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FEATURES 6 Trekking South Africa

Vancouver Island couple chase adventure around the globe.

12-20 SPECIAL FEATURE LEAVE A LEGACY: 12 A World of Difference

46 Ping-Pong Friends

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Columns 4 The Family Caregiver Barbara Small

13 Tips on Effective Giving

10 Victoria’s Past Revisited

14 Care, Compassion & Courage

21 Scam Alert

17 Planned Giving with Life Insurance 20 Mentoring the Future 22 Never Give Up

Gerhard Hertwig survived the horrors of war by holding ﬁrm to his faith.

24 The Women Behind the Institute

The South Vancouver Island branch of the Women’s Institute.

29 Embraced by the Arts

Director Jeff Hyslop shares his talents with the Showcase Theatre Company.

32 Retracing History

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40 Married to Music

A shared love of music grew into a life-long love affair for the Growcotts.

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27 Ask Goldie

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36 Courageous & Outrageous Pat Nichol

48 Reﬂections:Then and Now Gipp Forster

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• Your employer may allow you to use part of your paid sick leave to care for a sick family member. • Employment Insurance Compassionate Care benefits are available to employed family members caring for a gravely ill relative at risk of dying within 26 weeks. These benefits consist of six weeks total compensation per ill person plus two weeks of unpaid waiting period. Visit the Human Resources and Social Development Canada website at www.hrsdc.gc.ca • Some employee benefits, such as extended health benefits and employee and family assistance programs, may extend to dependents and can help with family caregiving responsibilities. Look closely at the definition of “dependent” for your own benefits plan. The options and benefits available in your workplace to you may not be obvious or well-known, even by your supervisor or manager. You may need to do some research, along with your human resource department about what benefits and options are available. • Likely, other family caregivers in your workplace also face these same challenges. Consider developing a support group at work. Remember, you are not alone.

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• Make a list of what you need help with and when you need it. Decide what other family members can do and what outside services need to be brought in. • Familiarize yourself with community resources. Contact the Family Caregivers’ Network at 384-0408 or fcns@telus. net for information and referrals. To launch Family Caregivers Week in B.C., May 10-16, the Family Caregivers’ Network is hosting a seminar for employers, human resource professionals and business owners entitled, “Supporting Family Caregivers in the Workplace” on Friday, May 9, 8:30-11:30 a.m. On May 10, 9:30 a.m.-1 p.m., FCNS will host a workshop for caregivers entitled, “The Lighter Side of Caregiving: Humour and the Family Caregiver.” Visit www.fcns-caregiving.org for more information on either of these SL events. Next month: Travel Tips Barbara Small is Program Development Coordinator for Family Caregivers’ Network Society.

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SOUTH AFRICA A

bout a year ago, on a typically grey, overcast Vancouver Island morning, one just made for browsing through the travel section of the paper, we came upon the perfect antidote – an adventure trek through South Africa! It’s a country we’ve always wanted to visit, so after exploring a few websites and making some phone calls, the bookings were done. Just like that! It was easy, exciting, invigorating, and a portent of how well the actual trip would turn out. Not only did the fall departure provide plenty of time for preparation, research, reading and packing, but it also became an endlessly fascinating topic of conversation. From the start, we speculated

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soft-sided bag to hold our gear for an 18-day trek, plus some extra days spent in a completely different environment at the start and end of the trip. That, along with a daypack, would be it for luggage. Next, was ﬁnding footwear suitable for a total of ﬁve weeks in such diverse places as Paris, the bushveld, mountains, beach, rain, heat and London in November. Although not campers, we’re active people and learned even more about the incredible array of equipment available for nearly any type of active trip, from sleeping bags to quick-dry towels and underwear. Would our choice of light beige, easy-wash, quick-dry, roughing-it, many-pocketed, sun/water/mud resistant activewear make us look like escapees from Raiders of the Lost Ark we wondered, or would it be practical and live up to its labels? Indeed it did: easy wash and dry, useful pockets and zips, but most of all very comfortable. Fast forward to Johannesburg: We’ve had the necessary shots, packed the medical supplies, purchased the trekking gear, cameras and binoculars, now

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we have to do the best we can with what we’ve got – this is, after all, an adventure trek, not a five-star glide through the wilderness. A couple of fellow trekkers from Vancouver Island join us and we all head off to meet the others and experience our first night in a South African lodge. It’s a 5:30 a.m. start the next day, heading northeast in the 4x4 fully equipped [but not air conditioned] safari truck to the Lowveld bushveld for a two-night stay at a bush camp adjacent to Kruger Park. A three-hour guide and tracker-led game walk wipes away the last vestiges of images of life outside of Africa and envelops us in the marvels, rhythms and secrets of nature in the bush, so we could open our eyes and actually see the surrounding landscape. From then on, the real adventure unfolded. We delighted in spotting elephants, giraffes, cape buffalos, hippos, monkeys, baboons, zebras, rhinos and just about every creature you’d expect to see on a National Geographic African special. Seeing the animals against the wide vista of their natural habitat, hearing the thundering of hooves, seeing the interaction between them, we felt so privileged to be there. We eagerly consulted our wildlife books and maps and shared the information with each other. Along with our seasoned guide, a few in the group discovered they had hidden talents as spotters, so cameras and binoculars were constantly at the ready. Sightings of wildlife were continuous throughout the trip and our licensed Drifters guide, Petrie, provided thorough information on the flora and fauna, history, geography and customs of the country; he drove, shopped, managed the schedule and cooked our dinners and breakfasts, if we weren’t staying at a lodge. But, we pitched in and did the extras: clearing up and preparing picnic lunches when on the road. The food was hearty, featured plenty of meat and was often cooked in one big iron pot, sometimes over the hot coals of a campfire; always plentiful, tasty and served against a stunning backdrop – a

A rare sighting of a leopard in Kruger National Park. (Left) The author dons a functional sunhat and binoculars – don’t trek without them! (Bottom left) Locust spotted on a hike in the Drakensberg Mountains.

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On the way to Cape Town, we stopped at Hermanus to watch the massive Right Whales. That breathtaking scene was only one part of a magnificent coastal drive to the Cape. Then, it was onward to the Cape Town area and all it has to offer: the wine area of Stellenbosch, French-influenced Franschhoek, Boulders Beach Penguin colony, the Cape of Good Hope, Table Mountain with its revolving-floored cable cars for a good all-around view, and the new and vibrant Victoria and Alfred Waterfront with restaurants, shops and a variety of performers. A rollicking boat trip takes visitors from there to Robben Island, where Nelson Mandela and others were incarcerated; the history of the island is thoroughly presented and well documented. South Africa is sometimes called a “rainbow nation” or “a land of impossible contrasts.” And it is. Just as a stunning view might take your breath away, so too do sights of sprawling townships and crowded dwellings, overwhelmingly busy market areas, ubiquitous razor wire schools that need simple basics, and startling views of people in their daily struggles. Cellphones abound in the most unexpected places, cattle graze along highways, wild animals wander across roads, the Cape Town Opera performs at the V&A Waterfront and a Sangoma will look into the future using shells and bones. And, a few other highlights that can add to this richness of experience are places such as Soweto, Nelson Mandela’s house, Winnie Mandela’s house, the Apartheid Museum and Pretoria; but SL that’s another story.

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The Government tried its hand at they would. But then came the scandal he construction of the Provincial Legislative Buildings reconciliation, but was horrified when of the missing slabs of marble, evidentin Victoria, one of the most Rattenbury presented a bill for $3,000 ly stolen from the site. How Icheneel (now Glenlyon School), the Oak Bay significant 19th century structures in for attending the meetings! The authorities knew they had lit- residence that Rattenbury was building Western Canada, did not proceed without incident. While the brash young im- tle option but to side with the archi- for himself, happened to have large secmigrant, Francis Mawson Rattenbury, tect, though they sympathized with the tions of identical marble in its interior had outsmarted 66 of Canada’s best ar- builder. But Adams, no quitter, was finish remains a mystery to this day. The troubles didn’t end there. The chitects, his inexperience soon began to mustering his forces for a blistering atshow with some devastating results. tack when he tragically drowned, and acoustics of the Legislative Hall were so bad that members simply The project was only in its could not be heard. One reportinfancy when Rattenbury beTiming was of the essence, gan to quarrel openly with his er suggested this was probably for 1897 was Queen Victoria’s contractor, Frederick Adams. a good thing. Adams, an experienced builder Fishnet on a steel frame was Diamond Jubilee, and since from Ontario, was now in his hung from the ceiling to help the City was named after her, fifties and knew his job. This solve the problem. It looked meant nothing to the young ghastly, but it helped a little. it was felt to be the fledgling architect, who lost no It remained an eyesore until time in belittling, ridiculing and the public address system was perfect tribute. insulting the older man. Adams installed. Washroom facilities took his grievances to the Chief in the Lieutenant Governor’s Commissioner of Lands and Works, so saved Rattenbury from any further Suite were forgotten. The Press Gallery but Rattenbury haughtily replied that trouble in this direction. desks were omitted. But, as far as the the builder would not do as he was told. Stormy winds, however, were blow- Government was concerned, the greatThere was more than a veiled threat in ing from another quarter. Cost over- est disappointment was that construchis letter. runs were causing so much concern, tion was behind schedule. “Unless Mr. Adams is given... to un- the Government decided to eliminate Timing was of the essence, for 1897 derstand that he is subject to my author- the expensive marble finish from the was Queen Victoria’s Diamond Jubiity and that no attention will be paid to Legislative Hall. Rattenbury protested lee, and since the City was named after his complaints against myself... I can- so furiously that the Government even- her, it was felt to be the perfect tribute not see how the work can proceed.” tually gave in, as the architect knew to open the splendid new Legislative

