Love Lives In Us... The Winstons. Winston & the Mrs. (E.L. & Roni)

Love Lives In Us... The Winstons

W I N S T O N A N D T H E M R S . ( E . L . A N D R O N I )

Love lives in us…the Winstons. We want to share a little bit of this love with you. According to motivational speaker Tony Gaskins, “Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life…without it, it dies” and we have found this to be so true. We communicate with each other even when it is uncomfortable or difficult because we refuse to let ‘us’ die.

The Mrs:

Everyday we figure out how to communicate with people whether it is at our jobs, in the store, or with a neighbor. Unfortunately, we often struggle to communicate with our significant others. There is a theory that we often take things out on the ones who are closest to us, but this cannot be the acceptable norm. Effective communication is necessary for long lasting relationships. Sometimes our partners will irritate us and we might not have that ooey gooey loving feeling, so what happens then?

What should happen then is that we dig below the surface to find out where the feeling is coming from and express what we need in that moment. When we stop talking AND listening, then we are really telling our spouse that we don’t want to share who we are with them or care to keep discovering who they are. We shouldn’t stop growing as individuals, so we have to keep learning one another. Communicating is the only way we can do this. Don’t stop talking and listening.

asked me to communicate a thought or a feeling I would become annoyed and withdraw simply because as an adult I had never learned to communicate my wants, needs or issues. Needless to say, I ended up in relationships that did not serve me and were toxic. So what do you do when the thing you need to be successful is the thing you don't have?

You get up and get to work. Ultimately, I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I realized in order to have a lasting relationship, romantic or otherwise, I was gonna have to start concentrating on what I wanted and not on what I was used to not having. It definitely helped that I found a patient and loving partner who saw past my shortcomings and saw the greatness beneath my scars. Marriage is work and there are days that my old habits try to creep into my current behavior, but I have to choose to show up and lock in.

Thoughts to Leave You:

None of us start out perfect and even in the best of families, there is room for improvement. Communication is a commitment to yourself and your partner. Just like any other time you give your word about something, you have to choose to go on with the follow through. The ultimate test is that integrity piece. No one should ever be able to tell your partner something about you that they don’t already know. It does not mean that you have to remember to tell them everything that happens everyday, but that what you do tell them gives them the assurance that they know you as a person. Every choice, interaction, and decision should communicate that love lives in us!

Winston:

Communication is the skill I didn't see growing up in my household. It wasn't something that was encouraged or appreciated. I learned to keep my thoughts and feelings to myself. As an adult, I continued that practice. Honestly, if you .

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