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Showing affection is one way that families differ.
Photos by Christina Nguyen and Evelyn Fitz
“I don’t like it when my dad kisses me,” freshman Brendon Agostino said. “But when my
mom kisses me on the cheek, and sometimes my grandmother too, I don’t mind that.”
In other families some males are more affectionate than others and not only to
their female relatives.
“I kiss my mom when I see her, and when I say goodbye, and my sisters... pretty
much all my female relatives,” senior Elijah Lopez said, “and my nephews, I try to give them all some love.”
In some American families, this type of male-to-male affection is fine. In other
families, especially the macho ones, there is little to none and most affection
comes in the form of hugging. Maybe because some males think that showing affection is viewed as being sensitive and may lead to having “sissy boys” in their household. “We are not kissers except for my grandma,” senior Marquise Brown
said. “But we are huggers.”
Some families give out affection when it seems necessary.
“My parents kiss me when they are proud of me,” freshman Brianna
Franco said, “but that doesn’t happen all that often.”
In most families, parents tend to set limits for when their children
can date, and especially gp around kissing people.
“When I lived with my biological parents they let me date, but my
foster parents don’t,” said Franco, “or at least they won’t until I’m 16.”
Other children don’t have set limits, but they rather not kiss
someone in front of their parents out of embarrassment, or fear of what their parents may say.
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What then, would you risk yourself trying to
achieve that perfect forbidden kiss? Would the consequences be worth those kisses?
Rejection- or being rejected from- a kiss is it’s own thing entirely. “This girl tried to kiss me but I didn’t let her because I wanted
to kiss her in private,” Ang said, “since I’m a bit scared of showing affection.”
Other guys have no problem kissing publicly- with the
right girl.
“If kissing was illegal, I think that it would
“One of my friends, who is a girl, actually tried to kiss me
make a lot more people want to kiss,” junior
once,” Lopez said. “But I had to push her away since I had
Lani Nguyen said, “just as a form of rebellion
a girlfriend at the time.”
since people love to rebell. I’d probably illegally
Many times girls get kisses that they don’t want.
kiss people, too.”
“Me and this guy were in a car and he told me to look
Who would end up getting locked up?
at him and I did, but I felt in my gut that something was
“All the super slutty dirty girls would probably
going to happen,” senior Destiny Dalit said. “And then he
get locked up,” sophomore Kei-Lani Mitchell said. “But I feel bad for
all the innocent people who would get locked up for a silly reason.” As for that once a year magical kiss, some people would save it
for sweeter things than lovers.
“I’d probably save my kiss for my grandmother. Since she only
comes to visit me once a year,” Meraz said. “And I don’t get to see her that often.”
In a world where kissing is something we don’t do, would the
perceptions of kissing change?
“Kissing would be more like sex, since sex is rare and very special
for some people,” Lopez said.
But what about the people that we love like family?
“It would be harder for some people to express how they feel,”
Meraz said. “But people probably would appreciate the little things a bit more.
“I wish kissing would make people love each other because in
tried to kiss me but I dodged it.”
When these unfortunate incidents happen, some people end
the relationship.
“I actually had to stop being friends with her since she clearly
couldn’t handle just being friends,” Lopez said.
Others feel the initial awkwardness of a rejected kiss but get over
it pretty quickly.
“I still talk to him since I’m close to him and I would miss having
his friendship,” Dalit said, “so I just push the incident aside and pretend it did not happen.”
Others talk about it and continue the friendship.
“Things were actually normal after it happened,” Ang said. “We
try to keep the lines of communication open since now we are more like brother and sister.”
For others the attempt clarifies where they stand in their
relationship.
my family spouses kiss each other because
“Well, the guy who tried to kiss me, we were actually friends and
they can,” Nguyen said. “I want people to
we still are, but now he knows the boundaries that we have in a
kiss each other out of love and to love each
relationship,” Franco said. “ Incidents like that let you know what
other a bit more when they kiss.”
you can and can’t do in any type of relationship.”
Sometimes all people want is a guarantee,
something that assures them that this is worth the time and effort.
“Kissing should guarantee a long and
healthy relationship because you never know what people’s intentions are when
they kiss you,” Franco said. “I want good intentions.” Others want kissing to ignite the flames.
“I hope that when I kiss a person, it makes them feel special,”
junior Brandon Ang said.
In some places in the world kissing is a formality. A way to say
hello and goodbye and often used as a sign of friendship in other cultures.
“I’m Iranian/Persian and in my culture we kiss on the cheek 2-3
times,” teacher Gisalle Willecke said. “ It doesn’t really matter about the gender.”
One of her most prominent family memories is a bitter sweet
smelly story.
“My great grandpa, his fake teeth would always fall out when
he’d try to kiss me,” Willecke said. “And he always had bad breath so I would try to avoid getting kisses from him.”
But in America, showing affection to others who
are not in your immediate family seems wierd.
“I think that is sad that we are self conscious about
showing affection,” Willecke said. “Males, especially.”
“It was so weird for me, that I wouldn’t interact with
people,” Willecke said. “ It seems to be taboo here, even to just physically touch.”
Willecke came from a culture where coming in
and saying hello to everyone at a party was not just saying “Hello, everyone” but actually interacting with everyone.
“It’s like a ten minute process saying hello and goodbye in Iran,”
another person’s cheek and making a Willecke said. “And if you don’t do it you are considered very rude. It is kind of a relief here because I can just say goodbye to everybody when I leave a party.”
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Or was that too much?
Was it good for you? INTRO 路 4
Labellum Interaction with Grand Satisfaction There are memories where the only trigger for them to resurface is by kissing THE KISS THAT TOLD IT ALL
THE KISS THAT BROKE WALLS
In senior Kristy Lee’s memory, the interaction was
The occasional car passing by, seniors Deric Stein
like thunder. Loud and surprising, but lasting in
and Riley Grissom stared intently at one another.
feeling, it sent ripples of shock and awe throughout
Breaking eye contact only for a moment, she found
her body. Sitting on the dusty staircase in front of the
herself locked into Stein’s deep gaze, “As we stood
library, taking pictures to celebrate the day that they
close to each other silently for what seemed like
made their love official, sunlight from the windows
years,” Stein said. “It seemed like the most crucial
lightly rested upon their faces.
moment to make her mine.”
In the process of taking photos, senior Hector
Stein filled the air with unnecessary words, saying,
Valencia made his plan fall into place. In the confusion
“...Thanks for hanging out with me today,” Grissom
of flashes and the shutter sounds of Lee’s phone,
replied not with words but with a small but beautiful
Valencia saw his window of opportunity and he dove
smile as she leaned in for the kiss. “There was one small problem… her intent was to
headfirst into it. ”I just looked at her, and I knew that this was the
kiss me on the cheek,” Stein said. “I didn’t know this so
time,” Valencia said. Lee knew from the moment
I turned my face quickly to kiss her lips, and our faces
Valencia’s lips hit their mark that their relationship was
just smashed together awkwardly.” It was perfect
going to be an amazing one.
timing, but flawed execution, leaving Stein with a sad,
“With this kiss we had, a powerful amount of energy shot up from my heart to my mind,” Lee said, “Telling
unsatisfied smirk. The
awkward
couple
then
stood
there,
me that it would be a very promising relationship.”
contemplating what to do next. “Shall we try that
However, Lee’s pre-kiss intentions were different from
again?”, Grissom said. Frantically nodding his head,
what she wanted originally. “I wanted to take things
Stein planted his lips upon hers. Everything in that
slowly to avoid being too clingy. Too late for that
moment slowed down, as if time itself didn’t want to
now,” Lee said. After the kiss, they continued to take
ruin this perfect moment.
photos of one another as their laughs echoed through the empty hallways of Renton Highschool.
