Big Voice Lee on the Solent July 2015 by Big Voice Directories

July 2015 | Issue 93 | £1.50 where bought

Knit and NATTER Tea and charity all begins with a ball of wool

remarkable RELATIONSHIPS

Difference of Opinion

THIS MONTH..

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HOUSE AND GARDENS

little group when Alan Millard popped in and enjoyed a rather nice session of tea and cake!

Check out this months round up of planning applications in and around Lee on Solent

Planning Matters

HEALTH, BEAUTY & LIFESTYLE

In House Chat

We are never all going to see the world in the same way and Jessica McGregor Johnson shows us how to manage disagreements with your partner.

Our award winning local agent Mark Rowe imparts more house knowledge and tips.

Differences of Opinion

CHILDREN, PETS & EDUCATION 7

Kids Page

Immerse yourself in some Jungle Fun with puzzles and spot the difference.

COMMUNITY 20

Gig Guide

St Faiths’ Church

Support your local bands and enjoy some fabulous live music at pubs in the area during May and June.

Knit and natter. Find out more about this thriving

If you’ve got a local Good News story we’d love to hear about it! Whether it’s kindly friends or neighbours going out of their way to help each other, children doing fab activities that make them smile, winning awards or just doing a good turn we’d love to know! Email your stories to us at editor@bigvoicedirectories.co.uk

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on’t underestimate the value of doing nothing….

… of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear and not bothering” said (my favourite) Winnie the Pooh. I have got to the tender age of 40(ish) and I’m only just starting to appreciate the benefits of just stopping. That might sound completely ridiculous but when you’re an incredibly busy person there just isn’t the time to stop. With endless lists, children to sort and businesses to run where do you schedule a ‘stop’? After all, if I stop then that pushes things out of sync and then I’m even busier when I come to start again. That’s right isn’t it? Or not. We recently found ourselves child free for a day and with the weather being fairly miserable decided, uncharacteristically, to pack up some sandwiches and a few books and drive down to Titchfield Haven. We set up camp in the back of our Bongo (lovingly known as the fun bus to the kids) and sat for an afternoon doing very, very little. It seemed decadent, luxurious and amazing. And the best bit? It rejuvenated me and gave me more energy to do all the things I needed to the following week. OK so this seems a bit obvious but until you step out of your comfort zone and realise the world doesn’t fall apart if you take a little time out then you’ll never know how therapeutic it can be. Go on, try it.

Much love until next month Coralie and Sean x

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Out and about

Lee -on-the-Solent Horticultural Society Holds Three Shows a Year and a number of Social Evenings, also has a Trading Hut for Members opens 10 -12 Noon on Sundays and Thursdays. Contact Membership Secretary 02392 554363

Lee Players We meet in Crofton Hall Theatre Crofton Community Centre, Stubbington every Tuesday at 7.45pm. Whether you wish to “tread the boards” or help out backstage, please come along, you will be guaranteed a warm welcome. Please call Peter or Sally Appleton on Telephone: 02392 551010 Lee Residents Association Holds several Open Evenings with guest speakers a year, three up to date newsletters; joint events with other community groups, planning permission involvement; the Christmas social event; fund raising activities; liaison with Lee Business Association (LBA).and organises a Monthly Table Top Event in Lee, contact the Secretary for more info 02392 551547 or visit the website www.leeresidents.org.uk

Gosport Access Group and Disability Forum Meeting This is an informal gathering for people with mixed disabilities, carers and supporters. We have one or two speakers each meeting and time for discussing any access issues of concern in Gosport. Everyone is welcome to come along for a cuppa and join in, from 1.45pm for a 2pm start. Meeting dates for this year are:6th July (AGM) (11.30-2.30) in Council Chambers 7th September (1.45-4.00) in Council Chambers 9th November (1.45-4.00) in Council Chambers

SING for FUN Starts the 1st and 3rd Thursday of the month at St Faiths church, Lee on Solent 19.30 until 21.00 pm . £4. Aimed at young people and adults with learning difficulties, also all ages and abilities welcome. More details contact Phil 02392 360120 Charity concert in support of Parkinson’s on Saturday, 22nd June at the Milton Glee Club. FRENCH MARKET The French Market will be in Lee on Solent on Friday 24th July from 0900 until late.

Maria Battley (Secretary) gosportaccessgroup@hotmail.co.uk Lee Historic Waterfront Walk and Talk Walks and Talks take place on the first Tuesday of the month from February to October, starting in Elmore Car Park next to the Fishing Club Compound at 10am. The route is along Lee Promenade to the old swimming pool site, returning back to the car park. Total time is around 90 minutes. Contact Ray Harding on 023 9255 1706.

