January 31, 2019
Volume 49 - No. 05
By R. L. “Pete” Peterson
Hilary Johnson was 57 when she decided she’d had enough — enough of her job, enough caretaking for her 93-year old mother, and especially enough of her 28-year marriage. So, she did something many people fantasize about, but until recently was unthinkable: She walked away from it all. “Sometimes divorce is the only option,” says Ms. Stephens, now 58. The mother of two The Paper - 760.747.7119
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adult daughters, who she’s maintained contact with, Ms. Stephens moved from Maryland to the Philadelphia area, re-entered business and now heads up a nonprofit organization that advises those who wish to end their longterm marriages. “Sure, the transition was painful at first,” she says. “Many of my friends had a hard time understanding why Mark and I were divorcing. My daughters were shaken, but when I explained
I’d always love their father, and would continue to be an integral part of the family, but that I had to live out my life with my new partner Sherri, the only person I’d ever really loved. They listened, and went along with my decision, even if they didn’t fully accept it.” Now 3 years downstream from the divorce, Hilary wishes she’d made the decision to divorce sooner. “Mark,” her former husband, “has been wonderfully understanding. He says he
sensed a barrier, an invisible impediment between us that he could never cross. After a while he gave up trying. I apologized for my failings, telling him that since college, both Sherri and I had lived a life of deceit that we both detested, but from which we could not escape.” She smiles. “Early in our marriages, Sherri and I managed to sneak off to be alone twice or three times a year. Then we’d trudge back to our traditional life, feeling guilty and less than
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whole. In the twenty-eight years of Mark’s and my union, not once did I feel at home, even while I was building a home for others. Traditional norms said we had to stay in a less than desirable situation, so we did.” The Pain of a Traditional Marriage
Tears fill her eyes. “Sherri and I would have long conversations via long distance, early mornings or late nights. Sometimes I’d call her and when she’d answer, say nothing, just listen to her breathe. We’d write long letters. I even rented a post office box so no one would intercept or question our correspondence.” I think it is easy to say, Hilary and Sherri were in love, and one can understand her desire to divorce. Tammy Wynette’s famous song, “D-I-V-O-R-CE,” rings the chimes for many senior citizens who share Hilary’s anguish. Life style authorities call these “silver” or “gray” divorces. Gray divorce numbers are rising as they become more and more accept-
Give Us This Day Our Daily Chuckle This week, a compendium of wit, wisdom and neat stuff you can tell at parties. Enjoy! Do Not Wash Your Hair In The Shower!
It's so good to finally get a health warning that is useful. It involves the shampoo when it runs down your body while you shower with it. Shampoo Warning! I don't know WHY I didn't figure this out sooner!
I use shampoo in the shower! When I wash my hair, the shampoo runs down my whole body, and printed very clearly on the shampoo label is this claim: "FOR EXTRA BODY AND VOLUME."
No wonder I have been gaining weight! Well! I have gotten rid of that shampoo and I am going to start showering with Dawn dish soap instead. Its label reads:
able. In 2014, people age 50 and above were twice as likely to go through a divorce as in 1990, according to the National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University in Ohio.
Over 65 Divorce Increase Other Age Groups Divorce Stabilizes Today, almost one third of those over 65 will end their marriage in divorce. Paradoxically, divorce rates among other age groups havedropped or plateaued. One explanation for this increase is that many older people have been married before; divorce rate among the previously married is about two and a half times larger than the general population. Why? Most marriage authorities attribute grappling with blended families, dealing with the financial challenges of divorce and having a lesser disposal income tends to doom second or third marriages. Life expectancy also plays a role in today’s trend to terminate marriages. In the past, “People died earlier,” says Pepper Schwartz, Professor of
"DISSOLVES FAT THAT IS OTHERWISE DIFFICULT TO REMOVE." Problem solved!
If I don't answer the phone I'll be in the shower. •••• Thibodeaux is passing by Hebert's hay barn one day when, through a gap in the door, he sees Hebert doing a slow and sensual striptease in front of an old International Harvester tractor. Buttocks clenched, Hebert performs a slow pirouette, and gently slides off first the right strap of his overalls, followed by the left. He then hunches his shoulders forward and in a classic striptease move, lets his overalls fall down to his hips, revealing a torn and frayed plaid shirt.
Then, grabbing both sides of his shirt, he rips it apart to reveal his stained T-shirt underneath. With a final flourish, he tears the T-shirt from his body, and hurls his baseball cap onto a pile of hay. Having seen enough, Thibodeaux rushes in and says, "What da world you doing, Hebert?"
"Good grief, Thibodeaux, you scared the sac-a-lait out o' me," says an obviously embarrassed Hebert. "But you gots to understand, me an' da wife been havin a little trouble
Sociology at the University of Washington, Seattle - the love, sex and relationship ambassador for AARP.
“Now, let’s say you’re 50 or 60. You could live for 30 or more years. And while your marriage may not be horrible, it’s no longer satisfying or loving. So, people ask themselves, ‘Do I really want 30 more years of this?’ Increasingly, their answer is ‘No’ and divorce occurs.” In some states, those divorcing must attend counseling from state-approved professionals. “Often this is a waste of time and resources,” says Anthony Wiggins, a 20-year veteran counselor. “Often those aged 55 and over have already made up their minds to move on. Secondly, they’re willing to live alone rather than make changes in their personal behaviors that would save the marriage. Finally, they’re familiar with the financial upheaval that divorce often brings. Roughly 40 per cent have already entered into agreements with new partners, or they’ve made other plans, so no amount of counselling will change their minds. They’re just not willing to compromise and stay in ‘adequate’ or ‘okay’ rela-
tionships.”
‘Adequate’ is not a description of a successful relationship for many couples today. And, divorce or separation no longer carries the stigma it once did. A good example is Al Gore. The former US senator and vice president, famous for blowing the whistle on climate change told CNN his marriage to wife Tipper, had become adequate, when they decided to part ways in 2010 after 40 years of marriage and four children. While they’ve not yet terminated their marriage, both live as if that were the case. Divorce Is Not a Dirty Word
The onus of divorce no longer keeps a politician from running for office. This bugaboo was laid to rest by Ronald Reagan, the first divorced American President. This opened the door for our current occupant of the Oval Office, who has walked the marriage aisles three times.
Indeed, politics seems rough on marriages. Alabama governor Senior Citizen Divorce Rates Cont. on Page 3
lately in the bedroom d'partment, and da terapist suggested I do sumting sexy to a tractor."
zero outside they closed school? Yeah, me neither.
1. My goal for 2019 was to lose 10 pounds. Only have 14 to go.
11. I love being over 70, I learn something new every day and forget 5 others.
(Now don't make me come 'splain dis to y'all! Jus' read the last line again, slowly . . .)
10. I may not be that funny or athletic or good looking or smart or talented. I forgot where I was going with this.
2. Ate salad for dinner. Mostly croutons & tomatoes. Really just one big round crouton covered with tomato sauce. And cheese. FINE, it was a pizza.. I ate a pizza, are you happy?
12. A thief broke into my house last night. He started searching for money so I woke up and searched with him.
3. How to prepare Tofu: a. Throw it in the trash b. Grill some meat, chicken or fish 4. I just did a week's worth of cardio after walking into a spider web.
5. I don't mean to brag, but I finished my 14-day diet food supply in 3 hours and 20 minutes. 6. A recent study has found women who carry a little extra weight live longer than men who mention it.
7. Kids today don't know how easy they have it. When I was young, I had to walk 9 feet through shag carpet to change the TV channel.
8. Senility has been a smooth transition for me. 9. Remember back when we were kids and every time it was below
13. I think I'll just put an "Out of Order" sticker on my forehead and call it a day.
14. November 4, 2018 marked the end of Daylight Saving Time. Hope you didn't forget to set your bathroom scale back 10 pounds on Saturday night.
15. Just remember, once you're over the hill you begin to pick up speed. 2018 Best Smart Ass Answers And Other Useless Trivia SMART ASS ANSWER #6
It was mealtime during an airline flight. "Would you like dinner?" , the flight attendant asked John. "What are my choices?" John
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The
Social Butterfly
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Moore of Solana Succulents. His presentation will follow the flow of his newest book, “Soft Succulents” with many photos of the plants in question. With 25 years as owner and operator of Solana Succulents, a large portfolio of designed gardens, and now three published books, Jeff Moore is an authority on succulents. He will have books which he will sign as well as a selection of succulents for sale. After the speaker there will be a plant raffle. For more information call 760.721.3281 or check the webpage at MCHClub.org.
Evelyn Madison The Social Butterfly Email Evelyn at:
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Free S.M. Ranger-Led Hike on Tap to Start the New Year – Come join the City of San Marcos Park Rangers who will lead members of the public on a free 6.1-mile hike on Saturday, February 2, from 9am to 12noon. Enjoy spectacular views from the top of “P” Mountain above Palomar College. Register at 8:30am at the trailhead in the parking lot at Cerro de Las Posas Park and Aquatics/Recreation Facility, at 1387 W. Borden Road, San Marcos, 92069. There will be 840 feet of elevation gain. Please bring sun protection and plenty of water. Visit www.san-marcos.net or call 760.744.5535. MiraCosta Horticulture Club Meeting is Saturday – On Saturday, February 2nd, at 12:30pm, the MiraCosta Horticulture Club will meet at MiraCosta College, 1 Barnard Dr., Oceanside, 92056; Bldg. 3400, Azatlan Rooms A and B on the 2nd floor above the book store. The main speaker will be Jeff
Senior Citizen Divorce Rates Cont. from Page 2
Robert Bentley, and his wife, Dianne, filed for divorce one month after their 50th wedding anniversary. Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger split after it was revealed that Schwarzenegger had fathered a child outside of their marriage. They’d been married for 25 years. In 2009, political activist Susan Sarandon and her movie star husband, Tim Robbins, ended their 23-year relationship. She was 62; he was 50. Celebrity Breeds Divorce
Celebrity is hard on love as well: Rock music’s royal couple, Kim Gordon and Thurston Moore, were married from 1984 to 2013 – 29 years. After they called it quits, their band, Sonic Youth, followed suit. Kris and Bruce Jenner were married from 1991 to 2015, before he became famous for not only being an Olympic decathlon champion, but for his well-publicized sex change. Other famous couples that split after more than 25 years of
Visit Oceanside Sunset Market Every Thursday - Featuring up to 200 merchants and spanning four city blocks, MainStreet Oceanside’s Sunset Market is San Diego County's top weekly food and music street fair. Every Thursday from 5-9pm, thousands of residents and visitors alike gather here to enjoy hot food from around the world, gourmet goodies and desserts, eclectic shopping and live entertainment. Located on Pier View Way west of Coast Highway in downtown Oceanside since 2007, this free, family-friendly event also features Dorothy’s KidZone with children’s activities. For more information, visit www.sunsetmarket.com, MainStreet Oceanside, 701 Mission Avenue, Oceanside 92054, at 760.754.4512 or visit www.mainstreetoceanside.com. Other upcoming events include MainStreet Morning Meetings are held on the first Tuesday of every month from 8:30-9:30am, and is open to the public. A Public Safety Night is scheduled for February 7th, and the Oceanside Independence Parade, June 29th (always held the Saturday prior to July 4th. Visit www.oceansideparade.com for information.