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Second in a three-part tale of Francis Mawson Rattenbury BY NORMAN K. ARCHER

public that the only reason he had for Buildings in that year. But they were to the mining areas. Rattenbury had married Florrie Nunn returning to Victoria was that he was unfinished. The outer shell was done, but it was in no shape to hold open- in Christchurch Cathedral on June 18, much too busy with his architectural ing ceremonies. Rattenbury, however, 1898. Immediately afterwards, he took work to spend any more time in the rose to the occasion by festooning the his new bride up to the forbidding gold- Yukon! Certainly, his reputation as an archiouter perimeter with thousands of elec- field region to survey the possibilities. tect had soared to great heights. He was tric light bulbs to celebrate the Jubilee, It would be a wild stretch of imaginamaking it the first public building in the tion to call the trip a honeymoon. The now the architect of choice for many shipping venture might have worked major building projects – some 40 or world to be similarly floodlit. To this day, every evening at sun- had the weather not turned extremely more in Victoria alone, many of which still stand paying tribute to his set, over 3,000 light bulbs are remarkable eye. He designed switched on, paying tribute to He married Florrie Nunn in hotels, schools, courthouses, the creative inspiration of an exChristchurch Cathedral on June banks, railway stations and asperating genius. large private homes throughBut even the shortcomings 18, 1898. Immediately afterout the province, and even and enormous cost overruns did wards, he took his new bride to did some work for the Banff nothing to dampen the ardour of Springs Hotel in Alberta. the crowds that came to the ofthe forbidding goldfield region But he was soon to pluck ficial opening on February 10, another very ripe plum – to to survey the possibilities. 1898. design the second most phoThe Daily Colonist was ectographed building in Victoria static, describing the building as SL – the Empress Hotel. a “Marble Palace” and launched into a foul. Then the gold rush petered out as To be concluded... flurry of exuberant prose, lauding Rat- quickly as it had begun, leaving Rattenbury’s genius to the skies. The bands tenbury with a fleet of useless boats. played, the people cheered, schools The Klondike gold rush is undoubtedly were closed and Canada’s new flag flew Western Canada’s most famous, but its in the breeze. A magnificent fireworks least important, lasting only about two Norman Archer is display brought the day to its climactic years and not yielding the fortunes its an historical city tour conclusion. Every dignitary from every predecessors had. guide in Victoria and aspect of city life was there. Everyone, Although Rattenbury lost his riches the author of Tales of that is, except the architect. He was off on the project, he made it clear to the Old Victoria. on a trip to England to finance one of his most catastrophic schemes. The Klondike gold rush was on. Here was an opportunity for the architectural wizard to try his hand at something new. Calgary cattle baron Pat Burns had the idea of driving cattle up to the Klondike because food was in extremely short supply. Rattenbury jumped on the bandwagon and poured most of the wealth he had accumulated from the Legislative Buildings into supplying rafts and a fleet of riverboats to take the slaughtered cattle by water MAY 2008

BY BARBARA RISTO

ay is Leave A Legacy month. It represents a time to reﬂect on one’s contribution to the world

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around them. Charity is as old as civilization itself. Throughout history, the act of helping others has been a fundamental pillar of every society that supercedes ethnicity, income level, age, gender and political or religious affiliation. The desire to give is often regarded as a derivative of one’s truest nature – the spirit or soul part of one’s being. Most major faiths reflect charity as one of their basic tenets, although giving to help others does not necessarily restrict itself to religion or spiritual practice. In many societies, it is also a learned behaviour. Who of us have not been taught through social practice to help others less fortunate, to be willing to give and receive? Most people give in some form or another, but few think in terms of “planned” giving. To actually take the time to sit down and contemplate how to distribute one’s resources, be it time or money, takes a deliberate effort. And these days, it often takes a bit of research as well to ensure that the intent of your generosity is maintained through the actions of the charity chosen. In the complexities of today’s financial intricacies, it sometimes even involves the services of a qualified financial planner, and/or legal advisor. There is, as well, the need to consider whether to donate to benefit someone today, or reserve one’s donation to benefit someone after one’s death. In many cases, donors decide on a combination of both. Donating to charity today provides the ability to actually monitor the benefit of one’s giving, as well as enjoy the satisfaction and feeling of well-being that comes from seeing the effect of one’s contribution. Whatever one’s reason for giving, and however one chooses to orchestrate that giving, the thoughtfulness put behind one’s action will usually always ensure the best outcome. Take time this month to think about how you can contribute to the world around you. It will truly SL make a world of difference.

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Since 1973, the Canadian Section of Amnesty International has promoted and protected human rights at home and abroad, through ongoing campaigning, outreach and education programs. By remembering Amnesty International in your estate planning, you will be helping to build a future where the fundamental dignity of every person is respected worldwide. For information and assistance, contact: Heather Warren, Planned Giving Associate (613) 744-7667 ext. 239 hwarren@amnesty.ca www.amnesty.ca/plannedgiving 1-800-AMNESTY

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Tips on Effective Giving

ffective giving starts with taking ownership for the giving process. Before you write that cheque, it is important your giving reflects and supports your values. A little research may be in order to be sure you are familiar with the organizations that support your cause. If you have been donating to a particular organization for some time, be sure the reason you originally supported them is still valid. Organizations can readdress their mandate and change their practices and policies. Decide how much you want to give. In the end, giving smaller amounts to multiple organizations erodes the power of your giving, so don’t feel guilty about saying “no” when solicitors come out of the woodwork. Consider donating to an umbrella organization that targets specific groups or issues. Ask questions. If you are concerned about the legitimacy of a charity, non-profit organization or fundraising, satisfy your concerns before you make a contribution. You are not wasting a canvasser’s or telephone solicitor’s time. A legitimate organization will spend the time with you. • Record the canvasser’s or telephone solicitor’s name, whether they are employed by a professional fundraiser, and the name and address of the professional fundraiser.

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• Ask questions. Where is the organization or charity located? What is its address and telephone number? What does it do and where does it carry on business? Who sits on its board of directors? When was it established and how long has it been operational? • Where is the money going? What percentage of the contribution will go to the charity and what percentage will go to administrative costs? • Can you claim your contribution for an income tax donation credit? Get the organization’s Revenue Canada registration number (1-800-267-2384). • Check out the charity or non-profit organization with the Better Business Bureau. Contact the organizations that interest you. Call, visit their websites or their offices. Talk to the volunteers or, better yet, volunteer yourself. Most organizations value your donation of time as much as your money. Decide how you would like your funds to be used. Do you want to help the organization stay afloat by donating operating funds? Or do projects or advocacy interest you? Taking ownership of your giving will ensure your efforts are going to the right places. When in doubt, check it out. It SL is your money.

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Your gift to Make-A-Wish ensures the wishes of tomorrow. Planned giving enables individuals to make a future gift, lasting far beyond their lifetime.