Saying farewell with a few hugs and practical kisses, they parted ways, leaving only a hint of each other’s scent behind. Text and Photos by Dii Miller
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MEMORIES 路 6
Fifty years and counting
It was g them. ood for
Text and Photos by Alicia Quarles
Every day from 11:30 a.m. until 6:30 pm. Barbara K. Pappas can be found at the Renton Nursing and Rehabilitation Center next to her half Greek, quarter Danish, and quarter Swedish husband George W. Pappas’ side.
“So I said, ‘Sure, I’d love to go to the fair with you,’ after he had asked me with that sweet voice of his,” Barbara said. Their first kiss came not too far after that nighttime of adventuring.
The Pappas’ aren’t Wash. Natives. They met in Minnesota, lived
“Before he said goodnight, he leaned over and kissed me,”
in Minnesota, and raised George’s two sons there. Barbara lived
Barbara said. “He said ‘Wow, I think I’ve fallen in love. This is it.’
with her mother when they met. George lived in Hibbing, a
He was totally overwhelmed by that first kiss. And thought it was
fifteen minute drive away.
very sweet too.
The two met because of
In 1963 after three years of dating, the couple decided to get
Barbara’s mother and sister.
married. However, they didn’t have a large wedding; they eloped.
“My sister Jewel was a good
“George had a week off on vacation, and we had planned to go
friend of George’s. He spent
to family bible camp together. We were engaged by then, but
time at her house doing bible
[the camp] got cut short because my mother got sick,” Barbara
study,” Barbara said. “My mother
said, “so George dropped me
and my sister told me they
and my mother off.”
wanted me to meet him, so I
pappas
agreed.” Although
her
mother
After cutting bible camp short, George had time to think. Although he didn’t
relationship but about George dying while her daughter was still
decision, he thought about
young. The two were—and are—eighteen years apart.
what they should do, and came to a conclusion. He suggested “We went to Duluth, and we were married in a preacher’s home there,” Barbara said. “The
They met at Jewel’s house for the first time, and had an instant
preacher’s wife made a cake
connection with one another. There was mutual attraction and
and served us some wedding
real chemistry.
cake.”
“I think it was his personality. He was a gentleman and he
Barbara
remembers
the
seemed to be kind. Dark eyes, dark hair, slim; he was handsome,”
feeling of shopping for nice
Barbara said.
things to wear on her wedding
George appreciated Barbara’s ambition.
Pappas
“I knew I would be well taken care of with Barbara studying to be a nurse,” George said. “She was beautiful.” Then suddenly Barbara took a trip to Alaska for two years. She had no connection with George during the time, but he was waiting for her when she got back.
day. She wore an off-white dress, and George gave her a corsage to match it.
“Unfortunately we didn’t have any pictures taken though,” Barbara said. The couple then had honeymoon time in which they traveled
“He was still close to my home, and relatives,” Barbara said, “so when he heard I was back he came to my mother’s house. He
and That first year of marriage for the couple was hard. With George
played Elvis’ ‘Love Me Tender’
already having two sons, Barbara
on my own guitar for me that
had to learn how to be less of an
day. It was very romantic.” Although
they
already
spent time together, they
“He said ‘Wow, I think I’ve fallen in love. This is it.’
hadn’t gone on a formal date. thought Barbara would go on a date. “I asked her what she thought Barbara would [say] to me if I asked her out,” George said. “Jewel replied, ‘Well, you have to try.’ So I did.” Later that day, George asked Barbara if she would accompany him to the St. Louis County Fair. They went to the Red Foley concert; Foley was a popular artist in the ‘60s when they started dating.
independent woman and more of a mother. “I had gotten married to George and had to quit my…training to be
So George asked Jewel if she
hard with us on the Hobby Farm and all,” George said, “so our son moved us
to
the city. Then eventually we came to Renton to be close to our daughter since our son moved to California.” “We packed up all of our stuff, and came here on a train,” Barbara beautiful in Renton. We’ve never seen mountains before this. Lush beautiful flowers. Minnesota has long, cold, winters Nov. through March.
they get married.
We’ve never had an issue about age though.”
starting to get a little
“Before he said goodnight, he leaned over and kissed me,”
need much time for a
“We met when I was 24. George was 42,” Barbara said. “My father
been
said. “We moved to Washington. It’s
helped with the matchmaking, she had her fears. Not about the
died at 51, and my mother was scared of that happening to me.
“Things had
a nurse, and I had to start being a wife,” Barbara said, “but boy was it hard raising those two teenage boys.” George and Barbara would raise three children of their own in coming years. “We had a son named Robert, and a daughter named Jennifer,” Barbara said. “We also adopted a son, Jason.” Which is how they eventually ended up here in Renton. All the moving George and Barbara have done was for their children.
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Although
they
love
it
here
in Renton—the citizens in town and the staff at the Home especially—they loved their country life too. “We had a great life on our farm,” George said. “I remember one day Barbara was looking out the window and said ‘What’s that strange looking animal?’ It was a moose.” Now George is the one looking out the window. Barbara is not a resident of the home, and George is. And although the two are separated at night, they are together all day, every day. George waits the window for Barbara to arrive. “I wait for her car to pull into the parking lot ,” George said. “I tell the nurses that I am not going to get up until she’s comes.” “I can leave here with a good feeling in my heart, knowing [George] is getting well taken care of,” Barbara said, “He calls this place his home.” On a Tuesday, the rehabilitation center fills with the sounds of morning stretching, karaoke, and popcorn. George and Barbara are sitting at their favorite window seat with a view of Mt. Rainier. “What can you tell me about your age difference?” “George and I have never had any problems with our age difference,” Barbara said. “Except one time a distant cousin, or something, said George was robbing the cradle.” According to Barbara, George was sweeter than any average man; he went out of his way to do things for her. “George started leaving notes for me,” Barbara said. “He did it for about 15 years.” The little love notes would read things like, ‘Have a good day sweetie.’ George would always leave them for her before he went to work. When he retired, Barbara would wake up early and make him pancake breakfasts. When he retired from retirement and got called back to work, Barbara got a retirement of her own.
d o o g o s t ’ n s It wa for her.
A boy came over and made my vision blurry. Text by Abigail Cetino
Of course I did not have him over so we could “get to
I did not squeal with excitement. I did not say anything. I did not smile like an idiot. I did not get up to go steal away some of his time and I did not run to hug him. I did nothing.
know each other”. I did not
While I try not to look eager and pretend I didn’t see him, I continue to blankly stare at the T.V., paying
have him over to see how far
him no notice and concealing my excitement. Though the memory of how things started in the first
we could go. Nor did I have
place is vague, I remember the parts that made me want to share this.
him
over
After some time sharing my first kiss with him we progressed to a French kiss, though I had enjoyed
so I could “get lucky” that
what we were taking part in I couldn’t help but feel the extra amount of pressure around my right eye.
night.
It was not completely uncomfortable but it was enough to notice. Do you know what was going on? I
Some of you may be
kind of mentioned not to do this earlier.
thinking I am quite a boring teenager. Of course, others may
His face was pressed against mine, but more so towards my right side (for some odd reason). This
be thinking I am some kind of pervert for even listing such things (though it was hardly ever vulgar).
was something I decided to let fly by as I thought it was not much to complain about anyways and I
C’mon now though, when a girl has a guy over at night what do you naturally think goes on through
could always tough it out. I mean, it was my first time kissing him and I did not want to cut the time
someone’s mind?
any shorter than I had to.
