Big Voice Whiteley July 2015 by Big Voice Directories

July 2015 | Issue 88 | £1.50 where sold

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WHITELEY CHURCH CONTACT DETAILS Reverend Philippa Mills Phone: 07760771667 Email: minister@whiteleychurch.org.uk (Monday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday) Churchwardens: Jo Vartan Vikki Potts Phone: 01489 505367 Phone: 01489 588648 Mobile: 07767617797 Mobile: 07732567953 Email:

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Rites of Passage Births, deaths and marriages: is the church still involved? Well, the answer is a resounding ‘yes’! The Church has always had a part to play at these momentous times in people’s lives. If you just listened to the media you might think that the church has been marginalised but nationally the Church of England is still asked to conduct many, many services of marriage, Baptism and funerals.

Funerals There are now so many different people offering to take funeral services it can be quite bewildering for families. Again you don’t have to have been a church-goer to ask for the local vicar to take a funeral service. Often people say they don’t want a ‘religious service’ but when the family begin to plan the funeral they decide that they do want a prayer and possibly a hymn and maybe even a well known passage from the Bible. If that’s the case then the vicar or another church minister is probably the right person to take the funeral. You can still personalise the service with other readings and music so it reflects the character of the person who died and helps you to remember them in the way you’d like. There’s an excellent new website to help you think about funeral planning www.churchofenglandfunerals.org In the past as a society we have been shy about talking about death and dying but it’s often something many of us want to ask questions about. If this is you then keep an eye open for ‘Grave Talk’ - an informal event which we hope to hold in one of the Whiteley cafes later in the year.

Baptisms It has been a pleasure over the last few weeks to Baptise several babies of Whiteley families. Baptisms either take place in our morning service on the 4th Sunday of the month in the Community Centre or on a Sunday afternoon in one of the two neighbouring parish churches (St Peter’s Titchfield and St Paul’s Sarisbury Green). Whichever of the 3 places of worship, Philippa as the local Vicar will visit the family and take the service. If the Baptism has been held in Titchfield or Sarisbury Green then the family are invited to come to a Whiteley Church service to be welcomed. If you’d like to talk about any of these please get in touch with The Rev Philippa Mills (details below) Weddings You don’t have to be a regular church-goer to get married in Monday Minis church. If you consider yourself to have faith in God then I’d This continues to be a popular group and we’d still love to hear strangely encourage you to consider getting married in church. from anyone who could give us a hand with setting up, putting Church weddings have to take place in a licensed place of away and helping to make the group a welcoming place. If you’re worship. You may marry in any church that you have a special at home with a baby or pre-school children then come and join connection to (more details of these connections can be found at us on Monday afternoons in the Community Centre (1-2.45pm). www.yourchurchwedding.org.uk). If you’d like to be married in There are lots of toys for babies and children to play with, there’s your local parish church then that will either be Titchfield or always a fun craft activity and it’s a good opportunity to meet Sarisbury Green depending on where you live in Whiteley. Then other parents or carers. Philippa, the administrator of the parish church and you will work together to book the date and time and Philippa (or the officiating minister) will meet with you to plan the service.

Regular Church Activities (Sundays at Whiteley Community Centre, Gull Coppice) 1st Sunday First @ 4 Messy Church 4-6pm aimed at families with children age 2+ to 11 2nd Sunday 10.15 am Communion + children’s groups 3rd Sunday 10.15am Morning Worship + children’s groups 4th Sunday 10.15am Communion or Baptism + children’s groups

Open Door Cafe Tuesdays 9.30-11.30am Whiteley Community Centre Monday Minis Mondays (term-time) 1-2.45pm Whiteley Community Centre Small Groups Weekly for discussion, fellowship and Bible Study (contact Vicar or Wardens) Men’s Breakfast monthly on Saturday morning (website or contact Wardens for dates)

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Planning Matters

Check out this months round up of planning applications in and around Whiteley.

Over the Hedge

Our new monthly feature showing off our local gardens. You don’t need to peer over the fences any more - we’re doing it for you!

Differences of Opinon

We are never all going to see the world in the same way and Jessica McGregor Johnson shows us how to manage disagreements with your partner.

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Whiteley Church

Rites of passage. The church can assist in more ways than you might have thought.

