 upwards. Venue: The Stage Performing Arts Studio, Bellville. Cost: R600 for Grades 1–7, R750 for Grade 8 and up. Contact: 082 455 9011 or Marika: 071 532 7079 Sunny Skies holiday care programme Children complete two crafts per day that they can take home with them. Children must take their own snacks and drinks. Please book as space is limited to 30 participants per day. For 2,5–8 year olds. 29 June–17 July. Time: 7am–6pm. Venue: 26 Howard Dr, Meadowridge, opposite Park n Shop next to library. Cost: R60 (7am–1pm), R70 (7am–3pm) and R80 (7am–6pm). Contact: 021 712 5657, 082 781 3080 or sunnyskies@mweb.co.za

markets Blue Bird Garage Market This is a wonderful place to meet friends and there is an entire supervised children’s section. 5, 12, 19 and 26 June. Time: 4pm–10pm

every Friday. Venue: 39 Albertyn Rd, Muizenberg. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit bluebirdmarket.co.za Elkanah House Schoolyard Market A community market where you can find good food, crafts and lots for children to do. 27 June. Time: 9am–1pm. Venue: Elkanah House, 85 Sunningdale Dr, Sunningdale. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 554 8586, michellej@elkanah.co.za or visit elkanah. co.za/on-the-avenue/schoolyard-market Good Night Market launches at the V&A Waterfront The Watershed at the V&A Waterfront introduces the Good Night Market to Cape Town’s calendar. Each month, the market will provide more than a focal creative showcase, introducing live music, food trucks and a drinks bar to the space to entertain you while you wander around the market. The Good Night Market happens on the last Wednesday evening of each month. 24 June. Time: 10am The Watershed opens, 1pm food trucks begin trading and 6pm–9pm entertainment is on offer. Venue: The Watershed, 17 Dock Rd, V&A Waterfront. Cost: free entry. For more info: visit waterfront.co.za/news/watershed Homegrown Market Valley Farmstall and Thrive Eco Heroes are hosting a homegrown market to showcase local handmade crafts, freshly made preserves and pickles and homegrown organic fruit, veggies and herbs. Children are entertained in the farmyard and play area. 13 June. Time: 10am–3pm. Venue: Valley Farmstall, Valley

Rd, Hout Bay. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 790 3803, 079 323 6290, valleyfarmstall@ gmail.com or visit valleyfarmstall.co.za Lourensford Harvest Market Combine the rustic sophistication of quality market products with the splendour of Lourensford Estate and you can’t ask for a better outing. There is children’s entertainment and loads of space for the little ones to run. Pets are welcome. 7, 14, 21 and 28 June. Time: 10am–3pm. Venue: Lourensford Wine Estate, Lourensford Rd, Somerset West. Cost: free. Contact: hello@lfhm.co.za or visit lfhm.co.za Rondebosch Park Market This familyfriendly outdoor market offers gifts, clothes and jewellery as well as coffee and a bite to eat. 14 June. Time: 9am–2pm every second Saturday of the month. Venue: Rondebosch Park, cnr Sandown Rd and Campground Rd, Rondebosch. Cost: free entry. Contact: rondeboschmarket@gmail.com or Facebook: Rondebosch Park Market

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on stage and screen Beauty and the Beast premieres on Disney Junior This classic fairytale is a delightful, music-filled, full-length animated version of one of the most popular and enduring romantic adventures. Disney Junior’s special version premieres on 1 June at 10:25am on DStv channel 303. Inside Out premieres on 19 June Growing up can be a bumpy road, and it’s no exception for Riley, who is uprooted from her Midwest life when her father starts a new job in San Francisco. Riley is guided by her emotions – Joy (Amy Poehler), Fear (Bill Hader), Anger (Lewis Black), Disgust (Mindy Kaling) and Sadness (Phyllis Smith). The emotions live in Headquarters, the control centre inside Riley’s mind. As Riley and her emotions struggle to adjust to a new life, turmoil ensues, though Joy, Riley’s main and most important emotion, tries to keep things positive. For more info: visit pixar.com Jungle Theatre Company presents How Stories Began With a performance and workshop for 5–10 year olds based on a traditional Zulu folktale. 29 June– 3 July. Time: 10am–12pm. Venue: Masque Theatre, Muizenberg. Cost: R50 for the show and R50 for the workshop with a 15-minute interval. Contact: 021 788 1898, bookings@masquetheatre.co.za or visit jungletheatre.co.za More Adventures of Noddy There will be a special Noddy character dress-up parade. 25 June–10 July. No shows on Sundays. Time: varies. Venue: Artscape Theatre Foyer. Cost: R70. Book through Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695 or Computicket: 0861 915 8000 Sheldon and Ant’s Awesome Afternoons The season premieres on 15 June at 4pm on Disney XD DStv channel 304. The show can be seen every weekday.