Perhaps to further your doubts about my intentions i will let you know i liked him.For quite some time. And at the time he kind of liked me too. He said he liked me but he was such a flirt anything he said could not be believed right away. It is for this reason I never admitted my feelings towards him. He was a good friend of my brothers and he would come over whenever and for however long. I met him in middle school and back then he was the most annoying over talkative, name calling, privacy invader whom I had the misfortune to interact. In case you didn’t get it, I hated him quite a bit. Though somewhere in the span of four years I had known him all that hateful energy evolved into a new feeling of like. Not love, but like.
In order to get a second kiss, the first one has to go right, right? After we finished I saw that the vision of my right eye had gone blurry. I credited it to my contact just being outta place so I blinked a few times waiting for it to adjust but it never did. So then I thought it fell out. Not long after he left, I went to bed, throwing out the contact in my left eye, for I was just going to change them in the morning. I was then greeted with a surprise. I had awoken to seeing the day as clear and sharp as how it looks with perfect vision -- in one eye. My left eye burned a bit and I could see as well as a hawk looking through prescription lenses. The
Going back to the main story, you can only imagine how happy I would have been with him coming over. I laid sprawled over the couch in my PJs in the darkness of my living room with “Family Guy” on in
usual. I could not see much out of it as expected of my vision considering I threw out my contact the night before.
the T.V. Surprised by his sudden visit that day but nonetheless excited. Embarrassed by my appearance
However, my right eye was in tune with the world. As it turns out, the previous night had caused my
I let him in through the front door and am greeted with a hug. As soon as he comes he disappears
contact lens to push back and in the course of the night it had reverted back to its original position.
into the hallway and seeps into the cracks of my brother’s bedroom door. In the darkness of my living
Perhaps I wasn’t looking in the right direction the whole time, now reflecting, that kiss didn’t seem
room, I was alone again.
great after all.
It was about 45 minutes, but it felt like hours. After feeling like he’ll never leave the room he comes out and makes his way towards me.
My contact lenses thrown away before their time, and regret accompanied by it, what if my vision had been blurry all along?
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Graphic by Miranda Clairmont and Rebecca Samuels
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What ab teaching what I had to thetomemory. Bohannon, besides working place start. Prior to the invention of blenders and baby about food, mothers probably chewed up food and then transferred small portions of the food from their m learned. on memory in general, studies the effects of Reacts to the kiss, processes emotions, decides Whatthe are the ef-compatibility, reproductive viability, and health of a prospective partner.Evolution is n emotion andunconscious arousal on memory, memory for ARW: hard wired, mechanisms that function to assess genetic if the person is right for you. emotion and shocking news like or news like a insemination presi- fectsisofthe game for males. For9/11, females, however, mere beginning of the reproductive process which includes pregnancy, childbirth, breast feeding, a arousal on females memory? dential election. extensive educaBecause females He bearhas theanburden of the reproductive costs, have been selected to put a lot of emphasis on making careful, judicious mate choices. Sin Bohannon: There is a tional background, including A.B. from children. Clearly, females thatannot sequence of things to from the University of Hartford in West Hart- remember. Each sequence is very complex, and between at Stony Brook in Stony Brook, NY. He has those, there is one been teaching since attending S.U.N.Y. and normal sequence, and has an extensive list of published works on one horrifying sequence. his discoveries on memory. Here is an interTemporal Lo Besides regular memory, view with Bohannon, directed (shortly) by there is extra sensitive stuff right reporter Emma Collier. in the middle of the memory center. ARW: How did you become interested in In a memory test, we showed people three different slides, all of which were Psychology? Perceives and recog Bohannon: Generally, the brain stuff. I was similar in a way. We showed food, a crayon, ciated most with ho interested in how the brain worked, and how the king of hearts. The stuff that doesn’t things you it controlled behavior. My undergraduate belong, near the emotional part of the scene, kiss, school did operations on cats, rabbits, gerbils, you remember with all the rest, regardless. If is that rats...There wasn’t a brain operation on cam- you are in a very emotional condition, folthere are lowing a threat, everything about it is remem- two people bered. Your mind encodes as much as you ran the cat lab, despite being allergic to cats. involved in ARW: You did work with brains. How did can take. The slide preceding the emotions the kiss. If both that lead to Psychology? has an advantage. [Here Bohannon compares people share memothis knowledge to being attacked by a tiger.] Bohannon: I didn’t have the grades or the ries, the kiss is more likely money back in 1970 to do brain research, but Remembering the tiger’s teeth in your face, to have happened that way. But that’s a late memory. What about the sound there is and was a lot of money in Developpeople face opposite ways when kissmental Psychology, so I got my Ph.D. in Psy- or smell before? Your memory retains these ing, otherwise it wouldn’t work. You would things because of the emotional trauma you chology. I studied languages, general brain think that prior to being aroused, they would cognition, and wrote a book on language and experienced. You remember signs. Things would share something. But what we have that precede a strong emotion are retained the discovered is that they actually share nothdevelopment, of which the eighth issue just best. You don’t have just central memory, you came owwewut. ARW: How did that lead to effects of emohave peripheral memory. has to be shared. But kisses are surprisingly tion and arousal on memory? ARW: How does this relate to kissing? internal. People’s narratives about kisses, and Bohannon: The secrets of kissing, and all Bohannon:What you want to do is not just what they think about and remember, what physiology: it’s all part of the cognitive remember the kiss, you want to remember they felt, their worry, if their braces are gothe things that occurred before. What people ing to catch, how their breath smelled, Butler University had a basically fully retired don’t realize sometimes when they describe a was the kiss good or bad. All of these
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tance of human behavior. Why Anniedo w e n t n t door. rtant consequences? Do menexand nt objectives? What about kissing ly to attempt to initiate open mouth in of kissing behavior is a good place ders and baby food, mothers probably small portions of the food from their uce solid food into the baby’s diet. n evolved derivative of this primitive child. There are at least three different as a ritualized symbolic greeting gesch other on the cheek or hand. Kissoccurs among family members as a en close relatives. Romantic kissing, volve kissing on the lips and often has
me of the game for males. For females, however, insemination is the mere beginning of the reproductive process which includes pregnancy, childbirth, breast males. Because females bear the burden of the reproductive costs, females have been selected to put a lot of emphasis on making careful, judicious mate h of their children. Clearly, females that not only mated preferentially with high quality males, but also picked mating partners who were likely to enter into a equence men and women often kiss for different reasons. While both sexes rate kissing as a highly romantic act, women consistently rate kissing as more kissing before a sexual encounter, and more likely to emphasize the importance of kissing during and after sex as well. Most females would never dream of es were far more likely than females to agree to have sex with someone who was not a good kisser. Males tend to kiss as a means to and end – to gain sexual Among those in committed relationships, women conkissing between partners is directly related to relationship satisfaction.There are also differences in kissing technique. Males are more likely than females to fect a female’s libido. , and a way of maintaining and monitoring the status of a bonded relationship. The origin of kissing he food from their mouth to their baby’s mouth to introduce solid food into the baby’s diet. Some people theorize that kissing is an evolved derivative of this sture, as when people meet and kiss each other on the cheek or hand. Kissing on the face but rarely the lips also occurs among family members as a gesture of Text by where Annie kissing Kwan is absent, courtship often involves face vertones. Romantic kissing occurs in over 90 percent of human cultures. Even among those cultures t living relatives, chimpanzees and