Hearing Screenings and Hearing Aid Cleanings at Center - The Gloria McClellan Center will hold free hearing screenings and hearing aid cleanings on Thursday, February 7, from 9:30–11:30am. An appointment is required and can be made by calling 760-643-5288. Space is limited. The Center is located at 1400 Vale Terrace Drive in Vista. The Center is a onestop hub of services that range from lunch,
wedded bliss include Jessica Lange and Sam Shepard, Neil and Pegi Young. Robert Redford and Lola Van Wagenen had a 27-year marriage before they terminated their relationship.
On the tech front, when Jeff Bezos and his wife, MacKenzie, announced the demise of their union, the world listened. After all, this rich couple had it all – they’d earned multi-billions starting Amazon together and had given many billions to charity as a team. They may be the first billionaire couple with a huge stake in an enormous technology company to announce their divorce, but I’m betting they won’t be the last. The announcement that after 25 years they’d divorce instantly raised questions about the future of Amazon. Between them, they own 16 percent worth roughly $140 billion - of the company’s shares. As its founder, chairman, chief executive and largest shareholder, Mr. Bezos exerts almost complete control over the company he and his wife created, so their divorce is sure to have consequences for investors.
travel/trips, transportation, exercise, classes, clubs, and various other activities for Vista’s older adult community. For more information, visit gmacvista.com or call (760) 643-5288.
Santa Margarita Chapter, DAR, to Meet on February 9th - The Santa Margarita Chapter, Daughters of the American Revolution (DAR), will meet Saturday, February 9, at the El Camino Country Club in Oceanside. A breakfast brunch at 9:30am will be followed by the annual Awards celebration. Student winners of the American History Essays and the DAR Good Citizen Award will be recognized, and presented with the appropriate certificate, pin or medal, and monetary award for their category. The DAR is open to any female 18 years of age or older who is lineally descended from an ancestor who aided the patriots in some way in the fight for independence in the American Revolution. Visit www.santamargarita.californiadar.org.
Gallery Talk and Photography Lecture at CCAE on February 10th - The Center Museum will be hosting a gallery talk and photography lecture at the California Center for the Arts, Escondido (CCAE), on Sunday, February 10th starting at 2pm in the Center Museum. Exhibiting artist, Wendy Maruyama, discusses the artwork in Executive Order 9066 with a walking tour of the exhibition that analyzes the internment camps with a contemporary eye. Following the tour, there will be a lecture on the photography of Japanese internment camps by UCSD professor, Ruth Wallen. The lecture is in conjunction with our newest exhibition, Manzanar: The Wartime Photographs of Ansel Adams which give an intimate look through the lens of celebrated photographer, Ansel Adams, at the daily life in Manzanar, one of the ten Japanese-American incarceration camps in the U.S. during World War II. Admission to the lecture is $5.00 for members of CCAE; $10.00 for non-members, and includes entrance to the Center Museum to view the exhibitions before or after the lecture. Get more information
Other companies with billionaire founders, such as Google, Facebook, Groupon and Snap probably read this news while putting their lawyer’s number on speed dial. Unlike Mr. Bezos, who owns Amazon shares with ordinary voting rights, these other tech entrepreneurs wield control of their companies by holding special classes of shares that confer them extra power. Thus, prenuptial and post-nuptial language was re-read and re-read diligently, one can imagine. No Single Reason For Late-life Divorce
While no one can say with authority why late-life divorce has grown so quickly, one reason seems to be the changing status of women – they initiate about 60 percent of divorces after age 40, according to AARP. This does not mean that their male counterpart isn’t disenchanted as well, it just means that women actually take the decisive step. Why is this?
“I think men don’t want to rock the boat. They’ll put up with a less than ideal situation,” says
about the lecture here: http://artcenter.org/event/gallery-talk-withwendy-maruyama-photography-lecture-byruth-wallen/. All events at the California Center for the Arts, Escondido can be found at ArtCenter.org. The Center is located at 340 N. Escondido Blvd, Escondido. To reach the ticket office, call 800.988.4253. Tickets can also be purchased online.
Cowboy Jack Performances in February – Cowboy Jack will be performing from 36pm, Sunday, February 10th, then again from 6-9pm on Tuesday, February 26th where he will do a Johnny Cash birthday tribute. These performances will be at the Witch Creek Winery, 2906 Carlsbad Blvd., Carlsbad, 92008; 760.720.7499. Free admission. Cowboy Jack performs solo; singing vintage country music with acoustic guitar and harmonica; covering Hank Williams, Johnny Cash, Merle Haggard, Willie Nelson, and more. Cowboy Jack Johnson is the lead singer from The Hank Show, Band in Black and a singing cowboy from Rawhide Ranch in Bonsall. Visit www.hankshow.com and https://www.facebook.com/events/7069540 29706225/.
Escondido Senior Travel Trips Planned – The Senior Travel Service is located at the Escondido Senior Center, 210 Park Avenue, Escondido 92025;l Phone 760.745.5414. Hours are Monday-Friday 9am-12noon. The next travel meeting will be Monday, February 11. Senior Travel only accepts cash or checks for payment – no credit cards. Payment due for day trips should be 4-6 weeks in advance. Payment due for overnight trips should be 6-8 weeks in advance.
Upcoming trips include: February 12, Tuesday, Palm Springs Carnival Cabaret; cost is $81. All performers are professional male actors costumed to represent famous female celebrities such as Dolly Parton, Reba McEntire and others. Lunch and shopping will be on your own before the
Social Butterfly Cont. on Page 7
Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, 54, whose marriage dissolved in 2013. He now runs 20-first, a gender consulting firm in London. “Part of the shift is that women are now more liberated, empowered and better educated. They know how to get what they want and are using this power to increasingly break failing relationships in order to find someone else or to be on their own.” Dr. Schwartz, the sociologist, agrees. “Women have higher expectations for their emotional life.” Dr. Schwartz, 70, has personal insight into the issue: She and her husband divorced 15 years ago. “We’d been married for 23 years.” She adds, “Our marriage had run out of juice.” Divorce Rates Over 55 Increase Today, according to data from the National Center for Health Statistics and U.S. Census Bureau, the divorce rate among those 55 and older, has roughly tripled since 1990; of 1,000 couples married in 2015, 6 will divorce by 2020. Still, the divorce rate for those
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Local News
The Paper • Page 4 • January 31, 2019 HOMICIDE UPDATE - Escondido
Laura Elizabeth Bautista, died on Tuesday, January 22nd at about 9:40pm at Palomar Hospital in Escondido as a result of the injuries she received on January 18th. This death was ruled a homicide with the originating incident occuring in the 100 block of E. 15th Avenue, Escondido, on January 18th at about 12:45am. Escondido Police and Fire Departments were dispatched to the address regarding a female needing medical attention. Upon arrival 27year-old Laura Elizabeth Bautista, was unresponsive to police and fire personnel. EFD personnel transported Laura Bautista to Palomar Hospital. 25-year-old, Jose Enrique Bautista, was detained at the location by police. Jose is the brother of the victim. Initial information indicated Jose and Laura had been involved in a physical altercation stemming from a family argument.
EPD Detectives and the Forensic Services Unit responded to investigate the incident. As a result of the investigation, probable cause was developed to arrest Jose Enrique Bautista for attempted homicide. County-wide Armed Robbery Arrest
On January 24, at 3pm, Detectives from the City of Carlsbad Police Department, with the assistance of the
Man About Town
In our December 13, 2018 issue we carried a cover story about Dave Geary titled, “Conduct Unbecoming a Kiwanian.” The story was highly critical of Geary and quoted high officials within the Kiwanis organization.
The Paper has come into possession of a letter Mr. Geary wrote in which he seeks to justify his actions. We quote his letter, in full and unedited, and then respond to issues he raises:
San Diego County Sheriffs Department arrested Michael Alfred Miller, 49, in the city of Vista.
Carlsbad Police and the San Diego County Sheriffs Department worked together to identify Miller as a suspect in five armed robberies throughout San Diego County over the past month. Evidence linking Miller to several of the robberies was located during the investigation. Miller was booked into the Vista Detention Facility for multiple counts of Robbery, Burglary, Criminal Threats, and Possession of Stolen Property. The Carlsbad Police Department will be the lead investigating agency, and the investigation is on-going. Any further inquiries should contact Detective Johnson at 760-473-9252 or brian.johnson@carlsbadca.gov. Two stabbed at Oceanside beach City News Service
Two men were stabbed in an apparently gang-related attack late Friday along a beach in Oceanside, police said Saturday.
The incident happened around 11:30 p.m. on The Strand South, in an area immediately adjacent to the shoreline and Tyson Street Park, Oceanside police Lt. Kedrick Sadler said.
A group of about four men approached the two victims and attacked them. “They basically were just jumped, and both victims received numerous stab injuries to the upper body,” Sadler said.
my side. I am a 2 time Past Distinguish President of Hidden Valley Kiwanis Club and Past Distinguish Lt Governor Division 37 of California Nevada and Hawaii. I spent more than 18 years in the U.S Air Force. I lead by example. Some may call it abrasive others called it my leadership style. Either way we grew, we had fun, we got a lot done and raise a lot of money for the kids of Escondido.
I was never charged with Domestic Violence in the case in 2008. This was a false charge from a client who did not want to pay her bill to Dave’s Computer Repair. Charges were pressed against me but Mr. Davis failed to report that the client never followed through and the case was dropped.
Mr. Davis talks about a derogatory and racist remark that I had made about my opponent when running for a Kiwanis trustee position. Mr. Davis was the only person to have heard Dear Customer and Friends, the so call remarks. The derogatory remark was said by my The attached newspaper is opponent so therefore it should written one sided so I am not have been charged as attaching my letter to tell you derogatory.
Police believe the assailants were gang members, though the victims were not believed to have any gang affiliation, Sadler said. The four suspects were reported to have fled in a dark-colored SUV. The victims were taken to a hospital and were expected to survive. Appeal filed on Escondido Country Club Court Decision: Settlement Offer Submitted
The fight to overturn the Escondido City Council’s approval of a 380-home project on the site of the former Escondido Country Club took a series of twists this week.
In November, a Superior Court Judge dismissed all claims by a homeowner’s group contesting the 2017 approval of The Villages development project at the shuttered golf course.
But on Thursday, the group filed an appeal that could potentially extend the protracted court battle for another year or longer. However, on Friday, development company New Urban West sent a letter offering to settle the lawsuit. It’s the first settlement offer made in the yearold case. New Urban West seeks discussions and negotiations to possibly reimburse all members of ECCHO the funds they had contributed to fund the lawsuit. The amount would have to be determined through discussions and negotiations. ECCHO was to have met this
Evelyn has never confirmed I made the racist remark regardless of what Lyle prints in the paper because I did not and she did not. I also have apologized to Ms. Madison in front of the club prior to the club election that year.
As far as the Lawsuit goes, Mr. Davis didn’t tell you he and Ms. Madison told me if I quit Kiwanis paid Ms. Madison $3,000 dollars it would all go away. He also didn’t tell you I have not had any contact with him or Evelyn since March 2017.