playtime and story time Book Lounge story time There is a themed storytelling followed by an activity at this corner bookshop every Saturday morning. Time: 11am. Venue: 71 Roeland St, Gardens. Cost: free entry. Contact: 021 462 2425 or booklounge@gmail.com Story hour The themes for the following dates are: 3 June – Trains, 10 June – Father’s Day, 17 June – Elephants, 24 June –

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Fairytales. An activity is done with children. For 2–6 year olds. Time: 10:30am. Venue: Brackenfell Library. Cost: free. Contact: 021 980 1375 or gertruida.duplessis@ capetown.gov.za

sport and physical activities Children’s Pilates trial class Join a trial class and see what it’s all about. Children are asked to wear comfortable clothes that don’t restrict any movement. For 5–12 year olds. 1, 8, 15, 22 and 29 June. Time: 2:45pm–3:15pm, every Monday. Venue: Healthjunction, 29 Derry Rd, Vredehoek. Cost: free for the first class. Contact: 021 461 2159, info@healthjunction.co.za or visit healthjunction.co.za Rugby School of Excellence Friday group coaching For 5–14 year olds. 24 April–19 June. Time: confirmed on booking. Venue: tbc. Cost: R600. Contact: 0861 123 273, info@therugbyschool.co.za or visit therugbyschool.co.za

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Teddy Tennis at The Glen Country Club The sessions are accompanied by music. For 2,5–7 year olds. Time: afternoons, Monday–Friday. Venue: The Glen Country Club, Clifton. For costs and more info, contact: 083 679 0731, mark@ teddytennis.com or visit teddytennis.com YogaWise for Kids 4, 11 and 18 June. Time: 3:30pm–4pm for 3–7 years old and 4:15pm–5pm for 8–12 years old. Venue: Atlantic Beach Golf Estate Leisure Club, Melkbosstrand. Cost: pay per lesson, month or term. Contact: 072 693 3347, info@ yogawise.co.za or visit yogawise.co.za

only for parents classes, talks and workshops Chilton short course in childcare The full-time course starts on 2 June (Tuesday–

3–24 June – Developmental stimulation

Friday) and the part-time course on 6 June (Saturdays). A professional childcare training programme for nannies and au pairs, covering positive discipline techniques, baby care, nutrition, early childhood development and first aid/ CPR. Time: 9am–12pm. Venue: Chilton College, The Scalabrini Centre (2nd floor), 47 Commercial St, CBD. Cost: R1 300. Contact: 079 842 6599, chiltontraining@ gmail.com or visit chiltonaupairs.co.za Developmental stimulation Equip yourself or your childminder with the skills necessary to boost the development and brain power of your child. Covering creative play, music, crafts and games. 3 or 24 June. Time: 9am–1pm. Venues: Diep River or Muizenberg. Cost: R500. Contact: 072 323 6172 or kerry@educarecape.co.za Family and friends CPR 6 June. Time: 9am. Venue: Constantiaberg Mediclinic, Burnham Rd, Plumstead. Cost: R270 (three hours) or R320, which includes paediatric first aid (four hours). Contact: 021 705 6459, training@pec.co.za or visit pec.co.za Nannies basic cooking and baking course Over four weeks they learn all the basics needed for healthy family meals. All recipes are adapted to suit your family’s diet – salads, fresh pastas, soups, meat, fish and chicken dishes. 9 June. Time: 9am–12:30pm every Tuesday or Thursday. Venue: Montana Rd, Camps Bay. Cost: enquire. The cost includes ingredients, a recipe file and certificate. Contact: 021 437 1150, 082 319 9215, janis@nicetouch.co.za or visit nicetouch.co.za Super Nannies training course Give your nanny the confidence and skills to care for your child in the safety of your own home. They cover childcare, first aid, stimulation and nutrition. They train one morning over four weeks or two days

to cover the four modules. Professional trainers and evaluation is included in the cost. 3–24 June Panorama or 5–26 June Vredehoek. Time: 9am–12pm Friday or 2:30pm–5:30pm Wednesday. Venue: 5–26 June on Wednesday mornings at Deer Park House, Vredehoek and 3–24 June on Wednesday afternoons at Panorama Breast Feeding Clinic, Panorama. Cost: R1 800. Contact: 021 461 6508 or info@ supernannies.co.za

on stage and screen A Spartacus of Africa Watch a cast of 100 dancers with a 70-strong orchestra performing a new version of Spartacus. Spartacus, the tale of a Thracian gladiator who led a major slave uprising against the Roman Empire in 73BC, mirrors the oppression that various African countries have fought to overcome, and presents an opportunity for dancers to give the story 21st-century relevance. The cast of 35 professional dancers, excluding international guest artists, and 60 senior student dancers was confirmed after nationwide auditions. Veronica Paeper’s solo and pas de deux choreography is in the classical ballet style, while David Krugel introduces the contemporary dance element. 27 June–12 July. Time: varies. Venue: Artscape Theatre. Cost: R150–R375. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or Artscape Dial-a-Seat: 021 421 7695 The Clever Black Comedian Tats Nkonzo’s third and most daring one-man stand-up comedy show yet. Fresh from winning first place at the Montreux International Comedy Festival, he is set to pull apart every “cultural myth” that South Africans hold dear, with hilarious effect. 15–27 June. Time: tbc. Venue: Baxter Golden Arrow Studio. Cost: from R120. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit computicket.co.za