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Care, Compassion & Courage:

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Keep BC Wild at Heart

National Award for Canadian Cancer Society Volunteer

ach year the Canadian Cancer Society awards a National Medal of Courage to a person who has exhibited outstanding, exceptional courage in a personal battle with cancer. This year the medal for BC/Yukon has been given to Canadian Cancer Society volunteer and cancer survivor Pat Savage of Tsawwassen, who has made a signiﬁcant contribution in helping to improve the quality of life of cancer patients. Pat has volunteered for the Canadian Cancer Society’s personal support program, CancerConnection since the service was ﬁrst established in 2000. She has been recognized because of her unfailing commitment to CancerConnection clients and the care and compassion she demonstrates while providing support. She has helped over 70 people living with cancer. In her words, Pat became involved in the program “to try to help another person get through the hard times and to make a difference in at least one person’s life and be as helpful as humanly possible.” Although she was diagnosed in 1989 with inoperable lung cancer and given little hope by doctors, Pat’s treatment was successful. The survival rates for inoperable lung cancer are bleak. More than 2,800 new cases of lung cancer will be diagnosed in B.C. this year with 2,400 deaths. Source: Canadian Cancer Statistics 2008 Pat helps anyone with lung cancer. She stays with a client, providing hope with the power of her own story, even if the person turns out to have a prognosis not as fortunate as her own. “She is more than a Pat Savage very good volunteer;

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Contact Chloe O’Loughlin, Executive Director for more information at 604-685-7445

410-698 Seymour Street Vancouver, BC V6B 3K6 www.cpawsbc.org

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4 — 77 Victoria Crescent Nanaimo BC V9R 5B9 Phone: 250 714-0630 Facsimile: 250 714-0859

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she is a great and courageous volunteer,” says Sheila Craigie, Coordinator, Cancer Connection, BC and Yukon. “It is not easy to stay with a client through the palliative care stages and eventual death,” says Sheila. Pat has done this for almost 30 cancer patients. She sticks with her clients as long as they need her and many of her matches are lengthy ones. Some matches have lasted for two years and more. Pat has dedicated hundreds of hours to her clients. Her contribution extends beyond BC and the Yukon, supporting clients across Canada. “It takes truly extraordinary emotional courage to do what Pat does. She is a lung cancer survivor, working with people who have the same cancer often through to their death,” said Sheila. “This puts her right up against her own mortality time and time again. Coping with this requires emotional honesty as well as a willingness to be in a place of pain and sadness.” Pat stays engaged, and when she loses a client, she grieves. “I think it is ﬁtting that the last word comes from one of Pat’s clients who told us that she had loved talking with such an “up” person, saying that she had “so appreciated all of the lovely conversation,” comments Sheila. The Canadian Cancer Society’s CancerConnection provides support to cancer patients by phone or in person. The program matches a client with a trained volunteer who has had a similar cancer experience. Every effort is made to ﬁnd the best match based on type of disease, treatment and other factors. Volunteers have the perspective of someone who understands. The program has served more than 900 clients in 2007. For further information or to be matched with a volunteer, visit the support pages Canadian Cancer Society’s website at www. cancer.ca or call 1-888-939-3333. Anyone interested in volunteering for the Canadian Cancer Society is welcomed to call 1-866-770-4809 to speak with a Volunteer Resources Coordinator. There is a particular need for more cancer survivors who are one year post-treatment SL to volunteer for CancerConnection.

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gible for charitable tax credits. Tax receipts could greatly reduce the net cost of the policy for the donor. However, if the policy is straight term insurance, or if the policy has no cash value, a charitable receipt may only be given when premiums are paid. An accountant and/ or financial advisor can help a donor maximize tax benefits. If a donor names the charity as the beneficiary but maintains ownership of the policy, no charitable receipt can be issued. However, a significant planned gift to the charity will be established and the donor will maintain the right to change the beneficiary in the event circumstances are altered. A charitable receipt can be issued to the donor’s estate when the donor passes. An insurance policy can fund a charitable gift annuity for a loved one. It might be advantageous to bequeath either a new, or an existing insurance policy to an appropriate charity with instructions in the will that the proceeds be used to fund a charitable annuity for the benefit of a loved one. In this way, a donor can provide financial security to a beneficiary, while at the same time arranging a gift to the charity.

If the charity is named as a contingent beneficiary, the charity will receive the proceeds only if the primary beneficiary or beneficiaries predecease the policy holder. This works well if a donor’s primary concern is their loved one(s). Purchasing a joint-last-to-die policy is a way to increase the face value of a gift. By reducing the cost of the insurance, a donor can buy a much larger insurance policy for the same amount of money they likely will have to pay for a policy on a single life.

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What if one is uninsurable? With consent, a donor might consider purchasing a policy on the life of their spouse. Or, there may be a cost saving advantage to purchase a policy on a younger life. Using life insurance to establish a substantial gift to a charity will extend personal inﬂuence well beyond a lifetime. Relatively small contributions translate into an ‘ultimate gift’ many times greater than the contributions made by the donor. And it can be proactively arranged today rather than waiting until later in life to make a gift from accumulated assets. There are many considerations beyond the scope of this article to take into account. Always be sure to consult a ﬁnanSL cial advisor(s) before taking any action.

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Senior Living Magazine - April, 2008

One Step Closer to Nature

Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary

We inspire and educate your children about Nature. By remembering us in your Will, you will help children understand, care for, and protect the environment. Our future depends on them. For more info:

Terry Morrison, Executive Director 3873 Swan Lake Road, Victoria, B.C. V8X 3W1 phone: (250) 479-0211 fax: (250) 479-0132 website: www.swanlake.bc.ca Email: admin@swanlake.bc.ca Charity # 11920 7157 RR0001 MAY 2008

Mentoring the Future

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aul says he didn’t think his Little Brother even remembered his name the first few times he visited him at his elementary school for his one-hour per week In-School mentoring session. The little boy said virtually nothing and didn’t look directly at him. That was last September. The mentoring journey often begins the same way. A child is identified by a parent, teacher or advocate as being in need of a role model who can help them overcome challenges. More than 80 per cent of the children who participate in the nine In-School mentoring programs offered in Greater Victoria live in poverty. Approximately one quarter of the children have moved at least once in the last year. Nearly 30 per cent have experienced or witnessed violence in their homes or communities. Many are isolated from their extended families or have few positive and present role models in their lives. They need the support of mentors between the ages of 19 and 100 who can help build confidence and self-esteem, teach skills, provide dedicated time to that child and advocate for them. The children do not see age – they only see their mentor. There are two obstacles to helping children – a shortage of mentors and a shortage of resources to recruit, assess, train and support a child and mentor throughout a mentorship journey. It costs just $1,800 to support a mentorship match. The return on investment for children, families and communities is immeasurable. Big Brothers and Big Sisters will introduce new mentoring matches to four new schools in Greater Victoria this September. More than 600 children and youth will be served through new and existing programs. Today, Paul’s Little Brother comes to school consistently on the day that Paul is scheduled to visit. He is ready and willing to learn on mentoring days. He laughs and has made friends. He makes eye contact. Recently, this Little Brother excitedly said to his new teacher: “Mrs. P, this is MY mentor and Big Brother. His name is Paul.” For more information, visit www.bbbsvictoSL ria.com or call 250-475-1117.

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SCAM ALERT BY BRYDEN GAGE

Giving Can Be Good

ecently, researchers from the University of British Columbia did an experiment. The plan was to give $5 to $20 to several students to either spend on themselves or to spend on others. The results of the survey showed that the more people spent on others, the higher their happiness rating. So maybe money does buy happiness, after all. The caveat? Don’t spend it on yourself! While it is good to give, it is important to know who gets the money. For every legitimate organization raising funds for a valid cause, there are scam artists who impersonate charities in an effort to take advantage of people’s generosity and make a tidy profit for themselves. Then there are charities that may give a portion of donations to the actual cause, but not necessarily the amount donors would consider acceptable. When making a donation, ask how the funds raised are distributed. In some cases, a high percentage of the funds are used for administration, marketing or fundraising, leaving a small amount for the cause. If you plan to donate money this spring, the BBB would like to offer the following advice: • When in doubt, check it out. When an unfamiliar organization asks you for a donation, don’t give without gathering details about the charity, the nature of its programs and its use of funds. Visit the Canadian Revenue Agency at www. cra-arc.gc.ca/tax/charities for a list of registered charities in Canada. To search for licensed third-party telemarketers in B.C. making calls on behalf of legitimate charities, visit the Business Practices & Consumer Protection Authority website at www.bpcpa.ca • Think before you give. If you are solicited at the mall or on the street, take a minute or two to “think.” Ask for the charity’s name and address. Get full identification from the solicitor and review it carefully. Ask to see written information on the charity’s programs and finances. • Giving later might be better. Never feel pressured to give on the spot. Legitimate charities will welcome your money

tomorrow. If the solicitor pressures you with intimidation or harassing phone calls, don’t hesitate to file a complaint with BBB. • Watch out for cases of mistaken identity. With about 9,000 registered charities in B.C. alone, it’s not surprising that some charity names sound alike. Be careful that the one soliciting you is the one you have in mind. • Don’t accept vague claims. If something is being sold to benefit a charity, be wary of vague statements such as “all proceeds go to charity” or “your purchase will benefit a charity.” Look for a disclosure that indicates the actual or estimated amount of the purchase price that the charity will receive to fund its programs. • Unordered merchandise is free. If a charity sends you greeting cards, address labels or other merchandise with an appeal for donations, you are not obligated to make a donation or pay for the items. • Watch out for charity fraud. Legitimate charities do not demand donations; they willingly provide written information about their programs, finances or how donations are used; and they never insist you provide your credit card number, bank account number or any other personal information. • Tax receipts. If you are looking to make a tax-deductible donation, only a registered charity has received a Registration Number from the Canada Revenue Agency and can issue donation receipts for gifts. Learn more about giving to charities by visiting us at vi.bbb.org Happy giving! Bryden Gage is the Acting Executive Director of the Better Business Bureau of Vancouver Island. If you believe you have been the target or victim of a scam, please call the Better Business Bureau Vancouver Island at 386-6348 in Greater Victoria or at 1-877-826-4222 elsewhere on the Island, so others can benefit from your experience. E-mail info@vi.bbb.org MAY 2008

