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Children making life hard for newly married couple Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married I don’t expect him to stop seeing his kids, but he for six years. He divorced his wife of 53 years be- needs to put our marriage first. We tried marriage cause he fell in love with me and wanted the rest of counselling twice, and each time he quit, saying his life to be happy. They had not shared a bedroom the counsellor was biased against him. Is there any since the last of their kids was born. hope? — Tired of Being Number Eight “Ted” has always put his children beDear Tired: We don’t know what can MITCHELL fore me. They dislike me because of “what be salvaged. If you backed off and told & SUGAR I did to their mother.” Well, their father Ted he should see his kids on his own did it, not me. I pushed him away for more and you’ll stay out of their lives entirely, than a year before realizing how terrible would he, in return, tell you of his plans his marriage was. (One of his kids told and insist that his children treat you with me.) respect? If the two of you can handle that, you may Ted repeatedly has lied to me about his children. be able to stay together and enjoy the times that He takes trips to visit them without me and doesn’t don’t involve the kids. But there are no guarantees. tell me he’s leaving until the day before he flies off. Sorry. He makes all the arrangements behind my back. He Dear Annie: I am a psychologist, and my husband once left me for a month and said he wanted a di- is a psychiatrist. You give excellent advice, but there vorce because they told him he should get one. is one area where you could be more helpful. Ted and I have talked about this, and he swears When people seek low-cost mental health serviche will change, but he never does. Lately, his chil- es, you often print a list of places where they might dren have called me terrible names, and he never find help. Unfortunately, that list might not be useful says a word in my defence. I have never done or said in smaller, more rural areas. While we have several anything against these grown children. colleges, none have graduate departments that offer I have never been a part of his family, and I guess counselling. The YMCA and YWCA closed with the I never will. At 78, you’d think he would appreciate recession, and local churches offer pastoral counselhaving a loving wife and understand that his life is ing only to their own congregants. with me now. The main low-cost mental health services offered
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SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Today you are willing to put your partner’s needs before yours and you are also more willing to forgive your children for their faults. Love can be Saturday, Feb. 22 CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DATE: a painful subject if you’re not feeling like or Drew Barrymore, 39; Jeri Ryan, 46; Kyle Ma- adored. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): cLachlan, 55 THOUGHT OF THE DAY: THOUGHT OF There’s a mother child spiritual bond that can be created for you. Whatever you were lackTHE DAY: Emotionally, we will ing in terms of love and care, tolong for some thrilling adventures day you can nourish your needs and live each moment to the fullby affiliating yourself to your est. Responsibility and a somroots without any discriminatory bre mood will prevail in the later feelings. hours of the day reminding us to CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. act with more accountability for 19): As the day unfolds, you will all our actions. Today we have no longer feel on your own. You the opportunity to heal our most will feel like you are back in your significant relationships through element today. A heart-to-heart greater sympathy and a deeper conversation will open up your understanding. We should learn eyes for you to new possibilities. the art of forgiveness in order to AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. build stronger and more spiritual 18): Your circle of friends will ASTRO connections to others. make you realize just how much DOYNA HAPPY BIRTHDAY: If toyou can be loved. You will also day is your birthday, expect a grasp the definition of money year packed with lots and lots and what it truly means to you of errands to run. You’ll find personally. This is one way to yourself making more short trips cure your self-esteem, wounded feelings and than usually and you’ll be commuting in your neighbourhood more frequently as well. Don’t your worth. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): You can debe surprised if you happen to accomplish successfully various tasks at once as your velop deeper insights into how to create furcuriosity and the need to be in the know will ther trust with others. You can restore some current injuries by being merciful while being be heightened. ARIES (March 21-April 19): A much un- extremely sensitive to humankind and seekdisclosed part of you wants to forgive and for- ing peace. Make peace with your appearget some painful past memory or you might ance. be reminiscing about a loved one. Certain Sunday, Feb. 23 insecurities might prevail about you as you CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DATE: recall such particular moments. TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You may Dakota Fanning, 20; Emily Blunt, 31; Kristin become more sensitive and more recep- Davis, 49 THOUGHT OF THE DAY: When the tive to humankind at this point. You relate to Moon is found in adventurous Sagittarius, one another with more concern and an open heart. You believe that your mission is to heal the outdoors and the nature are calling for us. someone’s injury in order to connect with This is a restless position for the Moon and thus, we might find it hard to simply sit down. them on more profound levels. GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Your con- Sporting events, road trips and booking your nectedness towards others is more apparent next voyage are all highlighted for today. Merand more sensitive. You are willing to put cury’s presence makes us receptive to new ideas. If you start seeing life through multi-disomeone’s fault aside in order to accept them in your circle. By accepting these individuals as they are you are capable of building trust and a deeper commitment with one another. CANCER (June 21-July 22): This is a day when you will see beauty and love through less fortunate places. You see equality and humankind bringing you altogether as if there was absolutely nothing dividing you two. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Dr. Connie Farion Dr. Kannan Veerappan Don’t be afraid to face your in(DDS) (DMD) securities or be ashamed of your weaknesses. By exposing your vulnerable side to a loved one, you will be able to demonstrate them of a more intimate and profound side in you, which will only bring your partner closer to you. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Kirsten Nielsen Dawn-Rai Kitt Dan Porter Cosmic energies are giving you (RDH) (RDH) (RDH) a wonderful opportunity to heal Phone to book your next cleaning & check up all your relationships wounds Monday & Tuesday: 12:00 - 8:00 pm by partnering up. Seek no fault Wednesday: 8:00 - 5:00pm in the other and be merciful. Thursday: 8:00 - 4:00 pm Kindness and gentleness will Friday: 8:00 - 3:00 pm re-establish a very soulful vibe Saturdays: 9:00 - 3:00 pm between you two. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Your colleagues will appear more tolerant and less picky today. There’s a general mood that will set in that will make Heritage Village (West of Downtown McDonald’s) everyone more understandC101 5212 48 St. Red Deer 403-309-1900 ing. You could mend a broken www.bahreydental.com heart with care and sympathy.