Those same court records that he said Lori Butler found he also submitted to Hidden Valley Foundation Board in August stating that he found on the internet. David M Geary
Editor’s Notes:
Item #1 - There were at least three (3) complaints of Domestic Violence filed against Mr Geary by three (3) different individuals. We acknowledge all three (3) were resolved without going to trial. However, the
past Monday to discuss various issues, this is likely to be one of them.
New Urban West has maintained for years that anything less than 380 homes on the 109-acre site would not be economically feasible. The future of the property has been hotly debated ever since the Country Club land was purchased in 2012 by Beverly Hills speculator Michael Schlesinger, who shuttered the club and golf course a few months later, saying it was financially unsustainable. A series of court challenges, a public vote and other things ensued as residents of the area protested development plans.
Schlesinger sued the city, saying the City Council’s move in 2013 declaring the property could only be used for recreation or open space, violated his property rights. A judge agreed and the city then settled the suit.
Schlesinger then chose New Urban West to pursue development permits and agreed to sell them the land only after all permissions to build had been obtained, and only after all litigation had ceased.
If an appeal is pursued, an action most legal experts say would not be successful, the transfer of the land and the beginning of construction could be delayed by 18 months or longer.
fact remains that three (3) individuals were so upset and/or frightened of Mr. Geary that they filed a Domestic Violance complaint. Not one (1), three (3).
Item #2. Mr. Davis was not the only person who heard the racist/derogatory remarks by Dave Geary. Other members and Evelyn Madison also heard the remark and has so testified, under oath. Item #3 He has not apologized to Ms. Madison in person, in writing, or in front of the Hidden Valley Kiwanis Club. It was recommended by the board that he do so but it never happened and Ms. Madison resigned from the club both because of Mr. Geary’s actions as well as the club and its board of directors not protecting her from Mr. Geary.
Item #4 - No offer of $3000 was ever made to Mr. Geary not one dime was offered to him. To say othewise is an out and out lie; he was offered a chance to “cease and desist”
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younger than 50 is about twice as high as it is for those 50 and older. Since 1990, divorces have climbed slightly for adults ages 40 to 49, though not as greatly as those 50 and older. Blame The Baby Boomers
Many experts on American social trends blame this rise in divorce for adults over 50 on aging Baby Boomers. This segment now makes up the bulk of this age group - in 2015, Boomers ranged in age from 51 to 69. Earlier, they had unprecedented numbers of divorces. This marital instability is driving the rising divorce rate for the over 50 age group today. Why? As we learned earlier, tying the knot the second time is often riskier than first time marriages. So, is your marriage safe?
It depends. Statistically, if you’re over 50 and remarried, your risk of divorce is twice that of those who have been married only once. Another interesting fact: Adults 50 and older made up 48% of all divorces in 2016. Man About Town Cont. from Page 4
intimidating Ms. Madison but he ignored the demand letter. After the 30 days to respond had elapsed, Ms. Madison had no option but to file suit in order to protect herself and hold Mr. Geary accountable. Item #5 - The court records obtained by former Lt. Governor Lori Butler were turned over to Evelyn Madison and so testified to, under oath.
Summary: Mr. Geary continues to deny his actions and refuses to be held accountable though he has had many opportunities.
The Paper stands by our account of the story and the documented statements and allegations of witnesses and/or participants in this ongoing drama.
Another fact: Orange County California has one of the highest divorce rates in the nation. On average, 33 people in O.C. initiate divorce proceedings every day – including weekends. That’s a lot of broken vows, broken homes and broken hearts. What A Divorce Mediator Says
Lynne Diamond is an Orange County divorce mediator with 17 years-experience, who has dual master’s degrees from Columbia University in Education and Counseling. She agrees that life can often be like a country song with many aches and pains, but she doesn’t agree that divorce is the recipe for happiness after dumping their lyin’, cheatin’, thievin’ spouses. She’s quick to point out that upwards of 40 percent of married couples experience infidelity. And despite this high percentage, most of those involved—even those who stray - say that cheating is wrong. So why does it happen so often?
Sadly, Diamond says the list of reasons is long. “A common reason is frustration. This trig-
Chuckles Cont. from Page 2 asked.
"Yes or no," she replied .
SMART ASS ANSWER #5
A flight attendant was stationed at the departure gate to check tickets. As a man approached, she extended her hand for the ticket, when suddenly, he opened his trench coat and flashed her. Without missing a beat, she said, "Sir, I need to see your ticket, not your stub." SMART ASS ANSWER #4
A lady was picking through the frozen turkeys at the grocery store but she couldn't find one big enough for her family. She asked a stock boy, "Do these turkeys get any bigger?" The stock boy replied, "No ma'am, they're dead..." SMART ASS ANSWER #3
The police officer got out of his car as the kid who was stopped for speeding rolled down his window. "I've been waiting for you all day," the officer said. The kid replied, "Well Sir,I got here as fast as I could."
Sadly, Ms. Madison is being painted as the perpetrator in this incident. She is not. She is the victim. As is the Hidden Valley Kiwanis Club of Escondido and Kiwanis in gen- When the cop finally stopped eral. This all rests on the shoul- laughing, he sent the kid on his way without a ticket. ders of Dave Geary.
ger signifies the adulterer made several attempts to solve problems to no avail. Maybe he/she had second thoughts about making a commitment, or he was jealous over the attention given to a new baby and neither had the skill set to communicate these feelings. “Another possibility is the straying spouse has baggage, childhood abuse, or a parent who cheated. This could interfere with his or her ability to maintain a committed relationship. Less often, the cheater doesn't value monogamy, lacks empathy, or simply doesn't care about the consequences.” Motivations Differ by Gender
Diamond says husbands who have affairs are usually seeking attention more than sex. “Men express their love in a more physical way—they often don't have the perfect ‘feeling words’ for their wives. So, sex becomes an important path to connection and intimacy.” She points out if men aren't sexually satisfied whatever the reason, maybe their wives are too busy, or the kids keep interrupting, they’ll translate this into rejection SMART ASS ANSWER #2
A truck driver was driving along on the freeway and noticed a sign that read: Low Bridge Ahead. Before he knows it, the bridge is right in front of him and his truck gets wedged under it. Cars are backed up for miles. Finally a police car comes up. The cop gets out of his car and walks to the truck driver, puts his hands on his hips and says, "Got stuck," huh?' The truck driver says, "No, I was delivering this bridge and I ran out of gas."
SMART ASS ANSWER OF THE YEAR: A teacher reminds her class of tomorrow's final exam. "Now class, I won't tolerate any excuses for you not being here tomorrow. I might consider a nuclear attack or a serious personal injury, illness, or a death in your immediate family, but that's it, no other excuses whatsoever!" A smart-ass student in the back of the room raised his hand and asks, "What would you say if tomorrow I said I was suffering from complete and utter sexual exhaustion?"
The entire class is reduced to laughter and snickering. When silence was restored, the teacher smiled knowingly at the student, shook her head and sweetly said, "Well, I guess you'd have to write the exam with your other hand."
which leads to feeling they are "unloved." On the other hand, Diamond says, “Women cheat to fill an emotional void. They frequently complain of disconnection from a spouse and wish to be desired and cherished.” An affair is more often a "transitional" partner for the woman. She’s seriously looking to leave her marriage and this other person helps her do just that.
“That's not to say that sexual satisfaction isn't a primary driver of affairs for wives as well as husbands,” Diamond adds, “it’s what I hear must often.” Diamond also believes that society as a whole resorts to divorce too quickly, often without any real cause. Just as county music songs capture the joys and aches of marriage and country roads are supposed to take us home and often don’t, Lynne says that research shows most married couples cannot recall what the spat was about 48 hours later. “Most of us will forget why we’re upset about a problem
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1) You can't count your hair.
2) You can't wash your eyes with soap. 3) You can't breathe when your tongue is out.
Put your tongue back in your mouth, sure you can still breathe, you fool. 1) You are reading this. 2) You are human.
3) You can't say the letter ''P'' without separating your lips. 4) You just attempted to do it. You are an idiot! 6) You are laughing at yourself,
7) You have a smile on your face and you skipped No. 5.
8) You just checked to see if there is a No. 5. 9) You laugh at this because you are a fun loving person and everyone else does it too.
10) You are probably going to send this to see who else falls for it.
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within three days,” she says. “Unless the problem is ongoing, such as drug and alcohol abuse or espousal violence, we tend to dismiss the ‘why’ of the incident and dwell on our hurt feelings.” She adds, “Most reasons couples give for divorcing a partner could be rectified by early counseling and communications training.” Lynne feels that like that country road, “Every marriage has rough patches. Some are short. Some are, well, not so short, but if a marriage is built on love, trust and shared experiences and if either partner has a desire, a commitment, to save the relationship, it can be done.”
Her goals in mediation are to reduce the stress and improve communications, hoping the couple will reconcile. “Many couples are highly competitive, hence they are unwilling to give their mate credit or recognition for their contributions.” Lynne illustrates this by reciting a case history. “The wife was the oldest of four daughters. Her mother relied on her to buy prescriptions and perform other health care functions. To off-set this time away from her married family, the wife arranged with her employer to leave work an hour earlier on those days her mother needed her, without losing pay. For 3 years she dutifully took care of her mother’s needs, picked her two-year old daughter up from child care and was home in time to start the evening meal. Her husband said nothing of his wife’s contributions. In retrospect, perhaps he was unaware of her sacrifices. In any case, the wife grew increasingly upset that he never noticed her diligence, and this became the trigger in a series of ‘you-don’tappreciate-me’ arguments that led to their divorce.” Regardless of Diamond’s efforts, the majority of her clients end up getting divorced, but she insists this does not have to be so. “Divorce is an expensive solution that may or may not resolve a problem. Research shows that those issues that caused the first divorce will be present in the second marriage as well.” As that country song says, “How can I forget you, if you
won’t go away?” What If It Happens to You?
While some might argue that divorce is divorce, late-life divorce presents unusual challenges. You and your spouse don’t just have years of history together – you have decades! Your family, friends, and neighbors, know you as “a couple.” Facing those people as “newly single” can be terrifying.
Getting divorced is expensive at any age. But the older you are, the more complicated your finances have likely become. Most middle-aged couples probably have a house, several vehicles, and (hopefully) retirement accounts. What about the mortgage? Car loans? Credit card bills? And let’s not forget the small (or maybe not so small) mountain of student loans you took out, or cosigned, for your children. All of this makes divorce financially complicated. In a family business? More complications. A rule of thumb, the more complex your finances, the more expensive your divorce. And divorce after 50 causes a significantly bigger financial strain than divorce at a younger ages because Father Time is peaking around the corner and you have less time to financially recover. Earlier in life, you had time to bounce back from financial setbacks, thus now you should be more conservative in your and probably have to play the hand you’re dealt - time for more schooling, or another degree isn’t possible. So, if you are facing divorce after 50, what do you do? How can you lessen the impact of your divorce so that it doesn’t ruin what’s left of your life?