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Important Phone Numbers COMMUNITY Community Association 023 9255 2841 Crofton Secondary School 01329 664251 Family & Friends Lesbians & Gays 0845 6520311 Lee on Solent Parish Office 023 9255 6445 Lee on Solent Infant School 023 9255 1767 Lee on Solent Junior School 023 9255 0551 Local Councillor 023 9255 2177 Local Council Offices 023 9258 4242 Neighbourhood Watch 023 9258 3637 Police 101 or emergency 999 RSPCA 01329 667541 Tourist Information 023 9252 2944 Victim Support 0845 3899528 HEALTH Alcoholics Anonymous 0845 7697555 Dental Helpline 0845 0508345 Gosport War Memorial Hospital 023 9252 4611 Lee on Solent Health Centre 023 9255 0220 NHS Direct 111 NHS Smoking Helpline 0800 0224332

TRAVEL Coastguard 023 8032 9486 Dial a Ride Gosport 01329 223151 First Bus Service 023 9286 2412 Hampshire Highways 0845 8504422 IcanGo 07787 292666 National Rail Enquiries 08457 484950

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Knit and natter with ten other women all frantically knitting and all, including me, nattering about everything under the sun. Before long I was drinking tea, enjoying a delicious sponge cake provided by Anne, listening to Before I could apologise for barging everyone and wondering what on earth I could write about. But by the in on them they all began laughing time I left, I’d managed to pick up and asking if I was there to join enough information from the general them. They were busy chatting to each other, eating cakes, drinking tea conversation to gain some idea of the group’s history and purpose. and knitting. Having heard of a Knit and Natter group at the church, I The Knit and Natter group was realised who they were, explained formed around ten years ago by Jean that I was useless at knitting (apart Crook who was then a member at St. from French knitting) but asked if I Faith’s and the first lady in the could join them sometime with a Portsmouth diocese to train as a view to finding out what they did. And a few week’s later I joined them, Reader. Having a friend who not so much to knit as to natter and belonged to a knitting group in Farlington, Jean decided that a avail myself of the tea and cake. similar group should be established On arriving at the Lowry room where at St. Faith’s where, as well as meeting to chat and make new they usually meet on Friday friends, they could knit for the afternoons, I was immediately various charities in area. Their main welcomed and found myself sitting activity (apart from nattering) is to at table between Anne and Lydia, knit squares which Lydia, sometimes two of the original members, along

Some weeks ago I inadvertently walked into the Bulson Hall at St. Faith’s without realising that a group of women were gathered around a table in the middle of a meeting.

helped by others when too many mount up, eventually sews together to make warm blankets for whoever might need them. Among the recipients who currently receive them are the homeless at the ‘Two Saints’ hostel in Fareham, the ‘Hope and Aid’ charity who transport them to Kosovo for use in orphanages or elsewhere and the local Women’s Refuge and Premature Baby Unit at the Queen Alexandra Hospital in Portsmouth. All of the wool required is given to the group by friends and well-wishers. From time to time other articles apart from squares are knitted. On one occasion an incredibly long strip was created to wrap around the conning tower of the submarine, HMS Alliance after it had been refurbished. Brenda Savage (the only member of the group who for some reason is missing from the photograph) remembers that her contribution to the strip was knitted in vivid lipstick red! On another

occasion George (a regular Cuppa and Company member who came from Wolverhampton) asked for some woolly hats to be knitted for the Wolves football supporters. On taking my leave after a thoroughly enjoyable afternoon I asked if the group would welcome new members and the resounding response was a loud, enthusiastic YES. There is no need to belong to St Faith’s or any other church. Some of the present members are churchgoers and some are not. The only requirement seems to be that, as well as having something to natter about you should know what to do with a pair of knitting needles. Everyone in the group is really welcoming and more than friendly. So, if you’d like to catch up on the

latest gossip and maybe add to it yourself and if you’d like to escape for an hour or two on Fridays from 2 – 4 pm, please feel free to come along. The tea is tasty, the cake is superb and the company, I promise, is second to none. Alan Our wonderful St Faiths contributor, Alan Millard can be contacted via St Faith’s Church, Lee on the Solent. Parish Office Mondays - Fridays 10:30am - 12:30pm 023 9255 6445

Dates for your diary Charity Concert in support of Parkinson’s, Saturday June 22nd, 7:30. Milton Glee Club

SAVE THE SQUARE CAMPAIGN, Phillip Scott, Co-organiser “Save the Square Campaign” Matters have now reached the stage where the Diocese of Portsmouth have chosen a developer and it is their intention to proceed with the planned residential development of the vicarage site on Victoria Square . They have had the legal right to do so since winning an appeal to the Planning Inspectorate in May last year. It was always hoped that by demonstrating the strength of feeling against the development the diocese could be persuaded to modify their plans. This has not happened and they have remained resolute in their determination to proceed with the development of the vicarage site as planned, including the sale of the controversial three new houses. The ‘Save the Square Campaign’ has gained a lot of valuable support and significantly increased local awareness. Perhaps it is the time, therefore, to thank all those have supported the campaign for their contribution and to assure them that whilst it may not have achieved the desired result, their support need not be wasted - serious public concern still exists about the future of the remaining open green space in Victoria Square. Open spaces like that in Victoria Square need to be protected for future generations. To help ensure that the remaining open space is not sold off for future development, it is hoped we can obtain the security of Village Green Status. In the interest of the community we and the Lee Residents Association have formed a working group to carry this forward. To those who have supported us, we hope you will be equally happy to continue supporting this new stage in the campaign. We will be pleased to hear from you even if you wish to withhold further support. To contact us please call /text 07798 941427, email: savethesquare@hotmail.com or facebook.com/SavetheSquare