bonobos, appear to engage in kissing behaviors as well.Kissing may be part of an evolved courtship ritual. Based on a to acues. nurse.Kissing can have wo people kiss there is a rich and complicated exchange of information involving chemical (smell and taste), tactile,She andtalked postural ARW: Are there any diseases can get after from they kissing? p. Most students who were surveyed report having found themselves attracted to someone in one or more instances, only you to discover kissed them for , reproductive viability, and health of a prospective partner.Evolution Lee: Sure, there are is not several aboutdiseases survival,you it’scan about get.reproduction. I’d say probably ination is the mere beginning of the reproductive process which includes pregnancy, childbirth, breast feeding, and extended periods of child care that can span tive costs, females have been selected to put a lot of emphasis on making careful, judicious through mate choices. kissingSince or any females kind ofpick saliva up contact the tab when and it’s it comes a type of to preferentially with high quality males, but also picked mating partners who were likely to enter virusinto thata can longcause Kissing a lotisof a highly kinds of species illness.typical Usually instance some abnorof bout kissing technique? Why are males more likely to attempt to initiate open mouth kissing mal blood work comes The up but thoseofthings take any with tongue contact? origin kissingdon’t behavior is a pargood ticular of medication butderivative it takes a of lotthis of time [to heal]. It’s mouth to their baby’s mouth to introduce solid food into the baby’s diet. Some people theorize that type kissing is an evolved primitive feeding very transmissible; a lot of people end up getting that. Probably one wouldgenerations, be herpes. Oral herpes, which another type not about survival, it’s about reproduction. When it comes to competition for passing genesanother on to subsequent insemination is theisname of the virus; peopleare usually have cold sore orfor some sort of lesion on and extended periods of Parietal child care that can span many years. The costs and consequences ofofreproduction dramatically different females and males. Lobe mouths, and obviously you don’t to go nce females pick up the tab when it comes to reproduction, females have a vested interest intheir the other 50 percent of the genes beingwant carried bykissing each ofanytheir body that has that in their mouths. But also, you can potentially spread it even if you don’t have an open lesion. Obviously, if Tells you where to go, recognizes the you kiss somebody with those lesions and you kiss another part person you kiss. of your body, let’s say a genital part, things like that, things can spread down there as well. There are other types of viruses out there but those [mono and herpes] are probably the most common types, things like HIV, hepatitis those aren’t spread orally. ARW: Are there any precautions people should take when kissob e ing? Lee: I don’t know if there’s anything in the market for it. I don’t think there’s anything [to prevent] transmissible diseases. Obviously, you don’t want to kiss somebody that has any kind of lesion or sores on their mouths. If someone is bleeding in their gnizes sounds, assomouth, you don’t want to kiss them. If somebody is sick, not ow you talk and the feeling well, let’s say, their glands are swollen, their body aches, Occipital Lobe u remember. that’s probably somebody you don’t want to be kissing. The problem with these kinds of things is that you can never know, that’s kind of the risk you take when you kiss somebody, that you could always potentially catch something. So you kind of have to Remembers the be cautious about who you kiss and make sure you understand the things you see:
pimples, the sunset, cars rushing by, the tv, etc.
Brain Stem
In charge of basic vital functions, keeps your heart pumping, regulates your ragged breathing.
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Illustration by Emma Collier
also if you’re having sex too. ARW: What kinds of germs are being passed through people’s mouths when they are kissing? Lee: It’s limitless. There are thousands of bacteria in your mouth. That’s just kind of what our saliva is there for. Saliva is there to break down the foods you eat and to keep your mouth moist. Everybody carries bacteria all over their bodies; you are passing that to somebody else when you kiss them. Usually most of those bacteria are not harmful, but sometimes if you have an infection or if you are carrying a particular type of bacteria and you’re kissing somebody and they have an open sore in their mouth, or they’re bleeding from their mouth then potentially they can transmit something to that other person. I would think that’s probably more…not as common, but those are things that can happen. Your
Aidan and Stephanie went back in time.
Kissing in black and white The Status of Kissing over the Centuries Text by Aidan Chaloupka and Stephanie Graf
Over the millennium, kissing has been marginalized by all matters of people with its practitioners facing repercussions for varying reasons from morality to health concerns. Circa 2 million years ago: Humanity’s closest relative, the Bonobo splits from the Chimpanzee. Bonobos kiss as one of many forms of displaying affection. They kiss for recreation and dispute resolution among many other things. Circa 1500 B.C.E.: Vedism, the predecessor of modern day Hinduism, contains written scripture mentioning people touching via their mouth. This along with the “Kama Sutra,” a Sanskrit text containing many references to kissing and it’s technical aspects, among other subjects are some of the earliest references to the phenomenon now known as “kissing.” Circa 1000 B.C.E-200 A.D.: In ancient Hellenistic and Roman cultures, kissing was used to symbolize respect, gratitude, salutation, and agreement. The exchange of kisses was common among all social spectrums. 326 B.C.E.: Professor of anthropology, Vaughn Bryant asserts that human kissing has its origins in India and spread westward following the return of soldiers after Alexander the Great’s campaigns in Punjab. Circa 52 A.D.: Early Christians practiced ritual kissing as a way to distinguish themselves from other groups. The New Testament scripture, I Thessalonians contains the oldest Christian reference to these ritual kisses, reading “Greet one another with a holy kiss.” First century A.D.: Kissing was used as a way to seal a marriage. Though more marriages today are initiated out of love and less out of social standing than in Rome, the practice still continues. 400 A.D.-1400 A.D.: In Western Europe during the Middle Ages, a kiss was used both to show loyalty between feudal lords and their vassals, and also as a way to seal contracts in an era when illiteracy was rampant. Reminders of this can be found in the modern phrase “sealed with a kiss”. 1439: Henry VI, King of England banned kissing in hopes of helping to stop diseases such as the Bubonic Plague. 1500s: Professor of anthropology, Vaughn Bryant also asserts that until the 1500’s, kissing was mainly a South East Asian and European phenomenon, with other areas of the world being completely ignorant of the phenomenon. 1562: Kissing was banned in 16th century Naples, in hopes of preventing the spread of plague. The listed punishment was the death penalty, though this didn’t help to quell the epidemic. 1878: Edward Tylor found his cultures style of kissing, so called “European kissing,” to be the most “civilized” because it was on the lips, whereas to him, “savages,” were more apt to use the sniff-kiss, a kiss in which the lips are folded inward and the nose is placed against one’s cheek. To Tylor, this kiss was, “the lowest class of salutations.” 1896: The Edison Company captured the first kiss via reel in 1896. The film was titled, “The May Irwin-John C. Rice Kiss,” and played for 30 seconds, consisting of a close up shot of a man and woman kissing. 1910: Renowned Psychologist Sigmund Freud merely saw kissing as a byproduct of breast deprivation. 1918: The word “French kiss” was introduced to the English lexicon in 1918. Far from merely a way to show affection, sexologist Alfred Kinsey found this kissing style to correlate with a person’s level of education. In fact, seventy percent of men who claimed to be, “well educated,” admitted to “French kissing,” whereas only 40 percent of their high school dropout counterparts did. 1920’s: When sculptor Auguste Rodin’s “The Kiss” made its debut at an exhibit in Tokyo in the ‘20s, kissing was a major public taboo in Japan, and as such a bamboo screen was installed around it. To merely glance at it required special permission. 1929: Anthropologist Bronislaw Malinowski ventured to the Trobriand Islands in 1929. One thing he hoped to record was local sexual customs. He observed variation of the “French kiss” in which lovers suck and bite each other’s lips progressively, until at the climax they bite off each other’s eyelashes. 2010: During the closing credits of the movie Date Night, Tina Fey and Steve Carrel set the record for the longest kiss in cinema with a running time of 5 minutes. Ongoing: Even today, in areas of the U. S. A kissing can still be an illegality though punishment doesn’t come to close to that of 16th century Naples, i n fact for the most part such laws are archaic reminders of a bygone era that are no longer enforced.