1. Get professional help. Do not try to go through your divorce alone. At this point in your life, you have way more to lose than your average 20-year old. No argument: You’ll need a lawyer and a certified divorce financial planner. They’ll help you understand your finances and figure out when and if you can retire. Finally, it’s recommended you get a therapist or divorce coach. And please, join a support group. Going through a divorce after 50 can be really tough emotionally. You, and I do mean you, will need support. 2. Consider alternatives to Senior Citizen Divorce Rates Cont. on Page 8
Wise Saving for California
California appears to be flush with cash. Last November, the Legislative Analyst’s office reported a $14.8 billion surplus for the fiscal year beginning July 1st. That was later updated to a projected $20.6 billion, while Governor Newsom’s finance department is predicting a surplus of $21.4 billion. Unfortunately, that surplus can quickly disappear. During the Great Recession, California faced annual budget deficits over $20 billion, a situation that could be repeated when another economic downturn hits. A recession is inevitable; we just don’t know when it will come.
That’s why I supported Proposition 2 in 2014, which was overwhelmingly approved by voters, to strengthen the state’s Budget Stabilization Account (BSA) also known as the ‘Rainy Day Fund,’ first established by voters under Proposition 58 in 2004. However, Prop. 2 appeared to place a 10% cap on the BSA, meaning that when funds held in reserve reached 10% of the state’s tax revenues, no further monies could be deposited.
stating that funds ‘voluntarily’ placed into the reserve by lawmakers should not be counted against the 10 percent cap. Fortunately, in the Counsel’s opinion, the Legislature may continue to deposit additional money into the BSA above the cap, allowing a realistic reserve to accumulate as a cushion against future economic downturns. In his new budget, Governor Newsom has announced that he will rely on this legal opinion and include an additional $13.6 billion to build up the BSA and also to pay down some of the state’s accumulated debt. This was a good decision. We must never return to the days of $20 billion deficits. By building a stronger, more secure Rainy Day Fund, we are taking an important step toward fiscal security and future solvency for the State of California.
Last summer, the Legislative Counsel released a legal opinion
Assembly Republican Leader Marie Waldron, R-Escondido, represents the 75th Assembly District in the California Legislature, which includes the communities of Bonsall, Escondido, Fallbrook, Hidden Meadows, Pala, Palomar Mountain, Pauma Valley, Rainbow, San Marcos, Temecula, Valley Center and Vista.
You have received message because I didn't want to be alone in the idiot fool category.
Months later, Christmas morning arrives, and they were all on the golf course.
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"Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many." Presidential Security
President Trump walked out of the Whie House when a would-be assassin jumped out with a gun and aimed it at the president.
A Secret Service agent yelled, “Mickey Mouse!” This startled the would be assassin and he was quickly captured.
Later, the agent’s supervisor took him aside and said, “what on earh possessed you to yell “Mickey Mouse?”
The agent blushed and said, “I got nervous. I meant to say Donald Duck!”
Four old-timers were playing their weekly game of golf, and one remarked how nice it would be to wake up on Christmas morning, roll out of bed and without an argument, go directly to the golf course, meet his buddies, and play a round. His buddies all chimed in and said, "Let's do it!
We'll make it a priority, figureout a
way and meet here early Christmas morning."
The first guy says, "Boy, this game cost me a fortune! I bought my wife such a big diamond ring that she can't take her eyes off it".
Number 2 guy says, "My wife is at home planning the cruise I gave her. She was up to her eyeballs in brochures." Number 3 guy says, "Well, my wife is at home admiring her new car, reading the manual." They all turned to the last guy in the group who is staring at them like they all had lost their minds.
"I can't believe you all went to such an expense for this golf game. I woke up, slapped my wife on the butt and said: "Well Babe, Merry Christmas! It's a great morning for either sex or golf, and she said, '"Take a sweater'". A guy was just waking up from anesthesia after surgery and his wife was sitting by his side. His eyes fluttered open, he said, "You're beautiful!" and then he fell
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His wife had never heard him say that so she stayed by his side. A couple minutes later his eyes fluttered open again and he said, "You're cute!" The wife was disappointed because instead of "beautiful" it was "cute."
She said, "What happened to 'beautiful'?" His reply was "The drugs are wearing off!" AN IRISH PAINTER
An Irish painter by the name of Murphy, while not a brilliant scholar, was a gifted and quite famous portrait artist. Over a short number of years, his fame grew and soon people from all over Ireland were coming to the town of Miltown Malbay, in County Clare, to get him to paint their likenesses.
One day, a beautiful, young English woman arrived at his house in a stretch limo and asked if he would paint her in the nude. This being the first time anyone had made such a request he was a bit perturbed, particularly when the woman told him that money was no object; in fact, and she was willing to pay up to 10,000 pounds.
Not wanting to get into any marital strife, he asked her to wait while he went into the house to confer with Mary, his wife. They talked much about the Rightness and Wrongness of it. It was hard to make the decision but finally his wife agreed, on one condition. In a few minutes he returned. "T'would be me pleasure to paint yer portrait, missus," he said "The wife says it's okay."I'll paint you in the nude all right; but I have to at least leave me socks on, so I have a place
to wipe me brushes."
T'is why we love the Irish. •••• "The trouble with quotes on the Internet is that you can never be sure they're genuine." - Abraham Lincoln •••• I once belonged to a church, which I soon left. Reason? The finance committee refused to provide funds for the purchase of a chandelier because none of the members knew how to play one. •••• Avoid using foreign-language phrases in your articles unless they have a certain je ne sais quoi. •••• BREAKING: US Asks China for Money to Compete with China. •••• Mule Trading
Curtis & Leroy saw an ad in the Starkville Daily in Starkville, MS. and bought a mule for $100.
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show. February 18, Monday, Pauma Casino; cost is $10. February 26-28, Tuesday-Thursday; Laughlin at the Edgewater/Oatman; cost is $166/single or $141/double. Two nights at the Edgewater plus one free dinner and one free breakfast. On the 2nd day travel to Oatman for shopping, a western shootout and an opportunity to feed the wild donkeys. Lunch on your own. Will also receive a special “fun” Laughlin fun book. May 4, Saturday; Garden Railroads of San Diego; cost is $71. Travel to four different homes/gardens with miniature railroads. A perfect opportunity for photos. Usually these homes are not open to the public; only society members, so don’t miss this trip. Lunch will be at Souplantation in Point Loma. May 19-22, SundayWednesday; Grand Canyon Adventure; cost $711/single; $552/double (see office for payment plans). Spend two nights in Williams, AZ, and one night at Boulder Station near Las Vegas. Take scenic train ride to the Grand Canyon visiting the Railroad Museum and complete a 3-hour tour of the Grand Canyon Rim, lunch will be provided. Also a tour of the Grand Canyon Caverns. Admission to the Grand Canyon IMAX Theatre included. All breakfasts plus one lunch included. Other trips planned: Pauma Casino-April; Knotts Berry Farm; Lake Arrowhead Queen Boat Tour-June. Single Travelers Club Meeting Notice – The Single Travelers Club group will meet from 5 to 7pm, on Tuesday, February 12, at Hunter Steakhouse, 1221 Vista Way, Oceanside. There will be Happy Hour specials. Visitors welcome. The discussion will be "Best Value Travel Destinations." Please call Jackie at 760.438.1472 to RSVP. Fallbrook Writers Read Presents Author, Poet and Raconteur Kimberly Dark - Writers Read at Fallbrook Library presents author, poet and raconteur Kimberly Dark at the February 12 reading. Dark, a writer, professor and gifted storyteller, will share her poetry collection, Love and Errors, and The Daddies, a lyrical exploration of masculinity and the patriarchy. Dark’s writing reveals the hidden architecture of everyday life, one clever essay, poem or story at a time, using humor, surprise and intimacy. The reading begins at 6pm with open mic for original poetry and prose, followed by Dark’s presentation, Q&A with the audience, and book sales and signing. The Fallbrook Library is located at 124 S. Mission Road, between Alvarado and Fig Streets. The March 12 Writers Read will feature Steve McDonald and his new poetry collection, “Credo.” Visit www.ExcuseMeImWriting.com for details. For more information, contact KitBacon Gressitt at kbgressitt@gmail.com or 760-522-1064.
El Camino Quilt Guild February Meeting Announced – The El Camino Quilt Guild will meet at 9:30am, Thursday, February 14th, at the QLN Conference Center, 1938 Avenida Del Oro, Oceanside 92056. Parking is limited, so please carpool if you can. Doors open 9am. Guest fee for the meeting is $10. The speaker, Leah A. Zieber, is a Southern California quilt historian and quilt maker specializing in Antique Reproduction Quilts from the nineteenth century. Her reproduction quilts have been exhibited at quilt shows and historical museums across the country. Most recently her 19th century star quilt, “I Can Only Imagine” was published and patterned by American Quilt Study Group in the publication, Stars: A Study of 19th Century Star Quilts. Through Leah’s lecture “Tiny Treasures” you will learn the important roll children and their quilts held in the American household and the significance their tiny treasure still holds today. https://zieberquilts.com For information about the Quilt Guild, visit elcaminoquilters.com or email to info@elcaminoquil-
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Historically Speaking by Tom Morrow
The Great Life of the Forties and Fifties
Growing up in the forties and fifties was an idyllic time. The nation had just survived a depression, a world war and was beginning a recovery to the American way of life. Detroit was making automobiles again, housewives could now have a new refrigerator, and vets were going to college on the GI Bill. It was a time we’ll never see again.
Some war-time rationing still lingered until the late forties, slowly disappearing as the nation shifted from war production to a domestic footing that allowed an unprecedented opportunity for homebuyers to realize the American dream – buying a home. By the fifties some high school teenagers could own their own car. Depending upon financial status, “Wheels” could range from a Ford jalopy to a near-new Plymouth or Chevy. For myself, I got to drive my Dad’s old 1929 Chevy coupe, which at the time was 24 years old with only 24,000 miles -- the driver’s manual was still in the glove box.
Ford and Chevy were the popular models for young people. You could always tell who the nerds were because they drove a Nash or Hudson. If you didn’t have a Ford V-8 engine you weren’t “cool.” And, you simply had to have a glass-pack muffler for that distinctive V-8 rumble. A lowered (shackled) rear-end was optional, but you stood out from the rest if you also had rear fender skirts. With my Dad’s ’24 Chevy, I was in a class all by myself. Getting a date had its challenges. Girls didn’t want to be seen in “an old car,” when they could be riding in style with other boys. But I had something no one else had: an “Ooogah” horn. Gas in Iowa was a steady .29.9 cents per gallon. We could slip over the Missouri border some 7 miles away and get gas a lot cheaper due to the frequent gas wars. In Kansas City I filled up for .13.9 cents in 1957.
Each industrial company had contributed to the war effort. Some produced the popular GI limousine -the Jeep. Studebaker produced thousands of trucks, which were sent to Russia to use on the Eastern Front against Germany. Ford built B-24 bombers, G.M. and others built everything from trucks to machine guns. After the war, Henry J. Kaiser moved from building Liberty ships to a new line of automobile: the Kaiser. Henry also added a luxury vehicle to his line, the Fraser. From the late forties to the mid-fifties Kaiser was a popular, inexpensive car. In 1948, Preston Tucker, an automotive engineer developed a new, revolutionary car. He was able to build some 51 vehicles before being stopped by the “Big Three Detroit auto builders.
