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You can encourage them by nodding in agreement, or guide the conversation by saying a few appropriate words from time to time, but resist the urge to expound on what they’re saying or using it as an opportunity to make a point of your own. Be careful to not cut them off; let them get everything out. Listening is not only one of the most important parts of being a good witness, but it’s also one of the most difficult. It’s only natural to be eager to supply answers to people’s problems and questions when those answers are so clear to you, but don’t do so prematurely. You may end up getting someone’s whole life story, but keep listening. This is another important part of showing them love. Listening also has this important side effect: Once you’ve shown yourself to be a good listener, others are more likely to be more interested in and receptive to what you have to say when it’s your turn to talk. They’ll be less defensive and more open to new ideas and views, and they will be more understanding themselves.
3. Give God’s answers. Once people have had a chance to unburden their hearts and you have come to understand their problems and needs, you’re in a position to give them God’s answers—the main one of which, of course, is accepting Jesus as their Savior so He can then better help them with all their problems. Tell them how He helped you when you were going through the same thing or something just as bad, or tell them how He helped others. Then show them in the Bible where the Lord promises the needed
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