1. http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/evolution/library/07/3/l_073_03.html, http://www.ansci.wisc.edu/jjp1/ansci_repro/misc/project_websites_07/thur07/bonobo%20reproduction/behavior.html. 2. First kisses: how we learned to lock lip. 3. Kirshenbaum, S. The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us. 4. First kisses: how we learned to lock lips.5. On Kissing: A Q&A with Michael Pen. 6. http://www.pbs.org/empires/romans/empire/weddings.html. 7, 8. Kirshenbaum, S. The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us.9. First kisses: how we learned to lock lips 10. Naples Bans Kissing. http://www.historychannel.com.au/classroom/day-in-history/detail.aspx?dayId=478. 11. Kirshenbaum, S. The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us. 12. Popova, M. The First Kiss in Cinema, 1896. 13. Freud, S. (1910). Three Contributions to the Sexual Theory. 14.Dalzell, T. Victor, T. (2005) The Concise New Partridge Dictionary of Slang and Unconventional English. 15. Kirshenbaum, S. The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us. 16. The Sexual Life of Savages in North Western Melanesia. 17, 18, 19, 20 Kirshenbaum, S. The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us.
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W h us to.i.ch brin gs
n e v e u Do yohow to know kiss?
Collection Of Thoughts Lip-ginity: AFrom Lip Virgin
“
Dayana Muzychuk [A kiss] is not really planned. It is kind of
At school I feel grossed out when I see other people
in the moment.
kissing. I’m not trying to be immature; it just looks gross
I don’t want
when they do it.
to describe a
When my friends are in relationships it feels
scene like,
awkward when they kiss. It doesn’t make me feel jealous or
‘oh, it’s
anything. I find that they do it every single day. Half of the
raining,
relationships aren’t even that serious to be kissing every
and
day.
it’s so pretty’
MUZYCHUK
It is okay to be a kissing virgin because everyone is at some point in their life, but if you’re really trying to change that then I don’t think that’s okay.
because life is not a romance movie. Honestly, [it] depends on the
Lip-ology Crash course on how to enhance your lipbility
When people are ready for a serious relationship, that’s when I think people are ready to have their first kiss...when
person, but I just think that, like, why waste
you are dating someone that you know you can spend the rest
yourself with someone you don’t even know where it
of your life with. Its not just some kind of ‘oh, we have puppy
is going to go, you know? If you don’t have a 100 percent
love so we are just going to hang out’.
commitment with them, why give them a part of your
A kiss is a result of when two people love each other.
heart if they might not cherish it? Wait for the right person. Your life shouldn’t
Being a kissing virgin does not affect my life- at all. I don’t go out searching for someone because everyone else
be measured on [the number] of people you’ve dated,
has had a kiss. It actually makes me feel more special the
or if you have had your first kiss yet or if you have
fact that other people have already wasted that and I am still
a boyfriend. Seek what matters and then at the right
waiting for the right one.
time the right person will come. When the person kisses you not because they want something from you, not because they want you for your body or looks, just because they truly love you, like a moment of passion where it is something deeper than just
In the rain under
making out. I don’t think it should be something
the streetlights with
You can wait for the right one to come along and it will happen eventually. Then you can have your perfect kiss. Life should not be measured by how many boyfriends you have had or if you have had your first kiss yet. It should be a connection of two people. Then you will have no doubts later on.
bad. An ideal kiss should be perfect, pure. You
your first love or the stuffed
don’t think it is bad nor do you have second
bear you named after your crush,
”
Text by Brandi Campbell Photo Illustration by Rafael Agas
doubts about it later.
everyone in their life, sooner or later, will
and Brandi Campbell
experience a kiss. Some may be confident in their skills and
Do you even ha the tools? ve
some may be too prideful to admit they lack it, but there’s always room to improve. “I wouldn’t say I’d be the right guy for kissing advice.” freshman Steven Diep said. There are always those that sit on
How
the side, just hoping the day will move fast, not
someone gauges how
worrying about relationships. Others are only shy
their kissing has changed is a
around the subject of kissing.
mystery. Kissing, especially how
Whether shy or not, if one chooses not to
good or bad you do it, is something
be in a relationship it may be hard to become a
that may be impossible to measure
better kisser without actual experience. “I plan to just kiss more people throughout high school,” Diep said. “I’m still just starting
ADIEP
my way to maturity, and I have time to build relationships. Practice makes perfect, especially when that practice is with someone one cares about. Every time one will either find themselves improving or losing themselves, but they’ll see a difference, and that’s one of the best things they can ask for. “If kissing girls counts as practice, then yeah, I practice all the time,” freshman Clarence Kinchen said. “The best practice for kissing to actually experience it and keep on doing it.” At the end of the day, some may not have the same luck with kissing like others. One thing to pay attention to is not the several experiences, but the first experience or the experiences that matter that will come by. Practicing for those moments may not involve direct contact, but instead mental preparation. “There’s always the classic pillow method and Google always helps when all else fails,” Diep said.
realistically and something you don’t really think about measuring because it’s an objective. It’s mainly just a thought, but sometimes you have to focus on the little things. “The way she looks back at me is how I see if the kiss went well,” Kinchen said. When someone gives off a crooked smile when trying to let you down easy, it’s completely different from someone trying to play it cool behind a huge grin. A reaction could be seen as simple but could give off millions of thoughts and assumptions. In terms of kissing, it’s one of the only realistic thing that tells you how the kiss actually went.
“You should always be comfortable when kissing someone. Make sure the stage of kissing was actually built up,” Diep said. “Don’t think of it as an experience, think of it as a start to a whole new relationship, and when you literally feel that spark, you’ll know it was a success.” Text by Joseph Hoang
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What if you’ve only kissed your aunt?
WE HAVE THE SAME DNA All good things must come to an end, or do they? Text by Aidan Chaloupka Junior Tre Hilts thinks of it as an either or situation.
“When you’re older you learn who to and who not to kiss on the lips, it can be almost like incest in a way,” Villagomez said. “People think of kissing on the lips in a romantic way, and it
“I don’t kiss my mom or dad
comes off as kind of a sexual thing.”
on the lips anymore, because once you get past the age of ten it starts to get
Hilts explained how kissing can create associations between two things that best be left separate.
kinda weird,” Hilts said. “It gets kinda weird because you’re getting older and by then you feel like you want to start kissing other people.”
“If you’re kissing other people, you don’t want to think ‘Oh I was just kissing my girlfriend and now I’m kissing my mom and dad.’ It just doesn’t feel right,”
“When you were younger, like a little baby, it was normal
Hilts said. “I’d say it’s got to be one or the other. You can’t kiss
to kiss your parents on the lips, because you didn’t know any
your parents and your girlfriend.”
better,” sophomore Daniela Villagomez said.
“I love my parents, so I don’t see what’s so wrong about it,”
To Villagomez it is mainly a cultural prevalence in the U.S.
sophomore Jennifer Lai said.“It’s more of like a peck, like to say I
boiling down to social factors.
love you mommy.” Lai said.
“As long as it’s family, that’s wrong. It’s like practically
Lai mentioned “a different kind of aura” distinct to romantic
inbreeding,” senior Jereami Wilson said.
kisses that isn’t present in family ones.
Wilson
Wilson even has a word for it.“I’m from Tennessee and we call them ‘cousin lovers,’ Wilson said. “From kissing comes other
stuff. It may be different [from a romantic kiss], but I still wouldn’t let family kiss me. I wouldn’t
“Sometimes my friends think it’s weird that I kiss my mom and dad.” Lai said “But they gave birth to you. I mean, you have
Hilts
the same DNA. I mean, what the heck?!”
be around for it.”
LOVE THAT COMES FROM THE LIPS He kisses
“those affectionate” animals?
his cat.
“As long as you’re not
You read it right, he kisses his cat. Sophomore Hunter McAvan and his cat share smooches
putting your tongue in my mouth, it’s pretty much okay with me,” Richardson said.
all the time.
Just as there are those
“In a way, I think it shows you love them,” McAvan said. He knows for a fact his cats enjoy being kissed.
who love to smooch their pets, there are also those who find it simply repulsive.