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out and about Delheim Cheese Fondue and Jazz Sundays The cosy downstairs tasting cellar sets the scene for families and friends to huddle around fondue pots and ease into a laid-back Sunday afternoon, enriched with lingering aromas of pungent melting cheese, quality estate wines and jazzy tunes. The fondue is delivered to your table with oven-fresh baguette dippers and vegetable crudités. A weekly general knowledge quiz on various Delheim topics, with great prizes are up for grabs. 28 June–30 August. Time: 12:30pm–3:30pm every Sunday. Venue: Delheim Estate, Knorhoek Rd, off the R44. Cost: R200 per person, which includes a warming glass of Glühwein on arrival. Contact: 021 888 4607, 079 735 3257 or restaurant@delheim.com Encounters International Documentary Festival Attend Africa’s premier documentary festival, which will feature festival winners from Cannes, Toronto and Venice. 4–14 June. Time, venue and cost: tbc. For more info: visit encounters.co.za Old Mutual Trophy Wine Show public tasting Taste the wines judged as the finest of the year. Approximately 100 wines, all achieving silver, gold and trophy medals in the 2015 judging, are available for tasting and ordering at show prices. The Old Mutual Trophy Wine Show enjoys a 13-year tradition as South Africa’s most authoritative and prestigious wine competition. Some highlights are Most Successful Producer of the Year, Best White and Best Red Wines of the Show and the International Judges’ Award. Over 18s only. 12 June. Time: 6pm–9pm. Venue: CTICC (Hall 1B), Convention Square, 1 Lower Long St. Cost: R150 or R175. Book through Computicket: 0861 915 8000 or visit trophywineshow.co.za Pancake and wine pairing There are two seatings, at 11am and 2pm. 27 June. Time: 11am. Venue: Uitkyk, R44 between Stellenbosch and Paarl. Cost: R95. Contact: 021 884 4416 or info@uitkyk.co.za Shiraz showcase Producers of South African Shiraz will once again come together for the annual showcase to tempt wine lovers with their latest releases and award-winners. Sample wines at leisure, chat to the winemakers and get acquainted with the impressive line-up of well-known Shiraz brands and blends.

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There will be an array of snacks on sale, which complement Shiraz. Some of the best examples of South African Shiraz are going to be on show and the winners of the 2015 Shiraz Challenge will also be present. 18 June. Time: 6pm–9pm. Venue: CTICC. Cost: R120 each. Book through webtickets.co.za or for more info: 082 924 7254, info@shirazsa.co.za or visit shirazsa.co.za Soup, Sip and Bread Winter Festival Vintners join hands with chefs to find soulful partners for the variety of soups, chowders and gumbos from around the world. 6 and 7 June. Time and cost: varies per venue’s event. Venue: Durbanville Hills Wine Valley participants such as Altydgedacht, D’Aria, Diemersdal, Durbanville Hills, Hillcrest Estate, Phizante Kraal Wines and Signal Gun. For more info: visit durbanvillewine.co.za

Groovy Adventurer Programme Playdate A fun-filled, sensory play-based get together for babies, toddlers and their carers. 25 June. Time: call to enquire. Venue: Durbanville. Cost: free. Contact: 083 306 2527 or gapdurbanville@playwhizz.co.za

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support groups LGBTI Parents support group Please contact Heather for further details. Time: tbc. Venue: Triangle Project, Elta House, 2nd floor, 3 Caledonian Rd, Mowbray. Cost: free. Contact: 021 686 1475, health2@triangle. org.za or visit thetriangleproject.org

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classes, talks and workshops Mama Bamba Way Weekend Antenatal Workshop The Mama Bamba Way birth preparation antenatal classes are designed to create empowering and transformative birth experiences for women, their partners and their babies. 27 and 28 June. Time: 10am–5pm, Saturday and Sunday, plus one evening. Venue: Mama Bamba, Stellenbosch. Cost: R1 650 per couple. Contact: 021 783 3763, susan@mamabamba.com or visit mamabamba.com/wp/antenatal-classes

playtime and story time Moms and Tots Trainers of Treasures Ministry Stay-at-home moms with babies and toddlers are invited to gather once a week and meet other moms during term time. Term ends 18 June. Time: 9:30am–11:30am every Thursday. Venue: St Barnabas Church, Kloof St. Cost: free. Contact: 083 640 6204 or Diane: 072 341 8261

