Soul Coaching: Shiy Coins

End The Silence

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Whew! Sorry, we had to let that out real quick. We thought someone said (S)top (H)aving (U)nfiltered (T)houghts (U)nexpectedly (P)lease. We thought someone was telling us that we had to stop talking because our voices are too powerful, too sensible, too convincing that you can be healthy and happy in this life. We started speaking up and speaking on the real issues in raw form and they began to shake. Our voices speaking soul truth, have been diminished to a whisper for decades.

Thinking back to the countless times we’ve heard "as a woman you should be seen not heard." As if you had nothing more to contribute aside from cute looks and prancing across the room. Universe forbids you to have an independent thought, and it is a good one. How dare someone with a female embodiment have something more to offer than a stroke of the male ego. For so long those who identify as women have never been considered to have a valid thought, they are nothing without their man. Oh she has a loud mouth, ain’t nobody been able to put her in her place yet. Because the ability to confidently speak up and say how you feel must mean that no one has taught you how to “respectfully address typically a man. We call bullshit from the highest mountain top. As a woman you should be seen, felt, heard, understood, communicated with, respected, valued, and everything else your heart desires, just as a man is expected to be. As a woman, no parameter should be created for you that you have not created for yourself. Your voice should never be silenced

and you should never feel invisible, especially in a room full of people.

We haven’t forgotten about the brothers. The endless times as a little boy you were told “shut up, boys don’t cry”, “boys don’t show emotions”, “man up”, “toughen up” , “You can’t” present as a strong masculine man with tears running down your cheeks. ”The people aren’t going to take you seriously if they can see and smell the fear you possess.” “No woman would allow a man like you to lead her.” Imagine being told at 5 years old you can’t cry after scraping your knee, because “that’s not what men do.” The pain we feel for the little boy in the store that wants the pink toy, or has found interest in hair and cosmetics and wants to explore, but will never get the opportunity to because its not masculine enough. The parents will never allow such girly activities to be done by their son. Despite this mentality tarnishing their son dreams and talents, despite it being a passion, he won’t dare express how much it means to him because it has been forbidden. Drowning silently because he isn’t seen in the light that shows his brightness. To that unsatisfied little boy buried deep within, let out your scream and end your silence.

To my non-binary people that simply want to be seen and accepted. Continue to be yourself and go against the standard. Be loud and confident in everything you do. Break and curse gender norms. Let the world know you are here and won’t be quiet for the satisfaction of anyone else. Love and appreciate yourself, be yourself unapologetically, and scream across the mountain tops that you will not be silenced. We Love and respect you all!!