“They seem to react to it in a positive way,” McAvan said.
“It’s nasty,” sophomore Atiyah Conway said.
For all the love and kisses
“I don’t want their saliva all over my face,”
he gives, his cats show him how
To her, people who kiss their pets show they
much they appreciate it.
love them a lot, but she feels that it’s not the only
“They come closer more
way; instead she walks and plays with her dogs.
often. They rub against me,”
However, even if the owner doesn’t kiss their
McAvan said with a smile. “They
pets, those animals still try to get lip action.
tend to lean up on people when
They take chances and try their hardest to
they kiss them.” McAvan also takes into account what others think of his
Or your pets?
corner their owners into showing them some lip
McAvan
love. One thing the two can agree on is that
display of affection.
Conway
whether you kiss your pet or not, it has
“They don’t have much of a reaction at all,” McAvan said.
a
different meaning than kissing another human. “A pet is more of a family love,” McAvan said. “Like a peck on the cheek from grandma,”
McAvan’s mother Erica Richardson was more than happy to confirm this.
McAvan said. Kissing animals is a topic still up for debate amongst many animal lovers. Whether you think
“On one hand it’s cute; on the other hand it’s disturbing,” Richardson said. “Sometimes it seems they
it’s repulsive or just another something sweet, it wouldn’t hurt to show those animals some love. Love that comes from the lips.
enjoy it; they are affectionate cats.” With that being said, does she too love to kiss
QUESTIONS· 19
Text by Khamren Gulley
THERE’S THEM, THEN ME Text by Dominique Viray
Three’s not a crowd when two’s a couple. Dating is a ride. Most rides have wheels. Wheel one: a person. wheel two: their significant other, but unknown to many there is an often ignored person, watching silently in the shadows supporting the whole relationship. The third wheel. There are
left out. I didn’t really show it though,” Rhoanne
uncomfortable, so what
said.
does the third wheel do? Most people feel like being a third wheel
Try and make them feel
reminds them that they are lonely and single.
uncomfortable because
“[Katlyn Suttle, Steven Diep, and I] were
of what they’re doing.
many varieties:
walking. I was walking slowly while they were
PDA, public display of
the ones who
talking, and then they walked a few steps ahead,”
affection, varies
force themselves
Ronikka said. The couple either tries to include you
from person to
between the
with them in their line or you’re the one looking
person. Cuddling:
couple, arms
around, being in your own thoughts.
it’s fine, kissing on
around them,
At times there are the people who are able to
the other hand: a
saying, “Why are
tolerate being a third wheel because they’re so close
big no on the third
you two pressed
to the couple; they don’t mind being around them as
wheel’s book of
much. “I love them to death,” freshman Katlyn Suttle
toleration.
up against each
THOMAS
other?” to the ones
said. “They’re both really good friends to me, I’ll go a
who sit in the corner away from the couple, in their
couple hours of being third wheeled for them.”
own thoughts.
The three of you could be at a restaurant;
Junior Samone Thomas laughed her head
What if you our mostly watch y friends?
A public place seems to be the
RHOANNE
most common place
they’re sitting next to each other eating and talking.
to be third wheeled, which would seem unexpected
off, at the idea. She is the person in the group who
Three of you could be watching a movie on Netflix
since the area is, well, public. “We were at the mall.
interferes while the couple is doing what they do.
and they are on the corner of the bed cuddling and
Southcenter,” Ronikka said laughing. “Shopping,
kissing, while you are watching on the other side of
looking at clothes, going from Clares to Zumiez to
appropriate,” Thomas said. “And just mess with
the bed or on the floor making comments to yourself
Hot Topic.” What started as a girl’s shopping trip
whatever is near me.” Sometimes she avoids eye
about what is happening.
ended up an awkward third wheel situation because
“I talk about random things that may not be
contact and looks at her phone. While in the situation her thoughts are mostly
The location of third-wheeling is critical, because depending on the place, you could
Ronikka’s friend’s boyfriend had come along. Restaurants also create third wheels. “My
questions. “Why did I even come? Am I really that
sometimes get out of being a third wheel. “I have
friend Camille and I planned to have a dinner date
lonely? I wonder
been third-wheeled at a friend’s house, the Metro,
at Red Robin. When I went to the restaurant, I
if I have to pay
and at my house,” Thomas said, “While my parents
didn’t expect her to bring her boyfriend,” Rhoanne
for the food if it’s
were home.” Being at a friend’s house could be a
said. “Throughout the entire time we were there
a date. Is it mine
common place to be third-wheeled, because there are
Camille wouldn’t even talk to me, and neither would
or their date?”
your friend’s relatives/parents/siblings in the house,
her boyfriend.” In some cases, third-wheeling is a
Thomas said.
and you may or may not be close to them.
lifestyle. “I have been third-wheeled about ten times.”
Freshman Ethan Morris mostly follows his couple friends
There are also locations which stand out in
MORRIS
the person’s memory because it was recent or was the most awkward/lonely time the person was a
Thomas said, still laughing. “I’m always single.” “A lot,” Morris said. “About 30.” “Five, or a lot more,” Ronikka said, while not
third wheel. This took place “behind Joni[anne] and
being able to count
around. “I just walk and follow,” Morris said. He
David,” Morris said, the couple whom was third-
the immense
is really close to both people in the relationship,
wheeling him. Most of the time, when third wheeled,
amount on her ten
freshmen Jonianne Sadang and David Huynh, the
the person would either walk behind or ahead of the
tiny fingers.
said couple.
couple because they want to avoid the perimeter of
Most third wheels are put in the spot without knowing it. “I feel awkward and selfish in a way,”
the couple circle, also known as the danger zone. Not really knowing what to do, of course you
You could go from the person invited, having
SUTTLE
Thomas said. “I feel like I’m taking away the couple’s
would just turn away from the kissing couple if
a good time, and
personal time and
forced into the danger zone. It’s not like you’re there
suddenly become
I’m just there to
to get kissed also. You’re in the moment of being
the third wheel
crash their party.”
uncomfortable: your mind wanders, you look away,
because another person joined in to crash the party.
Even though
even try and walk away to hide your feelings. The
“When Camille invited me to her place, and all of a
she was invited,
most common thing that happens when the lips lock
sudden her boyfriend showed up,” Rhoanne said.
Thomas still feels
is the people just start acting like themselves.
selfish for taking away the couples’ personal time. “I
“When they kiss,” Morris said, “I just turn
RONIKKA
just feel like they did it out of pity so I won’t feel lonely.” Loneliness is a common way third-wheelers describe themselves since they are commonly the
away.”
wheeling feels like. “If it keeps happening
“[I] just stare [at them] to make them feel uncomfortable,” Thomas said. “[I] shout PDA” Suttle said, “and then I say ‘ewh ya nasties’.”
repeatedly, I feel unwanted,” Suttle said. Suttle didn’t really pay attention to the fact that she was a third wheel at the football game on Oct. 11. “I was in my own world,” Suttle said, “and I left.”
“What would I do?” Rhoanne said before
one not in a relationship. Freshman Ronikka Morales
starting to mumble to herself, “I would just start
and senior Rhoanne Morales both stated something
texting, write in my planner, or move away from
in common. “I felt lonely. I wanted to go home,”
them.”
Ronikka said. “I felt unhappy, uncomfortable, and
In some cases a member of the couple is sensitive because he or she knows what third-
There has been more than one case that made Suttle feel uncomfortable. When they realized she was a third wheel, they reacted by “laughing and going back to cuddling.”