The Tucker was the talk of the automotive world, scaring the heck out of Ford, General Motors and Chrysler. But his revolutionary design were too futuristic and it would be several decades before many of his futuristic innovations were embraced by other companies.
MOM’S LOGIC – Somehow mothers have their own peculiar way of making their point by extolling age-old logic to their children. Such as: “Because I said so, that's why,” or “If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me.” Another gem: “If you run and fall, breaking your leg, don’t come running to me.” WILL ROGERS: "The quickest way to double your money is to fold it and put it back in your pocket."
SCAG SEZ: It seems like a lot of married folks these days work hard at keeping everything they have, except their spouse. – Cecil Scaglione, Mature Life Features.
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Peter Sprague Trio Concert Announced - Come and enjoy the music of the Peter Sprague Trio in concert on Sunday, February 17th, at 6:00pm at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (1036 Solana Dr, Solana Beach, CA 92075). The trio features Peter on a double-necked guitar, his brother, Tripp, on saxophone, flute, chromatic harmonica and percussion and Leonard Patton, singer and percussionist. The music will span everything from the Beatles, Stevie Wonder, Bob Marley, Jimi Hendrix, James Taylor, and more. A portion of the ticket sales will benefit the San Elijo Lagoon Ecological Reserve. Ticket sales at http://uufsd.org/tickers/sprague.
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Premier Norwegian Boys' Choirs To Perform in Escondido - On Sunday, February 17th, at 3:30pm, the First United Methodist Church of Escondido, at 341 S. Kalmia St., will host a choral concert by the Vanse Boys' Choir ("Vanseguttekor Deo Gloria") from Norway, under the direction of Bryan Breidenthal. Joining the Vanse Boys' Choir will be guest singers from the Silver Boys' Choir ("Solvguttene"), the boys' choir of the Norwegian National Broadcasting Company.
Above, the Silver Boys’ Choir
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litigation. With your limited time, and facing money issues, you don’t want to waste them both fighting in court. Seek out a divorce mediator and investigate a collaborative divorce. Both can be less costly, more private, and less time-consuming than court battles. 3. Take the time to understand your current AND projected post-divorce finances. Understand your total financial picture before you agree to any settlement. Know the tax implications of money you pay or receive. Know your afterdivorce budget, and make sure you have enough money to live on after the dust settles. Will you be able to afford home ownership? Protect yourself now from taking another financial hit if you have to sell the house later. 4. Accept that after your divorce, your lifestyle changes.
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Lifestyle changes are part and parcel of divorce. The older you are, the tougher this may be. There’s a good chance you’ll have to downsize. You may need to delay your retirement. You may need to learn to budget better. You’ll probably need to do more with less. Yes, it sucks that you’ll lose roughly half of your income and assets, and it’s a pity that your golden years may not be quite as golden. But, if you ignore your obviously changed financial circumstances now, you may find that you’re destined to outlive your income. That’ll suck worse. 5. If you’re unemployed, underemployed, or retired, get a job ASAP. Be practical. Investigate programs that’ll give you the potential to make the highest income in the shortest amount of time. (Obviously, you don’t want to do something you hate, so find career options that will let you do something you enjoy.) If you’ll be receiving espousal support, wisdom dictates you should still try to earn as much money as you can while you Social Butterfly Cont. from Page 8
The Silver Boys' Choir has been a flagship among Norwegian boys' choirs for the past 75 years. Among the guest singers will be their director, Frederik Otterstad, and his son Ludvig, who will also accompany the choir on both piano and organ. During their Southern California concert tour, the choirs will perform a wide-ranging and interesting repertoire. They will sing sacred music from Norway, from Central America, and from the California Mission tradition. They will also perform a chapter from "Jonah - A Liturgical Drama", the Book of Jonah set to music, as well as selections from Mozart's Requiem. This concert is part of First United Methodist Church’s 2018-19 Music Series, presented as a gift to the community. A free-will offering will be accepted. Bryan Breidenthal founded Vanse Boys’
Vanse US Tour Ensemble
Choir in 1976. He was born and grew up in Southern California, then studied on the East Coast, obtaining his Bachelor of Arts cum laude in music from Harvard University in 1976. He moved to the township of Farsund in Southern Norway, where his maternal ancestors had roots, and he has been living and working there since. There he has founded four choir’s includ-
can. The longer you can wait before spending down your assets, the further they’ll go. Divorcing Later in Life Isn’t Easy
No matter what you do, or who you are, divorcing after 50, will impact you emotionally, financially, socially, and legally. It’s important you understand the challenges you’re facing. The decisions you make now will have major effects on your future. Understanding the legal and financial implications of divorce gives you a leg up on the emotional issues that will arise. Most importantly, plan for life after divorce. If you do, you’ll be well on your way to creating a happy and healthy post-divorce future. It also goes without saying that the best way to avoid the expense and mental hurt of a late-life divorce, is to avoid it. Put ‘the juice’ back in your marriage. Right this minute tell your
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Leroy said,"Shucks, we sold 500 tickets fer two dollars apiece and made a profit of $998."
The next morning the farmer drove up and said,"Sorry, fellows, I have some bad news, the mule died last night."
Curtis said, "Well, the feller who won got upset. So we gave him his two dollars back."
The farmer agreed to deliver the mule the next day.
Curtis & Leroy replied, "Well, then just give us our money back." The farmer said,"Can't do that. I went and spent it already." They said, "OK then, just bring us the dead mule."
The farmer asked, "What in the world ya'll gonna do with a dead mule?" Curtis said, "We gonna raffle him off." The farmer said, "You can't raffle off a dead mule!"
Leroy said, "We shore can! Heck, we don't hafta tell nobody he's dead!" A couple of weeks later, the farmer ran into Curtis & Leroy at the Piggly Wiggly grocery store and asked.
ing the boys’ choir and a regional chamber choir. He has also taught music privately and in public schools on all levels from preschool to college. He has also been active on various boards including The Norwegian Church Music Society’s Children’s and Youth Choir national board and the national board of the Norwegian Choral Conductors’ Association (FONOKO). He enjoys composing and gardening when time allows.
Fredrik Otterstad grew up singing in the Silver Boys' Choir, and took over the leadership of the choir in 2004. He has studied at the University of Oslo and the Norwegian Academy of Music. He has been a guest conductor the Norwegian Broadcasting Company’s orchestra, the St. Thomas Choir in Leipzig and various boys’ choir projects. He is also a talented singer and bassist.
Join the Bob Wilson Birthday Celebration – Join The Escondido Charitable Foundation (ECF) and Escondido Community Child Development Center (ECCDC) to wish Bob Wilson a very special 90th birthday and thank Bob and his wife Marion for all they have done for Escondido and many other communities. The celebration will take place on Sunday, February 10th from 4-6pm at the Escondido High School Gymnasium, 1535 N. Broadway, Escondido 92026. Program begins at 5pm. Light appetizers and beverages will be served. Free parking available. All are welcome, but must RSVP at BobWilson.Eventbrite.com by Thursday, February 7th. For more information, contact Trudy Armstrong at 619.764.8602 or trudy@sdfoundation.org. Bob Wilson, a local graduate of Escondido High School, Class of 1947, is celebrating his 90th birthday. The community is coming together in celebration of this milestone to wish Bob a Happy Birthday and to give thanks for his generosity to the community and the state. He most recently was featured on the
Curtis and Leroy now work for the government.
They're overseeing the Bailout & Stimulus Programs. •••• Limit all U.S. politicians to two Terms. One in office One in prison. •••• Dance floors terrify me. I prefer floors that lie perfectly still. •••• Money saving tip. 1: Buy a 3D printer. 2: Print a 3D printer. 3: Return the 3D printer. •••• A CHP Officer who was dyslexic made a traffic stop on a gal and she smelled like a brewery.
They said,"We raffled him off like we said we wuz gonna do."
So he wrote her a citation for an IUD. •••• Decided I needed a little more peace and quiet in my life so I bought myself a phoneless cord. •••• If you're ever attacked by a mob of clowns, go for the juggler.
national news for donating 1.1 million dollars to victims of the fire in Paradise, CA. Bob and his twin brother Bill were born on January 23, 1929, and their sister Carol was born on December 25, 1930. They attended a one room school house between Escondido and San Marcos, then on to
study in Williamsburg. Williamsburg was where our nation was founded in Raleigh Tavern by the colonists in 1776, revolting against England. On the 400th anniversary of England coming to America, Bob and Marion dined with Queen Elizabeth at Williamsburg.
"What'd you fellers ever do with that dead mule?" The author, Pete Peterson
The farmer said,"My Lord, didn't anyone complain?"
Education is the priority of the W i l s o n Foundation with scholarships and support from the Monarch School to college. Bob and Marion built the football stadium for Escondido Union High School, which was named the Wilson Stadium. W h e n Qualcomm Stadium is not available, then Diego Former Escondido Mayor, Lorraine Boyce, is assisted on San County High stage by Bob Wilson School Football Escondido Union High School. In their Playoffs are at Wilson Stadium. Last year, junior year in high school, Bob and Bill ran Bob personally signed eleven hundred one for student body president and tied. Rethousand dollars checks ($1,100,000) for vote next day; Bob won. On the football Paradise High School. Marion celebrated team, Bob played center, Bill played end. her 90th birthday on November 9th and Their playing made the all San Diego Bob with Bob Harroun celebrates their County football team. Bob was captain of 90th birthdays together. the track team. Their sister Carol was a song leader and girl’s state representative History Museum Honors Local Black in Sacramento. Pioneer - February is Black History Month and the Valley Center History Museum is After serving with California National honoring the life and legend of local folk Guard in Korea, Bob graduated from the hero Nate Harrison, San Diego County's University of California at Los Angeles. In first Black settler. Harrison, who was born 1995, UCLA set a fundraising goal of one a slave, homesteaded near a natural spring billion dollars, Bob was chosen to lead. By on 160 acres on Palomar Mountain from 2005, it was $3,053,000.000. UCLA desthe mid-1800s until his death in 1920 at ignated in the middle of the campus over age 97. The museum, which has mounted two acres as the Wilson Plaza honoring Bob and Marion Wilson. For thirty years, ‘Social Butterfly’ Bob has seen that over three thousand beginning teachers have spent a week of Cont. on Page 10
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a profile of his life, has a vast collection of photos and artifacts on Harrison who became a popular 19th century figure among locals and visitors where, for 50 years, he greeted motorists with cool buckets of water and kind words as they headed to the mountain top. His original oneroom cabin is gone, but is recalled in multiple photos and an oil painting by noted Western artist Marjorie Reed which hangs in the Valley
11:30am-12noon. The speaker will be one of our own members, Suzanne Southwell who will be talking about “Living Trusts.” The cost for lunch is $15/person, and RSVP is required, by calling Joy at 760.855.3850.