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Messy Play

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… of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear and not bothering” said (my favourite) Winnie the Pooh. I have got to the tender age of 40(ish) and I’m only just starting to appreciate the benefits of just stopping. That might sound completely ridiculous but when you’re an incredibly busy person there just isn’t the time to stop. With endless lists, children to sort and businesses to run where do you schedule a ‘stop’? After all, if I stop then that pushes things out of sync and then I’m even busier when I come to start again. That’s right isn’t it? Or not. We recently found ourselves child free for a day and with the weather being fairly miserable decided, uncharacteristically, to pack up some sandwiches and a few books and drive down to Titchfield Haven. We set up camp in the back of our Bongo (lovingly known as the fun bus to the kids) and sat for an afternoon doing very, very little. It seemed decadent, luxurious and amazing. And the best bit? It rejuvenated me and gave me more energy to do all the things I needed to the following week. OK so this seems a bit obvious but until you step out of your comfort zone and realise the world doesn’t fall apart if you take a little time out then you’ll never know how therapeutic it can be. Go on, try it.

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Important Phone Numbers COMMUNITY Citizens’ Advice 01329 237121 Community Association 01489 881190 Fareham Borough Council 01329 236100 Meadowside Leisure Centre 01489 577464 Rotary Club of Whiteley 07599 937252 Town Council 01329 835019 Whiteley Church 07760 771667 Whiteley Community Centre 01489 880041 Whiteley Guide and Brownies 01489 885748 Whiteley Scout Group 07808 301176 Winchester City Council 01962 840222 Police 101 or emergency 999 RSPCA 01329 667541 Victim Support 0845 3899528

First Bus Service 023 9286 2412 Hampshire Highways 0845 8504422

HEALTH Alcoholics Anonymous 0845 7697555 Dental Helpline 0845 0508345 Whiteley Dental Practice 01489 564203 Doctor’s Surgery 01489 881982 NHS Direct 111 NHS Smoking Helpline 0800 0224332 SCHOOLS Cornerstone CofE Primary School 01489 660750 Henry Cort Community College 01329 843127 Whiteley Primary School 01489 881601 Whiteley Pre-School 01489 565717 TRAVEL Coastguard 023 8032 9486 National Rail Enquiries 08457 484950

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To Whiteley Primary School, Gull Coppice, off Yew Tree Drive, Whiteley on the third Wednesday of each month at 7.15 p.m. We have a varied programme of events and speakers. We have a craft section, reading group, gardening group, lunch club, cinema/theatre club & weather permitting, a walking group. New members and visitors are always welcome. Meetings always end with a cup of tea, or coffee and a chat. For more information please contact:Mrs Sue Hall (Chairman) Tel No: 01489 881721 Mrs Jane Vardy (Press Secretary) Tel No:01489 881902

Remarkable Relationships Jessica offers Life Guidance, connecting back to your spirit, the true heart of you. If you want to know more you can visit her website http://www.jessicamcgregorjohnson.com

Differences of Opinion Anger shows its face up in many different scenarios particularly in relationships. We get triggered into anger by many different things but arguments can often flare up when in fact all it is, is a difference of opinion.

This is just an example of the diversity of the world and they will always exist. We might not like them but each is entitled to their opinion.

point, to be right how can we step back?

One simple technique is to agree a phrase that brings both of you out of the illusion of needing to be right. It can wake you up and Trouble is that when you take help you see that this topic is not those differing of opinions into worth creating a huge personal We are never all going to see the relationships it often ends up argument about it – that your world in the same way – and being turned into a personal thank goodness because it would argument rather than seeing that relationship is actually worth be very boring if we did. We all it is just a conversation about two more than this topic. The trick is see the world through different different viewpoints. It is all too to agree it beforehand. glasses. For example a easy to get into the place where Greenpeace activist will look at you fight your ground and try to So in what I call a sober moment what is done in the Amazon make the other person wrong, – when you are feeling very through their environmentalist feeling the need to be the one happy with each other and have mindset of it being a tragedy who is right. no axe to grind – have a chat about wanting to pre-empt the whereas a multi-national Without forethought it is virtually arguments you have over a corporation will have other differing of opinion. The reason priorities. Both would argue their impossible in that adversarial point of view till the cows come moment to step back and agree you talk about it away from the home and neither will ever to differ. Once we are in the argument is that you can both set concede to the other’s opinion. feeling of wanting to prove our an intention to use this method. You agree a wake up phrase, something either of you can say in the moment that wakes you up from the compulsion to win your case and helps you see that it is only a differing of opinion. It can be any phrase – either related to the situation or not. For example, you could say – “Hey this is one of those moment where we can agree to disagree”. Or if you feel that would not stop

