Second Self An identity project
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Sharing is caring.
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In thinking about how we form identity in a culture that is fast-paced, cut-throat, and power-driven, I set out to answer some questions that couldn’t fit on a phone screen.
Who are you when no one else is around? What does your Instagram say about you? What is an alter ego? How can we take advantage of the different sides of ourselves? How do we find balance? Do we? Are we more than the sum of our parts?
The following is an amalgamation of what I discovered.
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Self-Isolation Bingo
This game will tell you who you are. Tick the boxes. Narrow it down. Snap decision. How do you stack up? 7
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If you get a bingo, spread it to the world. If you didn’t, take a time out and think about what what you’ve done.
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SK8ER BOI Bingo
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Confusion Bingo
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LIKE DRINKING FROM A FIRE HOSE.
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LIKE WATER OFF A DUCK’S BACK.
LIKE A HOT KNIFE THROUGH BUTTER.
LIKE A LAMB TO THE SLAUGHTER.
LIKE
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MOTH
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FLAME.
Turns of phrase
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Getting to know strangers through internet videos has taught me many expressions I never knew. These specific combinations of words have stuck with me, and I will always appreciate an interesting visual that speaks to the heart of the matter... like a fly to manure.
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Method Acting What is it?
To mobilize the actor’s conscious behaviors in order to activate other unconscious psychological processes To make use of one’s own life experience in order to relate to a character To move away from older, more presentational and superficial methods in order to cause more realistic, empathetic performances
How can we use this in real life?
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What are the goals of the method?
An acting technique developed by Lee Strasberg in which an actor emotionally identifies with a role in order to behave realistically under imaginary circumstances.
We can live in the “roles” that we strive to take on in the future. Studying what it means to be that person and finding personal connections to those whom we admire allows us to more easily inhabit them.
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Forcing away feelings. Tips on handling those prickly emotions. + Avoid labeling emotions as “negative” or “bad”
+ Welcome in every emotion with love
+ Notice how it feels in your body
+ Don’t judge it, just allow it to be as it is
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Impasta
Feeling Imposterish? What is Imposter Syndrome?
a pattern of self doubt,
your intelligence is a facade, and you will eventually be exposed for not being as great as others say you are
What does it look like? you downplay your achievements, you believe that if others see you as intelligent or successful, it is only because you have somehow convinced them of that, and they don’t know the truth, you dismiss compliments, you think you have nothing new to offer, you attribute your success to temporary causes, such as luck or effort and not internal, stable factors, like ability
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a feeling that your accomplishments are a product of chance,
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So... how do we overcome feeling like an imposter?
Practice positive self talk!
Remind yourself how you contributed to your own success.
Focus on improving, rather than proving.
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Make realistic goals! Setting the bar too high sets you up for failure.
Accept positive feedback.
Talk to others about your imposterish feelings; it can make you feel better to know you are not alone in feeling this way.
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The Triangular Theory of Love What is it?
The theory states that there are three components of love: commitment, passion and intimacy. Different types of love are a result of carying combinations of these three elements. An “ideal� relationship is strong in all three. The theory suggests that short-term commitment refers to the decision to love one another, while long-term refers to a commitment to maintain that love.
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Self Portrait, April
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