Kissing in front of your peers makes them feel
QUESTIONS· 20
Photo by Amanda Dyer
THE CHAPSTICK CHRONICLES Hear from students about their luscious thoughts on smooth lips Text and Photo Illustration by Amanda Dyer
SPEARS
TAYLORs
CHRONICLE 1
Lips. (She pulls a black tube from the side
ARW: When you see other people with chapped
Hazen High School senior Maya Spears
pocket of her backpack.)
lips…
Senior Chantrell Taylors
ARW: Can you describe it?
A: Oh!
ARW: What kind of ChapStick do you use?
R: it’s just easier to hold, and it looks like
N: I try to pull out mine and ask if they want
M: I use Baby Lips.
there’s more in there and it’s cooler because
some nicely.
C: And I use EOS. (She pulls the small red egg
it’s colorful.
A: No, I put on mine, and look at them, and
shaped capsule from her purse.)
ARW: Where do you get it from?
make sure that they lookin’ at me putting on
M: It makes your lips so soft and voluminous,
R: Sometimes I get the big packs from Costco
mine so that they can put theirs on. But if I see
and it just makes you look juicy. (She pulls out
because my aunt works there but usually the
that they don’t have any and it’s getting bad,
a case from her purse as well.)
singulars.
I might ask them do they want to use mine.
C: Mine makes my lips feel good for the rest of
ARW: How often do you go through it?
Other than that I don’t know what to say. You
the day, and it lasts all day.
R: Not often, because I usually end up losing it.
need to check yourself. It’s like putting on
ARW: What do you do when someone has the
That’s another reason why I like the EOS—it’s
deodorant.
same ChapStick?
bigger, so you don’t really lose it.
ARW: So you like it when his lips are soft?
M: I’m like “Oooh girl, we gonna have the same
V: Same thing
N: [His lips] are always soft. He moisturizes
lips!” Like, you have a connection because you
ARW: When you see someone with chapped
better
use the same ChapStick. It’s a good way to talk
lips…
A: They look better. When they are moisturized
to someone.
R: how would you help them, though? If you
they look kissable. Some people walk around
ARW: What do you do when you see
don’t know them you can’t just give them
looking crusty and old looking.
someone else with chapped lips?
some.
ARW: What are your thoughts on lipstick?
C: ooh I don’t think I would just give it to
V: If I know them I would be like “Umm do
A: Some girls be boostin’. They be doing too
you, you already know
you need some Vaseline?” (Ramirez uncaps the
much. Like if you’re dark skinned
ARW: Do a lot of people at Hazen use
black tube and applies some to her lips.)
you do not need to be having black
ChapStick?
ARW: So you don’t offer?
lipstick on.
M: All of my friends use Baby Lips. Well
R: Not unless it’s a friend or a close friend.
N: So I can’t wear black lipstick?
most of my friends do. Either Baby Lips
ARW: How do you feel when you have chapped
A: You look good with it. It’s
or just the ChapStick brand that you can
lips?
different…
buy from Rite Aid or Target.
R: Irritated
(Smith’s friend Thomas Dejohnette
ARW: What about Lipstick?
ARW: Do you often use ChapStick?
stops by.)
M: Not a lot of my friends use lipstick. I
V: Every now and then.
A: Hey, we’re getting interviewed.
use lipstick but I put on ChapStick before
R: I feel like my lips are dry so I just pull it out,
What do you think about lipstick and
I use lipstick. It’s only people who like to
like, three times a day.
ChapStick?
wear makeup and stuff like that.
ARW: When someone is wearing too much
T: I may need to put that on now! Like
ARW: Can you wear too much lipstick?
lipstick…
right after lunch…
M: Yes! If it’s like over your lip line or
R: It’s funny, it reminds me of the Joker!
ARW: What do you think when you
something like that, that’s also very bad,
V: I want to wipe it off of them.
see other people with chapped lips?
or if it’s underneath your lip line, that’s
ARW: What do you think about girls that kiss
T: I’m like “God dang, your lips be
bad too.
the bathroom mirror?
crackin, oh crackin…” I start singing
ARW: Have you ever made a mark on
R: That’s nasty! Oh my gosh, that’s nasty. Do
the song.
something with lipstick?
you know how many germs are on the mirror?
N: You don’t want to offer them none?
M&C: Yes!
Ewww…
T: Hell no, what do I look like with those crusty
C: People’s cheeks, windows, cups…
Ramirez
smith
DEJOHNETTE
lips on my ChapStick? So I got dead skin on my
ARW: Have you seen lip marks on public
CHRONICLE 3
ChapStick? That’s not mine? Emmmm…
mirrors?
Junior Antwonie Smith
ARW: What do you think of lipstick?
M: Yes, at my school all the time.
Junior Natajia Mcmillan
T: I don’t mess with lipstick. Personally, I don’t
ARW: How often?
Senior Thomas Dejohnette
like it on girls. Especially the red lipstick that
M: Well, they usually erase, so every day.
ARW: What kind of ChapStick do you use?
everybody looks cute in? No. Not everybody
ARW: What girls are doing it?
N: Vaseline actually, because it doesn’t get the
looks cute in the red lip stick… Just because
M: The ratchet ones.
dirt on your lips that other lip glosses do, like
you white doesn’t mean you look like Marilyn
C: Oooh, the ratchet ones—yes.
the residue from the lip gloss.
Monroe or Madonna.
ARW: Have you ever kissed the public
A: I heard Carmex burns your lips or
bathroom mirror?
something. I use Blistex, and Burt’s Bees is the
M: Yes
best…
C: Yeah, I’m not gonna lie.
ARW: Why?
M: Just to make sure my lips… to know what
A: So my lips can be soft, when I kiss my
my lips look like because sometimes I want to
female, yeah. She likes it.
know.
N: Yes, I do. A: Some people be talking and they look like
CHRONICLE 2
they just didn’t wash their face after they
Freshman Rachel Ramirez
brushed their teeth and they have all this
Freshman Vi Ngo
white stuff around their lips. So I don’t know…
ARW: What kind of ChapStick do you use?
I just gotta make sure my face is presentable.
R: EOS, but I lost mine, so now I’m using Soft
N: Thanks to me.
QUESTIONS· 21
So, you bought some ChapStick
“My breath tasted like corn and potatoes.” Text by Mikayla Cheney
And it went okay, but not great.
“There was this one time where I kissed my ex-girlfriend Giana,” Sophomore Sharles Fletcher said. “It was the nastiest thing that ever happened to me because when I kissed her, she burped in my mouth.”
The idea of marinating in such unpleasantness is
to get over. “She
bad because I really cared about my girlfriend.”
Fletcher had gotten a text from the girl asking to-meet
and work on homework. When he got there it turned into something
enough to make most cringe, making for a hard experience
kissing her,” Fletcher said, glancing down at his shoes. “After I felt really
completely different.
“She told me to go to the band room to get her homework,”
Fletcher said. “When we got there she just kissed me.” apologized,
To be cheated on is bad
”Fletcher said. “It took
enough; to know that your trust was
me a hot minute but I
used against you can be even worse.
eventually got over it.”
Though reversing the roles can still
Sometimes
the
leave regrets.
kiss is easily forgotten,
but the regrets stemming from it are not. To senior Isaac Graves, a kiss between best friends
“Every time I saw her I kept
thinking about the kiss,” Fletcher said.
Graves
“I couldn’t really look at my girlfriend in the eye.”
at age 10 was nothing special.
“We were at my house playing games in my room,” Graves
said. “We started joking around, having fun and it just kinda happened.”
When you factor in sexuality barriers, things can get tricky. At
mind,
In senior Roneel Prasad’s both
participants
PRASAD
had
misconstrued ideas of how a kiss should be carried out.
“It was with my third grade crush,” Prasad said, laughing at their
the time, Graves had not come out to his family or friends and this was
misfortune. “It happened between a chain link fence. When she kissed
difficult. Further complicating matters, his best friend wasn’t gay.
me, her tongue ended up getting stuck in the chain link fence.”