NEVER GIVE UP BY ROBERT L. RAMSAY

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in the community. His kindness extended to the prisoners of war. Every morning, French prisoners walked across the field to work in his sawmill. “My father made sure the prisoners got the same food as Wathe family,” says Gerhard. Twice a week, Gerhard attended the compulsory German youth programs for children of various ages, with the older boys leading the younger troops. “I enjoyed the sports and crafts,” says Gerhard, “but some of those leaders were sadistic. I remember one day one of the younger boys needed to relieve himself. This upset the 15-year-old leader who forced us all to crawl on our bare knees and elbows through a gravel pit.” The winter of 1945, young Gerhard and Friedemann watched the aerial dogfights overhead, and went to bed listening to the distant thunder of the Red Army’s artillery Gerhard Hertwig is an expert carpenter on the far side of the Oder River with old-world craftmanship skills. (approximately 100 km away). erhard Hertwig is known in the Comox Valley They could hear the Russian guns getting closer every day. for the quality of his cabinetry, and for the signs “We knew the situation was serious,” says Gerhard, “when the he and his wife Wyona produced for businesses local German detachment loaded their tanks on a train and left when they still had their sign shop in Courtney’s Tin Town. town. It wasn’t long before our comfortable life came to an end.” Few people, however, know of the hardships Gerhard endured On February 9, 1945, the mayor ordered everyone to evacuin his early years, growing up in Silesia (Prussia) during the ate the village. “It was a terrible time,” says Gerhard. “We could Second World War. take very little with us. My dad hitched the tractor to one lumber Born in 1933, Gerhard and his family lived comfortably wagon, and a team of horses to another. I climbed on the horseuntil the end of the war. His father, Gerhard Senior, operated drawn one with my brother and mother and 17 others from our a sawmill in the village of Reisicht, using some of the lum- village. We set out for Czechoslovakia.” ber to build prefabricated barracks for the German army. His Their route lay up steep mountain grades, which proved too mother, Frieda, had a maid to help her care for the house and much for some of the horses. Their hearts gave out and they were the two boys, Gerhard and his younger brother Friedemann. left dead at the side of the road. “The worst thing was that in Rationing was in effect during the war years, but the family the confusion of being pursued by the Russian army we became always had enough to eat. The boys went to school during separated from our father,” says Gerhard. “We didn’t think we’d the week, to church on Sunday and in their spare time played ever see him again, but several weeks later he arrived at the farm in bunkers they built in nearby fields. “We always had the where we’d found refuge. We were so glad to see him.” best bunkers,” says Gerhard, “because we could get scraps of When hostilities ceased, the family returned to their home, but wood from our father’s sawmill.” the Russians had stolen everything from the sawmill. His father Gerhard Senior never joined the Nazi party, something wanted to re-establish the business, but before he could do so, he was able to get away with because of his good reputation the Allies awarded Silesia to Poland, and the Hertwig family,

along with others of German ancestry, was kicked out. “It was an ethnic cleansing few people know about,” says Gerhard. “Estimates are that between 14 and 18 million people were deported, and that two million died.” His family was herded down to the railroad station with only what they could carry. “I was wearing a shirt and shorts, no footwear,” says Gerhard. “We were shoved into boxcars and shipped to West Germany like a load of cattle.” In hindsight, the family was fortunate to leave what was then the eastern bloc, but those early years in the west were difficult. At first, they lived in a horse barn. The cookstove vented through the window, and when the wind blew, smoke filled the space. Gerhard remembers the owner being worried about the health of his horses. The family was just glad to have a roof over their heads. His father found work on a potato farm, culling potatoes that weren’t suitable for seed, and helping to clear land, sometimes pulling stumps out by hand. Relief parcels from America were appre-

ciated. Gerhard remembers eating corn bread for the ﬁrst time and receiving a warm coat. “I didn’t care that it was really a lady’s coat,” he says. Neighbours and church members helped too. At the time, the family was studying the beliefs of the Seventh-day Adventists, who promote healthful living. Gerhard remembers people being astonished when his parents refused to eat a side of pork, instead trading it for cooking oil. After 11 years of odd jobs, Gerhard’s father opened a fence factory where Gerhard occasionally helped. He and his brother had apprenticed with a cabinetmaker, learning to build staircases, furniture and caskets. He remembers going to a home where an elderly lady had died and having to help lift her into the casket. “I never wanted to do that again,” he says. In 1956, friends working at the Adams Lake sawmill invited Gerhard to move to Canada. He later moved to Vancouver Island, where his old-world cabinetry skills were in demand in the boat building business. Eventually, he

opened his own cabinet shop, building kitchen cabinets. Over the years, he suffered several business reversals, but ﬁnally he and his wife Wyona opened Rosewall Signs in Courtenay. “I enjoy seeing my work on buildings around the Comox Valley, like at the new air terminal,” he says. Today, he is ofﬁcially retired at age 75, but still completes projects for people who value good workmanship. Recently, he crafted a pulpit and communion table for the Comox Valley Seventh-day Adventist church where he is a member. The carefully constructed joints and mouldings testify to his oldworld craftsmanship. When asked how he maintained hope through the distressing aftermath of war and several business challenges, Gerhard says, “I’m a persistent man. I never give up. I grew up in a Christian family in which faith in God was important. Even in the darkest days, I never thought of giving up on life. I believed then, and still believe today, that God will help those who trust in Him.” SL

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The Women Behind The Institute

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WI President Ruth Fenner (left) shares a laugh with Secretary Karen Shillito.

Photo: Judy Stafford

he barking of puppies in the midst of training classes and the scurrying of their feet overhead don’t dissuade this small, but impassioned group of women from getting through a long agenda. It’s the third Monday of the month at the Somenos Community Centre, just north of Duncan, which means business to discuss and plans to make for this branch of the Women’s Institute. Ruth Fenner, president of the group, calls the meeting to order. Secretary Karen Shillito works busily taking notes. Small yellow books are passed around, a prayer is read, and they begin. The minutes from the last meeting are approved and, one by one, items are crossed off the list. Active in the Cowichan Valley since 1936, this branch has given their support to many organizations such as: 4H clubs, local hospitals and the Cowichan Exhibition. One of their current projects is making comfort dolls to aid doctors and nurses when they explain medical procedures to hospitalized children. The Women’s Institute began in Ontario in 1897 and came to B.C. in 1909. Today, there are 80 branches in the province. South Vancouver Island District has 145 members in its 10 branches. They will host the 2008 B.C. Women’s Institute Triennial Convention in Duncan, June 5th to 8th. Over 200 delegates, members and guests from all over B.C. are expected to attend the Conference. The BCWI is part of an international membership with 18,000 members in Canada. Worldwide, there are over seven million. Ruth ﬁrst joined the Peace River branch of the WI in 1965 and loves to share how she has beneﬁted from her experience. “I have gained friends and knowledge,” she says. “I have learned public speaking and how to deal with the media. I have learning quilting and organizing things such as the Provincial Conference and the World Conference. I still correspond with women I met in Hamburg 28 years ago.” Recruitment is done by word of mouth. Sometimes, people join because of the events and projects with which the group is involved. “My greatest accomplishment was co-ordinating a three-anda-half-hour stage presentation for the World Conference in Vancouver in 1983.” Enthusiasm, not age, is a determining factor when becoming a part of this movement. “If you are interesting in bettering your home and your community,” says Ruth, “this is the organization to join.” To help illustrate the good they have done, Ruth has even