Wriggle and Rhyme holiday classes During the June/July holidays enjoy fun, stimulating music classes for parents or carers and your babies or toddlers. Classes are an hour long with 30 minutes of musical fun followed by refreshments for the grownups. Meet their delightful musical froggie, for an unforgettable adventure. For 6–18 months and 18 months–3 years old. Time: varies. Venues: Constantiaberg or Fish Hoek. Contact Constantiaberg: 073 204 1523 or claire@wriggleandrhyme.co.za, Fish Hoek: 073 143 8439 or lauren@wriggleandrhyme. co.za or visit wriggleandrhyme.co.za

Time and venue: 10:30am–12:30pm every Tuesday at Mediclinic Cape Town and 10am–12pm every Thursday at Mediclinic Constantiaberg. Cost: R50 including refreshments. Contact: 021 762 0116, reception@theparentcentre.org.za or visit theparentcentre.org.za. When you “like” The Parent Centre Facebook page you will be kept up to date with weekly programmes for both groups.

how to help Hands of Hope This organisation creates awareness and collects donations for abandoned and orphaned babies around the Western Cape. They donate formula and nappies and other baby essentials to the safe houses. If you have any donations: visit Facebook: Clothes4change Love Foundation clothing drive For every piece of wearable children’s clothing (of any brand) that customers bring into a Naartjie store, they will receive a five percent discount voucher. Customers can add their vouchers together and get up to 25 percent off their purchase at one time. If customers bring in more than five pieces of clothing, their remaining vouchers can be used towards their next purchase. The cut-off date to bring clothing in and earn vouchers is 15 June. Vouchers expire 30 June 2015. For more info: visit naartjie.co.za

support groups The Parent Centre has two Moms Circle groups For moms-to-be and moms with babies up to one year old.

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don’t miss out! For a free listing, email your event to capetown@childmag.co.za or fax it to 021 462 2680. Information must be received by 29 May for the July issue, and must include all relevant details. No guarantee can be given that it will be published. To post an event online, visit childmag.co.za

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love tokens ANÉL LEWIS has been waking up to find various odds and ends in bed with her after

Erin, Anél and Conor

ou know that charming habit some cats have of bringing “gifts” of dead animals or debris into the house? Well, Conor has a similar trick, except that his repertoire involves plastic combine harvesters and cement diggers. We have finally managed to get him to sleep in his own bed. All it takes is two bedtime stories, a few flights with “Dusty” along with some commentary from the air traffic controller, aka Dad, and Conor is lights out. Well, for a few hours anyway. Around midnight, Conor makes his way down two flights of stairs – in the pitch dark – and into our bed. It’s disruptive, but we’ve settled into some semblance of a

routine and I usually manage to fall asleep within a few seconds of his arrival. That was until he started to bring accessories along on his midnight jaunts. I woke up the other morning to find the mast of a plastic boat wedged under my neck and a racing car – with lights flashing – between my knees. Conor, of course, was blissfully unaware of the debris strewn across my side of the bed as he had positioned himself on the only section of the mattress not occupied by toys or the cat. At first, I thought he had grabbed the paraphernalia because it had been with him in his bed. But a few mornings ago, I happened to wake up before Conor

embarked on his nocturnal pilgrimage. And I was astounded to hear him get up and walk to his toy box, where he started to noisily rummage through the contents so that he could choose two items to bring to bed. There’s absolutely nothing random about the objects he carries into our bed each morning. I suppose this is why it makes me think of cats that bring gifts to their owners. According to internet “experts”, cats do this to act out their natural role as nurturer or teacher. The dead mouse could also be a thank-you gift. So the pet gurus recommend that you create an area where your cat can safely deposit any tokens of their appreciation. I’m not convinced that this will work for Conor, who has now started to take various odds and ends with him to school. We recently bought him a wire bakkie with an extended steering wheel. Well, of

course the whole contraption had to go with him to school. Picture a wire creation, about the size of a fruit crate, topped by a metre-long wire steering wheel, wedged between Erin and Conor on the back seat. So much for the pet gurus’ recommendation. Conor has proven that no space is sacred when it comes to his insatiable need to bring his prized possessions with him wherever he goes. While the bruises inflicted by the various objects that find their way under my duvet every night may take a while to fade, I’m grateful that Conor’s gifts of thanks are – for now – limited to plastic trucks and trains. I don’t know what I’m going to do if he takes a leaf out of the cat’s book and starts adding more organic objects to his offering. Anél Lewis is now sleeping in long trousers, in case Conor abandons the plastic toys and starts bringing more squishy objects into the bed.

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her son crawls in during the night.