Contemporary Women Serve Lunch at Ronald McDonald House - One of the favorite service projects for GFWC Contemporary Women of North County (CWONC) members is to help prepare and serve lunch at the Ronald McDonald House (RMH) in San Diego. Recently, twelve members (perfect crew size for the RMH kitchen) served over 150 lunches to families spending long days and nights at a hospital with their child. Ronald McDonald House Charities of San Diego provides a “home away from home” for families with children being treated for serious, often life-threatening conditions at local hospitals. Visit www.cwonc.org.
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Center museum. The old road leading to Harrison's rock cabin, east of the intersection of Cole Grade and Pala (SR 76) roads bears the name Nate Harrison Grade. The Valley Center History Museum is open Tuesdays through Saturdays from 12noon to 4pm. Admission is free. For directions or more information, visit vchistory.org or call (760) 749-2993.
Escondido Woman’s Club Meeting is Monday – On Monday, February 4th the Escondido Woman’s Club will hold their general meeting at their clubhouse at 751 No. Rose, Escondido 92027. The meeting starts at 10:30am; the program from
Woman’s Club of Vista Donates Jackets to B.A.C.A. - The Woman’s Club of Vista GFWC recently donated 22 denim jackets to luncheon speakers from the San Diego Chapter of International B.A.C.A. (Bikers Against Child Abuse) for use in their outstanding and inspiring program. The nonprofit supports creating a safer environment for abused children. Their full Mission Statement can be found at bacaworld.org/mission/. The Woman’s Club meets the second Wednesday of the month at the Shadowridge Golf Club in Vista at
10:30am. The next meeting will be February 13th. Luncheon is $18 and everyone is welcome. For reservations, contact kdkyan@gmail.com or 919-8472786. Visit womansclubofvista.org for additional information about the club.
Bodybuilders Pay Homage to Valley Center Strongman - Bodybuilders, not generally thought of as patrons of museums, have been showing up at the Valley Center History Museum in unusual numbers to honor the memory of 'Steve Reeves,’ one of the world's most notable bodybuilders and a Valley Center resident for 43 years. The strongmen have been remembering and celebrating the January birthdate of Reeves at the local museum which has a large collection of memorabilia and mementos which were donated following his death in 2000. On a recent weekday afternoon, seven bodybuilders from California's famed Muscle Beach in Venice visited the museum where a docent shared its collection with the visitors. During his lifetime, Reeves won every major bodybuilding competition in the world, including Mr. America (1947), Mr. World (1949) and Mr. Universe (1950). In 2008, when the museum opened an exhibit featuring trophies and photos of Reeves, then Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger, also one of the most notable figures in bodybuilding, wrote to
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Brady is a 6-year-old Bullmastiff/Labrador Retriever mix looking for a home. He is sweet, attentive and energetic. In his previous home, he got along with other dogs, a cat and children, so he would be great for practically any family! He is a big dog who can get jumpy when he is excited, so older, sturdier children would be best. Brady is crate-trained, very friendly with strangers and loves to play. Adopt this handsome, happy boy today! His adoption fee includes his neuter, permanent microchip identification, current vaccinations, 30 days worry free insurance from Trupanion Insurance and a certificate for a free veterinary exam! Brady is available for adoption at San Diego Humane Society’s Escondido Campus at 3500 Burnet Drive. To learn more about making him part of your family, please call (619) 299-7012.
The Valley Center History Museum at 29200 Cole Grade Road is open Tuesdays t h r o u g h Saturdays from 12noon to 4pm. Admission is free. For more information, visit vchistory.org or call (760) 749-2993.
Bodybuilder Steve Reeves of Valley Center as "Mr America" when judges said he was "America's best built man". (Valley Center Historical Society}
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the museum, "Steve was a great inspiration to me." Reeves also had a long motion picture career, starring in "Hercules" and 16 other films. He moved to Valley Center in 1957 and built an impressive Spanish hacienda on his 14acre ranch while continuing to make movies and writing books on "power walking".
WHEN WILL THEY EVER LEARN?
The popular song by Peter, Paul, and Mary, “Where Have All The Flowers Gone?” has a question that could well be asked today, “When will they ever learn?” The song is directed to the human weakness of destruction, destruction of humanity and our environment. Will we ever learn of the dire consequences of war and the exploitation of our natural resources? Man’s inhumanity to man has taken the lives of billions. Irresponsible acts have exploited our natural resources. It ought to alarm us to see the exhaustion of our soil with chemical fertilizers, depleting the natural minerals. The use of pesticides and herbicides are killing off necessary insects, such as bees- all for the profitability of higher yields. And
we are plagued with wars that cost the lives of thousands of lives annually, often killed with the equipment of war, as nations compete for the sale of armaments to anxious and fearful governments. Who is responsible for all of this? More so, what price do we pay? The song, “Where Have All The Flowers Gone?” is relevant. Thank God we still have some flowers. Yet, in much of the world and yes, in America too, they are disappearing. Do we see them leaving? Before they all go, will we ever learn?
In the wanton loss of human life due to war and, who knows what other effects, to drugs and contaminated food with pesticides and herbicides, we have created a world of self-destruct. Hillel, a Rabbi of the first century, gives us a true sense of personal responsibility when he said, “If I am not for myself, who will be for me?” Who knows where our world would be scientifically and culturally if, in the last century, the nearly billion people whose lives were snuffed out by war, genocide, and disease, would have lived and contributed to each of us in some way? We are all poorer, because of their deaths. “When will we ever learn?” Let’s pray it is soon. For inspiration, counsel, and prayer, call Dial-a-Prayer-760 746-6611.
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San Marcos • Mayor Rebecca Jones Adult Fitness Zone to open in San Marcos
Are you an e x e r c i s e enthusiast who loves taking your circuit training outdoors? Or perhaps you are just looking to up your activity while enjoying great weather.
be ADA accessible and covered by sail shades for year-round use. As one of San Diego County’s Live Well communities, San Marcos is proud to offer adults a recreation space that Located in front of the Senior encourages residents to embrace Activity Center, the Mark J. active lifestyles. Instructor-led Noy, Jr. Adult Fitness Zone will fitness classes are coming soon! be the City’s first outdoor recreation space to offer a For more information about San combination of cardio and Marcos parks, visit www.sanstrength training equipment. To marcos.net/parks or contact me top it off, the Fitness Zone will at rjones@san-marcos.net.
Escondido • Mayor Paul “Mac” McNamara Greetings Escondido!
This week the c o u n c i l approved a resolution against off shore drilling. While it may have been symbolic in nature since we don’t live on the coast, I think it was important to send a signal that we care about the environment for future generations, and we need to get serious about alternative energy sources. I had a mayor’s roundtable meeting with representatives from all areas that make a city rise. Some of those areas were
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Lisa Marcolongo Was Guest Speaker at DAR Meeting - The Santa Margarita Chapter, Daughters of the American Revolution, welcomed Lisa Marcolongo from the Elizabeth Hospice in Oceanside. She spoke about the many ways that they provide hospice care, palliative care and grief support to children and adults who are facing life threatening illnesses. Care is provided in many ways and is designed for each family’s circumstances. Members asked many questions and were interested to learn what hospice care is and is not. Hospice care has come a long way from when it was seen only as providing support for the terminally ill. Vice regent, Laura Horn, and regent, Charla Boodry, presented Marcolongo with a certificate and honorarium.
Economic Development, Education, Public Safety, Agriculture, Social Action, and Faith Based organizations. The theme was how to take Escondido to the next level by working together in harmony, that allows efficiency, dialogue and the creation of a strong community. It was a great discussion and I will keep you posted on how it develops over the next weeks. I also was invited to speak at the Escondido Republican Club and received a warm welcome and had some great questions. Thank you to the members of the club. Semper Fi, Mac
Paul P. McNamara Mayor of Escondido Women of North County (CWONC) - a non-profit women’s volunteer organization, donated and assembled 150 lunches that will be provided free to individuals and families who come to the Interfaith Intake Center in Escondido. Interfaith Community Services offers services that provide the tools and resources people in crisis need to stabilize and rebuild their lives. Visit www.cwonc.org.
Vista • Mayor Judy Ritter I presented my State of the City Address on Monday, January 28, during the Vista of Chamber Commerce State of the Community program. The event was held at the Vista Civic Center.
During the presentation, I highlighted some of the City's past year's significant accomplishments, including our investment in city road and infrastructure improvements, and our park renovations and upgrades. This is my ninth address to the Vista community and I am
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continuing to pledge to improve our public safety, grow our economy, and lay the foundation for a better future.
With our crime rate at an all-time low; quick, skillful emergency responses; increased city reserves; a renewed downtown renaissance; smoother and better paved roads; and a significant investment in our parks, we are fulfilling that commitment. To read my speech and review a list of the City’s significant accomplishments, check online at CityofVista.com.
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The recycling industry is currently going through a serious downturn. This downturn stems from something that has become all too common in recycling programs across North America: recycling contamination, or the percentage of trash mixed with recyclables.
Today, the average contamination rate sits at around 25%. That means that about 1 in 4 items placed in a recycling container is actually not recyclable, and this creates enormous
problems for the recycling economy.
Unfortunately, we now have non - recyclables finding their way into the recycling stream –things like plastic bags, organic waste (food, liquid and yard waste), rubber hoses, wires and low grade plastics. These non - recyclables are considered contamination. The sustainability and viability of all recycling programs is dependent upon collecting high quality, high value recyclable materials free of contamination. By working together, we can make recycling great for the environment and make it economically sustainable for years to come.
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In part one we defined the two “problem” age groups as the “Ogen” or older generations, born before 1965 and the Ygen, or younger generations, born after 1980. We believe the alienation and antipathy between these age groups has reached unprecedented levels and that the primary driving force has been Internet consumer applications technology,
There have always been “generation Gaps.” Older and younger generations see the world differently. Robert Kennedy expressed Ygens combination of optimism and naivete when he said “I dream things that never were and ask why not.” In their rush to solve the World’s problems the young often fail to consider negative impacts of their “solutions.” The Ogens know
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the world’s premier touring guitar festival, each show bringing together the most interesting and innovative acoustic guitarists to exchange musical ideas in a public concert setting. The event will be held Thursday, February 21st, at 7:30pm, at the California Center for the Arts, Escondido, 340 N. Escondido Blvd, Escondido. Tickets are $35 and $45; available at artcenter.org or by calling the ticket office at 800.988.4253. For each tour, IGN founder Brian Gore brings together a new case of guitar luminaries for special evenings of solos, duets, and quartets that highlight the dexterity and diversity within the world of acoustic guitar. Brian founded IGN in 1995 as a forum for the world’s finest guitarists/composers to play their latest original songs and share musical ideas and talent with their peers. The 2019 North American Tour includes Anchorage, Alaska; New Westminister, BC; Vienna, VA; Maryland; Maine; New Hampshire; North Carolina; Idaho; Nebraska; six locations in California; Arizona; Washington; and Montana. This event will feature Luca Stricagnoli, born and raised in Italy, is an acoustic guitarist known for his unique style and innovative playing techniques. His original approach to music has garnered him over 100 million views on YouTube and soldout shows around the world. Antoine Boyer drank from the most authentic sources of gypsy jazz. In 2012 Boyer was named “Guitarist of the Year” by Guitarist Magazine, the first gypsy jazz guitarist to receive the honour. Samuel “Samuelito” Rouesnel first picked up a guitar at age 7. He followed a dual path of classical and flamenco guitar, studying at the prestigious Conservatoire de Caen in Normandy. His first concert took place on his sixteenth birthday, on the national stage of Caen and was broadcast by French television. Cenk Erdogan was born in Istanbul in 1979. In 1997 he won a four-year scholarship at Istanbul Bilgi University for Music Composition; graduating with First Class
there are no simple solutions. Experience has taught them that actions targeting specific problems usually have unplanned and often negative consequences that can cause even bigger problems. They would rather live with an imperfect status quo than risk the uncertainty of change. The young feel their own world-view to be pure and uncontaminated by the prejudice and greed of their elders. The elders see their own youthful image in the young and assume that time and experience will cause wisdom to eclipse youth’s foolish idealism. This “generation’s gap” has always been with us. The new technology driven “generations gap” we see today is a much different “Gap” altogether.
children to do school work and they gave them mobile phones to maintain contact and keep them safe. The tools computer/communications equipment we provided to our children was not the problem. The problem arose as our children and young adults began to use these devices to access a world of new Internet applications designed especially for them. The only similarity between the browsing habits of Ogen and Ygen is the devices that they use. For Ogen the Internet is a tool for information and communication. For Ygen it is an all absorbing lifestyle. Two fiftyish couples are enjoying a pleasant conversation over dinner at their favorite restaurant. They glance
at the nearby table of four young adults. No conversation is happening. They seem oblivious to one another’s presence as they peck and swipe at the tiny bright screens on the table.
