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Is my brother gay? My family will disown him Dear Annie: I am 19 years old and afraid that my screamed at her to never ask that question again and brother is gay. said that he is not gay. “James” recently made a new friend at I try to be open-minded toward everyMITCHELL work who is gay. He has been going to the one and don’t object if James is gay. But & SUGAR library with this new friend and spendmy mother was not brought up this way. In ing the entire day there doing homework. her culture, being gay is absolutely unacJames doesn’t own a phone, so it is hard ceptable. If James “came out,” my mother for my mother to get ahold of him. Somewould throw him out of the house and distimes he leaves for work at 6 p.m. and own him. It would ruin our family name. doesn’t come home until 9 the following morning, She even once said she would have to move away making excuses that he was at work. My mother from our hometown. knows he’s lying, because she calls his job and they My brother has always had trouble making often say he isn’t there. His friend has left messages friends, and I feel this latest friend is someone who on our home answering machine that make us all just happens to accept him for who he is. I don’t bequestion their relationship. lieve James is interested in men. But I am worried A few days ago, my mom called me crying hysteri- for his sake. What do I do? — Unsure cally because James hadn’t returned all night after Dear Unsure: Please don’t pressure your brother. an argument in which she asked if he was gay. He Having a gay friend will not change his sexual ori-
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Sunday, Jan. 20 HAPPY BIRTHDAY: If today is your birthday, you will spend a lot time around the house of with your parents. You will take your responsibilities towards them quite seriously and at times, they might weight too heavily on your shoulders. You will have their most practical needs at heart, but it might not always be appreciated. You seek more comfort and leniency from your domestic environment. ARIES (March 21-April 19): You want to break free of your usual pace and decide to act intermittently. If you are involved in a group activity, try not to push anyone’s buttons by expressing your opinion too forcefully onto others. Take your time by avoiding rushing into anything. TAURUS (April 20-May 20): A suppressed anger might take you by surprise. You feel this strange predisposition urging you to blow up your emotions and to roar like a lion. It’s not the end of the world; use your amazing ability to remain composed and try to bottle up any sporadic tendencies. GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Suddenly, you may experience your life under a completely different perspective. This could be due to a friend’s unexpected revelation which you may not welcome or due to a disagreement within a group that might agree on your terms. CANCER (June 21-July 22): Don’t be so hard on yourself, dear Cancer. You feel that you’re working so hard towards achieving this sense of personal freedom but you find yourself somewhat stuck. It is also possible that you may feel undermined due to a lower accessibility of shared resources. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): You believe that your partner refuses to let you act the way you want. You seem disobedient towards him or her and, even though you might want to simply provoke, your thrill seeking desire will only create pressures between you two. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You can control your restlessness and your bad habits today by tapping into your long-term goals.
Realize that even though for now, you might be tempted to make unwise decisions. If you can avoid that, you’ll be more than glad you listened to yourself. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Asserting your individuality and acting without really accounting for your consequences might create some havoc between you and your significant other. They might not be playing according to your rules, so, try to avoid provoking their current state. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): There’s a contradictory vibe roaming around the house. You strongly desire to break the old patterns and to bring in something new. Your intentions might be good, but ineffective. Don’t act out just for the sake of a change. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Your free-spirited nature seeks impatiently for some kind of excitement where you can unleash your inner self. Watch out that this doesn’t turn into a rebellious attitude where you’ll have to deal with an ego over inflation. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): If you are tempted to make a purchase based on the spur-of-the- moment, think again. Your impulses are so strong that you cannot judge properly what to you is really worth and what you really need. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You move with a warrior like optimism, yet predisposed to not take other’s opinion into account. You enjoy acting against the norm and breaking any rules. Others perceive you as extremely competitive. You want to initiate change and free your spirit. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): You’re feeling kind of jittery and as if a strong energy is driving you in the wrong direction. Financial co-dependency might provoke you to act obnoxiously while lowering your self-esteem. Astro Doyna is an internationally syndicated astrologer and columnist.
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partner. It’s a great time to do some public speaking or to make presentations. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Your agenda is filled up with an extensive to-do list. You Saturday, Jan. 19 have lots of errands to run and you make HAPPY BIRTHDAY: If today is your birthsure to put it all on paper and to prioritize. It’s day, in the following year you will focus on a busy time when your mind will be evading practical needs of your life. You will seek enin various places at the same joyment in most down-to-earth ASTRO time. You are definitely capable ways, but not without some DOYNA of multi-tasking. roadblocks on your passageway LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): to fun. Whatever creative projYour ideas are innovative and ects you might put into effect they sound pleasing to everythis year, you will have to learn one’s ear. You are mentally more stimulated to be organized and responsible of your acnow and your thoughts are directed towards tions. The more control you maintain over your children. your personality, the more you will be able to SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): You are come closer to your aspirations inclined to think more often about your past, ARIES (March 21-April 19): Your mind is while nostalgia takes over your mind. You open to new possibilities and you see things are looking for ways to expand your living from a broader perspective. You will come space and improve its foundation. You might in contact with individuals who inspire you to be thinking more often than usual with your think of your goals in more stimulating manparents during this time. ners and have a more avant-garde approach SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): You to life. are turning into a social butterfly mingling TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Your thinking from one flower to another. You tend towards is inclined towards career matters. You might the most unusual sorts while extracting the also think about your social sanding and how juiciest information and news from the field others perceive you in society as an indiof communication. Your curiosity knows no vidual. You are more flexible and progressing boundaries. about your career choices and decisions. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Your GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Your life visavings come into greater focus during this sion has taken on a broader vision. You see time. You are more aware of your financial the bigger picture of life and you thing in big possibilities and available options. You are terms. Mundane stuff bores you to death and also more conscious about your financial situyou seek new exciting opportunities while exation: strategize a budget plan. panding your knowledge through something AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Whatever entirely out of your character. you had kept to yourself up until recently, CANCER (June 21-July 22): You tend now you are ready to step out and share your to keep your thoughts to yourself now as you thoughts in a very confident and clear mandirect your focus towards strategizing and ner. You are more concerned and curious structuring your finances. It’s a great time to about other people’s ideas and you are more do research or to review complex issues. You verbally engaging during this phase. are thinking more about your intimate life and PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Hidden ways to spice it up! thoughts, private matters and a deep inquisiLEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Relationship istive period prevail. You are not particularly sues come to your mind more often during fond of sharing your innermost fears or of this time. You find yourself communicating seeking advice from anyone. Confidential more openly and more frequently with your talks predominate.
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entation, and finding someone who “accepts him for who he is” is not to be brushed aside lightly. James needs to navigate this in his own way. You can mention that he seems stressed and let him know that if he needs to talk, you are available. Dear Annie: May I weigh in on baby showers for second and third babies? When she was pregnant with her second child, my lovely daughter-in-law was given a “sprinkle.” Her friends brought frozen dinners, cooked and labeled. All she had to do was defrost and heat. What a blessing for a new mom, especially one with other small children. The meals lasted for weeks. — MultiGrandma Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@ comcast.net.
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