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written a soon-to-be-released book, One Hundred Women of British Columbia Women’s Institute. All the women chronicled in the book gave exceptional service to their communities, including Ruth herself. Vice-president Catherine Pastula, a relative newbie with four years in, couldn’t agree more that this is the place to be. She leans forward, anxious to share her passionate story. “I was working at an Island Farmer’s Alliance tradeshow and I was depressed,” says Catherine. “I was down, sick of me and my story. Ruth was there at another booth and she just started talking to me.” She smiles as she remembers fondly how this group took her in and supported her, when no one else would. “It’s a funny organization; it looks like it’s moving in a small way, but it’s a big wave,” says Catherine. “When women get together – there’s a huge momentum. This is so good for your heart – if you want to make a difference. You don’t have to be a loudmouth; you can be a turtle to win the race. It’s slow but it’s so deep – it’s the root of everything. These women go out of their way to help you.” Laughing, she admits, “I’ll be here forever – a lifetime member. I want to help someone like they helped me.” The Women’s Institute does a lot of work with hospitals and Catherine knows that journey too well. When her child became extremely ill, she spent a great deal of time at the Children’s Hospital. Joining this group is her way of giving back. The list of accomplishments and upcoming projects is long. With only 10 in their intimate group, there is no lack of enthusiasm and a “getter done” attitude. During the meeting, as jobs are listed, each woman steps forward to put her name down: table arrangements for an upcoming District conference, the spring conference, and

the fall workshops. The plea is extended to branches for help – and these women do. Of course, they’re not all about quilting and dolls – there is also grassroots, old-fashioned activism. A vote was quickly put on the table to enact an emergency resolution to speak out and make their concerns known regarding the Trade, Investment and Labour Mobility Agreement (TILMA), a partnership between the Government of British Columbia and the Government of Alberta. The process and paperwork is lengthy, but that is no deterrent. The groundwork is laid, the motion passed, and you can feel the sheer power of their resolve to make sure their voices are heard. But it’s back to serious business; next on the agenda, the raffle of the dollhouse. It’s a beauty, even if no one is sure where it came from. They deliberate that perhaps it was donated from someone who won it at a raffle. Tickets need to be tallied. Jokingly, Ruth suggests they’ll buy up the remaining tickets and if they win, raffle it off again; makes good business sense! Much is still to be organized. At the celebration in June, there will be a tree planting ceremony, the launch of Ruth’s book and, of course, lots of cake! What a great chance to combine a good mix of work, fun and yummy food. For more information regarding the celebration in Duncan, June 5th to 8th, the Women’s Institute or to order Ruth’s book, visit http://mypage.direct.ca/b/bcwi/home/ or contact SL Ruth Fenner directly at 250-246-2120.

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Dear Goldie: I am searching for a word to describe my life and have decided “boxed in” is best. Because I am in my 50s and never married, my brother and sister see me as an old maid and expect me to be at their beck and call. Why do people think single individuals don’t have a life? I cared for my aging parents in their ﬁnal years and any free time seemed to go into babysitting and house-sitting for family. When my siblings went on holidays, I looked after their mail, pets and gardens. I would dearly love to attend some classes at the local college. I enjoy writing poetry and have had some published. How can I break free without appearing selﬁsh? –W.A. Dear W.A.: It sounds like you have become “boxed in” because you have willingly given your life to others without reservation. I suspect your siblings may as-

sume this is all you want in life. You’ve never complained. You are right about other people’s views of single individuals. They often see them as lonely family members who need to be included in their lives. Communication is your way out of this box. Sit down with both families and explain how you feel and what you plan to do. Their reaction may surprise you. They could be relieved that you are ﬁnally showing interest in having a life of your own. When you fail to communicate with words, your family looks at your behaviour for answers. Speak up and express your feelings. Enjoy your new life out of the box! Dear Goldie: One of my best friends is a 78-yearold grandmother. Three months ago, her 30-year-old grandson committed suicide. I am concerned because she never discusses what happened and actually laughs and talks about him as if it never happened. What can I do to help?

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Older toilets typically use between 13 and 25 litres for every flush. This means that each person would use approximately 30,000 litres of water a year just in toilet flushing. That’s enough water to fill a backyard swimming pool! Replacing an older toilet with a model that uses 6 litres or less per flush can save 20 to 30% of the water used in the bathroom. For an average family this can mean a savings of 30,000 litres of water each year. As of January 1st, 2005 the provincial Water Conservation Plumbing Regulation was amended to require that every new toilet installed in the Capital Regional District uses 6 litres or less per flush. Older model showerheads are also inefficient water users. Replacing these heads with low-flow models can reduce bathroom water use by as much as 20%. Of course a low flow showerhead not only saves water, it also reduces energy costs for heating that water. While new water efficient technologies make a big difference, small changes to water using habits can also add up to savings. • Don’t use your toilet as a garbage can. Unnecessary flushing of the toilet even once a day can waste between 2,000 litres of water a year for a 6 litre toilet and 5,000 litres per year for a 13.25 litre toilet. • Take shorter showers. For every minute less you spend in the shower you can save up to 3,500 litres of water a year and the water-heating savings can add up very quickly. In the Greater Victoria area,

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nspiring,” describes the exuberance that makes Jeff Hyslop much bigger than his slight frame might otherwise appear. Starting at a young age as the tiny mascot for the BC Lions Football team – he has grown into roles of much grander proportions. The list of credits that float behind him is long and captivating: Jesus Christ Superstar, The Music Man, and The Phantom of the Opera barely ripple the surface. Dancer, singer, actor, director, choreographer – how is all this talent contained within one man? “Call me crazy,” are almost the first words out of his mouth when speaking of his latest adventure as director of Dancing in the Coal Dust, the story of Albert “Ginger” Goodwin; with the Showcase Theatre Company based in Campbell River. It’s a Canadian story, the likes of which has not been told since Anne of Green Gables, except it’s true. Goodwin was a labour organizer who was shot by police in 1918. A powerful story Jeff is itching to tell. It’s written. It’s ready. The two workshops presented in Vancouver met with standing ovations; it just needs financial support to hit the stage. Born in Vancouver in 1951, Jeff has one sister, Sandra, who is also his manager. And although he sports a full head of thick grey hair now, he still looks as spry as he did when he played in the very popular ’80s TV show Today’s Special. He’s proud of that program, and lots of young boys wrote fan mail and were inspired to take up dancing because of him. Jeff would love to see all those 125 shows, sitting in a vault, re-released some day. Many folks will remember him best from his lead role in The Phantom of the Opera. He played that part for several seasons across Canada, but he humbly states, “I never considered myself a singer of grandiose scale. It was just a combination of how he sounded and how he moved.” That combination worked for Jeff and has brought him success. He has had the opportunity to work with people like Anne Murray and Karen Kain. He’s played different roles in various genres all over the world, from Toronto, to London, to New York, to Israel. But he always comes home. “My last big show was The Producers,” says Jeff. “I came off the road and luckily I had an injury that gave me some perspective. My sister’s husband had passed away. I was divorced and my father had just passed away. So, it was a dysfunctional grouping of a family. Since Sandra’s sons were in Campbell River – we joined them. I can be anywhere – it didn’t matter where I was living.” Once he arrived, the small town on Northern Vancouver Island soon jumped on the Hyslop bandwagon, eliciting his help teaching musical theatre classes. Within two weeks, there were 32 students benefitting from his talent and experience. “At this stage, I can’t teach you craft things, but I can teach

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self-esteem, I can give you conﬁdence,” says Jeff. “As Canadians, we don’t have self-esteem, but I can teach that; teach you how to walk, how to lift up your voice. But I’m still learning too. The minute we stop learning, we are dead.” This would be Showcase’s fourth season, but they didn’t receive their last four grant applications, so continuing will be a challenge. They are currently regrouping. They have huge plans, but the board of directors has disbanded, the money has run out, and the future has planted some obstacles. Showcase has been working out of the Tidemark Theatre in Campbell River and the Sid Williams Theatre in Courtenay. And now because of the coal mining project, they have been looking at the old (1914) Ilo Ilo Theatre in Cumberland, where that story took place 90 years ago. They are currently

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in discussion with the owner/developer of the Ilo Ilo, about renovations and restoration possibilities. They are also looking at about 15 B.C. towns and their availability for a possible tour, while waiting for the theatre. And ﬁnally, the only engagements they have planned for this summer are the Artist’s Walk led by local painter Brian Scott with 11 other pros, painting original sites in and around Cumberland, with their pieces to be auctioned off at the end of August, and of course, their Youth Theatre Program in mid-July. “What is it about us? We never give up,” Jeff proclaims as he mocks shooting himself in the head. “Are we crazy, stupid, pigheaded or really smart? But I love it, it’s my passion.” And he’s nowhere near giving up. He still wants to take the North Island Arts culture to new heights. He wants to bring the softness, the round edges, and the passion to everyone. Waving his arms enthusiastically, Jeff continues, “The arts will save the world; the arts save you from spinning. They allow you to re-centre, to think, to listen to beautiful music – they allow you to cope. Most people are spinning out of control. We are such a video, picture-oriented world. But when you get to a theatre, a temple of arts, you are protected. We, the artists, are going to hug you, embrace you; we are concave. We are going to send you back out there with stuff – stuff that will allow you the chance just to exhale. It creates different endorphins than those produced when you come out of a hockey game.”