“The kiss itself was nothing really. I regret that that was my first
Throughout the path of life we learn what is “acceptable” and
kiss instead of with someone I actually cared about in that kind of way,”
“unacceptable”. One of those being the stories we tell and the stories
Graves said. “It was basically nothing. It was just ‘a kiss’.”
we keep as secrets. The moments we boast about and the moments we
Sophomore Omari Fletcher had a different role in the awkward
kissing experience. Whereas others had a mutual understanding and wanted the kiss occur, it was thrust upon him.
“She kissed me and I forgot I had a girlfriend so I just kept
regret.
“We stayed the same,” Prasad said recalling their strong
friendship. “We were still best friends, but her tongue was never the same again.”
Photo by Mikayla Cheney
It started with a kiss. That initial contact of lips on lips... Text by Naje Bryant That first time tasting someone else’s traditional or extra medicated Chap-stick. The easiest way to get ourselves sick. First experience with the word bliss. It’s different form your family because, well, it’s not your family. Emotions run as high as
without a few no’s. The Law of Nature as everyone knows. It’s how the world seems to go. Body Language is the preference in this house. It all depends on a person’s ability to talk to with their tongue.
your kissing time flies. One minute… now two… oh now, it’s five.
She could be the neck, jaw-line or forehead type, or like Ms.
Your first kiss already setting records that you’ll want to pass by.
Rowland, want her “kisses down low” type. Maybe kisses-blown-
Later in life.
over-the-phone or Skype type. To each her own.
Everyone’s dreams come true: to get kissed under the moon
Being your baby, they kiss you how you like it, like they have
for the first time on the seventh of June. The moment you hope
spent time perfecting their lips: lip movement, moisture, and
comes soon before you’re too old to have the innocence not
length depending on the mood you happen to be in.
renewed. And more happens than a peck or two.
Friends. “No harm no foul, nothing than a kiss is going down”
It’s how we say hello to our baby bunny. How we communicate
is what you say, what you think, what you feel… for now. What
without ever having to do any spelling. It’s our body language
you didn’t say, didn’t think, didn’t know is: it’s never nothing more
done right. How we all want to interact first thing at first sight.
than a kiss. There’s always more you seem to miss.
It ended how it started. The long lost cousin (only twice
You’re in an auspicious or ominous situation. What is your
removed) is the kiss you give to someone you once knew. Once
thought process? Do you get a pompous feeling or is there
spent every day with, every night talking to.
a sense of regret and want to rectify the wrong? Whether boo
The hardest kiss to give but the easiest to remember. Even
thang or friend thang a kiss does some thang to alter the feelings
harder if the kiss shouldn’t have been. But one mistake, one word,
with this person. They say “Go ahead” or “Are you done?” And
one movement, one thought unsaid… causes a kiss to be the
separate the feelings from the prank that started out sounding
one you now miss more than your older sis leaving to Ole Miss.
dumb.
Yet I make you smile like a new born baby. Memories as fragile
Can a tell you if you’re in love? With impeccable timing like the
as the bones of a child, squashed by the pain. Creating a cycle of
release of doves. And feeling as if you’re falling without leaving
anguish and delight over and over and over and over again.
the ground. Nothing makes a sound except for your heart’s slow
It’s the goodbye to the hello because you can’t have yes
So you wrote some poetry.
deep pounds.
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Movies don’t get you ready for the real thing. They give you false hopes and unreal dreams. Nothing can get you ready for the kiss that changes your views on the world. Nothing. This one kiss will make you lose your words after. Unable to comprehend the events that just happened before or slightly after. You’re trapped in a dream for a good ten minutes. Trapped in a world where only you and them exist. Lips -> heart -> mind: the order in which feelings travel. In order to get the feeling of “Like” you have to take love and divide it by two. Create something new. A new element to the phrase “me and you.” Take away the “us forever” and replace it with “now or never.” Now what if strong feelings weren’t experienced, but you felt more than lips? This is the type of kiss you just had, and it isn’t a love peck. This is less dramatic, less sensual. More casual. More common, although that can be mistaken for love. A kiss can turn your day upside down. A kiss can make it right side up. A kiss is ridiculous. A kiss is marvelous. A kiss is what we think about at night. Lock eyes -> touch foreheads -> and slowly lean in.
Arrow reporter Devon Henderson takes a moment to talk with student athletes, Jose Garcia , and Chardon Lanier regarding what a good luck kiss means to them.
Jose Garcia
Garcia
Lanier
And eventual y, you got a lit le lucky.
Chardon Lanier ARW: What does a good luck kiss mean to you? Garcia: I think it means when you’re about to do something challenging and you get a kiss to help you do better in what you’re about to do.
ARW: When was your first kiss? Lanier: It was in the first grade during a movie in Ms. Benjamin’s class, under the desk, I was picking up my pencil, me and the girl
ARW: Can you describe your perfect good luck kiss? Garcia: My perfect good luck kiss would be a kiss under the rain before my soccer game.
kissed. ARW: Have you ever had a good luck kiss? Lanier: Yeah.
ARW: can you explain why in the rain?
ARW: What does it mean to you?
Garcia: It seems more romantic that way.
Lanier: Just a normal kiss. A deep and meaningful kiss.
ARW: What was your most memorable kiss?
ARW: Do you have a good luck kiss that stands out?
Garcia: My most memorable kiss is when one of my ex’s and I were
Lanier: In Mississippi, in the hallway before game time, my
on top of this place where we could see the whole Renton Landing,
girlfriend kissed me…she had my adrenaline pumping.
and we kissed while we enjoyed the view.
Amanda Dyer is afraid of having her first kiss....................................................................................................................................................................................................Executive Editor
Theresa Burnside punches annoying people in the face......in her imagination.......................................................................................Staff Reporter
Annie Kwan wants money or a job.......or a sugar daddy...........................................................................................................................................................................Managing Editor
Brandi Campbell is wanting to spontaneously dance for no reason........................................................................................................ Staff Reporter
Alicia Quarles is laughing at you..............................................................................................................................................................................................................................Chief Storyteller
Mikayla Cheney thinks fog looks like zombie breath.........................................................................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Aidan Chaloupka feels his mind is a cosmic vacuum.........................................................................................................................................................................................Copy Editor
Emma Collier missed paste up and butt slapping............................................................................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Miranda Clairmont needs to go cuddle a cat................. ....................................................................................................................................................................................Photo Editor
Evelyn Fitz is a swamp princess........................................................................................................................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Claudia Wilson accidentally hugged a stranger in the hallway....................................................................................................................................................................Art Editor
Stephanie Graf needs to take care of her health......................................................... .....................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Abigail Cetino pretends Annie is Queenelle sometimes.....................................................................................................................................................Ads & Business Manager
Khamren Gulley has to make 50 multi colored hats......................................................................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Dominique Viray listens to Avril Lavigne........................................................................................................................................................................................Ads &B usiness Manager
Devon Henderson wants to go home......................................................................................................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Rafael Agas is representing #LBB...............................................................................................................................................................................................................................Events Manager
D’Angelo Miller got kissed by a dude.................................. .................................................................................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Christina Nguyen says television died....................................................................................................................................................................................................................Events Manager
Joseph Hoang can beat you 1v1 League of Legends........................................................................................................................................................Staff Reporter
Naje Bryant has succumb to the fact that sleep is an unknown word to her................................................................................................................................Layout Editor Derek Smith is a 1D-er.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... ......................................Advisor
Rebecca Samuels is insomniac ridden and on the verge of a mental breakdown..........................................................................................................Staff Reporter Joseph Kraus is extremely impressed with the Renton High School Newspaper/Yearbook Staff...........................Volunteer Copy Editor
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