The older couples look at each other in silence and shake their heads sadly. Then they go on with their conversation. A girl looks up from her phone and asks the young man next to her “why are those old people shaking their heads.” The young studies them for a moment, then he grins and says, “My guess would be Parkinson’s” In part III “What’s going to happen?”
The idea that Technology can threaten civilization has a long history. In the tenth century, Pope Innocent II outlawed the use of crossbows in warfare as a threat to Christian civilization. 19th and 20th century advances include steam, rail, electricity, movies, automobiles, radio, TV, computers and now the Internet. Each technology has brought positive changes to our day to day lives, but each was also accompanied by doomsday prophesies of their negative affect on civilization. In the past century four million Americans died and one hundred million were injured in automobile accidents yet we accept this “collateral damage” as the price of progress. Technology has been changing our lives without creating a new “generations gap,” for many generations. Why is today’s technology different? Until the beginning of this century, the “first adopters” of new technology were adults. Adults brought technology home because they planned to use it. They provided computers for their
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Escondido Public Library’s Holiday Food for Fines Benefits Locals in Need Escondido Public Library’s annual Holiday Food for Fines event was a community success. This popular program provided Library patrons with the opportunity to clear up to $20.00 in fines from their account through food donations. The collection drive ran from November 26 through December 31, and the Library accumulated 56 crates of food weighing 1,680 pounds. Proceeds from the drive were donated to Interfaith Community Services in Escondido which distributed the food to families in need throughout the North County area (www.interfaithservices.org/). For more information about Food for Fines, contact Senior Librarian, Technology & Support Services Katy Duperry katy.duperry@escondidolibrary.org or 760839-4624. Library programs, events, and services are free and open to the public. More information about all Library activities can be found at www.escondidolibrary.org. Escondido Public Library is located at 239 South Kalmia Street in Escondido.
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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2018-9001977 The name of the business: I Am Me Entertainment, located at 6635 Rancho Santa Fe Rd., #1241, San Marcos, CA. 92078. This business is registered by: Andrew Hays 925 La Plaza Dr. San Marcos, CA. 92078 Ivan Juarez 1000 Cima Drive San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by a General Partnership. First day of business n/a. /s/ Andrew Hays Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/23/2019. 1/31, 2/07, 2/14 & 2/21/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9000552 The name of the business: Losungens, located at 1267 Discovery Street, San Marcos, CA. 92078. This business is registered by: Losungens 1267 Discovery Street San Marcos, CA 92078 This business is conducted by a Limited Liability Company. First day of business: 11/5/18 /s/ Bradley J. Elken, VP Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/08/2019. 1/17, 1/24, 1/31 & 2/07/2019
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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9000031 The name of the business: Native Gourmet Inc, Native Wines, located at 1733 El Dorado Ct, Vista, CA. 92084. This business is registered by: Native Gourmet Inc. 1733 El Dorado Ct. Vista, Ca. 92084 This business is conducted by a corporation. First day of business: 12/31/2012 /s/ Christopher A.Lobo, CEO Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/02/2019. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001527 The name of the business: Surf City Pizza, located at 4263 Mission Boulevard, San Diego, CA. 92109. This business is registered by: Acoustic Pizza LLC 2977 Caminito Niquel San Diego, CA. 92117 This business is conducted by a Limited Liability Company. First day of business: 8/01/2013. /s/ Gary Zendell, Manager/Member Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/17/2019. 1/24, 1/31, 2/07 & 2/14/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001211 The name of the business: Balicali, located at 781 Catherine Ave., San Marcos, CA. 92069. This business is registered by: Dian Andriyani 781 Catherine Avenue San Marcos, CA. 92069 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business: 1/15/19 /s/ Dian Andriyani Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/15/2019. 1/24, 1/31, 2/07 & 2/14/2019
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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9000942 The name of the business: Mega Social Marketing, located at 3312 Avenida Serena 202, Carlsbad, CA. 92009. This business is registered by: Jamileh Raji Hamideh 3312 Avenida Serena Apt 202 Carlsbad, CA. 92009 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business: n/a. /s/ Jamileh Raji Hamideh Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/10/2019. 1/24, 1/31, 2/07 and 2/14/2019 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001120 The name of the business: The Computer Factory, located at 845 W. San Marcos Blvd., San Marcos, Ca 92078. This business is registered by: Paul A. and Nome J Van Middlesworth 650 S. Rancho Santa Fe Rd., #46 San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by a Married Couple. First day of business: 8/31/1995. /s/ Paul A. Van Middlesworth Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/14/2019. 01/24, 01/31, 02/07 & 02/14/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9000045 The name of the business: Serranos Hardwood Flooring, located at 2130 S. Santa Fe Ave, #108, Vista, CA. 92084. This business is registered by: Gerardo Serrano Guevara 2130 S. Santa Fe Ave. #108 Vista, CA. 92084 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business: 1/1/19. /s/ Gerardo Serrano Guevara Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/02/2019. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9000148 The name of the business: ATS Electric, located at 4060 Vista Calaveras St., Oceanside, CA. 92056. This business is registered by: Albert Thomas Sejut 4060 Vista Calaveras St. Oceanside, CA. 92056 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business: 2/28/2008 /s/ Albert Thomas Sejut Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/03/2019. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9000137 The name of the business: diLeone by the Sea Real Estate, located at 3621 Visa Campana S. #74, Oceanside, CA. 92057. This business is registered by: Helaine Botello 3621 Vista Campana S. #74 Oceanside, CA. 92057 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business: 1/01/2019 /s/ Helaine Botello Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/03/2019. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2018-9031208 The name of the business: Contigo Motors, Inc., located at 1944-B S. Santa Fe Ave., Vista, CA. 92083. This business is registered by: Contigo Motors, Inc. 1944 B S. Santa Fe Ave.,. Vista, Ca. 92083 This business is conducted by a corporation. First day of business n/a. /s/ Christian Humberto Mendoza, President Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 12/21/2018. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2018-9031108 The name of the business: Summit Skin Care, located at 1120 Jasper Court, San Marcos, Ca. 92078. This business is registered by: Brandee Danielle Remnek 1120 Jasper Court San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business n/a. /s/ Brandee Danielle Remnek Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 12/20/2018. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2018-9031612 The name of the business: Primetime Real Estate, located at 2118 Shadetree Ln., Escondido, CA. 92029. This business is registered by: Brandon Christopher Kilian 2118 Shadetree Ln. Esconddo, CA. 92029 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business 12/27/18. /s/ Brandon Christopher Kilian Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 12/27/2018. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2018-9030853 The name of the business: Industrial Control Parts, located at 603 Yarrow Way, San Marcos, CA. 92078. This business is registered by: Allan Meza 603 Yarrow Way San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business 6/05/18. /s/ Allan Meza Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 12/18/2018. 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2018-9031771 The name of the business: Chronic Fitness, located at 3575 Roosevelt St., Apt 202, Carlsbad, CA. 92008. This business is registered by:Shane Christopher Chronic 3575 Roosevelt St. Apt 202 Carlsbad, CA. 92008 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business was n/a. /s/ Shane Christopher Chronic Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., C o u n t y Clerk/Recorder of San Diego County on 12/28/2018 1/10, 1/17, 1/31/2019
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PETITION FOR APPOINTMENT OF GUARDIAN OF THE PERSON Case # 37-2018-00051141-PRGP-CTL Superior Court of Caalifornia, County of San Diego 1100 Union Street San Diego, CA. 92101 Central Courthouse Family Law
Guardianship of the person of Kaden Dean, Colton Jesina and Dalilah Jesina
Petitioner: Eva Beatty 453 Vale View Dr., Vista, CA. 92081 Phone 760.274.7647
Petitioner requests the court to appoint her as guardian for the children named above. Attorney: Cathryn E. Young, Esq. Griffith, Young & Lass, APC 1525 Faraday Avenue, Suite 140 Carlsbad, CA. 92008 858.345.1720 Fax> 858.345.1725 Email: catie@gylfamilylaw.com
The proposed guardian is NOT related to the child or children named. I am the proposed guardian. I will promplty furnish any information requested by an agency investigating an adoption or a local agency designated by the county to provide public social services. The full legal name and date of birth of each child who needs a guardian is: Kaden Michael Dean, dob 3-10-06 Colton Honza Jesina, dob 11-11/07 Dalilah Hana-Sue Jesina, dob 910-09
The guardianship is necessary or convenient for the reasons given below: I am friends with the children’s mother, Melissa Dean Baumann, who has been incarcerated since July, 2014, sentenced 15 years to life. The whereabouts of their father, Mark Jesina, is unknown. He has made no attempt to contact me or the children since 7/2014. The children have been in my sole custody and care since 7/2014. I have raised them with the help of my husband. Melissa consents to the Legal Guardianship Appointment and has signed over Power of Attorney to me. Attached POA signed 8/1/14 & 3/22/17. I do not believe Father, if located, would contest the guardianship. Pursing legal guardianship will allow me to obtain benefits through the state of California which will be extremely helpful and beneficial for the children. We ask the court to appoint Eva Beatty as guardian of the person of the children named above and issue Letters of Guardianship.
Excuse me from having to give notice of the hearing on the petition to one or more relatives or other persons listed in item 2 of the attached Guardianship Petition Child Information Attachment (form GC-210(CA)) for the reasons given below:
I do not know the known location or wherabouts of Mark Jesina, the children’s father. He has had no contact or made any attempts to contact me or childen since July 2014. Last I heard he was homeless, without a job and has been in and out of jail on drug related offenses. I will gladly serve by publication if required to so so by the court.