P lanning Matters A monthly round up of planning applications submitted since 1 May 2015 GOSPORT COUNCIL

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In house chat Recently I represented a local buy to let investor who wished for me to source and manage the process of not only finding a good investment, but also negotiating and ensuring the smooth handover. It got me thinking about the concerns existing landlords have about selling their property with a tenant in situ. It doesn’t necessarily have to be difficult but unless you take the right steps, it can be somewhat hazardous. Tenants do have rights and just because you wish to sell the property, it does not give you the right to disregard your legal responsibilities. So it is essential that where possible, you keep the tenant on your side.

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so, the tenant must comply with your request. If there is no such clause, then the tenant does have the right to refuse you access. If this happens, then it would be far better if you can I’m not one for the promotion of create a relationship with the evicting tenants unnecessarily, so tenant that will permit viewing to I’m going to concentrate more on take place. If your property is how to sell to another buy to let managed by an agent then I landlord, rather than a ‘vacant would suggest you communicate possession’ scenario. your intentions clearly to them, so that they are in the best position to advise the tenant Your right to show potential purchasers around the property effectively. are somewhat limited but not impossible. As you will no doubt Obviously when a tenant is in a be aware, this is an essential part fixed term tenancy they have the of selling a property – if they right to remain in the property can’t see it, they are very unlikely for that term, whether you sell it or not. So my advice here would to buy it! be to discuss with your agent as to the type of buyer you are Firstly, I would strongly advise that you take a good look at the trying to attract, as the only real option is to sell to another agreement you have with your tenant and see if there is a clause landlord. This does work quite that will allow you access to the well and going back to the client I dealt with recently, I was able to property, regardless of the reason. If there is such a clause, source a property that had a tenant in situ on a long term you must give the tenant 24 hours’ notice prior to your contract. This not only meant that the tenant was happy with a intended visit and having done 14

new landlord but it also meant the investor had instant income from day one. On the other hand, if a tenancy is coming to end, this would open up options to sell to a residential buyer in readiness for the tenant moving out and the new owner moving in. If your only option is to sell to other investors then you need to ensure your asking price falls within their target rental yield figures, if these don’t stack up then you’ve lost potential buyers immediately. Ask your agent what buy to let investors are looking for and ask for their feedback on the target rental yields they are generally looking for. The formula is straight forward enough – Monthly rent, times by twelve (months in the year), divide this by the purchase price and then times it by one hundred to give a gross rental yield.

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Differences of Opinion Anger shows its face up in many different scenarios particularly in relationships. We get triggered into anger by many different things but arguments can often flare up when in fact all it is, is a difference of opinion. We are never all going to see the world in the same way – and thank goodness because it would be very boring if we did. We all see the world through different glasses. For example a Greenpeace activist will look at what is done in the Amazon through their environmentalist mindset of it being a tragedy whereas a multi-national corporation will have other priorities. Both would argue their point of view till the cows come home and neither will ever concede to the other’s opinion. This is just an example of the diversity of the world and they will always exist. We might not like them but each is entitled to their opinion. Trouble is that when you take those differing of opinions into relationships it often ends up being turned into a personal argument rather than seeing that it is just a conversation about two different viewpoints. It is all too easy to get into the place where you fight your ground and try to make the other person wrong, feeling the need to be the one who is right. Without forethought it is virtually impossible in that adversarial moment to step back and agree to differ. Once we are in the feeling of wanting to prove our point, to be right how can we step back?

One simple technique is to agree a phrase that brings both of you out of the illusion of needing to be right. It can wake you up and help you see that this topic is not worth creating a huge personal argument about it – that your relationship is actually worth more than this topic. The trick is to agree it beforehand.

Or if you feel that would not stop the flow of thoughts so easily you can use a silly phrase – mine is “the peas are green this summer” feel free to borrow it if it helps.

The key is that this is an agreement between you, set an intention that when one of you uses the phrase it is time to agree to disagree and then – So in what I call a sober moment – and this is so important - change the when you are feeling very happy with subject! each other and have no axe to grind – have a chat about wanting to preempt the arguments you have over a differing of opinion. The reason you talk about it away from the argument is that you can both set an intention to use this method. You agree a wake up phrase, something either of you can say in the moment that wakes you up from the compulsion to win your case and helps you see that it is only a differing of opinion. It can be any phrase – either related to the situation or not. For example, you could say – “Hey this is one of those moment where we can agree to disagree”.

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