As the old saying goes, “You cannot solve a problem with the same mindset that created it.” Here’s how I worked with him.
Step 1. NEGATIVE MINDSET I had him state his negative mindset in this way: “I am + negative mindset + the situation.” For example, “I am disappointed about losing the deal.”
Step 2. POSITIVE MINDSET Then I had him state the opposite positive mindset that would help him find a better solution: “I have chosen to be + positive mindset + situation resolving steps.” He said, “I have chosen to be confident that I can learn from the situation and bounce back.” That seemed strange to him at first because he wasn’t feeling confident. As the old saying goes, “You cannot solve a problem with the same mindset that created it.” The trick here is to help a person manufacture the new mindset, attitude, feeling, and perception by re-stating it. You help the individual create a magnet from the negative to the positive. A circuit needs both negative and positive polarities to create electricity. The meeting of the two opposites creates the spark for a solution!
Step 3. TELL A MIND STORY I asked him to tell me a story about a time he overcame a similar situation in the past. That is called a positive Mind Story. It opens up new possibilities in the conscious AND subconscious mind of the listener. I asked him to include a beginning, a middle, and an end to the story.
Stories bypass the judgmental mind and can open up a conversation… • The end is what it looked like after he implemented the solution. For example, he said, “Last year I almost got the TCU deal and lost to a competitor. I had worked days on that proposal. I’d done three meetings. I was short-listed and very hopeful. “When I lost the deal, I lost my enthusiasm. I got sick. I wanted to quit being a consultant. Then a friend told me about another company looking for a consultant like me and the deadline for the proposal was 2 days away. I shrugged off my disappointment and got the proposal done on time and landed the deal.” After he told me the story, I asked him, “So, what would you do in this situation?” He said, “Clearly I think it would work for me just to go on to another proposal, rather than wallow in regret. It’s a numbers game.”
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Off he went. Disappointment gone. Back in the saddle. Does it always work quickly like that? No. But if it doesn’t work right away, chances are it will later. Sometimes you have to do it a few times, in more complex ways. Those are just simple examples using a short version of the Mind Story tools, for the sake of brevity.
The Key Stories bypass the judgmental mind and can open up a conversation between your subconscious and conscious mind. That way you’re less likely to be stopped by limiting beliefs that can keep you stuck. s
• The beginning is what happened before he created a solution.
Carla Rieger is the CEO of The Artistry of Change, Inc.
• The middle is what he did to create the solution.
Carla@ArtistryofChange.com www.ArtistryofChange.com
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