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In Nanaimo, Theatre BC will host Mainstage 2008, July 4th to 12th, bringing together theatrical groups from all over the province for a friendly competition. It’s the longest-running theatrical tradition in Canada. As an adjudicator, Jeff will watch the plays and critique them to the groups. The following day, there will be a Coffee Critique, where the audience is encouraged to attend. “We get to take it all apart,” says Jeff. “It is so much fun; just thinking about it gives me goosebumps. We get 75 to 100 people from the audience, we get coffee and goodies, then we work. We try out a ton of stuff, simple exercises, like walking and talking at the same time!” “The Arts are still work. The people who are attending Mainstage have made a commitment to that point. They don’t make their living from it, but they have taken it on. Maybe there is one person who wants to take the next step. Then I am there for that one person – I have to, I just have to.” Adding to his long list of accomplishments, settling down on ﬁve acres and writing about his 45 years in the biz is still on Jeff’s radar. But he can go anywhere and do anything. And with his passion, drive and joy, anyone would be lucky to have him on board. So, go ahead – entice the gypsy in him SL and make him an offer! For more info on Mainstage 2008, go to www.theatrebc. org or call 250-714-0203. Jeff Hyslop can be reached through http://www.geocities.com/Jeff_Hyslop/

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RETRACING HISTORY

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n the spirit of David Thompson, who discovered a trade passage over the Rocky Mountains 200 years ago, Team Shawnigan, one of 14 teams in the 2008 Thompson Brigade, will launch their silver birch canoe at Rocky Mountain House, Alberta, on May 10, for a 64-day paddle to Thunder Bay (Fort William) Ontario. Hosted by communities along the way, the Brigade will complete its journey on July 13, where 200 participants will be greeted by a week-long celebration already in progress. “I think we land right in the middle of it,” says Don Chambers, a Shawnigan Team Brigade member. 32

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One of two British Columbia teams, Shawnigan is represented by 11 paddlers from the Victoria Canoe and Kayak Club, a 500-member not-for-proﬁt organization formed in 1961. For the last 25 years, with the help of volunteers from the Canadian Navy, Victoria Marine Rescue Society, Canadian Coast Guard and the Lions Societies of B.C. and Port Angeles, club members have paddled to Port Angeles and back to raise funds for the B.C. Lions Camp Shawnigan, a summer camp for children with disabilities. Each year, 50 members raise pledges for the 12-hour, 64-kilometre return trip in voyageur ca-

noes across the Strait of Juan de Fuca. The Victoria Canoe and Kayak Club also support the Boys and Girls Club of Greater Victoria, Big Brothers and Big Sisters, stewardship of the Gorge Waterway and the annual Rivers Day cleanup of the Cowichan River. Among the 11 paddlers on Team Shawnigan, Don Chambers, former electrical engineer and current woodworker, songwriter, musician, author and lead member of the band “Well Strung,” grew up near Niagara Falls, Ontario. Don has fond memories of canoeing and camping in Algonquin Park in his youth. Engineering, Don’s ﬁrst career choice, didn’t fulﬁll his purpose in life. “I didn’t

know who I was doing it for and that mattered to me.” When he and his wife, Elizabeth, moved to the country 100 miles from Toronto, Don turned to cabinet work, a job he found more rewarding because he knew his clients. In 1989, Don and Elizabeth relocated to Victoria. At age 63, Don is still learning new things. Recently, he took up the cello. “It’s pretty difficult,” he says, “kind of like taking a wire brush to your brain.” Don got involved with the Victoria Canoe and Kayak Club and Team Shawnigan when he heard a CBC radio interview about the trip. Within 15 seconds, he knew he wanted to go. Worried he might be considered too old to join the group, he was relieved to find that the team’s average age is 63. Like voyageurs long ago, who sang to help themselves through difficult and monotonous conditions, Team Shawnigan will sing their way to Thunder Bay. One of the songs, “David Thompson’s Dream,” a ballad Don composed, makes one think that Thompson, himself, is in charge of the voyage. “The song is about our common yearning to relive that time, and to experience what he experienced on those rivers and lakes 200 years ago,” says Don. In her seventh year of paddling, former employee in the financial industry, current Super Mom and member of the Historical Society, Debra Bresser, grew up mainly in Colwood, with brief intervals in Alberta and the Lower Mainland. Debra got involved with paddling while she recovered from breast cancer. She thought it would be a challenge and a huge learning experience.

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“I joined the Island Breast Strokers Dragon boat team to regain strength and conﬁdence and my paddling experiences have grown out of that,” says Debra. Each paddling experience has taught her about herself and others. Among her best experiences, Debra enjoyed canoeing with Brigade team manager, Don Munroe, in various places around the Island and training for the Crossing to Port Angeles in support of the Lions Club Camp Shawnigan. It allowed her to see many places around Victoria and the Island from the waterside. In addition, “Kayaking in Halong Bay, Vietnam, was totally amazing,” she says, as was ”Dragon Boat racing in South Africa. We were chased by a sea lion.” Debra and husband, Bill, also a Brigade member, are looking forward to spending time with their teammates and learning from them. “We are the least experienced with outdoor camping,” says Debra, “so I may go into withdrawal from my blow-dryer.” Tired of standing on the sidelines while he supported and encouraged his wife’s recovery, Bill Bresser, 62, a former member of the RCMP and currently employed as a conservation ofﬁcer with the provincial government, joined the paddlers a year after his wife. A vintage vehicle restorer, woodworker, baseball player and VicePresident of the Métis Nation of Victoria, Bill says, “Because we are a Métis family and our history is based in the Manitoba area and we still have a lot of family back there, what better way to relive my Métis past than retrace the steps of David Thompson?” He goes on to explain that although David Thompson wasn’t Métis himself, he did marry a native woman and his children were Métis as were most of the people associated with him. From the Baptiste River at Rocky Mountain House to Thunder Bay, Ontario, following the water route of the greatest geographer of his time, Team Shawnigan and the 2008 Thompson Brigade look forward to celebrating a 200SL year-old discovery. For more information about Team Shawnigan and the 2008 Thompson Brigade or to follow their route, visit www.2008thompsonbrigade.com 34

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usic is a huge part of my husband’s life and mine. In fact, if not for music, we never would have met. My husband, Robert Growcott, is a professional musician; a violinist in various orchestras in England for many years followed by 24 years in the Vancouver Symphony. Unfortunately, some professional musicians look down their noses at the lowly amateur. I know, because I was an amateur violinist and, in my youth, I played in several orchestras in various small towns in Cheshire. I once played for an operetta and had the misfortune to be seated next to an egotistical professional violinist. He had little to say except to inform me that I should be the one to turn over the pages of music we shared on the stand. Over the two-hour program, I became increasingly apprehensive about the precise moment the pages should be turned. My partner rapped the stand with his bow when I turned over too soon and almost hit me with it when I turned over too late. I resolved never to sit next to a professional player again. A few years later, however, my local orchestra’s annual concert happened to fall during an inﬂuenza epidemic and some of the key players were stricken down with the malaise. Upon arrival at the concert hall, the conductor informed me I would be seated next to a Mr. Robert Growcott, a professional violinist with the Royal Liverpool Philharmonic Orchestra. I considered going home. I had seen this young man many times on stage when I had attended symphony concerts in Liverpool. I felt very inadequate as I nervously sat down and asked, “I suppose you want me to turn the pages?” remembering my last encounter with the aforementioned violinist. He immediately went up in my estimation when he gallantly informed me that he would turn the pages. He also politely asked me to explain what repeats we were playing. We

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playing a musical instrument, especially when they are too young to know any better? In the case of Robert, it was a visit to the circus on his sixth birthday. “There was this marvellous character on stilts,” he recalls. “He did a fantastic dance on the stilts, and he played the violin at the same time!” This theatrical performer made such a deep impression on the young boy that his parents had to quickly arrange for him to have violin lessons. “Only trouble was,” says Robert, “I thought I would get the stilts as well. It was disappointing to learn that the violin came without them.” However, that was the only disappointment Robert has had in his professional career as a violinist, having been a principal in many orchestras – the B.B.C. West of England Players, the Bournemouth Symphony, the London Philharmonic, the Vancouver Symphony and, until last year, the Vancouver Island Symphony. “Not many people can have a wellpaid satisfying job all their life,” says

