Aprille Franks-Hunt
chapter 14 RELATIONSHIP DO’S AND STOP IT’S THE ESSENTIAL EIGHTS
Through all of my experiences what I’ve learned is relationships are about respect, self love and a little selflessness. Here are my Essential Eight relationships tips.
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#1 FORGET THE BLAME GAME It’s time for you to step up to the plate.
No more blaming or male bashing. Stop saying they’re aren’t any good men out there because that’s a lie too. The reason it appears that there aren’t any good men is because you are speaking life into that and so it is your reality. Work on you. Avoid putting yourself in the dating realm at all if you’re not willing to come to terms with the truth. And yes, that takes work on your part. Let the truth be told—we’re responsible for a large number of men and why they do things that aren’t acceptable to us because we have issues that we refuse to admit to ourselves. Then have the nerve to wonder why our relationships are unhealthy and filled with turmoil. Now those same men, in the same dating pool from five, ten or fifteen years ago are loose in the street and have it all wrong because we forgot to put some value on our so-called Womanhood. So instead of taking responsibility we now blame them for everything. I’m done blaming—I take responsibility for my part and so should you. If you have past issues and have accepted things you know you shouldn’t have, own it. We all have been the fool. When we put up with the crap from men it’s because we have allowed it—then they leave the relationship thinking “that must be ok” and test the next woman. Sure, it’s easier to continue dealing with something/someone that isn’t good for you as opposed to going thorough the pain of looking in the mirror and the process of healing. But the time of dragging it out to put off the inevitable is no longer acceptable—let that mess go. You have no one to blame but yourself if you are a relationship mess. ef
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