the flow of thoughts so easily you can use a silly phrase – mine is “the peas are green this summer” feel free to borrow it if it helps. The key is that this is an agreement between you, set an intention that when one of you uses the phrase it is time to agree to disagree and then – and this is so important - change the subject!

P lanning Matters

A monthly round up of planning applications submitted since 1 May 2015 FAREHAM COUNCIL REF

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8 Haflinger Drive Whiteley Fareham PO15 7DX

Certificate for lawfulness for proposed single storey rear extension.

P/15/0437/TO Land South Of 10 Defoe Close Whiteley Fareham PO15 7JF

One oak and one ash protected by tpo 183: tip reduce on western side of tree back to previous pruning points.

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Unit F2 Whiteley Shopping Centre Whiteley Way Whiteley Fareham Hampshire PO15 7PD

Installation of external plant

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Unit G4 Whiteley Shopping Centre Whiteley Way Whiteley Fareham Hampshire PO15 7PD

Proposed 1no. fascia signage panel, 2no. window signs. and a fixed projecting sign.

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Unit F2 Whiteley Shopping Centre Whiteley Way Whiteley Fareham Hampshire PO15 7PD

1no. internally illuminated fascia sign, 2no. nonilluminated projecting signs, 1no. non illuminated planter sign and 1no. internally illuminated menu box

Over the Hedge Send in your garden pictures to editor@bigvoicedirectories.co.uk and you could be featured next month!

â&#x20AC;&#x153;Our back gardenâ&#x20AC;? Scot Green & Shaun Marchant 9 Rattigan Gardens Whiteley 16

Grass Roots Are you a true gardener? The other evening there was a knock at the door. Outside was a man who informed me that the tree in the front garden needed to be pruned back and that he was the person to do it for me.

ermanii, becomes entangled in some aspect of modern living, do you sacrifice the plant or try and find a way to save it?

Obviously there are situations when the plant has to go but Now the tree in question is a there are plenty of others were Betula ermanii which is known the plant is sacrificed just for its main characteristic which because it is the easiest, quickest is particularly stunning bark or cheapest thing to do, creamy white, tinged with the particularly with trees. I think it faintest blush of pink. It also has is so sad to see trees that have a conical crown, catkins in the had their heads chopped off, so spring, mid green leaves to speak, especially when done throughout the season and a badly or incorrectly. It looks gentle yellow glow about it in the brutal, impatient and aggressive. autumn. I love that tree. It is the first thing I see every morning That said, I have a dilemma on and the birds sit in it and my hands at the moment. A welcome the day. I love it to garden which is being designed such an extent that we paid for a by my company, has a semitelephone engineer to come and mature willow tree in it, which is reroute the telephone wires that 2m away from the ran through its crown, rather house of their than cut it back in any way, next door which would have been neighbour. I think significantly easier and cheaper it should be to do. So there is no way that removed to anyone was going to chop the prevent any crown of that tree off, however damage being enterprising they may have been. inflicted on the house in the The man on my door step looked future but the at me as though he could not garden owner believe his ears when I told him wants to keep it this. He went away but it was this as it is a graceful man’s incredulity at my refusal to tree which her chop the tree back that made me children love realise what really divides the playing around. true gardener from the rest of the population. So what to do? It breaks my heart It is this: - if a plant you love, to get it removed such as the case of my Betula yet it was planted

so badly in the first place that it will eventually cause damage to the neighbour’s house. So in this instance, it might be better to pollard it (correct term for chopping its branches off) so that it lives to see another day. So, the conclusion I’ve eventually arrived at is that the true gardener is the one who plans ahead. For more info about this sort of thing, download the first chapter, FREE, of my forthcoming book ‘The Garden Equation. How to have a garden you love that fits beautifully into your lifestyle’ at www.yorkshiregardendesigner.co.uk By Sally Tierney, www.yorkshiregardendesigner.co.uk

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