Robert, “and then when they retire, have the good luck to carry on with their job as a hobby.” However, there are those who believe music The author and her husband Robert Growcott with the Phil’s Harmonics in Comox Valley. is not a proper job. Robert has been asked many idyllic Sussex countryside. There have times, what his “real” job is. A young been many other interesting and exotic student wrote a letter of appreciation af- places: Hong Kong, Singapore, Cairo ter he had heard my husband play at his and Manila, and many cities in Europe, elementary school. “Dear Mr. Grow- like Vienna, Prague and Budapest, to cott, Thank you very much for coming name a few. to play for us when you could have been Sometimes, however, I have thought doing something more useful.” it would be useful to be married to a denMost musicians who play for a liv- tist. Having someone play beautifully ing also teach, although some orches- on the violin is not much use when the tras have such a tough, demanding and crown has fallen off your front tooth. erratic schedule, that this is impossible. Robert and I now live in Port Alberni. Such was the case in most orchestras in He plays and teaches in the community which Robert has played. and has played solo recitals in the CoMusic has been a great part of our mox Valley. Recently, he joined the lolife and has taken us to some wonder- cal string ensemble, Phil’s Harmonics, ful places such as several summers liv- directed by Philip Wallbank. I also play ing in a converted Oast House, part of in this group, and have the pleasure of an English stately home, when Robert sitting next to my husband, just like the played for Glyndebourne Opera in the evening we met all those years ago. SL

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or most Vietnamese, to eat is to celebrate. The common greeting of “Hi, how are you?” can be translated to “Have you eaten rice?” Vancouver artist Nhan Duc Nguyen will take the ability of food to adapt, transform, and often become hallmarks of culture as well as the ideas of nationhood and citizenship to create the art installation “Lao Oi...” (O Ancient one...). “Lao Oi...” will coincide with Citizenship Week in October 2008 as part of British Columbia’s 150 Year Celebration. Nguyen will create a Vietnamese shrine, dedicated to Lao, as well as develop a petition calling for Harmony. Organizations and individuals often erect these shrines in public spaces during governmental events or civic holidays. They are a way for citizens to ask for resolution and harmony pertaining to the health and welfare of the state and its citizens. Nguyen explains; “One’s health is beyond Lao’s inﬂuence, but one can ask for better healthcare.” The public can participate in this celebratory project by giving or lending Victoria-centric memorabilia such as pins, buttons, pamphlets, pictures and curios for display on a multi-tier gilded platform. The artist is also looking for essays or paragraphs about Victoria for display. Topics can include wishes or concerns regarding the city and its residents; what it means to live in Victoria or even a letter-to-theeditor on a current topic. It can also be a paragraph tracing a personal history of favourite celebratory foods; birthday treats; the origin of the dish; where the ingredients were originally acquired; and where in Victoria is it served. Participation could also be as simple as making origami decorations for the show, such as boats or ﬂowers. The community is also encouraged to help with the coordination of the project or to help make sweets to be served during the exhibition. For more info, visit www.openspace.ca SL or call the gallery at 250-383-8833.

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The Monterey Chorus and St. Mary’s Church presents an eclectic mix of folk, popular, theatre, spiritual and classical music at their concert. 2pm. 1701 Elgin St. Tickets: $10 from Ivy’s Book Shop, Munro’s Books, the church ofﬁce or at the door. Proﬁts will help build an orphanage in Uganda.

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The Palm Court Orchestra celebrates Spring with Victoria violin prodigy, Timothy Chooi. Lighthearted salon-style music. May 18 – 2:30pm ,Brentwood College, 2735 Mt. Baker Road, Mill Bay. May 20 – 2:30pm, Mary Winspear Centre, 2243 Beacon Ave, Sidney. May 25 – 2:30pm, UVic Centre, 3800 Finnerty Rd, Victoria. www. palmcourtorchestra.com

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Spirit Rising main concert entitled: Come to the Water: A Journey of Reﬂection and Renewal, all proceeds will go to support water projects in Zambia. Tickets: $10 James Bay United Church, 511 Michigan St., 385-9477.

A series of 6 outstanding concerts with renowned violinist Lara St. John from New York along with Victoria-born violinist Nikki Chooi. Held at the First Unitarian Church, 5575 West Saanich Rd, 2:30pm Tickets: 413-3134 or www. members.shaw.ca/eksmusic/

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BEL CANTO SINGERS May 25

The Canadian Paciﬁc Ballet Proudly Presents “A World Premiere Ballet.” Based on the powerful story of a young couple struggling with the death of an ailing mother. See the beauty of Vancouver Island through the senses of an aging blind woman. Oak Bay Community Theatre: 2101 Cadbaro Rd (west building) May 9 – 8pm. Tix: $40, Seniors $37 includes a post performance reception. May 10 – 8pm. Tix: $35 Seniors $32. May 11 – 7:30pm. Tix: $35 Seniors $32. 380-2522 www.canadianpaciﬁcballet.org

LITTLE RED RIDING HOOD May 10 & 11

Canadian Pacific Ballet presents a timeless story that is sure to enchant the young and the young-at-heart. This is the first of Canadian Pacific Ballet’s “Young Audience Series” that is designed for families. 2pm at Oak Bay Community Theatre, 2101 Cadbaro Rd (west building). Tickets: $30 Children $25 380-2522 www.canadianpacificballet.org

“Sing Joyfully” with Bel Canto Singers, 2:30pm at Church of St. Mary the Virgin, 1701 Elgin Rd, Oak Bay. Tickets: $10/$8 seniors. 360-0356.

CONCERT IN THE PARK May 10

Chemainus Valley Cultural Arts Society presents the Victoria Children’s Choir at the Chemainus Waterwheel Park in downtown Chemainus. 2pm. By audience donation. If rain, at Chemainus United Church. CVCAS, c/o 2469102 or 246-9898.

BLUEGRASS W/ THE BACK40BOYS May 25

Based out of Ladysmith and Vancouver Island, the Back40Boys play traditional and original acoustic music. 4pm – 8:30pm. Saltair Neighbourhood Pub, 10519 Knight Rd Chemainus. Reservations: 246-4942.

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Treat Mom to a delightful afternoon on Mother’s Day exhibiting: watercolours, oils, acrylics, photos, soapstone carvings, and ﬁrst nations art and jewellery. Refreshments, carnations and free door prizes! Must be 19 years or older. Royal Canadian Legion: Britannia Branch; 780 Summit Ave., Victoria. 383-6411.

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EXPLORING EDEN May 3–31

Victoria Arts Connection Gallery presents Jean Maddison, their ﬁrst solo visiting artist from Guelph, Ontario in a large exhibition of her recent digital works on vinyl. Maddison uses the fetus as the central image in a thought-provoking visual dialogue swirling with colours, forms and ideas inspired by diverse sources. May 3: 7–9pm, Reception with the artist. Gallery Hours: 2pm–8pm Mon–Thurs; noon–5pm, Fri; 10am–2pm Sat. Victoria Arts Connection, 1102750 Quadra St., Victoria. 477-9089 www.victoriaartsconnection.com/gallery

THEATRE HELLO, DOLLY! Throughout May

The Victoria Operatic Society continues their 63rd season with Hello, Dolly! Runs: May 2, 3, 8, 9 & 10 at 8pm and May 4 & 11 at 2pm at the McPherson Playhouse. Tickets: $29 & $37 with $2 discount for seniors. 386-6121.

FAREWELL CANDLELIGHT POETRY FEAST May 9

After 8 years of success and 30 public presentations, The Poetry Lovers’ Circle of Victoria invites you to its Goodbye Performance. Join this reunion of old friends. Oak Bay Library, 1442 Monterey Ave. 7 pm. Free Admission.

OUTDOORS SPRING FLING May 3

The Spring Fling will be held from 9am to noon at St. Martin-in-the-Fields Anglican Church. There will be a Chinese cooking demonstration, books, baking and more. 550 Obed Ave., near Gorge and Tillicum. More info, Val Cornforth at 388-5272.

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May 17 – 5/10km walk. Meet at Layritz Park off Wilkinson Rd. registration: 9:30am, walk: 10am. Murray at 721-3065. May 24 – 6/10km Swiftsure Walk, meet at Harbour Towers hotel, 345 Quebec St. registration: 8am walk: 8:30am in order to see the sailboats. Marion at 4779851. Tuesdays – May 6, 13, 20, & 27 – meet at Running Room, Broadmead Shopping Centre. Registration: 5:45pm, walk: 6pm. Gail at 477-4472. Wednesdays – May 7, 14, 21, & 28 – Meet at Henderson Recreation Centre, 2291 Cedar Hill X Rd. Registration: 5:45pm, walk: 6pm. Murray at 721-3065. Mon & Thurs Am Walks: Registration 8:45am Walk: 9am. For locations, call Rick at 478-7020.