All attachments are made part of this form as though incuded here. There are ___ pages attached to this form. Date: 10/9/18 /s/ Cathryn E. Young, Esq.
I delcare under penalty of perjury under the laws of the State of California that the information stated above is true and correct. Date: 10/8/18 /s/ Eva Beatty Filed: 10/10/2018 DOP: 1/10, 1/17, 1/24 & 1/31/2019
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CITY OF SAN MARCOS REQUEST FOR PROPOSAL (PW RFP19-08) CITYWIDE ACCESS CONTROL SYSTEMS MAINTENANCE AND INSTALLATION (AS NEEDED)
PUBLIC NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that the City of San Marcos, hereinafter referred to as Agency or City, invites sealed bids for the above stated Project and will receive bids via an on line bid management system, PlanetBids, electronically up to the hour of 2:00 p.m. on Feb 19, 2019 at which time they will be publicly opened electronically and viewable online. Representative of Agency will also be onsite at City Hall at the time of bid opening to read the electronic bids. Bids received after the hour and date for the bid opening will not be accepted. WORK DESCRIPTION The work consists of providing citywide access control systems maintenance of existing access controls and installation services as needed. LOCATION OF WORK Citywide. ESTIMATED BUDGET The estimated budget is $240,000. PREVAILING WAGE NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that, pursuant to the San Marcos City Charter and the San Marcos Municipal Code, payment of prevailing wages and compliance with the California Labor Code Sections 1770 et seq is required for this project. The Contractor will be required to comply with all of the terms and conditions (including State General Prevailing Wage requirements) prescribed for Contractors performing public works construction projects. The California Department of Industrial Relations determines the general prevailing wage rates for the State and are available at the DIR website, http://www.dir.ca.gov, or from the City of San Marcos’ City Clerk Office. DIR REGISTRATION Under (SB 854), “contractors” are required to register with the Department of Industrial Relations (DIR) on an annual basis (July 1-June 30). All contractors and subcontractors submitting bids will be required to have registered in advance with the (DIR) and must meet the minimum program qualifications necessary to be eligible to work on public works projects pursuant to Labor Code section 1725.5 and Public Contract Code Section 4104. TERM Services as needed for a period no greater than five (5) years. AVAILABILITY OF RFP DOCUMENTS The City uses PlanetBids to post and receive bids. Only vendors that are registered will be eligible to submit a bid for formal solicitations with the City. PlanetBids is accessible via the City’s website and direct link provided below and provides all Bid Documents at no cost to bidders. http://www.san-marcos.net OR https://www.planetbids.co m/portal/portal.cfm?Comp anyID=39481 Bid Documents are also available for inspection at no cost at the front counter located on the first floor of City Hall, 1 Civic Center Drive, San Marcos, California
92069-2918. NO BID SETS WILL BE AVAILABLE FOR PURCHASE. CONTRACTORS LICENSE a California Contractors License C7. GENERAL The Contractor to whom the Contract is awarded, and any subcontractor under such Contractor, shall hereby ensure that minority and women business enterprises will be afforded full opportunity to submit bids for subcontracts. Further, there shall be no discrimination in employment practices on the basis of race, religious creed, color, national origin, ancestry, physical handicap, medical condition, marital status, age, or sex. DP: 1/31 and 2/07/2019 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001814 The name of the business: Mind Flowers Magazine, located at 3663 Cypress Rd., Oceanside, CA. 92058. This business is registered by: Mind Flowers Magazine LLC 3663 Cypress Rd. Oceanside, CA. 92058 This business is conducted by a Limited LIability Company. First day of business n/a.. /s/ David Wilburn, CEO Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/22/2019. 1/31, 2/7, 2/14 & 2/21/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001165 The name of the business: IK Designs LLC, Iconik Fitness Apparel, located at 814 Galaxy Dr., Vista, CA. 92083. This business is registered by: IK Designs LLC 814 Galaxy Dr Vista, CA. 92083 This business is conducted by a Limited Liability Company. First day of business n/a. /s/ Enrique De La Cruz Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/14/2019. 1/17, 1/24, 1/31 & 2/07/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001401 The name of the business: We Charge EV, located at 1990 White Oak Court, San Marcos, CA. 92078. This business is registered by: Sowmya Bhat 1990 White Oak Court San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business 1/16/2019 /s/ Sowmya Bhat Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/16/2019 1/24, 1/31, 2/07 & 2/14/2019 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9000714 The name of the business: J Productions, located at 150 S. Rancho Santa Fe Rd., #65, San Marcos, CA. 92078. This business is registered by: Tyler Aaron Jobe 150 Rancho S. Santa Fe Rd., #65 San Marcos, CA. 92078 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business 1/1/2019 /s/ Tyler Aaron Jobe Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/09/2019. 1/31, 2/07, 2/14 & 2/21/2019 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001493 The name of the business: Davi Nails, located at 732 Center Dr., San Marcos, CA. 92069. This business is registered by: Colleen Nguyen 27553 Sunset Way Murrieta, Ca. 92563 Adin Pham 4000 Via Miguel St. Corona, CA. 92881 This business is conducted by a Limited Partnership. First day of business 1/14/2019 /s/ Colleen Nguyen, General Partner Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/17/2019. 1/31, 2/07, 2/14 & 2/21/2019 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001383 The name of the business: Layna Ann’s Beauty Bar, located at 3401 Piazza de Oro Way, #110, Oceanside, CA. 92056. This business is registered by: Layna Ann Williams 3401 Piazza De Oro Way #110 Oceanside, CA. 92056 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business n/a. /s/ Layna Ann Williams Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/16/2019. 1/31, 2/07, 2/14 & 2/21/2019
SUMMARY OF ORDINANCE ADOPTED Ordinance No. 2019-1469
Ordinance No. 2019-1469 of the City Council of the City of San Marcos, California, amending Chapter 5.44 and Title 20 of the San Marcos Municipal Code relating to Massage Businesses and Massage Technicians. Ordinance No. 2019-1469 was introduced on January 8, 2019, and adopted by the City Council of the City of San Marcos, California, on January 22, 2019, by the following roll call vote: AYES: COUNCILMEMBERS: JENKINS, NUÑEZ, PETREK, WALTON AND JONES; NOES: COUNCILMEMBERS: NONE; ABSENT: COUNCILMEMBERS: NONE. A certified copy is posted in the office of the City Clerk at 1 Civic Center Drive, San Marcos, CA. Phillip Scollick, City Clerk, City of San Marcos. PD: 1/31/2019
INTRODUCED ORDINANCE NO. 2019-1471
Ordinance No. 2019-1471 an ordinance of the City Council of the City of San Marcos, California, Amending Chapters 5.55, 8.80, 9.04, 10.10, 10.11 and 10.46 of the San Marcos Municipal Code relating to Tobacco And Smoking; Cannabis Use By Persons Under 21 Years Of Age And Social Host Obligations; and Responsible Alcohol Sales, Service And Delivery Training. Ordinance 2019-1471 was introduced on January 22, 2019, and will be presented to the City Council for adoption on February 12, 2019. A certified copy is posted in the office of the City Clerk at 1 Civic Center Drive, San Marcos, CA. Phillip Scollick, City Clerk, City of San Marcos. PD: 1/31/2019 INTRODUCED ORDINANCE NO. 2019-1470
Ordinance No. 2019-1470 - an ordinance of the City Council of the City of San Marcos, California, amending the El Dorado II Specific Plan. Ordinance 2019-1470 was introduced on January 22, 2019, and will be presented to the City Council for adoption on February 12, 2019. A certified copy is posted in the office of the City Clerk at 1 Civic Center Drive, San Marcos, CA. Phillip Scollick, City Clerk, City of San Marcos. PD: 1/31/2019 FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001382 The name of the business: Fabric Stork, located at 3520 Lake Shore Ave, Fallbrook, CA. 92028. This business is registered by: Joshua Alton and Nuria Elkins 3520 Lake Shore Ave. Fallbrook, CA. 92028 This business is conducted by a Married Couple. First day of business: n/a /s/ Joshua Alton Elkins Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 01/16/2019. 01/24, 01/31, 02/07 & 02/14/2019
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001109 The name of the business: Sek Now, located at 810 Brooktree Ln., #184, Vista, CA. 92081. This business is registered by: Damon William Barry 810 Brooktree Ln, #184 Vista, CA 92081 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business: 1/14/2019 /s/ Damon William Barry Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/14/2019. 1/24, 1/31, 2/07 and 2/14/2019
NOTICE OF INTENDED DECISION (Administrative)
The Planning Division Manager of the City of San Marcos has considered the proposed project and does intend to APPROVE the Director’s Permit (DP180017) on February 11, 2019. Project No.: DP18-0017 Applicant: Shatha Hamama, A&E Pizzeria Inc. Request: The applicant is requesting approval of a Director’s Permit renewal to allow for the continued operation of a 1,180 square-foot restaurant with a 264 squarefoot outdoor dining area within an existing commercial center and to allow shared use of parking facilities with adjacent tenants in the Melrose Plaza Shopping Center. Environmental Determination: In accordance with the California Environmental Quality Act (CEQA), the City of San Marcos did find the project Categorically Exempt (EX18-046) pursuant to Section 15301 Class 1 of the California Code of Regulations (CCR), in that this is an existing facility with no expansion. Location of the Property: 1691 Melrose Drive, Suite 195, San Marcos, CA 92078, more particularly described as: Portion of Lot 5 of Parcel Map 16174, as Recorded in the City of Marcos, County of San Diego, State of California, Filed in the Office of the County Recorder of San Diego County, State of California On August 03, 1990. Assessor’s Parcel Number: 223-030-96-00. Further information about this notice can be obtained from Art Pinon, Associate Planner, by calling 760-744-1050 extension 3234, or via email apinon@san-marcos.net. Notice: Any interested person may appeal the decision of the Planning Division Manager to the Planning Commission provided the appeal fee is paid ($20 for residents; $1,155 for non-residents) and a written appeal is submitted to the Planning Division Secretary within ten (10) calendar days of the date of the decision (due no later than 5:30 PM on February 21, 2019). The written appeal should specify the reasons for the appeal and the grounds upon which the appeal is based. The City’s Planning Commission will then consider the filed appeal/s at a later public hearing. The Planning Division can be contacted at 760-744-1050, extension 3233 or ghenderson@sanmarcos.net. The City of San Marcos is committed to making its programs, services and activities accessible to individuals with disabilities. If you require accommodation to participate in any City program, service or activity, please contact the City Clerk’s office at 1 Civic Center Drive, San Marcos CA 92069, or call 760-744-1050, extension 3145. Phil Scollick, City Clerk, City of San Marcos. PD: 01/31/19. FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT #2019-9001101 The name of the business: Liquinfinity, located at 973 Newport St, Oceanside, CA. 92057 This business is registered by: Tom Andrew Andersson 973 Newport St. Oceanside, CA. 92057 This business is conducted by an individual. First day of business: 1/112019 /s/ Tom Andrew Andersson Filed with Ernest J. Dronenburg Jr., County Clerk/Recorder of San Diego on 1/11/2019. 1/24, 1/31, 2/07 and 2/14/2019
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