POSITIVE PTSD

Gurus, coaches, and consultants are always talking about the secret to mental, physical, spiritual, career, or business success. You buy it, you take it in, you apply it, and it doesn’t come fast enough, it doesn’t work, works for a minute, or doesn’t last. And sometimes you may feel or be worse off than when you started. Now you’re like “Dammit, what is wrong?”

Have you ever wondered why it doesn’t work for you when you have those moments of panic, doubt, fear, anxiety, or whatever you want to classify those moments where you just want to say “F” it? Like all the rest of us, including myself had those moments or still have them, where we ask ourselves what are we missing, why isn’t it flowing for me, why aren’t I happy even with the success, or why some of us are so positive even in the failures? One of the existency (Existence+ Consistency) thoughts that I teach is positive PTSD. Learning to combat traumatic experiences with good experiences and building it up enough where it gets to be a habit and second nature where it takes root in your head before the bad could even take over your spirit.

In those moments when you want to sit there and say I’m over it, understanding the recipe it takes is what helps us along. Sometimes we don’t understand the ingredients we’re missing until we need them. One of the lessons that I’ve learned and there were many, was for me the spiritual CUP had to be more than just one-fourth of a CUP, it had to be near a gallon. The spiritual cup kept me going even at moments of success as well as failures, giving me the ability to knuckle up and go through. So, I want to just give you a quick recipe that may help you figure out what you’re missing or what you may want to add more of or what you want to chuck completely and hope that in those moments of stillness, you create the best you, career, or endeavor you can.

The same way you can’t make a great entree if you skip ingredients is the same way you can’t build the mental, physical or spiritual capacity to become the best personal you, entrepreneur you, the family you, and loving you if you skip steps.

If you skip the CUP of not solidifying your message, you will get lost trying to be everyone else. Even with people your message is compatible with.

If you skip the CUP of stillness that you need to have every day to build discernment and awareness, to listen to when you need to move and when you need to stay, you will be sporadic and out of your lane.

If you skip the CUP of educating yourself on logistics over the flash of marketing you will look good, but you won’t function well.

If you skip the CUP of balance between your personal life, your business life, and your physical life, someone or something will consistently get shortchanged, instead of it all having its turn, during its time

If you skip the CUP of Health, you’re going to be sitting in a hospital or therapy chair trying to figure out how you’re going to make it thru, who’s going to be there for your family or run your business when you’re sick.

If you skip the CUP of finding the right people, at the right time, or removing the wrong people to rush or settle into just filling a spot, you’re going to keep running through and with unqualified people.

If you skip the CUP of asking advice or seeking mentorship, you will be deflated and go around a circle where someone already can teach you how to cut through the line.

If you skip the CUP of learning respect and understanding of finances, you will be overwhelmed and moving from debt to debt, customer to customer, and accepting any and everything just to survive.

If you skip the CUP of tenacity, you won’t have the tenaciousness that it takes to be a person in this world, an entrepreneur, or a light for yourself and others.

The most important ingredient of all:

If you skip the multiple CUPs of patience that it takes to ask yourself is this genuinely you, without past issues/traumas/external expectations or validations, and is this the best for you, you could be living in someone else’s oven and end up in the wrong dish; feeling burnt.

Create well, my fellow life cooks.