STEAM IN THE MOUNTAINS May 22

University of Victoria’s historian Richard Mackie describes the life and work of the pioneers who logged Vancouver Island. 7:30pm, James Bay New Horizons, 234 Menzies St. Visitors welcome. 480-1061.

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SOCIAL May 8

Welcoming event for members of the Esquimalt 50+ community to see what our new centre (formerly Silver Threads) has to offer. Come for tea, refreshments and good company. 1:30pm –3pm, Esquimalt Recreation Centre, 527 Fraser St. 412-8532.

NORTH ISLAND HADEN’S LORD NELSON MASS May 4

Malaspina Choir presents the Vancouver Island Symphony. A work that is both dramatic and joyful. Placid and serene, yet ﬁlled with ﬁreworks and fanfare! 2pm, Tickets: $33, Seniors $28. The Port Theatre, 125 Front St., Nanaimo, 250754-8550. www.porttheatre.com

BLUE SUEDE SHOES May 21–25

The Port Theatre & TheatreOne present a surprising return of the King! Identical twins share the same birthday as Elvis. For their birthday, they receive teddy bears from the Elvis Fan Club with instructions to rub the bear’s tummy. And Elvis appears! 2pm & 7:30pm. Tickets: $28, Members $26, eyeGO $5. 125 Front St, Nanaimo, 250-754-8550. www.porttheatre.com

LE MYSTÈRE DES VOIX BULGARES May 26

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BARD TO BROADWAY BOX OFFICE OPENING From May 1

Bard to Broadway’s 2008 season opens on June 28 with four productions everyday until August 30. Featuring: Annie Get Your Gun, You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown, The Love List, and Leading Ladies. Evening shows begin at 8pm and each production features at least one Sunday matinee. All shows will be held in the Chrysler Theatre, Parksville Community and Conference Centre, 132 East Jensen Ave. Tickets: Qualicum Beach Visitor Centre, 2711 West Isl Hwy; Parksville Visitor Centre, 1275 East Isl Hwy; or www.b2btheatre.com 250-248-0444 or 1-877-752-6813.

MOTHER’S DAY TEA May 10

Nanaimo Star Society presents a Mother’s Day Tea; Delicious refreshments, home baking, gifts. 1–2:30pm at Brechin United Church Hall, 1998 Estevan Rd, Nanaimo, Admission $6.

BLUEGRASS W/ THE BACK40BOYS May 10

Based out of Ladysmith and Vancouver Island the Back40Boys play traditional and original acoustic music. 7:30pm–10pm. $5. Mermaids Mug, 357 Wesley St., Nanaimo. 754-6693.

Enjoy the named and labelled collection of Rhododendrons and other spring ﬂowering plants through a series of weekend walk-talks or selfguided tours. 10am – 5pm. Last entry at 4pm. Memberships make great Mother’s Day gifts! Milner Gardens & Woodland, 2179 West Island Hwy, Qualicum Beach. 250-752-8573 www.milnergardens.org

WORKSHOPS FAMILY CAREGIVER WEEK May 9 & 10

May 9 – The Lighter Side of Caregiving Humour and the Family Caregiver. Look at various styles and expressions of humour to discover how you can be more playful within your role as a family caregiver. 9:30am–1pm. Multipurpose Room, Salvation Army Citadel, 4030 Douglas St. $30 for FCNS members, $35 for non-members. May 10 – Supporting Family Caregivers in the Workplace. A seminar for employers, human resource professional & business owners. 8:30am–11:30am Ballroom, Holiday Inn, 3020 Blanshard St., Victoria. $35 for members, $40 for non-members. Buffet breakfast included. Register by May 5th by calling 384-0408 or e-mailing fcns@telus.net Payment can be mailed to Family Caregivers Network Society, 526 Michigan St, Victoria, BC V8V 1S2.

FLOWER ARRANGERS GUILD May 13

Join Margaret Leeuw speaking on Christmas Show Program #1. Parlour Show: “Rhapsody in Blue” Novice: A Traditional Design & Open: MAY 2008

PING-PONG FRIENDS O BY JUDEE FONG

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ne good friend is a treasure. Two are worth their weight in gold, but a group of women with a solid friendship for 50 years is priceless. The Crestview Ping-Pong Club (CPPC) began to meet in 1958. Today, the half-century friendship continues with its weekly ping-pong games among friends. “In 1958, Crestview Road was a new development with houses springing up like mushrooms,” recalls Joan Williamson. “We were all strangers except to say ‘Hello’ in passing.” “Eight of us (housewives) met for coffee. And at this ﬁrst meeting, it was decided to schedule a rotation of houses that had ping-pong tables. Every Wednesday morning, between 10 a.m. and noon, the ladies would The Crestview meet for coffee, conversation and ping-pong.” Ping-Pong Club Other Crestview Road homemakers, whose children were in school, were also invited to join. Gradually, the The ones who still live in Victoria regularly meet at one of the membership grew to 20. four remaining members’ homes on Crestview Road. “This was the moms’ time to chat without the distraction of One of the CPPC rules is that each member has to play at little ones running after the balls,” says Joan. least one game of table tennis, either singles or doubles, at the All the women originally lived on Crestview but most have Wednesday gathering. moved elsewhere in the city, out of town or have passed away. There were varying degrees of expertise among the ladies wielding the paddles and returning the small plastic ball over the net. A few learned to play at the weekly meetings, developing their quick reﬂexes and honing their hand-to-eye co-ordination. “Sue Gill and I share the ‘singles’ trophy between us, but years ago, I had played a lot of lunchtime ping-pong in high school,” says Joan with a giggle, modestly down-playing her championship. Meryle Hays remembers her invitation to join the ping-pong club in 1965. “I was the new person on the block and I thought this was such a nice way to meet your neighbours. I call it a ‘coffee-klatch’ with a side of ping-pong.” After Meryle learned to play at the weekly meetings, she and her husband bought a table for their family room. “Joan would face you with this ‘look’ and nerves of steel,” recalls Meryle. “I think it was suppose to unnerve her opponents!” Wonderful memories of potluck dinners including the husbands; family picnics at Shawnigan Lake; watching over each other’s children and being the extended family there in times of joy and sorrow has shaped the strong bonds of friendship that have endured for 50 years. Thoughtfully, Joan says, “Ping-pong was a wonderful way to get to know people, have the exercise and form lasting friendships.” The weekly games began as a reason for the ladies to meet and mingle. Although the membership has dwindled to a dozen faithSL ful members, the friendships remain strong and caring.

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’m not much of a TV person. I only watch it when I’m awake! The rest of the time, I couldn’t care less. I used to watch Howdie Doody and Father Knows Best and The Test Pattern. Now, I don’t even see what I watch or watch what I see! They say, as you get older (and even older), you lose interest in more and more things. I guess that’s true, but for the life of me, I can’t remember what I was interested in. I think I’m progressing. But in actuality, I suppose I’m digressing – much like our television programming today. Sometimes, the language and content would make a longshoreman blush. I’m beginning to think television might not have been such a great idea after all. I miss radio! Oh, I know we still have radio. But I’m not really into tortured sounds that try to convince me that music has evolved into garble over melody or talk shows that put down everything from politics to athlete’s foot. I’m talking about the bygone years of radio. Of the Great Gildersleeves, Baby Snooks, Fibber McGee and Molly, Henry Aldrich and Edgar Bergen and Charlie. Or Lux Presents Hollywood! and

Pepper Young’s Family. When I mention this to my grown children, they say, “What?” When I mention it to my grandchildren, they look at me strangely and walk away shaking their heads. When I mention it to my wife (and she was there), she slips a little Geritol into my Diet Pepsi and ﬂuffs up the pillow so I can take a nap. If I remember correctly, no one ever swore on those radio programs or made suggestive comments or mocked authority. Gangbusters said, “Crime don’t pay!” Since then, I’ve met many people who don’t seem to care and do it for free – without prejudice. Television will never be what radio was – not in my mind, anyway. Television started OK. It was fun, it adhered to basic morals, and it stayed within decency’s borders. Compared to today, I guess we could even say it was innocent. Comedians were comedians and didn’t have to use potty humour or fourletter words to get a laugh. Lucy and Desi, Ralph and Norton and Ozzie and Harriet were friends who shared private moments with us. Sitcoms had people doing pratfalls over ottomans and/or deputy sheriffs with only one bullet in their gun so there was less chance of

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