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in our community are through the county. This includes individual and family counselling, psychiatry and crisis intervention. We also have a 24-hour phone hotline to access emergency services. They can also direct people to an outpatient clinic at the local hospital. In addition, Mental Health America (formerly the Mental Health Association) offers referrals, classes and support groups. If people are seeking low-cost help, please recommend that they contact their local county government. — Karen J. Goodman, Ph.D., Poughkeepsie, N.Y. Dear Dr. Goodman: Consider it done. We appreciate the information and will definitely add county services to the list. Dear Annie: I think most families have at least one negative relative who puts a damper on holidays. My late mother-in-law hated the whole season and did her best to depress the rest of us. I’ll skip the details of what happened over the years. She told me once that the reason she didn’t like Christmas was that she had never gotten what she wanted. I asked her what she wanted. She replied, “I don’t know.” — CT Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@ comcast.net.
mensional glasses, you are experiencing the Sun-Neptune conjunction. Reality is hidden behind a veil of incertitude and confusion. Be wary of disillusionment! HAPPY BIRTHDAY: If today is your birthday, confidential talks are brewing behind the scenes and you get to ponder over your next career move, which appears to be quite promising. Your creative mind will skyrocket and thus, steal you away into a surreal expedition. ARIES (March 21-April 19): Your need for freedom and personal evolution may clash with your need to prove yourself righteous. Don’t criticize viewpoints that differ from your own. Appreciate seeing life from a more spiritual perspective. TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You might experience the bull-in-a-china-shop syndrome when it comes to experiencing your innermost feelings. A heavy load of emotionality and intensity will encourage you to get take an honest look at yourself. Be real. GEMINI (May 21-June 20): You may think about a real estate investment that you believe fruitful for the long-run. Negotiations and commerce run smoothly today. Consider your financial parameters and know your own limitations. Careful budgeting would be a wise deed on your part. CANCER (June 21-July 22): Your routine may changes unpredictably. It is possible that you may need to travel for a work project. Any new circumstance or action-packed event will boost your motivation. A chore that you would normally consider dull may turn out quite fun. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): You are caught up in some very private moments as you are receiving enlightenment from a spiritual journey. The occult and the mysticism appeal greatly to you. Don’t be surprised for all the mysterious energy surrounding you today. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Domestic quarrels or a dispute with a family member might be hard to avoid today. Your ambition to succeed in a professional field and to find
your inner peace might not be smooth sailing. Finding the right balance between the two could be your safest move. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Your name and your reputation will skyrocket. Your popularity makes others solicit your presence in a number of social obligations. This is a favourable day for public speaking or event organizing. The potential for success is high. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Confrontations may arise with people in authority or who hold a certain power over a dogma. They may try to influence your belief system or test your faith in the realms of a higher consciousness. Liberate your soul from inhibiting forces. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): You know what you are capable of, but do not overestimate your potential. Being aware of your own limits will save you from a possible ridicule. Keep a dim profile for now while you figure out your problems. A temporary shutdown can be healthy for your being. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You are not fond of ear-splitting experiences or extravagant settings. A retreat to a serene place appeals to you greatly today. Consider a lastminute getaway in the mountains or a special treatment at a spa nearby. It’s healing time! AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You will prove of great initiation skills and you may inspire others to change their ways. You are an inspiration to your peers as your genius ideas and your creative thinking amazes your crowd. Surprise them in a striking fashion. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Your psychic antennae are sharply attuned today. Sensitivity will awake you to some stimulating epiphanies and make you see the invisible. Be wary, however of any treachery or deceit as you are more vulnerable than usual. Astro Doyna is an internationally syndicated astrologer and columnist. Her column appears daily in the Advocate.
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