When a family member has dementia It’s true to say that a diagnosis of dementia isn’t just given to the person with dementia, but to their wider family, friends, neighbours and social networks. If the person who is diagnosed with dementia is still working, that also means sharing that diagnosis with their manager and work colleagues. The way in which you, as one of the people around someone with dementia, experience that person’s dementia, is always going to be different to the experiences of the diagnosed person. Depending on individual outlooks, a person diagnosed with dementia may 22
learn to live with their symptoms and adapt to their changed life. Other people living with dementia may go into denial, or even shut off from the world around them. As the symptoms of dementia progress, it can be common for a person with dementia to not be aware of this, or not fully absorb the effect that their symptoms are having on themselves or those around them. ‘We found that education as to what dementia entails was really important. We learnt that we must help to manage the condition, not the person. That the person with the diagnosis of dementia is the same person after diagnosis as they were before diagnosis. Their symptoms do not immediately become severe just because of a diagnosis of dementia. www.carechoices.co.uk/dementia